Advice to Parents on Raising Teenagers | Jumu'ah Khutbah | Shaykh Dr. Yasir Qadhi

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[@SKhan0m]

All the points are spot on. But I'd like to also add another point which I feel is a very important one for teenagers and young adults. Is parents being a loving and supportive guide to their teenage children. Teenagers go through so much mentally and emotionally, especially in this era. Its important for parents to develop a friendly relationship with their children at this age and be a constant source of guidance and support. Gently steering them to the right way when they go wrong. Parents need to be there in their children's lives, even as teenagers. They need breathing space, privacy and independence. But they're still learning, and they will mess up. So parents must never become too lax and leave their children to their own devices; talk to them, keep them involved, let them feel a sense of belonging, have adult conversations with them. Guide them, advise them through a relationship of love and friendship

[@rightguidance9620]

Yes sister.. I believe and following this same way with my kids..

[@1.woerwoer]

Im a mom of two teen daughters their father passed away while they where still young. I disagree that teens need privacy if you ment in the sense of media. They need monitoring more than tods and love and care more than a friendship as a 'friend' figure they need parents

[@SKhan0m]

@@1.woerwoer I don't really agree with social media for kids or teens. If you listen to the lecture above the main message seemed to be around allowing the teenager some space to become independent, and for parents to not become an oppressive /overbearing presence in their teenagers lives. My point was, OK I agree / understand that they need alone time (privacy) and some space to develop independence. However parents mustn't become lax and completely let go of their teenage children. Guiding and mentoring them with wisdom is better than allowing them to do wrong (and to then learn from that). Minor mistakes are acceptable but parents need to guard their teens from major wrongs in the Deen, and in order to do that there needs to be a loving caring form of guidance, support and mentoring from parents

[@liaqatkhan7850]

Some of the parents ,not well educated and smart enough to talk to teenager ,and teenager would not listen to them, they know as bout their parents how much education they have.

[@QuranWorldYT]

Allah❤

[@khadaraxmed]

Epic masjid and it’s community are so lucky to have Sheikh Yasir Qadi and his team Jazaahumullaahu khayraa.ALLAAHUMMA AAMIIN 🙏❤️🙏

[@shienm635]

Mashaa Allah

[@ziaulhaimirza1964]

MashAllah

[@abubakrabdullah6626]

Jazah Allah Khair Sheikh Yasir and EPIC

[@olashoyeb6638]

We need more of these kind of khutbhas.

[@culgirl76]

SubhanAllah such a powerful Khutba for parents. We need to realize our mistakes while raising our kids and you pointed out most of them so well. May Allah reward you immensely for your work . Ameen

[@jabedamukith-chowdhury1681]

I am so grateful to Allah for this khutba... Going through a testing time with my teenage girls... It has arrived at the perfect time for me.... As always Allah never fails us x jzk EPIC for this may Allah swt bless u all ameen ya rabulalamin from Luton England x

[@farhank8336]

I feel you.. dealing with my girls too Allah make it easy!

[@shienm635]

Alhamdulillah.

[@fatimahaffejee3834]

السلآم عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته أمين يا ربي To allthe adviceMay ALLAH GUIDE me to use these ADVICE iDont HAVE adult children But I Have Adult GRANDCHILDREN May ALLAH GUIDE me to use these advises when necessary AAMEEN JAZ.من ام ابراهيم جنوبي لفريق AKALLAH KHAIR shaikh

[@AlexAlex-fm5ev]

Allahumma Aamiin

[@galerbashir6496]

May Allah give you many blessings . I am in Canada but this topic is so needed in all western country . Jizakallah.

[@orquideacatracha3499]

I can’t find a balance! Doing home school helps to keep them in the deen, pray on time etc. Very good hutba Alhamdudilah 🌸🤲🏻🌸

[@parasol1521]

The issue is parents thinking being a parent makes them infallible from doing or being in the wrong. Infantilisation and teaching kids codependency rather being independent. Not learning and growing as a parent but thinking age equates maturity. The authority they have over their kids clouding their ego and giving them a power trip. Don't treat kids inferior and show them respect and dignity as much as you would to an adult. They're far more capable of responsibility than people make them out to be.

[@bushrasiddique2234]

Beautiful azan and Iqama.

[@salemahussain2870]

Very much needed, may Allah give you all the goodness in the world and hereafter

[@ampaware123]

Jazzaka Allah hairan Sheikh. Allah bless you.

[@samin3754]

SubhanaAllah!! What a beautiful recitation of Azan !! Allah Akbar❤️

[@gboltman9563]

ASLM...Masha-Allah :: POWERFUL GHUTBAH -- GYRUNESIA MOHAMED- SOUTH AFRICA

[@sa-kind]

Best khutbah ever! JazakAllah

[@sithybathoolabdulmannan1741]

Aameen Aameen ya rabbal Aalameen! Very nice and clear bayan. MashaAllah Alhamdulillah Jazakallah Khairan sheikh!

[@ikram-ulhuq9377]

Alhamdulilah ,if this khudba in our time . Allah Akbar .

[@amiebarrow-deen5482]

Mashallah beautiful message may Allah guide you and your family Ameen yarabi and all of us Ameen yarabi. 🤲

[@sahara8410]

MashAllah beautiful khutba MY Allah bless your efforts for the love of the community. AAmeen

[@healthacademy7]

May Allah Bless You and your family for raising , recognizing and acknowledging this most important burning issues in Kutba. May Allah bless us all.

[@Raheela365]

Jazaak Allah khair Sheikh Yasir, for the Heart opening lecture!! May Allah SWT reward you and protect you. Ameen Ya Rubbal A'alameen!

[@shienm635]

Allahuma ameen

[@b.i.n.a2959]

Thank you brother Dr.Yasir Qadhi for the last part..you get to the exact point with the exact words to describe the feeling of some parents

[@zareentaj4581]

May Allah bless you.i think this lecture was personaly told for me. this came at a right time for me as i was struggling to bringup my 16 year old in a islamic and social way so that there would be peace in the house. Thanks sir for helping me change in my attitude towards my child by telling such nice points.jazak Allah khair

[@emannoor4193]

I don’t know why I am crying but it really touch my heart

[@saveUyghurs]

It’s cause you have childhood trauma

[@mariamba8540]

Mashaallah, beautiful advice, May Allah bless you and your family

[@okc7391]

Thank you for this important and relevant topic as a refresher and reminder to the parents. May Allah bless all muslim families with His choicest blessings. Ameen

[@shienm635]

Ameen

[@shirin7992]

JazakuAllah Khairun wa MashAllah at such a meaningful and necessary khutba!

[@mohammadshahidulislam3166]

MaashaAllah ,You are a barakah for us from Allah. May Allah bless you with right words in right time for Ummah, Aameen.

[@monijakhan9329]

Dear Sheikh I have made my 15yrs old son hear to your advice from 33 to 36 min..May Allah bless u always.

[@canucks658]

This is a good advise. Parents focus on whatever whatever they want for their children. But they forget t that children has problems too. But parents never realized

[@iglash5109]

SubhanAllah, what an eyeopener, jazakAllahu

[@tinaali3686]

wow what a beautiful azaan voice 👍👍 Mashaa Allah

[@lbcck2527]

Having 3 young adults now, I can relate to many items that Sheikh Yasir elaborated on. However few of many qualities as parents we must have are patience, persistence, positivity and unconditional love regardless of your prevalent personal condition especially at the sliver of time you may have with your family. These qualities are super easy to say or type in but equally super difficult if not more so, to put to practise in all conditions you and your young adults may be in. As a parent, I failed many times to control myself plus any and all excuses are useless other than to submit to Allah that we are not perfect while continue to learn and cognizant of consequences of our words/actions.

[@rezwanarahman4978]

We can only try and ask Allah to guide us both parents and children.

[@farhank8336]

excellent advices.. I know some things i can improve on Alhumduillah

[@falaknazzia3883]

JzakaAllah Sheikh, very useful for Parents

[@parveensiddiqui9898]

Jazaka Allah Khair very well explained to MashaAllah

[@sakinainfo]

Jazakallah khair respected sheikh. This speech was very much needed. May allah bless you with afiya in both d worlds

[@honestyfirst2165]

Jazak Allahu kheiran

[@taiwoonifade5304]

AlhamduliLlah for this khutbah

[@alib7489]

Jazakallah khair Sheikh for addressing this very important matter.

[@NadiaNadia-gq8rj]

Thanks and Selem from France 🙏

[@taqwa9650]

MashaAllah! As usual a very good khutbah sheikh. Jazak Allahu khayran.

[@ayshahakbar435]

Masha Allah Thabarakallah, Usthadh, you conveyed the message in a very subtle way which makes us understand our own mistakes as parents and how we have to start working on correcting ourselves rather than finding fault with them. May Allah guide us all right. Allahumma Aameen

[@maheenkhan5919]

Subhanallah May Allah reward you sir 😞

[@shektarafdar7496]

Raising Kids here in the States is Very Difficult. I Was Born Here. But I Was Never influenced by My Friends. Because My Father Was Very Strict & Very Religious. May Allah Guide All Our Muslim Children.

[@shienm635]

Allahuma ameen

[@tamshah8981]

Ameen

[@zh7077]

Ameen

[@saadia4210]

I was born and bred UK. But things have changed now bringing up my own kids but his points are on point. Placing Deen in your kids I have teenagers now.may Allah SWT make it easy for all of us and keep our kids on Deen ameen

[@shienm635]

@@saadia4210 Allahuma ameen

[@obasogieokundia2815]

MashAllah tabarak Allah, Ya Allah bless our marriage and make Our Children to be the best and coolest of our eyes Ameen ya rabbi.🤲🤲🤲🕋🕋🕋

[@sabarehan8000]

MaaShaaAllah beautiful advice May Allah bless u brother with all his blessings and a happy healthy long life you r the best teacher ever I learned from you so much can’t have words to thank you 🙏

[@wasieladollieh5341]

Maa Shaa Allah beautiful lecture Sheikh Yasir 🤲❤️ very true its a on going lessons one learning by raisins children Alhamdullilah Ya Rabb protect our children all around the world 🤲❤️ much love from South Africa 🌍🤲

[@shienm635]

Ameen ya Rabbil alameen

[@wasiatadekunle978]

Salaam Aliakum waramotuallah wabarakatu Jazakallah khayran, I really appreciate this topic , May Almighty Allah bless you and the community 🙏

[@ariffyusoff1736]

Alhamdulillaah. Tq Sheikh gor this topic. The ummah really needs this. Love from Malaysia.

[@ayeshasaddiqa4515]

Beautiful lesson

[@leillahluttakome4340]

amazing subhanaallah

[@hourayesy3784]

MachaAllah

[@MrSha2006x]

*جزاكم الله خيرا* وجعله في ميزان حسناتكم

[@syedareza]

SubhanAllah! Pls Shaykh more on children . 9 to 12 .

[@AhmedMohamed-ff9bw]

Very inspirational message. Subhanalla

[@raynwani137]

Jazakallah!

[@hasinaakter3350]

Thank you

[@mariamba8540]

Mashaallah

[@islamtube2672]

1 - Whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and Praise Him) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:168, Sahih Muslim; #4:2071] 2 - whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi, Subhan-Allahi 'l-`adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme) Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One " [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:67, Sahih Muslim, #4:2071] 5

[@gamergenix3793]

Brilliant

[@houssaybah8638]

Thanks so much for this advice

[@b.i.n.a2959]

Ohhh Sheikh why didn't I knew you few years ago😭😭😭😭😭😭..I kinda lost the battle for lack of having a person like you in my life years ago..lack of some useful advices and reminders from people like you..all I'm doing now is praying for Allah mercy on me & my child to get her on the right path 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@ariyoabiona1606]

May Allah guide you and guide her, and bring her heart back to Iman. Ameen

[@martinez2582]

May ALLAH and your du'a and grant your child nearness to HIM.

[@shabana4562]

It is never too late. Try to rebuild your relationship again with your children

[@shienm635]

May ALLAH SWT guide all of us and all of our children to the Straight Path. May ALLAH SWT distance and protect us and our children from whoever and whatever will prevent us from Jannatul Firdaus. May ALLAH SWT decree goodness and ease for each Muslimin and Musliman in this world and in the akhira, including all parents who are dealing everyday with the challenges of raising children to be good Muslims inshaa Allah. Allahuma ameen.

[@b.i.n.a2959]

@@ariyoabiona1606 ameen

[@usamuslim4665]

Dear Sheikh All your points match with mine I’m doing same thing what you have said

[@truebeliever3948]

👑

[@sainabhassan6885]

Masha Allah. Be blessed dear. These are lots of valuable lessons for all humanity.

[@tasneemsadiqpetiwala5907]

A v helpful guidance for all parents. jazakallah .....would like to hear comments on early marriage or engagement ,if that can resolve teenage psychological issues??? Thanks

[@savesheikhjarrah1480]

The biggest problem is language barrier as immigrant children

[@syedquadri4902]

Can some of you or the Imam send here Hadrat Ali Karam Allahu unhu's quote what the Imam mentioned in the beginning of the Khutbah. JazakAllahu khairun.

[@sam17simba]

i'm 23 and my parents still treat me like a teenager...honestly..

[@parveensiddiqui9898]

Assalam Alaikum Muslim Ummah

[@asmaakli4653]

Very good topic and nice talk

[@truebeliever3948]

7th point..👍. Some parents don't like somebody else's interference and they say ,"we are homeschooling our kids . If the parents have bad manners and they are with their children 24 hrs ..then what? My niece pointed out this ...

[@roobiyorays8398]

Back home we didn't have something called teenage, we were all adult, mature person or children, nothing in between

[@alfurqanalmubeen9418]

Jazaka Allah Khair on a wonderful and informative khutbah, I agree fully with you Shaikh raising children is an art, I also agree totally with you not to raise the children the way our parents raise us. However, I want to make a correction the saying attributed to Ali RA. That Said don’t raise your children the way your parents raised you is incorrect, this saying was attributed to Socrates, and others attributed to Plato the Greek philosophers. But definitely not Ali ibn Abee Talib RA.

[@shaheen633]

Assalamalaikum wrwb Is this true that Angel gibrail(AS) split open prophets Mohammed (SAW)chest and washes his heart .

[@YA-xo7ru]

Islam doesn't leave anything its very clear in this subject, one needs to read suratul Kahf. The story of Mosa and Kadir, when Kadir fixed the leaning wall, and the verse says, the orphans father who died was a pious man. So Allah send Kadir to fixed the wall for them, because of their father's good deeds. So what we are missing is the connection of the parents to their religion, if we truly connect our soul to Allah and do what our religion wants us to do. Our situation would have been very different, even if we have problems with our children Allah would have given us steadfastness. So lets start to learn our Allah as a parents and examine everything on what Allah wants, our case will be easy insh Allah. Allah knows the best, we will always have problems with our teenagers but we have to start ourselves as parents to be obedient to Allah, only than we can tell our children about thier Allah.

[@shamshudashamshuda6258]

Children should be given responsibility right from the age of 7 depending upon their ability

[@nazmakhatunofficial]

At what age should these principles start - would we start around 12/13

[@fatimajackson2353]

My daughter is almost 12 but she is way more matured for her age. So it varies , I believe. If they are pre teen then they are probably more of a teen than younger child. The things kids are experiencing now at schools and among friends and media is so much different than what we experienced. Since 2020, and covid etc, things changed drastically. Esp now also that the gender things are popping up too. ( LBGTQ? ,gays,lesbians, girlfriends, boyfriendsEtc) May Allah grant us strength and protect our growing children, teens ameen

[@whatever-ou2he]

I'm just 20 minutes in but need to point something out. Sheikh said something along the lines of "you can't reprimand a 17 Yr old the way you would a 2 Yr old, yelling and screaming won't work". Well no one should be yelling and screaming at a 2 Yr old, or any aged child, or person. Yelling at a young child will only have a detrimental effect on that child. You should absolutely never yell at your young children. You can never teach a child what is right or wrong by yelling at them.

[@anonymousshahana9134]

Some one pl mention all points he said no: wise so that those who r busy can read fast.

[@bibisalma1497]

At 12:00 where they said teenagers are young adults well even like 13 to 15 yr Olds? Cuz they're Very childish especially young teens Literrally Age 13 , 14 ,15 is the same As 9 , 10, 11 well yeah and 12 is just like that just bcuz 13 has a Teen with it which is just a number . Year older and there's No difference just a age you should look and the person closer

[@optimizetoday]

Continues mentioning and repetitive emphasis about how Islam or Quran doesn't say much about "how to raise kids" gives negative thoughts and rebellious intent to kids who are already struggling between double standards of religion vs reality. The speaker can continue with this remarkable content without mentioning the above. Hope he will be more considerate next time. Jizakallah.

[@laraaib1233]

Agreed 💯

[@laraaib1233]

I agree somewhat with the shaikh ......but there's too much repitation in his speech. Be soft and be nice with the kids....but there has to be some set rules also; if you give them complete liberty, things might get sour. Teach them Deen e Islam from day one; it is the responsibility of the parents, not the weekend schools only. Islam has a complete code of ethics......that should be taught to kids all ages.....islam has explicit guide lines in the character of our beloved Nabi Akram Sallal laho Alehe Wasallam......He is our role model.... give the children His (S) life style, stories of Sahabaan e Karaam......add plenty of Doas to this ' therapy'; And it shall work inshallah!! especially in United States.., england and other Western countries... children need Islam more than ever...

[@zaakirahkhan7978]

Please dont constantly reprimanding

[@zaakirahkhan7978]

Praise is different to encouragment

[@galerbashir6496]

May Allah give you many blessings . I am in Canada but this topic is so needed in all western country . Jizakallah.