How To Get Your Speech Delayed Child To Listen and Focus

[@kristiawascher8600]

This is the most helpful video I’ve watched so far and it’s my 14th one iv seen of yours. This information is helping me understand so much from my own childhood and how I am suppose to be with my kids. Thank you for teaching me what I needed to know

[@AgentsofSpeech]

Glad it was helpful!

[@kkkkkkk7]

THank you for your time and consideration. You are making me a better caregiver & i thank you for saying, we are the reason why you make these videos ( as we pay close attention to your words). It does work! Praise the best, ignore the rest😊

[@kkkkkkk7]

As you once said, "children are ulitarian." I have learned parents & caregivers must keep their RESOLVE to do what is best for child.

[@krisp5204]

I know I will be watching this video multiple times in the future as it is such a good reminder thank you for creating it!

[@AgentsofSpeech]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Gracious3G]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge, strategies and wisdom❤

[@aklohis8683]

Wow!! What valuable information! Appreciate you and your excellent work, very much! You are teaching us so much from your videos and it is helping us as we care for our non-verbal 2 and a half year old granddaughter. Also, what a bonus, our enjoyment of time with her spent in play and applying the praise and technique's you recommend is an added reward for all concerned. You are changing families for the better all across the world.

[@jessicao.harris7644]

This guy is a gem! Such great information and is actually digestible with the way he's explaining it!

[@AgentsofSpeech]

thank you for your kind words

[@fritzieschomaker1476]

Thank you so much for these videos and your courses 🙏!

[@AgentsofSpeech]

Glad you like them!

[@fclee8023]

Thanks very much for sharing ❤️

[@JaleisaGrinkley]

I was told a few times, by men and women. That my 2 going on 3 year old son doesn't listen or respect me. Mainly because I let him do or get away with everything. I think that's because I felt bad, he watched his father abuse me. I didn't believe it, until we were in public and he was flipping out. I was telling him to stop and calm down and he got worse. It wasn't until I took my belt off and popped him before he realized I was serious. So when I talk, play, read, or take him outside now. I make sure that belt is right around my neck, just in case. I honestly believe its working, he seems more motivated and focused to me. I still talk, instruct and praise him for things that he does. He just needs to know he can't do whatever he wants, whether I'm there or not. I see scolding him is not effective, I don't feel good when I do it. Just finding ways to be more firm and constructive with my approach. 💯

[@garnetjewel5268]

I work with preschoolers on the autism spectrum. We often ask ourselves "what is the function of the child's behavior?" They could be "acting out" for a variety of reasons: tired, hungry, coming down with an illness, bored, seeking our attention, frustration over something they can't have or can't do, or trying to escape or avoid something they are expected to do. Your response should vary contingent upon the reason for the behavior. Try to "catch your child being good." Provide genuine praise and hugs for things done well. Increase you attention and responses for his positive/appropriate behaviors and have that outweigh the negative consequences (the belt). In the video "good sitting in your chair" or as I said to a child today "you didn't put your thumb in your mouth for a long time, how awesome are you!!!! (high 5)" are positive ways to strengthen your relationship with your child and increase his desire to want to earn more praise from you. Lots of luck to you.

[@itchysheets1222]

Ming, could you please do a video focusing on elopement/dangerous behaviors that we cannot just ignore? I know the advice in this video will help in the long run with all behaviors, but can you make some recommendations on what should be done in a dangerous situation when a child will not follow instructions when safety is an issue? Would appreciate it so so much.

[@AgentsofSpeech]

Sure will put that on the backlog

[@TinTin-uu6wn]

Love your videos, thank you 😊. Wish we had you in France

[@AgentsofSpeech]

We are fully online!!

[@itchysheets1222]

It makes so much sense, because if you scold, that’s still attention. And if you scold a toddler or preschooler to prevent a behavior, you’ll be doing it all day and night and you’ll both be miserable and ruins your relationship for life. You won’t like yourself and neither will anyone else.

[@AgentsofSpeech]

that's right

[@garnetjewel5268]

Exactly. Sometimes, those "bad" behaviors are pleas for attention. By giving MORE attention for any positive/appropriate behaviors and not giving attention for other behaviors, hopefully you'll increase positive behaviors. But you also need to remember that there could be other reasons for negative behaviors and you probably have to deal with those differently.

[@ingridperez238]

I really appreciate and am grateful for your content! Thank you 🙂

[@annvillacorta6520]

Very informative. Thank you

[@ankitaawasthi3934]

Fantastic video Ming..

[@derekjasper2701]

Great video. Good lesson for everyone.

[@ericwootton2]

Thank you ♥️🌹💕🙏

[@tom-cz2jx]

What do you do when the child causes harm to himself/others or something dangerous? I can not ignore him in that instance

[@itchysheets1222]

I have the same question. Would love a video about children with or without autism who are eloping and running into danger and will NOT come to be when it is very important. I do not play chasing or running games with him bc of this, don’t want to encourage it. It’s terrifying. I can tell…he’s not trying to be bad. 💔

[@eneg0nala]

Praise the best ignore the rest but what about behaviors you don’t want they to repeat. A simple ‘no’ does not get them to stop doing what they are not suppose to do. Ex: my 3 yr old language delayed boy had the dishwasher door opened all the way and was climbing on top of the door. Which can break. My mom told him 3 no’s and he didn’t comply. How are we to ignore something like this? If we just pick him up and off does he understand that he’s not suppose to repeat this behavior?

[@SeaTheThings]

Mine is 2 years old and makes the noises above that someone is complaining their ONLY 9 month old makes. EACH CHILD TO THEIR OWN! But I do think mine is having a speech delay that we are also being told from professionals.

[@jayadavid6901]

My baby is 9 month old only says huh, hmm and angggaa that's it. He plays on his own, if kids are running he crawls fast behind them, i am getting crazy thinking day in and out if my baby is autistic? One day last week he suddenly blabber a lot continously for sometime and that's it, i only hear huh and annnga with mouth closed that too not often, is this speech delay or autism ?

[@ayeshaasif6590]

My 3.5 years old daughter sinngs poems alphabet colours name but not properly say mama to me

[@ChaseMeNUrDream]

I definitely give give give … 😅

[@eneg0nala]

Praise the best ignore the rest but what about behaviors you don’t want they to repeat. A simple ‘no’ does not get them to stop doing what they are not suppose to do. Ex: my 3 yr old language delayed boy had the dishwasher door opened all the way and was climbing on top of the door. Which can break. My mom told him 3 no’s and he didn’t comply. How are we to ignore something like this? If we just pick him up and off does he understand that he’s not suppose to repeat this behavior?

[@rebekahclemison9932]

Suggest an alternative for them. Check out Language of Listening website