THINGS TO KNOW before marrying a JAPANESE | How are Japanese men like? | SHOCKING EXPERIENCES

[@AiraSoco]

Hi! You might wanna consider watching "HOW I MET MY JAPANESE HUSBAND" kzbin.info/www/bejne/jqe1fn6Qq8ibqdk.❤️ Thank you.

[@blume0121]

I am german and married with a japanese man.We are completly equal, both are cleaning the apartment and working. When i cook, then he is washing the dishes afterwards. Also he is very romantic. This is what i love about japanese culture, they are not direct but cute and hot at the same time. They are still gentleman (example: they pay in a restaurant for the woman). In Germany the men are usually not like this.

[@AiraSoco]

Aww, you are one of the lucky women sis. ❤️

[@mokushirokunoguren]

Same I feel we are very lucky to have found them ^^

[@ryuukakhadijah7766]

Love hearing that ❤️

[@vagabondfeet]

That's because you are German. Japanese love Hitler

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@vagabondfeet unfunny joke

[@pompommania]

So be ready to cook, clean, don’t ask questions if he leaves you alone, don’t expect any signs of affection.. girls, get a dog instead.

[@AiraSoco]

Pompom Mania 😅

[@kaizenryan3390]

Entitlement in this comment oof.

[@pompommania]

@@kaizenryan3390 yep, 100% entitled to having the life I want. Next!

[@julieabot4154]

Slave for short?

[@Patrick-s1c4p]

But a dog does not pay all your bills. Women are lazy and do not like to work

[@mokushirokunoguren]

I am italian but my husband is japanese we live together in Tokyo and he is a real sweetheart, he never makes me do things if I don't feel like doing them that specific day because of my depression I have due to childhood traumas, he is very caring and understanding and also a gentleman always has been. ❤️ Please don't generalize and don't put people in a box! I personally have just positive things to say about him

[@ryuukakhadijah7766]

Love to hear that❤️

[@AiraSoco]

People mostly misunderstand my content here, I have specifically told in a part of this vid that I am not generalizing all Japanese men, and the things I am saying here are based on my experience. Anyway, thank you for watching. You are indeed lucky to have found your real sweetheart.😊

[@TheCechino-ms9nx]

Dio è morto.

[@mokushirokunoguren]

@@TheCechino-ms9nx Hahahaha

[@vagabondfeet]

That's because you are Italian. Japanese love Mussolini

[@arizel06]

I’m marrying a Japanese man. I love him so much! Hi from Osaka! I’m Filipino too

[@AiraSoco]

Congratulations sis! Keep the love burning.

[@ごとうあり]

Filipino’s love is too heavy to Japanese man...

[@HyunJ00N]

@@AiraSoco ahh im so jelous stay happy

[@abhinavkumar3992]

Congrats hope you stay happy always

[@AiraSoco]

@@HyunJ00N thank you

[@きむら-g4m]

I think it depends on person honestly. In old Japan, the tendency that men work hard and women do housework was strong. That’s true. BUT, in recently Japan, the tendency is weaker and weaker. And almost all of husbands actively help housework when not working. SO, please think about marrying or dating Japanese man! They are so kind and reliable because they have samurai soul. And I am Japanese. Would someone merry me?😁 I hope the world where a lot of women admit that Asian men is cool.😭 from Japan 🇯🇵

[@AiraSoco]

Yes i agree with what you say, and i guess i have mentioned it in the video that i am not referring to all, and that it all depends on each person. Yes, for sure someone will marry you.☺️

[@tromboner6061]

Bro If you really care so much about what they say about your race of men, then you don't deserve a woman. Be proud of your identity. Be a man. Japan is a country which gets claimed as patriarchal society yet acc to a survey, in ten years more % of japanese women said they wanted to be housewives. This means Japan gives choices to women. And respects them too. Even if It's of becoming a housewife. The fact that Japan has a male leadership n workforce and that Japan as a country is perfectionist to the core and has the best tech n other marvels means that Japanese men have high quality. Also they work under high pressure and have to give their work their alll. Keep your head high

[@きむら-g4m]

•••••••••••••••••••••• Thanks for your encouragement. You are right. There are a lot of Japanese women who want to do their housework. So, that’s not female disdain. And actually, the movement of extremist feminist is a problem in Japan nowadays. They forget the original goal- gender equality and tend to think that it’s no problem that males are discriminated as long as female are protected. They are not real feminists but sexists and not seeking equality but favorable treatment. We have to review what equality is. And thanks to you, I can feel confident in myself as a Japanese man.😉

[@Mei-df5qx]

@@きむら-g4m Genkidzukeru!

[@きむら-g4m]

気持ち kimochi! ありがとう！ arigato!

[@theboredprogrammer1114]

As a Filipina married to a Japanese man, I have really different experience and here's my take: 1. Gender roles like cooking and cleaning are on a rotation basis with my husband. He got this kind of system as he felt unfair if a woman does everything at home. This probably got picked up when my husband studied abroad (Australia) so his views on marriage and home life is quite progressive. 2. He is super supportive of me maintaining a career as a software engineer and doesn't mind at all if I want to work full time until I get tired of it. That being said, having no kids is the best option for both of us. We did some introspection that our finances and personalities do not match on becoming parents and didn't bother on having kids despite being pressured and ridiculed on both sides. It hurts being called selfish but we would rather not have kids than giving birth to one which is unplanned and would make our marriage miserable. I guess minding our own business really plays large here. 3. Being left on your own most of the times works the best for me as an introverted woman. Being an introverted Filipina is more of a curse in the Philippines than in Japan. Being an introvert gave me more freedom to do things that interest me and so does with my husband. It doesn't mean we don't have lovey-dovey couple time (ofc we have) but having it not overly sweet and 24/7 makes our relationship more of a quality vs quantity thing work. I trust him and he trusts me so there's that. For us, the thing that some time on our own does make our marriage healthier as no one is smothered and we grow more as better individuals.

[@AiraSoco]

It's nice to hear other people's stories. Thank you for sharing yours, and for watching my video. :)

[@northwest129]

I also love independency in terms to relationship. But thanks any way i enjoy watching your blog. I learned some.

[@AiraSoco]

@@northwest129 Thank you.

[@abhinavkumar3992]

Congrats I wish both of you all my well wishes now just stay happily love each other and always stay together God bless you always

[@DorsSeldon]

Thanks for sharing your story. It made me believe in humanity a little bit more :D .

[@MumsOzLifeB2RAZON]

It’s reality sis, same here, have to adjust to the culture, and everything. But let’s let them aware din na it takes two to Tango. Anyhow, Thank you for sharing Japanese culture. I can see in your husbands eyes the way he pleases you he loves you so much. You are his forever

[@AiraSoco]

Thank you for this sweet message sissy. Sorry for the late response.

[@fangirlme]

Honestly I'm not mad at the housekeeping and child care, if he is patient, I can learn and improve. Because when I love I tend to give everything to that person, but I expect me to be your n. 1 priority in return, (not your work) make me feel needed and loved...

[@AiraSoco]

i feel the same way

[@jeniferardiente9001]

I agree

[@nikkinaval2339]

I married to Japanese for 9 years and we are relocating this June . However, I moved out and went back to the Philippines because I got scared of staying in their country. Also, I did try to learn their language but its just too difficult. it frustrates me even more. My husband keeps on reminding me that I cant work unless I reach to N4 level but until now, I am still in N5. I repeated the whole thing because Kanji is just too difficult for me.

[@IshikawaLuv]

Not every Japanese man is the same of course 😉 my Japanese husband is everything I wanted in a man and in a husband because we fell in love. Of course our cultures are different but before you get married you have an opportunity to see if you are a match.

[@AiraSoco]

I agree. :)

[@ingeborgekitamura7136]

you are right not all the same

[@gerokawamotochannel]

My Japanese husband cooks better than I do and he has no issues if does the cooking most of the time. He does cleaning better and because he is not satisfied with how I clean our house he'll clean it all over again. He doesn't drink much but he smokes a lot. Maybe it's just a stereotype most people have about Japanese men. Don't take it seriously. Enjoy your married life.

[@samuraijosh1595]

Lmao what do you do then?

[@ingeborgekitamura7136]

my husband is the same :)

[@michaelseeley6546]

There are divorce statistics available to help us set expectations and decisions. Per the vlog (Japanese-Filipina marriage) please note that this international pairing has the highest rate of divorce (80%-85%). Then look at Japanese and Filipino divorce rates (15% in Japan). By this we can see how challenging one might expect a marriage between these two cultures to be.

[@suzystar3]

Whoa were are these from, that's pretty interesting.

[@yo2trader539]

I don't know where you got those figures. Divorce ratio of Japanese wife and Filipino husband ratio based on Japanese statistics is about 50%, which is around the average for divorce ratio of international marriages in Japan. Japanese husband Japanese wife divorce ratio is about 33%. Japanese husband-Filipina wife divorce ratio is about 60-70%. Divorce ratio with US, UK, and South Korea is about the same as Japanese-Japanese marriages for Japanese husbands. But it climbs to 50% with Chinese, and 60-70% for Filipina. I do suspect there are visa marriages included in these stats too.

[@michaelseeley6546]

@@yo2trader539 Thanks, yes, the answer is always “it depends what you are looking at”. I was going off memory and not worried about being exact. The statistics I looked up varied depending on whether the international couples live in Japan vs. in the home country of the non-Japanese partner. That’s where the 80% statistic comes from (Filipino-Japanese has the highest divorce rate, globally). The Japanese statistics also vary significantly by prefecture. Example, Japanese-Japanese divorce rates in Okinawa are much higher

[@michaelseeley6546]

@@yo2trader539 the latest Japanese man + Filipino woman statistic (living in Tokyo, Japan) was 68%. Still the highest rate for all international Japanese couples. The cultural differences are challenging, apparently. Looking at my Filipino family, I can understand why as Japanese men are not known for being emotionally expressive with high verbal communication in marriage. :) happy to be wrong.

[@fujio.a.k3446]

I wish I watch this before my marriage. I agree with all what you said. But how about fuuzoku 風俗(adult entertainment) In Japan? They say it's not an affair or not consider as cheating. I still can not understand it till now.

[@AiraSoco]

DISCLAIMER: Not all Japanese people As what I have known, for them, cheating is when there's an emotional connection, not with the physical. Me either, I could not understand very well because that's very different from my beliefs, but I think it's part of their culture and "work" especially if co-workers with higher positions will invite them to go. So if you want to stop your husband from going there, talk to him and be open with your feelings.🙏🏻

[@fujio.a.k3446]

@@AiraSoco thank you for your replay. I already open up about my feeling, but he still go there alone maybe 3 times more. He doesn't feel wrong and keeps saying it's not cheating. For me it's still an affair so I want divorce. But he will not do that. Because you're so an open minded person, may I know how to overcome this? I still can't forget his betrayal.

[@AiraSoco]

@@fujio.a.k3446 This is so difficult, for me,divorce will never be my option if possible. How about try to distance yourself from him? I mean do you have anybody that you can stay in their house for a while? Try to make him feel your absence but with an agreement,bring your kids with you and let him know that it would be his consequence if he still continues. Or what if try to do the same thing? Try to do mirroring, do what he does and see of what will he feel about it. But please, if you think these things are not good for your marriage, or if it will only make you suffer more, please don't do. 🙏🏻 Ganbatte!

[@fujio.a.k3446]

@@AiraSoco Thank you so much for your time replaying my comments. Ohhh all what you said is what I did! He do felt emptiness without me and the children and promised not to go there again. But when I came back I lost my love to him and keep getting suspicious. So I try to forget the past by mirroring his doing but he called the police. He has mental sickness and because of my ignorance he beat me endlessly and called the police. He is crazy. I'm now back to my country with my children and he begged me to come back. Should I still not divorce him? I see you're a strong woman, I really want to know your opinion or advice.

[@AiraSoco]

@@fujio.a.k3446 As much as possible, I will never choose divorce but when there's a third party or a physical violence involved, I would rather choose divorce than to stay in an unhealthy relationship like that, especially if my kids are already hurt. But again, this is just my opinion, I don't want to be held responsible with someone's decisions. 🙏🏻

[@yanapenaranda8946]

i like your videos but for those other viewers japanese men are also human, they can adjust IF THEY ONLY WANT TO, my husband is also a japanese, but he do the laundry sometimes and he also do the cooking because he understand that i came from different country. He dont drink alcohol because he can refuse to his friends or workers he can make excuses not until i force him even if his work was crazy he still give time to date me he also give me flowers even if there is no occasion (BTW he is a sachou) He still give time for me. She is right about her vlog but i think this is the old culture of japanese men, although yes some of the other men still follow this kind of beliefs...😊

[@AiraSoco]

You are one of the lucky women. Thank you Yana for your kind words, and for understanding deeply of what i was really trying to relay to the viewers. Have a good day!

[@きむら-g4m]

Hi, I’m Japanese. Many Japanese men help housework recently. So I hope nobody has a stereotype by this video😭

[@yanapenaranda8946]

@@きむら-g4m dont worry sir

[@AiraSoco]

@@きむら-g4m yes you don't need to worry, only close-minded people will stereotype

[@ChismosangKapitbahayChannel]

Sis ung pinaka Huli ang gusto ko. Don’t marry a Japanese if you are not ready to accept their culture. Actually it applies naman siguro for everybody. Syempre adapting to one culture and personality is a big thing.

[@autumnbecomesme]

I am divorced…and I want to move to Japan…I have no intention of dating there. In fact, moving there would be me marrying myself, and committing to being a single cat lady (I have two cats already and they are awesome), for the rest of my life and this doesn’t sadden me in the least.

[@davec5153]

I'm starting to realise why Japanese women are so open to marrying Caucasian guys and leaving Japan.

[@combat8314]

Then Caucasian women Japanese women fillipino women run to korean men, all of their men getting cuked by Korean men, bye bye hahahaha

[@julieabot4154]

@@combat8314 Oppa 🤣

[@UniVerse-to4mq]

Married to French men is also the same. Don’t believe the bs you watch on tv about how romantic French men are. You have share the finances but when it comes to housework, they dont touch anything and expect the woman to do everything. And they dont show any affection after 2 years of being together.

[@vaovei8095]

thank you for this vid! i've liked a japanese man for some time, and the reason why we always misunderstand each other is because of our nature. my friends always scold me, saying how can i be so patient with him, and if they were me, they'd abandon him immediately. xd i admit our personalities clash too, and idk how we became friends. idk if it applies to all, but he's so mysterious. tho i'm not expecting for a relationship, i'm content with us being friends. he doesn't like me romantically in the first place.

[@AiraSoco]

I am happy for you and for your friend, he is lucky to have a patient friend like you. Thank you for watching.

[@anikaalbert2851]

I fell in love with Philippines culture after watching this video! The people seems very kind and caring ❤️ Very similar to my country, Bangladesh! 😄

[@AiraSoco]

thank you❤️

[@ingeborgekitamura7136]

🙂

[@ingeborgekitamura7136]

🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@cantobotz]

this is a very interesting topic. it's nice to know the differences in culture and other stuff. thank you for sharing your experiences ate Aira. we look forward to watch your next vlog! stay safe po lagi ate! have a blessed day po 😁

[@DorsSeldon]

So Japanese man wants to have a servant not a partner... So much sexism!

[@Jayneology08]

How are you sis? I kinda miss watching you. Sorry for showing up just now, y'know been busy with our own errands. Wish to see more from you! Just please, keep going, you're getting there! Keep it up.. let's do this! God bless 😘💕🙏👍✨💖

[@AiraSoco]

hello sissy, sorry sa late na response hehe kumusta ka na? thank you for asking of how i'm doing

[@Churippu]

thanks for sharing. mahirap tlaga pag ibang kultura, kailangang mag adjust. pero i think its worth naman if both knows how to compromise the differences.

[@AiraSoco]

yes yes i agree hehe , thank you bakit ka nag change name? hehe

[@Churippu]

@@AiraSoco kasi marami pla akong kapangalan sa YT lol

[@reginafisher9919]

This does not sound like an enjoyable life for a woman as a human being living in Japan or being the wife of the Japanese man

[@AiraSoco]

I don't think so, it depends on the personality of a woman. But you are entitled to have your opinion so I respect that.

[@samuraijosh1595]

Ummm no. It depends on what you want. For me Japanese men are a catch

[@happysimple6015]

It’s difficult if your husband have big clan and you live with your in-laws , specially if your husband is the eledest son. So much responsibility . So tiring . But if you and your husband only in the house without in-laws , it’s more easier.

[@pepinella5624]

That is a cute video, a little subjective but since it's your own experience I guess that's a given. It's interesting to see what people form different countries find unusual or even shocking when it comes to dating Japanese people. From what you said here I think for me it'd be an even bigger culture shock if I ever were to date someone from the Filipines than someone from Japan. Things like everybody is minding their own business, being mindful about time and money and of course the great love for beer are pretty common here in Germany too.

[@AiraSoco]

Thank you so much. This comment means a lot to me, finally someone gets me well. I wish to go to Germany with my husband one day and let him drink a lot of beer, it will make him so happy hahaha. Have a good day! 💕

[@pepinella5624]

@@AiraSoco How sweet! I'm happy you'd like to visit my country some time and hope you'll have a nice experience.

[@AiraSoco]

@@pepinella5624 i am looking forward to it

[@DailyCakeTVbyRaymondCepillo]

Great tips Aira..really enjoy watching..like it..

[@AiraSoco]

Daily Cake TV by Raymond Cepillo thank you po

[@sofiscorner886]

I am Indian...really your point of views are same in India( partially)...thanks to know Japanese culture(positive and negatives)...

[@AiraSoco]

thank you for watching

[@SimplyMondyPachuchay]

Love your content as always Aira! Nice tip! I will share this video to aspiring contestants! Take care always! GBY! More power to you!

[@AiraSoco]

hahha may kakilala ka ba Mondy? thank you for watching, GBY too

[@SimplyMondyPachuchay]

Aira Soco ya of course mayron naman shinare ko na ito sa FB. Hehehehe

[@AiraSoco]

@@SimplyMondyPachuchay hala really? Thank you so much!

[@SimplyMondyPachuchay]

Aira Soco welcome! Hihihi

[@ElberethOhGilthoniel]

Everything you say is me lol,yet my boyfriend is japanese.I can't believe I'm saying this but I'm glad he's dated other Europeans before me,and one of my nationality too because now he is used to that.Also,you make it sound like marrying a japanese man equals to trying to somehow become japanese yourself which I don't agree with.If I learn his culture,his gonna learn mine or it's game over fron the beginning.Same goes for housework etc...

[@AiraSoco]

Well we are entitled with our own opinions , and I respect yours. Thanks for watching!

[@kristinemesina0523]

Hello I'm Deaf, Nice to meet you My boyfriend is Deaf and Japan We are finally engagement.

[@AiraSoco]

Congratulations on your engagement,Kristine. :)

[@ryokohonda4619]

You forgot "Don't marry a Japanese man just because you are a weeb" Nice video, most of this doesn't just apply in marrying Japanese but with other nationalities.

[@AiraSoco]

I agree. Thank you for watching.

[@MissChari]

Hi Aira! Tinapos ko to kasi Japanese ang students ko. You expressed yourself quite well too. Thank you for sharing!

[@AiraSoco]

thank you sissy

[@PeternVertue]

maraming difference friend pero kelangan lang ng maraming adjustments dahil sa pagkakaiba ng culture natin

[@AiraSoco]

yes i agree with that sir thank you for watching

[@irenekhoosawchoo6214]

Before marry they so good. Perfect. After marriage they want you to do child raising a, housework nd breadwinner. And if you earn good salary. You must pay everything. If not your mother in law comes after you . That s is Malaysia Chinese Man i regret not listening to my father.

[@ivangeo3319]

Wow, that's what Rachel Kim said about South Korean men also.

[@AiraSoco]

thank you for watching

[@ivangeo3319]

@@AiraSoco Is this cultural thing, pass down from many previous generations. With ' westernized' critical thinking through school and formal education, etc, why bad old habits never go away. I was born in Indonesia from part Chinese-Taiwanese mother and pure Malay father from island if Flores/ west Timor, grew up in East Java. I don't belong to any particular race or tribe, yet I can see the good and bad of that particular race or tribe. Yet, I married a Hong Kong girl, westernized. Sometimes, I see her culture thinking surfaces. Although, I want to point out to her, but I'm afraid of World War in the house.

[@francismpvlogs2206]

wooowww, so happy for you aira, congrats 😉😉

[@AiraSoco]

thank you hehe, niadto kos imong channel, migo nata didto hahahha buntis imo fiancee? cute kaayo inyo chubby bunny challenge pero d lang ko ka comment hehe

[@francismpvlogs2206]

@@AiraSoco hehehe Salamat kaayo Shay2 , ako ra ang di cute man hahaha

[@kohiholic4825]

Hi i was just searching for tips in how to date a japanese man since i prefer to date japanese man. I like this content also your words and the way you speak is very easy to understand thank youu im a filipino girl and that is a lot of task and responsibility for me since i prefer to work at office than to serve my husband at home but thank you really

[@AiraSoco]

Hello! Thank you so much for watching.

[@kohiholic4825]

@@AiraSoco thank you too

[@AiraSoco]

@@kohiholic4825 Have a good day! :D

[@kohiholic4825]

@@AiraSoco you too and stay safee

[@lifeschoicejapan7049]

Hi Sis Ai! very good content! This really a big help to those who is praying /hoping to marry a Japanese man. God bless you . stay safe.

[@AiraSoco]

thank you po, God bless you also

[@soundofmusicokb4637]

You said it all..this is an awesome content..keep it up..you're doing great! Just keep on going!

[@AiraSoco]

thank you so much SOM!

[@janinedeguia-kurashima2128]

I am going to marry my Fiancé because i really love him and he really love me too.. ❤️

[@AiraSoco]

I am happy for you sis! Congratulations in advance.

[@YuuNaokiYamashiro]

Harang pa ako momsh sana all may harang hehe hajimemashita po 💕

[@AiraSoco]

thank you sissy, jan ka rin papunta hehe, salamat sissy ng marami

[@cecilegartistry]

Ang ganda talaga ng boses mo sis napakalambing!🤗 magandang tips to para sa mga gustong makapag asawa ng japanese. Stay safe sis godbless

[@mariannepostanes4784]

This video is treasureeeee!!! 💛✨💛

[@AiraSoco]

thank you for watching

[@eri7-11]

I am hafu from NY. My hubby is born and living in Japan. Biggest issue is he is indirect and I’m more direct. I am so giddy (love bug, diehard romantic) and he can be so cool (reserved). And the drinking beer thing we had some issue. Because we got separated in different countries due to COVID and I thought we do not go to bar so not tempted to cheat. He was going to Izakaya Saturday nights and hid it from me to avoid confrontation. He said it’s just a good meal and a few beers and I thought was like an American bar and was like wtf, especially with COVID. Plus he didn’t have a lot of $ so I was paying for major furnishings in our new apartment and sacrificing eating out and he is going to bar?!?! But he kept saying it is innocent and part of the culture. His father was alcoholic who got drunk and got in car accident and died when he was a kid. This video helped so much. Also in the beginning my hubby often stared at some foreign woman intensely right in front of me (even first day we met)and I was like wtf! He said it’s just looking and couldn’t understand why I care so much and say something. He told me many of his friends went to hostess clubs or snack bars (there are also soapland and oppai bars) and flirted with many women and that’s normal in Japanese culture. And some even have sex while married and it’s kind of normal. He assured me he does not do that or go to the hostess club but he felt looking it’s just had a curiosity no problem. Oh another one is many don’t wear the wedding ring but I got mine to reluctantly agree to wear it. We negotiated these things in the beginning before we got married what is important to each of us and what are deal breakers so we can either accept it and marry or reject it and move on if we were not compatible. Oh and one more, when I first tried to hold his hand he pushed my hand out of his twice. He said it is not his style and he is too shy to hold hands. But I had dated a different Japanese man who love to hold hands in public and always reached for mine but he was also very flirty with hundreds of girls on Instagram. I think a lot of these men from Japan Cupid have these issues where they didn’t marry because there’s some reason that turns other Japanese girls off, and one of them I find is that they need to be taught to not flirt with other women and focus on the one they have. My first Japanese boyfriend Was older and more arrogant and unwilling to change. Two years later he came back after me and wanted to start again but I said no because he would tell me even if he’s wrong he still right and if I didn’t agree with him he would just cut me off for days. But he had admitted to me in the beginning he was sadistic. By the way, a nice Japanese man I met on a language exchange site, Told me mostly the lousy men go to Japan Cupid dating site and recommended the best way to meet a decent man is by being in Japan and working at a company or meeting someone through a friend in Japan. Even he was deeply in love with some foreign girl but he was still flirting with me, I do find that in various Japanese men either extremely reserved or they are very flirty, even if married. I’ve had a bunch of marry Japanese men try to flirt with me before I married and I was not interested in removed and blocked them in the end. Some got shocked when I said why would you do that to your wife. I feel that I got close to said they just had no sexual chemistry with their wife but they didn’t want to divorce so they were having affairs with various women and they even wanted to cheat on their mistresses with me just for fun because we felt comfortable talking and social media but no thank you. When I married a deleted and blocked and do not talk to such men, which I feel lot of Japanese men are like that. And these men were not just from dating sites but from some of the Japanese language exchange online sites. Those ones tend to be married and he was language partner as an excuse LOL. And the ones on the Japan Cupid dating site and they tend to have some problem either financial so they can’t attract a woman in Japan or some of them can even be married and they will use someone else’s photo on the dating app, etc. One thing I noticed on JapanCupid dating site is that many Japanese men or Japanese mixed men living in Japan is their photos are usually 10 years old or more order or someone else’s photo. And many lie about their living situation and money situation and college situation etc. etc. Sometimes I feel sorry for my hubby because our culture is a little different and my personality is sometimes dramatic and sensitive and very passionate and I think it is a little bit of a shock for him LOL. But that’s OK because he’s kind of cold aloof personality is a bit of a shock for me. But neither of us can break up and we both say we have to stay with each other forever and ever. I really hope I can become more aloof and read the air better. And I really hope that he can express a little bit more and not to be shy to show a little love when we’re out on a date. And also for him to keep his eyes to me. And talking things out, he said he will be more sensitive and looking at other women and he said he will learn to take my hand more, except where it would be rude in Japan. He said he can handle my direct personality as long as I do not yell or scream or hit him like his previous Romanian wife. And I told him as long as he gives me space to talk and listens to me I am OK. I think also being separated for almost 2 years has caused distress for both of us to the Covid and Japan being very strict to let foreigners in. We weren’t married for the first year in several months but married by proxy because there’s no other way we can be back together again. He got a new apartment for us to live in but I am not able to be there and he said it is very lonely. Thank you so much because your video made me feel not so alone in some of the struggles but overall it feels so worth it. Even though I have a Japanese mother, she seems to have taken on more the American culture since living in NY for almost 5 decades, And I dated men all around the world from India to the Middle East to Eastern Europe and various Americans and Japanese men are the most peculiar but maybe that’s why told you to enter so much more with a challenge to understand tame them a bit LOL.

[@AiraSoco]

Hi Hafu! Sorry for getting back to you late. I think you were just scared to lose him because you are in love,and that's romantic. We girls often think of exaggerated things because of love. I thought Izakaya was a bar like those girl's bars ,but it proved me wrong when I went there myself, it's just like a small restaurant where you eat and drink as part of the meal. When your husband says it's part of the culture, I agree, some men because of too much stress from work, they needed an outlet for their stress, so that's where drinking comes in. My husband drinks in Izakaya when he was still single because it was lonely to be alone in the house,but when we got married, I let him drink alcohol in the house instead. For now, Japan is under an emergency state because of the COVID, any restaurants are not allowed to serve alcoholic drinks even at day time, so I think this news will make you feel relieved. About the ring, it's good that you both have an agreement. My husband sometimes takes his wedding ring off because he needs to when he fixes cars. Hahaha that Japanese dating side is funny especially the fake photos. You are a good woman Hafu, you know where to stand and I am so proud of what you did in blocking those cheaters out of your life. It really is hard to be in a long distance relationship, but if you just compromise each other, be open with your thoughts without nagging and hurting each other , that would work things out. If your husband does not talk so much, try to let him talk of how his day was, who were the people he met that day, simple things like that. That way, he might be more comfy to express his thoughts. I know there are a lot of bad rumors about Japanese men, but there are loyal men too. Just have the assurance and trust each other. I know you both can do it. Ganbatte ne!

[@lencape6009]

I learned alot from this, thank you

[@eri7-11]

@@lencape6009 ❤️

[@AiraSoco]

@@lencape6009 thank you too

[@jomana1109]

How are middle eastern men like?

[@Itjusthappened0]

Pwede po pakwento saan pwede makahanap ng japanese guy to date and marry kahit nasa pinas ako?

[@shailateleron4971]

Andito na nman yong late na manager..hehehe sensya daming ganap..mwuuaahh

[@AiraSoco]

hahha thank you Shai

[@ainahvlogs]

Grabe pla nuh andaming adjustments. I salute you my dear sissy that's why no wonder npakabait mo.grabe npaka hardworking din nila kya pla money is really an issue for themJust stay happy always and God bless!

[@AiraSoco]

thank you so much sissy! oo nga eh, super dami talagang adjustments hehe pero go lang ng go

[@Myriel67]

I like your video very much. All things you mentioned are true. Yes!!!! I am now for 2 years in Japan. Married to a Japanese man. Currently I am totally depressed and seriously thinking about divorce and going to some other more kind country. Marriage sucks. Sex sucks. And I am alone all the time. And honestly I am tired of playing a wife and being a damn slave!! I am from Europe. Basically I came here to study martial arts. Te easiest way was to get married to a Japanese man because of papers. This was the biggest mistake in my life. I started to hate everything. Unfortunately back there I left everything so nowhere else to go!!!

[@fujio.a.k3446]

Don't be depressed, don't regret, it was your choice. You need to embrace your choice and life the fullest! Try not look at the past, but try to create a new bright future. Only you can change the future. Please enjoy your life, there are more people suffering with nothing to eat or disabled, or sick all the time in the hospital. You need to be grateful with what you have now and be responsible with your choice.

[@samuraijosh1595]

Well, you hate everything cuz you married him for the wrong reasons bitch. Like what the fuck? Your relationship sounds like it's purely based on the fact that marriage with him could get you the residency. Lol and you're complaining that a relationship not born out of love is failing? Give me a fucking break. Please leave the man and let him find a better woman.

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@fujio.a.k3446 she's an absolute irresponsible cunt who married a Japanese man purely for materialistic benifits.

[@AiraSoco]

Hi Myri Chan, i am sorry to hear about your situation. I also felt the same way before because we are very different people, the norms, values and culture are totally different. But, I never thought about having a divorce, everything can work out if you talk. My reason for marrying my husband is because of love, but I see yours as different. But, that doesn't mean you can't be happy with your choice. Just look at the bright side, and learn to love your partner. It is so easy to love somebody if you are willing to. Try to fix things up with your partner and tell him what you like and you don't like. He might be also feeling the same way. Marriage shouldn't be just for papers , it should be for love.

[@fujio.a.k3446]

@@samuraijosh1595 I know how you feel. Me too don't agree about misusing the marriage just for her own dream and then demanding a happy marriage. Well but we don't know what really happen so let's not judge her wrong or bad. Everyone has their point of view for their lifes.

[@sachikoiwamoto6366]

most of japanese guys expects them to treated as prince, so it's hard for us japanese women too. but i'm wondering which country guys are really good for marriage. maybe philipino?

[@AiraSoco]

Hi, thank you for watching my video. I am sorry I can’t suggest anybody because everyone has its own differences. It’s just a matter of compatibility. 😊

[@sachikoiwamoto6366]

@@AiraSoco thank you for your reply:) in that case, i go for japanese guy because they are everywhere around me so lol

[@AiraSoco]

@@sachikoiwamoto6366 hahahha you are so cute! anyway, not all Japanese men are the same, and I wish you happiness and good luck in your love life!

[@sachikoiwamoto6366]

@@AiraSoco ohh thank you, you are so adorable^^ yeah, not all japanese men but most of japanese men are the same i think Lol Because people affected by a majority opinion most of the times. i wish you a happy new year and holiday^^

[@AiraSoco]

@@sachikoiwamoto6366 Happy New year

[@BelleSanga]

Hi! my beautiful friend, Its good to know more about Japanese people, I love your content dear, correct flexible, I like your concept dear, ha ha ha! you can tell difference of Filipinos and Japanese, I love watching your video my beautiful friend, Ingat lagi

[@sukinihonrecipes6880]

Absolutely right! These are the common scenarios Filipina-Japanese couples experience (will experience) but, it still depends on how your household is set up. (Yeah, not all men are the same) but if you do love each other, you will compromise and adjust to make it work. :) at first you'll feel isolated but then you will get used to it...and you will get to know your Japanese partner even deeper as time passes by. Sabi nga nila wala naman sa lahi yan, nasa tao yan, kung mahal mo, you'll make it work and get through it.

[@AiraSoco]

Thank you sis, i super love the way you understand my video.

[@terinette7886]

I understand that time thing. When I say ,,We will meet at 5 p.m." I will be there at 4:30 or even 4 or 3, because I hate to be late. :DD

[@AiraSoco]

heheh i can understand that now also, thank you for watching

[@terinette7886]

@@AiraSoco I also thank you for video like that ❤️

[@AiraSoco]

@@terinette7886 Happy New Year

[@jashysagunam6937]

Thankyou for sharing! New learning is real 🤗

[@AiraSoco]

hahhaa char, supportive is real salamat Jaz

[@ManoyBOBOY26]

Thanx for sharing infos..

[@AiraSoco]

thank you din po boss

[@Itjusthappened0]

I was planning to find a janapanese guy to date and marry, but after you said about their drinking and working culture I am thinking twice now.

[@FLH2023]

Japanese men will not change today or at 100 years, simply they live to hardwork with discipline , integrity and respect to his duties . Certainly Japanese men will not listen this critical sense video . Have a nice week.

[@binaartandcraftwork]

Very nice video

[@Purbidaisyang]

Aguy nag nosebleed ko sissykuy..heheh pero nakaya rag sabot..

[@AiraSoco]

hahhaa thank you sis

[@nestorybanez1519]

To all Pilipina, remember Aira's advice if at home you are a princess and your Mother is the maid, do not marry a Japanese man, you will only have a hard time and will be forced to work as a maid. Cooking, Shopping, Cleaning the House, Caring for Children, do Laundry, and much more. Because they want to marry a Filipina so they can save money for Maid. Magiging miserable lang ang buhay nyo! Wala kang katulong doon.

[@aldinekilat1813]

😢😢

[@stuffanthings]

So they want a wife that isn't a self centred lazy person

[@yanapenaranda8946]

Buti nalang asawa ko na hapon pinaglalaba ako.

[@nestorybanez1519]

@@yanapenaranda8946 : Day Yana baka nman umpisa lang yan pinaglalaba ka at baka ilang anak nalang ikaw na lahat. Joke lang!

[@yanapenaranda8946]

@@nestorybanez1519 hayaan mo babalitaan kita kapag nagbago.

[@GDyey19]

Stay Humble and Kind Ate Aira :)

[@AiraSoco]

thank you Dyey

[@YuuNaokiYamashiro]

Same tayo momsh going 4years naman ako december ..this year

[@YuuNaokiYamashiro]

Yes fact na fact need mag adjust .

[@AiraSoco]

@@YuuNaokiYamashiro ang galing mo na mag nihonggo sissy, nakakapagchikahan ka na hahhaa nakakainggit

[@Civonivirt]

Very helpful and interesting talaga my dear friend, ingat ka palagi dyan.

[@mahatmagandhi7395]

Lovely advices 😍🎋❤🎋 Wish you health and happiness always dear friend !!! Stay well & safe !!! 129 🌷 Thanks.

[@AiraSoco]

thank you

[@mahatmagandhi7395]

@@AiraSoco 🎋🎋❤🎋🎋

[@aprilrosetisoy105]

Very informative ai..

[@AiraSoco]

thank you Pril hehe

[@lolaandklein736]

Murag sa number 5 gyud mglisud ang pinoy kay late permi. Lingaw kaau paminawn imong tingog sis, cute kaau

[@ArjanvsTheWorld]

Your upload is fantastic Joi.

[@popisvlogs8286]

Everything same here Aira. I think you make adjustmaent with the culture of your husband but in terms of doing everything it doesn't make a difference with us here in Canada. Everything is us..no help.. no maids..no nothing. Just be strong. Excellent vlog

[@AiraSoco]

thank you :) laban

[@prisa.1820]

I would say what Japanese men are all Abt being disciplined, organized and well-mannered. Which is a good thing lol, these are the traits of being brought up well

[@nenematit6966]

Gusto ko talaga ang intro ang ganda mo sissy promise. I love your explanation sis ang clear at maintindihan talaga.

[@AiraSoco]

salamat sissy

[@JRROSALTV]

Very Interesting Topic Aira..Nice Content. Confrats. God Bless.

[@AiraSoco]

thank you po

[@RuelAlupit]

Salamat sa pagbahagi mo Madam sa iyong Japanese life..

[@angelaworld5383]

Thank goodness that I’m not married with a Japan man, because my husband will find my lifeless body almost one year after the wedding 😭😭😭

[@farmhandbans550]

Daghan jud kalainan sad Japan og Philippines, kailangan jud sipag palagi.. Haha kilay is life.. Japan beer is life.. Christmas and Valentines very different jud. Salamat sa pagshare ma'am.

[@AiraSoco]

salamat pd sa pag tan aw Bans

[@lyndelacruz6998]

Good to know about that sissy thank you for sharing your experience..

[@taigaaisaka3374]

Me : I like you Him : Thank you for that you told me your feelings . so what is okay? Does he reject me. He is also a japanese man.

[@AiraSoco]

You are brave enough to open up your feelings for him. I honestly don't know what's the meaning behind his response because most of them are deep people. But, as how I understood, he is not ready for anything romantic with you yet.

[@taigaaisaka3374]

@@AiraSoco thank you po Ate Ai 😭💔. He is my workmate. They are in the PH right now... But I know this year their project will be done and he will go back in japan...Last time on his Bday. I make him a sandwich. He ate it also in front of his japanese manager and workmate...😭.

[@taigaaisaka3374]

@@AiraSoco ate ai. Should i ask him this.. I wanna say it. What do you think... Ahhhh. I forgot to ask you, komatsu san... Is thank you equals to a clear rejection in japanese way?

[@AiraSoco]

@@taigaaisaka3374 Sad to say I think it is their clearest way of rejection, but it also depends on how he understood your confession. Some Japanese don't know what's the meaning of our I LIKE YOU, unless you say the word LOVE . My opinion only.🙏🏻

[@taigaaisaka3374]

I confess in a japanese way. I said. "Kimi ga suki desu"

[@kcc8055]

Tamsak nako Daan sissy hehe.

[@AiraSoco]

salamat sissy

[@PeternVertue]

dito ako sa pinakamaraming views kapatid keep posting dumarami na ang viewers mo congratz

[@FemSoriano]

Thankyou for sharing this thoughts sis heheheh Dami pagkakaiba ng Japanese and Filipinos

[@rizaorenseli]

Hi sis sobrang appreciated this video. Thanks for sharing.God Bless.

[@AiraSoco]

na appreciate ko rin pagdalaw mo sis, salamat

[@leonorsmith227]

I have a Filipina friend she is married to a Japanese guy. But her husband already embrace American culture..he doesn't want to live in Japan He told me culture there is sucks.no life.he loves America 😂

[@AiraSoco]

:)

[@robertgrey7266]

9:16 Very true, but there are signs that this is starting to change.

[@RhechelG]

Mo ba sis? Great vlog man ni sis. HApit na btaw ko mkauyab japanese. Haha. I think your husband is perfect for you sis. Ayeee.

[@AiraSoco]

thank you sis hahaha kumusta naman ka?

[@RhechelG]

@@AiraSoco Hi sis. Ok ra. Nabusy jud btaw ko sa work sis, quarterly reports. Miss you ♥️

[@papapiggytvintheuk2257]

Thanks for sharing what you have experienced and learned in Japan gang dulo kasama harang cheers...

[@irischua3143]

I feel you ! Luckily , I met my husband in United States … we live in here long time …

[@AiraSoco]

[@Nobaangs]

Hiiii. I’m new to your channel. I wanna travel to Japan soon. Oh btw, you’ve learned a lot and I’m really amazed by your adjustments. Kudos!

[@AiraSoco]

thank you so much

[@ckshine15]

very well said sissy sobrang informative video nice tips sissy

[@AiraSoco]

thank you sissy sa panonood ng maayos

[@almasarts]

hahah when i read this title that don't marry a japanese man i was like wow u look happy and still saying this hahha then i come to know that u are amazed while married to a Japanese man. thanks again for sharing with us my friend

So good. Thumb up

[@AiraSoco]

thank you

[@Mrclefchannel87]

Basta bisaya kugihan baya madam...maglampaso kada buntag.hahaha....padayon lang sa pagka gwapa madam.hehe.amping mo diha perme ni boss.

[@AiraSoco]

salamat boss, hahha makamingaw ang maglampaso jd

[@journeywiththejanuhowskifa6255]

Thanks for sharing this Sis, great reminders, all princesses must know this lol, meaning Marriage is not for lazy people

[@AiraSoco]

hahhaha thank you sissy

[@akane3549]

It's my first time here and this is my first time watching your video. Yet, I love your mindset. 😉

[@AiraSoco]

thank you sis for your kind comment

[@YbethyM]

Hi! Glad I found your channel. Interesting because I’m also married to one. I’m worried about the cooking thing. Hehe. I’m still learning how to prepare some Japanese recipes.😃

[@AiraSoco]

that is one of the things i find difficult too sis, but you will learn as time goes by hehe

[@jubichallenge]

correct ka jan sis maraming makarelate sa advice mo very helpful

[@AiraSoco]

thank you sis

[@monaricalambating9107]

Oh diba, nkaapas rakog tan.aw hahaha puryabuyag ang internet ron

[@AiraSoco]

thank you kaayo ayieh sa support

[@gianivymacaraeg5448]

Wow! I'm new to this channel and I love it! 😍🥰 thank you for the informations.

[@AiraSoco]

Thank you for watching❤️

[@fredericktrabucon]

Maganda yung topic mo ma'am. Very interesting. Di rin pala basta basta mag marry ng Japanese. I'm so happy for you, you found your true love. Ingat na rin po kayo jan. God bless.

[@AiraSoco]

thank you so much po

[@tvslm2348]

Hello sis. Musta na. Long time no hear. I hope you are okay out there. Cool intro and outro.

[@AiraSoco]

Thank you sissy, totoo ka talagang kaibigan. God bless you.

[@tvslm2348]

@@AiraSoco Always here for you sis! God bless you more.

[@AiraSoco]

TV SLM23 So sweet ni sissy!❤️

[@allaboutCharm]

thanks for the tips. tinapos ko ng buo sissy. sabi ng sis ko, parang di nya daw ata keri ung mga ibang mga sinabi mo. hehe. mukhang msasaktan lang daw sya

[@AiraSoco]

heheh thank you for watching sis, pero dpende naman sissy sa tao, may ibang Japanese din naman na same sa Pinoy ang ugali