Ajahn Amaro on Love, Relationships, and Attachment

From a Dhamma Talk given in 2014 at Amaravati Buddhist Monastery titled "If You Truly Love Me, Don’t Create Me in Your Mind"
Download the talk for free here: www.amaravati.org/audio/if-you...
About Ajahn Amaro:
Born in England in 1956, Ven. Amaro Bhikkhu received a BSc. in Psychology and Physiology from the University of London. Spiritual searching led him to Thailand, where he went to Wat Pah Nanachat, a Forest Tradition monastery established for Western disciples of Thai meditation master Ajahn Chah, who ordained him as a bhikkhu in 1979. Soon afterwards he returned to England and joined Ajahn Sumedho at the newly established Chithurst Monastery. He resided for many years at Amaravati Buddhist Monastery, making trips to California every year during the 1990s.
In June 1996 he established Abhayagiri Monastery in Redwood Valley, California, where he was co-Abbot with Ajahn Pasanno until 2010. He then returned to Amaravati to become Abbot of this large monastic community.
Ajahn Amaro has written a number of books, including an account of an 830-mile trek from Chithurst to Harnham Vihara called Tudong - the Long Road North, republished in the expanded book Silent Rain. His other publications include Small Boat, Great Mountain (2003), Rain on the Nile (2009) and The Island - An Anthology of the Buddha’s Teachings on Nibbana (2009) co-written with Ajahn Pasanno, a guide to meditation called Finding the Missing Peace and other works dealing with various aspects of Buddhism.

[@djmorphogen]

Best ventriloquist ever

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😂😂😂😂

[@srv5210]

😂😂😂

[@susanamendoza6571]

Jajajajaj

[@fingerprint5511]

Blessings Ajahn Amaro 🌿

[@noonmanji2086]

Sartu for your teaching Ajahn. I'm glad I can visit you regularly at the monastery.

[@community1854]

This talk is life changing! Detachment !!

[@angelagray8198]

This is really powerful 👏🏾..thank you Ajahn Amaro.

[@radicalhonesty3628]

I can't focus on the video, no matter how hard I try. I'm sick and fucking tired of suffering on this planet. I LOATHE it here. I wish for death, and nothing else.

[@KimNguyen-iz1pt]

The best talk

[@isabellek1171]

Are we meant to be totally detached or totally attentive? Ajahn Amaro says: - Both are needed. You need to balance both. - right word and action based on the situation -middle path is needed -wasnt identified with his body, people, scenarios, but was attuned to every situation and every action was appropriate and harmless - fully present and detached at the same time

[@gregpantelides1355]

Thank you!

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I love that Magritte painting!

[@thezentrader]

Gosh this talk was fantastic, thank you!

[@mstitou3149]

reminds me of the Smiths song lines : Cause there's always someone, somewhere With a big nose, who knows And who trips you up and laughs When you fall

[@AcesGaruda]

Cemetery gates.

[@captainwheelbarrow649]

I think most 'normal' people realise that close attachments can be a source of both happiness and suffering, but they think the happiness is worth the suffering, or worth the risk of suffering at least. In other words they would say that "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." Maybe for others however their fear of suffering is stronger than their desire to experience the happiness that can come from those kinds of attachments, so they avoid them altogether and become monks. Don't know if you can say one way is right and the other way is wrong, just different personal preferences maybe? But I can also see that if you view everything as one, and a product of causes and conditions, and view all outcomes as ultimately equal then it wouldn't make sense to form passionate attachments to things or particular people.

[@SgtMacska]

The thinking is that “happiness” can come not only from sense pleasures (what “normal” people call happiness) which inevitably leads to suffering when the sense pleasure ceases but also from spiritual pleasure. The cessation of attachment is said to feel better than any sense pleasure

[@_adi_shakti]

lovely talk

[@kazbah1217]

I honestly believe that Buddha was an INFJ type😊