ALASTAIR’S COMING OUT STORY

[@collinsje5]

Alastair is more of an introvert than Zach, and this is the most I have ever heard him say before! He looks so relaxed and comfortable here, and I think he's found the perfect partner in Zach. They fill in the blanks for one another, and that is great. Hello, too, to B - the world's cutest dog.

[@randomizerca]

"Part of coming out is coming out to yourself." Well said!

[@imacinstead85]

Zach, that is one brave, amazing dude you married there. I’m sure this was more than a little outside of Alastair’s comfort zone, but him doing it anyway to share with us and help others is not only moving, but really an example to all of us. Thanks for the video guys! I actually have someone important to share this with.

[@kevinwinfree4600]

Alastair, first of all I love that name...now, I’ve commented on so many of Zach’s videos and I truely care about you two and your relationship. You two have been such an inspiration for me to come out and be myself. Thank you so much for that. I had forgotten what Happy felt like, but now I’m just me. Seriously thank you

[@fallingraver]

More like an interrogation than a story 😂 but grateful for Alastair for sharing his experience with us. Each video just goes to show how down to earth you both are. Stay safe, greeting from Ireland!

[@AdventuresofZachandB]

I think "Alastair's Coming Out Interrogation" has a nice ring to it

[@Tymmy66]

Thank you so much Alastair and Zach. Alastair this was such an honest, heartfelt (yet humorous at times) coming out story. Guys this is very helpful for anyone struggling with coming out, especially in Australia at present as we are in the middle of a very dangerous stupid vote on whether same sex couples should get married. This is making a lot of gay people struggle with thoughts self hatred, and worse. Your closing statements were right on the point. Thanks for taking the time and sharing this.

[@tominkerry]

A beautiful man ☺

[@Greenterror]

Tom McElligott I

[@sleekcartim]

he is brave inside & out, he is a true soldier

[@badmanners619]

I've been waiting on this video since I first subscribed! Loved hearing Alastair's story and how he feels about homosexuality. What a great guy. Thanks for sharing with us Alastair and for interviewing him Zach. Love you both.

[@alastairpatton108]

Blake M it's been a long time in the making haha

[@myanavarro3603]

Blake M CHECK OUT MATT AND BLUE AND YOU WILL NEVER WANT TO COME BACK WATCH WHEN THEY ADOPT THEIR SON FROM THE BEGINNING (;

[@badmanners619]

Alastair Patton haha well it was well worth the wait! I always appreciate you and your husband's words of wisdom. It's helped me with my own coming out. Thank you both :)

[@felix121984]

Blake M I think your feet stink !

[@byronh60]

It was really nice hearing Alastair's story. Thank you for sharing that with us!

[@brookebeachy2602]

"Is there a gay agenda? I haven't received the booklet yet." 😂😂😂 I gotta use that on my mom when I come out.

[@Tinytee711]

Very nicely done. I love your advice at the end. Zach has definitely been a big influence in getting that "shyness of the camera" out of you. You only have one life, live it to your fullest. much love to you two!!

[@lpforever6273]

01:40 "The only way I was actually going to be happy, would be to be myself "

[@franciscovarela5668]

Alastair! You are the greatest! One of the most sincere, funny, and no drama coming out stories that I have ever heard in KZbin. The story about the letter to your mother, with the Q&A section, should be on a manual of how to come out for dummies; the comments about the email to your grandfather were just the cherry on top. If I could give you starts (and not just a single "like"), I would give you 5 (i.e., all of them). Very proud of having you representing the gay community on line.

[@alreppine3517]

Thank you for sharing this personal journey. I hope many young men considering coming out will feel strong and empowered by your experience, Alistair.

[@kammore6209]

Omg, the jealousy vs attraction part was so accurate

[@jeffporter4055]

Okay, well...that was awesome. Really liked the interview format and how professionally you answered his questions. Great job!

[@johnkane4481]

The great strength of this channel and others like it (Matt and Blue, Mark and Ethan, Carson and Nate, Zach and Evan, the Monasteros, Dads not Daddies, PK and Mike, Mike Rizzi and Chris--the list, happily, seems endless) occurs when the guys are just themselves in front of us, when they seem as real as water. Zach's interruptions today were a great example of that. That touch of the unpracticed made whatever Alastair had to say even more approachable, identifiable. Sure, all the guys mentioned above exhibit their 'creative' sides occasionally, and certainly they're all more 'youtube-genic' than most of us in the audience. But they're most effective when they're most themselves. Alastair's message--first, come out to yourself--has been said in videos over and over again. And it's irrefutably true. But when he says it as he did in this video, it matters most to people who need to hear it because he's clearly not setting himself up as anything other than who he is--just a guy, trying to live his authentic life. His achievement (graduating West Point, serving in the military) and his good fortune (finding Zach and committing to a life journey together) fall away when he's just telling his story. He could be anyone, even when he's most specifically himself. And that is so important. I love these guys and their peers for what they contribute to the community in their willingness just to 'be' in front of of us.

[@belizeguy]

Well said Alastair. Thank you for sharing your story and reactions. As always, congratulations on finding each other! It sure is grand when you find the right one!!

[@veronicareagan6975]

Lovely man, you're very lucky to have him Zach.

[@hwhytee1]

Great story Alastair!! I'm sure kids that are struggling with coming out would appreciate this story. It was very courageous of you not to just come out but share it with everyone. Thank you for the share.

[@warrendelongjr.5870]

This was a great video and I am so glad to hear about Alastair's coming out. Please continue to share his experiences, stories and advice. You guys are inspirational!

[@Quez-]

I remember watching you when you were single AF and now you have a beautiful husband and I'm jealous. 😂

[@chris10858]

Wow. That was a very sweet and thoughtful video. As a guy in my 40s who grew up at a time pre-Internet in a rural area, we didn't have any way to explore what being gay meant. We only had the negative stereotypes as seen on TV. It's great that you guys are making these videos about just living your lives. Thank God there is the Internet where young LGBTQ kids can go and find videos like this. Perhaps your videos have helped to save some young kid's life somewhere who sees no hope for a better future. Having grown up in the country myself (Go Vols!), It's really refreshing to see a couple of guys being themselves away from the heart of the gayborhoods and out in middle America. (You're braver than I.)

[@terrywells5581]

Thanks for sharing Alastair.Love you and Zack.You guys rock.

[@noelheaton5404]

Hiya Alistair,i tried praying all my life.I am still alone.So glad you decided to be so brave.It was different in the 70 s.Glad to see some progress

[@lanncopeland8127]

Great video Alastair. You are a super role model for guys who are just now coming out. Thanks for sharing with all of us. Love to you and Zach. And B.

[@thierrydupuis9277]

"You need to be okay with yourself before taking criticism of others" Thank you Alastair for yours words. You may be way younger than I am but you sure are wiser as it took me a hell lot of more than 24 years to figure this out (if only, it would've saved me a lot of stress, pain and sorrow). It sure does take strength and courage to come out and you have done it perfectly and with dignity. I wish you all the best to you and Zach.

[@coachlady6837]

U did great ! Never fear ! Stay strong ! Love has no prejudice no matter what race ,gender ,religion always follow your heart because you have to live your life! Let no one bring u down! Love life! And live!!!❤️

[@anscad]

Wow! I didn't realize I never saw this video. Great point at the end about coming out to yourself first. So true!

[@TamaraChing]

thank you for sharing your coming out story. when you are honest with yourself, you can be assured that nothing can hurt you (but you). continue to be yourself.

[@acienx6367]

Great video guys. One thing I'd like to say to those who are struggling with coming out is that your life, your happiness does not depend on someone else's acceptance. You exist whether they approve or not. You are not an offering to be accepted or rejected. You are your own person, on your own path. There is only one person who's acceptance matters and that is you. Once you have acceptance in your heart for yourself it makes it so much easier for those around you to accept you and if they don't they don't! They really don't have a say. Be kind, be respectful and give them the gift of accepting them for who they are. But be gone if it is a negative situation. Of course this one man's take and it doesn't apply to those who are in a dependant situation where their emotional and physical safety is a concern.

[@TheTrulyroman]

I want to thank you both for being so inspirational to me. I live in a very traditional environment in England and I was forbidden thirty years ago by my army officer parents to ‘come out’ as it was, and still is to them, totally unacceptable to do so. I’m in my fifties now and have led a very lonely and loveless life but your wonderful story brings me joy and I am so very happy for you both. God bless you and keep you always.

[@davidcortes8120]

Al, do you mind me calling you Al? The best coming out story I have ever heard, and I have seen practically all of them. Give yourself a five-star and top on your shoulder. Thanking you again.

[@RaiPeraza]

I wondered how long it would be before this story/video was made. IMO it really shows how far your relationship has come and truly become one. Alastair thank you so much for making this video. You guys are both amazing.

[@andrewpowles36]

Thank you. So valuable for others to hear your experience; learn from your strength of character; and see how good life can be

[@ddrse]

Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to dwell together in unity!

[@lex73460]

Guys, thank you for my best moments of life when I saw your channel on KZbin! Good luck guys! Very much I love you! I wait for your new videos on KZbin. Greetings from Ukraine.

[@kenfred9699]

So nice getting to know Alastair, thanks for sharing.

[@larrymcallister7038]

Thank's for sharing this great vid! it will help a lot of ppl who don't know how.

[@drewviews77]

That was great. Thank u for your honesty. It will help those struggling with the same issues.

[@RobertYoung-ip5yz]

Thanks for your story Alastair. Loved it. So proud of you. Your an inspiration and a fine young man, an example and role model for others. I came out in early 70s and helped paved the way for some of the life your experiencing as a gay man, by my own actions in the LGBT community. It has come to fruition in men and women like you and your husband. Y'all have a great life. Que Diós te bendiga, y Zack igualmente!

[@paulboncaldo3692]

Very well done, Alistair! Thank you for sharing that. I only used a letter to come out to someone once. I'm sure he got it, but I never did hear from him. Everyone else has found out one-on-one. Both of my parents never knew while they were alive. I always believed my mom would have had a much easier time accepting it. My brother and sisters still love me. Anyway, I admire your courage. You and Zach were definitely made for each other, and you guys are blessed with loving and accepting families. Best wishes always!🌈

[@joe7528]

So glad y'all are ok i was worried about y'all and the hurricane....... I have been waiting to hear your coming out story glad you shared with us love y'all

[@timsable8985]

So true to heart , you make a great role model to kids.

[@shellygoodtimes]

This was really great. I'm so happy you guys chose to share this with us. I love Alistair! You're a very lucky guy, Z. ❤️

[@sinqobiledlamini1634]

I missed you guys so much. We need more videos. Love from South Africa.

[@wernerclaassen4882]

hey! that's so true.......

[@canzukcitizen8005]

Sinqobile Dlamini

[@myanavarro3603]

Sinqobile Dlamini watch Matt and Blue. They have an amazing son named Crow! 😊

[@bradleyandrews6511]

Hey I'm also from SA! They really are great!

[@mikeyjohn9903]

Thank u alastair for your story you come across very well such a humble guy and handsome.

[@southernboycookin5383]

As you said, brother: part of coming out is coming out to yourself. It took me so long to do that. I remember telling myself that when I was 14 years old, one night, alone in bed as I was getting sleepy But the reality of it actually happened when I was in college and I met and fell in love with my first boyfriend. It's a hard thing to do when you come from a place I came from. But when you do come Out, finally (when it's right for you), then all the stress, the fears, the horror, the shame fades away and you can be yourself. Thank you for your story :)

[@mikepontius4949]

Great work and awesome advice Alastair nice job Zach

[@dodger712]

I love you guys. Y'all are a positive inspiration to others.

[@logeluan1]

WOW! What a great video. Congrats to both of you. I'm sure that the message you put out will help so many young viewers.

[@cryinghellokitty]

he seems so friendly and beautiful person

[@kaisoisla]

Awesome video it was so eloquently delivered

[@williamhoffman7009]

Very well spoken and thought out. I hope this gets wide viewing.

[@joedavidii8342]

I love you both!! Thank you for your realism!

[@tomwebber9377]

I saw you wearing your West Point dress coat in an earlier video and didn't put it together. You are both impressive young men. This is another great example of how to conduct yourself with dignity and grace. Thanks guys. I am so pleased you have found each other and know you will be together for the long haul.

[@malnauburn]

Thanks for sharing this with us. Love the final statement about coming out to yourself. Very good advice.

[@spadrine]

Great coming out video, Alstair! I think the letter thing is a great idea and one I've heard others use. But I also thought anticipating any possible questions and writing the answers to them really is an effective way of immediately putting whoever reads it at ease. That was brilliant! I have to say that when you were first introduced on this channel, I looked at you as being Zach's boyfriend. But I think we've all come to love you as so much more and embrace you. I can certainly see why Zach is so in love.

[@putarte7271]

The ending part gets me ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ such a nice couple

[@jamesstevenson3908]

Absolutely fantastic video !!! Need to see more videos from you guys !

[@-myatlanticblue-3636]

Thank you for sharing Alastair...all the best to both of you...and B of course!!

[@bendoone1833]

Thanks for sharing that Alastair, I only wish I had the guts to do that back at that age but I grew up in a small judgmental town so enough said, but thanks again guys for awesome vids you both are amazing guys and I am in awe of your love for each other its heartwarming, take care...

[@zanadu4]

Alastair, thank you for sharing your own personal story. I follow Outsports.com and frequently read stories similar to yours, and I know they have to be so helpful to men and women struggling with being gay, gives them the added support they need.

[@JerryDechant]

your final comments were the best :)

[@hannesmuc5224]

Thank you so much for that video.

[@stevevitale2986]

What an amazing story Alistair. I've said this to Zach many times and I'll say it to you. You are both so fortunate to have each other. Being an older bisexual male I was raised in a different time and felt I couldn't live the life I wanted. I envy you both.

[@SweethomeSABANnation]

Such a great video! People can learn a lot from his experiences. Thanks for sharing :)

[@Sarteth]

Congrats, Alastair. I came out to my mom by letter. Unfortunately, my situation didn't go the same way. It took weeks to get in touch with my mom and her response was an effective disowning. Her most important line was, "The only reason you're not disowned is because I can't come up with a lie big enough to tell the family why you're not allowed around anymore." That was over 20 years ago. Her attitude hasn't changed. She never showed my dad the letter. She was so furious with it, she ripped it up, put it in the trash, AND took the trash bag to the community dumpster. He died without ever knowing.

[@fredhairston4808]

I am very happy for you Alastair. Continue to be who you are and congratulations to you and your husband, you both seem to great people and the love shows in all of you vids

[@ristin59]

Thank you for sharing Alastair! Success in all you do...

[@hardmuscl4life]

Well done. Beautiful expression of who you are and what you believe. Be proud. George.

[@toddregister6621]

Great...things have changed since I was your age...so glad they are different and you can be who you are....I enjoy seeing you and Zach in love....wish you guys the best.

Wow. The advise on the end is giving me hope as I am also having difficulty in coming out to my family as I do have a conservative family. You're right don't pressure myself to come out just because of my surroundings but to come out because you feel it. Thank you Allistair and Zach. Hope you visit the Philippines. I keep watching your videos. Avid fan here. PS i also have a boyfriend.

[@DAVIDGreen-rr5mn]

Thank you for sharing your story Alistair! It is very inspiring to hear and I wish you and Zack all the best in your married life together! Look forward to and really enjoy your videos!

[@TnDon]

A most appreciated story!!!

[@1049berkeley]

Good to hear that your family was accepting. My family was not religious and it took them awhile, but coming out at 18 in 1986 (in rural Colorado) was a bit different than today. It does make me sad that you had to go through the guilt and anguish that religion can inflict (eventhough I was not religious- I still felt it was sinful when I first realized I was gay- 14 or so). You guys remind me of the relationship from the documentary, "Bridegroom"(you could tell how much these two really loved each other)- only your familes are accepting. (If you have not seen "Bridegroom"- I am truly describing your relationship. You two have SOME parallels to them- just not the story itself).

[@alexios2669]

Awesome video!! Love from California. ❤️❤️❤️

[@yousayso]

Dude, you’re cool af! What a great role model. Keep it real man! 👍🏼

[@kinhear12]

Your awesome Alistair!

[@PUAlum]

"i was like a scared deer with a bunch of predictors..." I get that! I'd have been a predator!! What a sweet kid and what a looker!

[@paulandrews298]

Wow! Alastair can talk! I know you can laugh a lot, but it's good to see you more comfortable in front of the camera. Did you do much dating before you met Zach?

[@alastairpatton108]

Paul Andrews I'm glad you enjoyed it. I didn't do much serious dating before Zach. He's just the right guy for me

[@luuul6637]

Alastair Patton Please do a video speaking Spanish 😊 that would be awesome!

[@dontymck]

Thank you for sharing.

[@NoelitoLokito]

Good job man!

[@tonnieallen9084]

Alistair thank you for sharing your story it was truly inspirational and the younger GLBTQ kids really need to hear positivity in the gay community I am transgender and I wish someone would have came and talked to me about being gay in trance but unfortunately no one came to talk to me so now I tried to be here for other transgender youth thank you Alistair and Zack❤😌

[@juliearmymom7807]

When my son, who was almost finished with college called us for a family meeting and it was at a public place (so I would have to control myself) I sort of knew he was going to enlist but honestly hoped he was gay instead. Petrified of my son being a Soldier. Your Mama is the strongest of the strong. My only worry with being gay (he isn't) would be how he was treated and being free to love and enjoy all of the freedoms his Dad and I had. Your Mama has that worry and being the parent of a Soldier. She is amazing. Interview her, please. How she copes as an ARMY Mom, because this Sapper's Mama is petrified.

[@maddratt]

WOW!!!!! That was beautiful!

[@johnr9130]

Gr8 coming out video, Alastair!! ❤❤

[@dalemoss5064]

Y'all are my heros.

[@mysterywho66]

Please post videos more often. I miss u both,

[@adamdaher89]

Seems that your coming out story is more like a tale where you finally found Zach to share your life with, as he is constantly firing his questions away which by the way reminds me of an oldie of Bryan Adams and Barabara Streisand which my folks used to sing to each other

[@migzangelo5643]

I like your being honest i salute you Godbless..

[@santiagodiablos3574]

He's So Adorable!!! 🌹🌹🌹🇺🇸

[@tovenj456]

alastair you look more handsome after this video. you did great.

[@isaiahlee2768]

Amazing video! Love you guys!

[@kc3302]

Absolutely fantastic video :)

[@GerardPare]

Congratulations. Great story. Thank you for sharing

[@jayg4135]

Great job, Alastair!

[@glenwright6777]

Thank you so much for sharing.

[@godsoncoke]

Thanks for telling us your coming out story, Alistair. I really appreciate people putting out some awareness and people on here can relate. I found this amazing channel by the coming out video because I was looking for someone to relate to.

[@nickbaumgartner9666]

Great video! Thank you. Nick and Jamie