Aleksa Received Gender-Affirming SURGERY!! | Boy Boy Personal Update

Alex and Aleksa discuss their weekends, including Aleksa's family getaway where he learned he was born with an ovary which were secretly removed, and the party that Alex threw in the meantime at their house.
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[@DailyDoseofBoyBoy]

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[@loubridges4663]

aleksa’s news: so turns out i’m intersex! alex’s news: im making a sword!

[@notarealdad]

The 3 genders

[@thebreadster1500]

@@notarealdad boy, intersex boy, blacksmith

[@twiptwip8203]

SWORD!

[@ryangagnon5489]

Well, he was

[@xdoctorblindx]

Please, don’t regret it. As someone who is intersex, this is the first time I’ve ever heard someone disclose that information publicly, and I surprised myself by how emotional my reaction was. My parents withheld that information from me indefinitely, presumably out of shame, and put me through countless extraordinarily painful surgeries as a child that I never quite understood. I only found out the truth from a fertility doctor when I was trying to have a child with my wife. We were eventually successful without any intervention, but it was a profoundly traumatic experience for me. I never thought I’d be “that person” commenting on how impactful a KZbin video was for me, but here I am, and thank you.

[@clayday5299]

Why would someone be ashamed of that

[@Redman_real]

Cause its weird​@@clayday5299

[@bummer7736]

@@clayday5299 society

[@dq8431]

@@clayday5299 there isn't always a reason. anything that is outside of the norm/status quo can be looked down upon

[@CometAura]

​@@clayday5299 Societal. Intersex folk aren't seen the same as AFAB or AMAB, which is horrible. Intersex folk, no matter how they fit into that label, are valid and loved no matter what.

[@TallowTheQuoll]

Finding out Aleksa is intersex just blew my mind

[@lalababayaga]

I suspect it blew his mind too!!!

[@prom6750]

society as a whole has a very ignorant understanding of what being intersex is. you cant know peoples gender details by looks.

[@stdesy]

It’s way more common than you’d think

[@ItsWilloww_]

theres more intersex people than gingers

[@godzilla-nk3vg]

​@@ItsWilloww_ not true that stat was a exaggerated one the real number is 0.087

[@yellowfelloh]

pee is stored in the balls: ❌ ovary stored in the balls: ✅

[@BarbieDreamDungeon]

Ovary *is* the balls

[@cortster12]

Big brain is realizing that BOTH are balls.

[@yellowfelloh]

@@cortster12 glad to say i have the indoor balls to agree with that

[@FTZPLTC]

Campaign to rename balls "brovaries".

[@wynoglia]

True and based

[@dojutsumoon488]

As somebody who is also intersex, this story made me so ridiculously happy. Also what the hell is Aleksa's luck with his medical history LMFAO. It's unfortunate that Aleksa's parents withheld this information from him, but I'm glad he knows now

[@darkermatter125.35]

Can I ask for your help with something? Obviously your choice, feel free to say no or ignore, it is not your job to educate people and all that. I have been trying to explain to my mother that "There are only two genders, and that's from your XX and XY chromosomes," bullshit is not the case. She has not responded to the separation of gender expression and sex (even though we have a trans person in the family who was essentially bullied into detransitioning), historical context, since she thinks trans people is this brand new thing vs the gender binary being defined since the paleolithic era, religious context from her precious bible since the Torah includes 8 genders, ect. I am going to try to explain intersex to her. I am good with science, she got an engineering degree but is an antivaxxer and denies climate change and other things. I'm not really sure how to approach it, aside from helping her understand that the percentage of intersex people is about the same as redheads, as there are a bunch in our family, so I think that will help. I know there is a large spectrum. I saved a youtube short of an intersex person who presents as female with XY chromosomes without having any surgery done, who made the video for that kind of purpose as a visual aid. If you feel comfortable, since I imagine you have come out to some people, like a best friend or a partner, how do you explain intersex to a layperson? Again, you can tell me to fuck off or not respond at all. I've just desperately been trying to fix my shitty parents as much as I can. I can't make them accept me for being bi, that will never happen. They think it is vile. But I worry about what they do when they encounter trans people out in the world. I only came out to get them to stop bullying a gay person that they welcomed into their home. Trying my best I guess.

[@dojutsumoon488]

@@darkermatter125.35 I'm very proud of you for trying so hard to try and educate her! It's not at all easy trying to explain the science and percentage behind intersex individuals to others. What I've found over the years is that if somebody doesnt want to believe intersex people are real they wont, no matter how many diagrams exist otherwise. Witb her coming from a strong religious and anti-vaxx belief system scientific diagrams and statistics might not be enough. Even with my friends that are less old fashioned with their thinking still cant wrap their head around what being intersex is when I explain. While its important to try and educate others for the safety of others, there comes a point when it comes clear a person will never see your explanations as valid in the slightest. Best of luck! I wish I had better advice, but I can pull up all the diagrams, examples and statistics i can get my hands on and still am faced with the disbelief your mother also holds. Wishing you can find the way to reach her, but don't be harsh on yourself if you can't, okay? It makes me really happy that you ars trying to advocate on behalf of trans people!

[@lex9468]

@@darkermatter125.35tbh if a person is so disconnected with scientific facts (including vaccines and climate change), they’re just long gone and will continue to deny the fact that there’s people with intersex traits from birth. You could maybe explain to her that we all had ovaries before men developed their sexual organs but someone far gone would just call that communist propaganda

[@yippy7951]

​​@@darkermatter125.35There aren't 8 genders in the Torah, that is from Jewish mystical or philosophical traditions. The Christianity is inherently incompatible with lgbtqia+, Leviticus 18:22 "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination." Btw, I don't understand something about trans people. Do you know why they get surgery to change their appearances when gender is about behavior and not about appearance based on the sex chromosomes?

[@Literally_a_Moth]

@@darkermatter125.35 it seems like they’re complete pos, so no matter what evidence you present they won’t change. When you came out it seems like they stopped openly assaulting queer people; maybe you can talk some sense into them somehow. If not then you might have to consider the safety of the rest of your family over them.

[@jesipohl6717]

These days it is not generally legal to withhold such information from the child if it relates to a DSD or other Intersex condition (if it was a cancerous growth that's different I guess...). Trans activists helped secure this right to self-determination and autonomy with intersex people.

[@enjii]

Right to self determination may be provided to trans people, but it is not yet fully achieved for intersex people - almost every country still permits doctors to choose sex gender at birth via surgical intervention. This is legislated against in less than 10 nations.

[@testacals]

This is not really that different from cutting off the sixth finger. Especially when in most cases the other organ doesn't work or malformed. I don't really see an issue with it.

[@jackdriffill2394]

@@testacalsbecause very often when the doctor decides which gender you are, they get it wrong, and an intersex person will spend their whole lives feelings like they have the wrong body, because they do

[@a_lethe_ion]

The issue is that infants cannot consent and unless leaving the anatomy intact is actively endangering the child, its always better to wait and ask the child what it wants with its own body, because that's what respecting bodily integrity means. Surgeries come with complications and leave scar tissues and the risk of the doc or parents being wrong is too high & comes at a massive cost

[@eternallustformedusa4844]

@@testacalsit’s called bodily autonomy. children don’t have the rights to their own bodies. forcing intersex babies to go through surgery to make them fit into the sex binary is just the inception of the dehumanization they’ll face as a child growing up in the world. cutting off the sixth finger of an infant would ALSO be wrong btw. if i don’t like that my baby was born with a big nose, can i just get them a rhinoplasty? or do you only think performing unnecessary surgical procedures on children is okay when it’s to “fix” something society deems strange (aka a sixth finger or an intersex trait).

[@julesc1989]

I am also intersex and didnt know till adulthood let's goooo aleksa

[@kayagorzan]

Now I’m starting to wonder what strange conditions I might have that I don’t know about

[@sekischro5093]

@@kayagorzan same. i know my parents will withhold these info

[@horny4violence]

@@kayagorzan Just dementia, unfortunately.

[@quinn7427]

​@@kayagorzan found out that I was hypermobile relatively recently. It's more like everything is more loosely connected than just being extra flexible in certain areas

[@MrDukeSilverr]

@@quinn7427does it affect you in a bad way? I’ve been very bendy all my life but have had problems with my spine and lower back as well, I’ve always felt like I’m too long in certain areas (lol)

[@blendacamargo220]

Since the Franz Ferdinand assassination story, I've known Aleksa's family is completely wild

[@Usuxaluc]

Link?

[@danrandall3302]

The What story?

[@namenotimportant8408]

The f*cking what now???

[@Walleyedwosaik]

Don't forget about the person in his family who survived the longest fall ever falling out of an airplane

[@yashbagwe6002]

@@danrandall3302His ancestors were part of the organisation which assassinated Franz Ferdinand and got the death penalty

[@junes2k]

I hope he doesn't regret telling it. It's a good story & might make someone feel like they're not alone.

[@thebreadster1500]

honestly if anyone gives him any shit for his own biological anatomy, they're a garbage human in general, they'd make fun of anyone for anything. Says more about them than anyone else if they're shitting on him for being born intersex.

[@Tony-ke2fs]

Ovarian torsion and testicular torsion is practically the same thing ngl, aka yo balls be rollin.

[@thebreadster1500]

pro tip: never let your balls listen to limp bizkit

[@emmybee5189]

Thank you for this information I will now exclusively refer to all ovaries as "inner balls"

[@thebreadster1500]

@@emmybee5189 yeah they're like a belly button, its either poking inwards or outwards

[@renatopereira2315]

​@@emmybee5189 same as a clitoris is basically a girl penis 😂

[@eternallustformedusa4844]

@@emmybee5189you could do this with lots of primary sex characteristics, considering we all begin female in the womb, the way our anatomy forms comes from the same places.

[@zaksaturday1693]

It's good that Aleksa made the channel after he was 13 or else it'd be under severe scrutiny from Ben Shapiro

[@unoriginalsyn]

Aleksa trying to pick up women "let me tell you how I'm in touch with my feminine side" 😂 still cute as 😜

[@Systematiclol]

I hope he reads that and tries it one day

[@unoriginalsyn]

@@Systematiclol haha me too 🤣

[@ab-mc2nq]

why would he cheat on alex?

[@irissupercoolsy]

Technically his feminine side died 😅

[@NoahStafford625]

It's wild that Aleksa was born in a country that no longer exists, and is intersex. I just hope he knows that we love and support him no matter what organs he may have had removed during his childhood.

[@roundhouse2616]

That's a crazy sentence lmao

[@franciasii2435]

Very sad to take away something from a child, unless it is actively destroying their body.

[@6Eev]

wait what country is that?

[@franciasii2435]

@@6Eev Yugoslavia ;)

[@MrLevente99]

​@@franciasii2435You mean Yugoslavia?

[@VegarotFusion]

I can imagine Aleksa in the 5th grade saying _"Oooh, My ovaries"._

[@Bullfrogerwytsch]

Boy boy is still a totally valid name for a channel, having an intersex condition/being intersex doesn't mean you can't be a cis gender man or woman, it doesn't make your gender identity less valid. If you were curious you could get a genetic kareotype test done to see what sex chromosomes you have, it may or may not have any real baring on your health depending on what chromosomes you actually do have, as some chromosomal intersex conditions come with unique health concerns.

[@OsirusHandle]

lol doesnt it change if ur cis or not or what

[@E_m1ly_6302]

sex isnt gender, so its in the first place not connected.

[@speccogecko7296]

@@OsirusHandlenah Alexa is still cis because he was born a boy/male and still identifies as boy/male. Transgender required a transition or change from the assigned sex at birth to another.

[@a_lethe_ion]

Nope. Aleksa is a man bc he says he is a man and feels like that's the identity that feels right for him. When born, I assume his birth cert says male. Hes a male that had an internal ovary. So its very likely that he is what in animal life would be called a chimaera, so XY/XX chimaerism, so a result of a twin, a girl and a boy zygote fused together in utero. Another possibility would be that aleksa has swyer syndrome (i think that's how it's written) xx chromosomes but the gene for the SrY gene for him might have been expressed a bit late, so the body started to partially feminise and then the gene triggers the gland in your brain to tell the predecessor of the gonads to make testosterone to virilize him.

[@eternallustformedusa4844]

@@OsirusHandlecis = you identify as the sex/gender assigned to you at birth. since he was assigned male/a boy, he’s cisgender. intersex people are rarely diagnosed with an intersex condition when born, and even if they are, their intersex trait is usually removed/minimized, and they are treated as the specific sex/gender chosen by doctors.

[@atherisGAY]

My friend is intersex. She has xy chromosomes and has female genitals it's wild! She didn't find out until adulthood either! I wish it was more common knowledge that absolutely all species have intersex cases including humans. Grateful that he shared his story. ❤

[@macks4498]

I luv ur pfp !

[@PankoBreading]

Oh hey that's the smoker on the window

[@pedro-pascals-armpit]

i had an intersex rat when i was a teenager. little guy went in to get neutered and they didn't find any balls, but some other stuff! pretty fascinating

[@griddycheese]

Intersex creates complications. It’s not a blessing it’s a error in nature. Why are you wishing for more?

[@Willowflynn]

​@@griddycheese they weren't wishing for more intersex people they were wishing that the existence of/how common intersex people are was common knowledge.

[@shikishiki340]

I keep thinking your titles must be clickbait and then... they are lovely

[@MidnightEkaki]

I was sure this was just going to be some clickbait as a joke but was surprised it wasnt lol

[@Nosferdamus]

reminds me how my mom just casually mentioned that I was supposed to have a twin but he died, "so that might explain why you're so fucking depressed all the time, don't worry just smile more! you have a dead twin."

[@lunatheluma3804]

I'm sorry to say, I couldn't stop myself from laughing at this comment What person in their right mind says something like that?

[@Nosferdamus]

@@lunatheluma3804 to be fair she was drunk but yeah

[@lunatheluma3804]

@Nosferdamus I think I find it extra funny because I also have a pre-birth dead twin, and I could imagine my mom blaming my depression on it

[@Koutsie]

same 🤝

[@cherrybomber69]

So I'm a mum who lost one of my twin babies during pregnancy, if you dont mind answering, what age do you think I should start telling my son about his twin? He's 3 now and it still feels too early, hes only just comprehending his environment properly

[@lilli50000]

The full bottle of wine alex is sipping on really adds a je ne sais quois to the conversation

[@pisse_in_shame]

im 99% sure theyve said something about using wine bottles as water bottles before lol still adds the je ne said quoi on my opinion

[@irissupercoolsy]

Haha I was thinking too "What is that bottle shape?? Can't be water 😅"

[@shawncommodore9698]

I loved watching this live. Seeing Aleksa go from "hmm not sure I should be saying this" to "WELL as an intersex person--" later on in the stream

[@canaryblack1013]

Honestly a really interesting story to hear. So many cases of intersex status being withheld are like, completely un-needed surgery just being done to normalise rather than needed care. While this is definitely a necessary surgery. Australia is actually a little ahead of other places with regards to intersex rights with the ACT having banned non-medically needed surgeries on intersex kids. Plenty of intersex variations don't get caught at all because unless something goes wrong there isn't a need to, for instance, ultrasound the testicles looking for an ovary etc.

[@E_m1ly_6302]

And then transphobes come along and argue that children can get surgeries for gender affirming care, when thats not even real. But stay silent when actual children who are intersex get surgeries to "correct" things.

[@icycatz9408]

i love hearing about their odd jobs

[@bisexualmajima]

The fact that they seemingly both managed to get the same jobs repeatedly well into adulthood is kind of hilarious. Mordecai and Rigby type behaviour.

[@icycatz9408]

@@bisexualmajima LITERALLY

[@theswissmiss69]

There are more intersex people in the world than people who naturally have red hair.

[@BarbieDreamDungeon]

That really puts it into perspective

[@eren-_]

Yep 💯 and they won't count them on the Australian census 😥

[@knowEyeDeer]

Noted: if I'm ever at Boy Boy and IDAT's house, use their shit and go live on twitch...

[@knowEyeDeer]

All the really parasocial people read that as: _when_ they're in Boy Boy and IDAT's house 😉 I see you guys too. 😎

[@thebreadster1500]

it's wild that doctors can just cut open your balls like "now let's have a look under the hood" after tenderizing that shit with an ultrasound detector

[@nataliejoestar2584]

Not the intersex rep we wanted, but the intersex rep we deserved. For real though thanks for sharing, it’s super important ❤️

[@BecxyBoo]

I'm not intersex however I was diagnosed as an adult with PCOS. PCOS is a hormone imbalance that affects about one in 10 women. This condition is associated with increased levels of two hormones in the body, insulin and androgens (male-type hormones) - that cause symptoms such as absent or irregular periods, excessive facial and body hair, pimples, weight gain and challenges with fertility. I can't stand people who use the "It's basic biology" argument when biology isn't simple at all. People don't have any say in whether they were born intersex or with conditions which give them the features of the opposite sex, It does not make them the opposite sex or transgender.

[@codename495]

Insulin isn’t a male hormone,

[@BecxyBoo]

@@codename495 Duh, I wasn't saying Insulin was a male hormone. I was saying PCOS means increased levels of 2 hormones one of which is insulin and the other being Androgens which is male hormones... I put it in brackets to explain what Androgens were as sadly when I've tried to explain Androgens to people they don't understand so putting male-type hormones in brackets next to Androgens simplifies it a bit so people can understand.

[@RM-xr8lq]

the people who say its "basic biology" are referring to the fact they learned it in 1st grade, and never made it to advanced biology...

[@MidnightEkaki]

I would like to correct it affects 1 in 10 AFAB people. Not everyone who has it is a woman (like me) 👍

[@CiCodiCadno]

This is certainly a controversial take but: some people in the medical community consider PCOS part of the intersex spectrum because of the increased androgens. Intersex conditions fall into three broad and overlapping categories: physical (eg a boy born with XY chromosomes but with genitals incongruent to his sex), genetic (eg a girl with XXY chromosomes who is born female and goes through typical female puberty anyway), and hormonal (eg a girl with XX chromosomes who goes through early adrenarche - the androgen part of puberty - and has a severely delayed or reduced 'female part of puberty', so goes through typical male puberty only). So some people with PCOS consider themselves intersex, though most don't

[@benjaminrickdonaldson]

Hell yea you guys acquired this channel and now its official.

[@Herzfeld10]

I wish i knew whatever language they speak they seem so interesting 😢

[@riztiz]

I think it's Nigerian

[@PippyPopsSelfHarmMonica]

Watch the video upside down and it becomes clear

[@deadaccount03791]

@@riztiz i thought it was mandarin

[@BigAlexgator]

12:47 I don’t think you have to have functional parts to be intersex. I think just the having of the parts would make you part of it. No hate! Just my opinion. And I’m not a gender studies/any expert of the matter whatsoever. So just a educated guess

[@E_m1ly_6302]

Gender is cis, trans, nonbinary, man, woman etc. It has nothing to do with biology. Sex isnt gender, intersex is sex cis man is gender. There are actual loose definitions for beeing intersex, wether you have functional or nonfunctional reproductive organs is not part of that. As far as i know its all to do with Chromosomes or them beeing read out differently.

[@roundhouse2616]

You're correct, the term intersex encompasses all physical, hormonal, chromosomal etc traits that don't fit neatly into the boxes of male and female.

[@BigAlexgator]

@@roundhouse2616 thank you! I hope Aleksa knows (which I’m sure they do) that they doesn’t _have to_ identify that way. But there’s no “close only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades” for gender or sexuality! 💜

[@tikkng]

​​@@BigAlexgatorhe's all jokes about it, he is and identifies as a man no?. its nothing more than just a fun quirky little story im pretty sure, thats why he kinda didnt care about mentioning it on stream and joking about it the only thing i can see that he cares about is the fact he didnt know about it sooner, since even if it doesn't really/likely have any impact on his life/future its still something he shouldve known about

[@BigAlexgator]

@@tikkng I agree he should’ve been told sooner at least when his father found out. But I was just saying for anyone else who might be intersex so they know that just because some of their parts don’t quite function or whatever, that they still can identify as intersex. Idk. Just felt like it had to be said. But thank you for the information. I appreciate it 💜💜

[@buttersticks7877]

one of my friends was never told that he was intersex. he only recently found out and it was both very upsetting and incredibly liberating for him. his mother told him after his abusive father finally left, and he was finally able to get some gender affirming surgery and start hormone therapy. hearing stories of intersex folks achieving the freedom of knowing is always a wonderful thing to hear :)

[@TheShiningBee]

Wild enough intersex is wayyy more common than people think. It’s about as common as being redhead but its also a spectrum. Majority of people will never know it their entire life. And doctors typically don’t do chromosome testing, its just a guess based on the most obvious features at birth. You may never know until you have some medical complication until a case like alexa, or show no signs at all. Assigned sex, especially in the west ignores the 3+ other sex combinations natural in biology. Its more societal influence than anything

[@testacals]

It's not assigned, It is observed.

[@Nottiy]

It's not. The 2% just as common as redheads figure included conditions no one considers intersex and lots of experts do not agree with

[@MidnightEkaki]

​@@testacalsthats what assigned means. They still need to label a child as a sex on their birth certificate

[@MidnightEkaki]

​@@Nottiyif 'no one' considers them intersex conditions why were they included. Sounds like you personally just dont consider them intersex conditions. Regardless if the intersex community includes them then thats all that matters

[@testacals]

@@MidnightEkaki Assign has the implication the sex that has been chosen has no real world implication, Even though it is in fact the opposite.

[@LilianaVárelaRodríguez-t1k]

How does it feel like having the pain of a man and a woman all at once?

[@MinecraftManager]

Sperm cramps and buying useless things 😔

[@jhd303]

​@@MinecraftManager please this is the best comment I've ever read

[@Obssessed_Autistic]

Watching two very masculine straight and manly in appearance talking about gender affirming care, gender binary and how interesting gender is especially in our society is actually cool af and I really appreciate seeing this

[@forksarefree]

I'm intersex and had surgery at an age where I was old enough to have my parents tell me to consent to surgical intervention. It wasn't really consent, as I was not able to understand what I agreed to, but I digress. Its wild what they pushed me to do, yet refuse to accept that Im transgender.

[@gamingwithhui4707]

hearing that Aleksa was born intersex is really cool and made me smile. as a trans person it makes me so happy to hear stories like this and i hope it can help make other intersex people feel more comfortable with themselves and help them see that theyre not alone❤

[@BarbieDreamDungeon]

🫶🏳️‍⚧️

[@Algrenion]

i thought the video title was sarcastic somehow but no, Aleksa is actually intersex that's wild, dude. and kind of wicked cool.

[@MeGustaWHAT]

On the genetic level sex is even more complicated than we make it out to be! It's fascinating and wild - we still usually pop out with innies/outies in a standard format but we're more like mushrooms with our genetic expression of sex.

[@MeGustaWHAT]

*loosely* like mushrooms haha

[@jesipohl6717]

Aleksa could identify as a cis and ipsogender guy. fun fact, DSD and intersex persons are also trans about as often as the general population.

[@thebreadster1500]

put on the dress, Aleksa. We demand it.

[@Fridge_Fiend]

@@thebreadster1500 Cis straight men can wear dresses just fine anyway? In fact I'd be more surprised if there isn't footage out there of him already wearing one, Hasan at least commited Socalism is when men wear dresses >:(

[@thebreadster1500]

@@Fridge_Fiend men in dresses could look even better than women in dresses if they fucking bothered to shave their legs :(

[@MidnightEkaki]

​@@thebreadster1500thats a weird comment to make in regard to someone being intersex

[@thebreadster1500]

@@MidnightEkaki Its not strictly because hes intersex. Its a joke because the commenter said "Intersex people are just as likely to be trans" lol Im not here to like, fetishize intersexuality dw

[@star0nyx]

Lmao I love Aleksa immediately telling the stream not even 24 hours after this discovery. So funny. We appreciate your honesty! But yea maybe take more time to reveal personal news if you need to hahaha

[@prom6750]

its so messed up how often intersex people get information withheld from them or surgery done even non consensually. i hope one day we can beat the stigma around it. and yes most intersex people its a case of things forming improperly/partially.

[@aaron_451]

aleksa really needs to request his complete medical records imagine what else there is to find 😭

[@ALaughNahalf]

Yeah, to be honest, I had this exact surgery that he first described (before the ovary thing) when I was 10... I can't help but wonder if this language barrier of his parents doesn't help the situation very much. I think he should really get proper confirmation from his surgery records before believing what his dad says. My mum doesn't even remember half of my medical history properly and she was a nurse.

[@Notdumderg]

Love you two idols. Stay fabulous

[@caslikes]

intersexuality is wayyy more common than people think!

[@Bareq_99]

There are more intersex people than trans people But no one cares They just want trans people gone

[@TuxieBSOD]

It's *incredibly* common to not find out you are intersex unless you are in a fertility clinic, and parents and doctors can just go 'sorry for not telling you i guess'.

[@avip477]

As a trans man who’s been to the emergency room for twisted ovaries, brother I know your pain. I was one of the extremely lucky ones who’s bits untwisted on their own, but dear lord that pain is unlike anything in this world

[@tanukifox8041]

thats a thing?? 😨😨😨😨

[@avip477]

@@tanukifox8041 New anxiety unlocked 🥰

[@avip477]

@@tanukifox8041 new anxiety unlocked 🥰

[@cozygoblin]

Fellow intersex person who found out late in life 💗 thanks for talking about this!

[@msidrusbA]

intersex doesn't make you any less of who you choose to be, life's a rollercoaster and we choose to ride it afterall

[@totticosta2977]

I thought this was clickbait, Holy shit this was a brutal description, take care of your testies boys

[@ramorseless]

I immediately stood up out of my chair to readjust the alignment of my testicles after being reminded of testicular torsion.

[@unoriginalsyn]

I don't even have testicles but so did I 😬 sounds horrific

[@oot2380]

Good to know I’ve been in the same hospital that aleksa had his balls cut open in

[@davemonster2]

Ooooh this is why Aleksa is so cute :3 uWu

[@GoldenShrike]

When i was a kid my mom always told me that i was gonna be aborted but my sis wanted a sibling really bad and wqs crying about it 🫠 it’s not nice to hear that when youre a child

[@Vastilious]

Hopefully your childhood was good

[@GoldenShrike]

@@Vastilious it wasnt, sadly, but i got a reason to become a social worker xD im doing ok now but it’s still a process to get through all the trauma even as an adult

[@Man-Handle]

​​@@GoldenShrikei hope you're a good social worker because as i kid i got a bunch of false reports which at the end all came down to the house was a little bit to dirty. one time i got reported because i had long hair funny thing is whatever they attributed it to i had my hair cut. another social worker called the police on us because we weren't there to answer the door. again they found nothing. my view on any social worker is that they dont solve any actual problems even if unjustified.

[@GoldenShrike]

@@Man-Handle i’m from sweden and we have a shitton of regulation and laws to follow so it’s very unlikely that they would do false reporting and call police. There’s actually more laws and routines that favour parents / childrens right to their original family than not which actually has been causing some issues with not always being able to reach out to them in time. Either way it’s awful you had to experience that and I hope that social work gets better globally. There’s unfortunately alqays going to bee good and bad social workers like good or bad doctors or any other field. I’m very aware of these things and would rather criticise openly than follow blindly. I know a lot of social workers since my dad is one (my mom was the one who was abusive) and i hear a lot about how well clients are doing because they actually care about their wellbeing and adapt how they work to the need of each person (specifically this is in the field of adult addiction and homelessness). My dads clients have made huge progress in their journey and gone from severe addiction and homelessness to having their own apartment contracts and such. They also often tell him how they appreciate it and that he’s the only one they trust. It’s incredibly inspiring and it’s the sort of social work i want to do. Other than clients he works hard to change his workplace and to support coworkers. He is an anticapitalist leftist and has many years of experience with organising his workplaces against bullying, unfair conditions and protecting clients. When you put effort into understanding social theory and politics it will be easier to know what to fight for and unfortunately not everyone is aware of those things.

[@Man-Handle]

@@GoldenShrike thats cool they have that over there and i appreciate it.

[@maker0824]

That’s not gender affirming surgery, it’s gender conforming surgery. But was (hopefully) medically necessary surgery.

[@OsirusHandle]

what is the difference

[@atherisGAY]

What. Getting surgery to reflect your gender accurately tomato tomato

[@croissantpower]

It was pretty clearly medically necessary from the story being told

[@roundhouse2616]

@@atherisGAY He didn't get the surgery to reflect his gender, it was to stop pain

[@griddycheese]

If he kept both his body would tear itself apart mixing all types of shit.

[@PlatinumDestroyer]

what a badass dropping this insane info, such confidence

[@alicehamming4707]

I'm also intersex! How incredible to hear you guys talk about this it makes me so happy!

[@therongjr]

The best part of this story is how you're so cool with it all. I'll bet that will go a long way in destigmatization. ❤

[@cisrot]

Thank you for calling it “gender affirming surgery” because that’s what it is. I’m a trans man who had top surgery in April and that was also gender affirming surgery. It’s important that people know that it’s not exclusively for trans folk and when you hear people bashing gender affirming surgeries they’re completely clueless

[@anarchycoww9019]

I’m glad you were finally given access to this self knowledge Alexa, although you shouldn’t have been kept from knowing for so long. I hope you feel some peace in getting to know yourself more wholly.

[@Thingwithlegs]

We need a video of only Aleksa’s crazy stories

[@Elriuhilu]

I've had testicular torsion, it's bad. It feels like getting hit in the balls but the impact doesn't end. For those of you without testicles, it's nerve pain like when you hit your funny bone, except stronger, not ending and with a psychological component that interferes with your thoughts and feels like you are dying.

[@alexplantum177]

13:55 So we actually don’t really have much idea on how diverse the sex “binary” (spectrum) is since it’s all been taboo completely until now, essentially. Even today it’s still myth and legend until the unenlightened stumble across someone’s story or be a close confidant of someone who happens to be intersex. Doctors still make subjective calls based on external genitalia in most/all births. There isn’t really another option. Slowly, third options are being introduced, the transgender movement has been pivotal in securing rights for other identities or people with intersex conditions. Since chromosomal tests are expensive, they’re only done if deemed necessary, which isn’t often, so there’s no telling how many people are truly intersex in regards to chromosomes. Its disgusting how doctors have gone decades, centuries operating on infants/children without there being a medical need, coercing any concerned parents and the child typically would only find out years later, sometimes due to complications. Butchering underdeveloped bodies for aesthetics and gender norms without informing the parents (in regards to pros/cons, risks, severity, and consequences) or child, even withholding the record of what procedure and why from medical records. It’s been made illegal now in some places, but it’s still a huge problem and genuine human rights violation (in my opinion). I don’t blame terrified parents making pressured decisions in crisis then being ashamed or not wanting to burden the child, but they deserve to know asap. I do blame doctors who would let their own bias and whatnot sway them, but more so the societies and cultures that instilled the idea that cutting up functional parts of children without informed consent or real reason is “for the best”

[@kathypacific]

Let's gooooooooo intersex Aleksa! One of us one of us!

[@cītrūnrēcōrds]

it feels so good seeing other intersex people!!! im intersex and often feel alienated. thank u for sharing ur experience!!!!

[@evanthiakrassa9197]

i love aleksa

[@MaeveMoore]

how u do this

[@MotoCat91]

btw if you were not fully informed of what was happening then it wasn't "gender affirming care".. I know it's a minor nitpick but it's a topic that receives so much hostility these days and especially with some of the more extreme groups trying to claim it's "forced" on children, I'd hate for this to be misconstrued or used to fuel that

[@goldleavens2577]

didn't know they had a second Channel

[@TeoBranzell]

It's pretty new

[@ProfessorPotatoes]

It started as a fan channel and then got officially partnered recently

[@ssanaaaa2]

@@ProfessorPotatoes where did they mention acquiring the channel?

[@ProfessorPotatoes]

@@ssanaaaa2The channel description changed from fan channel to official boyboy channel around when the intro changed and the info pop ups appeared. Not sure if they ever made an official announcement.

[@IRNoahBody]

need more intersex people to be telling their stories, non sensationalized

[@Howtoeatrocks]

I know a lot of people who are intersex who had surgery often at birth to “correct” it without even the parents knowledge and they find out as adults. For me I had the inverse and had a mini tests lodged in my abdomen with nowhere to go. Having it removed finally soon.

[@Howtoeatrocks]

One of my mates had his dick removed and was raised a girl until he hit puberty and was like something is horrifically wrong. Came out as trans and his parents were like “oh yeah makes sense, we removed your penis at birth”

[@roundhouse2616]

@@Howtoeatrocks Bro I can't even imagine how devastating that would be... it's shit enough to have gender dysphoria when you're not intersex but to find out you wouldn't even be in that situation if your parents had just DONE NOTHING??

[@ArthurGrey.]

Aleksa, you should be able to request your medical records from your doctors, if you want to. If it's a surgical scar on your abdomen, you should be able to figure out what exactly happened. I had to do that earlier this year and discovered a LOT of things both family and previous doctors never told me about.

[@sabinajoh]

Intersex characteristics are just as common as red heads That sex is seen completely binary is wild. It’s a category we put people in based on how many charcteristics fit into each category, but to say you are either 100% one or the other is just false. Like everything, sex is also a ✨spectrum ✨

[@eternallustformedusa4844]

exactly. like, if you have high testosterone, does that suddenly make you male+? cause if we wanted to, we could say that you’re more male the higher your testosterone is. but instead we keep it in binary groupings. people can’t seem to comprehend that sometimes, humans put things into boxes because then it is easier to understand. but that doesn’t mean that everybody fits in, or is content inside that box. as humans progress, we can learn more, and we don’t have to make things so black and white.

[@Grouch3682]

More common even! Intersex variations are so vast

[@cortster12]

Sexual characteristics are a spectrum because biology is messy and animals don't develop perfectly all the time. Sex itself is still binary for the majority of animals. The core is this: one sex produces eggs, the other sperm. Everything else is a combination of that. The sexual characteristics, however, can be widely different depending on developmental factors, but there can still only be one or the other. No human has ever produced functional egg AND sperm cells, for example. On the flipside, non-human animals can absolutely have a wider spectrum. It can get wild. It's still almost always one sex producing eggs and the other soerm, but some animals are true herms, some can change sex, others even flip the roles of which sex carries the young to term, etc. It's very messy once you get into other animals. But with humans, it's usually pretty clear in terms of which gametes are being produced. Physical characteristics, again, can vary wildly though. Hence intersex people.

[@Greendawn-di3dl]

This is insane to me. I cannot believe you guys aren't joking. I could potentially have an ovary? Like I feel like that could be real bad. Yknow I uh; had testicular cancer and lost one of my fellas, maybe related? They didn't really try to see if it was something else; other than it was cancerous. But that is insane to me. I get very protective over my fellas now.

[@Freaky0Nina]

As long as that hypothetical ovary is just chillin' it's not bad.

[@Greendawn-di3dl]

@@Freaky0Nina oh no I don't mean it like that. I wouldn't have cared either way other than possible complications.

[@mehoreo3156]

The way he said 2013 and 13 years old i thought Aleksa was born in 2000...

[@CasualCactusGaming]

Kinda expected the title to be clickbait, that is insane to find out as an adult

[@sovboph1050]

So much love for aleksa! ❤❤❤

[@love_life_leafeon5955]

Omg I've been on a boy boy binge and a self discovery thing related to intersex stuff

[@FTZPLTC]

Men's uteruses are called duderuses, so I assume men's ovaries are called brovaries?

[@cee_ves]

turns out they were lgbtq+ just not in the way we expected

[@SamanthaCZimmerman]

my partner got testicular torsion during middle school wrestling and went his whole life since then with the certain knowledge that he has one ball. well, he got a vasectomy a couple of years ago and the doctor found the other testicle in there, tiny and shriveled but still seemingly alive lol

[@XMissGX]

The human body is a strange thing.

[@hugoalvord2779]

glad to hear this about someone who really seems like a perfectly normal man

[@GamerTheCake]

Do.. other intersex people not seem perfectly normal?

[@hugoalvord2779]

@@GamerTheCake never met any so far as i know, but they probably are just as notmal as anyone else in portland. doesnt mean much around here

[@Sara-xk1ns]

I took allergy meds once and had a few drinks while on a double date. My friend and I were at this guys house that I knew and he was making us homemade pasta with Alfredo sauce and broccoli, my favorite dish. Before he was even done I was so nauseous and out of it I was in the bathroom and my friend had to come check on me. I’d never had that reaction to anything before and I partied my fair share. That was over 20 years ago now and I can still remember how odd I felt. It’s never happened since thankfully

[@ploopydiper]

Just last night I went to my friend’s party right after taking allergy meds. Thank god I didn’t get nauseous 😭

[@mydrillasanjay5397]

Don't mix drugs brahs

[@catfeatherss]

I had no idea that there were so many intersex people out there! I thought it was super super rare. I want to know how everyone found out that they were intersex. I know for some it is obvious externally from birth, but so many finding out as adults is fascinating!

[@LiviaReaper]

having experienced the pain of testicular torison, listening to the first half of this video is literally inducing some sort of physical ptsd, my body is physically reaction to this information, I feel nauseous, in pain, I wanna puke, I literally feel like dying and nothing is really wrong with me, that’s just how strong of an influence that experience had on me, I am starting to sweat like crazy now and will probably go to have a panic attack now, fuck.

[@outbakjak]

I love you boy boys

[@rajwinderkaur8649]

Your announcement thumbnail makes sense now lmao 🤣❤️🫄🏻

[@nazaninm1315]

Can't you access your medical records? Doesn't Australia do that? In Denmark you can access it online and for details inquire about it.

[@sekischro5093]

woah i wonder if they have that here in malaysia

[@ClongoIsDead]

we have an entire online medical record but alot of health workers dont even put things on it + old stuff isnt really being updated to it

[@liamwatts8597]

SO much respect to you for sharing this!

[@pinemartin6604]

Hope Alex decides to learn about intersex issues. There's plenty of families that inform young children about it. It's not outrageous to tell a 4 year old depending on the child and how the info is shared.

[@669b]

i feel like we as a society don't talk about intersex people enough. its more common than we think. it's generally believed women with PCOS are technically intersex as well.

[@sejhammer]

I have this manga called I.S. from my teens, I was obsessed with it. I’m a nonbinary trans person so my interest came from there. Uterine cramps do suck and I loved getting my uterus + ovaries + cervix removed!! FU cramps and cancer risk!! I’m so sorry you had torsion though, that sucks! This info gets withheld from the patients a lot, and intersex children often don’t have a choice as to which way the care goes. Bodily autonomy is very important to my parenting philosophy with my son.

[@ClayDress]

Finally, one of them gets confirmed as LGBTQIA+ community. One step closer to 👨‍❤️‍👨

[@QuestionsIAskMyself]

SO REALLLL

[@OsirusHandle]

gross dont ship irl people

[@deadalpeca8099]

​@@OsirusHandle They meme about it themselves lol

[@ClayDress]

@@OsirusHandle x @deadalpeca8099 is literally relationship goals. They are soo cute together 💏

[@BarbieDreamDungeon]

​@@OsirusHandleIt's ok they're joking

[@user-jj7te5gl9g]

The giant surgery scar is them removing the second ovary clearly

[@sheridansometimes]

Big respect and big appreciate.

[@sam-gulch]

I am immediately suspicious of people offering me free shit on the street because I've ran into so many people "scheming" with it. One lady in my town hands out a pamphlet about religion and then follows and bothers you for 20 dollars for the pamphlet after saying it was free.

[@lucalycan]

This just makes me like you guys more. Thanks for sharing Aleksa ❤

[@ChaoticAnswers]

My brother got a twisted testicle as an adult and he got an uber at 2 am to the hospital. It's no joke.

[@phe.mp3]

You don’t often hear people talk about being intersex! I’m so grateful for it, though. A pretty substantial number of people are intersex, and they’re often left out of the conversation of sex & gender entirely. Shit is so much more confusing than we try to simplify it to be.

[@msnicotiana]

Wishing Aleksa all the gender euphoria and comfort in the world 💕

[@skateruwu]

bro the fuckin thumbnail lmaooo