Am I Overreacting About My Husband Not Following the Dress Code for My Company Holiday Party?

[@BellaQuiz]

rest of this post: Additional Context I work at a CPA firm where the office dress code is business casual. Most people wear jeans, and the environment is generally laid-back, not formal or strict. I’ve been a senior accountant here for five years, and no one at the company has met my husband before. The party is being held at a museum, and we’ll also be having dinner there.

[@mm4894]

Your husband is not supportive of you. Going to company functions is expected. Women have traditionally been expected to go to to these things to support their husbands. It is equally important for men to do the same. He is refusing to dress appropriately because he wants you to get frustrated and tell him he doesn't have to go. He needs to grow up and support you the way he'd expect you to support him if the situation were reverse.

[@janemathaba7706]

​@@mm4894, Well said.

[@nromk]

Op's husband isn't being asked to wear a newly minted suit, just some jeans and a blazer, hello high school outfits! But like what's the possibility that he'd wear a tight fitting suit for the bros? That's a question OP should ask herself.

[@calvinb2965]

Why is a company with a casual dress code having a formal dress code for a holiday party? I would bet lots of people are going to opt out of going to the event because it does not align with the work culture. The husband should not have to be uncomfortable physically and socially just because OP's managers want a fancy event. He already said he does not have to go if he can not be himself. OP is being a jerk by trying to force it

[@daniellemitchell3118]

​@calvinb2965 This must be the OPs husband. You act like it's unusual to dress up for rhe holiday. The dress code could have been given by the venue. Smh

[@Lou-ri3nb]

I don’t dress up either but if I got invited to something with a dress code I’ll compromise, the husband sounds like a idiot

[@samanthapettibone3955]

Ur husband is being a jerk. There is a dress code. Is he going to blqme u when he shows up underdressed and feels wmbarrased about it?

[@marymccombs8289]

He doesn't want to go, and thinks he's figured a way out, by getting her to tell him he can stay home, or acting offended and insulted and refusing to go. He's being a jerk.

[@firstvlasssuite]

They just wont let him in. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Alloid-j1j]

Having a more formal dress code indicates that this party is important to the company. Tell little gamer boy that this is an adults only event and he can't come.

[@Yue_Jin]

He literally dressed up semi-formally and she was still complaining lmao.

[@Ownedby]

Exactly. Anyway, she married him knowing how he liked to dress. Imagine if it was HIM telling HER thst her outfit wasnt good enough. To be honest, black chinos and dressy shirt sounds sexy....🥰I love when my husband stands out, and he dresses similar to OP's hubby.@@Yue_Jin

[@marythompson230]

Don't take him to the party. I'm speaking with experience, cause I when through the same thing with my husband. Your husband really doesn't want to go to the party that's why he refuses to comply with the dress code. Also, if you did get him to go to the party there is a chance that he'll do something to embarrass you in a way that you would never ask him again. There are some people who are not comfortable going to parties like that and it would seem your husband is one of them. You are in a senior position and to have your hubby act out in front of the people you supervise could hurt your reputation and the respect of the people in your office. Before you tell yourself that he wouldn't do that to you, remember he already is by not complying with the dress code. You want to introduce him then do it at a company Bar-B-Q or something else that's casual. In the meantime, guilt trip him like crazy for making you go alone because he did care enough about your feeling to dress up for one special night for you. 🤓

[@Ell611]

It's one time! He can't compromise for one evening? His appearance reflects on his wife and her career. He's the AH.

[@MaeValentine]

He's being a drama queen

[@ile9223]

No let the jerk stay alone home! He has no social understanding so don't bring him! Ore skip the party totally! It's up to you to explain that your husband is suffering from the jerk syndromes so he cannot come and he is also suffering from cannot be left alone, because he is suffering from rashes after trying out a semiformal outfit and you need to take him to the doctor for his rabies shot the same evening so you have to follow him to make sure he gets it done because he will skip if he can and you prefer not to forced to use a gun at him next time he doesn't behave like others and are wondering if he got his shot ore not! Yes I know not funny! But SIRIOUSLY he lacks too much respect for others and you too! 😢 he is just sad, I hope you have some use for him since a social location is totally not possible!

[@CTranton]

Or.,... Ore is a mineral that comes from mining like iron ore

[@bforman1300]

It's not about the not fitting in. It's about the lack of respect he has for you that he isn't willing to dress up just a little, just once, just for an hour.

[@sadihamm9604]

Sorry he's the a**hole. I don't like to dress up but will if needed.

[@calvinb2965]

He said that he did not have to go if OP had an issue with him not meeting the dress code. Why should he have to be uncomfortable physically as well as socially just because management is out of touch. If the company is a casual dress environment then the bosses are being jerks having a formal affair for the holidays.

[@ihatepeopleyes9492]

You wont wear a suit for your wife cuz you will feel uncomfortable? 😂😂😂. Grow tf up.

[@CTranton]

She's not asking him to wear a tux with top hat and tails... She's asking him to wear TROUSERS and a POLO with a blazer.... His comfort can be put aside for ONE NIGHT

[@vm7151]

No. You are asking him to dress up for 1 night. Its not asking much