AM I SEXUALLY CONFUSED?

[@bam111965]

Really well done! You artfully walked the line between clickbait and vulnerable honesty. I particularly liked the non-dramatic way you were able to discuss a deeply personal issue with such grace while maintaining just a smidge of salacious nuance. Seriously, very impressive.

[@ryanferrey8484]

salacious....now what are wheat staying

[@andrewb.5996]

I agree.

[@undisputed1291]

🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

[@wallacesheckells7095]

Thanks for the share. I am a straight male but I believe we do meet people that we connect with on many levels and like being around them. I experienced it as a teenager. I just enjoyed being around him because we liked the same things. I applaud you for sharing this video and putting yourself out there. Have a great day and keep chasing the "D".

[@xman870096]

I really can't take a stand one way or another; if I am to say anything at all it would be; 'do what ever makes you happy, don't hurt anyone and certainly don't let anyone hurt you'. Aside from that I have nothing else to say.....

[@joemoya9743]

Confusion is the first stage to finding a direction. And, there is no one single direction in life. So, it is best to just move forward.

[@beingsarahw]

It’s not a big deal.. took me nearly 40 years to be aware that I am attracted to people, not genders.... and if I fancy someone that’s it ... I fancy them! :-)

[@dereklee2590]

Its quite simple Sarah,either your straight or not

[@dereklee2590]

Gosh u make it so difficult by explaining why your not xyz but still xyz

[@joejohnson1506]

Hmmm... no.

[@dereklee2590]

Joe Johnson Not talking to u

[@dereklee2590]

Joe Johnson Hmmm....shutup

[@joyceslp]

I can relate to what you said Emily! I'm a girl and I had the same ambiguous feelings to other girls before. I think there's nothing wrong with that. Just be around with whoever you like to be with. Simple as that.. People tend to be constrained by labels or conventional ideas of what a person is supposed to do. It's time to move on. xx

[@emielettric]

"you don't to be labeled" That's the key of everything, Emily! I love you!!!

[@FHB71]

I recently read an article saying that nobody is 100% straight or 100% gay, but that it is more like a spektrum and that makes a lot of sense to me. I think that this in the end simply says that the boundaries are different for different people and that it is totally normal for people to be only into the other sex, people being into the same sex, and everything in between.

[@annie49]

This is brave. Really nice to hear this. Thank you. I can really relate. I used to fancy certain women on movies, growing up, and some in real life, and was always confused, and never got the opportunity to find my boundaries. I feel more comfortable just saying I'm me too, now. Whatever happens, happens.

[@ryanferrey8484]

Remind me I'm starting a company, I walked in as the smartest one. Don't change my mind.

[@acchaladka]

I think this is great, to answer your question. I struggled with this question for a long time in university especially - from a young age I was attracted to both genders. At some point I realized that no label was necessary - and this was in the late ‘80s -90s in NY when sexual politics was considered an ‘important thing’ , so it was a mind-bending realisation. Now years later in my mid-40s I can date or fantasize about whomever without stress, and more important, my straight relationships especially have been more upfront and honest than otherwise. That’s not a sexuality issue, it’s a “must be honest out of respect for them and for me” issue. All to say, go get ‘em, Em. And drop me a message if you’re ever coming to Montréal.

[@TheGreatLKHS]

05:40 = "We did stuff. Not that stuff, but stuff." = That was one of the vaguest and bizarre statements that I've ever heard about the subject. LOL

[@Pbmarron]

Thanks for sharing, Emily. Wherever your path leads as you explore your identity, your happiness & comfort comes first.

[@aisyahgunung]

I can feel you’re kind of nervous to brought up this topic to us, and yet you‘re very honest and still have that “Emily wit” through and through! I love this. Well done, Emily!

[@smokedoliver1]

The old saying about doubling your chances on a Friday night, comes to mind. You crack me up Emily. I love your zest for life and sense of humor, but once again, you are very hard on yourself. Follow and be true to your heart!

[@shotokanads3325]

Love the honesty. Don't think about labels just be yourself and enjoy life and the people in it.

[@albyg00]

"We did stuff, not that stuff, butt stuff" Emily 2K18 LOL Stupid jokes aside love your genuinity and I love the message: we don't need to label everything!

[@maryhelen1011]

Great video Emily! I think most woman, if they're honest with themselves, have had the girl crush on some level! It's nice to know it happens to other women too! Lots of love to you!

[@jimp8069]

Sounds like an infatuation or Crush. Bicurious maybe, but no matter, you're a beautiful girl no matter who you end up with. Thank you for sharing

[@RCrystal34]

This is my favorite video you have ever made. I would love it if you would just make more real life talking videos like this. You have great insight. We don't need labels and just being free to be who you are is all that matters. Thank you Emily!

[@JackHRichardson]

Really good to see this video Em, sexuality is so much more fluid and complex than society brings us up to believe, and it can take a long time to realise. The more we talk about it, the more normal it becomes.

[@marksmith5240]

Thank you for your honesty. Your channel has always be entertaining and thought provoking. Your bravery in putting this out to a forum is to be applauded and all I will say on the topic is 'Sexuality is fluid'. Don't worry. We should find someone who makes us happy. Much love. x

[@mookie8400]

A woman finding another woman attractive in whatever way seems like the most natural thing to me.

[@adehill8542]

A very frank and open video. To be that deep and want to share with everyone is very commendable. Massive respect Emily tc x

[@claypigeon001]

It comes down to one thing really. " the heart wants what it wants " find happiness where you can and with who you can 👍❤️️. Awesome videos Emily

[@kevinwestrom4775]

Sometimes it takes a bit of time for one to figure themself out. Nothing wrong with doing a bit of exploring to work out who you are.

[@MelisJoy]

Thank you SOO much for doing this. So brave of you, even with how outspoken you are this took some cajones to go into detail like that. I can completely relate & have felt the same, but unfortunately never got to test my boundaries. I'm with a man I love, have always leaned more towards men, but certain women have a certain magnetism. I admit I totally have a girl crush on you, and not bc I want to be you, but bc of just who you are. It's great you're keeping your mind open & I have no doubt you'll find someone worthy of your fabulousness

[@koudacyen]

That's the best explanation I've herd, I hope it helps others that are conflicted or otherwise confused, Great video.

[@anne3fierce]

I adore you for your courage and honesty to talk about this topic and glad you did.. no matter who you fall in love it as long as you are happy and contented, I’m happy for you. Love should not be hard and conditional ❌❤️❌❤️

[@JohnVDenley]

Yeah, I don't have a type either! Other than a vague idea that tall and slim is definitely more attractive to me (esp being 6'7" myself!)

[@BiqNiqq]

This was a really good video. It’s cool to here your inner monolog But also laughed out loud about being single for so long your open to anything Lololol

[@dalelamont1361]

Your right Emily, it's just you, part of who you are, embrace it, enjoy it and just let yourself be.

[@holyhandgrenade2349]

I wish everyone is as honest to themselves as you and as brave as you !! God bless Emily

[@sbalke7270]

Great video, Emily. Just when I thought I couldn't love you more, you do this! Just be you and go for what you are attracted to, no matter if it's a man, woman, alien, etc. F**K labels!

[@rmorenberg]

at least you had the courage to explore for yourself.if nothing else be proud of yourself.

[@H19Enduro]

Just be yourself try not to overthink things just do what makes you happy nothing else really matters

[@nunyadambinnes8723]

Props to you for having the stones to get on the Interwebz and talk about this stuff... I can see how some (most) people would be too timid to do so, but if I had to guess, there are a lot more people out there in the same boat as you are, and perhaps you relating these stories will help them feel similarly comfortable with who they are.

[@c2jones]

Emily, you say you put more "out there on Instagram than KZbin." This is clearly the most "forthcoming" I've ever witnessed you. You do you so very well. ✨💯

[@j.j.j4859]

No, you're not confused, my dear. You have a very strong capacity to relate to others in contrasting ways and that is very sweet.

[@178som]

blue is the warmest color

[@amberlaroque]

I used to think exactly how you used to think, until I found myself fancying a girl. It took me a long time to figure it out. I've done things with girls, and found I much more prefer men, but the attraction to women are still there. So i know exactly what you went through. I remember trying to come out to my family, it was so hard. Now I'm just like yeah whatever I like both, so what.

[@tomk7272]

“I am just me” that is the best statement I’ve heard in decades. I think it says a lot for acceptance and understanding. I want the T-shirt 👍

[@AmyCAx]

So I've watched your channel for about 4 years now and I've never commented. And now I feel bad for saying this because Ive enjoy your content, you being real with us, and it's given me some good laughs and insight. So here's what I want to say about this video. I think these incidences with women are going to continue unless you say no to them( and it looks like your just letting it play out).Ever since I've watched your videos and even today I think you are Gorgeous. And just to be clear....I don't want to be you, I want to be on top of you sorta thing. So I believe that other lesbian or bi women see your beauty all the time and they will flirt with you. I think it's great that you have an open mind as to who you are in a relationship with because if it be a man or women who care. As long as you are comfortable and have a connection with them see where it can go 🙂

[@ryanferrey8484]

all five hundred videos? your not the devoted one chick. Stop luring her to the dark side. And war zone is the tone.

[@JohnVDenley]

I'm overly honest & open too! :D love it...

[@duaneedmunds1326]

Cheers Emily, ya gotta go where your heart takes you.

[@randymarsengill6035]

If you feel lonely anyone will turn you on. Remember it's just feelings. Feelings change.

[@nigew]

Both my daughters have been 'not sure'. One met a fella and its fine, the other is still single and not sure. When you meet the right person, it will be right, or not. And that's your choice. For some reason I always refer to Jon Snow's political 'swingometer' to describe where people are on the spectrum of what is available. Anyone can be anywhere on that 'swingometer'. And you can change if you like. It's up to you. Your life, your choice and only you can make you happy. I wish you happy 'travels'?!?!

[@Trusteft]

It's your life. (talking in general, not just you Emily). You have only one. Be free, be happy cause this is the only chance you have. As long as you don't actively hurt someone, it's slavery to not speak your mind and not act to protect yourself and your happiness. Thank you for this cool video.

[@atom999]

Respect for sharing this. I would not have the courage.

[@ryanferrey8484]

Trying to get into emilys head. Why does she likes this comment and not that comment?....detective work)

[@JohnSmith-ix5gx]

+ryan ferrey lol

[@SolofAvaldor]

Reality is, and always will be, more complex and nuanced than our efforts to organize it. Good video.

[@alicecrighton8918]

I'm 16 and this is exactly how I'm feeling! Never really considered that I liked girls until about a year and a half ago when suddenly it struck me. I think all in all I'm just attracted to people

[@jimwisconsin4453]

Like who you like. Its seems simple...right?

[@lesfuller5984]

Great video Emily! Fantastically honest of you to discuss this with all of us. We love you whichever path you take. ❤️

[@BarefootBeekeeper]

If both parties are fine with it, no problem. I've never had a man crush, but somehow I can understand girl crushes more.

[@arvindarya4136]

The reference at the end I love that song ❤️

[@sv32099]

Same here I've been more into girls as a kid and growing up but once I found the beauty of the internet I found out guys are freaking attractive as hell

[@rubiconnz1754]

Interesting perspectives explored here - strange how in the UK they tend to say " moved ABROAD " rather than " moved OVERSEAS " as we are inclined to say.

[@frankmahaffey8421]

You got to do what makes YOU happy, the people that truly love you will understand. Very brave of you to cover this topic. P.S. you still have very nice eyes.

[@davidmoody718]

This means she is coming out of the closet real slowly.

[@DavidKennedyMontanakennedy]

Thank you for this video! I have been running through all of this in my head over the several years as I have come to understand my bisexuality. It was weird to think about it but I finally came to understand it was all good. :) Cheers!

[@scottl8137]

Thank u for being brave and sharing your experience with us

[@asmrclassic1]

Good for you, Emily. Not everything in life needs labels. x

[@bonzodog67lizardking15]

Epic Quote " ... the 'frankness' of people sunk below shame is a very cheap frankness." -C.S. Lewis

[@lyramoriquendi278]

This was great! Thanks! I'm bi but was rather confused for a while - had a huge crush on a friend and by the time I'd worked my feelings out she left the country. Never told her but now so much more comfortable with my feelings for girls :) Got such a crush on Ygritte at the moment...She is just perfect

[@ryanferrey8484]

crush on the white G writing? :)

[@jameshutchins3396]

Once upon a time there was a greater community of women that did everything together and from what I can tell great admiration was not uncommon. It was a great support system ... which can still be found in third world countries. It is rather nice to find people we are attracted too. The problem is we tend to think sex and attraction are the same.

[@ed5308]

You can be infatuated with people and develop strong feelings for them. When you label yourself because of these feelings that is where the trouble starts. I have had friends that I would have liked to sleep with that does not really mean much. Physical attraction and emotional attraction are different subjects. None of this really means much except what you do about yourself anyway. Finding the perfect person really does not exist anyway.

[@richardblackwell874]

When you've finally made it to the point where you realize sexuality is nothing but grey areas, you've reached greater wisdom. The model of sexuality I carry around in my head is that we each have two major settings: attraction to self (guy to guy, girl to girl) and attraction to other (guy to girl, girl to guy). The are independent axes, so it's possible for someone to have great attraction to other and small attraction to self ("heterosexual") or great attraction to self and small attraction to other (society calls this "homosexual"). It's possible have low or no attraction to either self or other ("asexual") or high attraction to both ("bisexual"). I think there are additional axes, but they're not as much an influence. Just ceasing to label oneself is a great start. Emily, if asked, tell people, "I like guys a lot, I like girls a little" -- it's more accurate an any "-sexual" lable.

[@mo3bius58]

Thanks for sharing! I think it's great that you talked about this. I think people have to get away from this black and white thinking. If you like/fancy/love someone, it should not matter what gender he/she is. Especially teenager should be aware that it's fine/normal to have a crush on a person of the same sex. Life is complicated enough, let's not make it more complicated with more rules what is allowed/normal and so on.

[@FellVoice]

Thank you for finally making this video and congratulations, you are normal.

[@rudigerbacker9250]

To answer your question: Katy Perry did it. Rita Ora sings about it. I personally did it, too. So we have kissed girls, and survived it. So, what ´s the deal? Every human knows this confusion, too. Ask Mr. Freud. You name it girl crush. For me it is just a single bounderless moment in time, not a final conclusion. But, tall girl, be careful: Curiosity killed the cat. -

[@WRPUS471]

You are always interesting. Your honesty makes you that way. I predict you get a lot more subscribers after this video.

[@upandaljm]

No, just generally :) You are imperfect just like everyone else. Revel in your imperfection. Be happy with who you are. That is all that matters.

[@HelloWorld-rf2bg]

First of all (before i watch this) we are all sexually confused, even before we are teens because hormones, you know !

[@andrewb.5996]

I'm an Aussie bloke who has never fancied another bloke....but honestly if I had have ever got those feelings that would have been totally cool. I reckon society makes WAY to much of whether people are straight or gay. Maybe it was the way I was brought up, but it never occurs to me what people might or might not be doing in their own homes. If people are happy, that's great!

[@xmodriver]

Now that was a GREAT vid for ALL to watch and learn

[@m.vonfunnyname157]

“Twatty”, best word ever. Yeah I said it.

[@stephenwills495]

Just a quick comment commending you on being honest about such a delicate subject. I have met people who are similar to you and are attracted to the individual, not the gender - who cares to some extent, each to their own, just be kind to each other! I never thought any less of the people I met and always felt they were lovely people to spend time with. Take care and all the best to you. 😊

[@BlutigeTranen]

You know Em... just go for it if you are feeling it! You know what you like in a person. You've not got to put a label on it or try it once and decide you've become a lesbian or a bi. I don't identify as bi or straight or anything, really. If you find a person physically attractive and you feel like there's some kind of magic with a person and you enjoy their personality and traits... fuck it, give it a shot! There is nothing wrong with saying "I love people and I don't really care what luggage you carry in your trousers, I just want to love". Straight, gay, bi, les, three way, open, self, dressed as cats and dogs and birds... it doesn't matter. It's love and it's what you like :).

[@pavelradev1990]

I'm bi and I've had similar more "softcore" relationships with the same sex. It's fucking intense. Good on you for having that experience. It's, it just has no equal.

[@modernmind]

you're a very interesting albeit complicated woman. a great video you've created here. as I've gotten older, I'm more convinced than ever that humans are attracted to each other through their sense of smell more than anything else.

[@rolfsinkgraven]

Exploring your feelings, nothing wrong with it everybody does it in his/her own way.

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

that's a nice dog you have there. can you borrow it to me for a bit ?

[@michaelbelt8768]

I'm a mgtow man, but I"m not confused by my sexuality. I still looove women, how they feel, how they smell and certainly how they look. I just appreciate men as inspirations to be considered among their ranks; maybe the same is true for you as well. My confidence has shot off the charts, since I have 3 children and 7 grandchildren. I love the hell out of being a man. The world is a wonder of a playground for us and there's no time to ask if if I'm confused. I'm typing my input over a cold amber beer with chips and hot sauce, planning my fishing trip for tomorrow as my ex-wife is spending the day watching 2 of them while I try my hand at the lake. My personal legacy is already set for the next 150+ years. At any rate, you're not done charming the sh*t out of us, because you have many decades to go yet. Please don't forget nor underestimate that...

[@vladakecman95]

Emily, love your videos. I think you mentioned in one the ten reasons why you date younger men. Have you ever dated a younger man, specifically 10+ years younger and what was the difference in comparison to men your age or older? Great video as always, cheers!

[@lukebrown28393]

Emily were fine with this just don't start going gender confused on us

[@brettmarlar4154]

A lot of those instances, I could just chalk it up to the two of you being in a similar point in life and that made it easier to want to spend time together. I've had relationships with other men that were like that. I've never been physically attracted to a man. I've just never wanted to make out, or snog, with a man. I have gay friends, I don't think there is anything wrong with being gay. it just isn't me. But one thing I am very certain of is this: Life is not binary. Everything is rather grey as opposed to black and white. Perhaps, I've just never met a guy I would want to snog, but guys seldom want to stop there, as you likely know, as I am certain that anything beyond that is not in any way exciting to me. That, I feel, would put the kibosh on that.

[@0nem1leh1gh]

That's just matrix at work.

[@SuperNova-ws8iu]

I had to pause the video and Google snogging 😂

[@skywyzeparanormal7934]

I have a lot of respect for you. You are a brave warrior. Good job.

[@thevgancheetah]

Now that I think about it reeaally isn’t that much of a big deal. If you like someone you like someone and if ya don’t ya don’t. It really is that simple.

[@HammerDemonn]

No, Emily. You're just lonely.

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

yup... deep down, gay sentiments come from the lack of normal contact. we keep blaming gay, but... it's our fault. it's us, the society that makes people like that. maybe we should be more careful about things. idk...

[@TheEviIOyo]

@@itsmetheherpes1750 nah some agglets are gay, but this chick is so fucking lonely that she'll mate with anyone to feel companionship. All she has is her sisters.

[@amarijayamari]

... happy to hear that you have had such a great learning experience....

[@somthingbrutal]

what and who ever makes you happy go for it

[@kirk1363]

I had to laugh when you commented: "I felt I had to be the man". Too honest! You may not have figured it all out but I think you will find happiness when the right person for you comes along. You clearly have good instincts - trust them. Cheers!

[@NiallMacpherson]

Sexual orientation is not always clear cut categories. It is more like gradients that can even change over time, going from 100% heterosexual to 0% (=100% homosexual). In between, somewhere, is where most people are with strong tendencies.

[@thelivvy11]

As a bisexual women, i kinda had a feeling that you were bi. But the point is that no one should push their assumptions onto you. I would never comment ‘oh your defo bi’. But i did get the vibes! I’m happy for you, but also happy bc your stunning and now my crush makes more sense :)

[@crikycrocky]

Interesting subject for you. I do think you are brave for tackling it on such a personal level. Having been aware of situations where marriages were entered into with one of the partners unaware or ignoring the fact they were gay and the resulting fallout and the distress it caused when the true situation came to light, I can only endorse the know yourself mindset. Also, to the idea that there should just be one way to be "normal", consider, there are not many Panda's in the world, so does this mean that a Panda is not "normal"? It is what it is, and that is awesome!

[@SirReptitious]

Finally after all these years know the reason Emily hasn't found the "right man"...

[@tanmayshekhawat]

I don't know how exactly you feel, but I know a few women/girls who have gone down on each other. They fell in love with men eventually. Whatever happens, it is okay. You will figure out. Keep on being brave. :)

[@BradKnowsAll]

You think/feel the same way about men as you do women - some you like, some you don’t; some you REALLY like (or not); some for purely physical reasons and others not at all. Its your preexisting assumptions about sex (“should be a guy”) that is the wildcard here. But physical wants/needs & mental wants/needs are basically just different ingredients in a relationship. When they get blended, sometimes you get a great cocktail; other times, not so much (“the friend zone”). Sounds like some of your girl acquaintances are so solid on the mental that they wander over into the physical, wherein unfamiliarity pops up. No biggie. You get to decide where your natural comfort level is. Hardly confused; just unexpected.

[@jonfr]

This follows the "Betteridge's law of headlines" from the looks of it. What you are experience is a pack mentality of person that are genetically close to you. There is a article about that research on the Time website, it is called "Friends Are More Similar Genetically Than Strangers, Study Says". What you are also doing is just experiments with women (as you tell the story). It happens (as the research says).

[@mecano316]

love is love dont worry about it !it is all abought chemistry and that is something you cant control ;) exemple i meet a woman a few years ago older and more meat on the bone that i normally like and it just happen like i knew her my own life