Americans Compare Being Gay in Denmark and Being Gay in America

Americans Compare Being Gay in Denmark and Being Gay in America
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In this video, we take a look at what gay life in Denmark is like based on our experience as a gay couple living in Copenhagen. We compare what it's like being gay in Denmark to being gay in America to celebrate Pride month.
Throughout the video, we share our experiences from the expectations we had as we planned to move to Denmark and the reality once we arrived and began our life in Copenhagen.
We talk about how in Denmark acceptance seems higher simply because conversations are more inclusive with Danes. Things in America are much more heteronormative. This caused us to be curious about LGBT history in Denmark and the march for LGBT rights in Denmark. To learn more on these topics we visited @natmusdk (The National Museum of Denmark) and had a chat with Mette Byriel-Thygesen, one of the museum curators in the exhibit on Modern Denmark.
This helped us put the politics into perspective and the comparison between the politics of LGBT Rights in Denmark vs. America. We talked about the political tactics used by America's Republican party to marginalize LGBTQ+ people, especially transgender Americans. This results in transphobia, murder, homophobia and a higher suicide rate for the community.
Next, we talk about the differences of socializing in the LGBT community and how it was making friends in Denmark (more in this video: • HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS IN... )
Finally, we compare Gay Pride Celebrations in Denmark with Gay Pride Celebrations in America. The main difference being the inclusion of allies and how a more progressive country means there is more civic Pride.
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0:22 - Our Expectations
1:23 - Our Day to Day Life
5:57 - LGBTQ+ History in Denmark
12:10 - The Impact of Politics
14:49 - Social Differences
16:35 - Pride Celebrations
18:17 - Final Thoughts
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[@RobeTrotting]

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[@Tommysimonsen]

You could have made this video very short :-) "The leader of the Danish Conservative party is gay"

[@hmbp100]

can you go down the street holding hands today? in DK?

[@SuiGenerisAbbie]

I think Denmark's friendliness towards we Gay people was sorely tested when Prince Joachim's gayness was un-Earthed (sp?) many years back. I have to wonder if Denmark's Royal Family is not closeted in its homophobia, if only because that fam won't even let its own marry people of their own gender.

[@SuiGenerisAbbie]

Danish has two genders: Common and Neuter / Neutral. This is why boyfriend and girlfriend are the same gender, because there is no "masculine" and "feminine" genders. Neat, huh?

[@davidguymon1673]

Yeah, I understand very much the issues with the new laws being passed against trans persons. One in particular I'm very much against is the one in Florida. It is sad how the knuckle dragging right is dragging this nation back further when it comes to equal rights.

[@pumpkinpatch2203]

Kæreste is literally translated to "dearest" meaning we call our boyfriend/girlfriend the dearest thing in our lives and I think it's cute

[@RobeTrotting]

It’s SO cute, we love that word!

[@Chillestchicken]

I am danish, and this is true!

[@emswista1157]

How did i just notice this about my mative languege

[@victorhovmand8728]

@@emswista1157 native?

[@emswista1157]

@@victorhovmand8728 sorry i was tired lol

[@Kiraureus]

So I'm a highschool teacher in Southern Jutland, and one day this kid uses "bøsse" (gay) as a slur. Before I even react, another kid gets up and yells "DUDE! IT'S 2020! GAY IS NOT A CURSE WORD!", and the first kid goes "Yeah, no, I'm sorry, I have no idea what I was thinking man.". So yeah, the kids are alright - even in the rural areas ;-)

[@RobeTrotting]

That's so awesome, Kira! Love that your students are so respectful to one another - they may not even know how much that means to someone else in their class. Good teachers result in good students 😀🇩🇰

[@isoooolde]

wait thats actually really cool! in my class the word "bøsse", "lebbe" (lesbian) or actually just gay is used at least 3/5 days, some days several times:/ it makes me a bit uncomfortable, but like what can u do. i think its absolutely amazing that your students act like that tho!

[@jonaskoelker]

@@isoooolde > "lebbe" (lesbian) I would translate "lebbe" as "dike". My default assumption (across contexts) is that it's used as a pejorative; it's certainly informal. I would _not_ translate "bøsse" as "fag" or "faggot". I do _not_ have a default assumption about whether it's pejorative or not, because most words can be said with either respect or disrespect. In particular situations it's probably obvious whether it's said with or without respect. For completeness, "lesbisk" is an adjective in Danish. It carries about the same connotations and valences [I read them as value-neutral statements of fact] as the English "lesbian", and is the counterpart to the noun "bøsse". They're the LG of LGBT. It's the proper language for a press release.

[@tysej4]

Sadly, there is still occasional violence down here... I've experienced it a couple of times. 80-90% of people are OK with it, but you can still run into a person or group that would assault you for it.

[@hmbp100]

det passer ikke.

[@linekolbe7973]

I grew up in Denmark and live in Sweden now. My dad, who's 84 years old now explained to me, when I was a little kid, that my cousin was gay. He told me that it meant she had a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend and that it was not as common but just as natural as a girl having a boyfriend. He taught me that love is love.

[@RobeTrotting]

Line, that story is beautiful. It sounds like your dad is wonderful man 😊🇩🇰

[@krowaswieta7944]

Its actually quite interesting that you use word "natural" (and in fact that the most common argument of homophobic people is "its not natural"). Makes me wonder each time... You see, the conviction that homosexuality is wrong because its "unnatural" derives from cathegory of "divine law" and "the law of nature". "Law of nature" was set of rules of how things work which according to christian philosophy were inherent to each individual being (and each individual being was determined by idea or "formal cause"). All things - and with them their inherent natural laws - were participating in wider set - "the divine rules" or god itself if you will. Its kinda crazy to me that western societies are so immersed in european culture that people even "unconsciously" use arguments from christian philisophy to argue for their believes. Well, even the whole 'sex shame' in fact comes from christian idea of being ashamed of yourself.

[@linekolbe7973]

@@krowaswieta7944 you are right. And then it's interesting that homosexually has always excited, in the animal world too, and yet still it's considered unnatural by many. I don't get why they believe that. It's lack of knowledge and lack of interest in the knowledge.

[@MixinGaming]

You actually chose to live in Sweden💀

[@Iemonic]

i live in the usa, the southern part specifically, and my dad says he doesnt care if two boys date but they dont get married because marriage is between a man and a woman

[@Lewna86]

As a dane, i literally dont care if you are straight, gay, bi, trans or anything. I dont mean that in any sort of offensive way - its just not something i consider when i am getting to know you as a person. You do you and if youre happy, thats great. Your sexuality/gender doesnt mean much to me when im getting to know you. I want to know YOU - and your partner.

[@RobeTrotting]

Yes! Such a great outlook and seems to be the way most Danes think, which we love. America is getting there but we are about a generation behind Denmark (and a lot of Europe) in these types of issues.

[@frankengbjerg6681]

Think you correct. Most dane don't care about you sexuality. But a lot gets annoyed when you flash it in there face, I think it is about the law of Jante.

[@GrumblyBear13]

I'm an American living in Denmark since 2004 and this is THE best explanation I have seen about our feelings towards gays. I feel like when I meet someone, things like sexual orientation are not important unless you're asking me to have sex with you. If you're vegan, bring that up if we're going out for lunch. These facts about ourselves will come out naturally while we do the "getting to know you" thing. In America someone will introduce themselves, "Hi, I'm Joe. I'm queer gender fluid" and I have NO clue how to respond. Do I applaud or congratulate them...or just stand there? I look for happiness, kindness and compassion in people and that has nothing to do with who you love or what you eat.

[@juanemmert6237]

How very straight of you. Now go sit in the corner and luxuriate in your progressiveness

[@MayaHiortPetersen]

Lewna86 so well put! I feel the same way. As long as you're interesting and a good person, then generally that's what is relevant.

[@maj-britt5756]

My parents’ friends have a son who is gay. When the friends told my parents about their son being gay, they were worried what my parents would think. My parents were supportive but indifferent until they told them, that he was also a vegetarian - then my parents said “We are so sorry for you”. I guess they were like: love is love, but food that’s a different story 🤣🤣🤣

[@imajinallthepurple]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Phiyedough]

Yes, I host Helpx and Workaway volunteers and I would much rather host gay omnivores than straight vegetarians! That is mainly based on cost, the vegetarians I have hosted were more expensive to feed than the meat eaters.

[@TrekkieGrrrl]

😂😂😂 at least he wasn't VEGAN 😂😂😂

[@scipioafricanus5871]

@@TrekkieGrrrl Else he would have told everyone immediately.

[@pernilleolsen9651]

Ej det er sq dansk. 🤣🤣

[@hasle00]

In Denmark people would come together to tell off the homophobe rather than the homosexuals and that's the big difference

[@RobeTrotting]

Which is part of why we love it here so much 🇩🇰😃

[@Ujuani68]

Well, now, the homophobes are 5-6 Arabs, waiting outside an LGBT bar...😱😖🤬 AS an LGBT person myself, I fear for the future.

[@welp3974]

I actually really like our word for a partner, because "kæreste" means "most valuable" or "most dear to me" Edit: I get it, the correct translation is dearest, forgive me for not having kept it in mind

[@abcde_ghijklmnopqrstuvwyxz2188]

same, it’s a nice word

[@alicelarsson165]

@@halleymea Oh, cool if the danish version is gender neutral. In icelandic kærasta means girlfriend, and kærasti means boyfriend. In swedish käresta means girlfriend, and käreste means boyfriend.

[@andreascj73]

Yeah ... "dearest" ...

[@welp3974]

@@andreascj73 shit, u r right😅 I forget the dumbest words🤣

[@nadiakirstine8998]

Yeah, same. I hate how it sounds, But i like how its non-gender specific.

[@bjrnhannibal7885]

I remember taking my boyfriend (now husband) to a family gathering almost twenty years ago. I was so scared, because there would be mostly older people there, I hadn't come out to everyone (I have a large family), and I didn't know how everyone would react. Not a single negative word was said, and no questions raised about the fact that I was gay. Some smaller children asked (respectful) questions about it, and I heard some parents explaining what "gay" meant to their kids. It was such a wonderful day to me, and I felt so embraced from the fact that it wasn't a big deal to anyone!

[@RobeTrotting]

This is beautiful, Bjørn. Thank you for sharing your coming out story. It’s so important to be able to live authentically and we’re so happy that your supportive family allows you to do just that 🏳️‍🌈😊🇩🇰

[@ZlishKun]

As a Danish gay I have been very curious about your take on this subject. Personally I only came out about 4 years ago (getting a boyfriend made it kinda hard to hide) and I was very scared about how my family and colleagues would react. In retrospect I now feel kinda silly about keeping it a secret this long (I'm 34. So about 30 years I guess) as I have not been met with a single negative response, everyone has been super nice about it, even strangers. My sister actually started crying of joy just because she was so happy that I finally found someone (gender being irrelevant)

[@0ll1e_1n_the_n1ght]

Hvor fedt, jeg er glad for du har en partner, held og lykke. :D

[@argantyr5154]

I think most Danes have this attitude toward being gay, what you do in your bedroom doesn't concern me. And most seem indifferent toward who kiss, dance, hold hands etc. Of course there are some ignorant/hateful people of there, but it is a small faction.

[@camillasaietz4856]

Well, you did mention in another video, that people aren't as religious in Denmark and I can't help to notice that there seems to be a strong corelation between religion and homophobia in USA. I personally never understood why it would be of any significance who people are attrackted to 🤷‍♀️ Great video 🙂

[@sarahrok9555]

True, and “fun” info: my husband would cry at the ideal that our kids would become heavy religious but has no problem if they wanted a different kind of relationship that we (their parents) have. 🥰 We are not against religion (they attend a private school, rooted in catholic religion) ☺️

[@roger4704]

@@sarahrok9555 lucky for them they can choose when they’re older

[@TraitorFelon.14.3]

The funny thing is that the Bible tells us that a man may not lie with a man as a man does with a woman. Meaning “the sex thing”. Men, however, do not have vaginas, so it stands to reason that the people writing the Bible thought that anal sex was the way to go with women. Funny how the Bible actually works when you pay attention to the actual text.

[@nmikk10]

Northern Europe was part of that movement that branched out from the Catholic Church and it is still rooted in the culture today

[@natanoj16]

It is extra fun when ypu remeber that Denmark has a state religion and america doesnt. We are probably the least religious country even though our laws make most people part of a religion by default ^^

[@SigneKristineHermind]

My brother-in-law, who is heterosexual and happily married (to my sister), has a rainbow flag, he raises in the flagpole in their frontyard, for everyone to see, whenever pride is celebrated, just to celebrate diversity and equality. I think it is such a nice thing to do.

[@leithbouacida2483]

already have my ticket booked for Denmark then

[@becominghealthyandhappy]

I love that!

[@fernandopierrepont3014]

👏👏👏👏

[@user-cv1gu9cx6t]

That's amazing

[@yeethh5837]

Men er det ikke ulovligt at hænge andet op end dannebrog , Grønlands og Færøernes flag?

[@havedalDK]

I think that Danes are reserved and private people and what you do in your bedroom should be of no concern to other people as long as you don't break the law. I think that's the main reason why Pride isn't as big in Denmark because most people see sexuality as a private matter.

[@shadiebat2136]

Yes and no. It's true that we are a lot more private in Denmark - it's seen as very weird to talk to strangers on the bus, for instance. But we also have a much more casual relationship with nudity and sex in general. I grew up with boobs in my cartoons(Bennys Badekar), and we've recently had a journalist visiting a swinger club have sex live on the radio. I think Copenhagen Pride is pretty big! It is also true that we generally don't think you should judge/care about what people do in their bedroom as long as it's legal(especially the consensual part).

[@goldietheswagbear8288]

that and we aren't as sensitive to nudity and what not, and we aren't as religious

[@yottaforce]

My daughter is pan-sexual. She told me and her mon when she turned 20. Some in the family knows, perhaps all. I haven't told them. Not because I'm ashamed or promised not to tell. Actually she's fine with it. It's just... so utterly irrelevant and I never had a reason to bring it up.

[@Lorentari]

The boyfriend/girlfriend thing is probably just a natural result of the Danish language. The word "Kæreste" can be ´broken down into: "Kære" meaning "loved one/my dear"; and "-ste": equivalent to "Most or [-est]" in English = "someone's most loved one/dearest"}

[@jappedut9009]

Boyfriend = ven Girlfriend = veninde Lover = kæreste

[@kimchristiansen2370]

@@jappedut9009 Lover = elsker, dearest = kæreste.

[@Wishbone1977]

@@kimchristiansen2370, @jappedut Be careful about those sorts of translations. Single word translations between Danish and English can, while technically accurate, be quite misleading, because context can change the meaning of a single word significantly in either language. If you want to explain the meaning of Danish words, it's better to actually explain the meaning than to simply give a single English word equivalent. In the case of the four Danish words presented here, better explanations would be: Ven: Friend. Technically a male friend, but is frequently used for both genders, particularly in the plural sense. Veninde: Female friend. Kæreste: Someone you are in a romantic relationship with, but are not married to. Elsker: Someone you are in a sexual relationship with, but no romantic relationship is implied. There are of course more nuances to each of these words than what is described above, but this is a KZbin comment, not a language lecture ;-) In English, the words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" are particularly troublesome because their meaning is highly context dependent and varies between genders. If a girl talks about her girlfriends (plural) she is almost certainly referring to her female friends. If she talks about her girlfriend (singular) she could mean either just a female friend or her significant other. If she talks about her boyfriend (singular) she is almost certainly talking about her significant other. And if she is talking about her boyfriends (plural), the implication is that she is romantically involved with multiple guys. Generally "boyfriend" is only used to refer to a male romantic partner, while "girlfriend" is used for both romantic partners and female friends, depending on context. This is all just to illustrate why single word translations can be a poor choice. Of course, there are many words that are perfectly "safe" to give single word translations for (e.g. "Dog" = "Hund") because their meaning is simple and not context dependent, but for words as complicated as those describing interpersonal relationships single word translations simply do not suffice. Yes, I am an insufferable know-it-all (even though I absolutely don't know it all). I blame my mother who was a Danish teacher ;-)

[@abcde_ghijklmnopqrstuvwyxz2188]

@@jappedut9009 ehhh, ven/veninde is more like a platonic friend and not a romantic partner.

[@personaldisaster444]

Such a beautiful word, just made me wanna learn Danish even more ❤️

[@iblisthemage]

Mike and Derek: “Danes progressive” Danes: *pats their own shoulders* Mike & Derek:”but Danes have fallen behind Sweden & Norway” Danes: “WHAT!! Unacceptable! Lets fix that, then raid Skåne (again) for good measure”.

[@RobeTrotting]

Hahaha, you had us at "raid Skåne..." 😂🇩🇰

[@CsCharlese]

So true

[@sarahrok9555]

🤣soooooo true

[@victarionmagne3723]

GENINDTAG SKÅNE WOOOOOO!!

[@EmilReiko]

liberate Skåne not raid

[@lameduck3105]

Rufus Gifford, the US Ambassador to Denmark under Obama's administration, married his husband at the Copenhagen City Hall to celebrate the fact that Denmark was the first country to legalize same-sex unions.

[@jakeforrest]

Me and a friend saw him at the Rainbow Square once, while he was ambassador, and we joked about that if we wanted close encounter with his hot bodyguards, we just had to jump onto the ambassador :-)

[@kimchristiansen2370]

Fortunately the priests in Denmark doesnt wet them yet, either you follow religion by the word or we burn the churches to the ground, bot would suit me fine.

[@in551125do]

The country that legalized same sex marriage first was The Netherlands (2001)....

[@lameduck3105]

@@in551125do Perhaps but Denmark was the first country to legalize same sex civil unions (1989).

[@__________________________4597]

@@in551125do Unions and marriage isnt the same thing.

[@Nygaard2]

Read a story about 2 seven year old boys for the kids in the 1st grade I teach. In a scene the two boys hug each other. One of the kids in class casually asked if they were "kærester"? Not one of the kids in the class thought it was a strange question because it was two boys. Not to worry, everyone, in a generation or two your sexuality won't be an issue (unless some idiot adult keeps the hate alive for their own political reasons).

[@yellowsparklefish337]

[@RobeTrotting]

That's such a cool story Magnus. We definitely feel like it's so much more a non-factor in Denmark and we come from pretty liberal family and friend-groups in the States. On a society-level things are much more accepting.

[@ThatBisexualOverThere]

The thing with priests, they can refuse to marry you, but you can simply find a priest who will and still get married in the same church. While it of course can suck that a priest can refuse to marry a couple, it can be exceptionally fun to passive-aggressively get married in their church anyway.

[@Neko141212]

Yeah, and I honestly think most Danish priests are perfectly fine with marrying a same-sex couple - there's just still some old folks that get upset about it. Hell, I know a priest and she's so okay with it that she writes fantasy novels with LGBT-characters in them xD

[@drdewott9154]

@@Neko141212 Yeah, heck most priests here aren't like particularly religious studs in the mud all about faith and stuff. Heck quite a few aren't even that religious themselves, its much more of just a side thing and for cultural reasons more than anything faith related, like most are really chill and nice with no religious intents behind or Jesus blabbering outside of prayers n stuff. Like they'll often organise non religious stuff with their church too like community events, singing practise, book days, concerts, all sorts of stuff and are often happy to let their church be used for such.

[@olliegreen3446]

I personally Think its ok if priests dont wanna, its their choice. But as others said you Can easily find a priest who Will.

[@Wreenz]

This is also why LGBT is not as big of a deal in DK. Not that we don´t care for those people, we just don´t care much about that part of a person.

[@liskofod8711]

What does that Mean?

[@Wreenz]

@@liskofod8711 That we don't have to know if a person is LGBT to decide if we want to talk to them or not. Because we can be interested in meeting the person without caring if they are gay or whatever it makes no difference.

[@quickschweezy]

@@Wreenz Indeed. Danes don't care about your economy, your religion and who you love. We accept you as a Dane, a friend and a colleague on the merit of your actions and not which "faction" you belong to. We assume the best about a person and not the worst.

[@edwardharley9]

Way to be.....myself, as a SGO Canadian, I wish people would keep their sexuality to their selves.. shuddup about it already...including heterosexuals..

[@ratoh1710]

The Danish attitude is basically: Person: I'm gay. Dane: Cool, I don't care.

[@Zull108]

Honestly I feel that as Danes we honestly have the "You do you" attitude, as long as you are not hurting nobody, then go nuts. Hell we had someone broadcasting from a swinger club and the journalist ended up having sex on live radio. We clearly give no fucks 90% of the time. I always find it hilarious to watch whenever some international news agency find out about some thing or other about Denmark.

[@kaiserslavaniaashur1623]

Yup. And when some country gets offended and cries “stop doing it, it offensive ttowards us” it’s mostly the same response “No.”

[@NS-et5wh]

What. Hvad er det med den swinger klub ting?? :0

[@malu8380]

Denmark be like “You can buy the moon as much as we care as long as you’re chill”

[@Madsen-by1hy]

Trust me there is homo phobia in Denmark as well, I have a few friends that are bi or homosexual, and I do occasionally hear about them being verbally and sometimes physically attacked, which is horrible because everyone has a right to be who they are and what they want to be in my eyes.. I sincerely hope that you guys never experiences this kind of behavior from any of my fellow Danes🙏..

[@2xdrews]

This!

[@valkeakirahvi]

Pretty much the same in Finland. Most of the time everything is fine, but there is still some hate around especially against trans people.

[@Madsen-by1hy]

@@valkeakirahvi It's so sad actually, and yeah not to forget the trans gender people, they also get hated on here.. But for the most times here, it's okay. but there's always a few that doesn't know how to behave I guess 🤷

[@user-cv1gu9cx6t]

One of my best friends is trans and when he came out to my class EVERYONE was so cool about it. I was actually surprised at how well my class took it! Live in Denmark btw.

[@RobeTrotting]

That’s incredible and very inspiring that younger generations today are so much more accepting 😃🇩🇰🏳️‍⚧️

[@YTIsTakingOverMyLife]

As a 23yo danish heterosexual guy, this was a very interesting watch! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!

[@RobeTrotting]

Thank you for watching, so happy you enjoyed the video 😊🇩🇰

[@jakobborre7365]

In Denmark it is more importent to be a nice person. In Vendsyssel the worst thing you can be is "træls"👍😉

[@lisanielsn83]

Ja! Eller kaw!

[@johnwalsh6968]

Subscriber 66 here. As an American I’m embarrassed to say that Mike and Derek are spot on in their comparison. I do believe that who you spend your life with is your choice. We should measure who you are by your totality, not just your sexual orientation. I’m thrilled to say we’re family and love you both.

[@andersjjensen]

I is, actually, rather absurd to judge people, whom you're probably never going to have sex with, solely on their sexuality. That's like if blind people judged people solely on how they look...

[@henrietteolsen2396]

Danes are more practical i think, When my daughter turned out to be a son he just went to the local church to change his name to a male name and then got a new passport afterwords where he was a male. No explanation or questions needed.

[@_sofie]

Not to get political but maybe they need to consider healing the mind before the body. Being a homosexual, gender non conforming woman is not easy not even in Denmark and that has led to a literal epidemic of girls transitioning and sadly detransitioning. Consider reading Abigail Shrier’s book: irreversible damage. No hate to your kid at all but I was in the same position and things could’ve ended really badly.

[@jonasravn556]

I love that you guys incorporated the change of T-shirt to symbolise the rainbow flag. Great video!

[@RobeTrotting]

Thanks Jonas! We wanted to make sure we had good fun with this video - all credit to Derek for the idea!

[@jon3584]

Belgium flag???

[@mvoetmann1]

I am old enough to have witnessed the change. When I was in gymnasium (high school) in the early 80ies coming out as gay was a fairly big deal. In fact, I later learned that two girls from my class had been in a relationship hidden from the rest of us. Now, thankfully, it is much less of a big deal. As danes we are proud of our tolerance. But tolerance towards gays is a recent thing. Well worth celebrating.

[@RobeTrotting]

If you look at how the world has changed in attitudes just in our lifetimes, it’s such an amazing story of progress. But through visibility and the support of allies it has become something that is still difficult but now so much easier.

[@imajinallthepurple]

- I love the way you approached the subject by including history, comparing more than the two countries and pointing out where we're still lacking❣️ - A personal example: A close relative of mine told her mom that she was bisexual at the age of 14. Everyone in the family (including grandparents) were like "Ok...so have you found a cute girlfriend or boyfriend yet?" 🤷‍♀️ And that was that, no big deal, because: It is/should be totally frickin normal! (She's dated both genders within a year. U go, girl! 😉) - Fun fact: The US governor under Obama actually married his boyfriend while they were posted in Denmark. ❤️🥰😏👍🥰❤️

[@Louise.L.]

Aaw I feel slightly proud as a Dane hehe. Great video 😊 I’m so glad you feel so well treated here. It is actually so beyond me WHY being gay or transgender is something that other people would have anything against, let alone spend time and energy protesting. Sigh. Like someone else wrote: Love is love 🙂💖

[@juliebendixen2274]

Fun fact. Princess Mary is protector for pride

[@RobeTrotting]

First ever royal patron of a pride!

[@kenster8270]

@@RobeTrotting The Norwegian Crown Prince has also long been an advocate for LGBT rights. Bodes well for those two kingdoms!

[@herdisweins943]

I've noticed, that people in english speaking countries, when the talk about same-sex married couples, talk about their "partner". Here we talk about her wife, his husband. So when the queens hairdresser is shown in magazines or on TV attending a royal party with partner, it will referred to as Søren Hedgaard and his husband.

[@marycanary86]

'partner' is the cringiest word ever.....

[@Wishbone1977]

Some do use gender neutral words in Denmark though, and unfortunately it is a result of homophobia still being very much a thing in Denmark. It may not be as prevalent as in many other places in the world, but it's still there. I have noticed this several times over the years with various gay people I've come into contact with (colleagues, etc.). Many gay people will, when introduced to new people (such as starting in a new workplace) refrain from using any gender specific words in regards to their significant other. They will meticulously phrase any sentence involving them to exclude these words because they don't want to reveal anything, but they also don't want to lie outright. Danish isn't usually phrased that way, so it quite quickly becomes rather noticeable. I conclude that they do this because they are unsure of how people will react to the fact that they are gay, and further conclude that the reason for this is that they have had unpleasant reactions from some people in the past. One particular example was a girl I worked with in a previous job. I was already working there when she was hired, and she did the whole "no gender specific words" thing. It didn't take long for me to figure out that she was gay, but that was her business and not mine, so I didn't say anything. If she wanted to (attempt) to keep it a secret, it wasn't my place to "out her". All I could do was to make sure, when the topic came up in normal conversation, to make it clear that _I_ wasn't homophobic so she at least knew not to fear _my_ reaction. It took her more than a _year_ to gather the courage to "come out" to us, her colleagues. One day, she had gone out to lunch with her girlfriend, and decided to bring her back to the office to introduce her. It was obvious that this meant a lot to her and that she was very nervous (my colleague, not her girlfriend). So she came in and went: "So, guys, this is my girlfriend [Girlfriend]. So, as you can see, I'm gay". And we were all: "Yeah, we knew. Hi [Girlfriend], good to meet you". After that, she was much more relaxed around us. It was obvious that a weight had been lifted from her shoulders. This is just one example out of many. I think it's really sad that many gay people feel the need to go through this sort of rigmarole, with all that entails. It shouldn't be necessary in this day and age. But the fact that they still do it seems to indicate that it _is_ actually necessary in some cases.

[@EmilReiko]

@@marycanary86 lots of married danes use partner these days instead of mand/kone… because they want to be gender neutral… its a shame because they could just use the wonderfull term “ægtefælle” the same way as unmarried use kæreste

[@vrenak]

Progress tends to be slow when the issues have become smaller, they simply get overshadowed by more pressing concerns, but let's never use that as en excuse to rest on our laurels. Let's just make sure we still progress, even if the pace has slowed some. Thanks for another great video guys.

[@RobeTrotting]

I think you make a really good point. It’s like on Maslow’s hierarchy the “real” needs get met and the higher levels become epics fights over crap that honestly no one else should care about. If you are against gay marriage, just don’t marry a gay!

[@kinuuni]

As a queer danish person, this was kinda neat. I don't think we always appreciate how far we have come in such a relatively short amount of time, especially compared to other places in the world. (I try not to be too harsh on the US. We basically shipped all our radical religious people off to the US in the late 1800's early 1900's. (or, they left because they felt europe was becoming too liberal.)) Fun fact, most openly gay politicians in Denmark have been conservative. I think it is time that we take up transgender rights now, and truly fight for their rights to exist. We have come far here as well, especially the younger generations (as a millennial I have high hopes for Gen Z) but maybe that can lead to some complacency as well.

[@Styggejoe]

I really enjoy how you've started saying "we have here in denmark" in your videos Glad you feel like you belong, because you certainly do.

[@CopenhagenDreaming]

I like that you made a point of mentioning trans people and trans rights. G with the T! I was born in 1978, so I realised I was gay in the 80s - but by the time I was 11 I knew I could dream of if not marriage then at least a civil union with somebody some day. By 2009 the Cathedral of Copenhagen wrapped its columns in rainbow-coloured fabric for Pride, so we knew there were at least some influential people in the Church of Denmark behind our rights. But the last time I attended a gay church wedding... We have the right to get married in our local parish church, but the priest has the right to refuse to officiate, and this priest did, so the couple had found another priest delighted to wed them. And it was lovely, but there ARE still that sort of situations out there in rural Denmark. And that's not good enough. We shouldn't all have to move to Copenhagen to avoid discrimination. If we have a state church, then goddammit our priests need to toe the line! I mean, as state employees they get better pay and a FAR superior pension scheme, so if they want to they can just leave those benefits and start their own free churches with the right to discriminate. Good luck with that... /rant over

[@ChaosBunnyInc]

Ikke fordi jeg er kristen eller homoseksuel, men er af den personlige overbevisning at alle, lige meget tro, tiltrækning eller politiske synpunkt, skal have retten til, som et individ, at sige nej(eller ja). institutioner på den anden side, skal ikke kunne benægte dig din ret(eller påtvinge dig) til, hvad du nu har lyst til, så længe det ikke bringer skade, eller opfordre til skade/had mod andre. hvis vi som land tillader at staten laver en lov der fratager vores ret, mister vi en del af det som giver os vores frihed, friheden til at vælge. Not because I am a Christian or a homosexual, but I am of the personal belief that everyone, no matter the faith, attraction or political point of view, should have the right, as an individual, to say no (or yes). institutions, on the other hand, should not be able to deny you your right (or impose on you) to do what you now feel like, as long as it does not bring harm, or encourage harm / hatred towards others. if we as a country allow the state to make a law that deprives us of our right, we lose part of what gives us our freedom, the freedom to choose.

[@kristianpoulherkild3401]

We don't have a state church in Denmark, though it is a popular belief. "Folkekirken" is an autonomous lutheran-evangelical church with constitutional privileges. But it is not a state church per se. And was never intended to be one.

[@annejeppesen160]

The neat thing about the Danish national church, is the diversity. You have some nearly Pentecostal churches (Karlslunde Strand Kirke), some very conservative churches and everything in between. The congregation is autonomous and chooses their pastor, and there are rules to secure a pastor chosen by a minority faction, if the church has more than one pastor. Religion is a matter of conscience, and some pastors do not feel that the Bible/Lutheran teachings gives them authority to wed same sex couples - and that's fine! Because they will refer you to a colleague who will be delighted to wed you - and in your church of preference. My pastor is one of those who weren't comfortable wedding same sex couples, so when we got a part time pastor, one of the factors we took into consideration was if they would wed same sex couples.

[@madsjensen5737]

2:47 really nice pronunciation of "kæreste" even with the æ and everything, that's some of the stuff that makes a Dane proud 🇩🇰🇩🇰

[@RobeTrotting]

Tusind tak! Vi prøver at tale dansk godt 😜🇩🇰

[@madsjensen5737]

@@RobeTrotting at prøve er alt der tæller! Godt arbejde drenge💪 keep it up

[@xBlist84]

We even have prominent gay politicians like Uffe Elbæk and Søren Pape, the latter one being the leader of the conservative party and having been justice minister.

[@klausrasmussen2307]

Exactly. And this is on the right side of the danish political spectrum. So even politically, there's a vast difference between US and Denmark.

[@mathildelonborg]

Ha, I didn’t even know that they were gay which goes to show how little impact it has on politics.

[@thomasbaagaard]

@@mathildelonborg And "Simon Emil Ammitzbøll" was the minister of (government) economy and the interior. He was then married to a man. After the husband died, he married a woman and they now have two children.

[@andreasobuaculla9511]

ireland had gay prime minister!trump didnt like him but trump doesnt like anypone

[@BlackStarASMR]

How can someone hate that two people love each other? ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@RobeTrotting]

We agree 😃

[@mybeautifulcat7011]

Imagine if the whole world was gay , humans had extinct already

[@mybeautifulcat7011]

@@RobeTrotting why are you gae

[@sirengbjerg3010]

@@mybeautifulcat7011 chill

[@philippeamon7271]

It's because most people simply are straight, that's just how it is. I think it's some kind of survival mechanic, like how in Don't Hug Me I'm Scared SPOILERS BELOW The average, then, becomes a sexual pedestalisation of females, a position of terrifying overpower, that the powerful have grown reliant on, and are notoriously reluctant to relinquish, as if something being utterly cruel and wrong was ever a reason, not to do it. This results in the average (peer pressure standard) sexual orientation of girls becomes anti-sexual (use it, or lose it) Once they have become anti-survivalist (at no threat to themselves), they feel manipulated and abused for sex by the non-pedestalised, who "don't deserve it", according to the standard. And now we have gender-based animosity, YAY!!!! That the men, too, of course, will respond to, because we are human beings, after all. Eye for an eye and a bit of the face (woopsie, that wasn't supposed to happen, sure glad it was them, not me), for another eye + a tooth, for an eye and a tooth and another chipped, and so on. Until we discover that THERE IS NO MORE EFFECTIVE WAY of motivating gender-based animosity and rape, than the suffering and animosity in itself. So now, we've got a bunch of people trying to crank that shit up to eleven. So far things are going great. So when the Bible Belt woman takes the stand at the legislative halls to just sob her little heart out, about how the "nasty satanic homos are corrupting the sanctity of HER holy marriage", she really means: "I've lost the lie, I've been using to pretend that getting rape was okay, all these years, and now, I look the fool for it!" - and it's counter-part, the justification for exploitation and sexual abuse and rape of the now anti-sexual females, who pressure each other into more and more anti-sexuality, to increase the felt impact of the offence and get more free money, as a replacement for the sexual happiness, they've always been taught/brainwashed into believing, was their entitlement, albeit, they can no longer receive it, due to their anti-sexuality. Is it really that difficult to comprehend, now that you think about it? WARNING WARNING WARNING WARNING INFORMATION HAZARD READ ON ONLY AT YOUR OWN DISCRETION SPOILER FOR DON'T HUG ME I'M SCARED ------------------------------------------------------------------- ...the protagonists destroys the book of all the answers, because they have become aware, that their very existence as character in a show, is contingent, on there being a show for them to be in. Once the drama has been resolved and the show is therefore over, what then? They all die. That's right. The end is the end.

[@YaBoiRocc]

Pride is so much fun, I always try to attend it when it's in Copenhagen. It's seems to be more a celebration of life and happiness rather than sexual orientation (Although I know it's obviously that too), you tend to see a lot of people, especially young people, who aren't gay, who join in to support and celebrate with everyone. To me, that is arguably one of the my favourite things about our country. It's a true "love thy neighbour" mentality that most Danes grow up with.

[@calseto7403]

That is the problem in my opinion, that pride is sometimes taken lightly, it is always very important with measure, it is very important, we must consider that others do not share the same way of thinking, therefore to improve the reputation of the movement, it should always be done with "measure", not mocking beliefs, nor mocking customs, is important that the movement is not a walking prostibulum, (it is one thing to feel pride and another thing to be a degenerate)

[@ibenmatias]

My mom once told me i was gonna find a man like my mom found my dad and which i asked if i found a woman instead (im a Girl) she said it was okay to as long as i was happy with the love, i was soooo happy!

[@RobeTrotting]

Such a sweet example of a loving parent 😃

[@TrekkieGrrrl]

My son is transgender and I don't *think* anyone has ever yelled anything at him. I hope not. He looks like any other young man, so how would anyone know? Also it's nobody's business whom you love. As long as it's legal (consenting adults!), who cares? :) I have a lot of gay colleagues. Most are quite open about it, and it's just not an issue.

[@thevalbjrn4417]

Mostly this is true about trans people but sadly where are still people who dont accept it. My ex is non-binary and their patents didnt accept them at all, thankfully everyone els in their life did. But we do still have work to do here

[@TrekkieGrrrl]

True. Some people need more time to adjust, I guess. I will never ever understand how parents can disown their choldren for being gay or transgender or anything. They's still the same person!!! And hopefully still the kid you love! I don't get it. I just don't.

[@thevalbjrn4417]

@@TrekkieGrrrl they got lots snd lots of time, they still havent come around now 3 years later sadly :/ I also will never understand why some just wont accept and respect others

[@RobeTrotting]

He's lucky to have such a loving mom. America is lagging behind, but it seems like the future of a more accepting culutre is within reach for Americans 😃 Thank you so much for your comment and sharing this.

[@TrekkieGrrrl]

Sadly I think some of it is caused by religion. And I suppose that's one of the good things about Denmark being largely non-religious. Religion just isn't something you flaunt. You may have your beliefs (and many do), but they keep it private. And thus it would seem odd if you started a crusade here against gays and trans ect. But of course there is homophobia and hate crimes here. Nobody wants to acknowledge it though - partly, I think from disbelief. "This doesn't happen here" And while refusing to acknowledge reality is bad, it's also in a way good that the whole concept of hate crimes is so alien to MOST people.

[@Lorentari]

At 1:30 I was like: "Do most people care in Denmark". Literally 5 seconds later the word "indifferent" comes up xD

[@lagoni8741]

Haha 👍

[@KoskotOwl]

I just realised that i grew up in a very queer friendly school. In my old class some had lesbian parents, one had a transgender mom. When we grew up a bit more, a lot was beginning to exsplore their own sexuality including me. My friend in particular is very open about. Im so greatful growing up in such a open space ^^.

[@Randomdentandthebowlofpetunias]

I really want to commend you guys for your approach to danish culture and your willingness to understand the country and its people. as someone with a degree in history (and as a regular Dane) I love the fact you really emerge yourself in a topic, include and work with different museums in your meditation on your channel. On that note, you’ve probably heard about it (but just in case you haven’t) you really should check out KØN (the former women’s museum) in Aarhus, they have a really cool exhibition that’s kinda related to this videos topic, called ‘Gender bend’. It’s partly interactive and lets you play with the gender concept. And it’s really worth a visit. I respect the work you put into your videos! They are really enjoyable :)

[@thedriftzone3908]

Great video guys. Inspirational. What do you record your video on?

[@Sigart]

I was really shocked when I realised in 2012, that Denmark didn't already have complete marriage equality and that we were just then having it included in law.

[@CarlAlex2]

We probably never will - marriage is a privilege. As an example - if I wanted to give my brother all my money he would have to pay income tax on the amount (most of the money actually). I can marry a random guy from the street and give him all my money without paying any taxes. If I could marry my brother I could also give him all my money without paying any taxes, but I cannot marry my brother. I dont think you would find many who woul think siblings should be allowed to marry. There is nothing in the law any more about sex (you are not entitled to have sex with your spouse any more) and I dont think there ever was anything about love. Its all about legal obligations and rights like the right to transfer unlimited wealth without taxation. And for some reason it was only Folkekirken that was forced to perform same sex marriages - none of the other religious communities allowed to perfom legally binding marriages have to. Personally I think they should have let the members decide it (I think they would have done so - I would have voted yes) instead of some politicians virtue signalling.

[@Harni891]

@@KurtFrederiksen Churches are not national you clown! Its a private instute and you can just go and sign out of the church!

[@CarlAlex2]

@@KurtFrederiksen people who are married can transfer wealth unlimiteed without taxation - no other persons can do that. A man is also the father of children born by his wife during marriage by law. And no they dont have to own everything in common. They can each have property the other cannot dispose of in any way. If this isnt a priviledge given that there are still restrictions on who can and cannot marry, I dont know what would be. I also note that the contributions to all other recognized religious communities than the Peoples Churh are tax deductible and that the tax value of the church tax its members pay are A LOT larger than the governments expenditures on the church, so while the constiturion states that the state must support the peoples church its in reality more the other way around. It was also intended since 1849 that the church should be regulated by a sepparate constitution (written in the constitutions § 66) that the politicians for some odd reason still havent been able to come up with. Note that the chuch ceased to be a national chuch with the constitution in 1849 and became the chuch of the Danish people - should the church cease to be the peoples church (less than 50% membership) the states obligation to support it will cease (though I serioulsly doubt the state would accept the huge loss of tax income this would imply if they chose to - snd we havent even touched the issue of the church properties taken by the state that would then aslo have to come up). And it cannot preach whatever it wants - it has to align with the Augsburg Confession. The members can off course believe what they want, but I fail to see why anyone whose beliefs differ would pay the taxes to be a member.

[@keldmarstrandwang3161]

Hi Mike & Dereke, If you ever comes to Lemvig area in Denmark (on the westcoast of Jylland) then let me know. My husband and I lives here, and it could be nice to meet you guys. We have been married since 2014, and a couple since 2011. We are a Danish/Chinese couple. At the moment my husband works for the Danish Embassy in Beijing, but will return later this year. Kind regards Keld Marstrand Wang

[@RobeTrotting]

That would be fantastic Keld! Lemvig is actually a place we will definitely be back to and will certainly reach out!

[@keldmarstrandwang3161]

@@RobeTrotting fantastic:-)

[@dth1326]

Awesome and cool video! I did not know the differences for LGBTQ+ rights in the US and Denmark in detail, but it is nice to be informed :). Glad you two like it here in Denmark with us danes. Looking forward to more videos from you!

[@readyfreddie1256]

i really appreciate how you acknowledged the fact that you're still very privileged compared to other members of our community (especially trans people and people of colour). and I actually didn't know we had any kinds of lgbt exhibits at the national museum, that's so neat!

[@GreenLarsen]

It made me giggle when Mette said "modern danish history.. 1600 on" ^^

[@benedictewrstad8379]

That is modern 😛

[@rikke8141]

that is how historians define modern history, though some do go as late as 1750 for when they consider modern history.

[@GreenLarsen]

@@rikke8141 I might have to explay my amusement. It was the fact that more or less all US history is "modern" that made me giggle

[@Rasendebolge]

Thank you guys for this video I learned some pretty cool stuff about my own country in this video 💙

[@RobeTrotting]

That’s great! Thanks so much for watching and we’re glad to share some of this great history - Denmark has a special place in lgbt history so it’s really fun to highlight that 🇩🇰😊

[@tsndrene4rl]

You guys are too charming! Great and informative video (nice visuals too!). Happy Pride🏳️‍🌈

[@unfoldingspace8]

I kinda really hope you make a video when we get to August and World/Copenhagen Pride 2021.

[@kjohnk69]

This video made me happy and somewhat proud as a dane and bi. I am happy that you guys love it here! Great video!

[@SommerHouse.]

This is very enlightening, As I am Danish living in the UK. I have to agree, with lots of the comments, that religion has a big part in the US, as In the UK as well. And sadly people getting called names and bullied in Denmark too. Overall I hope and believe that the majority, do not care if you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend, you fell in love with a human, not what gender they are.

[@TerencePetersenAjbro]

The word "kæreste" is used of both sexes and is a neat word in Danish for boyfriend/girlfriend.

[@kinagrill]

we'd sound like Gollum after a while tho cuz 'Kærste' literally just means 'Beloved'.

[@TerencePetersenAjbro]

@@kinagrill In Sweden they use the word "sambo" which is also gender neutral. Not so romantic as kæreste though.

[@benedictewrstad8379]

@@TerencePetersenAjbro Sambo is for a couple living together without being married. Here in Norway we use both - gender neutral kjæreste for boyfriend/girlfriend and samboer about the other part in a couple living together without being married (also gender neutral)

[@SoonGii]

This was such a great and informative video! :)

[@RobeTrotting]

Thanks so much for watching, we’re really happy to hear that you enjoyed it! 😊

[@flyjet787]

Fascinating. Great video!

[@bryanwoolnough3777]

Love you guys. Great videos...keep doing what you're doing. As well as shouting out northern Europe (including the UK) for its inclusivity, you are great representatives to break our misconceptions about Americans. Plus, so lucky, Copenhagen is great. Visit Manchester if you get the chance...very progressive UK city in a lot of ways. Plus if you're now used to Danish rain, you'll fit right in. Good job boys x

[@HankHopeless]

With a total focus on being gay, there seems to be something nobody mentions : Your sexuality is only a PART of who You are as a person. It's ONE piece of the puzzle, that makes a whole human being - Not THE thing that defines You

[@melvin1384]

Bro, of course? This video is about gay rights? What did u think they would talk about, bunnies?

[@michaeljensen612]

Hi 😃. I have been watching your videos for quite some time, and I love your vids, keep them comming 💪. I do have a questions, Are you thinking about adopting, Are the rules the same in the US as in denmark?. Best regards Michael

[@RobeTrotting]

Hej Michael, Thanks so much for watching and your kind words! We will keep the videos coming for sure 😃🇩🇰 Right now kids aren’t in our plan, but adopting later in life could be. In the meantime we have 4 awesome nephews and we love being “super uncles” for them - they’ve all got Danmark football jerseys and get a lot of other attention from us when we are here and in the States 😃

[@alenkaerpsykologi]

Brilliant, you guys! Thanks.

[@storm4972]

But then we have the people at my age (13-14) who uses "bøsse" (gay) as a bad word and some of the guys saying like "cath the ball or your gay". Also I have experienced a bit of hate because I'm non-binary and the do not understand it. I would say that it is more acceptable to be gay than trans in Denmark because trans is a bit new to Danes.

[@RobeTrotting]

Thank you so much for sharing a bit about your experiences. From people we know, it seems like you’re right about gender identity being less understood in Denmark and non-binary people facing more challenges and bigotry because of that. If history is the guide, things will hopefully change soon and brave people like you living their true and authentic self helps with that advancement. Thank you so much once again for adding to this important conversation because we are not able to properly speak about experiences around gender identity, but your comments will help others gain understanding 😊

[@eydnamortensen5985]

Dear Storm, Cool name btw! My oldest child is non binary and bisexual, they are 17 and goes to gymnasium. In their class there are several gay / bi/ pan sexuals and another non binary person. Just hang in there sweetie, it will get better as your classmates get older and more mature. You are valid! And you probably not the only LGBTQ in your class. Some people just take longer to figure out what they are. My youngest is 9 and a lesbian. She gives zero fucks about people’s opinions. Kids and teens can be cruel, most of them will grow out of it. Those that don’t aren’t worth your time. You be you, everyone else is taken anyway. Love from Esbjerg

[@mydream8329]

Children are children. Children are stupid and uneducated. You need to resist a few years and everything will change. I was pretty homphobic in middle school but when I was around 16 I started to understand gay people weren't ill or anything like that

[@kjonnen]

I'm non binary too and I've never come out because of the lack of understanding for trans/non binary people here, I live on Falster and I will say in the more rural parts like here, homophobia and trans/enby phobia is still a very big problem, the amount of insane and hateful views i've encountered from people confiding in me because they though I was cis-het is staggering, this has just led me to be really, really nervous to be myself in the area where I live, because I really don't want to be harassed or assaulted in public, so I agree that Copenhagen is a better place where you can be different without facing too much overt hate and discrimination but the rural parts of the country like Falster where I live definitely has a much longer way to go before we're there and people don't have to live in fear and/or flee to the bigger cities to be themselves without fear.

[@kenster8270]

@@eydnamortensen5985 Do you mean that your youngest is 19 or 9?

[@rubenforlagetrhodos1987]

How time flies - we have come a long way since we published the Danish edition of "the frontrunner" by Patricia Nell Warren back in 1977! - but there is still some way to go - and some of the transexual/gender-related rights are far more complicated to legislate about as it overlaps or even clashes with other legislation on completely different areas. I'm hopeful that we eventually will get there too. You make great videos and it is cool to hear your take on Denmark - hope your employment will allow you to stay and enjoy Denmark for as long as wish.

[@marcuscole4394]

Very nice video presentation. I was visiting Denmark in the 1980's and early 1990's. I had friends who worked at the AIDS Linien in Copenhagen. Wonderful people doing wonderful work. I still have friends who live in Denmark and the last time I was there was in 2018. One of my dear friends passed away years ago and I miss him so much, we often visited one another as I was livinig in San Francisco in those years. Still love Denmark, still love the people there and love the way of life that you are now experiencing. Always wanted to live there, but the time never seemed to manifest itself. So happy for your both. Continued well being, with warm regard.

[@kennethluddi8929]

Just love, you guys 🤗 And love the content on your Vlog 😃

[@shippou21]

As a non English native speaker from a country that also a lot of the words are gender neutral, I also got annoyed in the beginning when learning English, like why I have to remember two words for exactly the same things. But then now I'm learning Spanish, jaja.

[@piotrkilian8985]

Then trying to learn polish would drive you crazy 😂

[@antonse78963]

I feel like the current adult generation in America, is equivalent to the former generation in Denmark, when it comes to this topic. The things you describe about adult Americans sounds very familiar to the way danish elder people talk about it. And following the logic, I think that the next generation of the US will be much more Danish. : )

[@RobeTrotting]

Hey Anton, we really hope you're right. We have a lot of hope when we look at the younger generations in America 😀🇩🇰

[@145Nudel]

Another great video 😊 When you told the rainbow story I was so moved 💕

[@RobeTrotting]

Such a beautiful way to explain pride to a kid! We love telling the story

[@thewhitedove8520]

Great video guys!

[@noobolesen1831]

Danish people don't really care that much about it

[@kepler-37b16]

Neither swesish people.

[@alicenielsen5304]

For many years our queen has invited couple for her huge dinnerparties No matter their gender. We also had the much respected American ambassador Rufus Gifford who married his as respected husband here in Denmark. We miss them Big time!

[@HKI82]

I love you both and your videos. The way you talk and your minic

[@brianchauncey1547]

Thank you for this guys! I'd LOVE to travel there with my boyfriend someday!

[@RobeTrotting]

We hope you guys get to, it’s a really great country to explore and Copenhagen is super fun. We have a gay Copenhagen video too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eWbccmpqnM-lf7c

[@DanishDelight77]

I think Denmark is very default straight ... although when you do correct them, they are oh, ok ... and the conversation continues. ... once again, thanks for a fab video ... I love them as an LGBT Dane.

[@marycanary86]

i mean, statistically straight is just so much more likely. im not sure why so many of people insist on being mad about that. people guess at whats more likely, are corrected and move on.

[@Wishbone1977]

@@marycanary86 Indeed. We're human, that's how our brains work. In fact, that is pretty much the exact function our large brains evolved to perform: to remember past experiences and use those experiences to make assumptions about new events. Sometimes those assumptions are wrong because life is a complicated and diverse phenomenon, but that doesn't mean that we can just stop making assumptions altogether. It also doesn't mean that assumptions are inherently "bad" in any way, as long as people are willing to adjust when an assumption turns out to be incorrect.

[@Chameleonen]

To be honest, why do you not promote the The ambassador of America, getting married in Denmark to his boyfriend?

[@RobeTrotting]

True, we could have added that. I'm sure we will make a more detailed video of the LGBT History of Denmark and include that aspect. It's a cool thing that ties both country's history together.

[@matematikmedhr.svendsen3842]

Guys, again, as commented on another of your posts: you are awesome !!!

[@RobeTrotting]

Thank you so much, we really appreciate the encouragement and your kindness, big hugs 😃🇩🇰

[@PukMaxi]

This is so wholesome. Bless you 🙏❤️

[@boduholm8463]

The "Ok Boomer" t-shirt took me back to the movie Crimson Tide and ballistic missile submarines. But I don’t think that was the point. ;)

[@citizenVader]

I grew up with gays in my family, and they are some of the dearest people I have the pleasure of being related to. It has never been a issue for me, but I still think there is a lot of fobia against homosexuality.

[@lw1084]

you guys are doing such great videos! well done!xx

[@RobeTrotting]

You are so kind! Thank you 😀

[@redeutteok1]

I'm currently living in Thailand but planned to study there next year. This is very informative!

[@juuk3103]

I'm a straight guy mixed South African and Danish living in DK, and i have two friends that are gay. Im so indifferent about peoples preferences, what speaks is your character. I love the Danish way of thinking and the collectiveness. I also joined pride parade with alot of my straight friends just too support and ofc drink and party. I just want everyone to be happy and have a great time, people should be able to do whatever they want as long as they aren't hurting anyone... Also funny thing is i have seen one or two of your videos before and didn't even know that you where gay until now!

[@RobeTrotting]

You’ve got such a great mindset - thanks for such a wonderful comment! Pride in Denmark really is such a great affair to share support across the whole country - at least that’s how we feel it 🇩🇰😃 thanks also for watching!

[@ninirossau2304]

pride is a celebration of love. and a party where you can bring small children and just have fun.

[@ccilie7956]

Whenever youtube suggests me a video from you two I always press play. It would be nice to get a coffee someday and discuss cultural differences. Queer literature and history. Sincerely a (bi) cultural communications major & librarian.

[@testcorecom]

Nice video as always.

[@RobeTrotting]

Thank you! So glad you enjoy our work!

[@klara5975]

🙋‍♀️ hi from a danish lesbian 🏳️‍🌈 ❤️✨

[@RobeTrotting]

Pleasure to meet you Klara! Glad to meet another member of the family 😋

[@RobeTrotting]

Hi Klara 😀🇩🇰 Thanks for watching

[@klara5975]

@@RobeTrotting ;) love you guys content ❤️

[@annestovgaard681]

i think that religion makes the difference? if the culture is not to religious its more open. Religion are holding back countries and ppl in old silly ideas, i still hope for John Lennon´s dream to come true "Imagine" :-) love your videos, always makes me happy.

[@melanp4698]

Agreed, religion is the root of all (most) evil. It's pretty easy to see that there's an unmistakable correllation around the world.

[@Rasendebolge]

I dont really agree about that. I strongly believe in god and his love for ALL of us no matter our sexuallity. Religion teaches us to be kind to one another and yes I do know that there are passages that contradict that. But every religious book is written by HUMANS from centruies ago and it is human nature to fear what we dont understand. I personally dont need to live my life by the letter of the bible because I believe that god is around us and we only need to look inside ourselfs to know how he/she want us to treat others. I wish you both a very nice weekend 💙

[@melanp4698]

​@@Rasendebolge I said that religion is the root of all evil, not that faith is. Having faith in something greater is perfectly fine, but following religious scriptures fanatically is not a good thing. Religion is created to control the massed and is not open for interpretation. Everyone should form their own opinion on how they want to believe in god, and not base it on what some crazy person wrote a thousand years ago. What you say is very nice, but you're definitely in the minority. If more people shared your mindset, the planet would be a much better place.

[@annestovgaard681]

@@Rasendebolge When an intelligent person belives in a God, it can fill their hearts with love and make them do kind things. But if you combine ignorance with superstition, it can be fatal. Religion has actually put beautiful, free minded cultures, back in the middleages. Not all read and understand the bible like you do, but i wish they would :-) thx and you to.

[@Rasendebolge]

@@annestovgaard681 I totalt agree with you om that part, but I also think that it comes from a place of a fear for the unknown and a lake (is that spelled correcly?) of curiosity. I am a scaredy cat myself but I am also extremely curious about most things and I think that has helped med alot. Plus my mom has raised me to think independently and not blindly believe everything I hear or read. Thank you very much for you kind words☺️

[@KussePikken666]

Thank you Guys. This is important information.

[@RobeTrotting]

It was our pleasure to make this, thank you so much for watching 😃🇩🇰🏳️‍🌈

[@sarahrok9555]

Glad for at høre at I har så god en oplevelse af danmark i forhold til hvordan vi vægter “frihed til at elske hvem vi vil” og som i selv fortæller om, er vi stolte af at kunne opdrage vores børn til tolerance og forståelse og næstekærlighed. (Bor i kbh og har to børn) love you video, and saw it to see if I needed to reflect on anything regarding danish ldbtq community

[@GryLi]

Love that you expirenced us Danes as open.

[@RobeTrotting]

We feel very comfortable living our lives openly here 😀🇩🇰

[@burhanuddinsakarwala5033]

I cannot fathom raising a child in the United States or in my native country. I keep wondering, what if my son were gay, or my daughter a lesbian? How would I raise my kids in a society that cannot accept them? This keeps me up at night sometimes, and this is why I want to move to Denmark.

[@ThanaPhaPloen]

Thank you for share

[@Vincent-ed6ge]

I am a gay guy from Denmark and I didn't even know most of these things in the video. Very informative

[@Harni891]

Sorry but one who lived my entire life in the rural parts of Denmark, then i never seen any that is against gays or lesbians or trans etc. That might have been the case in the 70s and 80s but not anymore at all. In fact in the rural areas was were the churches allowed em to get marriaged, were as the bigger churches was against it at start.

[@RobeTrotting]

That's so great to hear! I guess we should clarify too that we've only ever heard of it as isolated incidents or comments, but it seems much more common all over Denmark to just stay out of the business of judging anyone else. Hopefully all of America will get to that point too 🇩🇰😀

[@MaximusMeridiusDK]

You guys should go and have a chat with Jim Lyngvild, about being a (very) public figure, having convictions and being willing to stand up for them, even if it mean ending up in a public storm. He believes in the old norse gods, and has built his own viking castle. He's also a well known photographer, designer (he did several museum exhibition, also for the national museum), and soooo much more. And he has a couple of adorable dogs 😉😉

[@RobeTrotting]

That would be so cool! We have heard of him and looked him up just now - if you have any connections we would LOVE to meet him for a chat and collaborate (maybe a video on religion in DK). Otherwise we may have to tweet at him until he agrees haha.

[@MaximusMeridiusDK]

@@RobeTrotting - I'm afraid I'm not that well connected, so tweeting or messenger is probably your best bet... Thanks for a great channel and have a fabulous weekend 👍😀👍

[@TKDDLJ09]

@@RobeTrotting Don´t do it. He is such an asshole for the majority of time. and treats his employees like they are less than him and he purposely provokes people and gets angry when people or critics don´t like something he does. He will completely drag you through the mud if someone disagrees with him, especially if a critic doesn't like his work. He then proceeds to disrespect them and call the names, and then gets all hurt and sad when people then call him names, even though he does it himself. He is a hypocrite.

[@ianbutler8776]

Love is love! Way to go Denmark. Thank you for sharing x

[@RobeTrotting]

Our pleasure! Thank you for watching Ian 😊

[@liskofod8711]

I love this video 💞 and Hope you feel a LOT og LOVE here 🤗🇩🇰