Entitled Sister claims her DOG DYING is the SAME GRIEF as my HUSBAND DYING - Reddit Podcast

[@jerk]

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[@nickred1016]

Look I get that dogs arnt humans but yeah I hear some one tells me somthing like that to me about my dog ima run some fades

[@tupfensturm]

I think someone's stealing you guys' videos? Or at least the complete style I suppose.

[@kadeヤギ]

​@@tupfensturmnah it's their shorts channel

[@tupfensturm]

@@kadeヤギ No, I mean as in a whole ass channel lol 'You're the jerk' it's called.

[@yourface7179]

So husband is living and breathing but a dog isn't 😂

[@Belladonna1894]

I lost my dog last summer. Two weeks later, we lost my Dad. Losing my dog hurt, no denying that. Losing my Dad, worst thing I’ve been through so far. There is no comparison, except that both hurt. If this is the sister’s first taste of loss, I can understand she is overwhelmed with grief. However, she should be aware enough to not compare the two. Now, if that dog is the only family she has (not counting the siblings and parents) I can understand how it could feel the same to her. But like I said, she should be aware enough not to compare the two.

[@sodorflubbs5000]

I’m sorry but for some it can be the same as loosing a close family member. Our cats became like children in our family. However, I wouldn’t have made the kind of comparison like that to anyone.Especially, someone who’d lost someone

[@Belladonna1894]

@@sodorflubbs5000 I allowed for that. If she has no one else it can feel the same. I have friends who have dogs and they treat them like their children. They took bereavement leave from work when they lost one of them. If I hadn’t lost my Dad so close after, losing my dog would have been much worse. It was with my first. But the grief for my Dad eclipsed the grief for my dog. My only true issue is she should not have made the comparison. No one has the right to tell anyone else how much grief to feel over a loss.

[@ebaadahmad]

It hurts. I also have lost family members and it hurts

[@Gration_]

@@Belladonna1894 Even if she has someone else, it can feel the same. Like....How the hell can you say "No one has the right to tell anyone else how much grief to feel over a loss" right after saying this, cause it's literally saying you shouldn't feel it as much without a condition? Dogs are with people from when they're kids all the way to them being adults. Hell, that dog could have been with her for years longer than her sister's relationship. This is like saying you losing a friend shouldn't hurt as much as losing your husband, even though you've literally grown up together. From what she said, she has like 3 year olds, so this relationship could be like 5-7 years old. just as an example, my dog's been with me for 13.

[@draysoncrook4898]

My cat had to be put down because she wouldn’t come out of a seizure (she has seizures)

[@HeavensEqualGreatSage]

tbh some people treat their dog's like their children so it was kind of like comparing her child's death to your husband's death which are pretty equal in weight and even if she didn't consider her dog that dear it was for her her dog's death to her brother-in-law's death so yeah

[@lelysio5688]

EXACTLY! Its also important to say that dogs DO love their owners. VERY MUCH. The thing is that its probably not the best thing to say to someone grieving. The other way around however its unacceptable to downplay her sisters loss of her dog, which clearly meant the world to her. Imo Everybody sucks here.

[@paulandrews5611]

No!! No, no, no, no, just no!! Stop it, please!! Pets are, and can be, very important to a person. I get that. But in no circumstance is it comparable to losing a spouse. If for some reason you feel they are the same, please stop and reevaluate you relationships. They are not and will never be the same. Important? Yes! The same? Never.

[@freyshaw4737]

@@paulandrews5611 oh my God mate, get a life i’ve seen you comment on other comments like this

[@HeavensEqualGreatSage]

@@paulandrews5611 I dont think either person is in the right here. I'm justifying the sister's actions from her pov

[@lelysio5688]

@@paulandrews5611 some people can very well be just as emotionally attached to their pets as others are with their spouse. I neither habe a spouse nor a pet, but if i had to choose between never having a spouse or never having a pet, id choose not having a spouse.

[@velveteenrabbit5940]

I gotta say I love my cats, my life revolves around them I work hard, overtime at work regularly, to make sure I always have enough money to support their needs, and medical bills if they come up If I lost them my world would cave in And Id still never dream of comparing any loss Id suffer there to the loss of someones LIFE PARTNER

[@lelysio5688]

I do not Think its that far fetched, but this might be because i see romantic relationships in a different way because im aromantic.

[@relent-lass7510]

I love my cat, I’m always scared something will happen

[@evavocative6975]

I lost my cat about two months ago. I did grieve, but I would have NEVER told someone who had a personal loss of a spouse/child/parent. Yes, losing my cat hurt and I was very upset, but there's no way I would say someone grieving a family member is on the same level. I could go out and get another cat if I wanted a furry friend to comfort me. (Not ready to yet, but I have started looking into to a local shelter who has a lot of cats they're looking for homes for) about it being possible in the eventual future. The sister could do the same for a dog when she's ready. OP lost the LOVE OF HER LIFE. Sister is being absolutely insensitive.

[@KadeBoucher-nr6lu]

Story 1: of course there is a comparison wether it's a pet a spouse a parent your kid an uncle an aunt a grandparent a cousin a friend they're all losses a dog is never just a dog it's every bit a family member as a spouse is and sometimes spouses can just be with you because you could be rich but a dog doesn't even understand all of that because all it knows and ever will know is love unconditional love and even if a dog can't do all the things a spouse can it can still love you as much as is physically possible

[@Frightmarelordofthenightmares]

I remember losing my Grandma last year in October😭

[@redditreads1878]

I’m sorry 😞 hope things will get better ❤️‍🩹

[@edwardisom2618]

I have lost two dogs but I lost my wife of 35 years 22 years ago and it still bothers me a whole lot more than losing both dogs together. He was your part but I will never get over losing my wife and the pain is a whole lot, worse than losing a dog.

[@draysoncrook4898]

I understand the OPs pain in the first story

[@KadeBoucher-nr6lu]

Yeah she needs to take into account her sister's feelings as well she shouldn't be taking out her sadness on her sister like this she was only trying comfort her and share her loss to try and say I know what you're going through losing someone that close to you

[@jhmar1121]

First story: both people messed up a bit the sister tried to compare what they were going through but the OP said that losing a husband was worse than losing a dog

[@jtlarsen05]

They never said it was worse

[@Listentotheread]

Regarding the dad, perhaps helping him find some help, because he does sound depressed, might help better than nagging or just leaving him alone. It sounds like your dad is suffering. Calling him lazy isn’t going to help. Be there for him during this time and find ways to actually help him, not harm him further.

[@jennyhamilton535]

I lost my service dog at 17 years old and we were a team for 15 years 3 months later lost my dad to 3 cancers he died a month after finding out losing my dad is much harder than a pet that someone can replace overtime but my dad I can't replace

[@jackie1699]

I use to sleep w/ my friends all the time on sleepovers when I was small. 😅😬

[@JiminieTae]

Please tell me the narrator was trolling or something in story one because WHAT😭😭😭 I get comparing the loss of a dog and a husband may not have been the best thing to do in that situation but a loss is a loss. You cannot be that insensitive😭😭

[@Demonic_Culture_Nut]

Story 1 -- ESH. Pets are just as much family as a husband/wife. Þat doesn't justify þe sister pushing OP into visiting graves multiple times a day, þat makes þem a jerk, but OP's equally a jerk. Also, animals do have þe capacity for feeling love. Just because þey can't communicate in a way humans can universally understand doesn't mean þey can't. When a cat sits on you or show þeir belly, þat's when you know þey love and trust you.

[@paulandrews5611]

No! Pets are NOT they same as a spouse. They can be very important and loved very, very much, but they are not, and will never be, the same. If they are, there's more problems than I can help with.

[@freyshaw4737]

@@paulandrews5611bro get a life it’s sad

[@lelysio5688]

@@paulandrews5611 and another Post insulting someone with that view. That makes what, 6 now? Ive stopped counting.

[@CaptainTom_EW]

3rd story: DIVORCE THIS WOMAN YOU DUNCE!!!!! SHE'S CHEATING ON YOU, CAN'T YOU SEE IT???? Man, sometimes people deserve ro be cheated on for being dumb and giving second and third chances or more He knows what his wife is doing but is like "Uh well they aren't kissing on the mouth or funkin" IT DOESN'T MATTER OP!! THIS IS NOT "SOFT" CHEATING IT'S CHEATING

[@jonnneydeep948]

Big fan

[@raerose2278]

Me too! 🥰

[@whq401]

bruh I like am I the jerk better than am I the genius.

[@raerose2278]

I love both! ✌️

[@wadd8813]

I think the first story has two assholes. Sure, the sister is being really weird about it and not acknowledging her sisters' grief, but at the same time, the sister lost someone she loved too, a pet is part of the family and I don't think we know exactly how much the sister loved her dog. The sister is still in the wrong for saying that it's the same grief, but the op is being insensitive by kind of saying that her sister shouldn't grieve because her pain is worse. You shouldn't gatekeep grief. Everyone handles it differently. Also, don't say getting a new dog will fill the hole in their heart. That's like saying, "Get a new husband to fill the hole in your heart." It's really insensitive and hurtful

[@lindamulhall1055]

You seem to be handling your grief appropriately. It must be horrible. Your sister needs a therapist.

[@mrweybanana3210]

Lost my dog two weeks ago

[@Sendvic-666]

2:56 and OP can always get another husband what's your point.

[@freyshaw4737]

Facts

[@GabeLeak]

The way he separates a dog as an animal and a human, which is also an animal, is pretty comical to me. Both breathe and mean something to someone, so it should go without saying that you shouldn't degrade someone who puts the loss of their dog on the same level as the loss of a person. Dogs are objects and neither are people

[@sharkay6102]

i know loosing a husband is wayyy wors than losing a dog but you didnt have to be so harsh about it jeez when you get a dog it sticks to you jezzzzz rude

[@Moki_Mocha]

For me, losing my beloved fellow animals is just as painful as losing a beloved human. I had many people and animals in my life either die or get ripped away from me. I see humans and other species the same. I see someone with a lower IQ just as equal as someone who has a higher IQ. I see all people with differences equal too. So to me, I see no difference between an animal or a human when it comes to equality. Many of you may be offended by this, but I was locked away and treated the same way one does to a dog. They saw me as someone who can be provoked and locked me away for that. I'll give you a context of why this happened to me- you guys don't know me unless you saw my comments on here. If you're wondering, I'm 17 and I was adopted at 3 1/2. I tried to... take an early train to the afterlife -if that makes since- when I was 6 and I went to a psych hospital because of this. Let's just say my idea was to get closer with my new family after thinking they would hate me the same way as my bio family. Eventually, I continued this out of habit. After basically being raised in hospitals, I didn't see my house as my home. I saw hospitals as my home. The staff were my parents and the residents were my siblings. Without a schedule, I'd go into a kind of...blank like state. I just waited for instructions. I was too overwhelmed with even a little freedom. I tried to self-exit my life to alert my parents and make them send me away again so I could go back "home." I got my "treatment" and I have not had any self-checkout attempts anymore for 2 years. I'm in a foster home now. But, I still see myself when I look at animals. I now see them as equals and I see them more pure and kind than the selfish human-kind could ever wish to be. In my eyes, savage "animals" is what we are. We have a choice, we don't have to kill each other, we can work to get money and trade that money for food. A lion cannot negociate with a zebra if they were to survive- nor can the zebra negociate anymore than the lion could. They have to play dirty to live, we do not. So, we are the true savages. Anyways, that's just WHY I disagree with this first story. Losing someone you love is still losing someone you love. It does not matter if they are human or another species. If you love them and the pass away, it hurts just as much. The only thing I can say is that losing certain relationships can hurt more than others. Losing my partner would hurt me more than losing a friend. So losing the husband can hurt more than losing a companion, but the species should not matter. If you love them, it will hurt all the same. One last thing I have learned from my 17 years of life (I'm not a wise elder, but I've been through a lot more than the average teen has- I say average, but not all. Many of my friends I've met have been through worse than me) is that you cannot feel a certain amount of pain or joy without feeling the opposite. I felt little joy when I was younger, so I couldn't feel the opposite amount of pain just yet. When I met my partner, I felt the most joy I could imagen, but being kicked out of the placement and being separated has put me in more pain than I would ever have felt if I were to have no met my partner. So, the sister has not felt the same amount of pain from what we know. So, all she can do is try to understand with all the pain she's learned so far. Anyways, that's just how I see it. The comment sections are for opinions and feelings, not just facts. We will all see this differently through different experiences. I just wanted to share mine to shed light on some other ways of viewing it. If you've been through a similar part of life as I have or are feeling like self-exiting from your own life, you can get through this. I care for you all, please be kind to everyone and everything, and that kindness has a good chance of being returned.

[@hugznotdrugz1234]

Everyone deals with death different. I know I’m a crazy cat lady and idgaf. But a little harsh. Being so rude to the sister for grieving the loss of her dog. Yes the sister can discuss how that makes her feel but to act like she shouldn’t feel her feeling of loss is just wrong. I’ve got a kitten that is my world and if anything happened to her I’d be crushed. If someone told me that her loss was nothing compared to the loss of their husband I’d be upset as well. Yes 2 completely different type of loss but doesn’t change how I feel. After several miscarriages this kitten is like a child to me and I’ve formed a bond with her. Don’t under estimate the love people have for their fur babies.

[@World_Bender]

Where can I share my story because I don't know if I am in the wrong or not if anyone knows please tell me thank you if anybody responds.

[@lilithriddle8612]

Story 4: Op you're not the jerk and I agree that your wife cheated on you. But! Due how things started in your Marriage and you two followed your religion and your parents raised you, neither of you got the chance to explore the world after reaching 18 before you both decided to marry. You both got married way too soon. Your wife maybe have been in the closet till Rose showed up. I'm a Christian and my religion was never shoved down my throat growing up. I went to Church, but I explored after 18 and I didn't marry till 31. I am not dismissing what Rose selfishly did, but I am also blaming your parents and Church for pushing that tradition on you both. Religion shouldn't be used to tell our children how to be. I learned to love the sinner, but dislike the sin and not to judge because in the end that is God job. Do your best to be your best everyday. That is what I will be teaching my daughter. To read his word and know what he expects, but to allow my daughter to make mistakes. To grow and be who she is meant to be with God's word. In the end you can only hope you raised the to go the light path and not into the darkness.

[@Cyrus_Nagisa]

Narrator is complety wrong here.. Never disagreed more. Yes to some people their pets are 100% family. Its not "just a dog" to them, and to make the comment of "just get another one" is insulting as hell. Yes the sister of the OP is going a bit overboard, and dragging the OP out is uneccessary, but to discount the pain of the sister because "its just a dog" no, not cool

[@Nasirsfoodandtravel]

I absolutly HATE dogs because they one bit me so I agree with the narriator I HATE THEM (no offense to people that have them tho)

[@Cyrus_Nagisa]

@@Nasirsfoodandtravel go seek help, you need therapy for that. pretty discussing to be that way, i am a cat person. , but i dont hate dogs. i would not tell someone "its just a dog" when they are upset they lost theirs.

[@lelysio5688]

@@Nasirsfoodandtravel hi there. Romance repulsed aroace (aromantic asexual) here. I HATE when someone gets romantic with me. It literally disgusts me and i dont want a QPR (Queerplatonic relationship) either, so you could say id hate it to have a husband.

[@Invisible_Man00]

Hello

[@Lizardovintimilla2]

A dog is not the same as a husband A dog cannot love you back like a husband A dog can't cheat on you like a husband can't

[@MilesEdgeworth129]

That does not, in any way, mean a dog cannot be as important to someone as a spouse. Everyone grieves differently, and has different levels of attachment to certain family members. My dog is my child. My dog means the world to me. And your point "A dog cannot love you back like a husband," is very loaded and flawed reasoning, as it's a different kind of love. Stop trying to invalidate the feelings of fur-parents.

[@Astraplayzrbx]

make full video

[@redditreads1878]

???

[@axolotlgamer615]

Too harsh on the sister of 1 Dogs if you love it sometimes it can be very very very very very hard Lost 2 people i knew well in 2022 Hurt but i think my dog will hurt more as i love my dog so so much

[@dogofwar6769]

Story 1: ehh, people's pets can have a really strong connections to their animals. But it is obviously different than loosing someone you're married to and the OP's sister is just being attention wh*re.

[@freyshaw4737]

Bro, your comment was reasonable until you called her a slur for no reason

[@dogofwar6769]

@@freyshaw4737 ... the reason I called her an attention wh*re is because she's being an *_ATTENTION WH*RE._* She's literally making a false equivalency of the death of her pet and the death of the OP's SO to get more attention for herself. It's freakin' text box example of it.

[@RayanGaming632]

BRO YOU DID NOT FINISH TAKING OUT THE FIRE BY THE END OF THR VIDEO TURN IT OFF IN UR NEXT VIDEO

[@RebzyfanYT]

(You are the jerk) loosing a dog is so sad they're best friend Griefing over my dog that died 4 years ago :v(

[@schimpanse_0079]

I know that some persons feel like their dogs or pets overall are like their children, so I can understand the sister somehow. Although it is pretty wierd to compare a loss with another.

[@KadeBoucher-nr6lu]

No it's not they're all losses just the same

[@ambreenijaz3919]

Day 77 of saying the same thing until I get pinned Karen's getting destroyed is one of the best parts of my life

[@aparnarai3708]

Pin him

[@clericofchaos1]

1st story, yes it's stupid but it's a sign of how screwed up the world has gotten. I can guarantee that this isn't an isolated incident. In our world today it's considered more acceptable to abuse a child then abuse a dog. Story 4, all i can say is "dear penthouse forum". You need to lay down the law with this woman. Either she's with you, you're with BOTH of them, or she's kicked to the curb. It's another sign of the times that there are people who will defend the behavior of the wife and say "She should be allowed to explore her sexuality!"...no she shouldn't, she's married. The only "exploration" she should be allowed to do is with her husband's permission and only if he's present and active.

[@DanDaMan92790]

I'd like to know what abuse has to do with Story #1???

[@clericofchaos1]

@@DanDaMan92790 what's hard to understand about that? A lot of people in the world value animal life over human life, abuse is just a good example.

[@lelysio5688]

Well there are poly/ open relationships where this is ok. Tho that one is clearly not one of them.

[@clericofchaos1]

@@lelysio5688 exactly so kick the bitch to the curb. My way or the highway ya feel me?

[@MatthewCuevasSanchez]

First🎉

[@Regular_Dude_]

First comment on the first comment 😂

[@vixeon_0454]

I’m pretty sure I’ve heard a similar story to the first one. A woman lost her baby and her sister or friend had lost her cat/dog who she had had for a long time. The sister/friend was still grieving after I think a year or two? And the OP told her friend that she she should get over it because it was “just an animal” and that, her grief wasn’t as bad as OP’s since OP had lost a baby. Safe to say the OP got flames in her comments.

[@aab579]

Hi

[@ArtsyAriaHehe]

Story 3: Tbh, if your wife is cheating on your with another persons wife just get with the other husband🤷🏻‍♀️

[@angelaschultze2404]

Am I a jerk you are a jerk. In the first story you are down playing the sister’s grief over the loss of her dog. Sure she maybe over the top but she is grieving too. The loss of a husband is hard especially when there are small children. Grief is still grief no matter what is lost. Downplaying the pain someone is feeling is a jerk move. I lost my beloved emotional support cat 5 years ago after 20 years being together I was told at the moment I needed to grow up and stop grieving because I was an embarrassment mind you I had to put her down due to cancer the day before a convention and was still processing the pain.

[@paulandrews5611]

Grief has levels. Comparing the loss of a spouse to the loss of a dog is honestly crazy. Both are horrible, don't get me wrong, but they are not on the same level. You cannot make the same connection with any animal that you can/should with your spouse.

[@freyshaw4737]

@@paulandrews5611 as I only said on the past two replies, I’ve tried to get a life

[@lelysio5688]

@@paulandrews5611 please stop spamming and harassing everyone who disagrees with you.

[@BwanNotHere]

Sister:trys to be nice by saying she understand's her pain due to being very close to her dog and then her dog suddenly dying Internet:you commited 54 war crimes for that

[@redditreads1878]

I was just going to write this, I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks this

[@captvalstrax]

I was going to say something similar as well. Like for some people their pets are their world as well. I was also upset at how the narrator compared the two. Saying one is a living breathing person and the other is a dog. Like tell me you haven't lost a pet without telling me you have never lost a pet.

[@pamelaphillips3616]

I take offense at everything the narrator said. A dog gives unconditional love regardless of how you treat them. I'm not minimizing the loss of a loved one but true pet lovers form a bond with their pets that only they can understand. It's NEVER "just a dog! They can't simply replace it. It's obvious you'll never have that special pet. My precious pooch, Angel, passed 10 yrs. ago & I STILL grieve for her!

[@paulandrews5611]

You people have lost your collective minds!! Love your animals all you want, I know I do. But there is literally NO COMPARISON between losing a spouse and losing an animal. If they are comparable to you, then you might just be the crazy cat lady at the end of the street. Stop and reevaluate the importance you're placing on connections with animals and focus more on your family. They might appreciate it. And they like it when you pet them too!!

[@KadeBoucher-nr6lu]

WAR CRIMES?

[@mr.twitch4921]

ok i get that you lost your husban but a dog is still a living breathing thing but a dog can still be like a family member

[@D3ltakun]

I mostly consider pets more family then humans. Especially if you have sayd pet for more then 8 years in your life

[@H3xx99]

Probably gonna catch hell for this, but I've had a relationship to a dog that was just as strong as any human. So fuck off with saying that the two losses don't compare. If you're close enough to the dog, then yes it's comparable.

[@strikerdoc_4205]

If you mean what I think you mean you deserve this. Zoophile scum.

[@Nasirsfoodandtravel]

No their not she has KIDS like that not the same you prob don't have kids so you prob don't know how it feels

[@H3xx99]

@@Nasirsfoodandtravel it's sad you've never felt the pure love a dog can have for their human.

[@Nasirsfoodandtravel]

@@H3xx99 No I still don't agree with that sure I HATE dogs but I can understand why people like btem but wat I don't condone is making someone else agree wth you in the case of the sister and op because the sister is forcing her to say that losing a husband and a dog are on the same level I LOVE cats but If I lost one I wold NEVER compare that to someone losing a actual person

[@raymondconcrete]

Question. If you have a SO (a much beloved one as your dog) would you rate your grief to their death equal, above, or below your grief for your dog's death. I'm seriously curious to what comparison you make since you can make this comparison to other's losses.

[@firefly4f4]

Uh, first story: OP ITJ, but in a ESH (Everyone Sucks Here) way INCLUDING the narrator. Pets are family, and it deeply hurts when they're lost. It really does feel like OP is diminishing their sister's loss here, because they actually are comparable. Sister is also a a jerk, but only for trying to get OP to share in the grieving. That's going beyond tacky. Who drags someone to gravesites constantly? Let OP grieve in their own way and be supportive. Narrator: "One is a living breathing person...and the other is a dog." Seriously dude, GFY for that comment.

[@yasmin7903]

I agree. While losing a pet is not the exact same as losing a husband, they are comparable. The sister trying to force her in participating in her constant grave visiting is a pain though and might have caused her outburst. (btw, there are dog graves? In which country? In Germany that is not allowed).

[@firefly4f4]

​​@@yasmin7903 It could be a backyard thing. There are such things as pet cemeteries in some areas; not just in books or TV. Edit: I did adjust my post to also make it clear the sister is also a jerk.

[@blearghu]

Any pet is, by nature, a temporary family member. When you get a pet, there is a built-in time limit that you know going into it. With a spouse, it's normally a life-long commitment. When it gets cut short, it hits a helluva lot harder, because of the time you COULD HAVE had together still. With a pet, you mourn the little amount of time you could have had together, otherwise you're deluding yourself. With a spouse, you are mourning the rest of your life that is now uncertain. When a pet dies, most people will grieve for awhile... Then get a new one. It takes a helluva lot longer to get a new spouse - partly because they not only have to choose to do so, but once again BE chosen by another person. Also, some of OP's words suggest she and her husband had kids. If that's true, then the sister is the only jerk. Losing a family pet is NOT the same as losing a parent - and as the surviving parent, dealing with those is NOT the same.

[@DanDaMan92790]

@@blearghu actually you don't know how long you're gonna have your pet for. Yes they give a general idea of a breed's lifespan, but it's not set in stone, just like a human's lifespan is not set in stone.

[@firefly4f4]

Please note: I made a few edits to my post to clarify my thoughts a bit. I don't think I've substantially changed the substance of my points except for adding that the narrator is also a massive jerk here.

[@kla631]

Story 1: losing a pet you go through the same grief process as losing a person. To some its worse and saying they can always get another dog is really an ahole thing to say.

[@Unbidden00]

I mean, the original póster could always get another husband but nobody is saying that because it’s rude! Same with losing a beloved pet

[@schizophrenicmelancholy2706]

Personally, while losing a husband is definitely a bigger deal, I feel like telling her off at least the way she did was still kinda her being a jerk. Dogs are wonderful things, and losing one, especially as they are put down right in front of you with nothing to heal the reason it is being put down. I just feel like she was just being innocently insensitive, seeing that they both lost someone big in their lives, but not the actual worth of the two.

[@The_Ragequit_Cannon]

It always boils my blood when people try to compare *any* kind of hardship or try to make theirs sound worse than yours. If it were me, I'd have shut that woman down hard. I love animals, don't get me wrong, and have lost my fair share of pets. But I do not consider the loss of a pet as equal to the loss of a spouse

[@pjmacinnes831]

Conversely, just because it's that way for you doesn't make it less valid for someone else. Get over it.

[@dovahkiin5542]

Depends on personal opinion with the first one. I see my horse as my daughter so I imagine it’s the same

[@fluffykitten992]

You can’t tell someone Grieving their dog isn’t the same as them grieving their husband or wife just because is an animal doesn’t mean their not as important to them as a human family member would be everybody grieves differently.

[@orelliaorellia142]

Yes, but at least, the sister should understand that grieving is also a very personal process and that she can't understand what his sister is going through just because she has experienced a loss as well. And she shouldn't try to impose her way of giving onto her sister. Plus she can rely on an adult (her husband) while her sister is suddenly alone with two toddlers to take care of. She is quite insensitive in this way.

[@paulandrews5611]

You can 100% tell someone they are not the same! Because THEY ARE NOT THE SAME!! Have you lost your mind?! Animals can be a very important part of your life, but never as important as a family member, especially a spouse. If you think they are somehow equal, you're delusional, to say the least.

[@DanDaMan92790]

@@paulandrews5611 most people who have pets consider them as a part of their family so there's that 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@Mimi_ownsyouall]

@@paulandrews5611doubt about the family member part, feel like Afew people would dog>certain family members

[@khalborg]

We found OP’s sister.

[@JustYourAverageMilkLover]

„A dog can’t love you back like a husband can” that’s actually one thing that isn’t true. My own dog literally can’t live without me. Like, let’s say she’s sleeping in the living room and I go to the kitchen for a moment. I walk into the kitchen, 5 seconds later I hear the sound of little paws coming towards the kitchen

[@Unbidden00]

Yeah, the dog can love you back even more

[@jackie1699]

exactly and scientists studied that their heart rate increases by 46% when their owner says "I love you"

[@dat49]

Story #1: I am gonna start by saying sorry for your loss. The OP was wrong for saying what she did. Grief is grief I don’t care what anyone says. I lost my mom recently and I am broken. additionally, I lost the family dog, sometime around middle school that’s along time ago for me and I am still broken from that too. It feels the same if you love them with everything you have. The OP should have just said how she wants to greave instead of saying what she said. The OP’s grief does not excuse her from being offensive in this case. FYI, OP a dog will be the only thing that will love you unconditionally besides your parents, they love deeper than ppl, even though the dog can’t read to the kids, it can support them while they read out loud. Also, a dog will take care of you when u sick in other ways, mine wake me up to take a drink when I am sick, the cuddle all around me, they even sit with me when u have to get up and use the bathroom during sickness. You are a dog’s world but only a piece of a husbands world js. Fast forward a few months, when everyone is avoiding the OP because she is still so deep in her grief that they want to protect their peace from her grief record on repeat. What then? The OPs sister is the only person that truly would’ve been there for the OP and understood. One thing I have learned about ppl, is at some point they will stop feeling sorry for you and expect you to move forward regardless if you are ready or not especially if they don’t feel the same as you. I do not think the OP is a jerk but she owe her sister a massive apology.

[@LEG4CYGD]

Story 1: honestly, I wouldn't compare these deaths like that, but it isn't easy to forget a dog by just getting another. And the claims the OP made are pretty wrong in my opinion, yes, a dog can't make soup for you when youre sick, but a dog can be loving. A dog can love a person depending on how you treat them. So overall, yes the sister is a jerk, but I understand how hard losing a dog is. And a dog lives less than another person so it's best to take best care of a dog as possible. But the sister shouldn't be comparing those 2. And losing a husband can be bad, but you can always get another one, just won't be as equal as getting a new dog is. And you never know, it could be someone who you can't trust as much. But still pretty sad to know the sisters dog is gone and so is the OPs husband. Hope they're feeling better I'd say

[@SansandPapyrus802]

for the first story i think its the same of losing the dog and husbend and i think the op is jerk its just really hard to let go of someone you love

[@redditreads1878]

In story 1 the narrator and the OP makes me so angry, like it’s vile to think a Dog/pet can’t love you back. Also I think it’s kinda funny because in a previous video this narrator said a dog should be considered part of the family

[@gabrielfernandes6909]

Different love different, there's no way to compare their pain.

[@captvalstrax]

ESH for story 1 including the narrator for saying "one is a living breathing person and the other...is a dog." Tell me you haven't lost a pet before without telling me you have never lost a pet. Also for just saying to just get another dog, uh uh, it doesn't work like that, you can't just get another dog and fill the void.

[@linkinlog8543]

My dog is absolutely my world. It would be, personally, on the same level as losing my boyfriend or parents. My dog is my child, that’s how i view him. I care for him, i treat him like he is my child. He is my entire world. that being said, you can not compare a loss for one person to another persons loss. But to say that the dog is just an animal is harsh and very cruel. Many folks view pets as members of family and treat them as such.

[@SirPlocks]

Idk if I lose my cat I would be devastated the only person in my family I care about is my younger brother and I would be just as equally devastated if I lost him

[@KadeBoucher-nr6lu]

And lastly when I heard that story I saw red because my dog is my brother from another mother and when he goes I'll absolutely break down and like Olivia from Shakespeare's twelfth night he means that much to me

[@nromk]

People internalize loss differently, sure some people might value people over animals, but people who've lost pets have described the same level as losing people, I'd say yes they are the jerk because you can't tell how someone else internalizes loss.

[@shirintbala]

I feel bad for the poor poster

[@ay_its_ya_boy_uhh]

bruh a dog and somones husband arent the same thing they both hurt alot but still

[@BaxterAndLunala]

Dude, they ARE comparable. It depends on how close you are to them. If you're really close to your dog, as much as you are to your husband, it's very relatable when you lose one.

[@brucejohns4932]

​@@BaxterAndLunala I would argue that they are different kinds of pain but losing a dog is not in the slightest comparable to losing one of if not the most important people in your life

[@ay_its_ya_boy_uhh]

i didnt ask

[@BaxterAndLunala]

@@ay_its_ya_boy_uhh I don't care.

[@ay_its_ya_boy_uhh]

@@BaxterAndLunala i didnt ask if you cared either

[@Jr-shiungHu]

At the end of Covid-19 my mom died it's been 2 years and my rabbit died last month a day before her anniversary. When my mom died I was shell-shocked and took me time to realize my lost then became reoccurring pain. Now I handle it the best I can, but get sad occasionally. When my rabbit died, I cried, and grief with her dead body in my arms on the day off. I moved on easily comparisons, still hurt removing her stuff into storage

[@alpha-sama]

Story 1: To the people who think the loss of a dog is even remotely comparable to losing a family member, let alone your life partner, I would call you furries but that would be insulting to furries. Story 4: OP needs to give up on his marriage, his wife is clearly not in love with him. This is a messed up situation caused by religion in which OP was an unfortunate victim. Likely, the wife is a lesbian but she never figured that out and was forced into marriage way too young due to their religious upbringing. And now that she finally has the freedom to properly explore who she really is, this is the outcome. Be warned, religion destroys everything.

[@MonarchDNick]

Love the first story but don’t say that around John wick about his dog or we are gonna get 4 movies of a retired hitman going beast mode

[@ArcherSci-Fi]

“A dog can’t love you back” THEN WHY DO THE SNUGGLE YOU?

[@jaynoir8937]

See I'm on the fence, I'll never be a people person and I absolutely loved my dog more than I could Ever love a child if I had one. That being said , you cant compare the deaths, but you also cant compare the love. Some people hold a greater value of love for something that others never could. Maybe for her sister that dog was her whole world, I know mine was. Her sister's only mistake in my opinion was just trying to compare their losses. In her mind maybe she was just trying to mourn their losses together.

[@Sketchyiez]

my mom and dad will be getting a divorce and im young enough. IM A MINOR

[@Staticz44]

hmm

[@sir.confident]

I will respectfully disagree with you on the first one. The first OP is the jerk here. Dog or husband, it doesn't matter. Grief is grief. It's a void that can not be filled. Just because it's an animal doesn't mean it can't love you back. You can get a new dog, but to be honest.....you can get a new husband too. But it's not the same if it's not that person you lost. Well, the same kinda applies to pets as well. I couldn't imagine the grief I'd feel if I lost my bearded dragon.

[@queeniethedragon3121]

Grief is different for different people we don’t know what your sister was going through she was probably really attached to her dog as much or more so than u were with ur husband because you could still have family members your really close with. Ur sister shouldn’t have forced her grief into u but u shouldn’t have dismissed hers.She is clearly very upset and u should just be there for each other.Loss of a close pet is heartbreaking but remember this dog was not ur dog u don’t feel about it the way she does. You both should become more mature and apologise for what you have both said and done for each other.

[@crab.78]

I really hope you achieve all your goals this year dude! You're a great creator and such a hard worker! Rooting for you hard this year

[@YTMysteryGames]

To the person in the first story I hope you find happeness I lost my father and my stepdad it hurt alot I still feel pain every day but I'm doing better I finally found happiness and I hope you can

[@mgmpking]

here before 1 million sub | | | V

[@DragonGateDesign]

The wife is having an affair and time for divorce, been in the same situation with my ex wife and her then best friend turned girl friend, time to just move on

[@KaKa-bo5dv]

For the last story I would of gave her an taste of her medicine to cheat too and then divorce her

[@viviennemorgan7217]

i lost my chihuahua because she wasn't feeling well but a few years ago i lost my aunt mickey, uncle michael, my great aunt maggie, my grandmother and my uncle everett.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

but i grieve when it comes to my family members passing

[@oliverthomas373]

200th like!

[@Akari_River]

To be fair a dog is not the same as a husband but it still hurts so she could have talked to her sister calming and say "Hey sorry for your loss but a dog is not the same as a husband so could u please stop treating it as the same its making me feel uncomfortable" and try to make a day each month for you guys to visit your dog and husbands grave at the end of the day you both lost somthing

[@SansandPapyrus802]

and the guy of the am i the jerk made me unsub on how mean he said of dogs because unlike dogs they will always stay and never cheat or anything

[@redditreads1878]

Yep I’ve just unsubscribed too

[@varunaggarwal7867]

Most savage reply for op in story 1: My husband f*cked me Did your dog do the same to you?

[@Godzilla20099]

Well it is possible 🌚

[@Marouli_211]

😂🥥💜

[@coolcatcole3646]

I had to have my cat Cole put down it's heartbreaking yes but their is no way I would compare that to my sister losing her husband

[@Nasirsfoodandtravel]

Yeah these crazy dog lovers are saing that the SISTER is less of a jerk than the op, absolutely ridiculous

[@nicholaskeldon3375]

Story one op is kinda the jerk

[@KadeBoucher-nr6lu]

She's completely the jerk

[@bradsmith8977]

On story 2 if the guy uses the don't shoot the messenger routine and keep his straight and neutral that it came from the higher-ups he can his sweat revenge too in other words the two birds with stone!!!!!!!

[@statusdisarray9598]

My adult son died in his sleep, someone compared it to a pet death. She stood by me like no one else. Still does i think it is hard to see outside your own experience…empathy is empathy. My dog men’s an incredible amount to me.

[@highshipper9222]

I lost my close family members in 2020… I feel the OP’s pain, even if it were just family members, it still hurts a lot

[@Macaron-animations]

Story 1:well if my dog died I would be really sad but I understand were there’s a limit

[@Unbreakable_Spirit01]

For the first story my friend did something similar after his first dog was put down, he compared what he was going through with what I went through when my dad passed away in 2015 (I don’t remember when the dog was put down)

[@Batman-lg2zj]

I would hired the ex girlfriend .

[@stefanivansson847]

story 1, a dog is not just an animal it is a person's furry child i mourn my cat as much as i mourn my father you as the narrator of the story who says that the sister can only get a new dog, we can turn it around and say that the op can get a new husband I think the sister is right that she understands what it's like to grieve as love is the same for everyone so op is a jerk

[@DarksDeity]

I mean you sort of are, that dog was the world to her, no a dog can’t do those kinds of things, but they comfort you, play with you, make you feel you aren’t lonely, it doesn’t matter if it can do simple tasks, to you it was just a dog, but to her it was a lot more than that, NOT JUST AN ANIMAL, but a member of her family, she saw it as a lot more than just an animal, you just see it as something less

[@drakephoenixfeather4056]

The chances of my having children is almost zero, my dogs ARE my children. And when they pass, if anyone tries to tell me they're "just dogs" or that their human loss is worse than my canine loss, they will be dead to me. The sister shouldn't have been trying to compare, but if it was her husband that she lost and not her dog then she still shouldn't be trying to compare. You can't compare grief or try to force someone to grieve the way you want them to. But you can't tell someone their grief is less than yours either because you can't understand their feelings toward a non-human

[@Nigama_2003]

No you're not a Jerk. It's just that your sister needs to know that everyone grief about the loss of their loved ones differently and comparing your husband's loss to her dog will her a bad sister. Although it's understandable because being a Dog owner myself, I can tell you that some dog owners treat their dogs as their children but still that's not a way for your sister to comfort you.

[@שלובושי]

in the Israely army, there is a special combat unit that has dogs in service. every soldier raises a dog, and the dog fights alongside the soldier. if the dog dies (very rare), the soldiers grieve a lot. it was their battle brother after all. after the death, the soldier is also discharged. they cannot serve any longer. they have to go through intense therapy afterwards. so no, you are gravely mistaken.