And People Are CrAzY

[@annreese5100]

A wise woman once told me “if someone won’t take no for an answer, they’re trying to manipulate you”. You do not need to apologize for guarding your privacy. You have an obligation to yourself and your family. It’s amazing the number of people who don’t know or respect boundaries. Don’t worry about offending those people it’s their behavior that’s offensive, not yours.

[@Laura-vv6cf]

I'm a private person and we don't even answer the door unless we know who it is. Had plumbers come recently and they were so disrespectful of our home that I didn't have them come back to finish the job. So that being said, I agree with you 100%!

[@kristylimberger8076]

You shouldn't be so worried about offending people. We as a society have gotten so sensitive, say what you mean and stick to it! I wouldn't want strangers at my house and if you choose not to either then no need to feel like you have to explain why. Your house, your rules! I love learning from you! Thank you!

[@janenichols3880]

No need to apologize for wanting your privacy!!!!! I don't blame you one bit!! Your life, your family, your farm!! No disrespect taken!! Seems just common sense to me!! Blessings!!

[@AnnieOakley379]

Honey, your home is YOUR home. I can't believe some people would have the ill manners to try & intrude on your privacy. ❤ Nope. Nobody but friends & family in the "real world" are allowed past my front gate.

[@lorim.8136]

I agree 100% your personal life is “your personal life”. 😁

[@jcaravetta109]

100 % right on! Nothing is more important than knowing Jesus and protecting our families. 💖

[@dottietruthseeker4546]

Your home is sacred, it’s your sanctuary. You need to be selective about who and what enters. Hit the like immediately for those fluffy peeps... how can you not love those.

[@joellewatkins5528]

Yes! I do keep things privet. I don't let a even casual friends in my home.

[@TheFamilyFarmHomestead]

I will NOT give tours of my farm. I trust my wife, son, and my daughter and that is all I truly trust.

[@leedavis6354]

As soon as you said people were asking when they were coming to your home I hollered out "NO"

[@atticfanatic5193]

There are some people out there that feel that because you are on KZbin and talk to "them" that you are their personal friend. I totally agree that you've got to keep yourself and your family safe. Theres no reason to open up yourself and your home to anyone. Most of us appreciate what you do

[@nomadclan3604]

I agree 💯, my number one priority is the safety of my family and our home is our refuge.

[@jenniferwood9349]

I agree completely! We don't post anything online about what we have or do.

[@mishkasmom4979]

Wow! Some people 🙄. Just because you are in the public eye, does not mean you owe people a journey into your home. Honestly, I wouldn't let the public on my land excluding the home! Sometimes I think people see the crazy on the TV and don't think it will ever touch their life. That is not wisdom. I agree with you!!!

[@christinemcdowell3632]

It’s sad you have to tell complete strangers that they aren’t welcome to your home. Patara, you are the bomb and youdrop gems every week on KZbin for us. I’ve learned so much and feel like I’m on the farm just from watching. Never back down, you are absolutely correct. People don’t realize that you aren’t homesteading for fun. I’m surprised we even still have access to this knowledge. You are literally preparing us as you prepare your family.💕💕

[@woodandhookshop2354]

I don't trust anyone outside my immediate circle. When SHTF situations I want to know we are going to survive. I feel the same way.

[@abbyjohnson1579]

Boundaries. PERIOD. People are nuts and full of ulterior motives.

[@mountainmama4461]

I agree with you. I may see my mail person every day, doesn't mean I ask them in to spend the night.

[@southerngrits920]

-GOD and family first. You are so right. You have to protect your family. I have not in my 71 yrs seen such evil in this world.

[@2oldcrowscleaning538]

Boundaries are so important! Stay safe. 👍

[@cindiegrimm5983]

There is way too much crazy going on right now to be 'too' open. Stay safe, another youtuber I subscribe to feels exactly the same. I respect that. I'm not out there like you guys are and I'm being extra vigilant even with just going to the grocery! Do what makes you feel safe.

[@GossMania]

🌻Hey Patara thanks for always sharing you highs and lows of homesteading. I love all the advice you have given me. Much love and many blessing from this homeschooling mama of 6 in South Mississippi 🌻

[@martinglommen9888]

Well said! More and more over the past ten years I have found that there are increasing numbers of people who are not much interested in how to can, grow, or preserve but they are VERY interested in addresses and locations. Some are even very open about their intentions and quite cold in their attitude.

[@tygorton]

Good call. The only call moving forward. In terms of "saving the world", no, that's not something individuals should be engaging. You are producing, you are showing a path toward self-reliance to people; that is incredibly valuable. Just walking the path you are walking is doing more than 90% of people will ever burden themselves with (sad but true). Well done.

[@patriciasimmon6854]

Hope the message gets through to those who were ill mannered. We had relatives in the past that had farms. We never just stopped by unannounced because we knew they had their routine/ chores with animals and crops. I think people sometimes are not thinking. You have to do what’s right for you and your family. I had a wise teacher in high school whose favorite saying was “ A word to the wise is sufficient. “. 💕from Ky.

[@hadleywooten3689]

Amen! You shouldn’t have to apologize or explain why strangers can’t just come on your farm.😔People today have no understanding of boundaries or personal property! Hugs and be safe!

[@magdaleenkruger6971]

You are absolutely right, your privacy comes first. Living in South Africa teaches one to be very strict about who can come onto your property, in this country you cannot trust anyone. We live in a gated community and we still do not feel safe all the time. You follow your own way of life, nobody has an automatic right to just expect to be welcome at any time. Thanks for your videos, I love the goats!! Stay safe and happy. Greetings

[@KarmenHall-jj1lz]

I totally agree with you Patera 💯. We have to protect what's ours ! Love and prayers from Louisiana 😘

[@AshLytton_JesusLovesYou]

My daughter (14) has been wanting to make wild violet tea. I need to figure out which flower is the wild violet out in my land. Also my youngest daughter (2) is named Violet! God bless ya Patera and I agree with you !

[@judycarter8199]

Patara, you’re right! There are some (many) that think people on TV and that publish videos are “public property” with whom they should have open access. Someone from my area is on TV and even though their home address is not readily available, they are having problems with people coming by their house!🤯

[@Michelle-CraftyWACatLady]

Absolutely. I trust exactly 3 people knowing what I have and what I'm doing.

[@judya.shroads8245]

You have to protect your family, animals and property. No visitors!!!!!

[@sunnybeams530]

I appreciate you showing us all that you do on your farm (baby animals, planting, cooking)! Never would I expect you to let me come for a visit or a tour! I dont even like my neighbors coming over, and that's the truth🤷‍♀️ my home is my sanctuary, you nosey Nellie's arent invited 😉💯🙌🏼

[@happymack6605]

Don’t you do it! Keep yourself and your family as safe as you can; so many wackos out there. I’m sure you’ve had some trolls, as any decent channel does, who’s to say to what extent someone will indulge their evil thoughts. The slightest thing will trigger so many entitled creeps nowadays. Bless you and your family🌸

[@tennesseeserenity4599]

Good for you to say all this! Nothing wrong with anything you said! There are some really weird and sick people out there so you are 100% correct in keeping your family safe.

[@crystalroberts1777]

I'm renovating my house and people try to ask for tours. It's a HARD NO. When I get my land, it will be the same answer. People are crazy

[@gggtrips07]

I am guilty of breaking OPSEC and showing my pantry. I want people to know how to build their own and I enjoy watching others. We have several security measures here and by no means will I ever show the full extent of our resources. Friends have made the comment "If the crap hits the fan, I'm coming to your house." They got a few lessons in prepping and they now take care of themselves and anybody that knows me, knows they better be bringing a useful skill and a strong back, or something else of value if it comes down to it. As far as people asking to come to your home, they just were not raised right ;) Around here if a car drives by that we don't recognize it's a big deal. Thanks for the inspiration!

[@RecoveringCarboholic58]

So glad you addressed this issue. 💕 will you be showing in the future how to make your wild violet jelly? Would love to learn that one. 😊

[@misfit7610]

I work retail and I worked through the entire pandemic and people have gotten crazier than ever. Nasty, rude and entitled, treating those who service them with disdain. All u can do is laugh it off or it will really break you down. I never tell anyone what we have because people can turn quickly when they are hungry!

[@IMOO1896]

How many people -families, have been put upon to accept a stranger at the door, expecting to be a “good friend”. No! a cook in another state had to tell people “do not come to my house”!

[@jennsenchantedforesthomestead]

Right on target! There was one KZbinr family that was stalked so badly they had to bring in the FBI. So not worth giving to much info out. We just put up cameras about everywhere. Safety first!

[@ging536]

Thanks for sharing these wise words. Stay safe and discerning and protect family first. In these times we must be cautious and keep faith. Great channel! God bless you!

[@robinbadura2226]

You are so totally right...keep your circle closed....you can teach without showing every corner of your personal space and family to the world...!!!

[@Lwoman50]

My mother in law has had a black squirrel in her yard for a year now. They are beautiful. I’m sure people are in awwww struck to think maybe you’d give tours. And yes you have made it clear why you make these videos.... for you next generation. I do enjoy your videos.

[@laurielyon1892]

You are so right...again. I was glad when you mentioned not showing your pantry on social media. I hadn't ever shown my whole pantry to anyone, just showing pictures of the things I was canning because I was excited because I had recently learned how - but I've stopped doing that as well. I don't have a homestead, but I do have a garden and the garden area gets bigger every year and learning new things all the time. Family is sacred. I'm glad you share what you do and definitely understand not having people just walking around your home. I don't have that either. You mentioned the wild violet jelly...my friend that has taught me so much has just recently made some. I would have never thought to do that. I've been picking some and saving some for her. She said it had kind of a berry taste that I would never have thought of. Anxious to see what that is like if you are adding that to your video with your strawberries jam one. So thankful that you do speak your mind - you many times say what many of us are thinking. This world has gone crazy for sure! So glad Butter has some friends. They are adorable.

[@sminer8257]

As a kid in NE okla during the fifties, your mom wouldn't let you off property with out permission

[@dawnchapman1704]

i can't believe that you actually have to say that! i wouldn't want people just stopping by, and expect others think the same.

[@shannoncarr3014]

Glad to see that little spraddle legs has brothers and sisters now! And I completely agree with privacy and guardedness.

[@marilyndenler1370]

You are so right… these are times when we need to be careful, unfortunately many no longer have or want a moral compass to guide them thru their life’s journey. You don’t ever need to apologize for protecting your family and property.

[@valmcb6479]

Patera, I agree 💯%! Your home and your property need to be a safe place. We have the same philosophy here as well. But ya' know if you showed up on my front porch I would so invite you in for tea and dessert. Then I would take you around and show you where your handprints were on my garden, in my chicken coops (that includes my incubator and brooder😉) and even show you my Patera cough syrup😊 You have been such an encouragement to me to do the things my grannies did. I am one generation off the farm and I wish that i could sit with them and take a billion notes. You are so wise to make these videos for your descendants. So yep, just you can show up at my door, but that is because you are already all around my property. Thank you Patera 🌷

[@annmarie3520]

I totally agree with you 100%!!! In this day and time we all have to be smart and cautious. No need for any apologies.❤️🙏🏻

[@PurePondering]

If anyone thinks you're being ugly by being safe, that's on them.

[@fullofgracehomestead]

Love the babies!! Just hatched 14 chicks of my own. Little bundles of joy!❤️

[@melissasweet8305]

I remember my mother said "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all " !!!

[@bebepoppy1604]

As always you all make alot of sense. I respect your position of privacy and safety. We have had people walking on our property to see if it was a good place to hunt from. When we asked what they were doing their reply was they wanted to check it out before they came to the house to ask us if they could hunt. They didn't want to "bother" us if they didn't find a good spot! REALLY! uh NO!

[@Trapedinga]

There is one KZbinr I follow that has put everything out there. I fear for him. The world has changed so much. Better safe than sorry.

[@SRAshley100]

You are 💯 correct! When times are rough and people are starving people will do anything. History should prove that to anyone that has a mind to study it. Look what happened on the Oregon trail. We are living in desperate times and it’s just begun. Sometimes when I see preppers showing off their food storage I ask myself why? Why do we need to see what you have put up for hard times, I seriously wonder if it is to brag. (Don’t mean that to be mean) but just why? I personally respect other people’s property and expect mine to be done the same way.

[@glory1958]

They are adorable... Thank you Patera for all you teach us. You are a blessing

[@theheritagehousesc]

You are absolutely right. I’m a very private person too and understand where you come from. With what is going on in the world these days, the less people know about you, the safer you will be. My mother and grandmother were the same. Times are getting tough and some people will start wanting to take advantage of you and what you have. They less they know about you the better off you are. Strong believer of this. Have a great day.

[@sunshinegurl1474]

You are so right to declare this boundary. I would even take it further and leave KZbin. There are other platform options that may be more respectful to a person's rights and privacy. This platform openly censors so many folks that the type of people that will be left are not the ones that will respect freedom, personal property, and privacy. Thank you for looking out for us. ❤

[@lindalagarce8996]

Absolutely! It’s your private life and you are teaching a skill. Doesn’t mean people come over, if they need to learn by tactile, then they need to learn by experience, that’s what it’s for, not your home. I feel the same way, utube is a venue of teaching people a skill. That’s why you use a PO Box not a personal address. But I live in Cut n Shoot, (for real) and usually don’t have those kind of problems, lol. And yes, you need to protect your biosphere of your farm. People don’t understand that they unknowingly can bring in a disease on their shoes that could wipe out your flock. It’s a hard understanding, but true. And also a safety issue. Now when those folks get taxed for their treasures and are not allowed to purchase things because the government thinks you have enough, they will wish they had the same principle.

[@WeepingWillow422]

Girl, I'm with you 💯%! Whoever told you you have to open your pantry to other people, he is WRONG! And if he comes onto this channel, I hope he sees what I have to say. For safety reasons, obviously, it is smart to stay private. But even in addition to that... what about people who are introverted and would get stressed out from having people coming over for tours and homesteading classes?! I'm an introvert, and there is no way you would EVER see me inviting people I don't know or barely know over my house. It's just not happening. And I don't feel one bit bad about it, I am who I am. I'm not unfriendly, just not a social butterfly either. You keep doing what you do, you're helping plenty of people without letting them into your home. God bless you!

[@irenedavis4629]

We have a locked gate. Several KZbinrs have had people show up unannounced. Nope. We have met someone who was driving through our area at a restaurant for dinner. It was a lot of fun, and we made a good personal connection. We are invited to stop by their place if we are ever in their area. We would be comfortable doing that. But we believe that they are the exception. We like our privacy. Very few people ever get invited to our place. I am definitely with you on acting out on someone else’s channel. Nope. I just walk away. I have better things to do. Have an awesome, safe, weekend!

[@AR-dm7ze]

Even using a "stage name " (as some have done in the past) etc online and never uttering a word to some people can bring rage and threats and creepiness. You are a smart family. You are full of a wealth of knowledge and convey that well. That is appreciated, respected, and it is all you need to do. It's so odd that something meant for good and fun can be tainted with creepiness. Stay safe. Keep doing a great job!

[@patriotallen9717]

Totally agree with Dottie. If people want a tour, develop a video. They can watch it over and over. Meanwhile you maintain your peach of mine and your home and land stays pure.....and private!

[@BonnieHanchon]

I can’t even imagine the creepers you deal with. I enjoy watching your channel because you are hilarious. And I love your real approach. And you are right people are too much most of the time. Sending love and light girlfriend.

[@rootsrocksfeathers1975]

You found ducks for the baby's friends! Excellent. I've had trolls come to bully me on my channel and they are INSTA-BANNED. I don't tolerate that mess. That is an extension of my living room. Gotta be careful, sister!

[@trigelrice7291]

You’re such a wise, wise woman! Agree with you completely! People need to respect another’s privacy!

[@swastik6649]

Somebody had to say it...!! Not any social media or KZbinrs life or privacy is public property..!! More love to you♥️🤞🏻

[@janpresley3804]

Totally agree with you, so many people now days wants to get into everyone’s business. Really bothers me! I love watching you with all your little babies. Thanks ❤️❤️❤️

[@rickballard1627]

Young lady all I can say is rock on and keep being you. Appreciate watching what you share. Blessings to you and your family.

[@chavachava6400]

I agree with you Patera!! I am always SURPRISED how people will invite themselves to your home; ESPECIALLY in the country/rural areas. This is why I am very reserved in meeting people because all it takes is a "Hello" and the next thing is they want to come over and in my mind, I am like "I DON'T KNOW YOU". Today's friend is tomorrow's enemy...

[@MrCorvettegirl2]

Hey Patara I agree with you 💯 percent Me & my husband are private people and we like it that way 😊 We dislike strangers on our property unless invited ! We can’t let our guard down and use good wisdom in the days we’re living in ! There’s plenty of petting Zoo’s to trounce through if people want to see farm animals 👍 Your very smart Patara to guard your family & farm ❤️ Take care Stay safe Brenda

[@candace9513]

All of this 🙌🙌🙌 just love you Patara! You are such an inspiration to me and I know many others as well! We need more people that will tell it like it is!

[@sandywest7664]

I totally agree! You have to be safe, people are to trusting today and do not understand how this country has changed, people can track your location and some are very dangerous. Some will never see it because they have been asleep far to long.

[@miraclefarm1927]

Your experience speaks volumes! We are a tiny You Tube channel and what you are saying makes perfect sense. I wouldn't have thought this far ahead. Thank you, blessings

[@fatbaldguy3271]

I find the more I know humans, the more i like my dog. My business, is my business, so PLEASE keep you stuff private. Meet us folks at meet and greets or homesteading outings and we will be thrilled. Also, we teach classes at our church or the local library, and if that's ok with everyone that wants to learn. I just moved and probably only 10 people will know where I live. Be safe and protect your family ......

[@cindybull3064]

Common sense has flown out the window lately. We are to prepare for what is coming.

[@absolutely5376]

That's good ole common sense right there. It's a shame it's not so common anymore. You and your's have a wonderful weekend!

[@carolcarter8608]

You are 100% right about letting other people into your private space. No one has the right to be nosy on someone else’s property. Heck, I have no trespassing signs up on my home. And we keep our doors locked. We don’t trust people we don’t know. Patara , you can say what you need to say. You are ever so right at what you say and do. Love y’all. Thank you so very much.

[@catherinerochat8766]

I agree! Our homestead is smack dab in the middle of a Mennonite community. I don’t even like them coming down our private road. Some family I don’t welcome here. I’m not rude, just protecting what we have. I’ll meet you in town and even buy your coffee. Just don’t show up unannounced~ 🌻🌻🌻🌻

[@julsjewels3185]

Totaly agree. I just read a post on a faceboo page where someone said a neihjbor was sad they were moving away from the person because they new they could get food from them and this person barely new them. scary.

[@martyboudreau541]

You don't usually hear from me but I do watch all your videos. My little grandson especially loves it when he can see the babies. You keep your privacy because I have found since this pandemic I had started going out and the people have changed. Really makes me a bit nervous as well. Keep doing what you're doing I think since I have found you a few years back I have watched every single one of your videos. Thank you for sharing I have learned a lot from you and thank you for your kindness

[@sminer8257]

Tell the Trolls to mind their manners, ignore them you can't them besides they aren't normal

[@jeritoombs1752]

I joined a group once that started having issues. People jumped to the conclusion that if they figured out where you lived when shtf they would take from who they wanted and get away with it. Well it was made clear that just because people didnt brag about everything the had, didnt mean they werent prepared to defend it. Keep yours yours. Thats what we are doing it for. May God Bless Ya for wanting to care enough to warn people and still teach and share. You're right the world isnt what it use to be. I also think that if i help people the way i want to and i still show love to my community, family and friends we may one day be able to get back some of whats been lost. Love ya Lady keep on keepin on.

[@nonap5225]

I agree with you completely. You must keep your family , yourself, and your animals safe. There are a lot of NUTS out there who will cause harm and problems. You must not trust anyone these days. I do not answer my door when there is someone there that I do not know. I do not answer calls that I do not have listed in my cell phone. One can not be too safe in this day and time. It is so sad that we have to live like this but it is best to be safe. God bless you and yours. From deep southeast Mississippi

[@frankieodom]

I totally get why people want to get to know people like you. As a subscriber, I feel like you are a person I would love to have as a neighbor. But, reality is, we are not neighbors. I am glad to have you in my life as a teacher and mentor. God bless you. This appreciative lady would never consider asking to drop by and visit.

[@GDixon-ch3yl]

Bottom line, you don't have to explain or expose yourself to anything. Nothing. It's a gall darn shame you have to say that. You be you, we appreciate that.

[@christiansingle1]

Those are wise and caring words. If my momma was still here and watched you, she would applaud you. I'll tell ya what she told me one time, that people that seemed to be happy all the time, and smile all the time were...stupid. I laughed so hard and asked her why. She said there are just times that you don't need to be all happy and smiley. Life should be taken seriously and soberly and somebody grinning and guffawing all the time is to stupid to know they sometimes need to worry a little bit. So, well, when she put it like that I saw what she was saying and I decided I liked the way she saw things. Besides, extremely happy all the time and smiling all the time people...get on my dang nerves, ha!

[@ritabrunetti381]

Hello Patara. Never apologize for protecting yourself, your family or your home. We are now grandparents... the protecting of the little ones never ends. Keeping in touch with our grown kids is a must. Trusting that my husband and I agree with who we welcome to our home. Life is worth living when you surround yourself with love. Love of family & friends. Be well.

[@Leah.Clements]

Lots of people have no happiness in life so they live there's threw other people's lives threw utube or what nots. They just can't enjoy watching and learning from these outlets. There are a lot of unstable people be careful and watch yourselves. Keep up the great videos I have enjoyed them and learnt alot.

[@dianaw5100]

My mom ended up alone on a huge farm at 66yrs old. Every time she went into town or visited her children for a day or 2 she'd come back to find another piece of machinery stolen. Some people will take advantage of any situation even if you 'know' them. The world is even crazier now. So I applaud your stand on privacy. It's yours to do with as you please, not how anyone else thinks you should.

[@melissaanthony2096]

That’s crazy that people would even think that was an option! Why in the world would you want to go to someone’s homestead you don’t know? Thank you for all the helpful things you tech! I’ve only been following you for a couple of months-I’ve learned so much! I’ve even started making my own biscuits🤗

[@lisamart53]

I really agree with you it's crazy out in the world I wouldn't even show my private life to people I don't know.

[@melodycallies6386]

I am so happy to hear you talk about keeping yourself private. It disturbs me greatly to see all these pantry tours ..... But don't they ever think about who's going to show up to their house to clean them out when shtf? Man, keep yourself to yourself!

[@DJ-ok5ov]

I totally agree with you. I am a very trusting person to a fault. I opened the door to a stranger last week. Nothing bad happened but it sure could have. Later I became weak in the knees after thinking about it. I will never do that again. Lesson learned. Things have drastically changed in this country in just the last few months. We have to be careful and protective of our home and family. I absolutely agree that you don't need to open your home and property to other people. Never here again. Only by appointment from here on out..Thank you Patara for your channel and all you do to teach us..

[@Jab6284]

I agree with all you are saying, this world is not the place it once was. We have to be alert and somewhat selfish these days. Take care of ourselves first . There is reason to be careful in the present day, it’s sad to say. We appreciate all you do and I learn a lot watching you. Being in the public eye has drawbacks and people think they own a part I like that you stand up and draw your lines. Keep it up

[@szbyzan]

Yeah I think its weird when random people want to come to someone's house.

[@furryfriends1639]

Even you having yt channel or other sites you have to have eyes in the back of you head. There are people that have no problem causing issues. I have heard of several Facebook channels that have been hacked and funds and accounts were emptied. That's like letting a stranger in your front door. I don't blame you for being cautious. We love your channel because of your personality and you do show things that helps some of us with a few little farm animals enjoy learning. Lol.

[@jackienoel2864]

I totally agree with you, when I think about the things in our world, it makes me nervous. Have to be careful who you allow where.