Xum Ua Poj Nrauj Rau Koj Khuv Xim. 6/19/23

[@hlubkevsibpablove7585]

😁niam laus w koj teb tau koj tus txiv tau hauv2 siab li os

[@hlubkojforever1901]

I like this story! Strong woman! Thank for the story! I do agree!

[@nhialee1550]

Sister u and I are on similar boat. I'm now a 16yrs single mom and I am very happy. Yes..we need a companionship for support our mental and physical. Keep yourself value n respect.

[@MAYHLUB]

Yes, hmong men have no respect and values for us women. I must say the American men treated us highly on that.

[@hlubmykids5119]

Love strong hmong woman. We need to be strong know who respect and appreciate us.

[@mulahbbylaujs393]

Yes being single is so peaceful

[@trullieyeah2687]

The story of my life too. Thank you for sharing your story (my story too). Much love for you, sis❤❤ Good luck!

[@nx5944]

Niam Ntsuab teev! Kuv qhia rau koj tías, peb cov Txiv neej uas lawv kam ua peb cov poj Niam tes hauj lwm ces muaj 1 % xwb nawb. Rau Kuv ces Kuv ua Kuv poj Niam tev hauj lwm xwb vim kuv xav noj li cas los, kuv thiaj paub ua thiaj tsis sib😅 haum tshaj plaws nawb.

[@vdrtkrato1115]

Now days a lot of us Hmong men have change not like the 70s and 80s. You just have to be careful who you choose. Good luck though

[@monkeybanana9269]

I think a lot of these stories are just from the older generation. Now days, it could still happen but I think most relationships are equal partners and most of the younger females wouldn't tolerate that kind of misbehavior for too long.

[@pkcyang2910]

My husband and I married when we're both 16 too. Not one time he ever complain he didnt get to ua hluas nraug

[@maipha8560]

Great story of women power! I agreed with this mom 100%

[@gaohmoob6816]

Koj hais yog tshaj plaws. Txiv neej ces cov siab phem li no yeej yog cov coob heev lawm. Yog tus pojniam twg ua tau li no haj yam zoo thiaj li tsis raug txiv neej tsim yus lub me siab ntsws lwj tag. Be strong. Life is indeed better when no one is controlling you, and you don't have to life up to anyone's expectations, but yours. Good luck to you os tus sister...nco ntsoov hlub yus tus kheej mog.

[@amnkaubtsevneeg3902]

Yog lawm txiv neej muaj zog tshaj na yus ua dab tsi los tsim nyog nws yuav pab yus hos

[@vavang4773]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@hlubmiji09]

I agree with you 110%. We hmong women just pamper our husband too much that they don't appreciate us. I am one that says when I divorce in the future hmong men is out.

[@pvp503]

Yog kawg li lawm os..ua li koj nyob kaj siab lug.. that’s what I call love your self first..

[@jouavue6514]

Tus me viv ncaus aw koj mas hais yog tshaj plaws li os, kuv yog ib tug taug txoj kev lwj siab ib yam li koj hais thiab tiag ces kuv ua ib yam li koj hais thiab os tab sis kuv ho tsis tham hluas nraug li kuv nyob kuv ib leeg es rau2 siab ua hauj lwm kom yus pab tau yus tus kheej xwb thiab nyob tau kaj siab tshaj yog kiag li koj hais li os nawb.

[@thedark-_-lord8285]

I agree with what you said about some Hmong men. Some Hmong men especially baby boomers and gen x- they feel that are so entitled and believe that a wife should cater and take care of them.

[@monkeybanana9269]

Sometimes these wives are at fault too for enabling such bad behavior from these men. Just from listening to them...I be- wth. Lol. 😂😂😂 My partner knows better than to try some things with me.

[@maryannthao6029]

Koj zaj neej neeg no mas zoo heev li phim cov txiv no kaw

[@ayao7883]

Hais yog tshaj plaws li os

[@FfxFfxx-sv7cv]

Kuv lub neej ces raws nraim li txoj dab neeg no li kuv nrauj tag tsis muaj kev cia sb rau txiv neej li lm kuv twb los nyob tau 5 lub nyoos no lm nyob tau kaj2 sb kawg li xyov yuav nyob los yuav nrhiav dua li tsis ntshaw leej twg txoj kev hlub li lm

[@kaoxiong6148]

To all sisters, don’t ever waste your time waiting for a cheater, useless person, not worth it…they are still good Hmong men out there. Just don’t rush into another bad relationship…take your time to look for a good person…a man that can’t help out around the house and do chores, dump him…a real man must be self sufficient and not depend on a woman to take care of him…😩🤠! Not all Hmong men are alike…our Christian families we all eat together, men, women, and children on the same table…we all help cook and clean after eating…when we are together, we talk about our beliefs, support for each other, and continue to follow Christ…👍🤠!!!

[@kuvxwb11]

No what you said about Christian people aren't always true. Christian or not depends on the individual. I know a Christian man who claimed to be a big believer in God. He put God and his church people before his wife and children. He tend to his church people every single time they ask him but not to his family. Whatever request his wife asked, he postponed it days or weeks later before he actually do it. He's also a cheater. So just because people are Christian doesn't mean they are good people.

[@ncouazooxwbya1552]

Yes….hope that she can play the boy friends game but hope that she is not getting into another hmong women life by stealing her husband away! Lol

[@maitongvue5397]

Yog kawg cov txiv phem li no nrauj zoo dua thiab tsis tau ua mov rau noj

[@mayervang-her9610]

Nrog koj zoo siab, koj hais yog tshaj li

[@pajnagyaj5272]

Yog lawm os kj hai yog lawm os viv ncaus

[@shaoxiong4918]

Only your generation of Hmong men does that. Younger generation of Hmong men loves their wives. I see more Hmong women leaving their men than men leaving their wives in the younger generations.

[@enyang1907]

Right? That is why I’m seeing a spike in younger Hmong men marrying overseas.

[@caaspasvang7427]

I agreed with you sis

[@vvang28]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂too funny i am so related to this story

[@xeexiong6908]

Koj hais yog lawm os tus sister

[@hmoobxwb7119]

Txivneej Hmoob tsis zoo yuav ua txiv lawm os

[@heysoniher]

At least you are smart enough to not go back to your ex. Stay single and enjoy your life. Let him regret you forever.

[@AhouaLor-mf3kj]

Ca cov txiv no zoo ib yam nkau li siab phem ib yam kau li os txiv neej hmoob

[@pangyang648]

Koj zaj neej no mas yog kiag li kuv lub neej os me viv ncaus aw

[@xwmkabyang354]

tus txiv dev txiv aub zoo li ko ces kavtsij kom tuag tsuag 2 es yuav muab dov kauj vab kauj le los mas

[@user-gm7hm9ef8z]

Yog lawm

[@user-ur4wn6li9w]

yg kj hai yg tshaj plaws li os tau tus g hlb ce lo nyb ib leeg kaj siab dua

[@XietLau-tb8wh]

Kj hias yog tshaj li o yeej tsi yuam kev ib qho li o njam luas a

[@pajhnubhlimas3778]

❤❤👍👍❤❤

[@user-kz2hc7zf8n]

Same here sister 😢

[@suelo617]

Cas peb ho xyaum tsis tau li nej cov txiv ko es zaum tsaws poj niam hais mov los thawj ne sib yuav twb ntshaw sib pab ne tej zaum txiv neej yuav keej ua noj npaum li poj niam tab sis ua li qhov yus ua tau los

[@PM-oe5mk]

Never go back to a bad man like your ex-husband. He just wants you back to take care of him (cook, clean, laundry, etc...), nothing more. If he loved you, he wouldn't have done what he did to you in the first place.

[@kayvang-thao1207]

Totally agreed. Same with mine.

[@microbiologist50]

I love my Hmong men!!!!!!! There are still good Hmong men.

[@tonglee4630]

Yg kawg mas niam tsuab teev xum yuav lwm haiv neej os

[@kiabyaj8698]

Koj ua Yog lawm o vi ncau ❤❤❤

[@mailor9709]

yog lawm os me viv ncaus cov niag txiv dev hmoob ces yeej yog cov niam tsev ua nws qhev xwb los nws twb saib tsis taus nws tus niam tsev ib qho me2 kiag li nws xav hais tias nws muaj nqis heev li no tab sis thaum nws tsis xav hlub nws tsis xav yuav nws tus zoo niam tsev nws muab nws tus me niam nrauj tag lawm ces txoj txoj kev hlub kev zoo thiaj li nrog cov niam tsev zoo mus tag lawm tiag

[@Kuvcoslus2]

I agreed, being single is better than married. U just need a companion to travel with & live life. Most couples that stay married don't even take care of each other when they're old so why waste time being married when u can still have a man/women in ur life & not be married.

[@MsPangY]

They Have A Saying & It Goes,"When Men Have A Lot Of Money, They Want More Women; When Women Have Money, They Want To Be Alone!" Txiv Neej Siab Phem Xwb Os Yog Hais Tias Kuv Hluas Tsis Tau Txhaus!! lol Cov Siab Zoo Mam Tsis Hais Li Koj Os!!

[@happylifexiong6534]

We need women like this lady who seen far and don't go back to the man who hurt her no reason and thinks they could get a better one than her....

[@MAYHLUB]

Now.... this is what I'm talking about!!❤❤❤ I'm not alone I love my life now... date different race and color are much much better and a lot happier.... thank you for sharing your story.

[@maylee9765]

Next

[@user-db5ko6eb5s]

Kj hais yog taj lo os niam ntsuab teev w

[@CouaYang-fw8fq]

Bravo lady!!! Bravo! 😮😊❤

[@Loves_DuckSR]

There's bad man/women in every race. When you meet your soul mate, then it's ment to be. Don't matter what race. As long as you are happy, loved, and respected then more power to you and your SO. Wishing all those in bad relationships that they will find the strength/courage to leave and find the happiness, love, & respect that they deserve.

[@MsVang-xm5et]

I love thos story!!

[@tiachang-sn5ic]

My husband like that i doesn't care I'm super bad bad Phem li lawv

[@sombunman5551]

Cov tsis xav mus ua hluas nkauj Mas muaj koj thiab ge leej xwb , Haj tseem muaj cov xav xav mus ua hluas thiab ov , tej tus twb muaj txiv lawm Haj tseem niaj hnoob mus nrhiav hluas nraug thiab os

[@chiliayang5832]

Cov viv ncaus cas nej yuav muab nej cov txiv teev tiam zoo ua luaj li nas kuv tsis coj li nej 2 leeg yuav tsum sib pab thiab nws yuav tau ua rau yus noj thiab ho😅

[@ThePrincessWorrior]

Kuv hais tib yam. Poj niam hmoob (asian) tiam lawv cov txiv xwb…Oh My Gosh! tshaj huab tais mag tiam lawm thiab os lawv. Saib lawv xwb, tshuav ntuav.

[@ChueVang-xx2rt]

me niam tais aw nws yeej g txawj nplhis lis o txob tu siab

[@sengyang5402]

Hi cov me viv ncaus tsi tsim nyog peb hlub hlub peb cov niag txiv nawb mog peb ntshaw lub neej zoo tabsi peb cov txiv siab phem heev li cov txiv khwv vim lawv khwv mus ua hluas mus ua txiv dev nkaus xwb os mog peb tsi txhob ruam ruam nawb mog.

[@stevexiong602]

Feel bad for the aunties and sisters who married a bad Hmong man. But every race has bad eggs, we just don’t hear the stories because we’re not in the circle. Men will be men, no matter what race. But there’s still good ones out there! Go where you’re happy. Just don’t label the races 😊

[@tongvang1035]

Also if American guys so are perfect why are their divorce rates so high.

[@nraugzoovwj9638]

Tau tus tsis hlub tsis hais ipojniam los txivneej yeej tu siab kg nrhiav tus tshiab thiaj muaj neej ua

[@saykaomee]

Koj yog ib tug pojniam tsis muaj siab muaj ntsws thiab tsis paub tu siab. Why are you still talking and letting your ex-husband back into your life and house after he tossed you away like garbage. He treated you like you're worthless because you behave like one. Once you're divorced, cut off all communications unless it's about the children.

[@anasiangirly]

@@tongvang1035 divorce in the USA is initiated by the female 80% of the time.

[@amazinggrace8136]

The difference is the evil culture and religion.

[@chailee6256]

Ua neej nyob yog koj saib koj tus pojniam tsis muaj qabhau ces ntuj yeej yuav muab lub txim uss koj ua rau lwm tus tig rov rau koj ua ntej koj txoj sia tu yog li ntawd yuav saib taus koj tis niamtsev mog.

[@meandmyself3007]

Xyov...nyias hais nyias lub qe zoo xwb tsis paub xyov tej zaum kuj tim ib leeg me thiab

[@xeeyang5867]

Mus txog tim nws mus nws ces u mus u thiab xwb as

[@maiherlee6497]

Lawv aw ntshe yuav tau ua poj nrauj thiaj tau noj tau haus cav yuav tsom nyem ua luaj thiab yuav khwv tag npaum no

[@jiaxiong8991]

Hell no! Don’t be a rebound for that stupid fool. He doesn’t deserve your love and respect at all. He divorced you and went after his heart’s desire but when it doesn’t go as planned he comes crawling back to you like a dog. It’s way better to be single and do whatever makes you happy. He’s not worth your time and effort or your loyalty. What nerve he has to try to forbid you having boyfriends! It’s exactly like the daughters words. They don’t want to go through the same thing as their parents.

[@nraugzoovwj9638]

Txhob ntshaw kev ywjpheej thiaj muaj neej ua... lwm haiv neeg los txhob rawm cia siab... yog koj zoo lm yeej muaj tus yuav zoo haum koj siab mog.. koj puas hnov cov neejneeg peb ib co ntxhais mus yuav lwm hom neeg v es thaum qub tuaj tsis xav yuav lawv muab nej ua piam tas tsis hais chaw xis chaw tawm rooj ua piam tas zaum twg kua nrog zig rau pawm tas li xwb no los? Yog yus tsis hlub yus ces yog thaum tau zoo ces tsis luaj twg tau tus tsis hlub los ntshe yuav lig thiab tu koj siab tas sim neej.. twb tau tus tsis hlub tsis tias ua siab ntev rhiav kom tau tus zoo hos tseem xav mus sim lwm hom neeg no ces tas lawm..

[@chiliayang5832]

Yog tus txiv siab phem li koj ces nrauj mus xwb zoo dua 😅

[@maimoua1371]

Tsuas muaj daim av mekas tswj es muaj zoo poj niam ntse nyob tsim qhov boundaries 6 men and women siv es peb cov poj niam hmong tau nrog lawv siv txiv neej hmong qhov society tswj hla g dhau peb women thiaj tau ua poj nrauj rov qab 6 peb cov ex khuv xim xwb

[@kayvang3148]

I’m agree with sister. I’m on same page as you.

[@xeeyang5867]

Vivncaus, tus ko ces yog mas, kv twb nrog minyuam lawv nyob, tau 17 xyoo, tabsi kv ho g tham leejtwg, kv tsuas tu kv tus kheej kom zoo zoo ua minyuam niam xwb o, g tham leejtwg hlo

[@ThePrincessWorrior]

Tsis rov mus yuav thaub lawm tiam sis nrog thaub tham cuag tham hluas nraug, cia thaub tuaj xyuas cuag cia hluas nraug tuaj xyus, no es yog li cas tiag ma? Sib xyuas sib xyuas ib ntus ces kawg rov sib xuas xwb les es 😅

[@ym2562]

Ntuj aw, nws twb muaj xiv mus tham hluas nkauj ces kuv ham tsis tseev zam sees mus tham hluas nraug thiab las as.

[@suelo617]

Cov mi niam tsev yog nej txhob cem2 mas cov lus no tsis tham tab sis nej tcem hmoob mus qhuas lwm haiv neeg thiaj txawj hlub nej hais paj lug xwb los peb yeej ntes tau tej zaum feem coob ntawm hmoob lawv hlub2 ntshai tsam nej tsis tau laus los twb rau diaper tas li es lawv txuag nej hos lwm haiv neeg luag ua neej thaum dhuav ces nyias mus nyias luag tsis quav ntsej nej yuav zoo li cas los yog nej lub cev luag muab nej yim neej rhoob txhua nrho ces nej zoo2 siab tab sis nco ntsoov tias yog vim li cas suav ho sib sau los nyob ua ke na los ua leej tib nerg lawm tsis hais haiv neeg twg tus zoo tus phem los yeej muaj

[@CrayZJo3Davola]

Go for mev dub. When you are new they love you more than hmong man. But when they are tired of you the will just leave like nothing happened. If you meet an abusive mev dub, just remember he hit harder than a hmong man 😆

[@GoldenDragon1990]

This is what happened when kids are married without understanding what marry is all about and the consequence follows. Peb ib txhia Hmoob lub neej ces yog neej txia dej xwb.

[@touyang3403]

Tu siab kawg. Tus niam tsev no tau tus txiv poob peev . Txiv neej Hmoob cov txawj2 hlub nws tus tab zag, muaj ntau heev. Tu siab koj tau tus tsis hlub koj.😂

[@Thatwifey]

Yup, Hmong guy, i white 🏳️.

[@lukemoua9027]

Ua luag nraug tsis txaus ces yog ua siab phem xwb, txiv neej ces yeej xav tau tus mos xwb.

[@Ispeakthetruth511]

She’s all talk. She’s still waiting for the ex husband

[@beth3626]

Stupid mindset.. if you think that the grass is greener on the other side, you'll end up disappointed. There are still good hmong men but if you still talk to your ex and still have boyfriend for fun, you are wasting your time and you'll have no chance to have a good one. Good men are looking for good women. Make the right decisions

[@xengkongxiong6953]

❤❤❤❤

[@lukemoua9027]

Tus muam aw kuv li es kuv ua mov ua zaub rau nws noj xwb as, tab si kuv poj niam ntxuav tais dia,wash clothes, ntxuav hoob nam ho kuv nqus tsev , sib pab ua hauj lwm.

[@Karena312]

Gos for you sister. Be single and live freely.

[@kuvxwb9555]

Yog ntshaw rab loj rab ntev ces hais zoo zoo xwb tsis txhob hais ua hais no tias txiv hmoob tsis zoo! Yeev meem mus yuav dub thiaj 12 inch long nawb ok.

[@amazinggrace8136]

So you will rather just have a FWB so he can’t officially “cheat” on you 😂 I guess if that makes you feel better..

[@niamvamxeebvaj9642]

Kuv ce dhuav lub neej zoo li no tiag2 li os xum nyob ib leeg xwb

[@chuvang5487]

Tej zaum qhov koj tsis txiav txim mus yuav txiv mas 1) koj tus hluas nraug ntawd zoo tsis txaus rau koj los yog nws ua qee yam rau koj me siab rau nws tias tsam tom qab neb sib yuav tas lawm nws tsis hlub koj. 2) mas tej zaum koj los ua poj nrauj tau 2-3 xyoos no koj tau saj coob leej ntau tus txiv neej lawm ces koj yees loj lawm, yog koj yuav txiv tsis tau cov hluas kom lub zog khov kh ces tsam nrog koj pw tsis cuag ncua li no xwb tiag !

[@yinglee8513]

Cas koj yuav Txawj khau xab nas ua rau peb xav muab peb cov niag Txiv hmoob laim ncua pov tseg nram qab ha ua luaj ne

[@MaiMai-ls8dc]

Dhuav siab tshaj nplaws tseem tau zoo tshaj huab tai

[@youtubingdiva]

Ib co txiv neej ces yeej coj ib yam li koj niag txiv ntawm koj os. Lawv txog lub caij vwm ces cia li vwm. Tsis txhob rov qab mus yuav nws lawm nawb. Tabsis muaj ib yam kuv xav correct koj. Koj hais tias Hmoob phem phem li ces koj yuav mus nrhiav txiv Meskas yuav lawm xwb no. Qhov no koj yuav mus yuam kev thiab os nawb. Txawm yog Meskas, Hmoob los yog neeg dabtsi, tus neeg hlub yus thiab coj zoo ces yeej zoo, tus phem ces yeej phem phem thiab. Qhov zoo ces yus rov hlub yus tus kheej es nrhiav kom tau tus los haum yus xwb thiaj li yog qhov zoo os nawb. Good luck!

[@naree3571]

😭😭😭

[@SKYLAANDMYDOGOSCAR]

Is that snoring in the background?

[@wilsonavenue8813]

You were just unlucky with your husband. And you're not alone. I get that you're bitter, but don't put all Hmong men in the same boat as your husband.

[@Koashiii]

There are good ppl and there are bad ppl in all race. However, I have learned meeka ppl are more open minded and accepting to divorce ppl and single ppl with children the. Hmong ppl. Hmong ppl are judgmental and hateful to divorce ppl and single ppl with children like we chose this life. We didn’t get married to get divorce, things happened. We didn’t choose to have children alone, but again things happen. Meeka ppl have a saying “that’s the past” going forward this is what it is. Hmong ppl use your past as a flaw, a fault, and reason why. So I understand what this lady is saying, however she could have rephrased it better.

[@greenladylalaland4222]

Couples were married in their teens ending like this! Mid life crisis for men! Menopause for women! Healthier to get divorced! Date whoever you want !!

[@shawnyang3400]

Koj moog yuav ib tug txiv America los yeej yog moog khaws ib tug yawg nrauj hab xwb los mos . Luag Haj yam sib nrauj coob tshaaj peb Hmoob na, koj tsi tau paub os yom, tab sis tug America ntaw xaav sim qhov tshab ib yaam nkaus le koj niag txiv hab xwb.

[@kuvleejnushm6367]

Tus pojniam no tseem ruam heev. Meskas nquag rau lawv tus kheej xwb. Yog ua rau kwvtij neej ntsa ces 3 zaug xwb lawv khiav lawm ncaj nraim. Cov poj ruam hmoob tsis paub txog neeg lub neej ces yog tus no ntag tiag.

[@thaevang5369]

Cov txiv dev tsis tsim txiaj zoo li koj niag thaub ko ces yeej meem ua kom ti ntsa kiag.

[@mus33k]

Omg! YES!!! And here I am, trying to teach my BOYfriend how to be in a stable relationship, like BOY! Bye. ✌️The way this lady lives is just the modern day American relationship way. Other races in America do this stuff all the time, and it’s just the life of dating and not looking for anything serious. 👍

[@neeghmoob2490]

I love my Hmong people and would never want anyone else. People claiming that other races are better but still keep coming back to our Hmong community cause they know deep down they will never be accepted by another race. Every race has their good and bad. You choose what makes you happy but don't go claiming that others are better just because you think they are better than you as a Hmong individual. I see plenty of women that marry other race and have to do everything just to be tolerated.

[@fulovelyly9161]

I hate the word “ koj niam , koj txiv”””

[@tengxiong9646]

Go marry Somalia man, they are very people. They will treat you like a queen.