Tus Neeg Qub Lub Qhov Muag Qub. 12/1/2021

[@mlee6150]

If it happened once or twice, you blame the cheater. After that, you are to blame. Not that you’re a bad person, but your choices of men are the same.

[@sircha5304]

Yep!! You got eyes for good looking guys who cheat.

[@sandly5831]

Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are absolutely right. However, a lot of Hmong women can’t live life without a man. They rather be miserable and unhappy with someone than alone. It’s not easy for women to walk out of a relationship because they’ve invested so much time and money. They’ve sacrificed everything for their man and most women are controlled by their spouses. They can’t divorce them because they’re afraid of being shunned by their relatives. However, toxic relationships aren’t healthy and two people shouldn’t be together if the love & trust are gone. I’ve been single for 8 years and I love my independence and freedom. I can do anything and go anywhere I want. I love my life! I love being a free bird, no longer caged. It is liberating to be a strong independent woman.

[@kaoxiong6148]

If you love somebody, you help that person out. My wife does all the cookings, but I wash all the dishes. I also do the laundry and iron all my clothes. As a father of 4, I potty trained all my kids. This is what a good husband and father do…

[@sylavue5977]

Than you are a good husband to your wife. You both should love each other that way and respect each.

[@persimmonberry3475]

You sound like a good husband. Happy for your wife and you.

[@phongmoua3229]

I don’t believe u do all the dishes only talk

[@kaoxiong6148]

You are welcome to ask my wife…I even fold her clothes after I washed them…

[@cheeyang4939]

Guys like this dont exist anymore. This generation is only all about party, drinking, drugs and cheating 🥱

[@yervue5742]

Cheaters will always be a cheater. Their words and promises don’t hold any truth. The min you allowed it, you’ve already passed the training of his course. Ladies, stop under valued yourself for their selfish doing. Stop giving up your rights and heart for ones who doesn’t deserve it. Stop allowing them to disrespect you! Stand your ground and your worth then this kind of manners will eventually get old and will change.. but because women still endured it, they continue to disrespect and step on women. We don’t need men, they need an women more than their life!! Remember your self worth!!!!

[@luckyflower916]

That’s true. Same person, same liver, same eyes. Unless we change ourselves, our circumstances will not change.

[@monkeybanana9269]

Yep. They all asked her if she be willing to be their slave and she said "yes". 😂😂😂

[@luckyflower916]

@@monkeybanana9269 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ lol

[@jiaxiong8991]

Girl if every man you date cheats on you then you don’t need them in your life. Just work on yourself, respect yourself enough to walk away from that and just be independent!

[@cua1879]

I wish more women would understand you don't need a man to survive. Tsis muaj txiv neej yus yeej tsis tuag na. Learn to love yourself and enjoy your own company.

[@yingher555]

Isn’t that what she’s doing? 😂 she did say she will not be marrying another man after what she went through.

[@lnchannel1186]

Yog tshaj os tus viv ncaus!! Hlub yus tus kheej

[@hlubforlife]

She got hit by the "BAD LUCK/DIVORCEE STICK".

[@traywaybby]

It’s true when u have the same perspective you’re going to attract the same kind of people unless you change within urself.

[@maipha8560]

Far too many Hmong women are too submissive to their husband. If you don't know your worth, no one including men will know your worth either. Know what you want in a partner and your non-negotiables, that's the only way to find a partner that's compatible. A true and kind hearted man or woman aren't always the most beautiful ones vice versa.

[@nkaujhmoobvwj]

Finally a strong woman after so many failed relationships. U nyob u ib leeg is a O K.

[@judysaykao-lee7336]

U are my role model the person in this story. U are the best. I am still man. But I support my hmong women to understand this theory

[@yuglosuahmoobtsisyuamkevya7530]

Yog tshaj plaws li os tus me Viv Ncaus aw. Kuv yeej ib txwm hais tias Tim peb cov poj niam ntau tshaj vim peb tsis txawj sib hlub peb ne tos txiv neej saib tsis taus peb na. Tab txawm yog cov poj nrauj kiag nws twb yog ib tug poj niam thiab qhov nws lub neej tawg twb yog Tim tib qho nws tus txiv ua hluas xwb los cas nws lub neej puas tag nws tseem tab Meeg tham luag tej txiv thiab rhuav luag lub neej. Yuav kom cov txiv neej no txhob muaj muaj plhus mas thaum twg peb cov poj niam txawj sib hlub lawm mas Hnub ntawv peb tsoom me viv ncaus thiaj yuav nyob tau kaj siab lug os mog me viv ncaus

[@misstaytay9694]

The problem is that women need to stop finding men at the clubs and bars. They’re there for a reason ladies.

[@kovang1840]

Marriage is about compromise and a partnership, our parents relationship was dominated by the man but our generation needs to change so that our kids can also make the change..good for you lady, ur destiny is in ur hands

[@JRxwb]

He is like that because you allowed his sweet talk to soften you back down. You need to set a boundary and let him know you are serious!! This is why some moms say to marry the one that loves you and not the one that you love lol 😂

[@traywaybby]

Don’t settle for less know ur worth

[@maiyang7845]

Know your worth and stay single . If you don’t love, you don’t hurt. The end!!

[@cindravang4569]

Lady, quit blaming your luck when it’s clearly your choice. Who you are as a person or personality, only attract these same type of men. When you stop blaming luck and start evaluating yourself to improve, you will start to attract different standard of men. Men will stop cheating when they are satisfy with what they have. Goodluck to you!

[@pml2671]

Power to the strong ladies that has been through so much 💩. Stay strong and love yourself first.

[@MrsYaj-ei2io]

We women are victims but people who haven’t been out shoes always said we’re too stupid to stay in the marriage. It’s easier said than done. There’s a breaking point where we will leave. We often fall for the wrong guy bc we’re vulnerable and we always forgive them. One thing we need to learn is self respect. The moment your partner cheat on you it’s bc they didn’t respect you. Once that trust and respect is gone, it’s best to ua ib siab leave the relationship. Feem coob Peb cov txiv neej hmoob ces tib pab cheater. Cov niag txiv dev no ces lam hais tias sim siab…dag tshaj plaws.

[@hlubyang4072]

Hehehe is your husband is txiv dev too? I don't agree with you about all the hmoob man are cheater...hehehe...LOL..

[@vwjanonomous]

don't be mad cause you got a bad apple from the tree. cheaters are in every ethnicity not just Hmong.

[@flickeringfire7098]

Yog lawm, nyob ib leeg 👍 tshaj plaws.

[@geuher7315]

Zoo kawg li mas yus Kawm yus es yus thiaj txiav tau txim os yog kwm tus qhia ces yeej tau li hos

[@akatsuki_minato163]

Yes sister !!!!!!

[@bvang8370]

Hnub txiv neej hmoob dhuav tham hluas nkauj ces yog hnub tuag... los xyov puas tseem dhuav thiab. Tabsis muaj hluas nkauj tham lawv lawv thiaj li tham tau thiab ces tim hluas nkauj hmoob ntau xwb... vim hluas nkauj hmoob nyiam cov txiv muaj pojniam heev... es hmoob thiaj li muaj niam yau coob2.

[@Karena312]

You allow the men to treat that way.

[@chiliayang5832]

Hais tau zoo thiab yog tshaj plaws li os yom

[@menkaujhmoob9339]

WELL SAID! Peb cov niam tsev yuav tau coj li tus me niam tsev no thiaj li tsis ua neej poob poob peev. Ib txhiaj niam tsev tos tus txiv saib nws tsis muaj nuj nqis es tus txiv mus noj sab nrauv ua hnub ua hmo los yog vim nws twb saib nws tus kheej tsis muaj nuj nqis ua ntej lawm. Peb ua neej nyob yeej xav kom lub neej zoo nyob mus nto ntsis xwb, tab sis yog txog hnub uas nws saib tsis taus yus, tsis hlub yus, thiab tsis xav yuav yus lawm, ces yus twb tsis muaj nuj nqis rau nws lawm nws thiaj hloov tau siab mus tus sab nrauv. Yuav tau tig los hlub yus tus kheej thiab siav thiaj li kav ntev, nco ntsoov tias yog koj tsis hlub koj tus kheej ces yeej tsis muaj leej twg yuav hlub koj.

[@paweenahanwachira9883]

koj haig yog kawg li os

[@leahvon5905]

Txij no mus mas tus txiv neej twg yuav peb cov poj niam mas peb yuav tsum tau hais kom cov txiv neej no yuav tsum txiav nyom, tu qab vag tsib ntaug, kho tsheb, kho vaj kho tsev, ua noj ua haus, Los txog tsev ntxov los yuav tsum tau ua hmo, yuav tsum ua npaum li poj niam ua mas thiaj li yog txiv tsev zoo

[@maovue4406]

Sister, I am sorry you have had a bad experience. Not all men are cheaters. Be independent - be empowered. There are men out there who are good. Women and men are the same...some women are cheaters but there are some good women too. You sound so jaded...don't be. Learn from your past lessons and move forward...but please this "using each other" concept -- be careful.

[@mariemoua9670]

Superbe madame restez seule c'est tranquille .

[@mainouvang1]

yup, no need for men if you can do everything yourself..

[@kaibvwj5999]

Yog..Aws..Coj lis koj haices thaumtwg tag ces kawg Pognpla-Yawgnplas lawm xwb...

[@juliehawj3385]

Bittersweet but I agree that if you realize your destiny or fate with love, love yourself first and don't let these men walk all over you! Good to hear you're strong minded!!

[@chawmua5837]

Koj hai yog tshaj plaw li os

[@kiabli9356]

Niam laus koj ma hais tau yog tshaj li os

[@yonglor8182]

Koj hais lawm dhuav txiv neej dhau lawm os

[@jorvang1420]

Peb cov poj niam peb yeej tsis xav tiam cov txiv neej li lawm os nyias yuav ua nyias lawm xwb me nyuam los peb tus txhua yam los yog peb tag nrho aub dhuav peb tiag tiag peb noj tsis tau zoo noj li yus tsis tau yes mus khwv nws khwv tau los nws tsis lub rau yus noj thiab yus siv li tus siab lawv yuav tau txhob yug me nyuam coob2 nawb mog peb cov niam tsev thiab cov ua tseem yuav mus ua niam tsev na

[@Leea209]

Cheating is NEVER acceptable! Please love yourself and move on.

[@chaituaher724]

Kuv yog 1 tug txiv neej Moob ntseeg Vaajtswv wb 2 nam txiv sib paab ua dlej num ua ke, cooking, dishwashing, laundry... kuv qha kuv tej tub, ntxhais hab vauv tas dlej num yuav tav sai yog 2 leeg sib paab.

[@gaosayvu6554]

Luag hlub yus li cas ces yus yus hlub luag li ntawv xwb mas mog

[@judysaykao-lee7336]

This is the best story 4 our hmong women to learn about our women dignity.

[@MissesChoua]

Every relationship needs equality between both partners. You didn’t even see your own self worth-that’s why the men you were with didn’t see your worth and took advantage of your kindness.

[@kabyeebvaj5705]

She is a good poj nrauj. Nco ntsoov nawb thov peb poj niam tig rov los saib es hlub peb tus poj niam nawb. Yog hnub twg peb txawj hlub peb cov poj niam lawm ces cov txiv neej yuav tsis muaj hluas nkauj tham lawm thiab cov niam tsev tsis muaj kev chim siab lawm.

[@bizaxeys371]

.... Ntiajj teb tsi muaj Kev hlub txeeb ... Yuav Tus ntsaw kj mog ... Tsi yuav tham ua si xwb mog ... Hlub, tu, saib kj Tus kheej mog ...tsi poob npe li nawb

[@pajhuablaujchannel3731]

Me hlub aws...kj ua yog tshaj plaws li os❤️❤️❤️thov qhuas kj

[@yeevang9250]

It's OK you meet the wrong guy Still good guy out there take your time

[@chowe3494]

3 txiv neej tsi muaj 1 tus yuav perfect. Tus tsi ua hluas ces tsaus ntuj mam paub los tsev mas thiaj yuav tseem zoo 90% xwb. Thaum nws uv tsi taus koj lawm nws havyam tsi ua phem.

[@cocopha5778]

Yus nyob yus zoo dua

[@yiuyui812]

Yg lawm os niam lauss

[@bridgetlee3494]

Yes!!!! Koj hais tau yog tshaj plaws li os tus sister aw! You’re absolutely right!!

[@ครัวเทียนรุ่งสวัสดิ์]

ใช่แล้ว🤗👍👌👌

[@jackieyunan4899]

Slow down on whatever you have to do because my 👶 boy is getting big bae😃

[@tsabpovlauj5934]

Yog o niam laus koj hais yog tshuaj plawv

[@timlor1789]

damn lots of these stories....

[@paxiong5522]

Not true....not all men are the same. A few of us are lucky enough to have "real" men who loves only 1 women. My sisters, don't give up hope...there are still many real men out there!!

[@magicalunicorn5853]

There are good men out there. This man has his priorities backwards and this woman, enables them and attracts this kind of pathetic half of a man. A real man can control his body and desires, applies to women as well. It’s a person personal choice when they decide to betray the person they love. That was HIS CHOICE. Now you Have a choice to accept that or leave. Don’t settle for 2nd best ever. You only have one life.

[@liaghawjhawj3341]

Yg tshaj plaws li os niam ntsuab teev tu siab tshaj li Los hais g tau ib Los li Thaum twg Los yus yeej swb tas li xwb

[@sauvue7716]

Just let you be dumb but don’t let yourself be stupider than that! Life’s short, if he really love you he’ll never do that to you!

[@mavang8366]

Koj zaj me neej neeg yog 100% rau peb poj niam hmoob os me viv ncaus aw.

[@yang64mee]

Yog lawm os❤️

[@maitongvue5397]

Peb ua neej nyob ces yeej muaj siab ntsws ib yam nkaus xwb ib tug txhob ua mob ib tug xwb yog thaum koj tus txiv twb tsis hlub koj niaj hnub tham hluas nkauj ib zaug tas ib zaug tuaj lawm ces yus kav tsij ua pauj kom mob nws nws thiaj paub tias thaum nws ua mob yus npaum cas no xwb mas vim tus txiv neej no twb tsis sawm zoo thaum yus hlub nws nws tsis hlub yus ne ces kawg ua sib pauj xwb

[@hmooblor1]

If u keep hooking up with only cheaters then it’s ur own luck.

[@chaituaher724]

Muaj 1 zag kuv tug yawm cuag has rua kuv tas ua caag txhua zag koj quas puj ua noj koj pheej paab nwg taag le xwb es puas yog koj yeej 1 txwm ua le ko lov, kuv le kuv tsi tau paab kub 2 tug nam tsev ua num le os. Kuv teb nwg tas kuv yeej 1 txwm ua le nuav hab vim yog nwg 1 leeg ua xwb ces dlej num yuav tav qeeb.

[@Mai1nOnly]

Stop letting them use you women!!

[@tinatang8649]

There u go !! yav tas los mas koj kawm tawm xwb ov , tsam no mas koj Kawm tiav no nawb yeah… 👏👏👏

[@Loves_GodSR]

All I know is, if every man you met are all cheaters, you don't need them. Know that you are worthy and beautiful. Work on yourself. Once you heal from your past hurts, and focus on you, the right person will come along. If not, who cares! Be independent, be free, be you.

[@hlubvimkoj4320]

Miss what’s your last name? if not same as mine? Let’s meet? I believe we will work?…comment your information here?…Thanks.

[@kaciewanh1986]

Tus txivneej xav muaj lub neej zoo tabcuab yeej tsis tas qhuab. Cov txivneej ko ces thov kom mob kascees lwj ti hauv paus, noob yaj tas thiaj tsis muaj2 phlus khav ua taw ntxiv.

[@LymeeCha]

I'm the same as you! Only smart, no bs and independent women will feel this way and stay unmarried/single because it's their choice! Many people don't understand or are not able to comprehend this choice!

[@pavue5689]

Finding the right person to be your spouse takes time. Sometimes we Hmong ladies don’t take the time to know them and think what kind of a man we want. That’s the mistake we make in the first place ladies. If we don’t, we will make mistakes after the next. We will blame ourselves for our fate. Some Hmong men will never learn to be a real man. They just want to play around thinking it’s ok to do it to us if we allow them to do it. Ladies please look for the red flags in these Hmong men because in the end if not you will regret it. Change your perspective in finding your spouse.that way you will be happy.

[@hlubyang4072]

Yuam kev tsuas yog 1 zaug tab sis thaum koj nrauj 3 zaug thiab 3 tug txiv neej tsis nyiam koj tus attitude lawm ces koj yuav tsum tau study koj tus kheej lawm. Yog koj yog neeg zoo tiag ces neeg sib txeeb koj lawm os.

[@neejnom8323]

Yog txiv neej txhob tau tuaj txhos caug pes koj niam koj txiv thiab ib teg nyiaj tuaj them koj nqis taub haus ces tsis muaj tej teeb meem no mas

[@sylavue5977]

Yog lawm os tus niam laus. Cas koj hais yog 💯%.

[@hnubxyoojchannel346]

Muaj tseeb kuv ib tug niam tij luag tej hai rau nw tia koj tu txiv tham tu hlua nkauj no os no ma nw hai tia nw tham nw ma nw yeej g yuav os lo yog nw lawv yeej g yuav nw li os. Cov txiv neej yeej muab cem piv zia hai tia ca koj e g siab loj li kuv tu niam tij niam ntxawm ntawv na. Qhov no kuv tu txiv kiag lo yeej hai rau kuv thb

[@songkorsampan9119]

พูดถูกเลยค่ะชอบๆ

[@truevue7502]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@duakevq7736]

Tus poj niam zoo li ko ces nws thiaj ua poj Nrauj cis fij cis tom ntag lau Yog leej twg mloog tus neeg ko hais ces kawg yuav liam li nws ntag

[@maitxhiablis9926]

Lady.. 1st and 2nd shame on them.. 3rd one shame on you.. it’s a choice, people, and life you choose.

[@vuevang5634]

U r the itching lady

[@nouxiong3620]

Kuv lo kuj dhuav Kuv tus kawg li thiab thiag!!!!

[@sircha5304]

You picked him, you train him . If he's not trainable, leave. Question... Are you a fair, decent person?

[@nouxiong3620]

@@sircha5304 what is fair? What is decent?

[@sircha5304]

@@nouxiong3620 I mean... Would most people consider you to be a fair and reasonable person?... someone who doesn't expect too much.. Don't tell me yours is flirting with other women. He must be cute and handsome. Can't compete with that. Tell me... What is it about him that you are tired of?

[@nouxiong3620]

@@sircha5304 I hate hmoob men that thinks wife is slave thinks wife can and must do everything around the house. That’s my issue

[@sircha5304]

@@nouxiong3620 Yog kawg!! Txiv neej Hmoob mas tsis txawj pab txhawb poj niam kiag.. cov tsis ua noj Los muaj, tsis pab ntxuav 1 lub tais lub phaj Los muaj.

[@atingmobile8287]

Yog lawm nawb👍👍👍

[@hmongremark2686]

Txiv neej muaj poj niam tham hluas nkauj thiab poj niam muaj txiv tham hluas nraug sib txawv deb npaum li lub ntuj thiab daim av. Qhov txawv, txiv neej tham hluas nkauj yog ua si ntau rau cov txiv neej coob, tab sis poj niam tham hluas nraug yog 99% npaj rhuav nkawv lub neej nkaus xwb. Ntawv twb vim yog poj niam tsuas hlub taus ib tug txiv neej rau ib lub caij xwb, tab sis txiv neej hlub taus ntau tus. Qhov kev mob siab rau ob tag ntawm ib tug twg tig ua hluas yeej hnyav sib xws vim nkawv muaj siab ntsws tib yam.

[@sengyang1093]

Niag txiv dev lim hiam dag xwb tsi muaj tseeb cov niag hlwb dag xwb tsi ntseeg li lawd ib tsoom viv ncaus aws yug los yog poj niam.

[@user-bw9ro3jz4v]

I am happy for you. Not a lot of women can do what you do.

[@xiameevang9131]

Thank You for this Story. I need this free psychology for my brain right now.

[@simvang7101]

Zoo kawg, xav paub koj os me leej muam. Txiv neej xav tau cov poj niam ua siab zoo 2 li koj.

[@yeebntshachannel9254]

Peb poj Niam CES yeej raug tib tug # ko xwb os mi phooj ywg, cas koj Twb ua taus thaum tus thib 1 cas koj tsis Nyob tej ywm, kuv Twb ua tsis Taus li koj es Kuv thiaj mob2 Laus tas li no os sister aw 😭💔

[@kayvang232]

In order to change, you need to have self love and respect. You allowed your spouse to treat you that way.

[@denamoua7262]

Txhob yuav txiv lawm tib co liam y xwb tsis muaj txiv zoo lawm cov tshiab tseem liam tshaj tus qub.nyob usa no peb tsis need txiv neej vim muaj txiv tsis muaj los yus khwv yus noj

[@songyang5185]

Cov yawg nrauj yeej tsis zoo es tus poj niam thiaj muab nus nrauj mus yeej tsis muaj ib tug yawg nrauj yuav zoo li os nyob twj ywm zoo dua os mog yog you yuav ces yuav tus yawg ntshuag xwb cov txiv neej zoo ces muaj tsawg heev li os me niam hluas

[@meeyang8411]

Vim poj niam txoj kev mloog lus & uv, txiv neej tsis muaj chaw ntshai. Nco ntsoov poj niam yog neeg & muab siab ntsws thiab. Stand up for your right and stop tolerating men’s bad behaviors!

[@tongxiong1161]

viv ncaus kuv tsa chij dawb thaum kuv 36 los lawm os tam sim no kuv 46 tsis kam tham hluas nraug lawm koj hais raug siab tshaj

[@neejnom8323]

Yog txiv neej muaj ntaus lis koj hais thiab lwm hais neeg tseem zoo tshaj no ces kav tsis mus nriav lawv mog. Tsam muaj ib hnub lawv muab koj tua ntim hnab yas dub Pov tseg tom hav zoo xwb.

[@vamntujlaim]

Dag xwb nawb. Cov txiv ua hluas yog cov ua loj leeb xwb. Tiam no, cov txiv loj leeb yog cov coob es yuav nrhiav tus txiv zoo mas nrhiav tiag tiag thisj li pom.

[@qualee8807]

Amen sister.👏 you. Find a good Man is like looking for a needle in a hay stack. Us women might have a better luck of finding that needle than a good men 🤣🤣

[@pkcyang2910]

Viv ncaus, yeej muaj cov txiv neej zoo2 tsis tham hluas nkauj kawg os tabsis koj tsis nyiam ces koj tsis tau xwb. Ua li koj hais koj lub qhovmuag pheej mus nyiam cov liam2 xwb ne. Cov liam2 yeej yog cov coob dua thiab nyiam kev lomzem ua nqaj ua nqug. Yog koj xaiv tus tsis nyiam kev lomzem koj yeej tau tus txiv zoo. Txhob xiav tus nyiam2 dej nyiam cawv, nyiam haus luam yeeb, nyiam party ces yeej xaiv tau tus zoo xwb. Kuv li yog ib tug txiv neej hais tias nws nyiam ib tug pojniam los tiam nws, tiam nws tej phoojywg thiab kwvtij ces kuv tso tseg xwb. Yus tsis yog qhev na. Lub neej yog ob leeg lub ob leeg sib pab thiaj muaj kev kaj siab ho.

[@kanman4507]

Txiv neej muaj tus siab zoo thiab ov covneeg phem yog 2 heem peb xwb os Koob npe noj tsis tau nawb

[@MsBL32]

You attract these horrible cheaters, it’s true that you are better off alone. Better by yourself and love only yourself then to be miserable loving someone else.

[@maiyangher5320]

Kuv nrog koj zoo siab tu me niam tsev