Anita's Nursing Home Stay

[@rsh4937]

This is why my family chose to keep my 90 year old grandmother at home with us. My mother and I are the ones taking care of her every day.

[@jszoradi8650]

But not everyone is lucky or have the time like you.

[@kathrynvanhinthum4537]

Thankyou well done I too would never put a loved one in a nursing home

[@marthapellor7162]

You make the time, sacrifice...it's very rewarding. And aren't your loved ones worth at least that much???

[@rabbitsization]

It’s definitely one of the most difficult task that I can think of!

[@Hllee6428]

Of course ageing in place is the most ideal situation. But do realize that some elderlies are extremely inherently stubborn and difficult to care as they age and some professional help (live in nursing aide, and/or domestic helper) would be necessary or them to age in place. Oftentimes it might actually be way easier for non-familial caregivers to do the job than family members who may burn out due to the emotional attachment or past family dynamics. There are horror stories of family caregivers who actually fall gravely ill/die before their elderly parents do due to overstress.

[@bettierusso5410]

This is Singapore! They have absolutely GREAT medical care. Try doing this in the United States and you may not live to get out! Sad but true! As a nurse here in the USA, I have watched my country's medical care plummet to an all-time low over the last decade. God Bless her for doing this, and I hope it helps someone. My heart and prayers go out to all people in one of these places.

[@TheKentuckylady717]

It sure did look and sound like a great Medical Care.....was surprised it was Singapore.....more countries need to do like they do.....I have seen videos and heard things going on in these homes, but never had to go thru it yet.....something for sure needs to be done....Instead of this country sending our money to all the other Countries, they need to spend it here and take better care of their Seniors & people like this that end up in Medical Care ...

[@jszoradi8650]

Yes it's absolutely disgusting and SHAMEFUL that US doesn't have this kind of care compared to Singapore. We should be ashamed of out country how we treat the elderly. 😨

[@1997debbie]

Yep and in the u.s. they only get a shower twice a week. 😢

[@annewright6034]

Restraints aren’t allowed in Australia

[@birgip.m.1236]

😢

[@jinimurray4090]

This care/facility is far superior to what I have seen in USA & Uk. I’m trained from all aspects and I appreciate this lady desire to have the best for these wonderful people.

[@jszoradi8650]

You got that right. The ones in US is frightening to say the least. I'm from California so I know. I'll take Singapore over any nursing home here in the US. Here it's profit over people unfortunately 😕

[@patriciaperry-higgins6269]

I’m so grateful my family has keep our grandparents and parents at home.

[@MarlenaCarrillo]

Thank you Anita Kapoor. I would love to do this same in depth report of the nursing homes in Orange County California. I have worked in "rehabilitation centers" and it was so bad!!! I was so depressed and fought so much for better care for the residence. I called social services and the omnibus constantly. There was no help or hope in sight. The owners of these facilities are getting financially rich while the caregivers and residence suffer!!! It happens in hospitals too. The elderly in our world deserve better....

[@christyborkowski6866]

I work in the medical field and have for 40 years and my dad is in a nursing home now and it’s as bad as it was 40 years ago ! I’d rather go to the light than live in a nursing home ! It’s all about money they don’t care about the patients at least in the United States where I’m at ! Karma will get the owners one day or they’ll go to hell instead of heaven

[@patriciarowe3431]

ANITA IS ONE OF THE VERY FEW THAT LET HER EMOTIONAL BEING IN AND GOT IT.... SHE'S A REMARKABLE BEING AND RARE...... IT'S ALL ABOUT KEEPING IT REAL WITH LIFE... GOD BLESS YOU, AND MAY HE CONTINUE TO LIVE WITHIN YOUR PERSON... IT DEFINITELY SHOWS...... MUCH PRAYERS.....

[@michellemills1884]

great job Anitia... perfect way to open the eyes of our forever aging society, we all need to be a bigger part of change thank you so much !

[@MissAmissaBlack]

I worked in a nursing home as a volunteer about a year ago. Every day when I got home from work I would be hit by this unspeakable sadness, and the whole time I worked there this dark depressing aura would crush me. It was so sad, talking to some of those people whose families had abandoned them. Some of them told me they didn't know why they were there, others said their families got rid of them to sell their houses. Truly heartbreaking how lonely a lot of these people are.... Nursing homes nowadays are becoming less of a way to get help for people with conditions you can't take care of yourself and more of a place to ship off your parents when they've outlasted their purpose. I was offered a full-time job there but I couldn't do it... although it broke my heart because I made such close connections with the residents there and it was so sweet to talk to them and see them smile. Truly truly so heartbreaking :( you can take care of somebody and feed and clothe them with as much care as you want but it will never erase the loneliness and hurt of being thrown aside by your loved ones.

[@kperrone0407]

I totally understand how u feel! I worked 35 yrs in nursing homes. The one think that kept me there was difference I made in the lives of those who had no one or had someone but never came to visit. It's sad! I don't understand how people can just drop their loved ones off and leave them. What would they do if nursing homes didn't exist? What goes around comes around!

[@ingridakerblom7577]

Exactly.. society looks at the elderly as an used resorce with nothing more to give or offer. Wich is sooo wrong! Unless its some election in progress.. it's so wrong, and it makes me so upset that you can just strip away a persons individuality & complete life story & worth.. the conditions for staff is bad bcs its a "womens job" & therefore a "calling", everytime caretaker & nurses want's higher waiges, people get angry & try to play on guilt & use the staffs emphaty against them "don't you care about your clients/patients" , "there is no money" COMPLETE BS.. and the ones suffering the most, are the ones who no-one listens to..

[@brittanyschmalfeldt6761]

I was in nursing school and had clinicals at a nursing home. Shit was so sad. Residents ignored after not making it to the bathroom in time, some screaming for some company for hours, and finding so many with bed sores. I couldn't do nursing after that.

[@iffybakker7440]

Agreed!

[@debkeller2440]

I appreciate the Thai person in bed how's it going to go to the bathroom and ty was at mittens and feed them I don't appreciate that that's that's not good that's Bruce you booze in your patience that is not good you shouldn't do that you should not be your patience that's not good you should you should treat your patient nice not mean nice that's not☹️ nice nice you should pay attention you should taste your patient nice

[@HotSeat17]

Thank you, Anita, for doing this remarkable story. This really touched my heart. I am 69 years old and in failing health. You gave me insight to prepare for my future. I pray I can bless others with smiles and dignity like you did. God bless you all. 💚💜💙🙏🙏🙏

[@deenalandstrom6924]

Thank you, Anita! For doing this. I am 25 minutes into the video & am in tears. First, for the purpose followed by your kindness, understanding & compassion. Thank you again. GOD bless you.

[@christyborkowski6866]

I’m so proud of you doing this , I work in the medical field I’ve worked nursing home , trauma hospitals in St.Louis , Missouri and in retail but the nursing home was the worst, we distributed medications to the nursing homes and I’ve even had to do emergency runs for patients just being and admitted and I was only 18 at the time but I was able to see how poorly they were taken care of 40 years ago and now my dad is one at 96 and it hasn’t changed , his mind is there but the body is home he’s bedridden he can’t get out of bed to go the bathroom by himself or go get a snack it’s emotionally , physically , and draining on me 😢😢😢 the system has to change ❤bless you for doing this

[@lisalentile177]

Ive always connected with elderly ppl when you make friends with you you have a friend forever

[@jinimurray4090]

When my parents got to point of needing help - I swore it would be over my dead body that I would have them in a nursing home. It was ok for respite as no one share my work load. Please look after your families- GOD WILL BLESS YOU

[@sabinecohen8369]

Now let's get Anita to look after 6 residents for 1 week....

[@RebornBabyCrazy]

OMG, I cried all the way through this, my Mum was in care for 5 years, I saw people come and go, when mum passed away I was lost, so very lost...I will die before I go in a home!😰

[@molliewhite-evans473]

I see lots of the workers w such compassion, to the patients here at this facility...

[@rinkun1992]

The least we could do for our parents in their old age is to look after them like they have for us since we were babies. This is not just simply to repay them for their kindness and parenthood but also to reassure and prove to them that they are greatly valued and irreplaceable. It is sad that in a first world country such as this, we only see humans aplenty but less humanity these days. Stop spreading negativity and please at least truly value and appreciate your loved ones while they are still alive today.

[@ivyedan7183]

My husband had the very beginning of dementia when we were in a head on car crash and passed away in the ambulance..I miss him so much but I'm also glad he left this world before he went away like this.. no matter what, my heart was going to break.. I'd rather have my heart broken than watch him go through this.

[@queenmelissalehman3490]

That sweet sweet woman an her daughter I cried so bad that so beautiful

[@Bojanarules]

Well working in nursing home in Europe for 10 years I understand her point. Some things could be easily fixed, but need investment by the government , such as installing alarm system with sensors instead of using restrains in bed. In Scandinavian countries it is not allowed to use bed protectors nor restrains as it is seen as type of forced restriction. Instead, they have sensors boxes on the floor that can detect when the resident tries to stand up. Nurses can get the message right away on their phones and go there immediately. I think thats better option as they are not tied up and could feel more like home, sleeping normally in their bed. When it comes to shower, well agree and disagree. Showering is and will be uncomfortable for most of the people no matter if they have or not have dementia. But if they are disabled and cant do it themselves, they need to receive help from the care givers. Of course, you can always try to ask them for preferences and do it in most respectful way you can, but sometimes it is challenging with residents with dementia. They just cant explain you what they need or want. You have to follow their body language and even then it is challenging. You know that you have to give them a bath and if you dont it can cause different issues later. If you skip it, in the public eyes it will seems like neglect. But if you do it and the resident is resisting then it is abuse. There is no easy answer as to how to give a shower to a resident with dementia. You can only try to be as respectful as you can and hope they wont feel uncomfortable or get aggressive. Sometimes switch of roles with colleagues can help, sometimes they just react more positive with another worker. Also the way you talk with resident with dementia, always using calm and low voice as they react to high tones. Nursing home department with residents who suffer from dementia should ideally always be calm and nurses have to try to accomplish that during the shift. There are many ways how nurses can calm down residents and make them feel more comfortable. Playing music from their youth or showing them on TV some old programs they used to watch, reading newspapers etc. We even engaged them in preparing food or baking cakes. Sometimes they wanted to help us cleaning the tables etc. They really enjoyed doing it. This generation of elderly is used to stay at home and take care of their children (housewives), they used to clean their house all the time or prepare food. If they really want to do it and if this is going to make them feel still useful to the society, by all means let them do it and make them feel like at home. Also why not engaging the youth who want to earn money during summer vacation. Older people love children and they can be really helpful, take them outside for walks or help them with some activities like feeding or dancing. There are many youngsters who love to work with old people and keep them company. Also it is possibility to earn money and feel useful to the society by contributing. I find that way better solution then letting children be on the streets and go stray ways.

[@Michelle-rc2xv]

Nursing homes need a library, things to do and more. Rooms, dinning room, shower room, halls. It is set up like prison or mental health

[@jtte07]

Michelle Richhart You are correct but even in jail people have more activities and they can even get a degree!! No, not for our elderly. I worked for some years @ a few nursing homes, the cost to receive horrible care and be fed by not so patient workers is sad and disgusting.

[@grayskindablue]

Michelle Richhart even in residential psych wards you have books and can take your own shower and choose your food, choose when you want to be in a room or not. It’s honestly a lot worse, and people don’t understand why they’re there, and that alone makes it a lot worse.

[@bron9674]

The slop appears to have solids in it, thereby knocking off any level of food applied to a medical condition. Very strange. My Mum's home dining room is filled with real food. Mum's got a physical condition (soon to be re assessed). People who have dysphagia, do not have to be fed slop. Creative alternatives for food presentation are available. Families need to push for these if concerned.

[@dolphin58603]

I have worked in aged care most of my working life it's hard work but very awarding

[@rocknromance78]

To bad it wasnt truly undercover. I've been working in elder care for 12 years and that not how it looks

[@patriciarowe3431]

rocknromance,,, AMEN..... THEY KNEW SHE WAS THERE!!!! ALL THEATRICAL AND NON EXISTENCE.....

[@bettywith2girls]

Yes, despite what this program was trying to do, the nursing home seemed like they take very good care of all the residents, and there's a logical reason for all that they do, for the safety of the residents. Could have been because of the cameras, but that doesn't mean that the nurses weren't professional and wonderful when the cameras weren't on.

[@pjnix5618]

Right! And also, she’s pretty and young. So, this isn’t any comparison to what a real elderly person would be feeling.

[@robinkeiger2208]

You are a very brave person for doing this. God Bless you.

[@carolbenson6524]

You are a wonderful person Anita. Thank you for bringing this to us.

[@TheKentuckylady717]

6/22/22..... This was excellent.....and Anita you were wonderful.....I cried off & on all thru this video thinking it could be me or someone that I love in there.....why don't they just feed these people good food....if they are unable to eat, there are very healthy foods that can be made with veggies and sweet desserts.....and everyone loves milk shakes.....make them a milk shake every day.....there are drinks that you can get like here in the US called BOOST , it is a protein drink, kinda expensive, but these people should have what they want and need as long as they live.... they don't have to make them try to eat or drink things that are horrible..... there are whole meal drinks too I have heard never had them but a couple I've heard about , the two I'm thinking about sounds good and they are guaranteed to like them or return them, I keep wanting to try them, but just haven't..... So I suppose you are going to try to keep your Mom at home as long as you can right ? Are you the only Daughter or sibling to help her, or was that your sister there or an aide to help her ? It says here you are a Television Presenter and a Host, so you are working and I assume can not do all this yourself....are you married and have family....I know it must be tough.... This was filmed in 2017 , 5 yrs. ago....things change, so how is your Mom now ?I hope still living and able to be at home....I think older people live longer when they stay home, but a lot of times it's a hardship for the rest of the family.....so I guess everyone has to do what they have to do....it is just sad to see the way those people lived and no one came to see them....if they had family, don't you wonder where they were ??? I just say God help these people....they need all the help they can get....thanks you Anita for showing us this, I really had no idea what went on in these places....not looking forward to going to one....for sure....God Bless you Anita for doing this documentary and putting it on You Tube....it was absolutely a piece of work and you deserve a medal for doing this.....Take care and stay strong.... Would love to see more follow ups on these kind of Documentaries ..... like every two yrs. or so.....one thing I want to say is for the people working in these homes, and the big bosses there, please feed these people good food that is the only thing they have to look forward to....try the ice cream shakes, and the protein drinks....not all of them are bad....I suppose you have them there in India too....right ? Thanks

[@basiapodbereski4971]

Thank you, Anita, for this crude yet truthful documentary. At the age of 42, I spent 2 months in a so-called home/rehab after a lack of space in a real rehab after an emergency knee surgery. Your documentary show everyone got to shower daily, the center where I stayed in the suburb of Paris, France there was no showers or bath available (the only bathroom on the floor which was condemned as patients tend to hurt themselves). they were stripped washed, I had to argue & insist that they empty out the bathtub so I could shower once a day. I was lucky to have stayed in a private room as other rooms, people were by 2 or 3 beds. all the meals were served in the room so no contact with others except if one was able to go to the garden in summer. no interaction with others. no locks on the doors so at night I used sugar packets to lock the door so other patients with Alzheimer couldn't attack me thinking that I was in their beds. I listened nightly to their screams & weeping. the people working at your nursing home were so kind & patient, so different to the hell hole I spent 2 full months. any food I was given when I had visitors bring to me was eaten by the staff. I'm sure you are branded for life after doing this documentary, as I am. I sadly don't have children & this fear that was instilled within me during my stay 16 years ago feels like yesterday. the only decent point that the food was quite edible. there was no dignity, I was at the mercy of the moods of the nurses & doctors, luckily I was youngest in the center & knowing loads of jokes, had the medical team laughing most of the time. The fear had never left me since!

[@northline5670]

Basia Podbereski ! so sorry you experiensed that. sad so many sick and elders live so sad places with no one who cares about them.They would have ben cared for if they had a different family or ben at lest in a good elder home. .So incredible sad. we should do more to help those who live unworthy lives. How can humans not be able to take showers ? To sell elders homes while they still are alive ? If someone inharet someones home minimum thank you, would be to visit that familymember and show gratitude . 😓❤Mohst pets are treated soooo much better than many old place homes . So sad and wrong.😢 . There should be secret workers pretending to be senile in every old peoples homes and instetutions scoring them and if not good enough and good cind enough staff , they could get a chanse to fix it or they fired the staff and hired new staff with better ideas and standards...Sadly some places people abuse their power and are sick of the people they are hired to take care of.They should get a new job becaus their energy and way of being can mean everything for the people that live there. They have to give more than just the normal routine. They have to care , give smiles, talk, joke and be cind .That can be the differense between being very depressed or fealing worthy and good/ ok .

[@MargaretMcLaughlin-c7d]

I can validate your depressing experience. After being discharged from hospital after Covid Social Services "dumped" me into a care home for a spell of rehab. It was definitely a Bargain Basement facility - it was specifically for people with advanced dementia, understaffed, only two showers a week, no locks on the internal doors so no privacy but plenty of pilfering. Food was slop and stodge - I never want to see mashed potatoes ever again - and the eternal smell of urine and bleach. I was the only resident who didn't have dementia and the "challenging" behaviours of the others was fearful. These places are hellish and should be criminally investigated.

[@donnawood1094]

Anita thank you for sharing this experience and showing folk out there . The emotion you went through during filming was something that demonstrated true empathy and 'being in the person's shoes'. I found it emotional watching the film and seeing the day to day dehumanising of the person. The restraints that were used even the trays on the wheelchair at one point also looked as if they were using this as a restraining method. You pointed out many times about 'But is that because of their dementia' for example taking gloves off - well I totally agree with you, it is about not wishing to wear them. You discussed about the environment and at times how there was lots of noise or periods of activity and then nothing. This is not an uncommon thing in most 'homes' and yes I totally agree 'lack of activity' surely can cause all sorts of other issues eg agitation, depression, under stimulation. I believe the effect psychologically is more damaging for a person whose cognition is compromised. In the film you recognised the difference in folks having visitors and going out for the day how that improved their mood and interactions. Thank you for filming this.

[@KarianneBenoitKRN]

Better than American nursing homes to be honest unless the aides are putting on an act for the camera

[@wendybelworthy]

I suspect that the Singapore nursing homes are better than many of the ones in the USA or UK, because Singaporeans are generally respectful people, and kind natured. I have been to Singapore, and it is a lovely place to visit.

[@southside1975]

you can answer that your self lol cameras make people change.

[@johnmiller-jf3ez]

Of course they are,thats a given.

[@dml9699]

They are for sure putting on for the cameras ... You are not going to behave like normal knowing you have someone filming and researching how it is to stay in one of these homes !

[@jszoradi8650]

I believe it. Singaporeans cherish their elderly more than US. It's a culture thing.

[@AnimeLover4Life3395]

I work in dietary at a nursing home in the States. I'm only at the part where she gives up her belongings, and its true. If you must put someone in a nursing home, don't give them anything valuable, especially something that can be sent to laundry or the dish room. When I do dishes, I get so sad seeing all the fancy silverware and dishware come down having no way to place it back with its owner.

[@vloke9680]

Thank you Anita. Thought provoking and honest. Such an eye opener. God bless you.

[@MARTINA1937]

I have worked in care homes for dementia and Alzheimer’s it’s not easy work, I did it for 12 years I even left one home due to abuse it’s not nice thing to see, I also have my mum living at home she’s 92 yes she can be hard work, but I would rather her be with me then a care home, well done Anita that’s something I would like to do as I suffer with a lot of health problems x

[@Michelle-rc2xv]

We never have enough staff to care for each resident better. It is SAD

[@joeldecoster8816]

i worked in an industrial laundry where all the best linen we packed for the best hotels snd all the threadbare, stained ,smelly ones were given to aged care homes.

[@ingridakerblom7577]

In one of mh local care homes, the bedsheets are the old ones from a cruise ship company.. It mskes me sooo angry to think about, it sums it up, when a cruise ship, thinks that they are not good enough for their costumers (imagine how many ppl have slept in them, & doing god knows what on them, in them & with them 🤢🤮), HOW can anyone think it's ok to use them to the elderly? Don't they deserve better than old rejected & gross sheets..

[@TheKentuckylady717]

@@ingridakerblom7577 You are so right, the Gov. could afford new sheets if they would take care of their own people in their own Country.....they give enough of money away for the Elderly to live like rich people and not have to live like 2nd. class people....

[@AnaRamirez-is8yy]

Great video...i retired early to take care of both of my parents... without thinking of how I was going to make it . I see this and it is soooo sad! The food itself...would they eat it...ofcourse not! I understand they puree it so they won't choke, but it should be real food!!!! Thank you for exposing this and you really being a part of it!!! It's just a Job for them....they do not care

[@ingridakerblom7577]

Thank you Anita for doing this! This is absolutely HORRIBLE.. I work in elderly/geriatric care in northern europe, here it's NOT the norm to tie clients to the bed like that! Really, WTF!?! Demensia or not, clients get their own room, with their own toilets & often showers. Therefore you can use door alarms etc on the doors with people suffering from demensia. (Technoligy is a great help) That alerts staff if a "wanderer" gets out of his/her room & staff can go check what's up! They have alarms in their rooms to call for help... they can furnishe their rooms with their own stuff.. This is so uppsetting.. it's heartbreaking to watch.. I understand the difficulties with high dependency dementia wards, but still, there is NO regard to the individuals, their lives, stories & personalities.. do you have no personalised care? There is no words to truly describe how terrible a dementia descease is, not olny for the one suffering from it, but for their loved ones too.. It's truly uppsetting to watch rhe slow decrease.. I really feel with my clients, trying to put myself in their situation every day.. and everyday you try to do that day so meaningful as possible, every single task you I to do as nice as possible for that client, like really, it's not that hard to cover someones ears in the shower & not devalue & treat them like children. And to not dump them in a locked chair, belt, or bed & ignore all human connection, just doing the bare fysical minimum.. we work with a rehabiltitating view, all that the clients can do, we try, as far as possible, to let them do themselves. For them to maintain their functions & individuality as long as possible.. Good care is expensive, money & greed rules this world.. Not blaming the staff, I blame the ones i charge, making the task impossible with lack of staff.. how is it right that spmeone taking care of machines, are better payed than someone caring for a person & other humanbeings.. Imagine yourself in this situation..

[@marilynb8136]

I am a retired nurse and have worked in hospitals as well as home are and hospice. So I often was able to go into various facilities to visit clients. Not all facilities are fancy or well staffed. If I could, I would ask clients how they liked living there. Most of the time the clients were happy and well cared for. But some facilities are all about making money. It's criminal how we treat our elderly.

[@fatimaali7539]

As a carer I know it's hard but I treat my patients like they are family ..........

[@fatimaali7539]

How ever I do not agree with the use of restraints ...... it is a deprivation of liberty !!!

[@TheKentuckylady717]

Good for you and GOD BLESS YOU......and he will.......Thank you for your kindness......you will get your reward in Heaven.....

[@jszoradi8650]

This is a BEAUTIFUL nursing home. It's clean, with kind caring wonderful staff who cares about their jobs and the residents. Singapore is known for being one of the cleanest countries in the world. Anita cries and is depressed what she is experiencing. THIS NOTHING! This particular nursing home in Singapore is heaven on earth! She needs to go to the US and get a reality check. She will really cry. 1. There are many nursing homes in the THOUSANDS not counting assisted living facilities in every state. 2. There are many ABUSES going on from neglect, the smell, sometimes the residents are left laying in their own urine and feces for hours because there's not enough staff. 3. No white person will be caught dead working as a caregiver because of the nature, exposure to mental exhaustion, other co-workers who are tattletales, behavioral issues by residents and LOW PAY! 4. No value or appreciation for what the caregivers go through. 5. Never pay raises. 6. HIGH TURNOVER 7. Caregivers quitting because it's backbreaking work. Let's just say if I was a elderly person needing nursing home care, I'll damn well move from US to Singapore 🇸🇬 👵🏼😀👍

[@dawngarza533]

Very Important and very well done for EVERYONE to watch! If u dont 'FEEL' after watching this, then dont everrrr work in this type of environment bcuz as a woman that has worked in this profession for years, i can honestly say that i was very surprised to see how well these people care for these elderly patients without what seems to be a major problem in the U.S., which is elderly abuse in these places. Especially the State Run Facilities! I think we as a nation can learn from this video. Thank you so much for this. Much love sent to u, my doll for making this! U have a special place in Heaven honey!!! Luuuuv your mommy tooooo!!! God Bless All of You!!!

[@3SeveredHeads]

Older people are just kids who've been on earth longer!! They get just as scared in vulnerable situations & deserve respect & compassion!! This video doesnt surprise me unfortunately

[@rezterralico4369]

Oh for anyone wondering at the 20:55 mark those are a large stack of lille supreme fit (just shy of the maxi level).The ones with the little suns. They sell that French brand of adult diapers here in Canada at medical supply stores. Like about just over a dollar each. They are a decent brand. Not like 24/7 or anything but mid range.

[@CassieSmart365]

Of coarse she didn’t do this in USA! AND THERES A DAMN REASON! She knows it’s impossible here! Standards of care r SHIT!

[@marnierethmeier6538]

Very interesting and mind opening AND SAD!!!!!

[@christyborkowski6866]

This was an amazing documentary !

[@dinafair4576]

In the US we have not restrained an elderly adult in over 30 years. It was interesting to see the differences,

[@jszoradi8650]

Where?

[@pjnix5618]

Not true !

[@aacetase]

Great vdo--and I totally agree with you that in S'pore they miss the point that no matter what the nursing HOME (as it certaily should be) is not a HOME and they MUST not treat the seniors as patients instead of people--a family setting would always be best even if there is no relatives willing ton offer this option--we are trying to rectify this in the other ASEAN countries like Thailand and Myanmar and of course the perfect model is the Philippines

[@TheKentuckylady717]

Wow, maybe we should move to the Philippines..... maybe they could do a video on this and send to someone in the White House and maybe something can be done here.....

[@flux4flux]

Im working in care home. What I see in this video is personal opinion of that lady. You need to understand one thing that only 1 of 10 dont have any relatives and highly depends on working staff. Even in jail relatives visiting prisoners but for no reason elderly people often forgotten by relatives and this is most sad thing. We trying involve social services and family in residents life but most of the time they dont show any interest what so ever. If you calculate care assistant time what he/she can give to each resident per 12 hours (!!!!!!!!thats enormous hours to be productive) you will understand that for basic ,normal conversation there are no time at all. Im getting very tired from my job and looking for another one. You cant expect from one person to be in every aspect of resident needs. Next time choose another challenge. .. Go as care assistant and not for 3 days but for few months...good luck

[@patriciarowe3431]

Cherry Berry,,,,PART OF WHAT YOU SAY IS TRUE, HOWEVER, YOU HAVEN'T THE TIME FOR"" NORMAL CONVERSATION"""!!!!! BUT YOU HAVE TIME TO IGNORE CONVERSATION??????????.... WHAT IS A SMILE, A PAT ON THE ARM, A HUG, A "I LOVE YOU"", A GESTURE OF A WAVE, I SEE NOTHING OF THE NATURE HERE.... NO VISITORS, BUT THEY HAVE YOU DAILY TO CARE AND INTERACT...... ISN'T THAT THE MOST IMPORTANT ASPECT OF A PERSONS LIFE???? TO BE LOVED, OR EVEN TO BE MADE KNOWN THEY ARE COUNTED AS A HUMAN????.... THINK ABOUT THAT.... THE MOST REWARDING THING IN LIFE IS TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER..... WHERE IS THAT MENTIONED????

[@falcon6622]

Anita Kapoor, Beautiful mind and spirit,careing heart,One of the very few completely beauyiful woman

[@patmason7370]

I’m in Colchester, England I will be 79 in January,I came here from WALES in September 1980: I was in a violent marriage from age 18 to 16 years later having 3 children,I had come from a wonderful home and was so trusting my husbands family was totally different disfunctual in the extreme,I had never experienced violence before or quarrels, I was the eldest of 5 children 4 girls and a boy when I was 9 years old ,my third sister was what they called retarded,it turned out years later she was high functioning autistic, My mum had asthma and to give her a break my sister who was petit like me went to a home about 60 miles away,After about 6 weeks someone phoned my parents telling them they should visit my sister KAY in the home, Mum phoned me up I lived 13 miles away with what I called my monster,she sounded worried,I had been from tiny the outspoken one we were all grammar school educated and could read before going to primary school and taught decorum, I went home the next day and Mum and my sister Ann travelled to this home in PONTYCLYN,, OMG they weren’t expecting us this sour looking woman in a nursing uniform said we should have made an appointment,well they told the wrong person didn’t they,she had a huge bunch of keys hanging from her belt,more like prison officer,I told her We wanted to see Kay now**,off she went I had my back to the big doors then I saw mum and my sister Ann put their hands over their mouths I turned around ,I hardly recognised my sister Kay she was always immaculately dressed,her hair was lovely, This poor girl in front of me had lost at least 3,5 stone the clothes hanging off her were obviously not hers but for someone older and much larger,She stood staring at me,I was very close to her growing up,she had scratches up her arms and neck,I ask how she got them,THEY** bite each other this creature said to me,KAY had never been violent in her life she was quiet ,I said where are my sisters belongings I want them now mum was sobbing,OH you can’t do that said this 6ft woman to 5ft me,how stupid,She bought a doctor through I told him I was taking my sister who looked like a skeleton home with me NOW* I took a photo out of my purse of KAY taken just 2 months before s❤he went there at my brothers birthday party,He looked at the woman and told her to getKays thing immediately, Kay was shaking,and said * Patty * my family called me that ,she wrapped her arms around me,I didn’t cry that could wait, her case was bought through hardly anything of hers was in it even her little doll dads boss had bought for her had gone and her lovely clothes, We got in the car dad hadn’t come he hated hospitals,A friend had driven us there,he looked shocked,mum sat in the front and I in the back with Ann+ Kay,she lay her head on my shoulder and I said we are going home Kay,she repeated it in about 15 minutes she was asleep my arm holding her close,That home was closed about 12 years later a big case abuse and neglect I’d written a letter I was told that was read out in the tribunal, All homes should be vetted and hospitals too I’m talking from experience,pat mason

[@beverlytash1942]

You made me shed a lot of tears...

[@livingdeadgirl8074]

Those kind of restraints are no longer used in USA. Im a LTC nurse. Yes we are short staffed all the time but whats worse is never any visitors.

[@bron9674]

I applaud this young woman's attempts to experience what other people experience. Families must be involved. Unfortunately they are often not welcome, cultivated or interested. I am waiting for the day my Mum does not remember me. In little ways, she does not now.... very sad for me. Not for her.

[@birgip.m.1236]

😢

[@eilenekellogg7017]

So true ,abandonment is the norm. I knew a resident called Ethel, she was sentimental and had no problems getting around. She didn't know why her kids placed her there and kept trying to walk home. Her kids sold her house for a big chunk of money. The nursing home didn't want to deal with her so they had her medicated to the point she say in a adult high chair daily not even knowing who she was or where she was.. Very sad to see!

[@birgip.m.1236]

So sad. Humans are the worst kind of animal.

[@sabinecohen8369]

Anita did such a good job just lying there criticizing.....

[@kdcruz75]

Elderly people dont wanna be cared of... They want to keep caring for others

[@jmac1244]

I think every patient needs to have a large photo of themselves in youth highly visible to staff, as well as a bio on them. I can never understand why color is avoided, etc... just so damn easy to make things better.

[@jillwaldejer8358]

Jolie McMillian o

[@ibkristykat]

the place i went to after my 2 week STNA classes, and did just a couple hours 'hands on', they had little shadow boxes outside the rooms depicting the 2 *people* who inhabited that room. It was really cool. Pics of them as kids or young adults & a pic of their kids or grandkids, plus an ITEM that was sorta "them" - a pin or something maybe if they were ex-military or something they made if they were crafty, or a knick-knack. It was REALLY good to see something personalized like that cuz you really do kinda "forget" these are people with lives, pasts, & families, too - just like US (the caregivers).

[@debrataylor4806]

We have that in Canada but the information is kept in a private folder and pictures stay in room for personal use only. Because most can't consent to have things publicly displayed.

[@karenbrown2171]

Thank u very much for your time and consideration Wow

[@valleygirlgg]

Here is the US health aides are the lowest paid there is and dont get food and lodging. Its a crime how people that do such an important job are paid so little. I just dont get it. I worked in nursing homes for several years and saw a lot of horrible things. They need to improve the pay and benefits. These health aides should be paid better and on a livable income. They take care of our grand parents

[@uniquepurpose03]

THANK YOU🙏

[@TheKentuckylady717]

@@uniquepurpose03 Thank you and GOD WILL BLESS YOU FOR THIS TOO.....it will not go un-noticed.....

[@uniquepurpose03]

@@TheKentuckylady717 God Bless you Always ❤️

[@jszoradi8650]

Unfortunately that is a sad reality in the US. Care staff are generally not paid well and medical benefits are too expensive so they choose not to take it. Fast food worker get paid better than aides in nursing homes. This should explain low staff and high turnover.

[@uniquepurpose03]

@@jszoradi8650 SO, SO VERY TRUE 👍

[@iffybakker7440]

Excellent,but I believe people need to complain more! About the lights,the cold shorts etc..

[@carolharley2180]

I am 81 and terrified to have to go into one of these places! I pray that I die in my own home 🏡.

[@couchprincess698]

I’m a CNA in NY. Trust me the Jamaicans will throw around and hit the patients. We need more caring CNAs and raise our wages. 😢

[@jademcallister1147]

They dont use that belt anymore... they use bed alarm now.. if you try to get up.. the alarm will off.. and it connected to the call bell

[@ibkristykat]

I'm happier working in HOSPICE actually, than i was working in a Nursing Home (in the USA). I'm an *STNA* (state tested as opposed to Certified - which at least in Ohio as of 2004 being an STNA was PREFERRED over a simple CNA). I now LOVE my job whereas at the NH i would get soooooo restless & exhausted emotionally by the 1st or 2nd year on the job (and i only worked in 2 separate NH before coming to hospice. Worked 4 years in each place, and now in hospice i have been here since 2012 and DO NOT plan on leaving any time soon). Lemme tell ya - i see much more respect in the life of the person working in hospice than i saw in the NH (although we don't have activities for the people who are more cognizant of what is going on. Most of our patients are confused and delirious as the death process gets closer. Plus Alzheimer's or dementia thrown in the mix. It is *so* sad. But the dignity is of highest importance. At least where *I* work, it is.) Also: Since mid-2000s we quit being allowed to have the waist restraint you see on Ms Kapoor in this video. At least in Ohio a lot of restraints (in nursing homes & hospice) are NOT allowed. Hospitals do however have wrist and leg, and maybe?? waist restraints (for safety). When they WERE allowed in the first NH I worked at, they phased them out because belt chair restraints could be slipped UNDER and could pose as a choking hazard. You could twist out of and get hurt in the type even Ms Kapoor is in so they'd be outlawed as well (at least in Ohio). I mean, they got to a point where MY SUPERVISORS told me they'd rather the patient/resident FALL & get mildly hurt, than choked out or have a broken whatever cuz of being twisted up in a restraint. So now what *most* NH have that I know of in the USA, *as far as i know anyway*, they are called "restraint free facilities" and they have *bed alarms & chair alarms*. the beds & chairs have little alarms that'll BING or RING when someone stands up out of bed or out of the chair - that way we can be alerted & come to help. It's just a kind of "tattle tale" to let an aide or nurse know that 1 of the 15-30 some odd patients you have is getting up so you can help and prevent a fall IF NEEDED. it's loud but better than a choking/death hazard I suppose. annoying but safe. (and yes in the first facility i worked in the hall could be anywhere between 26 to 32 patients in MY section, MY responsibility with just 1 other aide to assist in transfers & 'changes' (when they needed incontinence care). The 2nd facility was sectioned off 15 or so patients per aide, but we all technically were responsible for ALL patient safety. Hear an Alarm - GET it. See an alarm off - TURN IT ON. See an alarmed patient turning it off, move it to a better locale & turn it back on, make sure they are safe again before leaving them. In the Nursing Homes AND Hospice we also advice no jewelry or wallet --- cuz it can be stolen. You keep it at your own risk. We would hate for it to be stolen or lost & be liable for it. :/ Also EVERYONE Keep in mind - this is a home in SINGAPORE. not The USA. So some of the standards aren't the same but the procedures do seem to carry over; except for the restraint business. The 2 NH i worked at though we didn't have "shower times". it was just "Sometime during your shift so many baths are due that day, if that person is due for one" and baths were done 3 times a week (per person. so some people's schedule was M-W-F and others were T-Th-Sat. & NONE were done on Sunday unless they were new to the facility). My first facility used to have "wards" but when i left in 2008, they mostly had 2 patient rooms. BOTH nursing homes I worked in had *activity departments* to keep people involved in games, movie time, reading the news or even having *outings* .

[@marykay8587]

in Canada the restrictions of the mits & security vest are prohibited....we can't even use wheelchair seatbelts on the elderly as they are a symbol of restrictive movement. yet those who are disabled need to have them on.

[@mariepalmer6968]

I have been in many many nursing homes, none are anywhere as institutional as this, nothing more than a long stay hospital from the last century, i cant watch further.

[@TOMS-ux4zp]

The reality is really eye awakening the staff in britain dont have enough time to deal with those in their care due to staff shortages etc;

[@johnmiller-jf3ez]

Nursing homes in her own country need a change.

[@jackiehopkins5118]

You are beautiful and amazing and brave

[@littlewhiteangora1374]

Daily bath? In Canada you get a bath once each week, if you’re lucky!

[@chetale6850]

Little White Angora I think Australia has the good nursing home care, you get to shower everyday, high care, good manual handling equipments, rigorous training to staff and good payments to the staff

[@dpeelaful]

When you really think about what's really going on with/without the financial stability in the process of death or just being a person "empathy, tenderness, sympathy, basic compassion for another nothing 😒really matters ÷where there is care compassion MUST follow 💙..sadly most 😔don't have that.

[@bunnybubs757]

Right !!! In the U.S. they have you on a weekly schedule … if you happen to be out of the room.. let’s say Rehab.. they’ll pass you by, wait two weeks .. then there is the old trick of pretending the hot water doesn’t work ., only ice cold .. so the residents , of course won’t go in.. instead can sit in a soiled bed of Urine and feces all day . These places are a 6 month gateway of hell. People don’t understand that the majority are not able to provide 24/7 care at home , it’s outrageous $$$, they have to work , they don’t have a floor plan that allows accessibility to a same floor bed / bath.. the list goes on

[@birgip.m.1236]

😢

[@sharonplant4102]

I worked in a nursing home when I was 16 on a scheme I'm in uk was sat talking to resident for 5 minutes. She wasn't talking back I said you ok Marge still no answer someone walked in n said what u doing I said talking to Marge she said she died in her sleep. I walked out whiter than her was oooo fuck they said they forgot to tell me I never went back again had never seen no one dead before I'm 49 now I'll never forget it

[@silvana8246]

you clearly were not ment to work in a nursing home. hope you found something you can handle

[@stellaorvad2519]

sharon plant Sharon you had Humility and a kind heart...and you were born with love and kindness in your heart. Just think how happy these residents were when you were there holding their hands and showing them love and kindness...If every Aged Care worker was as loving and Caring as you are there would be so much happiness in the Homes.Your ex residents would have loved you...and I think you have a heart as big as a huge Cabbage...Thankyou for being so loving and kind to every Elderly Person...no matter what her family was like or the staff at the Home...you my dear made a Huge Difference just by being yourself...and it Reflects back onto your Parents xxxx

[@JaneDoe-ti9fr]

@@stellaorvad2519 Well Stated♥👍🕊

[@sonalikumari-yn5fv]

I am thinking about this in future it suits me

[@myreasonforlife.9511]

We all would love secret shoppers to be done till this day. Abuse and neglect and doxxing continue even more till this day. Keep an eye on your loved ones put up cameras if need be!

[@Crayolapup]

Anita needs to understand that elders have different reactions to stimuli than younger people. A breeze of cold air is like stepping out into the snow with no coat. Their skins are thinner.

[@silvana8246]

thank you eureka. someone that gets it. this video was rubbish. anita had no understanding of reality in nursing homes as she thinks she does

[@ibkristykat]

are either of you CNA/STNA/PCS? just wondering.

[@bron9674]

@@silvana8246 Honey, there are many, many residential care 'realities'. Each one is valid. My Mum's home is great (single room plus en-suite, great staff, activities, blah blah blah) however, it still posses a sense of ware housing which could be improved. And our Family actively encourages this improvement. the video isn't rubbish and it should give younger people a shock.... enough to do something, I don't know.

[@janetashbrook5614]

Going to bed at 8! And being woken at 5! No choice . I work in Social Care and know well that there has to be routine to get the work done with low staffing and numerous people to care for but this is extreme institutionalisation.

[@allisonerickson3598]

Thank you Anita

[@HosamHonede-cj1gl]

Anita alove you are you verey hueman ❤❤❤❤❤

[@PureVikingPowers]

Nursing home staff often abuse the elderly that can't talk, we see it now with hidden cameras 😥

[@deborahstone9696]

That's terrible hun. My mom was in a home for a few years. I showed up at all times of the day.observed no one being treated badly, although moms care home really costly. Staff was great

[@GloriannePapolis-TVI]

everyone thinking of putting their wife or husband or grandmother or grandfather or aunt....in a nursing home NEED to live in one just for even a few days. Get together and hire a home care provider to care for them, but keep them home, it is disgraceful

[@ewaj.6260]

You are absolutely right. People have mercy on your love ones

[@dolphin58603]

We never had mittens or in body jackets that seems to be OTT

[@JaneDoe-ti9fr]

Most Nursing Homes in u.s. you are Lucky if you Get to Have a Shower 2 times a Week most people only Once a week! And No Wipes !!!!

[@Michelle-rc2xv]

I have questioned the food too but I am told to feed it to them. SAD

[@marilynncanale7828]

Why why are nursing homes neglected? This should be criminal how these older people are treated. This has been going on for years when is the government going to do something about it?

[@jerriedenham2320]

The nursing homes. I have worked in for very short periods of time were/are nowhere as nice as this one. However, never is there restraining anyone. It is illegal to restrain unless the person or staff are on danger, then they are sent out to hospital psych units. But in general the residents are living out the rest of their life in a hell hole. No dignity at all.

[@Michelle-rc2xv]

The shower bed is better then what American homes have

[@adrianabodea5736]

They have a shower bed to

[@kimberley5592]

This is stupid..why wouldn't she go where they mainly speak English. .and not a true picture because the workers know why shes there..they're going to be on their best behavior

[@ibkristykat]

so far as their 'best behavior' - i agree. i've seen some *a - tti- TUDE* from people in the nursing homes i worked at (2 places, 4 years in each). Pfff. you see it. Now IDK about overseas if it could be much different - doubt it. people are people no matter where they live, i've noticed. So they gotta get stressed, and take it out on the people they take care of (yell at them to shut up if they are demented and yelling, for example). I agree about the English speaking thing too, unless it's just the only place that would okay the project.

[@smbot1991]

All the wheelchairs are crappy but at least they have some. She had no cushion on her wheelchair to prevent pressure wounds. They would never get away with that level of restraint in Canada. This is what happens when safety is put over freedom and risk.

[@christyborkowski6866]

When my dad lived with me until he went into the nursing home I always tried to get someone in to shall I say keep him company and get him to walk more while I was working but he refused that , and even after he developed pneumonia and went to rehab he refused to do the exercises and yes he’s 96 and tired , so there are 2 things they needed to give him more time to gain his strength back before rehab and then dad had to want to mentally and physical once he could get his strength back but he did refuse therapy and we appealed and they denied it and I’m sure it’s due to his age , which is wrong because once he found out he was going upstairs to the nursing home he was upset and now wanted to do the therapy so he could go home but now it was to late because they wouldn’t due anymore therapy and he now physically couldn’t ! It’s a double edge sword ! Now he still wants to come home but he is bedridden and finding someone to take care of him 24/7 is impossible ! It’s a horrible situation all around ! That’s why I don’t wanna live to that age with dementia and Alzheimer’s on the rise and now frontal temporal dementia on the rise ! Just heartbreaking

[@littlewhiteangora1374]

In Singapore 🇸🇬 the nursing home residents get showered 🚿🧼 once per day, yet in Canada it’s only ONCE PER WEEK! Absolutely shocking! This nursing home is 100X better than where my grandma and mum resided in Canada: no wonder they both died after just 5 months.

[@rezterralico4369]

Seems like they even get more absorbant adult diapers than the crappy Canadian version of tena (Europe has a more absorbant brand of tena).

[@MOMMYchel50]

the patient is being tortured by restraining their will to move around what happens to dignity of the patient

[@stellaorvad2519]

Older People "ARE OUR FUTURE " NOT YOUNG PEOPLE! We are all going to be old and have illnesses and or Dementia and Alzhiemers Disease so I do believe the Elderly ARE OUR FUTURE'S. I found your Documentry both Interesting and Sad....and felt for you and all the residents that were being treated like just a NUMBER...Cold Cruel and when someone dies they clean the room within an hour and the next...said thing is... NEXT ! Thankyou for sharing with us...I have been an Aged Care Nurse in a Home for most of my adult life and believe me there are about 80 percent of "US NURSE'S " that Love and Care for the Residents with the upmost RESPECT " My Mother died from Bowel Cancer so we did not get to see Mum as an old lady. I loved every one of my Residents...and showed them I did by hugging kissing and being kind to them all. I would treat them all like they were my family....and I was born to care so my bosses say...One of them said if she could Clone me she would..that was to me the most wonderful Compliment ever. xxx

[@jodiescarcega1924]

I’m sorry I’ve put my mom in a nursing home a couple years before she passed I will never forgive myself for that for the rest of my life.

[@nancy40317]

alot of times we can't take care our loved ones bc their condition is too severe or we have to work or whatever the case is. you did what you thought was right. it's a part of life. I pray you find comfort

[@michelleshelley995]

You have to do What you have to do.

[@michelleshelley995]

I no it's not easy 💓 💓💓💓💓😘

[@nonsensetalk8953]

Why are they restrained in bed?That is totally illegal,nowadays.

[@jessieinthewest]

I work in a senior care facility. We do not make seniors sit around in wheelchairs in a hospital like setting all day. It’s inhumane. The food is good, varied and interesting. It’s decorated, social, soft, inviting and accommodating. The residents are given the appropriate autonomy they deserve while ensuring their safety. This video is horrifying.

[@siamsadie]

I admire what you are trying to get across but no way is this anywhere near true to life, I’m afraid. You’re in Wonderland, rest of us are at the Mad Hatters Tea Party.

[@JaneDoe-ti9fr]

Bea Butcher, You Are So Right! Most Have No Ideal😢♥👍🕊

[@noonecares8932]

I’ve seen residents set and wait.. for the loved ones to come see them.. and they never do. A lady would coke every day and say.. well do we have any more visits.. she was waiting for her son.

[@Michelle-rc2xv]

It was a good experiment but u wasted staff time on u they could have been helping a person who needed them

[@angelfirelite]

Anita is beautiful and has a lovely young looking body....I am real scared as I grow older, I am already 70 and my arms have aged. I was recently in an auto accident, not of my fault and it really banged up my body all in the front. I was literally beat up by air bag and seat belts so I have contusions all over me and 2 ugly wounds on knees that are still there as they heal slowly. Not once did the nurses wash me and I was there for 2 weeks! At least this place Anita's in washes them every day! I do not look my age and was doing OK, now I feel real vulnerable and old. I even am afraid to drive again ~

[@ibkristykat]

when and where did *that* happen? just wondering. hope you are doing better and better each day. are you in need of physical therapy to get back on your feet, or mostly just banged up? that really must be scary thinking of having to take yourself from point a to point b in a car again - i don't blame you. honestly i don't.

[@bron9674]

Anita goes to high dependency, when she does not have the requirements for. She feels dull and down. A reality here.... but, others appear not common definitions of high dependency, according to interior conditions of mass seating, restraints, feeding. And yup, food can be slop (my Mums quote)

[@MOMMYchel50]

what the heck not even a blanket?? And putting a restraining jacket is not acceptable