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[@answerinprogress]

Sabrina here! Even though I wasn't in the video, I edited the whole thing and nearly cried while doing it. Seeing Melissa chat with her grandpa reminded me of my own own. It was nice to work on this video and see my friends talk through and explore how being cross culture is it's own... culture. I wish younger Sabrina had a video like this, and I hope you enjoyed it! If you want to see more videos from us, be sure to check out: kzbin.info

[@quietlyinlove]

thanks for making this video, x culture kids rise up ✊😔

[@jordanbalke]

Can we request the recipe that Melissa made in this video? It looked delicious!

[@WhiteTigerDC]

I felt all the things in this video as an Asian-American. This was a really good video. I'm looking forward to the next videos!

[@mariee_e]

Sabrina, we’re super curious about your culture too! Will you be talking about that in future uploads? I might’ve missed it as I’m pretty new to this channel, so if someone knows!

[@vasanthsreeram]

I almost cried too

[@livtheolive3888]

Sabrina really do be looking different

[@lynnburch261]

I think she cut her hair🤔

[@livtheolive3888]

Lynn Burch ya I think you’re right

[@sirstrofi5425]

@@labadaba5088 yeah kinda

[@emilyzhou7443]

Derek Welk nah she still looks south Asian but southeast asian before...?

[@emilyzhou7443]

Derek Welk wait I’m confused now

[@kyrstine]

"I am interacting with culture because I'm eating rice"

[@huskbread]

Lol

[@zylki8211]

I’m a bit scared of having children. I am Caribbean and my partner is from China. I don’t want my children feel like they don’t fit in. Hopefully I can guide them and give them helpful tips that can make their journey better as a cross culture kid.

[@sucyshi]

Mixed race is the master race and everyone can contribute ;) Your kids, no matter what, being human, will find a way to not fit in. This way just makes that way predictable. There's plenty of reasons to not have kids just as there's plenty of reasons to have them, such as in your case, making a more genetically healthy child who is significantly less likely to inherit genetic/hereditary diseases

[@caihui9642]

Cyber Sushi "mixed race is the master race" Nah. Its just a race.

[@juliadonati8245]

Cai Hui I dunno man, I thought it was clever.

[@pheonixrises11]

Cyber Sushi I joke about mixed race being superior, all the time :) race is pretty silly, honestly

[@TartempionLampion]

Don't worry, they will build their own culture mostly from the society in which they will grow, enriched from what you and their father have to offer. They might feel confused or even lost at time in the process, but they will make it, this is the natural, spontaneous process (in my personal experience).

[@dreamingintomorrow]

I'm not multicultural but my child will be. I am always a little worried about how to incorporate both cultures into my child's life. This video made me realize that it really is just the 'small' things like food that matter a lot when connecting to a culture.

[@anyan]

Oh!! I never thought there were studies in this! Thank you so much for talking about the subject! I myself was born in Russia but lived in France since I was 6 y.o. and I never could answer properly to others when french people kept asking about my russian experience of life and vice versa, because I really had neither and both, and I haven't met lots of kids that had similar experience for a while (until I started university that is, which is super late). Confused culture kids is for sure the right way to say this, and it really put me at ease knowing it's more common than I thought !! Thank you so much again! :)

[@like_miaow]

Same!! I was born in New Zealand but mostly grew up in Taiwan and my parents are Taiwanese and it's all very confusing (and even more so when I meet people with similar backgrounds but totally different ways of identifying themselves)

[@ninawii5318]

my dad moved from a small town into my city about 40 years ago and while they are pretty close it's still different from where he grew up, about 4 years ago he found a store that sold a type of bread from his town, in 40 years he had never seen it in this city and he was so excited for me and my sisters to try it. He spend hours telling us about his childhood, the bakery that used to sell them and how he would collect coins to buy it, for him this bread was a bit of culture he could share with us and thanks to this video im realizing this now

[@firewordsparkler]

I love the idea of soup, where everything is tossed in and mixed together and you get what you get

[@vivitronn]

I'm Mexican-American and I totally feel this. My mom immigrated from Juarez, Mexico when she was around six months old so she doesn't exactly identify as an immigrant since she's pretty (as she'd describe it) white washed even though she's more involved in our culture than me. My dad's Tex-Mex (Texan Mexican.) Sure, I may be Mexican by blood, but I never really felt as connected to the culture as my parents, other than food and some music. I do know a little Spanish but not enough to speak it, people in my community called me white washed for that. I wish I was more involved but I just never was. I remember being little and going to my abuelita's house and her cooking authentic food from our culture, her being a full blown immigrant from Juarez, and I loved it. Every time we would go to her house, she'd make me sopita, and it was so comforting. I get the whole food thing.

[@iwatchyoutube6025]

REFLECTION Loved the video. My family is from Southern India and we live in Western India. Although it's not the same as a different country, I always felt like a cross culture kid because the culture outside my house is different in so many ways from that of inside my home. Thank you for the video. Keep up the great work!

[@yashmoitra]

Gujju?

[@elektron10]

I felt that.

[@fryingpan552]

I have similar thoughts from my experience living in different parts of the US as well, although definitely not to the same degree

[@iwatchyoutube6025]

@@yashmoitra no. I'm from Andhra and live in Maharashtra

[@arushisingh1425]

Yeah I got you , Even growing up in different states within the country makes me feel like cross culture. As I always feel left out some in other things.

[@marykirkland82]

these conversations about culture are so important! i love hearing everyone’s personal experiences

[@stillnotrehan]

Well we can all agree that That food looks SO TASTY

[@prayagsuthar9856]

"I can just be me" may sound corny and cliché, but it's unbelievably true honestly. It's less about "oh I'm doing whatever I want" and more about "I don't _have_ to be in this box or that box, and I can decide how I want to make myself". It's a very subtle, but powerful thing.

[@bknance]

I never knew this term existed! It's so nice to finally have a term for my existence 😊 thanks for making this video I didn't even know I needed.

[@slytherlily]

Growing up multi-cultural isn't something that is talked about enough. I'm half Chinese, a quarter Mexican, and a quarter Honduran is the basis of my mix. From what I understand, I may have some other cultures mixed into me as well. So the "Where are you from??!?" "What ARE you?!?" questions were always way too common in my life. I grew up in Los Angeles and just say I'm from L.A. and people always question more. Thanks for making this video. It's easy to feel so alone when people ask questions regarding my identity, so it's nice to feel valid seeing others who go through the same identity struggles I've dealt with in my life.

[@Takosaga]

Parents illegally came to America from Mexico. My two cultures, my languages, my environments clashed. After many years I do not relate to either and just consider myself closer to gamer and internet culture more than anything else. I feel closer to the memetic of ideas with how games and internet evolved thru the 90s to now. It resonates so much when seeing videos of old lore from internet stories or watching some play a game from old game systems. Even now I get influenced by Twitch, twitter, reddit and KZbin and not just the proximity of people around me, except for food cause home made frijoles are the best

[@samanthavelo]

I identify with this on a spiritual level. It also brings up the conversation of "what is culture?"

[@elskabee]

so true, I grew up being influenced by so many cultures (i live in a multicultural country and city) that weren't my own ethnicity that idek any more what culture is

[@joseph199627]

Being an American raised in Belgium, this video would have really helped my past self with the sense of isolation I felt from not understanding the culture around me and not being able to share the culture I enjoyed at home to my Belgian friends. Thank you very much for this video.

[@carviz7199]

I remember once I had a project about culture. I told my teacher I didn't have a culture and she said I have united states culture, but I couldn't explain how I didn't have enough knowledge of either of my cultures to do the project properly. I didn't do that project, but now I realized I have a culture, it's multicultural.

[@readingkings2801]

*SHE IS ADDRESSING ALL OF MY PAIN IN THIS VIDEO THAT IVE NEVER BEEN ABLE TO PUT TO WORDS OMG THANKS* - Sincerely another confused guyanese 🇬🇾🇮🇳🇺🇸

[@SolarSeaSlug]

I'm Guyanese/Peruvian, and this video really spoke to me. My grandparents were the immigrants, my mom died when I was 12 and I haven't talked to my father since I was 13, so I'm really disconnected from my culture. My primary method of connecting to my culture is by cooking certain food and spending time with the few people in my family I feel safe around, and two of them are moving back to Peru in nine days because they can't afford to live in Canada anymore. It's really comforting to hear I'm not alone in feeling alienated from any one culture, as it's something that's always weighed on me in a way I can't easily express and that I've been thinking about a lot lately, due to those family members moving away. Also, it's really rare that I encounter other Guyanese people 'in the wild' and Alvin's voice reminded me of my own grandpa, (who passed last June,) please send him my love and thanks for sharing his experience and culture.

[@durdleduc8520]

I feel like I fit in the category where I’m not a third culture kid, but _super close_ to being one. My great grandparents on my father’s side moved to the US from Hungary. They were Jewish, and spoke both Hungarian and Hebrew. Now I live in the United States, only a native speaker of English and knowing only a few Hungarian words and some Hebrew prayers. I’m barely Jewish. My dad specifically raised me to be very atheist. The only Jewish holiday I celebrate is Hannukah, otherwise I follow the big popularized Christian holidays, because I’m in a Christian area. In most definitions, I’m white. My mom is white and from Europe and Scotland, and my siblings and I are light-skinned. I grew up knowing myself as Jewish, but even that is hard for me to say outright. Can I be Jewish without ever having a bah mitzvah? Without knowing any of the extra Hannukah prayers beside the first? While celebrating Christmas and Easter? There’s a long history of the Jewish people never belonging to any specific ethnicity. They come in many different skin tones, speaking many different languages, in many different countries. And in nearly every place that Jews tried to make a home, they faced adversity. Before the recent changes in the Middle East and the revival of Hebrew, most Jewish people lived in small pocket communities scattered across the globe, or, like me, so diffused into the surrounding culture that their identity is questionable. It’s saddening to think about, that I have direct familial branches that faced the Holocaust, but feel like have lost my cultural connection to them. Aside from food. Matzo, geld, hummus, couscous paela, and latkes are home to me. My family gathers around Hannukah yearly to eat more traditionally “Jewish” food. That’s the one time I’m Jewish. It’s weird feeling like an outsider in a place I was born and raised, celebrating the same holidays, having the same skintone. There’s no reason I should feel like an outsider, the influence of immigration runs cold after my grandparents. I should be at home, but I’m not. Edit: I also want to add that even though I have a desperate desire to fit into my surrounding culture, it’s battling with my need to not disconnect from my history. I want to draw pride from my Jewish ancestry, learn Hungarian, and keep my (Jewish-sounding) last name. I want to have a place among the people around me, but I also don’t, because I have a need to embrace my roots. I also hate being white. White people get so much privilege that I don’t deserve any more than a dark-skinned Jew. Whiteness is often synonymous with bigotry. I don’t want to be that.

[@wahlex]

aaghsebsvshd I’ve never related more to a KZbin comment. Your story almost exactly mirrors my own and it’s interesting to see that there are other people like me.

[@durdleduc8520]

Alex Rusakoff It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone. ❤️

[@wahlex]

@@durdleduc8520 definitely. I always felt so strange being Jewish and not being comfortable saying that I am. I never really identified with my ethnic identity or religious one as I was raised atheist. Being Jewish for me has always felt strange, especially living in America where I look just like everybody else and no one questions whether or not I'm American. Thank you for sharing your story, its kind of nice to know that there are others like me.

[@TartempionLampion]

I am from à Hungarian jewish family that fled Hungary to Western Europe, and my parents (holocaust survivors) HID from us 3 children that we were jewish for as long as they could. I was around 11 when we found out (huge shock). This was not a rare behaviour among holocaust survivors. So I feell very disconnected from that part of my heritage, i know nothing about Jewish things and culture... I'm a Buddhist ! Only my elder brother embraced Jewish religion as an adult but still keep very low profile. Our parents were complete atheists, or so I guess as religion was never ever discussed at home. I don't think you should see your heritage and your US culture as conflicting, you are just hurting yourself, there is no reason for that, you just happen to have a mix of cultures which is fantastic, just like a huge portion of humanity.

[@AmberyTear]

The concept of nationality the way we knoe it is so young and so illogical that it doesn't make any sense for many people out there. Don't worry, you don't even have to call yourself anything other than a human being that is simply connected to several cultures.

[@hopefletchfan]

This was so lovely, and so well put together. I find it funny how the research montage and the zoom call with Taha/Sabrina is becoming a staple of these videos. Also you really lulled me into that surfshark ad I was so zen watching the montage. I'm like Taha, British Pakistani, and when I was like 5 when I was asked where I am from I took my hand and used it to slice down my face and chest while saying 'i am half british and half pakistani'. I've made a lot of effort to retain the Pakistani in me, learning Urdu in earnest, learning how too cook food that isnt pasta, wearing kurtas even to school when I built up the confidence. But despite all that I feel most at home here, in Britain, where I was born, and the prospect of living a life expected of a Pakistani woman is chafing, and my ideas and ideals are so so so different from my parents and cousins by virtue of the environment i grew up in and progressive ideas I have been exposed to. Its hard and complicated. It's been even weirder recently, trying to justify to myself wanting to be proud of britain with its colonial history and current entrenched xenophobia and racism but, hey ho. Excellent video

[@12guitargirl10]

Me and my sister have a joke when people ask where we're from "where were we born? where did we grow up? or where were are parents born?"

[@random23287]

My dad is from two cultures, my mom from one, I was born in another, and raised in another. Sort of three and a half cultures (we moved from where I was born when I was two, so not a lot of exposure to that culture). The food has definitely reflected this. My mom learned how to cook my dad's culture's food from my paternal grandma, who had a restaurant, and my dad also knows some things. My mom also cooks from her culture, which she learned from her mother/my maternal grandma. It's really interesting and we've always been proud of our mosaic-like multicultural and international (we have people living on 4 different continents) family.

[@suz5191]

this group of friends is so cute and wholesome, I love seeing them interact with each other, and I just really love this channel and the ideas it tackles! plus, the editing and visual graphics are TOP NOTCH, I honestly think this channel deserves so much more attention

[@javiskii]

The premise seems very Northamerican, or at least is what I'm feeling (at the very beginning, you've done a great job widening my point of view during the vid). In Europe, normally it means where have you lived the longest, or you felt the most comfortable living in. If we are curious about ancestry we will ask about your parent's countries of origin, not yours. When I hear and American saying they're Irish, when they've never been there or their family hasn't lived there for generations, I can't help but cringe a little. Although this video has been really clarifying on some aspects. Thank you very much guys!

[@javiskii]

(also, while I was watching you cook that ABSOLUTELY DELITIOUS LOOKING food, an ad for Uber eats popped up... KZbin knows)

[@Chipinopa]

The internet is very US centric in general but this really is a world wide issue. I'm a latin american cross culture kid :3

[@salssalsa]

I almost cried watching, thank you for this. Recently someone from my own origin told me I dIdN't LoOK FrOM ThErE...

[@Grokford]

I grew up in the same country with parents from the same country. But I always felt that my parents coming from different regions along with not meeting expectations in some circles while meeting them in others left me feeling very culturally confused. I’m very socially flexible and I’ve now traveled through 13 countries only feeling culture shock once but I’ve really had to dig into different facets of my identity and culture and because I’ve always felt a deep longing to be included I I’ve been quite expansive. I am not a fragmented pile of miscellaneous parts I am a collection of a varied whole. People are so used to segmentation that you can be shamed for claiming something that people don’t think you match or for claiming something that they think is better replaced but that’s not how humans work.

[@THEPUFFY1231]

My mom's Russian, Dad's American, and I was born in Finland (most out of convenience; apparently my mom had a bad experience with giving birth in a newly post Soviet Russia with my brother, and a friend had recommended Finland to her). I grew up in Kazahkstan, Russia and Holland, before moving to the US for college, where I still am to this day. Even though I went to international schools all my life with other expat kids, I didn't know the terms 3rd culture or expat until I was in college really. I feel like my own dilemma was exasperated by not having a knack for languages (I barely spoke in general) and never being fluent in any language other then English, and being surrounded by friends who will most likely move away within the next two years, if not sooner. Growing up I wanted to live in America and felt I was always more 'American' than Russian, and I was anxious about finally living in the US after high school. I've since realized that just knowing the language isn't really enough to blend in a country's culture, and to this day I still struggle with feeling like an outsider. For me, I think learning the language has been what helped me connect to my Russian heritage. I still have a lot of Russian relatives that I'm in group chats with, and being able to even understand their messages even just the tiniest bit more has really meant a lot to me lately. I really do hope I get the chance to revisit the country and the places I grew up in, but with the Russian boarder being closed due to the invasion in Ukraine, I really have no idea when, if ever, I'll be able to visit again. I guess I'm just writing all of this just to say: Man, I get it!! I know that feel!! I've been diving through the videos on this channel, and I am touched to see a topic that's especially close to me and just connect in some way with other 3rd culture people.

[@Stop4MotionMakr]

"At the ripe age of 22" Me who's 25: ight imma be outta here

[@brendan308]

My mom's culture is Northeastern Italian, but also Baltic/Adriatic. My Dad's culture is deeply-rooted Irish-Scot immigrants, and I have a lot of culture from both. Now, growing up, I live in a place with heavy East-Asian influence. There are Asian markets on every corner, rice is THE food that everyone eats, and it's impossible to walk down the street without encountering a conversation in Mandarin, Korean, or even Vietnamese or Cantonese. I've never really felt *part of* a culture, just an outside observer at times, and a phony at others. Thankfully I've never had to deal much with the "Where are you really from" since I'm quite white looking, but I definitely relate to feeling between worlds, and not having one culture to call my own.

[@skyfish8781]

Thanks for this video as a "Scot" with Latin American parents it's nice to hear someone express the kind of thoughts Ive had for a long time. Personally asides from food I really feel that sense of connection on warm, still, evenings.

[@YukikoOdair]

as a japanese british person myself i relate so much! I grew up in a very white place so until very recently i'd been (subconsciously) trying to deny myself of my japanese identity and trying to be "white" to fit in (to the point poc friends would call me a white girl lmao).. i think its when I saw taha's tweets when i realised that both identities can coexist!! In /reflection/, although i hated feeling different as a child, I'm so grateful to my parents for raising me international :)

[@acoustic_eyes2923]

I'm Ecuadorian American, and felt all this. It's a struggle to be fully American or fully Ecuadorian at any given moment. But food does make that feel like it's part of my identity I'll also add language since most people that I meet from different parts of South America or Central America say my Spanish is really good for an American. I've always liked not being so one-dimensional with my tongue. But code switching in two languages can definitely make me feel at times where I miscommunicate. That's really mainly where I feel a little confused bout my identity since proper translation is an important skill to have when being culturally aware, if that makes sense Best video so far

[@modka613]

I feel like the generations growing up with the Internet and it being a huge part of their childhoods can now have similar problems with identifying their culture

[@JuriAmari]

This is a video I definitely need right now. My parents immigrated from Cameroon and we had friends from all over the world (most from Germany, Italy, China, Japan, Puerto Rico, and India) so it feels like I’m in between worlds even though I was born and raised in the US. I just had this sense that no matter what I tried, I’d never fit in. Media and food has been my important bridge to connecting with people and thank goodness today’s tech makes it a lot easier.

[@quantompurple17]

I was literally watching one of your videos for my class the second you premiered this, no lie

[@Candytuft-CookingPan]

This reminds me of me, kinda. The only cultural representation I ever got was on my Irish side from my dad because he loved cooking but the full mix I know myself as at the moment is Norwegian, English, Irish, Germany, and according to my mom Native American. I believe my closest ones are Irish, Germany, and Norwegian. I've actually been to a Norwegian restaurant they had good breakfasts, and they were mainly there for the pie. It was a good place.

[@idrisabdullah3492]

I was definitely not surprised when you said you looked south asian but had a parent from Trinidad. Especially with the last name Fernandes, I assumed you might've been Cape Verdean or Brazilian but it makes a lot of sense

[@Eve.Daniels]

My friends here in Sweden get this ALL the time. Sweden is historically very pale, but these days that's just not the case. One of my friends always get's the 'Where are you REALLY from'. She's 3rd generation Swedish, but her family is korean/ghanan. And when she says she's swedish people don't believe her. They think I'm Swedish, which technically I am genetically, but I did NOT grow up here and do not speak the language, she did. She calls it 'spot the swede'

[@krisselissan6539]

My mother is Finnish and my father is Swiss and I really grew up connected very strongly to both cultures. Whenever I first met someone (regardless of what they looked like) I always asked where they/their parents were from because I loved talking about Swiss and Finnish culture and language to anyone who would listen, and I also absolutely loved listening to other people talk about their cultures and languages. I never had any bad experiences with encounters like that, hopefully it was clear to the people I asked that I wasn’t doing it to single them out, but that it was something I asked everyone because I was a curious child that loved learning about other people. I only found out around age 16-17 that some people find questions like that uncomfortable, so I kinda stopped asking them. Recently, I started my master’s degree here in Zürich and my classes always have lots of non-Swiss students, and I’ve found that they will often ask me where I’m from, and are usually really excited when I ask them where they’re from, and I now know so many things about Turkish, Albanian, Chinese, Bolivian, Greek and Italian culture that I never would’ve know otherwise. This is just a very long way of saying that I think it’s always nice to learn things about other cultures. But if someone is uncomfortable sharing things like that, it’s a real dick moves to keep asking «no but like where are you actually from?»

[@saralawlor8389]

I totally relate to the feeling of food being the deepest connection to my culture!! This video is awesome

[@gregory-of-tours]

This reminds me a lot of some roommates I've had in Toronto. All from Europe, but with various mixed backgrounds. I think they hoped that in Canada that they could be more themselves, or find themselves or something, only to discover that in Canada they'd be seen as Dutch or British or Swedish, even though they're not really treated that way in back Holland, England and Sweden. Sorta seemed like they never really felt quite at home anywhere. (But then I also lived in a dive that tended to attract depressed, lonely people who'd been put through the wringer by life so uh.)

[@jarm1664]

For me, my mom’s adoptive family was from a different culture and treated me and my siblings as their family. My mother developed the same accent. The people I saw as my grandparents weren’t related to me by blood but I grew up in their home, hearing their language and accents, but I feel uncomfortable identifying as part of their culture. At the same time, this is the culture I’m mostly grew up in. I feel envious of my older sister who is by blood part of their culture and can fully claim it as her own. She’s practiced the language but when I try learning I feel like a fraud. Like I’m taking something that doesn’t belong to me. I think at the end of the day it’s human nature to want a community of your own, to feel like you have a family and a place where you belong. Especially as people get even more lonely and isolated, sometimes a culture or background feels like the only community you have. For example, my husband is from another country than the one we live in and when he meets other people from his home, he enjoys the connection he has with them. He knows he has a people out there. Some of us feel as though we’re totally alone.

[@decameter]

I had a very strong cultural identity in americana, but there's certain parts of my families heritage that aren't well known, stuff like my Grandfathers military kid life, where he would be in baltimore one year, and then Hawaii the next. He witnessed Pearl Harbor as a kid, and those odd vocal ticks and bits and pieces really do make up an identity. I often hide my strong northern accent cause people tend to think of it as funny. I've always thought of it as wholesome, uncomplicated niceness. But food for sure has always been something to bring me back, good old fashioned beef and potatoes, and savory gravies. Biscuits, bacon, sausage. My family makes all the bests of Germany and Finland. Nothing makes home like a slice of fresh hot Pannekkakua.

[@cameronlee1827]

The little discussion on food definitely hit home for me. I'm half-chinese half-white, but my dad came to Canada at a very young age so there's a disconnect between the culture of my grandparents and me. To add to that I grew up in a very very Asian city, so I grew up with my grandparents and their culture, but also felt outside of it because my home life was much more of a typical white suburban Canadian family. I was always the only white kid, look mostly white, was always told "you're so white" but also never felt at home with being a White Canadian either. I also most easily connect to my family and heritage through food. Going out and having dimsum like I did with my grandparents when I was young, or nostagically recreating dishes my mah mah cooked me. It makes me feel happy and at home and reminds me of them.

[@jjkthebest]

Heck, even I feel like a third culture kid and people will only notice I'm a foreigner when I tell them. I can only imagine what it's like if you regularly get the "where are you really from".

[@oanaomg7298]

In my country, one of the first things we ask someone after we befriend them is ‘where are you from?’. We have strong preconceptions about every region and we base our impression of the person on that. Plus our physical appearance varies from brown, to vaguely asian, to Scandinavian and almost everything in between, which also affects this. Now on a smaller, national scale I do understand your feels. My grandparents are from the East of the country, moved to Southern Transylvania where my parents ans well as myself were born. I studied and lived for 9 years in another Transylvanian city. And I spent most of my childhood summers in the Eastern countryside. And now I live in England. My culture is a mix of all those with a strong ‘internet culture’ thrown in. When some one asks me ‘when are you coming home?’ my thought is ‘which home?’. I have at least three.

[@GaviLazan]

It's important to point out that a VPN *does not* protect your computer from malware or viruses you might get from visiting sketchy websites or downloading sketchy files! VPNs, at best, will hide your real IP from these sites and will block your internet provider from knowing what sites you visited.

[@julia15206]

I have the reverse experience as a swede haha , like the cultural landscape is changing and is forgetting all traditional food, songs and dances and when i thought of making a dress for midsummer it almost felt like it wasnt my culture so i didnt, the dresses are meant to represent where you come from in sweden but finding a dress to copy on the internet was imposible. Culture is not so easy haha. We make our own everyday.

[@djweaver29]

As someone whose family has been in the same region for nearly 300 years, this is all pretty foreign to me. Super interesting to hear about your experiences; lots of stuff I hadn't heard of or been exposed to. Also, what is this spotify playlist I spied in the first portion? I searched for it but nothing came up.

[@Tr4sh_can34]

this video really resonated with me. Parents are from Afghanistan but I was born in Europe. I always felt conflicted on where I really belonged

[@awsafreza4272]

I feel like one of the most important part of a culture is the unique festivals.

[@KelciaMarie1]

I'm a third culture kid! I'm white, but I grew up overseas in very multicultural environments. Asking "where are you from?" Was just a polite conversation starter, because so many people had fascinating backstories that would be impossible to guess. So when I get back to the states, get a summer job and ask a coworker where he's from, I was shocked to see him sigh, roll his eyes and say "Mongolia." Me, who thinks thats a 100% normal thing, says: "wow! Thats so cool! When did you move to the states? 😍" And he was so confused. Like, I wasn't asking the white person thing, so what the heck was I asking? We got it straightened out in the end.

[@user-br4mu3op9d]

As CCK I really relate to this. I just learned in Jan about TCK and CCK identities and it felt like coming home. Finally having words to describe what I feel, why certain questions both me. And becoming more comfortable in my complex identity. This video means a lot, I'm 21 now and I hope younger CCK get to see this, in general, everyone who identifies with it because it truly helps to become comfortable with oneself.

[@micahh__897]

As a trini, the way im seeing doubles just being put *out there* is amazing! its my favourite food tbh

[@zeomora3512]

This video hits home! Fantastic, honestly. I was born to American parents but we moved to China when I was very young. Now we're back in the US and I have all these Chinese influences from my childhood (especially food like in the video that was so on point) but I don't know quite how to interact with Chinese culture anymore because of politics and cancel culture telling me that as a white person I shouldn't appropriate other cultures. So yeah, the confusion is real. Great video!

[@yeopazman]

imagine being born in Malaysia to diplomatic parents and never have lived in your own country. Never having to fit into any culture, never accepted by anyone because you don't have that "identity". I live in Croatia now and they asked me so many questions about "where I'm really from" that I ended up having to wiki most of it.

[@cyrildelarosa4020]

I feel like the conclusion of this video gave the phrase "you are what you eat" a lot more weight

[@ksplatypus]

Love this vid! So, I'm Mexican-American or Chicano or whatever, but I was born in Mexico, but I moved to the US when I was like, 2, but we moved to the upper Midwest and I'm fairly white-looking. So culture and race has always been a clusterfuck of massive proportions to me. Half the time I'm too "exotic" for white ppl especially when they know my name (and I'm oftentimes the only non-white in the classroom...) and I'm often too guero for Mexicans until I speak Spanish to them. And after coming out, I've had to navigate THAT fun cultural (?) identity. And I'm just trying to vibe and make some bomb ass carne asada while advocating for my rights as an immigrant who has lived here for over 20 years

[@oliwiamorawska5728]

Living in England and looking nothing like what people assume others from your home country look like is sometimes irritating but mostly intriguing. For example, I'm a Polish immigrant but I have a fully developed British accent and a broad English vocabulary so naturally the first thing people assume about me is that I was born here. Second thing they assume is that because of my olive skin and dark hair I am either Hispanic, Italian, or Romanian (90% of the time it's Romanian). Also having people constantly not even bothering to pronounce or spell your name is irritable. Although it mostly just interests me how others react to my culture and origin, it does get under my skin sometimes when the answers are always the same but never right. I don't blame them though, I really don't look Polish, but my name is obvious enough like come on. 😂

[@tikayscake2416]

Being a Hapa I’m feeling this at home. Awesome hosts and dialogue :))

[@shayc.9216]

This video came across my recommended around the same time I started looking into my Guyanese roots!! I feel disconnected in a different way but watching this video was such an emotional experience! This was truly amazing! Thank you for such a lovely look into your life! I feel a little less lost knowing how many people are just like me.

[@stecky87]

While I definitely don't have to deal with figuring out where I belong culturally, I do relate to connecting to that culture via food. There's some Polish food I love (perogi, kielbasa) that connects me to my grandmother & great-grandmother cuz that's what they would've grown up eating

[@nairbvel]

Your video showed up in my feed as a YT suggestion and I clicked on it because I grew up in a Foreign Service family and my sister & I used to be members of a group called Global Nomads International -- and "Where are you really from?" has always been a dreaded question. I was a few moments into the video when I was thinking, "Leave her a message about - " and then there were *those* names -- Useem, Pollock, Van Reken... and I literally yelled, "YES!" out loud. :-) I have an advantage fitting into general society (I'm south of the border in the U.S.) in that I'm Caucasian, but even now, at 61 years of age, I tend to answer "Where are you from?" with a story about being born in New York but left the country at 6-1/2 and lived in... and it goes on & on. :-) I don't think there's a short version of that (aside from, "I was born in X") but I think you've found the right answer about defining yourself: You are you, and you define who that is, adapting and adopting and plugging in those parts of a varied set of roots to best fit what your heart & mind say is the best mold. It's hard sometimes, but it really is the best alternative to attempting to totally and artificially cut off any part that isn't convenient based on one's current location on the globe. More power to you, and wishes for continued success in life! (And that food looked delicious, BTW.)

[@karl.d3993]

Things hitting different is a meme, or at least that's how I perceive it.

[@kevoramma]

I love your grandpa. The food you cooked looks incredible. I am literally crying right now. Actually literally crying.

[@laaori]

This video was so well done - like your other videos are already impeccable, but this one... Hit really close to home. Without getting into details, it made me nostalgic and now I'm a teary-eyed mess :') I love both my cultures, but I feel sometimes like I don't know where to place my identity. It felt really good to have that validated and to know people share that very specific feeling. The grandpa's conversation felt like I was at home with my own grandma. Seriously, 10/10 ~

[@ktiger32698k]

Out of curiosity, any other cross-cultural kids who have trouble communicating with grandparents because of a language barrier? I still feel guilty that I didn't practice my Vietnamese as much as I should've when I was younger.

[@ca-ke9493]

guilty! Sometimes I worry about what culture I can even pass on to my kids. I dont want them to lose out on the amazing food I had or the language that I am (rubbishly) billingual at. But I totally suck at cooking or language so good luck kid ur probably gonna get taught how to do math since that's the only skill I mastered out of all the Asian skills I could have honed.

[@highskies4739]

This hit home. I'm Trinidadian, but my mom's partly chinese and africian. My dad also has africian but his grandma was a Kalinago, which is basically one of the orginal settlers of trinidad. I know I also have a lot of other heritages like french and Spanish not sure how that works but it's there. I always felt like I don't really belong in any group so I just say I'm black, but I can't ignore the other cultures as well.... Anyways thanks for the video!

[@cathlenejenkins8122]

I feel like so many ppl I talk to can just be like “I’m American+ Irish” or whatever it may be, so it’s weird when your grandparents are from 4 different places so you can really claim that you are super apart of one culture? And if you do, it’s like you have to pick to be more connected than the other parts of you, which is also not necessarily ideal.

[@notthatcreativewithnames]

Over centuries, country borders have changed countless times because empires in the past wanted to expand by taking lands of other tribes or nations to be theirs. (It's not only European colonialists. Locally, there were a lot of fights between neighbouring nations.) Also, even in the peace time, migrations of people have always taken place over the centuries for various purposes; merchants, missionaries, refugees, labours, students, and so on. Some of these people settle down in the new country and interact with people who have been there before. Their cultures then mix and sometimes create hybrids. One thing about cross culture people is that you cannot tell from their appearances at all. One of my friends is totally Caucasian and speaks with clear British accents, but she was born in SE Asia and then raised in SE Asia, Africa, and eventually in the UK. My life as an international student teaches me a lot more about the world. It seems to me that cultural backgrounds of people, to quote my favourite phrase from my favourite KZbinr, "really don't fit into neat little boxes".

[@AmberyTear]

Whole concept of "having a culture" or "having a nationality" is so illogical, blurred and outdated, I don't even practice it anymore.

[@melofiloxd1429]

Of course it does, but y'all outliers.

[@melofiloxd1429]

@@AmberyTear Wrong, it's rooted in logic. All cultures and nations have been test-proved against their own environment. If a culture was "illogical" in this regard, then it didn't survive, if it was, then it did. All cultures today survived that period, so "illogical" how? Just because you're disgustingly faceless doesn't mean you get to make words faceless too.

[@melofiloxd1429]

@@AmberyTear "Outdated" by what? By becoming cookie cutter? By abandoning all that is traditional, becoming a grey glob? You're just envious, envious various peoples can and do enjoy of their culture, of their shared nationhood, while you, being faceless, cannot. Nations exists, and nations have cultural differences. This is a mere fact, cry about it all you want you faceless blob, but it will never make your situation any less pathetic.

[@guinevere1165]

I LOVE your grandpa's accent. It is such a mix of different stuff and I am so ignorant and his accent is so beautiful

[@wikia9278]

i've been wondering about what culture i was from, my mother is senegalese and my father is french. i've never felt like i was close to my mother nor her culture, she was abusive to me and that made me close off from her and her culture as well. i'm older now and people remind me sometimes that i don't look white even though i "feel" like i am, in terms of what my interests are etc. it just feels weird how, to other people i'm a foreigner when, on the inside i feel like them but my looks prevents me from being thought of as an equal. i've been wondering about reconnecting with my mother's culture even though i'm not in contact with her but i have no idea how to do that. life is weird.

[@ricksandstorm]

I can weirdly relate to this but instead of having mixed ancestry from a bunch of places my roots can be traced hundreds of years back in time to only Swedish ancestry but having dark brown eyes and hair +pale but idiosyncratic skintone to most other swedes causes me to be asked regularly "where are you reeeeally from"

[@gabimic7022]

I always say I'm just eastern European. With the world wars, SSR, Russian empire, you can't really be sure about your true genes and ethnicity

[@goyangeden9891]

i'm from the celtic part of france and our region and culture was heavily destroyed but i truely love where i'm from

[@derkommentator4521]

All these VPN companies here talking like they'll prevent hell from freezing over. People, just because your IP changes doesn't mean you're save from all doom. Those VPNs act more like proxies, i.e. they take your request for something (e.g. a website) and instead do that request for you, thereby "masking" your IP address. But no matter how good your VPN is, if the path from the Client to the VPN is not encrypted/secured, it is as much useful as a water bucket in the nether.

[@andrewsoligo9337]

Thank you so much Sabrina

[@ellemurano6276]

As a Trinidadian when you said doubles I got so excited. My face might've cracked with how big my smile was. My mum and I have tried to make doubles before and instead the bara ended up more like pholourie? (My friend coined it dolourie) So we have a way to go with that.

[@KanalMcLP]

As a person of singular origin, I never really thought about this topic. I hope this video changed the way I look at others now... (And do you have a recipe? It looked really delicious)

[@GammaRaz]

I feel this so much. Like, yes, I know I have light skin. I know that people look at me and think “white girl” but I’m Mexican!! Mexican-American! But the man that raised me (my step-dad) is a black man who people think is Hispanic. Basically race is BS and culture is very ambiguous to most blended countries today.

[@melofiloxd1429]

No it ain't

[@user-yn2jm9ew2u]

Personally I can relate to some aspects, but not all of this video. My parents are both strictly from one country, but they're both from different countries to each other. My father is from Norway where I have lived since the age of 3, and my mother is from Poland where I lived until the age of 3. I'm very connected to both cultures, and yet there is that tiny disconnection since I can't fully relate to a fully Norwegian or a fully Polish person.

[@GPerla26]

Looks like I have a lot more reading to do now! I was born in El Salvador and moved to Canada at a young age so I've felt this keenly. When I tried to explain it I would always tell people that I felt like I was in some weird limbo where I was Other to both my new country and the country of my birth. Other to the Other. This video really resonated with me. Also it sucks that you no longer have access to articles now that you've graduated. I graduated earlier this year but found out that alumni still have access to the libraries and databases. Maybe your university has something like that too?

[@bartholomewbilby1333]

Sabrina! Your magnifying glass is not working right at 4:26. It is making things smaller when you look through it!

[@TantzAerine]

Food is basically a cultural and historical vessel of heritage. There's a whole branch of sociology revolving solely around food, eating rituals and traditions as the expression of the peoples' composite cultural background. So perhaps a good way of defining your identity in a way that feels firmly rooted in something real might be to look at all the food and food related behavioral scripts, ideas, theories, folk tales and the like that feel as part of your reality. Here's the wiki on Sociology of Food, by the way :) en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sociology_of_food Just in case you didn't already dive into that part of google scholar. ;)

[@BirdThatEatsPrometheussLiver]

That last line of the grandpa speech hit hard

[@deboradesousagomes9573]

As a Brazilian, I am pleased to say that we don't understand that question. When asked such a question, most Brazilians will answer "I'm from Brazil", no matter how many times someone asks. Sometimes, we'll specify the state and city we come from, but "race/color" isn't addressed unless asked clearly. "where are you from?" just warrants a "place" as an answer, if you want to know our ethnicity you will have to speak bluntly.

[@arielramos818]

I'm Brazilian and the thing we have here is the multicultural family. my dad came from black and indigenous people. my mother came from portuguese ones. so, I grew up with many cultural shocks and problems (and racism towards by my dad came from my mother's family....)

[@sharks2571]

This comment section is just all cross culture kids being like THIS IS ME. I'm in the same boat, despite my 'cultures' being relatively simmilar. Personally I was born in Northern Ireland to Northern Irish parents, but lived in Australia from ages 3-13, then new Zealand from 13-14, then the Republic of Ireland from 14-18, then to Scotland from 18 to now (21). I have chosen a scientific career which will allow me to move to new countries every few years for a while because I really love living in different places, but also because of my 3rd culture-ness, nowhere has really ever felt like home, so after 3-4 years I feel like moving anyway.

[@pepperios1647]

I was born in Poland but my father is Russian. I moved to England at 7 and to Ireland at 14. Definitely feel this

[@anjalimallampooty9946]

Another layer to this is like, kids who attend international schools. Like, I was brought up in India, and I've attended the same international school for most of my time, which led to me being surrounded with a much more western/global culture, and my peers and I often feel very disconnected to our traditional roots despite living in our country of origin. Which is just.... So.... Weird...

[@teriherbert1317]

This was an interesting watch as I grew up as a white south african. In my younger formative years I was surrounded by nonwhite people exclusively, and only in high school was a surrounded by white people because of the higher socioeconomic status that my high school catered towards. All of this cemented by my Afrikaans mother and English father being extremely emotionally distant. As such I feel like I dont have a culture, I dont have food that 'hits'. So now the question is, if I dont have a culture, and I want to have a culture, where do I go and how do I get there. I dont want to go full British, I want to go towards African, but what is my place as a white child-of-colonialists in modern Africa?

[@AmberyTear]

I highly suggest learning the origins of modern version of nationality by reading about The Spring of Nations in Europe. ...and then abandon the concept of nationality alltogether. I can't imagine claiming any culture as "my own". I identify only by certain philosophies and "my people" are those who share same or similar philosophies, values, ideals. I'm a cross culture kid with very strong identity because I rejected the idea that I need any particular culture to feel good, have direction in life, style or... anything. Having no particular culture is fine but having no life philosophy throws you into chaos. When people ask what my nationality is I say "I don't practice the concept". What's my country? Planet Earth. What's my culture? None. :)

[@rinlikes]

This was very touching. Cue: Identity crisis Like many others I also don't know how to describe my culture. I know my grandparents were forcibly displaced from East Bengal (current Bangladesh) to West Bengal (India) during partition. My parents and I were born on the Indian side of the border but we don't have any way of tracing our history beyond our grandparents. I grew up in a missionary school which had a fully different culture (and religion) than what I was exposed to at home and now I am studying in Canada. When I say I am Indian or Bengali, people here expect me to be brown but I am not. I look closer to Chinese (according to others, not me or my family) but we have no idea if my family had roots there. So, honestly who am I? But ykw food is amazing and I love eating the multicultural food I have grown up with and that will never change.

[@bluelovescats5666]

i'm indian. very indian. but british. very british. actually i think i know what this makes me. confused. AND HUNGRY-

[@seacrest73]

I'm a third culture kid and I struggled with my identity for a VERY LONG TIME. Based on observing society, I'd say identify has a lot to do with blood. I have met a lot of ppl who don't speak their parents' language or participate in the culture in a meaningful way, but everyone still considers then more or less part of the group. And I've seen the vice versa, where even if someone 100% participates, because they don't look like the ethnicity in question (different race), they are still considered outsiders. Now, I can't say if this is good or bad. But, what I will say, that for those who struggle with identity, like myself, yes, the more you interact with a culture, the less foreign it feels. But you don't have to engage in all parts of it to be part of it. When ppl talk about culture, they forget really how similar most cultures in fact are. In fact, I've noticed that ppl who live in a culture's homeland feel less concerned about deviating from whatever their culture is, than those who don't live in the homeland. It's fascinating.

[@hopesy12u4]

Bro It's gets weirder with International students Who grew up in International schools, International British And American Schools specifically. I am talking about IGCSE and IB students

[@Rat-tea]

I would love to watch a cooking show where each episode is a different person with different cultures and they each cook a dish they grew up with while they or a family member talks about their family history and experiences. That would be so fucking cool.