Anxious Overthinker at Work? Watch this

📣 calling all anxious overthinking people pleasers of the workplace: listen up! ✨
No one is mad at you. If they are, they’ll tell you. If they don’t, that’s a them problem.
You’re not paid to overthink, you’re paid to work. Go to work, do a fantastic job, and go home! 😇
No one is a mind reader, and passive aggressive behavior in the workplace is something to be 🫶🏼 ignored 🫶🏼
Save your energy & listen carefully to clear communication. But everything else? Just ignore it. You’re doing great. 🙂
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[@AdviceWithErin]

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[@mlady6564]

I agree with this, but these passive aggressive managers can still just get rid of you for no reason if your employment is "at will". I wouldn't bat an eyelash at a passive aggressive person in my personal life, but when that person is signing my paychecks, they can make me sweat bullets 8 hrs a day 5 days a week.

[@saoirsevicteoiria2759]

I hear you, and I've been there. The flip side to this you can't read their mind. You have no way of knowing what bee is in their bonnet no matter how hard you try. Concentrating on doing your job well (at least until you can leave) is the only thing you can do to help yourself. You may never be able to fully control the anxiety being around this person causes, but if your anxiety spirals to the point where you can't do good work, then you have two problems.

[@asadb1990]

In canada we have a step up from at will in that they need to give a reason for layoff after 3months and pay severance of 2 weeks per year of service. Also i had a boss who would be nice one minute but the whenever he needed something, he would call every 5min to until something is done. And he also expected during the workday i would be working every second of 8h day

[@pinkgiraffe378]

As someone with an anxiety disorder, I wish it was this easy to fix. 😂

[@namyfluid]

Yeah coz I'll be anxious till I find out if its a them problem or a me problem. And then overthink about how it will eventually become a me problem and then its a loop 💀

[@orii_14]

Me: overthink 😂

[@Warrior_cat_loverrrrr]

I have one too 😢

[@Bri-cf6kx]

A lot of people make fun of these kind of vids but in all honesty I don’t have much people to coach me like this constantly - therefor this video was truly helpful. ❤

[@afetdi3377]

I have this problem and will watch this everytime to ease my overthinking 👌🏽

[@bluexblondebaby]

I have a potential new employment opportunity at work and have been walking on eggshells afraid one of my coworkers will be upset if I get the offer..this was helpful thank you!

[@saoirsevicteoiria2759]

This is such a vital piece of information and if you're not anxious it can seem obvious, but it's not. Even if you're not anxious yourself, try to remember this one, to pass it on to anxious friend or coworker. Adults who worry about getting in trouble all the time often have reasons for that, and it's not your job to fix! But it is a kind thing to do, and even if they're only your coworker, it may make working with them easier.

[@stormcorrosion176]

Erin. I am overwhelmed by at work anxiety. This helps a bit. Thank you.

[@bee4123]

this is actually really helpful, thanks!

[@numanhussain6080]

I needed to hear this. Thanks.

[@wspn266]

I work for a manager that is easily belittling people and scold someone publicly if they made mistake. So, this happened to me a lot. Sometimes, I feel demotivated, but until I found a better job I must survive this way. This video helps. Tq

[@mai_822]

Thank you so much!!

[@SurrealisticSlumbers]

Shit... reading the comments here i am so glad im not alone. I got a voicemail today, my day off, from my boss saying to please call her back and have been a ball of nerves all evening now. It was too late in the day to call her back today, and her voice sounded cheerful in the message, but im thinking the fact she called me on my day off, something's wrong or this is somehow urgent. I'll call back tomorrow, which is also a day off, but im dreading what this could be about. Seriously filled with dread and thinking about worst case scenarios. Im definitely gonna have nightmares tonight guaranteed.

[@Jacko19877]

I can relate to this.

[@analis_s]

it applies to everything everything it's "them problem" until it said to be not out lout straight to you

[@amooaman9558]

I didn't now i was an overthinker

[@lasurfette7830]

Them with their them problem can get you laid off tho.

[@HerculesLoyd]

With all the crappy hr mandated employee training, this is the type of stuff people actually need to hear. Not lectures on DEI and anti-racism. Nice job.

[@dwlsml4118]

Poor advice

[@twistednerve444]

As someone with an anxiety disorder, even when they do confront you about something you did or didn't do that bothered them, it's still hard to tell whether I should take responsibility or not because there have been times I've been gaslit at work by bosses. So now I question everything I do and even my motives behind them. It's sickening and exhausting.

[@Magnanimous17]

This is why I left my last job, I was struggling daily. 😩 now I have anxiety about finding a new job.

[@chrisSea1346]

It’s honestly helpful knowing that I’m not the only one who thinks this way.

[@shelbyb9965]

Ughhh this is me and I didn't even realize it until just now. My first "big girl job" (for lack of a better term) was for an emotionally abusive boss who used shitty tactics like the silent treatment and literal harassment. I've been lucky to have two absolutely amazing, lovely people as my boss since- but I still find myself anxious like this over absolutely nothing. I'm always on edge trying to figure out where I stand, despite good feedback and positive interactions. I was never like that before, so I guess that one bad boss did more damage than I realized. I saved this video to come back to next time I'm feeling anxious, my plan is to watch it enough times that I brainwash myself into being a normal person again haha. Also gonna look into some real therapy instead of just trauma dumping in the YT comments section lmao This was genuinely a wake up call for me, so thank you! New sub for sure 🤗

[@nikkinabi0320]

I am going through the same! I had a rough boss and I quit but now the after effects or trauma keeps following trying to find a new job. Do you have any advice on how to overcome that?

[@scmtnchick]

Totally struggling with this for years thanks to prior toxic bosses!

[@ms_mon4]

I feel you! It‘s a them problem but they still come to you and being mad My ex boss was mad at me because I trew garbage in the trash can and wanted me to apologise. Like are you okay sir? 🤨

[@amyberry9648]

Still get anxiaty when I hear "can I talk to you for a minute"

[@collinm4417]

New to working, always worrying about what they think very relatable lol nice

[@JuiceDaddy804]

Must be so easy for y’all, nobody understands 😔🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Fullchristainname]

Bold of you to assume they won’t punish you for their problems… they literally don’t need a reason to fire you in America. Thanks at will employment!

[@KL-jm3kd]

This was helpful 😊👌

[@rjls28]

Triggered flashbacks of a pair of parents that are exactly the same

[@dwlsn93]

This is along the lines of, “I don’t want to get into trouble…” Adults need to learn how to be adults - both management and employees.

[@hocuspocus-rw3cu]

Much easier said than done. Sorry but it's the truth. 🤷‍♀️💯

[@martaleszkiewicz5115]

As someone on the spectrum, the struggle to guess when I have done something wrong or if they're fixing behind my back to fire me is real.

[@denmark23]

for me it sometimes help to say out loud what is the worst that can happen, when i find the abselut worst outcome, i say to myself, okay but if that happens how do I handle it. and only when i gain confidence im able to handle the worst, I can handle the rest as well😂

[@jeniffersls30]

Well I don't have a work bestie ..

[@nate24680]

In my professional experience, majority of the time this is accurate

[@janus7116]

Wow great way which help me thank u so much

[@Z5Z5Z5]

What do I do once it’s a me problem

[@mlemay2486]

Oh well… that sounds a lot like me 😅😅😅

[@jamie6506]

It's Schrodinger's problem

[@DymondCityRydaz]

I appreciate this. Some of us are like this, because when our managers feelings about us change, the 5 to 15 minutes late, that was OK, becomes a violation of code of conduct and a fireable offense. It’s ALWAYS an US problem😢😢😢

[@queenofhearts1138]

Really struggling as a new employee who has been in isolation for 2years... the talking the different personalities the sidebar conversations feel overwhelming. I am occupied with how I come off to people and always apologizing and pol think im crazy. I am the ONLY hired minority. I'm trying.

[@angiloves]

My old boss did this to the team to sow anxiety in the team! That was a conversation with HR it was constant

[@SmokaBolla]

Thanks for this

[@grrrgrl101]

I’ve had to tell myself this a lot hHaha

[@katlordenell]

Yess!