Anything for Love: Inside the Romance Scam Epidemic | CBS Reports

[@Bebedollie]

At 55 yrs old its safer to get a dog and find hobbies, then try and look for a husband or wife. It's ok to be single. Its peaceful

[@scarletsletter4466]

Friend, at 55yo you’ve got so much life ahead of you. I don’t know your health but it’s possible that you could easily live another 50 years. The dog & hobbies are a great idea but love with someone in your age range is still possible. ❤

[@denisedaniel9010]

After a certain age, it's impossible to meet decent, available men. The good ones are taken. But it could certainly happen!

[@moritzkorsch9029]

@@denisedaniel9010 not true. Decent older men think exactly the same about finding decent women. It's a contact issue, there are not many avenues to find each other, especially since what we are talking about is only really confirmed after some length of time that is most likely longer than the amount of patience we allow ourselves for this in modern times.

[@babyshooz]

At any age these days it’s safer to keep to ourselves! Dating is seriously dangerous and with these apps it has gotten worse!!!

[@elliesaailem777]

It's not just about getting married... People need people. We get lonely and yearn for companionship. The driving force behind most people is finding love....true love. The human condition is always searching for it... 😢 At 55 you are not d3ad😅

[@SnowWhite717_]

Everyone keeps saying in these comments “I would never”, “I’d get a dog”, “sad a woman can’t live without a man”… shame on you. You don’t have the right to disparage this woman. Some people cope well with loneliness, some do not. She had a dog and they said she was always with her. A dog though a wonderful companion doesn’t replace human communication and compassion. Those of you commenting negatively? I hope if anything horrific happens to you the comment section on your story isn’t full of victim shaming and vitriol.

[@SummerBellify]

Speak the truth!!! Yes! 🙏👏

[@dragonfly961]

Yes it’s very true. When you’re lonely it’s easy to fall for it.

[@marih3286]

Depending on our age, religion, and background, some of us were brought up believing that if we weren't part of a "couple" we were/are incomplete. It's like growing up Catholic. We know some of the church's teachings aren't true. We know some of the actions weren't right (transferring pedophile priests instead of defrocking and prosecuting them), BUT it's OUR culture, so we continue with it!

[@choclateesweet1526]

They don’t know what it means to be lonely. I had never been alone from 1970 to 2013. It was awful. I had to have my kids taking turns staying we me in my room watching tv till I fell asleep. It’s disturbing how those who’ve never been thru what someone has is so judgmental with no empathy. Try praying for them. I’ve literally watched karma make the same judgmental people experience the same thing they put people down for. That’s when they apologize. 🥹

[@IndigoCave28]

K whatever

[@mackinacisland3825]

As soon as someone u do not know asks u for money, block them immediately.

[@butterfliesandcamo5975]

Don't even hesitate!!! Block them immediately!!!

[@Jdb74985]

I block them but first I like to troll them lol

[@freakindawgen]

I'm confused as to how a portrayed rich guy would need money? That would be the first red flag.

[@danasandoval624]

@@freakindawgenmore like a red billboard! If someone has money they don’t ask others for any.

[@MarneRiver2139]

The truly sad thing is that the people they target are often the most vulnerable in our society for many different reasons. She went through the devastating loss of her husband from a horrible disease, she may have felt like she had dealt with the grief of that experience and was ready to date. But sometimes the loss( wether through death or the end of a relationship) of a companion/husband/wife/partner/gf/bf what ever you call it has a way of haunting you once the grief starts to subside, you can miss the intimacy of being with someone you can confide in, have honest and open conversations with, seeing your friends potentially happily married and remembering what you had and may feel lacking in this area of your life that sometimes it can make you blind to the red flags, especially if your new to dating websites and trust when the app says it does its due diligence. Love bombing and gaslighting are often the first ways that someone will try to convince you this is real and she may have even picked up on some of the red flags but because they use a script it’s like that have all the right answers to assuage your concerns in the beginning. It said that this relationship was over two years, by a year in I expect that maybe he had asked her personally for small amounts of money to begin with because he needed help and sometimes by the time that they realise what’s happened they feel like they are in too deep and there is no way out, they don’t feel like they can tell family or friends what’s happening and that potentially even the authorities might not believe them…. This is because they may ask you to transfer money in to an account for them and they will pay you back, and by receiving that money from them you may then have technically been in receipt of stolen money (at this point if she had felt like she could go to the authorities and explain what had happened they would likely have seen her as the victim) abusers and scammers will then usually in this kind of situation use this against you the next time you feel like something is dodgy and you don’t feel comfortable doing what they have asked - as the person being scammed if at this point you still believe this person truly loves you that they would understand and find another way, or you may have caught on to what’s happening are are trying to pull back and put a stop to it but I believe the tactic the scammer then uses is pretty similar…. It can go from loving and caring to blackmail and fear tactics in the blink of a second. They might reveal that she has already been a party to this scam on someone else just by receiving that payment and convince them that if they don’t do what they want her to do that they will use this information to get her arrested or may tell members of their family what they have “allowed” themselves to get into triggering a shame response and not wanting to become what they believe to be an embarrassment. Eventually I think when they get this far and someone feels trapped they feel like they have no other option but to comply because they don’t want to go to prison which in all honesty may not happen if they deemed her to be a victim of a crime and further abuse. But these people are so so so good at manipulation and coercive control that they know what to say to keep them in line by the time they are this far down the rabbit hole. That’s my somewhat understanding of this kind of situation and it’s heartbreaking, she may have been killed for telling them the FBI had been in touch, they may have been the cause of her death due to intimidation and fear not realising that it sounded like the FBI were trying to help the situation. It’s such a sad and heartbreaking story that is becoming a far too familiar one we hear about. But the saddest thing I’ve read on here is that people as young as 40 are saying that they have given up on finding a companion because it’s just safer to be alone! Humans are hard wired to want intimacy and companionship even if all our other buckets of love are filled with family, friends, loved ones. We may have evolved past the need to live in Pax in caves as we would’ve once done but evolutionarily wise our base instincts are still there and to me this just shows how society has changed and warped What a healthy relationship can be like. On the first comment above this one in the comment section which scarily has the most likes and replies the replies are filled with women bashing men for not being good enough if they’re single at a certain age or that all men that want to relationship had a certain age are only looking for Someone to look after them or for somebody to pay their way which I just find horrendous and heartbreaking. One of the things that some people seem to have failed to realise is that it’s not just women that fall for these schemes it’s men as well, regard of what gender you are, the feeling of wanting to be loved and love in return is not an unhealthy feeling or an unhealthy want. And it hurts my heart that there are so many women in this particular case that feel like it’s safer to be alone so why bother? When actually there are so many other downsides to closing yourself off to opportunities that may come your way. I’m not saying that some people aren’t happier being by themselves if that’s something that someone chooses for themselves for a healthy reason then that’s fine that’s your choice but I disliked the most about the replies in the previous comment (not this thread the one at the top) is the fact that so many women are bashing other women and men for not wanting to give up on a healthy relationship, and telling those people that because they want a healthy relationship that means that they are weak minded and just aren’t happy with themselves and aren’t happy to be alone. I don’t think anyone is truly happy being alone or shall I say being lonely, loneliness comes in many forms and just because you might have a full family and friendship group and hobbies doesn’t mean that someone may not still feel lonely. Sorry for the long post, in all reality my heart breaks for this family and the many other families that have been affected by human beings that have decided their once and their needs are greater than the life of another person and don’t consider the effects and the outcomes of what the selfishness can cause. I truly believe that this woman coming forward about the story of her mother And what she has so far been able to discover about the last couple of years of her mum‘s life is beyond brave., she’s opening herself up to trolls on the Internet so that she can try to bring more awareness of these scams occurring, I’m hoping that by telling her story and her mum story that maybe just maybe that might save another person’s life and I have the most respect for what she’s trying to do.

[@BubblesBulldog]

I worked at a bank for a few years. Part of the job was to watch out for Elder Abuse via Romance scammers or abusive guardians. It’s way more common than people think

[@nadiastar6264]

What happens when you catch it

[@BubblesBulldog]

@@nadiastar6264 it depends how severe it is. In the one case that comes to mind that was a romance scammer specifically we had an adult child of the elderly lady on the account as well. Many elderly people have one of their kids on their account so they can help them. We notified them of our suspicions and from there it was a family issue. They thankfully talked some sense into her. If we can’t speak to family then we would try educating the individual about romance scammers, and from there what they did was up to them. Our job included monitor for things like that and bring them to our branch manager, who handled it case by case. We had training courses quarterly and one of them was usually about what to look for. At the end of the day it is their money to do what they want, so we can’t actually do much more than that

[@mcpeewee68]

​@@nadiastar6264 Good question

[@lanayhebert2169]

I know this is happening to my elderly neighbor and I wonder what your job title is because I been looking for someone to help us. Her whole identity has been stolen and her name is destroyed now.

[@BubblesBulldog]

@@lanayhebert2169 I was a new account rep. I started as a teller. Unfortunately there isn’t much the bank would be able to help you with. They monitor it because they don’t want the money leaving the bank, so it’s purely out of self interest in a corporate mindset. You probably will need to consult with a lawyer to help your neighbor

[@lindawilson4625]

My heart goes out to the victim's daughter. I suspect it was suicide, but never would have happened without the scammers doing what they did to her.

[@deevillarreal9475]

Absolutely 💯

[@maryjane4432]

You don’t drown by suicide. Not like she did

[@Ann-sj4pt]

This is suspect

[@lisao7600]

​@@maryjane4432 absolutely you can in a river that big. If she just walked in and then let the river take her. That river is very big and deep.

[@lisao7600]

Yes she was probably ashamed and afraid after the call from the FBI the day before and knew she messed up. She would've probably been facing charges like the other woman they talked to that helped scammers. I don't know why anyone chooses death as a way out though. I could never do that to my family no matter how bad thing became.

[@B.H.56]

I'm upper 60's, widowed, I have accepted that "romance" is probably something in my past. I have other relationships now, friendships, volunteering. At my age single women outnumber single men about 5 to 1. If someone started flattering me and "falling in love" (esp. online) I would be very (VERY) skeptical. And if they were overseas, not in my town - "call me when you're in my area." Women who feel like they have to be in a romantic, hearts and flowers relationship until the day they die, are not being realistic, and are easily scammed.

[@angienorthrup749]

You go! That's exactly the right place to put the energy 👏

[@BeaTrice10]

Agree - There are so many ways to make social connections and to have significance in this life besides dating.

[@grl57]

I am 67 years old and it is good that you have accepted “romance is probably something in your past”. I was there. I had just finished a narcissistic “situationship”. My background? I was a widow married for 30 years, been with the same man for over 35 years. It was the start of Covid and I was desperate for companionship. After that “situationship” with the narcissistic, I became lonely again and joined Match. I was adamant that I would not fall in love. In Match, a man caught my attention whose was also a widower. He spoke of the homes and money he had to provide to a woman. I thought to myself, this guy is going to get scammed! I felt very protective of him but I had no attraction to him whatsoever. And, by the way, I have my own home and funds so I was not in need of “saving”. We started corresponding and lo and behold, (almost) three years later, we are in love and having the best time of our lives. He’s a good guy and is not broke! And, he brings me flowers!! Don’t lose hope. They are out there. Just be patient and continue to walk away from those who do not deserve your love and attention! My friend found love at 79 with a wonderful fellow!!

[@anglophils645]

It's not a matter of what these lonely people THINK, as you say. It has to do with what they FEEL. They do not have strong emotional networks, to help support them through the loss of a spouse, etc. I wish that Laura had not relocated so soon after her husband's death. That left her without a strong emotional support network built up yet, in a brand new location, and made her vulnerable to these romance scammers, for a sense of connection.

[@LaVerdad65]

Dont idealize relationships. When you fulfill yourself, you know your worth and have strong boundaries. You learn to respect those same aspects in others and you see through their weakness and BS.

[@fifilafleur5555]

This is absolutely horrible. It happened to my elderly (81) neighbor. She met the con man at church! They meet these creeps at church too!!!! She lost a lot of her retirement money and her health. I never see her anymore due to her poor health and the shame she feels.

[@bexmw]

Tbf there’s lots of creeps at church.

[@maryjane4432]

There are lots of creeps around the elderly and churches

[@adriana27100]

This is so sad ... Is she still your neighbor? I think it might be a nice gesture to make her some home cooked meal and a little note at her doorstep. I'm sure she probably needs to feel that someone cares about her... Just an idea ❤

[@Goldie789]

I was going to say this as well. I think it would mean the world to that lady. She needs friends. ​@@adriana27100

[@Zzz2x]

@@adriana271001000%

[@VirmanaMarketing]

People are so lonely and broken mentally… they are a prime target for these scams.

[@nothingworksworks3511]

everyone has anxiety & loneliness--- the issue is getting addicted w online flirting- is' a dopamine combo of attraction & gambling

[@schawnettarobinson8584]

Exactly ❤❤❤: People are really so lonely. They are looking for love. They are so desperate.

[@shigetsan]

It seems like having children would be enough to fulfill your life. But I guess not.

[@nothingworksworks3511]

@@schawnettarobinson8584 why is it desperate to look for love? just curious.

[@schawnettarobinson8584]

@@nothingworksworks3511 It is my opinion. Why would someone do all this stuff for somebody they never met? People would be better off giving it to their children.

[@deniselee7290]

I had a friend getting scammed by a guy. I begged her to send him our local paper and take a photo with it for her. One excuse after another. His camera in his phone didn't work, oh but here's a photo of your engagement ring. We went to her bank tried to warn them, went to her kids, tried to warn them. Nothing worked these scammers are hard core and going after lonely people. It's sick. I'm so sorry about your momma.

[@thecatatemyhomework]

If she sent the newspaper to him, what he would do is Photoshop a picture of the guy that she thinks he is. That is not a good idea because then she's going to believe it's really him.

[@SunShinyDaysPlease]

​@@thecatatemyhomeworkExactly!

[@becauseIrock]

So what happened? Is it still going on? Please tell me she saw the truth and ended it! Please?

[@aricar8178]

"I'm a very honest and loyal person." I would instantly see that as a RED FLAG.

[@graycraig2557]

You ain’t lying. Like be real with me. Lay out the issues so I can determine if I wanna sink time on to you. I’m lucky we said what we needed and that’s that. No gimmicks

[@mcpeewee68]

Right? If you have to say "I am a loyal and sincere person..." You likely are the exact opposite

[@maartjegoede9330]

Exactly... If youre a sweet person, you dont say youre a sweet person, thats weird

[@robinmanzanares3106]

All I can say is if they ask you for money you say no and you block them. Honestly when did she think that she would ever go to a foreign country. It's scary he probably manipulated her and convinced her that he would bring her over to visit him or he could have promised to come to visit her in the United State s

[@marisashrum2034]

I lost the love of my life who I met at 14, and the hardest part is my phone never rings anymore. Brandon called me 30 times a day. He worked evenings and I worked days so he would make me coffee in the morning and go back to sleep and call when he woke up and when he drove to work and after each of his meetings and then I I would meet him for his lunch break. All the kids have lives of their own and this was supposed to be our time. All I have now is silence.

[@fullofstars977]

I'm so sorry. ❤

[@Anona_Meows]

That's so sad 😢

[@Seeker0fTruth]

Find the music…the hum of the universe…it’s everywhere and also in you. Attune to what feels harmonious to your own inner frequency…and follow that path. If you are here, you are important and needed…don’t leave this world with a song that might mean everything to those in your immediate orbit. But first, know and appreciate your own song…honor and respect that which is YOU. You are a miracle. Be well, beautiful soul. May you be comforted, nourished, encouraged and find strength as you grieve and heal…and if possible…express your sadness and your needs to safe individuals who love you and whom you love. Sending you love from the bottom of my heart right to wherever you are on this planet. 🙏🤍✨

[@myopinionmatters]

I’m so sad for you. I know if I lost my wife, I would be lost. But I will tell you one thing I do even now is volunteer and try to expand my social group. I would recommend that you. If you don’t meet someone romantically you could end up meeting some really good friends. I encourage everyone to stay away from online stuff because that’s where they come for your money.

[@ogenevieve]

Me too.

[@AJNpa80]

That veteran lady was in the same situation as her mother, just on a different part of the timetable of the scam.

[@MadeOfQuestions]

I really hope that, if what she said is true, they drop those charges against her. Intent matters, and they know that. They know that women probably didn't intend to defraud anyone, and if she really didn't make a dime, it's pretty clear she wasn't intentionally defrauding anyone.

[@fairyprincess911]

@@MadeOfQuestionsDitto. She was being honest. Good luck to her.

[@falynoliver81]

That’s what I commented too. I believe that she was innocent or at the very least oblivious and should not be charged

[@jenniferkoster1942]

I believe that to, the dude probably love bombed her and convinced her that what she was doing wasn’t shady, I honestly believe that there’s never just one victim in these scams.

[@guinealove3744]

@@MadeOfQuestions Thank you for saying this. Just like her mom got roped into doing things she felt uncomfortable doing, that veteran, too, may have either been searching for love or being blackmailed. Good luck to her.

[@nancyg.ahmadzai2546]

They all say the same lies, they work overseas, very good looking, successful, with one or two young children, and they fall in love with you the moment they look at your picture. Through the years I've got at least 50-100 of these scammers, has never worked with me, I only do video chat or record their conversations to hear their accent, if they sound weird, I just block them. They still try it with me almost every day, I'm lonely but not desperate. Be careful out there mature women, they're looking for us on a daily basis, they need money, not love.😢😢

[@stvnsn]

Don’t forget they’re also single parent, bc the kid’s other parent died from cancer or some other traumatic disease or incident 🤦‍♂️ 🤦‍♂️ just shameful.

[@deevillarreal9475]

I have 3 girl friends that's have lost a lot , my friend is 63 her mom broke her hip was in the hospital, she not only mail the checks out for her mom's bills. But she took 75,000 - put it into her investors = bit coin - kripto something , there passport always expires last minute no notice, there workers made mistakes on jobs, they were injured need money for medical care. Border patrol are holding them with a big box of cash. Always tons of boxes of cash. 😢

[@loveblue2]

This is why I'm so confused as to how people fall for the scam. They're always on an oil rig, or in the military or on some secret, undercover mission, which is by design with the scammer. They know if someone falls for something that would be a HUGE red flag for most people, that person will be easy picking to fall for the scam.

[@fairyprincess911]

The old oil rig😸😹😹

[@janismitchell3122]

They don't NEED money... they are just greedy predators without a conscious

[@GLeon-ov9yu]

Over 50 - DO NOT GET MARRIED! You can have a “relationship” and still keep finances, savings, retirement accounts & deed to your home SEPARATE!!! People are so gullible - enjoy each other’s company and still keep your money safe.

[@StormyMonday0896]

Get a prenup and keep your finances separate. Scammers will run for the hills

[@danasandoval624]

Exactly. There is really no need to marry, it’s not like you are going to want children (baby). If they are not willing to not get married drop them it’s not you their are after it’s your money & positions.

[@StormyMonday0896]

@GLeon-ov9yu You can still keep everything separate, then have a common account for paying bills. Have a prenup. Just asking for that and the reaction should be enough to figure out intentions.

[@carmenl163]

They never marry. They endlessly stall the wedding. So not marrying will not solve anything.

[@teresa.tells.it.like.it.is.2]

Why doesn't the social media platforms say where these people are ACTUALLY from? And make it so that they can't fake their location!

[@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64]

There is software available for anyone to use to do this.

[@teresa.tells.it.like.it.is.2]

@@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 Oh! It just figures! 😭

[@lisao7600]

Exactly. They should make it so the cannot make an account without a verified phone number that shows the true location or something like that. I know they have programs to change your ip location and stuff so that would probably get around it, but with the technology today you would think they could come up with a way to make people verify where and who they are before making an account

[@Boahemaa]

they make money from the number of users subscribed. If they acted more honestly they wouldn't be able to attract the investment and advertisements that make them the billionaires we celebrate. At the end of the day money is more important to them than the safety of their users. We celebrate them for their money regardless how they make it.

[@teresa.tells.it.like.it.is.2]

@@Boahemaa Interesting insight! ☺️😔

[@allanfifield8256]

First Rule of Internet Dating: Nothing is real unril you physically meet.

[@marknewton6984]

Yes. Meet-- then decide.😎

[@bonezbaaaby]

​@@marknewton6984but even then... People lie

[@allanfifield8256]

@@marknewton6984 Meet multiple times. Anyone can be nice and normal for a few meets.

[@donnahilton471]

And then, you are no safer than meeting with Ted Bundy!

[@donnahilton471]

First rule should be NO LOVE TALK BEFORE MEETING!

[@drewferd2720]

My Dad was living two lives. Texted my mom by accident that’s how we found out. Next day my Dad didn’t live with us anymore. Moved outta state to live with his other family. Mom got really sick and died from Cancer a few years later. I think she died from a broken heart. Miss you momma bear! ❤

[@Blonders777]

@@drewferd2720 I'm sorry he did that to y'all, my Dad did the same thing. My Mom also got cancer. Doctors do say that they now know that tragedy, stress, e.t.c can lower our immune systems radically and lead to cancer. The same happened to me, broken 31 yr marriage due to abuse, I finally left, and got cancer. My Mother and I are still living and survivors of cancer, so far, but it may be harder to survive heartbreak and betrayal. God bless you. We just have to continue moving forward and enjoy the memories we hold dear, the positive ones and trash the negative ones. Take care!🙏🏼

[@mcashmoneygang9532]

😢😢😢

[@JaneThatcher89]

I’m so sorry. I feel your pain. My dad was doing the same exact thing with my mom’s sister, who lived with us for over 10 years. My mom died from cancer; the doctors said it was from decades of grief, dealing with the heartbreak of being constantly cheated on since she was 16 years old being with my dad. She had lung cancer but never smoked in her life. Doctors said that’s the only other way people get lung cancer, from severe heartache that shuts down healthy lung function. ❤sending you so much love. I miss my mom so much too. I’m upset she won’t be here when I have children.

[@HamiltonRowan-r6z]

It is virtually impossible to establish a relationship online or over the phone. You must relate to someone in person. Meeting in person and dating in person is still the best way to go.

[@cathrinekruger5499]

I've just celebrated my 10th anniversary with my husband I met online. We are from different countries. However! These officers were useless.

[@HamiltonRowan-r6z]

@cathrinekruger5499 Yes, a few couples do occasionally meet successfully online. But it's not common...

[@Flawdagal]

@@HamiltonRowan-r6zI met my man 11 years ago on POF 🤷‍♀️

[@Flawdagal]

My best friend met her man online also

[@HamiltonRowan-r6z]

@@Flawdagal Yes it can happen, but in my experience I only found scammers.

[@gabethedinosaur95]

I was scammed myself on instagram 6 years ago and it hurt my mom so much. Now I’m off social media. I’m so sorry for your loss . I hope people this year can be careful . Cause scammers are bad news

[@RawOlympia]

glad you are off! some fall into a spin cycle

[@shananagar1601]

This is social media.

[@fatal613]

@@shananagar1601☠️🥴

[@osopetty1761]

How are you off social media but you’re here? Makes no sense

[@Zzz2x]

@@osopetty1761this isn’t really ‘social’

[@scillyautomatic]

People still believe that everyone is born basically good despite all the news to the contrary.

[@plumberofamerica]

yes, I call it delusional denial. the level of denialism is so dangerous and it's definitely a result of our congress failing to laws with teeth for oversight of social media

[@moritzkorsch9029]

So you're saying we're born bad? Be careful with that, it's just one step removed from making people think being bad is "being natural/normal"

[@Jannett-ik5lh]

Not really scammers Charms one,

[@moritzkorsch9029]

People are not born tabula rasa, but they sure are not born good or bad, either. Thinking some bad personality traits or actions are somehow inherent to humanity is quite a slippery slope, since people can then go one step further and excuse bad behavior as "natural" and "tragically human".

[@scillyautomatic]

@@moritzkorsch9029 You make a good point. It's true that if you were to look at some people as born bad but not all people, it would lead to very bad choices by those that deem themselves to be better. But the ideas is that we are all born with a bent to cheating, taking advantage of others and to do evil. As Solzhenitsyn said: “The line between good and evil runs not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either - but right through every human heart.” One must keep in mind that anyone may have evil intent, especially when doing something that makes him/her so vulnerable.

[@conni2you]

Did anyone ever call to confirm if a federal agent actually did call from the FBI to inquire about her mother possibly being involved in some kind of scam? The whole thing just seems odd to me. That person, claiming to be from the FBI could have been in on the scam and was maybe used as a scare tactic or something else along those lines. If that was the case then unfortunately, it scared her so bad that she felt the only way out was to take her own life.

[@loveblue2]

That sounded fishy to me too. I would think the FBI would make at least INITIAL contact with someone in person, not through a phone call. There us no way in HELL I'd believe the actual FBI was making initial contact with me. Nope.

[@virgorising7388]

I can see nobody will ever scam you. The FBI covers for criminals like the Clintons, Bushes and Obamas because if they take them down the whole government scam comes down. We are not safe here.

[@nobione_kenobi2114]

I thought the same myself. The fact they didn't touch on that part much also leaves me with questions.

[@falynoliver81]

I wondered the same thing. Like why would the fbi tell her daughter why they were calling in a voicemail? Wouldn’t that give her mother time to get her story straight or delete evidence r flee? Weird

[@davidklott8050]

Thinking the same thing

[@sykotikmommy]

My husband's aunt fell victim to a romance scam, and she ended up cutting us out of her life when we tried helping her. She tried reaching out to him a few years back, but my husband decided he was done. She was extremely nasty and said some horrible things that he just wasn't willing to forgive.

[@marknewton6984]

Auntie seems nuts.

[@KittyQueenMeow]

Good for him! Narcissistic family members are the worst- so entitled and toxic. Glad that he values his mental health and peace 🕊️

[@softtaco8264]

I recently discovered my elderly neighbor had fallen victim to this kind of scam...i only discovered it because the bank placed a foreclosure sign in her front yard. The scammer took her for everything she had...our community is currently trying to find a resolution to keep a roof over her head

[@g.flesch9731]

Hope you are able to help your neighbor.

[@Nadinevocals]

😢

[@FairyLights4713]

I feel for this woman so much. My mom is 64 and has been scammed multiple times by different "men" shes met online. The worst was the first one who got $21,000 out of here, but she's probably about $50 grand in the hole so far. She just wont listen to anyone when we tell her she's being scammed. Its beyond frustrating and devastating to witness💗

[@user-nn7xi6sj5x]

This is actually what happened to me after falling for this scam but I was able to report to the right authorities at #Trool Vortex

[@user-nn7xi6sj5x]

They’re on instagram and they’re helping victims out.

[@berryhij1]

Have you tried contacting Adult Protective Services in your state? Sometimes they can help you legally take control of your mother’s finances or find some other way to protect her. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It must be heartbreaking to watch when you can’t do much about it.

[@LaLeoRonroneo]

Loneliness is literally killing us and so many are taking advantage. Gosh! I wish I could show every lonely person how to tap into love

[@louniece1650]

You make it sound so easy.😂

[@MaggiLou22]

You make it sound creepy

[@linvi_chemutai]

Find Jesus Christ find peace and love

[@amaragrace94]

​@@linvi_chemutai Amen

[@berryhij1]

@@linvi_chemutai Exactly. I found Jesus at 45 years old. Better late than never. ❤

[@myopinionmatters]

In this day & age, there is absolutely no reason that a person cannot do a video call no matter what they say. So to anyone who is reading this, you should always be able to verify that the person is exactly who they say with him the first few days. Secondly never trust anybody who asked you for money and who doesn’t know you personally.

[@carmenl163]

They use AI with video calling. They'll put a photo over their head and make their voices different. They only thing that helps, is not sending money.

[@tjmichael8773]

scammers have tried to get me also as I am less than 10 years younger than your mom. I am so sorry for your loss.

[@romelgonzales2754]

This is why I would never do online dating it's so dangerous you don't know who your talking to always be careful

[@marknewton6984]

Online dating is for losers and scammers.😮

[@EmsLionheart]

Doesn't only happen online sadly.

[@romelgonzales2754]

@@EmsLionheart sadly your right but at least you know who your talking to and can identify the person

[@Mmm...yummymummy]

They lie. Men too run pic s of themselves decades younger .

[@ikr2377]

Online dating is a penpal until it becomes physical

[@dajw7540]

Poor woman probably felt she had no choice but to end her life to make it stop. She wasn’t just broke, she was broken, heartsick, humiliated and absent of all hope of any kind of recovery from this. Being notified that the FBI was looking into a fraud scam probably confirmed what she suspected but was denying herself to believe. And that was more than she could handle. Bless her heart. She just wanted love.

[@hollystiener16]

it was determined by the medical examiner to be homicide, not suicide

[@thecatatemyhomework]

​@@hollystiener16that's not what the video says.

[@hollystiener16]

@@thecatatemyhomework You are right, I meant to say not ruled, not a homicide or a suicide

[@QueenJassy89]

I was scammed and it is a horrible thing. There is so much shame and embarrassment.. these scammers are evil. I just thought that I was in an online relationship but as time went on and my family found out that things were really bad. I pray for this woman’s family.. and I pray for everyone else.. please be careful yall

[@Flawdagal]

My mom got scammed real bad last year. Like almost went to jail type of scammed. Hopefully she’s learned her lesson.

[@renee9113]

They should block countries like Ghana from having access to those dating sites.

[@davidklott8050]

Exactly

[@xavthomas]

I'm sure they're using VPNs

[@101doreen]

Frank's profile is the exact profile of every scammer. Businessman/Engineer working abroad, and widowed. I get these msgs, friend request from these scammers all the time. I was talking to this one guy knowing he was a scammer. It was kind of fun, plus, I figured, if he was talking to me, he wasn't scamming someone else. After a few weeks, he confessed, he was not who he said he was. I said, I know. He asked how I knew. I told him, his profile. I knew from his 1st msg. It's sad lonely people, mostly women, don't see the signs. I am sorry for this family's loss. I hope their story saves lots of lives.

[@ladory7533]

I always know, too, and have sometimes played along just for entertainment. But I would NEVER tell them I know the formula. Only tell other lonely people what the tricks are. If they change their formula, then more will be scammed.

[@cherietillapaughhott1012]

Sweet Kelly, I'm so sorry. What a wonderfully blessed woman Laura was to have had a daughter as lovingly persistent as you! I hope and pray you find anyone and everyone involved and responsible for your mother's death, and I pray you and your family all find peace during this storm. Much love from Georgia. ❤

[@taylorsorensen4258]

Amen 🙏

[@l.w.paradis2108]

The mother joined in the scam. I wonder who her victims were and how they are.

[@AzurePip]

If anyone messages you over the Internet or social media asking for money and it's not from a confirmed family member or friend, NEVER DO IT! Block them in every way possible so they cannot contact you and seek help. Even if it is a family member or friend, it's best to meet them in person if possible rather than wire money electronically.

[@loveblue2]

I see posts like yours all the time. The problem is, the people who really need this message are NOT listening. Either they think it doesn't apply to them or they're just living under a rock somewhere. It's like they're living in the land of delusion.

[@peacefreedom4930]

Here is another potential layer to this story. The actions they talked her mother into, like creating new fake accounts, and moving other people’s stolen money around, could have potentially led to more deaths than just her mother’s. We are learning of her mother. But how many victims are tied to this exact line of activity who we aren’t aware of? Catching and prosecuting these criminal rings needs to become a prior. We also might need financial advocates for the elderly, who can monitor and shut down suspicious activity like this that involves them.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

Thank you for being truly compassionate. Television can make people think anything. I'm sorry for this woman. This wasn't something to die over, or even spend a decade in jail over. But she was corrupt. I feel for her daughter. She is the innocent victim we do know about.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

Also, 55 is not elderly.

[@peacefreedom4930]

@@l.w.paradis2108 I don’t know if she was corrupt or extremely naive. I think the report said she had only been with her high school sweetheart. She wasn’t familiar with all the games romance scammers play. Plus if she was savvy she wouldn’t have given him all her money. I think she was naive, lonely, and desperate. It doesn’t make her completely innocent because her participation might have harmed other people. It’s a sad situation all the way around.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

@peacefreedom4930 Well, when asked by a stranger to help launder money through fraudulent entities she set up, and to create fake dating profiles, she did not seek legal advice, or psychological counseling. She just plain did it. I guess she could have been very naive in some ways and clearly corruptible in others. No one who loves you asks you to do things like this.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

@@peacefreedom4930 Agreed, very sad. Had she not lost her husband at a relatively young age, she might never have faced anything like this.

[@Lucidmoon7]

I'm 50 and never married. Dating sites are seriously hopeless. I just accepted that I'll always be single. I have my 21 year old daughter, my mom, and my 3 cats.

[@kellyinCT09]

My grandmother (years ago) was scammed out of an excess of 100k by a younger man who breadcrumbs her for a long time. She ended up losing her mother's house and had to live with my parents for the last 10 years of her life because she was romantically scammed by him. So sad to witness.

[@Mmm...yummymummy]

Bread?

[@heidimichellemoenkhaus3569]

My grandma just lost her house borrowing money on her mortgage to give to a scammer that told her she'd won publishers clearing house.

[@terinunes604]

Rather get a dog it's safe and the dog will love you with all it's heart

[@wherethequietbeingsgo]

Literally.

[@Harcorwrestler]

That’s not the same, though. Humans seek other humans for touch, love, and companion. No dog can ever replace human touch, love and companion. Always been that way. With that logic, why not get a AI robot. You can program it to do whatever you want.

[@mary-vy3mo]

they would've been better off...love is a story fantasy...not reality...

[@moritzkorsch9029]

Laura (the woman this news piece is about) literally had a dog. People who get dogs for companionship might even be more likely to fall for a romance scam! Stay safe, people. Confide in your family or friends, don't keep love a secret from your loved ones!

[@schawnettarobinson8584]

Dog isn’t companionship. People want romance.

[@movingonandup322]

Shame on law enforcement for being too lazy and insensitive to conduct a proper investigation into this woman's death, which is precisely what our tax dollars pay them to do! Who commit suicide by drowning themselves in a river??? Is that even possible? Even if it is, who would chose that way over the easier ways to do so? As unlikely of a way to commit suicide that would be, then to add in her being scammed over a million dollars and fearing for her life coming to an end (as she stated in that letter). There's more than enough reason to investigate foul play here. I have such a strong respect for this woman's daughter. She's so brave and strong. She is still fighting for justice for her mother, other scam victims and to protect other potential victims. I am confident that her new baby daughter will grow up to be so proud of her mother. RIP Laura.

[@lilyroza]

When citizens become involved in criminal activities like drugs or prostitution, and then become victims, it becomes much more difficult for police to investigate the crime. To avoid being a victim, stay away from criminals, and be wary of any stranger who might be trying to manipulate you. Teach your children. Convincing you to take part in a criminal activity, is often a set-up for your own victimization. Because you might fear being implicated, you would probably be tempted to keep your activities and connections secret, even from those you are closest to, and you are afraid to ask others for help and their opinions. That secretive double life and of course the ringleaders and puppetmasters cover their tracks from the beginning. That's why it's so hard for to investigate, when victims have played a part in their own exploitation by letting themselves be conned into criminal behavior and keeping secrets. Remember that the con artist is always several steps ahead of the mark, that's you. A great movie about this is House of Games.

[@InTheDeepBlueSea]

There is also the problem of jurisdiction unfortunately

[@fifilafleur5555]

I agree. That idiot sheriff telling this young woman her mother committed suicide. How dare he!!! Her daughter knew her well and knew she would not commit suicide. Sadly, she will never know the full story of what happened to her mother. Especially since the con man is over in Africa. He will never face justice. Stay off these sites, ladies!!!! They are a predator’s playground.

[@RawOlympia]

Lazy gaslighters.

[@movingonandup322]

@@InTheDeepBlueSea There isn't any problem with jurisdiction. There may be a problem with extradition if he's abroad when charges are filed against him, but the police should conduct an investigation no matter what and, if there is enough to charge someone, then they should be charge that person. If that someone is in another country but eventually sets foot again on American soil, they can be arrested and extradited back to the charging state, no problem. If Interpol can grab him from another country and that country allows him to be extradited and brought back to the USA to face trial is another question though, but he'll be locked up if he ever tries to return to the US.

[@ke6264]

He Swedish but has roots in Iowa come on now you can’t make this stuff up😂😂

[@sal1665]

I lost my soulmate of 40 yrs in 2021. I will never date again. I can never love another man. It's sad some women can't live without a man.

[@Songshare]

Same here - married 40 years until 2023. No more men for me.

[@teridoster5840]

I lost my husband of 35 yrs in 2022, I’m relatively “young” at 55 this year, but you couldn’t pay me to start dating. I’ve never loved any man besides my late husband and couldn’t even imagine being with someone else. Although it’s pretty lonely, I have my dog here with me and that’s just going to have to be enough for me.

[@sal1665]

@@teridoster5840 sorry for your loss. I totally agree with you. Also I could never be with another man. It wouldn't be fair to him. I would always be comparing my làte hubby to the new man. Couldn't love another man. Lonely at times but I know one day I will be with him.

[@sal1665]

@@teridoster5840 I was six months away from my 60th birthday when I lost my soulmate. Sorry for your loss. It never gets easier. Three years for me. Miss him more everyday.

[@teridoster5840]

@@sal1665 I’m sorry for your loss as well. I totally agree with you, and I don’t care how much time passes, if I were to ever go out with another man it would _feel_ like I’m cheating, and I could never live with myself feeling like that. My (ex?)stepmom (I don’t really know what to call her, lol, she divorced my dad almost 20 yrs ago after 30 yrs together) told me a couple weeks ago that I “need to go out and find a new man” bcuz it’s the best thing she ever did for herself (2 months after leaving my dad btw)… I told her she was nuts and that I didn’t hate my husband like she did, i actually loved mine deeply, so I wouldn’t be hopping into bed with the first man that gave me a second glance. She didn’t like that very much and we haven’t spoken since😅 but I was angry bcuz she knows me better than to suggest something so tone deaf

[@JudithAdams-ud3ue]

I would NEVER use dating sites! They are so dangerous!

[@Slo-ryde]

They were relatively safe in the early onset ( early 2000’s), but then they eventually got infiltrated by scammers!

[@Jsarmy87124]

They are on all social media!

[@angelika87]

we all need to touch grass. online is not real.

[@lizack3693]

They are everywhere; many find their victims on Facebook and Instagram as well.

[@i-likemy-space7729]

"I would NEVER use dating sites! They are so dangerous!" Stupid is dangerous. A lack of common sense is dangerous. Wearing your heart on your sleeve is dangerous.

[@leesquirrel3550]

Oh, Kelly I am so truly sorry for the loss of your amazing momma. I also fell victim to these evil people. It was a long time ago and I'm still healing. I thought I was an intelligent woman that would see through any of this. As it turned out I was not able to see it. These despicable people prey on older, disabled lonely people. I have only Social Security for money. And yet I think I sent about $10,00.00. My friends treated me like I was stupid. It was degrading, embarassing, and destroyed my self esteem. As well as my ability to trust myself. As I said, it was a long time ago. But I still work on it. I will forever be single and deal with life on my own. But I am still alive. Your mom's story breaks my heart. Please be well. Be happy and love and trust yoyrself. ❤

[@hrae91]

My aunt almost got scammed too. Good thing she was living with us and told us about the guy. We thought he was suspicious and told her it could be a scam.

[@micheleboyle3547]

I still think the dating apps need to be found at fault and start dealing with multiple lawsuits and become bankrupt….I have been a potential victim from many years ago and the only reason I never sent money to this guy was because I was poor as a church mouse…and still am🤭 what’s sad is if her mom had just asked her daughter to take a look at things before any transactions had started this tragedy could have been avoided…her daughter is very loving and caring…❤

[@RawOlympia]

there needs to be a series of class action lawsuits! Some fo these sites are probably created by scammers too

[@Zzz2x]

@@RawOlympiasame with predators being allowed on apps harming children. These apps need to go away. They had plenty of time to get right and protect people. They don’t care

[@chiefrcker]

How can you blame the platform? Where does personal responsibility and accountability end? Remember this: YOU CAN'T FIX STUPID!!! If send a stranger my life savings, how is that not my fault?

[@hollystiener16]

Yes. You should need a driver's license or a valid passport to sign up. End of story!

[@SandiGordonCoaching]

I’m so sorry for your loss. You are so brave to continue seeking justice.

[@brooklynsmomma88]

I feel no one has walked in your mother's shoes so they can't judge. Your mother would be so proud this is a wonderful thing your doing ❤️ 💖 love light and healing vibes to you and your family.

[@thecatatemyhomework]

And she I'm sure was mortified that she gave her daughter's and her grandchild's inheritance to a stranger online. Plus the fact that she was doing something illegal and hurting other women knowingly. For those two reasons alone, I could see someone committing suicide.

[@eferlinindonesia1910]

I am really sorry to hear this and thank you for sharing this story to others. Yes, your effort to share this WILL save someone's lives.

[@glen7228]

I don't care what the reason, no matter how depressed someone was or how guilty they might have felt, if they had an animal that they loved, they would not commit suic*de without somehow securing that animals care. They just wouldn't do it.

[@evertonevelynsmith5431]

What an unbelievable reaction to something so sad

[@manda_musings8459]

@@evertonevelynsmith5431I think the point this person is making is that the woman did NOT commit suicide or else she would have ensured her animals were taken care of

[@nancyd1104]

I'm proud of you for having the strength to help others by sharing your story. I hope you will someday find peace.

[@lisat7437]

This is absolutely heartbreaking. I have been a widow for 17 years and I made a few dating profiles and could immediately pick out who the scammers were. But even the men who were not scammers all were pigs. I got all those sites and chose to concentrate on raising my kids and not dating. I pray this young lady gets answers as to what happened to her mom. 💔🙏🕊

[@mydragonfly8235]

I am not lonely or desperate. I am currently engaging with someone I know is a scammer..its entertaining to me. Wasting their time takes away from them finding another target. But the immediate red flags I find are, US citizen working abroad. Widowed, confesses love right away..less than a week, but the real red flag is grammar!! I also notice that the grammar and tone will change depending on the time of day..multiple people trying to lure you in. Beware folks.

[@breal7277]

I'm sorry about the loss of your mom. May you find peace. Also, in this day and age, news of romance scams are everywhere. How can people still fall for that? It makes no sense to send money to a romantic "partner" you've never met.

[@jeank8061]

Right??!!! How can "pretty words" alone create this very real feeling of love ... and ... how can people not grow suspicious when such high amounts of money are involved?! It is so strange to me

[@plumberofamerica]

unfortunately, even intelligent people fall for them, especially after a major trauma. our brains are wired to often put feelings first. this is shown in psych research. I wouldn't believe it, but I'm a therapist who's seen it. when people go through losing a loved one to cancel and they don't get therapy, they're especially vulnerable to this kind of crime and it's only going to get worse with AI

[@billrobbins5874]

Thank you for coming out and sharing your heart breaking tragedy. May your Mother RIP and hopeful you will find peace.

[@movingonandup322]

Nice post. Start by giving kind condolence. End it by posting something that, in effect, shames her mother for being so dumb to "still fall for [an online scam]" when everyone can see that these scams are "everywhere" "in this day and age." Just end it at, "...May you find peace." Good grief...

[@RawOlympia]

It's like invason of the body snatchers, perfectly logical people going off the deep end within days, horrifying. My film teacher from the Art Institute of Chicago, a man, fell for one who had a cult, pre internet, and he was killed by her. A man with a dream job! Handsome! But his mom had just died and he was in a vulnerable place...

[@sernity1523]

That poor woman, I'm so sorry for her loss and what she's been through.

[@CrustyUgg]

I don't understand how in the 2020's people are still being scammed. I know sometimes it can be hard to tell but meeting someone online is always risky

[@alejandrohernandez3422]

Any online conversations with strangers that transition to the topic of money...block immediately and run...!

[@irishphilly]

Kelly, Thank you for sharing your experience and educating the community in your process of grieving and finding a productive avenue while you navigate. There are so many ways to find ourselves conned, scammed, and/or seduced and groomed--then conned again somehow--a hostage taking or a 'friend' being slick... A very wise woman once surprised me when she said she hated Charm. Anyone 'charming'? Her instant flashpoint: Why the Pixie Dust? She not only never trusted charm, she used it as her alarm bell. That 'Pixie Dust' has helped me for ages.

[@INFJ2]

I understand how some people may get scammed, but then in rurn working for them to scam others and move money for them? Thats where my sympathy ends

[@roxiegs348]

This man, typical story I’ve heard before on these online sites. These people steal photos from public websites and create fake people. They know how to lie and they know the right things to say. I hate how sick these people are.

[@eveFlower101]

I watched a documentary where people from some Asian countries are lured in with the promise of a job only to be forced into forced labor for massive call centres dedicated to these sort thing, run by big mafias. The documentary came about bc they manage to escape. Another interesting doc on the subject is the Sakawa boys of such call centres in Africa

[@PMaillet]

There are TONS of stories showing how people fall for these "lovers." Here are some: www.youtube.com/@CatfishedOnline/videos

[@IsmailaRahama]

Great work, *Vortextrace* - I’m thrilled that you’re actively combatting these scammers. It’s crucial to prioritize the safety of the elderly and the public by taking every necessary measure to protect them. You truly deserve recognition for your efforts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@mckohtz]

I've been targeted multiple times on Facebook. I tell them I am happily married. Thankfully I haven't fallen for their BS. I feel for the daughter because I have a widowed mother. Thankfully, my mother is rarely on social media and doesn't use dating apps and hasn't fallen for their BS either.

[@sal1665]

I have been targeted also on FB. They use the oldest scam out there. Military men in other countries. I tell them I am poor and please get a new scam. Lol. I also ask them to send me money. Needless to say I get left alone after that. I'm a widow and I don't need a man. I do fine all by myself.

[@kellytew107]

I’m so sorry for the daughter’s loss. 💔 I think it’s amazing that she’s helping others now. ❤

[@ScarletFoundryTarot]

Make no mistake,,,, Love is a drug.

[@victoriapierce4062]

These tech companies need to be held accountable for victims from sites that cannot protect their users!!! Identity theft should not be possible!! If your site can be compromised it should have to be removed immediately. At the very least a warning label!! Stop letting these companies off the hook!!

[@realtalkwithproblj2004]

Yes, exactly! But once they put their required "scam warning" banners on their websites, it then becomes a "buyer beware" situation! Unfortunately, most banks will not reimburse victims if they willingly provided personal info or participated in the scam unknowingly.

[@dragonfly961]

Yeah after my divorce I got involved with an online scammer for a few days. But when he tried to get money from me for a plane ticket to “come visit” me I knew it was a scam.

[@karenhansen1945]

My message is for Kelly. Dear Kelly, my heart broke for you watching this video. I wish i could hold you and comfort you on the loss of your beautiful Mother. You are a wonderful daughter to bring this tragedy to the light and make people aware of these evil people. I, like your Mom, was duped. Its a long story but i understand more than most and you are in my heart and prayers. God Bless you and protect you and yours! ❤🙏

[@helenwalker716]

My daughter almost fell for a scammer. Just far enough to be sent flowers. Since she was living with us we put a stop to it. These people are ruthless. They are “in love” with you in just days. All the earmarks of a scammer.

[@Songshare]

I honestly think people should just avoid on-line dating sites - problem solved.

[@XierraMankiller-ql6rs]

That's not always the case. Scams occur when people meet in person, as well. These manipulators defile the emotions of caring and loving people. Some of these evil individuals will even marry others they've never loved, in order to steal everything from others!

[@Mmm...yummymummy]

It is an incredible help. Just needs controls and common sense by users .

[@Poor_BBJ]

How do you go to I love you in twelve days? It happens when some people don't use the common sense they were born with.

[@christinehopping5040]

It does not happen to ANY body. Feelings are not facts. People believe what they want to believe not what they are. No one has an obligation to stop anyone from doing things they knowingly want to do. Stop blaming others for your own mistakes. Take responsibility for your own actions.

[@nkotbsouth]

💯

[@lizack3693]

I love it when the victims try to blame the banks for not stopping them sending money, as if they are adult baby sitters. People who fall for it these scams refuse to listen and accept reality.

[@Bencarson1_3]

#Assetrevivalsolutions - You've Done Amazing Work! Good for you that you're standing up to those thugs. We must take all necessary measures to protect the public, especially the elderly, from these scumbag con artists. Well deserved, my friend. For keeping us secure you should be awarded the Nobel Peace Prize, dude.

[@jannea4318]

I'm tired of all these (mostly) women saying, "It could happen to anyone." What happened to this young woman's mother could NOT happen to me.

[@palapalak.8907]

Bad enough with all the bank scammers.. Now love scammers.

[@karlabrewster8605]

Love scammers have been around for years and years

[@AmySarahxo]

They have been around for years, just now more people are finding out about them.

[@AndreyMursaliev]

One of the all-time greatest Scam alert vids! You, sir, are not just a National Treasure, you're an INTERNATIONAL Treasure! The whole law-abiding world should be trying to find a way to get in touch with you just to send you a little donation and say thank you for working so hard at watching out for our interests. *VAULT GUARD EXPERT* I hope you enjoy putting your recovery's work together as much as most of us enjoy watching you do it. thanks man

[@michelleboldan5]

I have lost count of how many time a “ man “ wants to be my friend on Facebook . I never respond. I also would never date using online dating services. I’m happily married anyway 👍

[@realtalkwithproblj2004]

Yes, exactly! They cast a "wide net" across all social media platforms to see which fish will bite. These scammers prey on the loneliness and desperation of people, mainly seniors. It is so sad. I hope they will all be caught and thrown under the jail.

[@angelika87]

say it with me ONLINE IS NOT REAL ONLINE IS NOT REAL ONLINE IS NOT REAL

[@suzkornfan]

I met my husband online... been married 21 years... i have a 19 year old son.. is he not real????

[@marknewton6984]

Online is for losers.😮

[@suzkornfan]

@@marknewton6984 thats why you are here....

[@stephenbanks5952]

​@@suzkornfanBut I am curious about how long your relationship was online. I suspect that you met very quickly in real life. With these cases they never meet and there are no plans to meet. That is not real.

[@aventurasimbolos1725]

Thanks, Kelly, for sharing your story. It will definitely help other people.

[@kcm4511]

I don’t cope well with lonliness. I was contacted several times by scammers on dating sites. It they were unable to send me a selfie with my name written on a piece of paper, I moved on.

[@whome9936]

This daughter is one composed and capable person. It's a tough road, but if anyone can navigate it, I get the sense that this girl can.

[@Mmm...yummymummy]

Such desperate old gals but they raised their children well.

[@robinmanzanares3106]

99% of those people on those websites are scammers. Out of 20 years of trying to find a mate on the internet every single one of them has not been honest. Every single one of them has tried to see if they could get money. Face to face dating is safest way to go. Face to face you see what you're getting. On a computer It can be who knows who is scamming you a woman or a man you have no idea.

[@Lez_awake]

My neighbor and friend took his own life after he lost literally everything he had to a catfish scam 😢 These scammers are RUTHLESS

[@pookee004]

You're doing an outstanding job, *VortexTrace* ! I'm thrilled that you're out there battling these scoundrels. It's absolutely crucial to protect the elderly and the general public from these deplorable scammers. You truly deserve all the praise and recognition for keeping us safe! Kudos to you, my brother. Your efforts are deserving of the Nobel Peace Prize. Keep up the amazing work….!!!!

[@MonAmi-ru5oj]

I don't think the FBI would leave a VM like that. That could have been part of the scam to possibly blackmail Laura.

[@brandywineblue]

Widows and Widowers REALLY REALLY need help and companionship from their families. They are being systematically targeted. DO NOT ABANDON YOUR FAMILY EVER!!!!

[@jolo3118]

Also, please remember, a hot, young athletic, professional, or celebrity guy/girl IS NOT going to see your 65 year old lady/guy profile on FB or Instagram and just HAVE to reach out and start a relationship with you! A relationship with your money? Yes, but with you? Absolutely not! Please use the brains that the good lord gave you!

[@eileenluke9791]

Kelly I so want to help. I'm a mother in my 60's, and I have a daughter probably near your age. So many things about your story resonated with me, and I so get your mother's desire for companionship, she so deserved to be loved! My journey went through some domestic violence or abuse issues in my marriage(s). That was some years ago, and yes there are some scars but we can heal. Thank you so much for sharing you and your mom with us. You are so very right that sharing your daughter's grandmother's story can and will make a difference, and bring hope. As I said in the beginning I do so want to help. Know that I will be checking back on the story, checking on you little sister haha, and who knows maybe our paths will cross. You are an awesome, awesome young woman, best of all - you are your mother's daughter. Love snd blessings to you and yours.

[@youknow6607]

i just had two catfishes contact me today via a dating app. i can tell if they r fake.

[@katiebunny3396]

The scene of Effie alone in the house holding the toy breaks my heart 😢 and seeing Laura with Effie as a puppy

[@TammyHarrison-i5o]

So sorry for your loss, I took have falled for a similar romance scam& lost only my money and my dog so I am so sorry for your loss and I thank you for sharing this

[@kzp5249]

So sorry for your loss. This is so so sad, taking advantage of innocent people seeking love. Something needs to be done about these sites!

[@bodaciousbeebee]

If my husband dies before me or we divorce I will never Ever marry or date again. I loved dating when I was single and young . Men will never treat me the way they used to when I was young . I can’t go on dates like I used to go . Things aren’t the same . Any older woman who believes a man that genuinely wants to be with her just know the odds are against you. More likely someone wants to benefit off of you financially than anything else. No matter how beautiful you held up or if you let yourself go. I will have friends maybe but that’s it .

[@ladory7533]

Yes, They either want a nurse or a purse. When you're a senior, you can't afford to take a man like that, even if he IS for real.

[@neckdoc6872]

So heartbreaking. Truly sorry for your loss. .Thank you for sharing her story so that more people can understand that these scammers are real! My prayers are with you and your family.

[@doriskurzz1798]

This is so ridiculous I couldn't even watch all of it. These people are delusional.

[@loriar1027]

I met my husband at age 44 through mutual friends after I had stopped looking and had decided to stay single. That was 20 years ago. We are happy together, but if he goes before me I'm not getting married or dating again. It's too risky. Not worth it.

[@Q..J..]

The strength of this young woman to find out what happened to her Mom is what will keep her doing amazing things for others. So sad that scammers don’t have a conscience or a heart!

[@TsterMr63]

NO MONEY BEFORE I MEET THE PERSON FACE-TO-FACE. That's the promise I got from my mom after she was scammed out of $10k by one of these scumbags. She hesitated to promise never to send money for any reason(!) so that was the compromise we reached. If that promise was accepted practice, maybe this wouldn't be such a huge problem.

[@王永溪]

This is actually what happened to me after falling for this scam but I was able to report to the right authorities at #Trool Vortex

[@王永溪]

They’re on instagram and they’re helping victims out

[@hamptongal62]

Such a tragic story. So many people are victims of these scams--you never know who is behind the keyboard 😢

[@Glen-uy4jt]

Love is also fabricated in the mind. Honesty and respect are virtues that promote peace and harmony. Love is a form of discrimination and causes blindness to reality.

[@kh40yr]

Was almost scammed by a Serbian, until the qestion of Money and "her" being able to visit me with "borrowed" money from me. I spotted it right away, once all the dots lined up. I led them on a 2 month wild chase after that. Eventually, they gave up claiming that I didn't love "her" enough. Not one cent lost.

[@DoseofDoriJ]

Well, this might be worse than getting recruited by a CULT…glad the daughter is speaking out.Mom got love bombed and fell into to that WEB too deep. Very,very sad.😢🙏🏾😢