【Apple】When my father-in-law heard my wife and I might not have kids, he tried to force a divorce.

[@cathyjacobs]

I'm child-free by choice. I'll be 70 this month, and have never regretted not having kids. I only regret being hounded by my stepmother, not being able to read in my room for an hour without being kicked out. She's the reason why, at 13, I decided I never wanted kids; I wanted some alone time whenever I felt like it, without spending 18 years raising a kid who always needed me. I, too, have had people say, "Well, who's going to take care of you when you get old?" First of all, no one knows if they'll live until they're elderly. Second, no one else knows your situation. You might have an abusive parent (or kid), and a child taking care of the parent might not be something one or both of the parties even wants. Third, and most importantly, no one should have a child unless they actually want one for the right reason, and they're willing and able to take care of it.

[@dustinswiney1474]

Preach it man or woman. I have a coworker who is constantly on me about having kids meanwhile my own family doesn't give a rats ass if I do or not so again preach it

[@violetnewell5076]

No one and I mean no one should be made to feel bad not wanting children. Coming from someone whose had 2.

[@Tracie.....]

I can't have kids I always regretted it, until now, now I think its a good thing I didn't have any.

[@crazycatladym3027]

Im going to be 47 and ive never had kids and dont want them by choice also. I have 4 beautiful nieces and thats good enough for me. Always stand by yourself and your decisions 😊❤

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

You have all the same opinions I have and I agree with you 100%! I'm sorry you had a terrible childhood. That wasn't fair to you at all. I'm 43 and also childfree. I never wanted them and because of my medical conditions, I could die if I had baby. Even with all this proof, it was still a challenge to find a doctor willing to do a tubal ligation when I was 21. They almost had me go to counseling before they would do the surgery. It's a good thing I didn't have a husband or I would've had to get his permission. Where I live, men can get get vasectomies very easily, but women aren't always allowed to get tubal ligations. But that's a whole other issue all together...

[@mog-gyveroneill2500]

I love Mikey's attitude!! More upbeat stories like this please!!❤

[@mog-gyveroneill2500]

This has been my favourite story so far!!😍

[@JHellraiser]

My own child has stated that they don't want children and I respect that. I also respect that my child may decide to change their mind and have a child or even adopt. But that is THEIR choice, not mine to make. I just want my child to be happy, which is what any parent, family member, or friend should want. Not to force parenthood on other people.

[@wendymonkelien-brown579]

We are in the same situation with our daughter. Though it makes us sad because we would LOVE a grandkid or two, we will NOT force the issue. His mom & sister on the other hand? The very first time they met our daughter & saw her interact with her BF's nephew, they made the "rocking a baby" motions to her. They are young (24 & 25), so there's plenty of time if they DO change their minds, but we'll live them no matter what.....they're our kids!

[@SandraHertel-u3b]

Neither of my kids want children, I’m fine with it.

[@shawnycoffman]

Amen!

[@Bonniethebunny]

Wish more parents had this mindset, and i wish more would actually support their kids for different reasons too

[@ChaoticAngelKitten]

You sound like a fantastic parent. My dad knows the only grandchildren he’s getting are gonna be furry. :P He’s a good grandpa though and loves his little furry granddaughter.

[@angelsmith9421]

I have two granddaughters who both had their tubes tied. I don't blame them. The only way I will be a great grandmother is if I do something extraordinary!😂😂😂

[@LauraRealLife]

I'll be 60 later this year, and I'm never married no children by choice. I first said I never wanted to get married or "be a mommy" when I was 8 years old, everyone laughed and said I'd change my mind except my parents, both of whom at the time said "We love you no matter what you decide to be when you grow up!" I never did change my mind, and I've had a fantastic life so far. I've traveled widely (86 countries so far, plus all 50 states!), been the coolest of "cool aunts" to my younger brother's kids, am godmother to four children of my best friends, I've ran my own business, achieved almost every single dream I've ever had for my life. What matters is living life on YOUR terms, true to yourself. If being a mother is your dream, go for it! If never having children is your dream, go for it! You have only one life - live it like the gift it is, every day.

[@shawnycoffman]

BRAVO!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@lauriehainsworth4115]

My son has decided to be child free and I accept his decision. His father (my ex) was "strict" to put it politely and my son fears he may take after him. He wants to break the cycle of abuse.

[@shawnycoffman]

What a wonderful man! How self-aware he must be. He is loving his children by not having them. You did good, Mama!

[@tetris3289]

I don't have kids and really don't plan to. Everyone is trying to force me to keep the family going. It's too expensive and hard work I know I can't do. At a young age I pretty much helped my mom raise my two brothers so I feel like I've done that part too.

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

You make a very good point! It is very expensive especially with the cost of housing in many places. People can't afford to have their own place or they don't qualify if there are strict guidelines. It would be irresponsible for bringing children into the world if someone can't afford to care for them. Although depending where someone lives, many women have barriers to access birth control or be able to have a tubal ligation if they want one. But that's a whole other issue all together. Where I live, many 2 bedroom apartments rental rates are double what the one bedroom apartments are. I really don't see how people can afford to have kids these days, especially if they are a single parent. I barely qualified to get my current apartment, even though I have been working and renting apartments for 20 plus years with a clean record and a good credit score.

[@shawnycoffman]

It is a lot of hard work and it is very expensive and it certainly isn't for everybody. Sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders. 👍🏻😊

[@catrionamassey8521]

My son says he doesn't want children. Im a little disappointed, but I'll support his choice

[@Jennifer-ep1sr]

Having two parents and not going to university is not an absolute necessity to having a good life.

[@LoveOnTheInsidex3]

Exactly. I didn’t go to university

[@dustinswiney1474]

​@@LoveOnTheInsidex3same.

[@corinnefogarty7880]

A lot of people work in job that they went to a trade school for. Or found one with training provided by the employer, e.g., law enforcement or fire fighters. They can make a lot of money.

[@clukecluke8316]

This son in law is annoying. He's the type of person that gives forced advice and doesn't give up until you take it.❤

[@littlewolf4387]

Children make my anxiety so bad I end up getting sick so motherhood is not for me . If iam going to have a baby I want to be able to give it the love It's needs

[@shawnycoffman]

I know what you mean. If I had had my kids in my 20s they definitely would not be the well adjusted adults they are now. I had them at 30 and 33 and I was much more emotionally mature and could put them first. 10 years prior? Not so much. 😅

[@darlap2724]

Good Evening y'all from North Carolina! 😊

[@linellecameron3067]

I'm from N.C. also. Heyyy!!!!

[@JackieSkellington]

hi there have a nice sleep

[@josephhurst4902]

54:11, Respect is Earned. Not Given because you DEMAND IT.

[@tricorvus2673]

10:06. This is the exact reason why my mother adopted me and my brother, after 25 years of childless marriage.

[@XOrtKnight]

Yay more! Evening from the Sooner State!

[@SheilaLJones]

Good evening from the Palmetto State

[@robertmeehan3072]

BOOMER SOONER!!!. lol 🙂 greetings from a diehard Fighting Irish fan. 🙂

[@MarrisaPlays]

the idea of "children are nature's course" isn't as dramatic as this FIL is making it out to be. The general idea is, you don't track cycles, you don't worry to much about fertility testing and you don't use protection. you continue to have sex normally and if pregnancy happens it happens. Why would that idea be hard to understand???

[@Lupinemancer87]

"But there's just no way I could've imagined that you'd be working at some place like this." That sounds like a you problem Robert.

[@danielabolivar1761]

Great story!!!

[@equalheatiscool9267]

Not having a child is not a luxury. It is a personal choice.

[@jteal6251]

Never blame the child born out of wedlock! Shame the mother if you must, but the child is innocent and deserves a happy life.

[@ire1398]

Shaming neither is what’s healthy. People who shame the mother don’t have the smarts (intellectually or emotionally) to understand that it doesn’t make sense to blame the baby.

[@vivianperry4237]

This reminded me of DC's Jonathan Crane who was born out of Wedlock and was treated like a sin by his great grandmother.

[@jteal6251]

@@vivianperry4237 Still happens! My stepson was born out of wedlock. His maternal grandmother called him a bastard and my husband detonated on her. He still spits and growls over this.

[@grandmaonline2450]

Don’t shame the mother either. No one has the right to judge and need to mind their own business.

[@vilnap3002]

Bed sores are common because the people who have them are not being taken care of. Bed sores are a sign of neglect

[@conniebowman2473]

I have kids but i know i will never live with any of them . Its not their job to care for me ever. Im a big girl and can care for myself.

[@shawnycoffman]

If you don't want kids, do not have them. Don't let society, parents, friends, a spouse, anyone force you to have children you do not want. It is okay not to want children! It's a personal choice and nobody else's opinion matters! I was adamant I did not want children until I was about 27 years old. Then I met my husband and my opinion changed and I have two adult kids now. My daughter is adamant she will not have children; my son has always insisted - like from the age of five - that he will have two children someday with or without a wife. And guess what? I support them both. It is their decision and I have no say in the matter (nor do I want any). I can no more imagine brow-beating my children to give me grandchildren than I could jumping in a full sewage tank to eat lunch. It's long been my contention that sometimes the most loving thing you can do for your children is not to have them. Good luck out there! 🥰

[@equalheatiscool9267]

Robert already has continued his lineage in 3 directions. An adopted child would simply join the family as Cynthia’s & Mikey’s child.

[@joninapepperell1151]

My daughter is autistic so would not be able to fully be a mother without a lot of help so I'm having to face the fact I will never be a grandma as she is my only child. If she was able too of course I would have told her my wish. But at the end of the day it's her body and her life so I would respect her wishes x

[@leaminnaar9119]

I'm 67 and I have 4 kids. But my 3 sons prefer no kids my daughter on the other have 6

[@shawnycoffman]

Wow. She took 'picking up the slack' seriously, didn't she? Sounds like you have a lovely and lively family. 😄

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

A house and a good job do not guarantee one has a good life. If that were the case, no homeowner with a good job would ever get divorced. My husband is the youngest of 4. His three older siblings were adamant about not wanting kids, and they didn't have any. Their parents never pushed or demanded them to have kids. But my MIL did bawl her eyes out with joy when my husband and I told her we were pregnant with twins.

[@StoopidMonkeysMomma]

42 minutes in we finally hear from Cynthia!!

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

In the US, it is EXTREMELY expensive to get in home medical and home care services if they don't have the right coverage with their insurance. Most insurances, including many types of Medicaid, won't cover ongoing care. If someone needs to be in a nursing facility and in the home, it's usually short term only. Also, assisted living facilities are even MORE expensive as well as many nursing homes. Most of the time, insurances are the ones to decide how long someone can stay in a nursing facility and receive in home services. Once those days are up, people are discharged or services are stopped, regardless if they still need them. For 16 years, I've worked with many people with disabilities and older adults who needs these services. Many times people don't qualify for programs like Medicaid or can't afford in home care. Not all types of Medicaid will cover these services either and each state has their own guidelines. Having a disability or health condition, doesn't automatically mean someone will be eligible. Many other countries have better programs and services. But they do greatly vary depending on where someone lives.

[@SifGreyfang]

I absolutely do not like kids so Im definetly not having kids of my own. Hell im 25 and havent had a girlfriend yet and tbh im not looking for one now or probably in the near future. Relationships these days are such a hassle and having kids on top of it is gonna make things difficult. Give me a dog or puppy any day and theyll be my children.

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

Oh for gods' and goddesses' sakes, why do people keep complaining about the longer videos??? Many people really like them, including me especially since my commute to and from work are an hour each way. On the thumbnails it shows exactly how long they are before we select them and we don't have to watch them, it's that simple. Just because some people don't like the longer videos, it doesn't mean they should get their way and that the channel should stop making them when plenty of other people enjoys them.

[@dragonyami]

Robert keeps flip flopping between 'I'm ok with this marriage and I hate you die' ?? 99% of the questions Robert is asking are ones you ask BEFORE the marriage lol, not AFTER. And you have the parents meet before you submit marriage licenses etc not after? Wtf?

[@sharongreen4407]

This father in law is so selfish, who will want to take care of him in his old age ,he will give you a hard time and no gratitude 😮

[@angelicafigueroa0221]

Good evening from NY

[@JackieSkellington]

sleep well from California

[@lindahill7315]

Good evening, everyone. A horrible fil. Good story

[@JackieSkellington]

have a good sleep!

[@MontyCats]

This was ridiculously long

[@drieuxkoeppel8152]

I always always wanted kids. But I know many couples who don’t want children. And that’s okay, too. I’ve seen other people pressure their own kids about GRANDKIDS, but I refuse to. My kids are likely not having kids, and that’s okay. It’s their lives, not mine. Period.

[@MarcieArnold-e1r]

What kind of man is the husband that he asks his father-in-law long time after they got married if he may have a wedding ceremony. He sounds like a pretty big wimp.

[@nessamitchell3332]

Good evening y'all from the peach state Ga.

[@Mysticalwizard420]

Good evening from the huckleberry state MT!

[@Starbean89]

Hi ya neighbor! Fellow Ga resident here too! Hope you have a great night

[@nessamitchell3332]

@@Starbean89 so far so good. Hope it's not raining there

[@Starbean89]

@@nessamitchell3332 it’s raining lightly here and Saturday we have thunderstorms coming

[@JackieSkellington]

nighty night from California

[@riley6740]

Old pots and pans as a gift?

[@matthewcardoza1190]

It was probably meant as an “heirloom gift;” something to pass on to their children as a generational treasure. Just like some families pass on their grandmother’s wedding ring (or before them) to their daughters and the daughters after them.

[@bailie-raespence6408]

My mum gave me a pot, it's old and dented 😂🤣😂 it was my mum's tattie (potato) pot as I grew up and now it's mine. When she goes I will also have her personal cutlery 🤣😂 that's my heirloom

[@riley6740]

@@matthewcardoza1190 I never thought of that. You’re right. I have a nice set of pots and pans that are in great condition. Stainless steel from cuisineart and a set of Henkels knives. They are now about thirty years or older. I ended up buying two different sets of the pots and pans to get all the ones that were in the same collection. It’s a good thing that I always washed them by hand. Especially the knives. Putting good knives in a dishwasher will age them and really make them hard to get a good edge on them. They’ll have to be professionally sharpened a lot more often than you would think. I wouldn’t be embarrassed to hand them down to my granddaughter. I do wish my mom had kept hers she bought from her home in England.

[@Nightlingbolt]

I'm kind of disappointed there was no real payoff to Alyssa. If she's going to open the story, she should have a larger role in the nearly hour-long affair.

[@vanessajohnson1488]

Good evening from Alabama

[@JackieSkellington]

Nighty night from California

[@angellucas-ranck9594]

As the parent of a mentally disabled adult child(& only child) I’ve had to accept that I will have to care for her my whole life and that at some point we will have to get someone to care for her. When I found out the issues she had & will face I made the decision to not have any other children so that I could focus on her needs. I didn’t want to subject any other child to feeling neglected by me since she needs so much time, money & care. I also didn’t want them to be ‘ burdened‘ with having to care for sibling once I was gone. But I do worry about what will happen to her when I’m gone since I have no other family also worry about what’ll happen to me when I get older. It isn’t/wasn’t an easy decision to make but then my pregnancy was a complete surprise. The first time I had unprotected sex, which was on my wedding night I ended up pregnant. Talk about the universe having a sense of humor.

[@Mehp2]

Hello from central Kentucky

[@JackieSkellington]

Hi! A friend just moved to Louisville

[@Mehp2]

@@JackieSkellingtonoh! That’s an hour away from me!

[@JackieSkellington]

The Derby on my bucket list 😁

[@patsywebley2697]

Over half way through and still no point in this story

[@savannahbergen4984]

I apologize if this ruins the video for anyone, but why does it sound like they are playing Mario Kart music in the background?

[@speedmeisterkym6120]

Why does the FIL talk to the SIL? why doesn't the SIL just point him to his OWN daughter 🤔

[@rolfsinkgraven]

Very nice story but a little too much bla bla about the same stuff sometimes.

[@mariantabaksmith6557]

What's with these stories that the couples dont meet the parents until the wedding or engagement? Not realistic!

[@the-nina-beans88]

What is the FIL’s issue here?

[@bspencer6356]

OMG This goes on and on and on. Cut it down to 20 minutes! Or less! 👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻

[@Ronin.Samurai]

The video is perfectly fine. No one told you to click on the video. Be grateful for what you get, or go watch a different channel and get lost butthurt snowflake.

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

Many people like longer videos, including me. You don't have to watch them and it shows how long they are before you select the videos. No one is forcing you to watch them. Just because YOU don't like the longer videos, it doesn't mean you should get your way when plenty of other people enjoy them. They are allowed to make their videos as long as they want

[@Bonniethebunny]

​@@dragonfliesnh4204 the issue is that the shorter videos are becoming less commonly uploaded. I enjoyed the shorter ones as just something to listen to while i ate. The longer ones are time consuming. I watch some of them yes, but i have to cut off a lot of them to do other things

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

@@Bonniethebunny WHY should they have to make shorter one just because some people don't like them and many people DO like them?? It's ridiculous that people just want their way especially since they can skip the longer ones. There are plenty of other channels to watch and this woman has at least 2 other channels that she owns with shorter videos. People ALWAYS find something to whine about on these videos. Just don't watch the longer ones and/or channels you don't like. It's that simple!

[@Bonniethebunny]

@@dragonfliesnh4204 i do watch the other two, but they also have longer videos these days. I'm not saying they have to upload the shorter ones, the shorter ones are just my preference. It's frustrating that i also have to cut them off to do other things and may not get back to them again. And by the time i do, if i do, i'll be ripped from the immersion it initially had.

[@wendyo2561]

Goodness me. 59 mins of blah blah blah.

[@robertheath7909]

Yeah, no one wants to follow and type of tradition. So if this younger generations don't want to follow and traditions. Then why do we need to take care of the children. If the children just want to throw the parents away when we get old.

[@carolroberts4614]

Are children a pension plan now, then? I'm 70, and I don't take a penny from my daughters. They've got their own families to see to!

[@joosyjulie]

I'm 60 now, yet my own mother said she didn't want us to look after her in her old age. I'd prefer a nursing home myself.