【Apple】My MIL is oddly obsessed with me having a natural birth instead of a C-section.

[@akehapkap6143]

What the hell does a childbirth have to do with the family? It’s almost like controlling on micro level. Wha a narcissist mil. I’d have blocked her, it’s none of her business.

[@danielbutler578]

My sister-in-law was in labor for almost 24 hours with her first baby before the doctor ordered a Caesarian. She had reached the point of total exhaustion. When my wife told me about it, I thought the doctor should have been sued for malpractice. He let her suffer for almost a full day with what was obviously an impossible natural delivery. When she got pregnant with her second child, her doctor told her that because of the structure of her pelvis she would never be able to have a natural birth.

[@shoshanaudelson4481]

Daughter of a friend also has an oddly shaped uterus, is monitored very carefully and has C-sections every time. In the olden days she and baby would both be dead.

[@damonika09]

That was my mom too. When she was pregnant with my sister, they told her her pelvic area was too small for a natural birth.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Becky, mind your own damned business. When I was pregnant with my twins, my morning sickness was so bad that I lost 25 lbs in my first trimester. No matter what my docs tried or suggested, nothing helped. My MIL is the one who suggested something that worked and saved my and my twin's lives, and it was so simple. She told me every morning to eat half of a turkey or chicken sandwich before I even got out of bed, and that worked! My MIL came to my house three times a week to help me in my first trimester because I was so sick. She then stayed with us during my last six weeks of pregnancy because even going up and down stairs became dangerous. When my husband told my MIL I had to have a cesarean section, she was relieved because she was worried about me and the twins having an arduous labor. I am saying that my MIL was a Rockstar and supported and helped me during my pregnancy and for six weeks postpartum. All MILs should be like mine.

[@vickititus9949]

I had the same issues with the first trimester for my twins. It was scary

[@norarivkis2513]

It's not always a sandwich, but eating something instantly when you wake up in the morning, before you even get out of bed, is the most common recommendation to apply to morning sickness. It can really help.

[@KCohere33]

These MILs are such nuisances. I know what not to do if I ever became one. 😂

[@Selena-gz9ts]

Me too

[@Mehp2]

My mom was in natural labor with my brother for 12-14 hours before the DOCTORS said she NEEDED a c-section. The next time, when she had me, was a scheduled c-section.

[@silverkitsune1003]

Same with my mum. She had me naturally, and then she had my brother through C-Section years later.

[@Overwatch2003]

Sometimes you just gotta go with plan B

[@thatonegirl4676]

I had "failure to dilate" with my daughter and had to have her via C-section... I didn't even attempt labor with my son after suffering while waiting to dilate past a 3, like with my daughter.

[@Momof5grannytomany]

I dilated to a 5 with my twins and wound up with a cesarean section and then had a scheduled one with my son so this mil needs to leave things out of her family's life asap

[@sweetkairysweetkairy3952]

Same happen to me

[@PaulA.Bailey-r1o]

Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationship and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her.

[@PaulA.Bailey-r1o]

I'm keen on meeting the counsellor you're talking about. What steps should I take?

[@PaulA.Bailey-r1o]

Thank you for this information. I have just looked her up on Google. impressive.

[@Aldotre]

Keep your head up, and let time heal your broken heart, I wish you strength and send positive vibes, better times will come to you.

[@riley6740]

Yay! Finally a woman who will speak her mind and not put up with her crazy mother in law.

[@BIGBLOCK5022006]

Becky needs to be a good little girl and stay in her lane, know her place, and shut her damn mouth. Each birth has different circumstances, and not every birth happens the normal way. The doctor is the one who can determine if a cesarean section is the best choice.

[@amandahugenkiss2310]

Not to mention that “natural if possible, cesarean if necessary” is basically the standard birth plan that 99 percent of mothers follow

[@dragonyami]

The heck is this woman on about? Birth complications happen all the time, to varying degrees of seriousness. And I've never even once heard of someone judging someone harshly for getting a cesarean??? What planet is she from lmao

[@NaughtyAelf]

Same planet my mother is from, I guess. They're out there.

[@hardtogetnamehere]

There are a lot of women who are judgmental about C-sections verses natural birth. Same way they are judgmental about breast feeding verses bottle feeding. In the end all that matters is mom and baby are fine.

[@ellenosceola5707]

She’s from the Apple Texts universe 😂

[@ifynwamma]

Sadly, there are lots of people from that planet

[@dragonyami]

@@ellenosceola5707 lmao u right

[@jteal6251]

C-sections leave a scar and can have complications, but they result in beautiful, unsquashed babies. If they weren't available my daughter and I would have died.

[@FireHeart2829]

Sounds like me and my mom 😂

[@SandraNelson063]

I like this DIL. She holds her ground. Much to MIL's irritation. 😊

[@WandaHadley]

This is great, a husband that isn't a Mama's boy.

[@BecauseWhyNot660]

For once, hubby can think for himself! Seriously, if a C-section, you don't question it.

[@dustinswiney1474]

Also no secret ceo reveals

[@mattwho81]

@@dustinswiney1474so Tired of every OP turning out to be a secret CEO

[@dustinswiney1474]

@@mattwho81 exactly

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

Yes, it was a refreshing change! I'd love to hear more stories where people have a backbone and stand up for their spouses!

[@quentinpimienta370]

Say it with me everyone. WHO’S GIVING BIRTH?! *NOT YOU.*

[@frenchgirl75000]

Becky ce n'est pas ton corps donc keep your mouth shut

[@Zangoose5]

So glad that the husband in the story had some sense as well as a spine. So tired of people, taking their parents word as gospel; if they’re right, then they’re right. But if they’re wrong, then it should be treated as such.

[@tricorvus2673]

Oh my god that was the best slap back I have ever seen!!!!!

[@drycreek8570]

I just cant imagine these woman that put up with this mess. My mom dad an sister with my family live on the same 20 acres. My mom treats my ol lady the same as me. I told her when she moved in with me you treat people the way they treat you. If they treat you like trash you return the favor and treat them like trash regardless of who it is but if they treat you with respect i expect the same from you. Yall should nip it in the bud before it starts growing like a cancer. My daughter is 3 an we are raising her to be independant.

[@GenGamesUniverse]

OP pulled the ultimate reverse uno card XD

[@annawilliams6382]

I was a c-section baby born two weeks early due to my mother having hypertension and the fact I was breeched. Sometimes it is medically necessary

[@_mj3]

0:39 wha??? ya’ll it’s not normal to call ur partner useless what?

[@eldenlion5850]

Hormones

[@Ospyro3em]

"I should talk to the authorities about this" lady, what do you think they'll do?! 🤣🤣🤣

[@shawnycoffman]

MIL is not being assertive she's being aggressive.

[@chynapaws3660]

I seriously don't know what Becky is smoking?!?! When my best friend was in labor she would have taken those twins out by tractor beam if the doctor had suggested it and her MIL would have started building it herself lol.

[@kathleenherron594]

If you’re in labor, you don’t call for an ambulance. They’ll tell you to call for a taxi or Uber. In many areas, you are charged for the ambulance trip, and it’s very expensive.

[@potatoflakes247]

I like the conversation....DIL really only reacted to negative comments and gave solid boundaries to MIL. And then when MIL pushed those did DIL ask her to leave. Hopefully MIL can learn to respect boundaries so that she can be apart of the grand kid's life.

[@jolenebauser408]

I was in labor for nearly 40 hours before they realized I needed a C-Section but by the time they actually got an X-ray and got the OR ready I had dilated to. 10 and my dr said well let’s just try natural delivery! My baby was a full breech( feet first) and I gave birth that way. It was awful. We both nearly died in the process. I crashed and my daughter was lifeless at birth. By the grace of God we both made it and no problems afterwards.

[@lindahill7315]

Good morning, everyone from Alabama. That mil is plain stupid. Op is correct about the team

[@twiceshy9773]

Glad the hubby was on her side (well, the doctor's side at least lol)

[@nerdicperson6235]

"C-section isnt natural!" So using medications and going to see a doctor is unnatural?

[@thatonegirl4676]

My friend was too small in her pelvic region and when she pushed him out, he ended up with temporary blindness and deafness on one side.

[@staceyga1]

Finally! A Husband that backed His wife up! ❤

[@amandahugenkiss2310]

All that really matters are results. The kid’s out, the kid’s healthy the mom’s healthy, and that’s all that matters. Only idiots care about the specific route of birth

[@ifynwamma]

Absolutely

[@sakilynn]

The crazy thing is my family has seen both sides of this story. Me, and my kid siblings were all C-section births, but the complication came after my brother's birth; he was the last one, and it took 18 years for someone to notice it. As for doctors just wanting to get money from surgeries: not all, but some. One doctor said my late grandfather needed an open-heart, and another said it definitely wasn't needed.

[@nevaehlumiere5418]

Things have changed a little bit over the course of time… But my poor grandfather was advised by his doctor to have all of his healthy teeth pulled to stop his chest pain. This was in approximately 1970. So from that point forward he had a full set of dentures in his mouth. Nowadays, we’re a little more knowledgeable about medicine and would know that this is a bogus procedure.

[@chessiacox6946]

I was born via cesarean birth. Thank goodness too, because I was almost a month before my due date and was already 8 pounds. But seriously, what is the difference? A birth is a birth, right? As long as mother and child are healthy, what dies it matter?

[@frenchgirl75000]

Bonjour de Paris 👋🏿 . Have a good day

[@KCohere33]

Bonjour from California

[@lorannamoody7011]

Salut de mon ile 🏝🦎

[@Skylar0901]

🐊 Good Morning from Orlando FL 🐊

[@janetseales5587]

My first child was born by C-section,all my other children was natural births.

[@lynnharris3189]

Funny how mils become doctors that they think know what’s best.

[@beingalittleextra]

No one after this video will not know what the C stands for in C-section.

[@skystar2026]

My mom is a nurse and had one herself so I knew before the video

[@chynapaws3660]

Becky needs to mind her own business and keep her friggin options to herself! If she doesn't agree with it she can get some therapy and get over it.

[@youmadhuh6375]

WE decided how to have our baby.. me, my husband and the dr that would be delivering our baby.. WE decided on a C section due to my heart problems. My mom, nor his had any say so in the matter. I don't understand why any of this is MIL'S business?.. she isn't the one that's having the baby. What she wants means absolutely NOTHING!.. WTF is she?..The last time she had a baby was in the 1700's.. tell MIL to have a seat & find a hobby. Do y'all know what a "natural birth" is? It's a birth with no drug's. You can have a "natural birth" at a hospital, just decline the epidural. I think y'all meant to say vaginal birth where she has to push.

[@hardtogetnamehere]

A lot of MIL’s overstep boundaries. When my 2nd baby was born, we had a toddler, my MIL told me not to kill the baby because of PPD. I never had PPD. She never came over to check on us, never offered help, but would call me to remind me not to kill my child. When our oldest was 5, our middle was 1 and we had our youngest, she still never offered help, but continued to call about “good job not killing your daughter. Make sure to not kill this one either” I stopped answering the phone when anyone called. 1 time when our youngest was 1 week old, my husband asked her to come and watch the littles while I took the oldest to school in the next town over. She refused and said “she has to do it in her own, I’m not her nanny”. Yup, I tapped out of that relationship.

[@youmadhuh6375]

​@@hardtogetnameherewow.. she sounds like a horrible woman...

[@tovelokiwifeodindottir9936]

All 5 of my kids were c-section. Mainly because my first was face up and had a hold of the umbilical cord and was bungy jumping and my hips weren't wide enough at the time. My second child was taking EVERYTHING from me, was 7lbs at 5 weeks early and I only gained 10lbs. My womb was so thin they said if I had waited even another day I could have ruptured and we both would have been dead in seconds. Then I was pregnant with twins and had I not already had 2 c-sections they would have been a very easy natural birth I gained proper weight and they were perfectly positioned. The only thing that went wrong with that one was that the epidural didn't take on the left side fully and I could feel the scalpel. I had to be fully knocked out and intubated. My youngest was also scheduled and I will NEVER do a spinal block again. I could feel everything. I kept passing out from the pain. IF we have another it will be an epidural. I get shivers and shake every time I think about my most recent c-section. They say it's a faster recovery time but idk it didn't feel faster. I was there two days longer then any epidural I've had. Please don't let this scare you off from a spinal block, for some it works as intended. Now that I know what it does for me I'll be sure to advocate for myself better.

[@mollysheridan7134]

Ugh. Your son calls you to tell you have a grand baby and all you do is complain about the method of birth?!? So bizarre.

[@jwatt247]

Soooo y'all just gon shut the channel down and just magically reappear like nothing happened huh I demand an explanation!

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Good Morning ☀️ Have a terrific Tuesday evening 👋🤗🌮 From Louisiana 🐊

[@Tracie.....]

Good afternoon from England

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

@@Tracie..... Good morning and have a great day 👋🤗

[@lorannamoody7011]

Have a Tuesday adventure then enjoy your tacos.🦎🏝🌮

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

@@lorannamoody7011 Good morning Loranna 👋 Having a five year old around is an adventure 🤭 Have a great adventure 🤗🐊

[@vickiep.4278]

Philly check in and good day to all ❤❤❤

[@nightdweller6446]

Offers a McDonald's as a healthy option? ???.

[@SleepyNekroma]

mate, one way or another that baby is coming out and that's natural enough, natural just means having the thing doesn't matter what methods of conseption or delivery last time I checked it's not like anyone's giving birth to a robot, just a fleshy contraption of noise. So what's this whole thing with caring about how or what not the baby comes out or is even put in there to begin with? Sheesh, that MIL has got her own place to be in and if she doesn't stay in it than she might come across someone who will put her in a 'different' place (Edit:) Both me and my brother where C-Section babies and nothing is wrong with us, or at least nothing that wouldn't have come 'naturally' in the first place, and if we wheren't C-Section than either my brother would have killed my mum or I would have when I came some years later after my brother and last time I knew of my mum doesn't have a scar from having either of us(much to both of our dissapointment, scars are cool and mum likes them too). FYI this MIL is plainly stupid about doctors, sure there might be a few(very little) that are like that but there are plenty more that arent. (Edit 2:) So, Mum's scars are still there and haven't fully faded yet, if anything mum actually highlighted them with both my brother's and my name and birthdate under them. Point being scars no matter the source are cool and some people like the MIL are stupid, and scars from a baby are even more cool because it's a whole different kind of strength to bring a baby into existance.

[@ashleykoivisto8138]

If a mother to be is having a c section, there's a good reason for that.

[@amandahugenkiss2310]

Nobody gets cut up like that for jollies

[@artisticangel5795]

(I’m not a doctor or possess any medical knowledge… 😅) Becky doesn’t have any say on whether or not her dil should give birth naturally or have a c-section that’s something far beyond their control. I mean it’s not like she doesn’t want to give birth naturally, this is one of those situations where plans have changed, and a c-section is needed in order for both mother and baby to survive.

[@matthewbrowatzke6024]

I would not know what it's like to give birth

[@NadoriKaija]

See, most people who are against C-section aren't against ALL C-sections. At least, not all of them. Most are only against elective C-section when there's no issues preventing natural. I'm not one of those. I mean I do have my preferences but I don't make a tiff if others don't follow it. Especially about this. I had one natural and one C-section. Love them both equally

[@SirenPandaSabo]

MiL: Doctors want your money for a C-section. OP: Doctors want your money for your knees. Me: The MiL was certainly not the bees knees :p Welcome to my Roasts, where I roast the heck out of the Antagonists 😈

[@blix_xo]

Only person it matters to is the one popping the kid out, secondly is the spouse. Everyone else can sit on the sidelines. The whole "when I.." stop. You may not have had difficulty, but another woman could. Every woman is different. My mom was unable to give birth naturally due to a small pelvic bone, my uncle had the balls to tell her she's not a real woman for not having a natural birth like his ex wife did and she smacked him hard below telling him he's not a real man with one testicle. 😂 I always loved hearing that memory.

[@suegreco9452]

What on earth was she talking about that she told all her friends that her DIL was going to have a natural childbirth. Why on earth should that matter to her friends? Why should she be embarrassed now that her daughter-in-law had to have a cesarean section? I’m sure her friends and neighbors really didn’t care how her daughter-in-law gave birth.

[@ginathehousemouse3770]

Uk here ,always call for the ambulance here and it’s free

[@mariterrones3716]

I truly wonder if these mil's from the stories actually had it as rough as they say or if they are projecting their I am the queen of all I survey so you my peon husband bring me my tea and crackers. Clean the house, wash my clothes and bring me my remote as I want to watch QVC and do a little shopping.

[@suzanneleonard5485]

My daughter in law had 4 cesarean s. She wanted to try VBAC but it wasn't an option since her first was an emergency. c section.

[@chibipeach1981]

I was in natural labor for most of a day until I threatened to womp my head and Knock myself out...then they finally did it..later they admitted they should have done it from the start but thought since i did it once i could again

[@rolfsinkgraven]

Mothers in law are not the Law are they lol.

[@tracydimond3759]

I had 2 false alarms with my 1st baby, then the day before my last doc visit i felt like someone was playing "make a wish" with my legs. I got to my appt. that monday morning (baby was due on wednesday) and doc checked me, saying you're at 3 cm go to the hospital now. I went, they took me to a side room because all the labor rooms were full. I was 4 cm. They had me walk next door and in comes the doc, 2 residents, 2 nurses and the doc who gave me a epidural. They checked, i was at 5cm. Everybody left for a bit, then doc popped my bag of waters. My boyfriend was nervously bouncing his leg making the bed shake. I said i gotta push! Nurse came running, saying not yet. Bf started turning green. I told him go sit down and take slow deep breaths. Nurse said you're awful calm right now. I said better he puke over there than on me. The herd of staff showed up and out popped a 8 lb 6 1/2 oz baby boy looking like he'd been covered with crisco. 😊

[@aimbertlovesherbabies8278]

Oh read a book Becky! Not all pregnancies are the same. Geez lady get a grip. 😅 p.s. as for your joints. Stop rolling them so tightly! 😂

[@cathyvickers9063]

Do the writers of this video A) not know about cold cuts, potato salad, macaroni salad., etc, that's meant to be eaten cold; & B) medical insurance? MIL's accent sounds so snooty high class that sh certainly my have medical insurance!

[@mleighqs]

Yeah so, when a life is hanging in the balance the doctor is lying, but when your joints hurt that stuff is no joke and surgery is the only option lol. Yeah, she sounds like a typical Karen to me.

[@LoveOnTheInsidex3]

Like she said she was giving her a taste of her own medicine.

[@mariterrones3716]

Unless the mil is an OB-gyn, a mid wife or at the very least conversant on the particulars of what is going on with the birthing process the person is going through before she can put her two cents into something she j.g as no knowledge of or is relying on old wives tales or qanon rabbit hole beliefs.

[@dragonguardianqueen]

Where is the MIL getting her info from about a C section anyway? C sections are important because it's safer than a natural birth so that way both mother and baby aren't in danger. My older sister had three C sections with her kids and they're doing well.

[@bernedettekuteyi3843]

Becky kindly mind your interferring business madam.

[@Overwatch2003]

Karma is a bitch

[@Lo-N-MaevesMommom]

I had twins and I had one natural and the other one 31/2 hours later via C-Section

[@zenobiaerasmusze]

Wow twins with 2 different birthdays! Hope they and you are all well x

[@shoshanaudelson4481]

🥺 WOW that's extreme!

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

Is that 3 and half hours or 31.2 hours?

[@Lo-N-MaevesMommom]

@@dragonfliesnh4204 3 and a half

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

@@Lo-N-MaevesMommom I had a feeling that's what you meant but I wasn't 100% sure. It looks like the other commenters thought you meant 31 hours especially the one that said they had two different birthday

[@amberleeannalee1999]

I bet psycho grandma was taking horse dewormer during the pandemic. Too bad it wasn’t the fish tank version.

[@cyndicook7755]

They make a apple cinnamon dewormer I'm sure she'd love.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Grandma Karen is a Fox News viewer 💯

[@evelynberrios8164]

😂😂😂😂