As per some viewers’ request, I share a few practical ways to deal with rude behaviors of ….

[@ShanShan-Show]

Sorry, there was a slip of tongue near the end. It’s Alipay, not Alibuy.

[@BlueDoes]

It’s okay, we all make mistakes sometimes!

[@TheDamascenoFamily]

It's okay. It happens to all of us haha

[@pok1pok]

Haha, too long away from China....

[@DMSProduktions]

It's a scam anyway!

[@cm-yu6gu]

I thought you were trying to say alibi

[@BaoKimshi]

Protect this lady at all costs.

[@AlfredChan-gr4kr]

She has my sword.

[@sadbuttrueinthe21stcentury36]

I get my blood drawn once a month at a local lab as I have MBC (metastatic breast cancer). I was at the counter when a Chinese woman (whose elderly mother was getting testing) interrupted, demanding she was “next”. The lobotomist told her she was checked in, she would be next and to sit down. She sat back down but came back 5 min later, very rude, very loud, saying she was before me. I married into a mainland family, so now I stepped in. “It is not wise to yell at the people who will be sticking a needle in your mother’s arm” “This is none of your business, I am next!” “This is not a deli - things don’t work like that around here - Stop being so rude!” “You are rude! This is none of your business” “It is my business because he is trying to check me in, and he told you to sit back down and YOU are the rudest person I’ve ever met”. We ignored her after that and her mother did not understand. I could see her trying to explain and it was like no one had ever told her she was rude. She actually looked shook. I was shocked at that. How did she not think she was rude? I will always defend my lab people because of the tremendous abuse they get, sometimes daily. I know people are scared, worried, hate needles, but if you have problems with paperwork from your dr, that is your dr.’s fault, not these people. And everybody who is there, including me, with terminal cancer, is worried. So, no, you don’t get to scream like a toddler because it’s happening to YOU. These guys probably don’t make much more than min wage and you’re yelling at them? GTFO

[@samdc-usa2745]

I was in Thailand terminal sitting very quiet reading a book , then the Chinese tour leader stood on the chair and started to talk so loud to her tour group , so I did stood up on chair and started talking so load to my wife , so loud , till she stooped

[@DRthistle]

Love it! That's an excellent non confrontational way to handle things - just hold up a mirror. 😄

[@mattdavis9642]

It may hurt people’s feelings, but the truth is the truth. If they don’t like it, they need to change, not get mad.

[@ScottNgSK]

I am with you. I am Malaysian Chinese and I have witnessed such poor behaviour when traveling. They are uncultured bunch of people and I was embarrassed . Thanks for speaking up.😅

[@zabavnaya-xt8tb]

Thank you for standing up for justice and supporting your friend against bullying 🙏

[@danal.837]

You are a good human Shan, never stop being you!

[@ShanShan-Show]

Thank you!

[@ThreeFingerG]

It's a damn shame Mao broke an entire people like this.

[@wombatkins]

He was an overreaction to an overreaction to an overreaction. The Opium Wars really screwed up China

[@DRthistle]

@@ThreeFingerG Not sure I’d blame that all on Mao .. any culture that would pollute a whole river to save 10 cents is pretty low in my estimation.

[@ThreeFingerG]

@@DRthistle Cultures come from somewhere bud

[@jacksonesq9992]

Mao was first a result of Chinese badness before he was a further cause of it.

[@Averagebum21]

It shows the dangers of dictatorial rule. The brainwashed are never aware they are brainwashed; they will claim those who are free are brainwashed.

[@mleys3248]

Rude is the only language rude people understand. Don't hesitate to be rude to those who are rude.

[@majorlazor5058]

I recently was on a cruise ship with a large Chinese tourist group. The buffet situation was madness. Cutting, reaching around, and pushing. I told my fiancé they created a monster, because by the end of the cruise I just did the same as them.

[@smalltrader5684]

As an Overseas Chinese (non Mainland Chinese), I am also appalled and ashamed by the inappropriate behaviors of some Mainland Chinese. First of all not all Mainland Chinese are rude, I have come across some great Mainland Chinese with good manners, friendly and well behaved and respectful. However, I have also seen the ugly side of some Mainland Chinese who are speaking loudly in public places, jump queue, demanding preferential treatment and be a bully to other people. I often wonder what happen to a great race with a 5000 years of history and culture ...

[@chowfurnowmeow]

Hi this happened today. I clean at the hospital and as a rule, we cleaners always put up 'cleaning in progress' sign and move items around while cleaning. For a split second I went out of ths toliet to my trolley to get bleach and a Chinese nurse moved my sign and used the toliet that I am in the middle of cleaning. There is a free unused toliet right next to the one I am cleaning. So I knocked on the door until she came out. I confronted her, and she said the cleaning sign was in the incorrect position (it was not, I placed it in the middle of the door frame in front of the toliet seat).she said she will complain against me (meaning having me fired), I said "go ahead you knew I was cleaning and I am calling my boss." Meanwhile 6 ppl (doctors/nurses) watched the event unfold. 🙄 I am glad I embarrassed her she knew it was rude and tried to power trip me. I made sure her charge nurse know about this within minutes. And i called up the head office to report it. 🤬 I requested NOT to ever come back to her ward. Throughout the day, this nurse kept littering used bloody/wet tissues or packaging litter as a silent payback. Doesn't matter. I sweep it up as I go back to patient rooms to maintain the clean. Doesn't bother me but I felt sorry for the patients who have to live with her littering after I finished my shift. I am embarrassed to be 'Chinese' cuz ppl will just assume we are all the same, obnoxious, rude, and freeloaders.

[@AshaSelfsDemoFilms]

As you should have👍🏾 Don't let people treat you like a monolith. Respect begets respect and we need to continue to demonstrate and demand it. Especially now; the world is crazy and we need to see others who are respectful on an individual basis and pour our energy into each other.

[@scocassovegetus]

Some people are like this in Korea. My friend was living in Korea and somebody cut in line in front of her when she was next to the counter, she got angry and made a scene but the person behind the counter waved at her to be quiet and took care of the person who cut in line. Her Korean friend told her that next time, say nothing, just cross your arms and look at the person with disgust and shake your head, so she did that the next time and the person behind the counter saw this and sent the cutter to the back of the line. Different techniques for different cultures.

[@elizabethjackson2467]

We are elderly with mobility issues, at Phuket airport, Chinese had three rows of seats with bags and suitcases on them. There were only 3 women sitting there. I asked if they could move the bags so my husband and I could sit down. One woman at the front said no. There was a small group of men standing away from the seats. One came over and said that they needed the seats for everyone to sit. He could see that we were using walking sticks however told us to find other seats as these were theirs. I was shocked, there was no way that they needed all the seats however I didn’t want to create a drama as I thought that that security may have blamed me. We stood a little way along and no one sat in the seats besides the three woman. The Chinese would have been in their 30s, so not old. This has always shocked me and watching these videos has helped me understand, so thank you. Thankfully later on 2 western woman came and offered us their seats.

[@mypace5799]

Shan Shan you’re truly a Good person with Principles, Values, Morals and Respect 🙏🏽

[@ShanShan-Show]

Thank you !

[@alanrichards6963]

Your video is so accurate and honest. I wish more mainland Chinese would show more respect, decency and not be bullies.I wont be holding my breath though. Keep up the great videos Shan Shan, you articulate well. Love what you say

[@russberkman43]

Excellent viewpoint! Traveling in China during the 90's I never had any problems. Nor did I ever have any issues with Taiwanese. Teachers from China who were born prior to WWII always had excellent manners and were always respectful.

[@rositaberta4068]

Awful! I went with my visitors to the famous Steiner Grill in Zürich to let them try authentic Swiss Sausages served with Mütschli, a hard crust bun. 2 Chinese women in front of me, touched and squeezed each bread , maybe to look for softer crust. I cannot avoid not to open my mouth, and told her in Mandarin, not to do this, this is strictly not allowed in Switzerland. She answered back, but I want to buy . Just pick one and get what you touched. People behind me were relieved and thank me for confronting with them.

[@MrNiceguyjin]

If speaking up is all it takes, I’ll definitely do that more often. They certainly don’t respond to dirty looks. 😂

[@ShanShan-Show]

Yes, speak up, it’s definitely more effective than just giving dirty looks 😂

[@lazygardens]

Speaking firmly in your preferred language - it's hard to not know the English word for "No" and a gesture pointing to where they need to be.

[@philipwong5858]

I LOVE your channel. I am from Hong Kong but live in the US for many years. I had seen how these mainland Chinese behave. Thank you for telling the truth.

[@sue.F]

Also in New Zealand a Chinese tour group attended the free Christmas lunch intended for the city’s poor and homeless.

[@majorlazor5058]

Damn

[@hrs.ai2018]

Should questions to the tour guide who brought a group of tourists to there at the first place

[@malapertfourohfour2112]

Demanding better behavior from one's own countrymen is definitely a greater display of civic pride than demanding everyone else's deference 💪

[@myonghunt8076]

Thank you for your practical recommendations. I love your videos and you are helping so many people. I have a friend who is Chinese. I enjoy hanging out with her but she is very loud when she is talking. One day, we were riding in her car to a hiking trail. She was so loud that I had headaches from it. When I told her to lower her voice volume, said " I always talk loudly." She also told me that her teenage daughter told her that she is yelling at her all the time. I can see why her daughter feels that way. My Chinese friend has been talking much differently since the incident and she is more aware. 😊

[@Hay8137g]

Same as Latin and blk people

[@nfuryboss]

Talking loudly and yelling is tactical to suppress your opponent and get what you want. This is also seen in animals' mimicry to be bigger and look more dangerous when facing opponents. Guess humans are not that different.

[@miriamtiuseco2nd]

I cant blame the Chinese for talking loudly. U see, when everyone in a chinese resto talks, u cant be heard if u talk softly. And that goes on until it becomes a habit. At least, talk to someone about it so he/she would be more aware of their voice volume next time they open their mouths.

[@eightballjamal]

For a culture that values saving face so much, it surprised me at first that mainlanders would engage in such behavior to begin with. But after visiting China last year, I saw that it was the norm there. They treat each other that way. So when they travel outside China, they act like they do at home. That's why Shan's recommendations work. Mainland Chinese are not evil, they just need to be educated on etiquette abroad. Hopefully, it'll catch on to eventually change the culture and foster respect on the world stage that they crave so much.

[@zeethree7395]

Wow, I dated a American Chinese woman and her friends and family often complained that mainland Chinese are rude and cut in line. So I'm not surprised she made this presentation.

[@Goldenka]

I am from Europe, and recently I visited Beijing. I noticed how people, especially in a crowded areas like subway, do not care about others. They overtook me many times near the gates or while getting on the car. Getting off the subway was similar - nobody moved, nobody cared. I guess that's the standard there and I just got played by my own manners, especially because I am from the country where personal space is important and people tend to acknowledge their surrounding.

[@AAaa-wu3el]

In Japan people are packed by force to the train coaches disregarding their love of hate of their personal space or pride.

[@peterlai9018]

East Asia is a very competitive and population dense area.

[@mataharih]

I live near annoying mainland Chinese tenants in an apartment and they are constantly making noise and slamming doors (have endured it after a year and have complained to management several times). After viewing this video, it seems like confronting them directly works better than going to the management. I will try it the next time they make noise.

[@lotuslou5233]

Can you do a video on why the social culture between mainland China and Taiwan is so different? They don’t litter, spit, have bad manners or cut in lines or yell in Taiwan.

[@DRthistle]

My friend was flying to Mongolia from New York. He booked a flight on Air China to Beijing. I said there must be another way!? He later confirmed my fears of rudeness, endless snacking, rustling in bags, talking, coughing etc.

[@AAaa-wu3el]

You describe New-York, by the way. Human excrements, dirt, litter everywhere, dranks, thieves and so on.

[@NafeKafafe]

@@AAaa-wu3el Both things can be true 😅

[@isabellet731]

The concept of "saving face" and "shaming face" is well known as part of the Chinese government in the West but it was useful to know that it also applies to individuals.

[@Ummo2850]

Thank you for your genuinely thoughtful and factual discussions and sharing. Much appreciated.

[@susanhanstock6879]

From what I see of these videos, it shows a country that is brought up to believe that narcissism is the highest form of culture.

[@BeasleyStreet]

You are an overload of wisdom, something aquired by the few...I cannot tell you how much I'm impressed with your argument and logic...🙂

[@ShanShan-Show]

Hahah, Thank you !

[@arthurmiller9434]

Your segments are very information considering that more and more mainland Chinese are relocating elsewhere. I am an American living in Thailand, the increased presence of mainland Chinese here is a bit shocking. I have had several uncomfortable encounters with them, but your segments help me understand. I am so appreciative of my Western upbringing that encourages politeness, manners and civility. These are learned traits…anyone can acquire them…they open many doors and promote goodwill!

[@TwoCentsOnTour]

Yeah I think most of these are common sense and just apply to anyone is who being rude/inappropriate/selfish etc. It's best to call them out on it. But a lot of time, people won't do it (including me sometimes). I feel like here in NZ - we largely want to avoid social conflict. However, my mum's generation - the ones who often get called "Karens" - who are most likely to call this kind of thing out. For example, at the supermarket "12 items or less" checkout - most people won't say anything if someone rocks up with a trolley full of stuff. But my mum will. I've seen a few other women her age do it to in similar situations.

[@dogoku]

I remember being in HK and waiting in line for the cable car to the summit. There was this elderly Chinese woman that literally sprinted to get a sit as soon the doors opened. I asked my HK friend and he said that most likely she is a mainland Chinese tourist. This was the strangest behaviour. What kind of society was she living in, for her to think that she has to act that way? Would no one had given up their sit for her? How cut-throat is mainland China society that an elderly woman needs to sprint for a sit on public transport?

[@jimbolic0809]

Hi there, from Hong Kong. I feel your frustration. Unfortunately, even local HKers will sprint into the MTR trains to ensure they get a seat. Even worse, they'll immediately look down at their phones to avoid giving it up for those in need around them.

[@DMSProduktions]

SEAT!

[@dogoku]

@@DMSProduktions I'm not a native speaker, but I do pride myself in having a decent grasp of the English language. I must admit you caught me off-guard.

[@BobDeGuerre]

RUDE!

[@DMSProduktions]

@@dogoku Ok, nw, sorry wasn't having a go, I'd thought you were prob a NESBer. Sit, verb, seat, noun.

[@Hamsterlovers408]

Thanks for your honest sharing. You are simply amazing person with great humanity.

[@theFizzyOne-01]

I usually get frozen up in stressful situations like that, so I can't really speak up without stuttering a lot, unfortunately.

[@kavousniamir2375]

Me too. But, I'd still go ahead and do it😊

[@rarellanbrasil]

In Rome I was in a queue to enter St Peter's Basilica and two Chinese ladies behind me kept pushing me and using their umbrella's to pick me. Besides they had bougth fancy costly clothes in Rome and they has the price tags still hanging so everyone could see how much they paid for the clothes... is that normal for mainland Chinese?

[@Tekhelet75]

yes, they like to show off.

[@JL-yt5hy]

To be polite-the common impact of not understanding etiquette is exclusion from people, places, and opportunities expecting those social graces and etiquette found lacking. Worse, they will be abused, ridiculed, bunched in the face. Spitting could also get them arrested in some places.

[@lazygardens]

In Malaysia, spitting gets you caned!

[@artistuk9590]

I recently saw two mainland Chinese young women cut in line at a local Tesco supermarket that I was waiting in. I called them out, saying the woman behind you is next, not you. They acted like they didn't understand me and stayed there, and were served shortly after. Of course I was fuming. And the elderly English lady who they cut off commented on people's bad manners in an apologetic polite way. My real shock was the counter staff was right there and did not say anything! The Chinese cut in to the 2nd in line spot, so the clerk saw it all, but chose to keep silent. It's hard to speak out if nobody backs you up. Maybe in the UK it's not a good idea to speak out at all......... Grrrrr!!!

[@charzemc]

Clerks get fired for intervening, only the general public can effect that change.

[@LawpickingLocksmith]

Well, travelling mainland China even the most careful obedient traveller will learn. So I buy a bus ticket for the locals. They don't like tourists to get the low local fee. But I insist. Then they tell me no toilet on bus so use the station one and it was free for travellers. But the entrance has a money collector who demands money and refuses to look at my ticket. Of course they have no change and refuse to even consider giving me change. Lucky I have time and some nice business person looks at my ticket and scolds the rude lady at the entrance. Going down stairs with me the business person tells me to complain to the station master. And he is actually upset on how I was treated. So he asks me not to pee into the urinal and we both peed on the floor to give that rude lady at the entrance a lesson. But it did not end up there. The bus got stopped to avoid "blind" passengers, everybody got counted. On next corner the driver stops to let extra illegal cash payers on board. He even sells my bed and suddenly some lady wants it to share with me! Since she spoke no English it made for some hilarious situation with passengers protesting ringing the bus company.

[@leefrankel4191]

All of these examples, and your responses to them, remind me of a saying of Hillel the Elder, one of the greatest Jewish sages: “Do not do to others that which is hateful to yourself”. Many people are actually unaware of how their behavior looks and feels to other people. You do them a favor when you reflect back to them how rude and selfish their actions are. I myself don’t always have the courage to speak up.

[@Expatriate_1972]

Drivers in China undergo a comprehensive 4 stage examination process to qualify for a driving license. The passing score for the theory test was 90%. This implies that Chinese people should be the most educated drivers on the road and some of the safest. My experience is the polar opposite. Road signs, surface markings and road rules are theoretical suggestions in China. Drivers race on crowded roads like they want to get to the next life first. Benz drivers just stop in the middle of a four-lane road, don't even switch on their hazard lights to talk on the phone

[@cm-yu6gu]

Actually germany is the hardest place in the world to obtain a drivers license, but unlike the chinese they do actually obey traffic rules very well

[@RatinanLee]

And imagine I face this bully all the time in Singapore. And I dare say, this kind of behavior is NOT MAINLAND CHINA only. It’s shared across the region. This kind of people exists in Thailand and Singapore, too. The only difference is the better education… the education that China lacks.

[@byWingYee]

I cannot help but laugh at all the real life examples you shared. But also applaud you for being so honest and truthful explaining how we can deal with such rude behaviors. Love your videos!~ =)

[@Anton43218]

I am from eastern europe and see that this undesirable behaviour is a thing here too even before communism was a thing. If you told anyone to not do something or scold them they would just get violent as has happened to me. Unless you bribe the police, the police will even fine you 1-2 monthly minimum wages for wasting their time. However if they go to the police, as they are many, they will be able to access their services.

[@nigelfoongjl]

This reminds me that I spoke out to the Chinese tourists not to shout across Notre dame Cathedral square in Paris. The others were looking at me as an Asian (but I'm from Malaysia), gave me the disgusted expression to do something. I had to take action as I felt ashamed by the image portrayed by the East.

[@Summerrain6624]

We’re southeast Asian Chinese living in North America, my husband gets really angry when he encounters Chinese behaving poorly and he calls them out on it, I however unless it was directed at me prefer not to bring my blood pressure by giving them the time of day

[@lynlyncc]

My younger brother’s wife is from Shenyang. She’s a hypocritical gold digger and very rude. I totally have nothing to do with her but unfortunately my daft mother is living in denial

[@FrankCastleTIG]

hehe, I'm learning Mandarin rn, and I noticed at 8:22 you almost said "why do I need to learn Zhōngwén" but caught yourself and said Chinese! I do the same the other way around. 🤣 Great channel, I'm sure it will grow quickly!

[@ShanShan-Show]

Hahah, thank you, some viewers have suggested some interesting topics, I am working on it, will upload soon. ☺️

[@monicali2608]

That how people in Cologne Germany intregrte foreigners: they speak out and tell them the rules.

[@bf-696]

With the 2am bully, you were very polite.

[@Greyson7927]

Thank you for your suggestions in how to deal with rude Chinese people.

[@janecenufer9097]

You are a true gem! Thank you for making the world a better place!

[@JensenChua2118]

Such a refreshing post from a China Chinese for once. In all trips abroad, whenever I see PRCs, my holiday fun is over (more often than not). I have seen unschooled and uncouth behaviour from other tourists before, but PRCs take the cake in this respect. I can only hope for a better travel environment w/o them.

[@georgecavendish1504]

Thank you for spreading the word, cannot be playing a blind eye on this subject. It is holding Chinese society behind.

[@jassewalton1768]

Im in Cairns, Australia. Cathay Pacific has just started flying here from Hong Kong again - first time since Covid. And yes, this awful behavioyr has returned 🙄. At least now i've got a few ways to address the problem...

[@Nordic_Sky]

"You are giving your people a bad name." If I said that, I would be accused of racism in about 1 second flat.

[@ShanShan-Show]

😢

[@Nordic_Sky]

@@ShanShan-Show It's very unfair, but that's the way things are nowadays. Sigh.

[@ShanShan-Show]

Yes, that’s why I decided to start discussing these issues. Everybody’s feeling needs to be validated and protected.

[@SatoriKenshou]

Thank you. My husband's parents are Mainland Chinese, I get so annoyed when they spit in our guest bathroom sink. Other people are using that sink, you know! You are not the only people using that bathroom. I have tried telling my husband to let them know it's very rude, but he says, "They're set in their ways"... Like, okay? Change can happen today. I welcome people from around the world, but it's not hard to be respectful.

[@hewie2u]

I recently had a experience with a Chinese man in a Asian Supermarket. Fortunately I know the correct words in Chinese to say. I spoke to him and he was lest trying to save face I felt good.

[@dtadeo2006]

i live in hk, yes this is how it's done. you need to stand your ground + argue with logic

[@nymarshall]

How about food smacking, chewing with mouth open or gum chewing in public?

[@peterlai9018]

Thousand of years of eating habit.

[@islandbreeze2102]

Bravo dear lady for standing up and telling it like it is! More and more Chinese are traveling the world and we need to understand their behavior and how to deal with them. You are our Chinese Culture instructor! Thank you!

[@ShanShan-Show]

I am glad that I can be helpful ☺️

[@gracebock2900]

Dear Shan Shan, I can feel your frustration with the people who misbehave and I sympathise. I did experience some milder wrong daring behaviour myself. My parents left China in the 1940s. My siblings n I grew up with strict instructions..NOT to speak bad words ( heard everyday from the labourers around my house), NOT to go sit at mahjong/card tables n learn to gamble, and NOT to take Anything that belongs to other people N we were very poor. Mum had 4 young children to raise after my father passed away when my mum was just in her late 20s. She had to go out n work as a house help but she kept us under control with her " remote control"😉🥰

[@ShanShan-Show]

Wow ! 👍👍👍

[@tsf637]

I completely agree with you and I think you tell it like it is very respectfully and politely!

[@justavideodiary]

Genuine question, are Chinese people aware of their poor behaviour and how it clashes with so many other people? Do they just not care or do they truly not know?

[@idlebee]

The 10 years of Cultural Revolution (c. 1966) was a race to the bottom for the Chinese culture. It rejected everything of culture and manners, and promoted the uncouth. We are thus experiencing the outcome of that generation.

[@lewjames6688]

Those who pushed the Culteral Revolution got their way. I find this kind of behavior quite common amongst many people from communist countries.

[@andreandree4384]

"you are a bully"!! That was a good one there😅😅😅. I love the way you describe the behaviour of mainland chinese abroad; it's soooo accurate and sad at the same time😢.. Actually one can see mainlanders mile away, just look at the way they talk, move, walk, behave; can't be mistaken with Japanese or Singaporean for instance 😂😂😂😂😂

[@billscott71]

Thank you so much ;) 😅 you help me so much … great job …. I love when you say that you will be disliked by I billion Chinese ;) …

[@DMSProduktions]

a badge of honour I would expect!

[@TrangNguyen-vc3yk]

You are 💯 percent CORRECT!!! Call out their bad behaviors!!!

[@zabavnaya-xt8tb]

Also it applies to every race, bullying shouldn't be allowed anywhere. Thanks for the video 🙏

[@Damian1975]

Don’t worry. I’m Australian. Most Aussies will say it. We will correct that behavior quick smart

[@iof1]

I wish more would integrate these Chinese in Australia. It’s about respecting our culture

[@whitebirdart1696]

Exactly. I was in Japan a couple of months ago and you bet I spoke out when required. Though in one instance the guy I was telling off (he was standing in the middle of the road to take a photo at Fujiyoshida, in the middle of traffic), quickly moved up the road to avoid me and then did it again...incredibly frustrating.

[@katonk9401]

You’re correct, it seems that mainland Chinese do not believe in airplane deboarding by rows.

[@MK-cc5ve]

I have a problem with family members allowing/enabling bad behaviour, making the public parent their misbehaving family member. Allowing anyone to spray snot in the shared sink is sooo disgusting. This should have been stopped when it first happened, period. How is this tolerated? That would have been an instant divorce.

[@ashlid5653]

i believe you gotta talk to people the way they're used to communicating. talk to rude people in a rude way🤷‍♀️

[@jacobheinz8236]

Honestly I avoid them frankly.

[@glt-e3n]

The rudeness sounds like they think they are better than everyone else. Like a special people, or something. Racism??

[@chrischreative2245]

Yes

[@wilhelmvonn9619]

Until recently the official position was that the Chinese had evolved separately from other people. This seems to have been abandoned now but it says something about Chinese culture.

[@TheSpringClover]

Worst, communism.

[@ghostlyimageoffear6210]

​@@TheSpringCloverBut what about other communists? Are their manners and behavior as bad?

[@TheSpringClover]

@ No. But the trauma inflicted upon the Chinese population from Communist leaders warped their behavior into what you see today. I would recommend reading this book written by a Chinese journalist called “Tombstone: The Great Chinese Famine, 1958-1962” it’s very horrific and hard to grasp the absence of humanity during that time. Also the Communist leaders encouraged children to snitch on their parents as loyalty to the government. This ruined all sorts of social trusts and cohesion. Everyone becomes an enemy.

[@miriamtiuseco2nd]

Most of them are not aware they talk like that. It's good someone tells them about it. They dont intend to offend people. I think those who are uneducated are the rude ones.

[@terrysnarfblatpiper7588]

Enjoying your videos. 😊 Would love to see a video on Asian’s behavior at the Cosco stores.

[@krollpeter]

Real world examples., indeed! Greetings from Singapore

[@glynnmoat5165]

Another great video on how to overcome cultural differences. I liked how you made the post doc call feel smart to get her to listen. Is that a class thing in China? Regardless if degrees/ certificates manners are free. Can you do a video on the class system for mainland China? Here in Australia, it is irrelevant as everyone should have manners regardless of class.

[@DMSProduktions]

China has NO 'classes'! Communist remember????

[@SpamMusubi1226]

In other words, treat them like you’re raising your two- year old children. If my young child did something rude or inconsiderate, I would correct or teach him on the spot. Too bad their parents didn’t teach them better.

[@katowisniewski2635]

I love this girl. I lived in south CA and have seen plenty of rude Chinese people.

[@juan-HiFi]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts making great ❤❤❤content. We have to build a better society 🙏

[@ShanShan-Show]

Absolutely!

[@EddyWoon]

Preamble context: I was on a tour bus where the tour guide was kindly telling us all about the city when a Chinese man sitting immediately in front of me was busy loudly criticizing about that city/country in his rather loud voice in Mandarin. He was so loud that I was struggling to hear the tour guide. I had enough of him and said "Is that so?" in Mandarin and he had turned around to see who was listening to his ramble; he was shocked and embarrassed... and proceeded to shut up. As we alighted from the bus, I told the tour guide what was happening before and she laughed.

[@jm7578]

When I lived in China in 1991 they were the most polite thoughtful human beings I’ve ever met when I returned into 2000s. I noticed there was a huge cultural change and I felt really sad about it because I was wondering what was the impetus for this change, I don’t know if things can go back to the way they were one thing is for sure changes the one thing that will continue on as long as we exist, hoping for a better one.

[@Soph18]

you provide very practical advice to counter undesirable behavior acted out by anyone. Toddlers, grown men and women. Thank you!

[@zhaojian]

谢谢你的分享，我在国内被插队就是这样讲出来的，我现在更有勇气了。

[@athitayastirling8259]

😂😂😂 Bravo, you knocked it out the ball park again with this one. Please talk about Little Emperor syndrome 😂😂😂 i wonder how many of your viewers are aware of that.

[@turboredcart]

Some good points. I love your candid talk. You speak common sense.

[@Legomanfred]

Sometimes "the truth hurts"! Great video. As a society, we are responsible to each other. 👍

[@thomasma8924]

I knew some Chinese in Australia, but they were all really polite and behaved well. They were students and post grads. I think that there are rude people in every nation. I agree that Asian people are afraid of losing face, good point. Some people spit in Europe too, but not inside a building.

[@aypy0310]

When I lived in Hong Kong for a couple of years about 13-14 years ago, I was just minding my own business walking into a quiet shopping mall at a quiet time of the day. Three older mainland Chinese ladies were just behind me, also walking into the shopping mall. One walked into the mall and pushed me across the shoulder, the second lady pushed me on the same shoulder immediately after and I had already lost a bit of balance by then. The third lady followed, did the same thing as the other two and I fell onto the ground. Not only did they not look back or show any remorse, they just stood still and continued to talk loudly not far away from the entrance. I just gave them a dirty look. I was younger and less outspoken but if something like this happened again, I would not be afraid to speak up for sure!

[@mercurious6699]

God bless you for helping your friend

[@orianavhayes1086]

The problem is that they don’t speak English so when you speak up they ignore you if you’re not a Chinese speaker!

[@bubbalo3388]

Please make a video calling out these bad behaviors and post it into Chinese social media. A long time ago I saw something about a Chinese lady who started a teaching class in China to teach the new upcoming rich people manners and how to properly behave. Said something like these people were rich but acted like they had no class by being rude, spitting and also the things you mentioned. I will say though not just the mainland Chinese act this way as I have seen others from other countries act just as rude. And not mainland Chinese act this way, but enough of them do of which they give the rest a bad name.

[@theeyes-fx6ld]

i love your advices ❤

[@DMSProduktions]

Darling, you are 100% RIGHT!

[@nth2tell]

This is the video that I need. Thank you!

[@ShanShan-Show]

You're welcome, I hope it's helpful !