Ashley's Long Distance Boyfriend Turns Out to Be a Sociopath

[@JulieHannah-lg7fy]

I like how the narrator pointed out how he only was abusive to women and not men bc he woulda got his butt whipped. If he could abuse his own mum, you know he's a monster. Poor Ashley didn't have a clue what she was walking into. How awful. Rip Ashley

[@ComettableMabel]

Big fat bully and it goes on still 😢

[@informanti]

Absolute loser he was..

[@DocDoMuch]

I believe the correct term is bitchmade

[@sarahlogan942]

Most abusers are that way in my experience

[@hopinondeeznuts350]

And her parents are responsible

[@ChicaG-vg7pj]

If you're being abused, please, please, please call the crisis line in your area. You need help and resources to leave safely. Remember that these animals don't think like you do and don't have the same boundaries as normal people. Stay safe out there.

[@TJ-bn2cn]

But Ashley was in a different country and being controlled, was probably terrified and didn’t know how to get help. 😢

[@LordOfThePancakes]

You’re not being “abused.” You should stop stirring up trouble and will only escalate the situation by getting authorities involved. Handle your own problems like an adult.

[@yozmesergiu]

im abused by my own thoughts :(

[@cnhamilton1982]

@@LordOfThePancakesI suggest you keep your mouth shut! You have zero business saying garbage like this!

[@staceycraft3514]

@@LordOfThePancakes You've obviously never been abused. If you're trying to say that if you're not being abused don't involve the police I agree. If you're saying to handle your own life like an adult and don't involve the police if you're being abused, you need a wake up call on your way of thinking.

[@hopelesslyinquisitive9839]

I get it. Different strokes for different folks. But oftentimes you actually CAN judge a book by it’s cover.

[@207BLCKBER]

A cover is literally an illustration representing the very book in which it covers. So I agree 100%. The cover is definitely a visual to what's inside the book. There is no way around it.

[@alfredwilson4224]

vile vile vile

[@alfredwilson4224]

al teetch him a lesson or three ❤❤

[@jxn1056]

Right?! He has douche bag written across his face! Sometimes you can just tell...even via photo.

[@michellegallia9361]

Agreed… this one definitely has Manson Lamps 👀😳🙈

[@joebrito3192]

Dude looks like the sloth from ice age

[@jxn1056]

😂😂😂

[@daviddaddy]

Haha because his eyes are a mile apart lol

[@danielburgstrom7489]

I think he is related to BEAVO.

[@Ainaes-Feline]

Hey, I happen to like Sid, he was nothing like this filth. More like Quasimodo btw. Apart from the hunchback. But same frog face with bulging eyes that don't seem to line up properly.

[@JustBreatheOkay]

On point 😂😂😂

[@pearlian2091]

This just kept getting sadder and sadder. Makes my heart really ache. She must have been so scared and isolated and confused. Every little part just kept getting worse. She dismissed a lot of red flags because she didn't know and she was young. Everyone must have been terrified. He actually looks like a fucking demon like he does not look human.

[@ClaireBidart64]

It is so sad... Kind souls are trusting and forgiving, and it is beautiful but unfortunately, horrible people like this man exist... I was thinking the same about his picture, he looks scary... He is no Human anyway, just a Monster..

[@haji818721]

I think she knew, I just think she thought she could save him. I mean, she knows he shouldn't be hitting her and that it was not acceptable. It just didn't apply to her situation.

[@SarahLovesBoobahandErEr]

Yeah! I said he looks like a monster!

[@eugeniaskelley5194]

Not in today's society. There is so much stuff out there on abuse that there is no way she didn't know. I just wish her parents had gone over there and just showed up at his house. She didn't have to go with him, but at least they could have tired. It is quite possible the moment she saw them she would have wanted to go.

[@Yes2fitness2]

Never give someone another chance after being abused. Listen to your intuition 😢. Shame 😕

[@MsShandy111]

Yes, poor woman, RIP 😢

[@Gabriellakittywitch]

When they show you who they really are, believe them the first time.

[@Keyboard_warri0or]

That girl was dumɓddassfg

[@tinawindham6958]

Killed a kitten? I’m out.

[@SheriParkhurst-wd5cj]

SAME HERE my God it’s so frustrating to hear that she didn’t want the police involved!! I almost couldn’t watch this bc I know she died.

[@Sncedayone]

You eat meat? Animals are animals

[@SheriParkhurst-wd5cj]

@@Sncedayone so you would have no problem eating a cat or dog? When I was younger my mom raised pigs with my stepdad who btw was an a hole! They made the mistake of naming them bc one day we were eating breakfast & he asked how Norman tasted! Couldn’t eat bacon ham etc for years after.

[@rbnzo25]

​@@SheriParkhurst-wd5cjthat's pretty sadistic. My grandfather did the same with my mom's beloved rabbit

[@caracalculator2237]

@@Sncedayoneboo hoo

[@Breanna2415]

Glad to hear police will try to do better. 8 previous instances where he was convicted of domestic violence (including against his OWN mother), yet he was allowed to walk the streets.. the system failed yet another young, beautiful, and intelligent soul.

[@narcdetester2102]

The system fails women at every turn

[@kunobuje542]

That the British justice system at its finest. They absolutely suck at investigation,and they always have

[@Derek-ve2wb]

Just women the system fails is it? 🤔

[@narcdetester2102]

​@@Derek-ve2wbMostly yes, check the statistics on domestic violence

[@jennifer60515]

@@Derek-ve2wbThis story is about domestic violence specifically against women. If you are being abused, get help. If you are just complaining, do it on a story about a male being abused. Don’t expect women not to comment on a criminal justice system that has treated us like property for most of the history of the world. You couldn’t possibly understand that.

[@grumpygremlin2379]

Why wasn't I surprised that this guy only had the balls to go after women?

[@QueenOfDump]

Such a coward

[@FEED_ME_A_STRAY_CAT]

It's always like that too! Smh

[@LordOfThePancakes]

It’s a woman’s duty to please her husband

[@veezopolis]

​@LordOfThePancakes what crack are you on

[@tenaciousduk6587]

When he gets out, he will still be a huge risk to women.

[@jordan1613]

Are you slow? He got life in prison

[@tenaciousduk6587]

@@jordan1613 hahahahahaha, are you mad? A life sentence in the uk starts at 15 years. You numpty.

[@MelindaW1000]

@@jordan1613 Firstly, rude. Secondly, in the UK, when prisoners get a life sentence, they can get parole after serving the minimum sentence (in this case, 23 years). So, he could well be released. In which case, he will absolutely still be a huge risk to women. It's only people who get a 'whole life sentence' that are never released. And there are only around 70 prisoners in the UK who have received this.

[@jadeamodio82]

@@jordan1613have you no class? Who calls someone slow? Also, do some research. A life sentence in the UK isn’t for his whole life, that’s a “whole life order”. So he will most likely get out.

[@Schrodingers_Kat]

@@jordan1613Idk him but you certainly sound like you are.

[@arbabe3389]

She told her family he hit her and they didn’t immediately board a plane and go get her? Mind boggling

[@jasonpauljones7295]

Exactly

[@marinewife03311]

Garbage parents

[@kouldbanyone4983]

Yes. I don’t understand why you would just sit back and hope for the best. I would have been on the first flight there. Her parents failed to prepare her for the world because they were failed adults themselves. It’s bizarre. It’s as if Ashley were a child and lacked common sense.

[@veezopolis]

So did you completely ignore that they couldn't get an earlier flight because covid?

[@MrRisingapple]

@@veezopolis Maybe you should pay better attention before "correcting" someone. The covid flight was about Ashley's flight back to Canada

[@sabrinastorey5748]

No one wanted to do a background check on this freak???

[@WindRipples-]

Her parents hold responsibility, not as much as this psycho, but still, this is crazy to let your daughter go meet somebody that looks like that! Hope he rots and torment in jail.

[@sabrinastorey5748]

@@WindRipples- completely agree

[@Da_Love74]

Right?!? My thoughts exactly. A simple check would have prevented everything.

[@POCKBA]

​@@Da_Love74In some countries you will not get a vack ground check on anyone unless if you are a police offiser. And even then is very strict and they can only do this when is about work not random people. I dont know how it is in the UK though. The parents could not stop her for travling she is an adult.

[@estherhelbig]

​@@WindRipples-She was a grown up,so her parents couldn't force her to stay at home with them.

[@JoelBulger]

I would have gotten a plan ticket and picked up my child.

[@loganhatch]

100000000% before the whole sentence came out that he hit her.

[@Cheskis24]

Right? If I sense my child's in danger, I would've been knocking at the door the next day.

[@Timmeh_The_tyrant]

200%

[@sarahr9894]

They did but they weren't legally allowed to board the plane until a COVID test was taken.

[@theresachristie7150]

*Plane ticket?!?

[@Cthulhuismyhero]

I moved to England to be with a boyfriend that I had met while he was in holiday in the states. We kept in contact and saw each other a couple more times before I actually moved there. So I felt like I knew him. We were head over heels in love but I didn't know anything about him or his past other than what he told me. It turned into a nightmare. Too much to go into detail but there was abuse and controlling behavior. I finally left after 6 months and ended up staying for a couple years. But it was very scary being in that situation, so far from home knowing no one. I could of disappeared and it would of been weeks or months before it would of been discovered. Very sad what happened this sweet girl. This should be tale to really know who you're dealing with.

[@malissakpadeh8951]

He even LOOKS crazy 😮😮

[@kouldbanyone4983]

Such unusual facial features are indicative of foetal alcohol syndrome. His mother probably drank too much while she was pregnant. There are precise features that give it way, eyes too far apart, flat midface, thin upper lip, a smooth Cupid’s bow, a small head which (makes the face look big), and a smooth nose bridge. These features vary from person to person and the entire face may not be fully impacted, but the face looks odd/unusual and you struggle for the right words to describe how a person like that looks because it’s not obvious like say Down’s syndrome, but instinctively still know there’s something odd about it. You just can’t pin point what it is. But after you’ve seen a lot of people with it you can pick it from a mile away.

[@johnnywalker4857]

If she's getting physically abused over and over and refuses to leave, go get her.

[@mikemcmike6427]

She kept going back and back and staying. Not making excuses if you are being abused leave. Jesus Christ

[@CuntNuggets]

It's not that easy.

[@sharkieshablm2640]

Her white privilege kept her ignorant to struggle. I learnt this in 8th grade art that white america was built from the ground up to only help white folk and us people ofncolor were meant to slave away and do all they work. My teacher proved to us that white privilege will always be the down fall to white folk. They born racist and lazy and only will educating them on they wicked racist ways will help better them as a person. I'm 17 and bc my black skin I have dealt with horrors that average whire folk will never dream of. We are lynched and enslaved daily Please donate to Black Lives Matter by phone or online. Be better. Do better #BLM

[@BeRightBack131]

Exactly right! If that had been my daughter, as soon as I started feeling something isn't right, such as her not contacting me as usual, I would have taken the earliest possible flight to go convince her to come home now. And I would NOT take no for an answer.

[@haji818721]

@@BeRightBack131 What, you would kidnap her? If she didn't want to go all you would be doing is ruining any relationship you had with her. Plus the fact that not everyone can just afford to take the next flight to England on a whim. Sounds like you are blaming the mom, which is sad.

[@WhereTheBeaversLive]

I live 20 minutes away from Vernon, Ashley’s hometown. My heart just tore open when I heard the news. I met my hubby online in 1996, and I got very lucky and have been married 27 years now. I wish Ashley had the chance to achieve every dream she had. Also, am I correct in that she was 19 and had been talking online with an older guy for TEN years? Since she was NINE!?!?

[@sharie9331]

According to the video she was 11 or 12 and he was 4 years her senior (15 or 16) 1:09

[@chronicmelancholic]

My parents too met online back in 1998/1999. Have been married for over 20 years now. They really are a match made in heaven

[@WhereTheBeaversLive]

@@chronicmelancholicwhen it’s good, it can be really great, but when it’s bad, yikes. It definitely requires extra care and reservation.

[@Suicidemoon220]

Lol @ your name

[@starlingswallow]

Ashley was the unfortunate victim of Limerence 😢 as well as falling for a psycho's mirroring of her, which psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists use to get you to fall in love with them, but it's pretty much you falling in love with _yourself._ I went through this with my first husband. It's very strange and twists up your brain...then you spend the rest of the relationship trying to get them back to "the person I met in the beginning." But that person in the beginning was never actually real! They don't exist! It was all a farce in order to trap you within the abuse cycle. RIP sweet Ashley. You didn't deserve this. To her family, I'm so sorry for your loss. 😢

[@alabama.worley]

She was a child with an incredibly weak support system. The average 11 year old would have behaved the same way, however they wouldn't typically have their parents send them off to be abused/killed. He groomed her electronically for a decade, and not one adult stepped in. Not a single one.

[@pageribe2399]

That happened to me, too. I was in my late thirties, but happy enough single, not desperate, and would never have considered him had he not convinced me of his true love and devotion. Plus, he seemed to share ALL of my interests! He was very intense. I finally decided that this was an opportunity for happiness that I shouldn't ignore. I can't believe how naive I was! That man evaporated after the wedding, and the belittling commenced. It was downhill from there. Never again!

[@haji818721]

Although possible there is no evidence of either. Limerence would require an intense study of their relationship. There are signs there, but you can't truly know from a video. LImerence is not something someone else causes. FOr example, his behavior would not have caused her Limerence. Also, there is zero information from the video that would indicate mirroring is going on. Your explanation of the effects of mirroring are inaccurate as well. I think you may be projecting your own experiences onto the situation when they really probably don't match up.

[@haji818721]

@@alabama.worley So it is not the killers fault, it is the family's. They did not send her off to be abused. She wanted to go, she was an adult, they trusted her and most importantly, they could not stopped her if they wanted to. Plus if you have children especially daughters, if they would have stepped in, she still would have contacted him, she just would have been more sneaky about it.

[@SlLV3RWOLF]

I see you have it all figured out

[@northerngirl4666]

When my son was a child, I did many things he protested loudly about: reaching for a hot element on the stove, etc. I would stop him. If my 14-year old daughter was in contact with an older man online, I would have stopped it right away. I would have let her hate me, sulk and act out. She would have got over it. And she would alive today. I dislike blaming people but the young girl’s online activity should have been monitored by her parents. She was young and naive and inexperienced.

[@mrlobsterrsalt5996]

Bro no hindsight doesn’t even matter and all of the signs were there. He’s a horrible person and a disgrace to this earth but come on she had a chance to turn around. Im 18 yrs old and Id would never travel thousands of miles for a person i never knew.

[@chloesmith7504]

@@mrlobsterrsalt5996But then again you weren’t manipulated for years and years by Jack were you?

[@mrlobsterrsalt5996]

@@chloesmith7504 how? She never met him in person again didn’t deserve it but she built feelings for someone that she never met face to face

[@chloesmith7504]

@@mrlobsterrsalt5996 Manipulation isn’t just face to face. You can be manipulated in many different ways including in texts, phone calls and face calls. It’s basic knowledge.

[@mrlobsterrsalt5996]

@@chloesmith7504 she got manipulated by a guy she never met that lives an ocean away. Shes an idiot.

[@jimster18]

That poor girl falling for a complete animal. I had to turn this off it was so sad😮

[@susanodonohue5661]

Animals are not like him! They are wonderful!

[@207BLCKBER]

In my opinion, the most egregious misconception is a person giving trust and credit to someone as if they've actually known them for the length of their online communications. In reality, they actually meet the real person the very first day they meet in person. Whike doing so dropping their gaurd and ignoring glaring red flags. She didn't know this monster at all. She couldn't be sure he's even the person online.

[@jonathanconnor7920]

Well, it's pretty easy to confirm you're talking to the person being depicted online by video chatting regularly. The people who get catfished for 10 years are the ones who believe _"my camera is broken"_ for 10 years. What she should've done was a background check. It would've been pretty difficult for him to talk his way out of that many years of physical abuse towards women. I would hope, anyway.

[@darkmatter7266]

There’s certainly ways of verifying and experiencing whether it’s by several different angles or meta-analysis of a repeat type of communication. People with any lengthy online communication in the last 15 years had to pass more tests than meeting someone at a bar. Someone’s digital footprint is far more damning than a handful of f2f meetings. A manipulative nutter will be that in person easier than online depending how savvy they are. Plenty of real exposures of folk that aren’t within our physical proximity not to mention the vast majority of online relationships that meet do not end up in anything close to this noise. It doesn’t mean be naive about it but it also doesn’t mean we can narrate the entire concept based upon extremes and apply it to all. Between Jack and the neighbor and whatever Ashley’s overall deal was - a lot of terrible things happened that didn’t have to do with online deception anymore. I can’t understand why the police weren’t involved far sooner and it’s tragic but there were a lot of faults here far beyond online subterfuge.

[@Wft-bu5zc]

True but this still happens to people who meet in person. It's easy for someone to hide their true selves, unfortunately it's not always possible to see. The key is that if you're ever with someone who becomes violent towards you, you MUST come up with an escape plan and follow through.

[@stoneysdead689]

I don't think that's normally the case- you're looking at one very extreme case and acting like it's the general rule- when it's clearly the exception. There are hundreds of thousands if not millions of ppl who have had normal relationships that started online- some lasted, some didn't- but there was no violence or anything. I would bet if you looked at the numbers-you're no more apt to meet a violent freak this way than you are meeting ppl the traditional way- at a bar or something. Besides, yes the internet has made it easier for ppl to meet like this- but it's also made it much easier to check someone out and find out who they are before meeting them.

[@lovemonkeyfunfun]

Facts I agree I don't care how long you've been talking online or FaceTiming the very first time you meet someone in person is the real time your meeting them because everything before that is just like your best self forward and it can be a lot of bullshit probably is

[@JaymelShea]

I watch A LOT of true crime and it barely bothers me anymore BUT this one hit differently. What a sweet innocent life gone way to soon. 😞

[@IndigoViolet7]

Same!!

[@Eekwinocks]

I too was in a relationship in which I didn't know my partner had an extensive criminal record. He lied about the charges I did know about. I was around Ashley's age, just a bit older. These monsters are so charismatic and kind to trap you. Always always always run a background check on potential partners. Rest in peace, beautiful girl.

[@lauramounir3660]

Yes and why women are comfortable meeting up with someone from on line, where these psychopaths lurk, is astonishing to me.

[@BeRightBack131]

Same happened to me. It wasn't until I was divorcing my ex that I learned about his extensive criminal background, including burglary, embezzlement, domestic violence, and drunk driving. Him and his entire family kept those secrets very well hidden.

[@thakraken6995]

Running a background can only do you so good. You can run into two issues. The first issue you can run into is that someone could have already had a charge sealed which won't allow you to see it when you look up their record. The second problem is plenty of people get charged for things and not convicted. If you see a charge that did not lead to a conviction are you going to treat it as a conviction?

[@DeeMontezx1]

I saw this story before and I can't handle seeing it again. The sister saw the abuse while she was there and I just didn't understand how they did not take an emergency flight to go get her. ; /

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Yes like an intervention.

[@sharie9331]

That or the parents coming immediately when she told the family he hit her. I was also wondering why the friends from church didn’t come immediately when she messaged begging for help. They received another message hours later, and still waited until the afternoon to check.

[@haji818721]

Do you think she would have gone with them if they showed up? Do you think she thought it probably would make things worse for her. They could fly over, but she made it clear, she was not going anywhere.

[@theresachristie7150]

*COVID

[@theresachristie7150]

*There were no "emergency" flights due to covid, they would've had to get tested first

[@Heylo12345]

No matter what they say CALL THE COPS

[@Tail472]

Sadly that’s easier said than done.

[@dddddd211]

But it's better said than to stay silent...

[@milk11111]

His eyes does not scream trust.

[@Saddam-m7p7r]

😂 weird looking

[@GetFukt33]

Butthole eyes 😂

[@schism6976]

Definitely can't sneak up on him. Eyes on side of head😢

[@tiffanymcintyre8375]

​@@schism6976... 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Prod_Hansifer]

😭😭😭​@@schism6976

[@chrisd3384]

I love the narrator articulating how much of a coward he is for having no violent charges against men

[@AbbiZika]

I had to go back to make sure i heard him right when he said that she was stabbed at least 90 times. That is a terrifying amount of rage.

[@verabolton]

Sick minded people can get s*ual gratification when stabbing their victims 🥺 I've heard a convicted murderer talking about this.

[@debraspegnetto6904]

Jack looks insane , those eyes 🤮

[@a.e2385]

Narcissists often have very dead eyes.

[@F15sniper78]

💯👍Sociopath

[@Tail472]

@@F15sniper78maybe both 🤔

[@thakraken6995]

​@@a.e2385what evidence do you base that on?

[@marlinsly8863]

heroin

[@kailynpeace8249]

I love you guys always bring awareness to DV and speak on the story in such a kind way. 💜💜💜💜

[@suehoult9062]

The naivety of this woman is unbelievable. She didn’t even bring enough money so she didn’t have to rely on him.

[@blydnhvghn]

Yeah it is called being young.

[@daviddaddy]

That poor Mother and Father, they look so broken! I wish i could give them a huge hug! So very sad.

[@dddddd211]

What a great parents they were huh...

[@katphiish-9972]

I remember this case big time. Grew up in Kelowna. Like 30/45 mins outside of Vernon

[@sharbear4248]

Love your channel! I consume an embarrassing amount of true-crime, mostly on KZbin; but I really like how you produce & edit your content. You & EWU crew do a great job!

[@gic8849]

I told this to my older kids. I’m gonna tell it to y’all.. As soon as you feel like mutual feelings are occurring, you background check them. This is extremely important. People LIE. Just a quick search can save you a lot of trouble. Possibly your life. As you get older, it becomes more important to do this. If you have children, do not miss this step. Rest in peace sweetheart I’m so sorry this happened to you 😔 Everyone, be well. Be smart.

[@Darkvirgo88xx]

4500 miles to meet a lunatic. Staying single sounds better then ever.

[@Nuttypro-f]

Yeah I’m sure your single by choice 😂

[@m.marrakchi9393]

@@Nuttypro-fweird response...

[@pinkpugginz]

he had been grooming her for years she never had a chance

[@lottoo5693]

@@Nuttypro-f atleast he has a profile picture.

[@SheriParkhurst-wd5cj]

@@Nuttypro-f what’s wrong with being single?

[@KubiqFeet]

The way men treat their mothers is a great indicator of how they would treat their partners. I couldn't ever imagine pitting my hands on my mother, or anyone really.

[@ameliashostak4764]

I literally just made the same comment! If dude has no problem putting hands on his mom, the woman who gave birth to him, what fucking chance does a girlfriend have?!?

[@ren_theHEN]

I can’t tell if his face is tattooed or if he just has a perma-black eye.

[@jrsterdis]

Omg, same! Red flag 🚩 beware the face tattoo, ppl!

[@_Dark222Angel_]

I have a full sleeve and I agree

[@ameliashostak4764]

it took me sooo long to figure that out too!! lmao

[@elsab5782]

@@jrsterdisface tattoos screams look at me

[@lisamareepritchard6375]

It’s so horrifying what this young woman went through, how dare he write to Ashley’s family, monster ! 😢 My heart goes out to her family, absolutely heartbreaking 💔

[@emilykate929]

This story is so eerie to me, I’ve lived half of this. I knew my online best friend for 9.5 years before I finally flew across the world to meet him. Thankfully my mother wouldn’t let me go alone😂 but, he ended up being the nicest person ever. He took such good care of me. I wish Ashley could have seen her future and left at the first offense💔 this is so heartbreaking.

[@Spuddins54]

I know it's easy to say after watching this video, but you could tell he was a wrong un just by looking at him.

[@Anthonybrother]

She couldn't resist the british origin mixed with his looking like a homeless who didn't sleep for a week. 😂 ☕️☕️☕️

[@Augfordpdoggie]

As an American, and a world traveler, if you ever get in trouble in a foreign country go to the nearest hotel, or a 5 star hotel, they will always speak English, and frequently deal with situations like this. They will also have the capacity to use all kinds of credit cards, and more likely to be able to arrange payment via foreign bank accounts

[@jewlz1.1.1]

Excellent tip. 👍🏻

[@Ann-sj4pt]

I doubt it

[@BeRightBack131]

Excellent advice. You can also go to your country's embassy for safe haven. This was the advice I was given once when in a foreign country. I didn't end up having to go there, but I was assured that any citizen of a foreign country will always be helped at the embassy.

[@Ann-sj4pt]

@@BeRightBack131 lol

[@Newchangesnewlife]

@@Ann-sj4ptby all means explain your doubt.

[@dogslounge214]

Been there, I was lucky to have survived it. I am so very sorry for the loss of Ashley

[@LoveyK]

Jack Semple looks like a Tim Burton character.

[@kellbabesb2516]

He LOOKS CRAZY!!!!

[@daviddaddy]

He looks very off!!! I swear i can tell by looking at him, hes a bad person.

[@jxn1056]

Literally just commented this!

[@daviddaddy]

@@jxn1056 It's the huge eye balls and they're a mile apart! He creeps me out! Those puffy eye lids on the top and Bottom! Lol.

[@a.e2385]

It's his dead eyes. They look so empty.

[@Faizasmith-pj4dz]

​@@daviddaddy😂😂

[@daviddaddy]

@@Faizasmith-pj4dz what? you know it's true lol

[@itsahellofaname]

Its strange how someone could be so intelligent and yet completely devoid of any common sense.

[@BeRightBack131]

It's the violence... he had her so scared to do anything. I'm sure she recognized the trouble she'd gotten into, but when you're terrified of someone, you're afraid to make them mad by leaving the situation...

[@dansei3355]

@@BeRightBack131there’s always an option to leave. She chose not to involve the police several times

[@babykermie]

@@dansei3355the most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is when she attempts to leave. that’s not my opinion, it’s a fact.

[@Loots1]

Not to be rude but why not just go to the airport and go home

[@Hatethisrock]

@@BeRightBack131immediately? The FIRST altercation should’ve been enough for any intelligent person

[@wanderingseth]

Even at his best, he looks like a drop-kick. It's so tragic, but how on earth could she be so obsessively determined to ignore red flags? They say she was intelligent but she did not make ONE intelligent choice. Not ONE.

[@wanderingseth]

@KotobKotob yeah. It's a shame that she didn't live long enough to learn that what she was feeling wasn't real love, but limerance

[@reignman30]

Yeah I love how they always call these victims bright or intelligent but then everything about them suggests otherwise. Oh she's a mormon? And now she's flying half way across the world to live with a guy with face tattoos? She seemed to have plenty of friends over there, and places to go, but kept going back to him anyway. I would have to nominate her for a Darwin Award.

[@goose7574]

As a survivor of DV myself... If you are reading this and are in a DV situation, PLEEEEEASE create a secret plan and get out. I RARELY gets better. DO NOT SAY YOU ARE LEAVING!!! (please) ♥️🙏🏻♥️

[@bentonrp]

Sounds like good advice. Would you say staying in public places and around civilization gets an abused victim to think more clearly? Because it seems to me, the abuser can get into their mind and make them forget that there are many more secure options out there in the world. I also ask because most of them are cowardly abusers and lose a majority of their power out in public, so I think even just being out there, with or without the abuser, involves the victim in the right thoughts about the safety they deserve.

[@goose7574]

@@bentonrp Honestly, it truly depends on the victim, how long they've been being abused and _how_ they are being abused (mentally, physically, sexually, financially, etc). I was in public a lot and even around friends and family and although there were only 4 times of physical abuse, the mental head-games were crazy. The way a true narcissist or sociopath thinks is scary. I always tell people to educate themselves about the cycle. Once somebody understands that, it can help a victims friend understand what's going on better. I'm sorry if I couldn't fully answer your questions. Every situation is different, and the best thing to do, if somebody you love or care about is "stuck," is to try to talk with them privately (BUT NOT VIA TEXTING- you never know if their abuser is the one with the phone, or has access to the phone with a mirroring app or will look at it later). Conversations really need to be in person, with their cell left some place else so it cannot record anything. I know this sounds insane, but after getting out myself, I've seen/heard some truly scary stories of stalking. I would say now, that it's better to be extra cautious, in order to protect them. Lastly, remember that abuse can be similarly to addiction, where the victim isn't going to leave until they are ready (not that it's like an actual drug). It sucks... I've seen that personally with people, but it's true. If they don't choose to leave yet, let them know you're there for them when they do, try to not give them an ultimatum because they usually hear that often, and tell them you truly just want what they deserve and what's best for them... and for them to be safe. Sorry for such a long post. Take Care!

[@Rachel.09]

​@@bentonrp I'm also a survivor who barely survived and escaped. 5 more seconds around my neck and me and my now 17 yr old and 15 yr old sons wouldnt be here today. My 17 yr old was only 16 mos old at the time, and i was 12wks preg w my now 15 yr old. Sadly, my 17 yr old absolutely remembers EVERY sickening detail fm that day, which i never told my kids anything more than mommy and daddy just are better not together. Plus they are very gruesome details. The courts FORCED me to allow every other weekend visitation w their father, so i never wanted my kids to think that half of them were automatically "bad" because theyre half their dad, etc. I thought i was doing the right thing by my kids.....my 17 yr old just told me at age 15 he knew everything and has always known, cuz he remembers that night very vividly.....then explained to me in FINE DETAILS what happened. Even details of when I was unconscious and in the middle of a Grand Mal seizure, where I bit chunks out of both sides of my tongue. I felt awful knowing he suffered w those images and experiences alone his entire life cuz I always thought he was too young to remember them. He told me he never wanted to say anything cuz he didnt ever want me to have to continuously go back to that night cuz he knew it would hurt me over and over. Sweet soul he has, but goodness! I say all of that to say, I had a full time job for a long while during the abuse. The last 6 mos is when it was daily and he isolated me completely cuz there was no hiding the injuries. Made me just quit a job I loved that gave me complete peace on a morning my face was bruised up. That was my only escape. My parents lived the next town over, 7 min away fm me and I talked to them daily. I'm a daddys girl and KNEW one call to daddy and my son and I would be out and safe. One simple call to the police while at work, same. But he worked night shift I worked days. So he would have my son at home w him while I made that call. BUT I did call my parents a few times. Always went back. He had me so brainwashed and had stolen every bit of my self esteem and identity, I TRULY thought I wouldn't ever be happy if I left nor would ever find someone else who would be w me. I was a single mama w almost 2 kids, a whole. Used up, and wasn't a good partner. Domestically, sexually, emotionally, etc. So at that point he absolutely had me convinced he hurt me because of my own actions. It was MY FAULT for not being a good mama and partner. And he ALWAYS told me if I ever left he'd kill me and have my son all to himself and I wouldn't be there to protect my son any longer. That one thing is the major thing that kept me there. His family is well connected w a ton of money. My family wasn't as fortunate. We had a great life, don't get me wrong. But I KNEW his family could get the finest attorneys, mine would struggle to do so. Outside influences only give the abused a small escape. We are trapped more inside of our own minds and fear of harm to loved ones more than harm to ourselves. I shielded my son FIERCELY fm any potential abuse. I'd take the beating instead. So the thought of him killing me and having full access to my son w out me there to protect him kept me there. Now, logic says he would have gotten arrested and my son would be safe w my parents. But they beat u so far down that u NEVER have a clear head and think logically. Ever. It took me YEARS to actually change my thoughts and not be convinced of everything he had told me was truth. DV is a massive mindfuck that is so hard to explain to those that have never been in it. Logic tells us all what's right or wrong, and before him I KNEW right fm wrong. During the throws of abuse, ur brain chemistry and structure completely changes. Ur no longer the smart and logical person u were before the abuse.

[@Rachel.09]

​@@bentonrp ​​ ​ I'm also a survivor who barely survived and escaped. 5 more seconds around my neck and me and my now 17 yr old and 15 yr old sons wouldnt be here today. My 17 yr old was only 16 mos old at the time, and i was 12wks preg w my now 15 yr old. Sadly, my 17 yr old absolutely remembers EVERY sickening detail fm that day, which i never told my kids anything more than mommy and daddy just are better not together. Plus they are very gruesome details. The courts FORCED me to allow every other weekend visitation w their father, so i never wanted my kids to think that half of them were automatically "bad" because theyre half their dad, etc. I thought i was doing the right thing by my kids.....my 17 yr old just told me at age 15 he knew everything and has always known, cuz he remembers that night very vividly.....then explained to me in FINE DETAILS what happened. Even details of when I was unconscious and in the middle of a Grand Mal seizure, where I bit chunks out of both sides of my tongue. I felt awful knowing he suffered w those images and experiences alone his entire life cuz I always thought he was too young to remember them. He told me he never wanted to say anything cuz he didnt ever want me to have to continuously go back to that night cuz he knew it would hurt me over and over. Sweet soul he has, but goodness! I say all of that to say, I had a full time job for a long while during the abuse. The last 6 mos is when it was daily and he isolated me completely cuz there was no hiding the injuries. Made me just quit a job I loved that gave me complete peace on a morning my face was bruised up. That was my only escape. My parents lived the next town over, 7 min away fm me and I talked to them daily. I'm a daddys girl and KNEW one call to daddy and my son and I would be out and safe. One simple call to the police while at work, same. But he worked night shift I worked days. So he would have my son at home w him while I made that call. BUT I did call my parents a few times. Theyd take me out of the situation and he would still call and text "wanting his son" so he would get in my head more until he convinced me id be safer going home. If i stayed away, hed kill me and even my parents to get to me, then have sole access to my son w zero protection fm either my family or my sons mama. Always went back. He had me so brainwashed and had stolen every bit of my self esteem and identity, I TRULY thought I wouldn't ever be happy if I left nor would I ever find someone else who would be w me. I was a single mama w almost 2 kids, a whore. Used and washed up, and wasn't a good partner. Domestically, sexually, emotionally, etc. So at that point he absolutely had me convinced the only reason he would even abuse me at all was because of my own actions. It was MY FAULT for not being a good mama and partner. And he ALWAYS told me if I ever left he'd kill me and have my son all to himself and I wouldn't be there to protect my son any longer. Or if he couldn't kill me, he would take custody of my son and I'd never see him again. That one thing is the major thing that kept me there. My son. Fear of him realistically getting custody of him. His family is well connected w a ton of money. My family wasn't as fortunate. We had a great life, don't get me wrong. But I KNEW his family could get the finest attorneys, mine would struggle to do so. Outside influences only give the abused a small escape. We are trapped more inside of our own minds and fear of harm to loved ones more than harm to ourselves. We are used to the abuse, so much so that death is a welcoming thought. I ALWAYS shielded my son FIERCELY fm any potential abuse. I'd take the beating instead. So the thought of him killing me or taking custody of him and him having full access to my son w out me there to protect him, that's exactly what kept me there. Now, logic says he would have gotten arrested and my son would be safe w my parents. But they beat u so far down that u NEVER have a clear head and think logically. Ever. It took me YEARS to actually change my thoughts and not be convinced of everything he had told me was truth. Honestly, the last night was Oct 8, 2008. And I STILL to this day struggle w unlearning certain thoughts and behaviors he put inside of me. Its been 16 yrs. DV is a massive mindfuck that is so hard to explain to those that have never been in it. Theres a lot of Stockholm Syndrome type stuff. Logic tells us all what's right or wrong, and before him I KNEW right fm wrong. Before I got w him I was in a very loving relationship w my high-school sweetheart and we were engaged. Wanted to spend the rest of eternity together. He passed away in a car accident. I was already reeling w grief from that and already was very vulnerable and not in the right state of mind. A yr later I got w my kids dad. During the throws of abuse, ur brain chemistry and structure completely changes. Ur no longer the smart and logical person u were before the abuse. And truthfully, ur brain never fully recovers and goes back to the way it was PRIOR to the abuse. Again, im 16 yrs out and still struggle dail. You can relearn and chip away w intense therapy. But subconsciously, its all still there. It truly is a sad, horrible, painful experience i wouldnt wish on my worst enemy! Nobody should ever have to experience abuse.

[@christopherback2103]

She didn't want to admit she had been wrong about him all along

[@bentonrp]

Exactly. That's also why, aside from staying and accepting the abuse, she even sent an s.o.s. to Mormon friends in the area instead of her parents.

[@sarahr9894]

Dude she had her idea of love warped by this asshat for 8 years, from the time she was a CHILD. Can you imagine how confusing and scary it must have been for her, in a different country, away from any support she truly had, and with her only concept of a partner now threatening her life? It would be so great if she could have taken the opportunities to leave. But have a little empathy for the poor girl. She wasn't trying to save face, she was literally being abused.

[@hoye4334]

Sometimes we just don’t believe it

[@sol-leks6122]

​@@bentonrp accepting the abuse? That sounds like something an abuser would tell themselves. Wtf even is that?

[@sol-leks6122]

​@@bentonrp she was groomed

[@WonderWhatHappened]

I know hindsight is 20/20. If someone (who is an adult) travels overseas to meet someone for the first time please have your own lodging , at least that way you have a way out. It could have saved her life, especially when she left to the neighbors, not once but twice. I understand she's been there for months at that point but she could've seen early warning signs that this was not what she expected.

[@simonw1313]

Could have seen? She must have felt them as the autopsy identified multiple bruises and injuries that go back weeks. It's like Ashley had a death wish. Her parents and her neighbourly friend were about as much use as a marshmallow hammer.

[@BatHouse6]

This was so so avoidable. That poor, naive girl. ☹️

[@lizadoesray]

She was not protected by her parents

[@thehangingparsiple5692]

​​@@lizadoesraywhat wasn't mentioned in this video is that Ashley's family had ONE computer between them to share, and her mother monitored her online chats. Once Ashley got herself a job however, she bought herself a smartphone which as we all know is impossible to monitor ❤

[@NathalieLindberg-qp6qh]

Agreed, she wasnt protected at all, but she was also eighteen years old. @@lizadoesray

[@Eekwinocks]

Way to victim blame

[@mikemcmike6427]

@@lizadoesrayshe wasn’t protected by herself. No one ever deserves anything like what happened or even 1/10th of this. But if you keep making excuses and going back to a rabid dog who keeps biting you. It’s partly your fault

[@WynneL]

No victim is ever at fault for their death, but--parents, remember that you NEED to teach your children to recognize red flags. Doesn't matter if it's pleasant to talk about or if the bible doesn't specifically say you can do so, it matters to keep them alive. The submissiveness and indiscriminate forgiveness religious girls are socialized with leaves them so vulnerable to terrible abuse. They MUST feel free to leave abuse and call police for safe assistance out of that situation. They MUST be encouraged to protect themselves. This is the alternative. At best, the victim leaves their abuser in blind emotion under extreme duress, and that is when the victim is most vulnerable to murder by their abusive partner.

[@KaktusLady]

Some of those parents can teach their children… yet adults make these same mistakes… js

[@KaciJanczak]

This is why I'm glad my mom physically helped me get away when he went too work until he found me n tried too run me over lmfao just got worse from there. Even with bail conditions too stay away he kept stalking and trying. He's literally fucking insane but luckily my mom n I started driving around with a metal bat. Never messed with me again plus he did less then a year for nearly leaving me brain dead by strangulation.

[@fdgfg764]

yea its the victims fault here. I mean you went to meet some cornball twig with necktats you met online? You are the only one to blame

[@POCKBA]

Not all parents know this things. Mine are not even not emotinal developed. They did not learn that as my dads parents was abusive. My mums parents where alcoholics. So I think many parents does nor know the signs. My dad is very naive when it comes to people. My mum is the other way especally after she start to watch true crime😅 But yeah parents should learn the kids to recognise bad behaviour. But I dont think all parents really know what red flags is. But now is more easy to find information about this things as long as they have acces to use internet.

[@Luvsinging100]

I couldn’t even finish the video. This is depressing. So many red flags.

[@flannelpillowcase6475]

this is why 4b is the best course for women these days, now that women are at an all time high of freedom and independence. better alone and happy than dead or abused, that's my lifelong philosophy.

[@tellurius7530]

Shocking indeed. Shocking stupidity of all involved. Parents first.

[@basbleupeaunoire]

This is brilliant. The empathy you show the victims is unparalleled. Thank you for offering reasons why someone in her situation might keep returning to the flat.

[@stewartnorton6386]

This happened just up the road from me he lived on the same street as my children's primary school.

[@fromtheanvilwesthamunited7906]

I’m from the UK and have lived in Canada for ten years. I now live in Vancouver and know the area of British Columbia where Ashley is from. It was mega news over here and in the UK too. Her grandfather said that he thought England was a safe country and he was OK with her going there. Ashley’s friends didn’t like the look of Jack and apparently tried to tell her not to go to England. It’s very sad that this happened, but it does highlight the dangers of meeting people online.

[@irenepallis9470]

Such a sad sad story .My heart broke for her and her family. Please please if any one watching this is suffering GET OUT!!!

[@JulieHannah-lg7fy]

I agree, please 🙏 get out

[@amyyoung8669]

Let me just clear this up. FYI even if you’re under age and it’s a relationship on the computer that still is illegal just because it’s on the computer doesn’t mean it’s not grooming

[@haji818721]

Let me clear this up for you. No, it is not illegal. Not in the least. You can talk and chat all you want to. It is really odd for you to think differently.

[@dansei3355]

@@haji818721sexual relationships with minors even online is illegal.

[@AshChildOfGod]

You sound like a creep lets clear that up ​@@haji818721

[@evelynfonseca5023]

Once again I cannot understand how a parent willingly knowing that their daughter was being beaten and staying with the same person who hurt her, don’t do ANYTHING to protect or even fly over and get their daughter I don’t care the age she was in Adult or not! I love my children and I would never give another chance to a person who has abused my child a second chance to do so! Parents need to do better! This was preventable! I cannot understand it!

[@zimazima630]

Even if she didnt leave then i would stay over their and visit as much as i can and get any resources i can. I could never hear my baby telling me that hes beating me mom and not go over their once. I mean im sorry but getting them physically away from their abuser for even a couple hours can change a lot. As someone who grew up with my mom being abused and going thru it muself and living with women in domestic violence shelters. Having a support system physically their in your presence helps not be sucked back into their grasps. She had no clue what she was dealing with clearly by telling him she was leaving. Luckily with my mom she never told my father when we escaped shed always wait until he passed out drunk then sneak us out the back of the house. I have 2 daughters and i wouldng care if i was homeless outside i wouldnt leave without either one of them. Im not blaming them but parents we can influence and change things uo even with our kids being adults.

[@jarroddubose]

I agree her parents failed her, I wouldn’t let my daughter go to another country for that amount of time at that age to meet a boy she met on the internet… that’s just crazy to me

[@daviddesantis4040]

You don’t understand because it’s not your life! It’s easy to say what you would do when you know how the story ends. You can’t force someone to leave and there was a pandemic. Imagine how the parents feel. Actually don’t imagine that. They don’t need someone so perfect in decision making analyzing them. Smh

[@ameliashostak4764]

@@daviddesantis4040 I agree with you! These people are so freaking dumb thinking they could actually MAKE their ADULT daughter do anything! You cannot, no matter how much you may want to, make an adult board a PLANE when she doesn't want to go! Period, end of! These people are blaming the parents like it's their fault when the blame belongs only on the pos who killed her. All Ashley needed to do was say, "no mom and dad, I'm not going with you." It is easier to blame the parents when you have hindsight, but not everyone is afforded that opportunity.

[@Outerspacejunky]

@@ameliashostak4764I’d have rather tried and failed than have a dead daughter. They didn’t even try

[@wanda520]

I was married a year and a half to an abusive alcoholic. I’m sure I wouldn’t have survived if I had stayed. Met a wonderful man and was married 37 years until his death.

[@Dovietail]

The bags under his eyes, though. This man doesn't sleep. EVER.

[@sarahdavenport9527]

R.i.p Ashley... Prayers for her family and friends

[@janehallowell5886]

What a piece of work...

[@4545gemini]

This is 😢. She was a beautiful soul. He chipped away at everything she was, and then he snuffed her out. He is a horrible monster, and he should never ever get out.

[@lorriepeek5636]

Can anyone tell me what the lady is singing in the beginning? It is driving me nuts. I listen to it over and over but i still have no idea what she says.

[@Narrator_JasonForbis]

"Credulous, credulous, credulous Gal" Credulous Gal by Anzem It can be found on youtube :)

[@lorriepeek5636]

@@Narrator_JasonForbis thanks

[@AllsWell77]

When Ashley's family heard that insane voice mail rant, how would they let her fly off to England alone. Its not rational. There were horrible red flags just all over. And wtf, he beat a kitten?! I would have just ran out of the house to a store, a neughbor and called the police to come and get me. Poor girl was so entrenched in this.

[@roxyhart5692]

I flew to a different country for a person I met online like a decade ago. Thankfully he was a great person - we're not together anymore though - so I thankfully had a good experience. But, looking back at it, I have no idea what I was thinking. I don't regret getting to know him, but doing that... Very risky. I would never do it again.

[@Natty0975]

I met my husband on the internet. I'm from Canada and he's American. I was VERY fortunate because he is a VERY good man from a VERY good family. I talked with him a year before I went to see him. I was 26 years old at the time. My father was a bit scared for me to go alone and I told him that if I don't go ... I will never know him. I assured him that I would called them every day which I did. I stayed there for 2 weeks and everything went very well. We've been together for 23 years and married for 13 years. I feel for Ashley's family. Her parents were worried about her like my parents were with me. This guy PLAYED with her ALL THE WAY ! There was red flags from the beginning but unfortunately she didn't see them. He was a MONSTER ! She told him she was leaving .... what a huge mistake she made. She would still be alive today if she didn't tell him. What a horrible tragedy May God bless Ashley's soul. My thoughts and prayers are with her family 🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤

[@SerenDipity64711]

He has the coldest eyes, even in photos of them smiling. Poor Ashley, she probably felt embarrassed/ashamed to call the police. Bless her heart. She was such an intelligent and clever young woman and no doubt, would have gone on to do great things with her life. So sad she got involved with a deadbeat like him. Rest in peace Ashley💖

[@simonw1313]

She sure doesn't exhibit much signs of being "intelligent and clever" - neither does her neighbour "friend" or family.

[@Barnsey87]

What a beautiful person trying to fix someone broken unfortunately this happens very often always the innocent.

[@T2MARA]

My goodness. That voicemail. I can’t wrap my head around why she would have gone to visit him? I watched another video saying that during the periods when they were dating other people, his girlfriends would call her to calm him down when he would act violent. And yet, she still went to visit him. This is 1000 percent his fault but this story is definitely a lesson for parents and young girls. That voicemail was a giant red stop sign. 🛑

[@1PrayerWarrior4]

This case really hit me. I have not been physically hurt by an online relationship, but I ended up discovering that I was the side chick of a man I almost bought a house with. That situation was like a soap opera, but I came out alive. RIP Ashley, the last bit about how they planned the burial broke my heart. It's bittersweet.

[@chrispfeifer7628]

There are so many women that get murdered by husbands and boyfriends here in the US. Thousands every year. The numbers are kinda staggering really. We are doing something wrong in our society in the raising of our boys. The jealousy and anger many young men feel is something they aren't equipped to deal with, so they lash out at the women or girls in their life. I wish I had the answers. Hopefully someone much smarter than I will eventually think of something. Then, we'd still have to convince half the country that it isn't woke, or less manly. America is a mess

[@政治吉田]

he is jobless, living free with the mercy of his country yet the only thing he knew is to hurt women.....

[@bentonrp]

A total failure. Well said. What a totally worthless creep.

[@reignman30]

And she fell for him anyway, which is confusing because in the video they described her as intelligent.

[@NoirValkyrie]

Ashley, baby, that man looked scary as hell. He looks EXACTLY like a person that would commit such crimes. She must've just been at a low moment that she picked him, cause baby girl, you were much better than that thing on every level

[@ramdingaliana9711]

The crime happened in Europe, England to be precise. So, the sentence would be lenient and light, as it always is in Europe and even Canada. I wish Europe could adopt justice system where criminals could receive a sentence of life in prison without the possibility of parole for the rest of their lives. But from what I've heard, criminals who committed double homicide or even more receive only around 20 years in prison in Europe or even less. In Canada also, I think the maximum prison time is 25 years no matter what crimes you commit. I like the US justice system the most when it comes to sentences because criminals could get life in prison without the possibility of parole meaning they will spend the rest of their lives in prison until they die

[@pommyrock]

Been watching these videos, out of the 8 iv watched so far this one has hit me the hardest, I heard about this couple years ago during Covid didn’t think anything of it but being told the story now how sick it has made me feel, what a young beautiful life gone because of some evil individual! She was so naive and he’s taken advantage and gone all control freak poor Ashley and her family 😭

[@kwakester]

As a father I would never let my daughter travel to a new country alone. She'd need at least a friend to keep an eye on her in case of trouble.

[@BeRightBack131]

I think the same thing. At the very least, I'd go with her for an extended vacation to meet him and assess the situation. And I'd definitely make sure she left if there were any red flags. I really believe that if she had had ANYONE to turn to, she would have left him. And anyone who knew about the abuse should have told her that you NEVER let an abuser know that you're leaving. That's the most dangerous time of all.

[@lauramounir3660]

What an incredible loss for her family, I can’t even imagine the pain ..This young lady was beautiful and had her whole life ahead of her. Rest in Peace Ashley🌿

[@Ainaes-Feline]

I truly cannot phantom why she stayed for that long...She didn't come from a physically abusive background so she should have been already out of the door after her first introduction to his fists, she should have known from the stories on the internet about abusive men and they never change and always are sooo sorry. Not victim blaming by God NO...I just wished she would've followed her instincts and awareness of these kind of creeps. Such a tragic story her first and only love she ever had, turned out to be less than a cockroach.

[@wanderingseth]

Fathom not phantom :)

[@verabolton]

We don't know much detail of her family background. Why would such a young woman leave her family, why would she travel so far? She thought domestic violence was acceptable. We don't know why.

[@daviddesantis4040]

It’s easy not to FATHOM when it’s not your story dummy

[@glisteningseeds1976]

I sincerely don't understand. If pictures of abuse came into my possession there is very little that could stop me from being at location asap.

[@sharonletchford9375]

Not this monster, i watched a video on him last night, ive seen one prior to that also. What a EVIL COWARD THIS SO CALLED SAD EXCUSE IF A MAN IS. He looked as if he had black eyes all the time. RIP ASHLEY 🙏🕊️

[@johnoneill7947]

There's no such thing as online relationships.

[@coryjkrum]

Ashley's mom should be talking about the dangers of people on the Internet along with domestic violence.

[@selecttravelvacations7472]

Nobody should be telling Ashley’s mom what to do.

[@simonw1313]

​@@selecttravelvacations7472- nobody should be listening to anything Ashleys pathetically inadequate family has to say except as a textbook case of how not to deal with a situation of this seriousness.

[@melissagriffith1241]

All teenagers need education about abuse from their partners. What to do, how to reach out, and how to get away. Such a sad case. Poor thing was so naive and young.

[@MyMissingPeace]

All I can take away is that Ashlee is the most beautiful and genuine person. It’s just so sad that he was not. RIP Angel Ashlee 💜💜💜💜

[@simonw1313]

Genuinely stupid. It's like she had a death wish.

[@sunshineblueskyznc]

The mom's burial tribute was so heartbreaking.

[@NienkeJoe]

So sad this happened to her. Bad thing about being abused is that you sometimes just don't realize it is happening, until you are in it way too deep. It is hard to believe it is not your fault and it is therefore hard to ask for help or even believe you have to get out. My situation was the same. You are being bullied into believing you are crazy and you are the problem. When I believed I was crazy and I was the problem, I also started to believe I deserved the punishment (yelling, silent treatment, beating and even attempted murder and threatened with murder). When I got angry because I felt I was being treated unfair (for instance getting yelled at for buying a box of tea), I was told: You see you are crazy? The situation was that my ex did not have any form of income. He brought in zero money. But he did control my money. He controlled every part of my life. And me? I was happy when I was allowed to do the groceries once a month. Or when I got a gift from him (of course bought from my own money). Yes, he had his good sides too. And that is the problem. They are not all bad. They have a side so sweet, caring and gentle. When I was tired or in pain, he took over the household for instance. He cleaned and took care of me. That makes it even harder to believe they are a bad apple and they are abusive. Because you believe it is your fault and you only see the good sides of that person. You can tell people they need help and they need to leave. But would you leave your caring partner because someone tells you to? No, you don't. Same with abuse victims. And that is exactly why it is so dangerous and hard.

[@danielburgstrom7489]

If you get beaten & verbally abused by your partner then he clearly isnt ”your caring partner”. Get a grip.

[@Anthonybrother]

What caring partner?

[@thehangingparsiple5692]

​​@@danielburgstrom7489 it's much more complicated than you think, because we're all such complicated creatures. Sometimes the good bits of a relationship are really good. Especially if you're naive, insecure, or suffer low self esteem. And you believe the abuser is repentant, because sometimes they actually are. Sometimes they are ashamed of what they're doing and really want to get better. Some do, but most don't. And the partner will stay with them knowing they've had a hard life, or suffer from depression, whatever, and feel they can't leave them. The abuser may make real efforts to get better. They tell you they'd die without you, you mean the world to them. But to be honest, I suggest you look up why people stay in abusive relationships ❤

[@thehangingparsiple5692]

​@@AnthonybrotherI think she's being subjective

[@NienkeJoe]

@@danielburgstrom7489, maybe read again and understand what I mean. Most people have a caring partner. Would you leave yours? No. Someone who is abused sees it the same way. Sure, they get it that it isn't normal. But they do care and they are believing things that aren't real. Get it now?

[@katiemoore6840]

That very first clip of him yelling and cursing .. that's what my neighbor sounds like almost every day. I hear nothing from anyone else in the house. Just him screaming. It's terrifying. I'm scared for the kids. I've called the cops and CPS

[@manicoo]

Young people do stupid things. Most of us get out alive. No one jumps out of the nest expecting to die. Let this be a lesson on minding your kids business and stressing the dangers of the world. Chances are, they'll still jump. Abusive relationships are hard to get out of. The mind games really change you. In a perfect world, shed have left. Her parents wouldve came to rescue her. She'd be alive. But thats not how this usually works, not for the 18 year old, not for the 50 year old. Very sad but not uncommon.

[@thehangingparsiple5692]

Perfect comment ❤

[@eugeniaskelley5194]

I don't know if I were her parents I think I would have just gone to England when she was having to whisper on the phone, and they knew she was in some sort of distress and gone to his house. Yes, she didn't have to go with them, but at least they could have given it a shot. It is quite possible the minute she saw them she would have wanted to go. She wasn't completely in the dark. She was smart enough to take a video diary of what he was doing to her, also abuse is talked about so much now days there is no way she didn't know this was wrong and he was abusing her. I hope Jack gets prison justice. Maybe he can feel what it is like what he put all those women through and Ashley. That neighbor didn't want to call the police because she didn't want Jack coming after her. She lived next door to him.

[@JustBreatheOkay]

My parents would never let me go out of the country or even locally go visit a boy’s place, let alone to live with him in his apartment. Likely I never wanted to move in with anyone in my teenage years. Parents have to be more conservative what comes to letting their kids move in with boyfriends they’ve never met. RIP Ashley 🙏

[@queenicedcoffee4217]

She was a legal adult so nobody could really stop her

[@JustBreatheOkay]

@@queenicedcoffee4217 even at 21 my parents would not let me they’d advise me against it, not physically stopping.

[@Geminiduplicity]

@@JustBreatheOkay my kids are 19 and 21. You try to tell them they cannot do something. It’s not gonna happen.

[@gj5990]

So sad. I hope this helps young ladies to know what is wrong and dangerous before it’s too late. We’ve all made stupid decisions. His eyes say a lot. Pay attention to lifeless and cold eyes.

[@sheadiggs9355]

Ladies remember its either life or death. Choose 1!

[@Outerspacejunky]

Parents failed her, can’t convince me otherwise

[@troydorr4867]

This guy is just nuts, with no bolts. Ashley is so beautiful, and seemed to just love life. For that sic piece of garbage to end her life is just simply RAGE INDUCING!!! People like him, need no second chances. He will kill again. Heart and prayers to Ashley's family and friends. 🙏🙌

[@masonwilmot5006]

ive watched alot of cases, but this is truely one of the saddest one's ive seen truely sad

[@Heylo12345]

I wish she snuck away to the neighbors and got the cops called 😢