AsToldByAshley ⇢ Personal Trainer, Try On Haul, Winter Blues Rant, True Crime Podcast, Grocery Haul!

[@jess414951]

Sis, I feel you on the whole "feeling wanted" topic. I've been feeling lonely too, especially because all the people who I make time for don't typically make time for me. I'm more of an afterthought. Just because I like being alone doesn't mean I want to be alone all of the time.

[@Moniquelp83]

But when this statement hits on your family as well. I understand this statement all to well.

[@LorissaNelson]

Ponytail Ashley is a whole vibe 😍

[@kemichick]

Everything that was said in this vlog was relatable sis, you’re not the only one

[@ChelseaMx]

I rather be bored af in the house than be an option 🥱✌🏽

[@Dailynvlogs7]

Swear Ashley you hit the nail on the head. Everything you’re feeling I’ve been feeling and couldn’t put it into words. Ironically men take that type of honesty as too much rather than understanding we aren’t trying to control their life but very much so want to be an important factor in it.

[@TayaChoo]

I cant wait for you to drop your own podcast hopefully one day 🤞🏽! I love how you articulate yourself and really break down your emotions in such good details.

[@brittanybonnett2008]

“ love yourself in your own love languages” yes Ashley yes! Can you show us how you manage to keep up your hair since you are natural?

[@UniquelyVickie]

Your sadness could be a combination of winter blues and lack of companionship. I can relate.

[@c.nicholle8250]

When your job let’s you leave early due to inclement weather & Ashley posts a vlog soon as you get home. Let me get cozzzzyyyyy 😩

[@shwattttyyyyy]

You should totally get a dog, it will open up a lot more new activities to do like dog parks and meeting new ppl at dog oriented activities. Plus you'll always have a buddy to go places with and will always want your company.

[@1Chinadall]

I was thinking along the same ... Companionship and it keeps you busy.Gotta get the right one though

[@vm5685]

Pets are really great if you live alone. It keeps you busy and they show you love and affection and they greet you at the door and cuddle with you. It's the best.

[@sgthomas98]

Yes!

[@clarissaelexis6582]

Ashley saving us from boredom on this freezing day in Dallas 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@goddessmaat9926]

It’s 25 degrees in NY. Cold 🥶.

[@Missoda_1]

Right between the cold weather & the pile up in Ft worth its been a crazy day here in the DFW

[@dj.1094]

I can’t believe how cold it is here in Dallas! It’s a good soup day 🍵

[@Queenjayyy]

It’s 79 degrees here in Jamaica 🇯🇲☀️🌴

[@queenbebe4985]

I love Jamaica .I visited Jamaica in 2019 and I enjoyed it .😩

[@sashamatamoros2365]

I have been sad as hell for the passes couple of days .. I’m tired of being alone 😢 my mom’s 1 year anniversary of her death was right before Christmas. I moved to a different state 8 months ago so don’t know anyone . The guy I was seeing I wanted him to give me a reason to stay but he didn’t , but now he’s saying how much he misses me ..I’ve been praying to God for a peace of mind 🙏🏽

[@kimanei5359]

Praying for u hun

[@hi-xd8wk]

🙏🏾

[@shaeybutter3480]

Ashley, you are literally so beautiful and an absolute sweetheart (from what I’ve seen and I’ve been following you for at least 6 years) anybody that doesn’t see that and want your company...honestly doesn’t deserve to be in your presence! PERIOD!!!

[@CamyOnTheGo]

Omg I so understand. Don’t pick when you want me. It’s so crazy, in a world filled with so many, we all feel alone. Great video

[@kendiasaunders5727]

This car chat was so timelyyyyyyy. Make yourself a priority and go from there. These men want to have you there but still live life however they want and feel. But don’t want you to leave them but they do the bare minimum. They aren’t worth your time and energy

[@lovetiffnicol]

“I’m so sad!” (while holding up the bouquet of flowers) took me out! I felt that! 🏃🏽‍♀️ to buy a bouquet of flowers. I’m a ♋️. We aren’t sad all the time, but can feel 10 different emotions in a one minute span. 😩🤷🏽‍♀️😂

[@TaraLivermore]

Haha, I have a cancer moon and I hate it here lol.

[@amaris7619]

We sure don’t.. when she said that....I was like ummmmmm we don’t feel sad ... we are in tune with our emotions but sad all the time... girl no! Now if she said moody I would have agreed lol

[@Pearlfect3]

Same sis...same!!

[@kimoranicole6887]

This vlog was everything I needed. I wish I would have known this in my 20s, but trust me with all your wisdom you're saving yourself years of heartache.

[@tanay5680]

Thanks for being transparent. Girl I’ve been crying damn near daily. My dad got his kidney transplant in early 2020 so I’ve been navigating caring for him while working from home. And it’s been hard because I can’t be around people the way I want to or enjoy me-time the way I want to. I think expressing your wants and needs is healthy, that’s the ,main thing I learned last year was to say what I need. It’s helped me manage my emotions a lot.

[@YaniqueBennett]

Hands down one of my favourite KZbinrs 🤍

[@MISHELMUSE]

Your car-ride conversation definitely put what I’ve only described to my friends as a ‘longing’, WHEW you were spot on. 😭 I’m praying for your happiness and anyone else feeling like this. “This too shall pass.” is what I’m clinging too.

[@Tyequighae]

Your Vlogs have always been my one of my favorites is bc of how honest you are, and you are always perfectly articulating what so many of us feel. Wanting to feel wanted has such a negative reaction, but it's normal and I'm glad more people are expressing this. I feel exactly the same way about being alone and people assuming i don't need company. Something else that happens is people won't hit you up bc they assume so many other people are.

[@kangoocutee1198]

The Fabletics fits were too cute. Every time I think I found a fav, then I see the next one, but I think my favorite is the Samantha Mock Neck Pullover with the high-waisted shorts. It's a vibe!!!

[@byjasmine5052]

It’s the “love myself in my own love language” for me 👏🏽

[@Acosya2]

I LOVE your hair!! I love that your hair is out. It so natural and effortless.

[@MissMoneMonique]

I get so happy when you post!!! I always smile and say "My Good Sis!!" 😂😂 You're always on time!!! ❤❤❤

[@reeree8760]

That part when you said you've been sad cuz you've been isolating then distancing yourself because you're sad and then end up more sad because of that, I felt that 💖

[@lynnp8320]

I love the half up and down hair😍

[@ilovekyannaannxo]

Baby that’s so true about Aquarian’s. I always struggle with feeling wanted and needed. I often feel like I’m just here, like no one truly relates to me and that does make me feel extremely lonely. 😩

[@1Chinadall]

Same

[@DallasRae24]

I’m a Pisces and I feel the exact same way. 😩

[@ilovekyannaannxo]

@@DallasRae24 yup. We’re sisters 🥴

[@LuvKitKatt]

Lol every sign can feel exactly like this...

[@ilovekyannaannxo]

@@LuvKitKatt we only can speak for our own. I have no idea how other signs feel. I just know what people tell me but I can’t truly feel it you know what I mean?

[@krissyjames2204]

Wow. That’s a word, right there! Figuring out how to remedy loneliness without going back to toxicity? HMM. Yes, ma’am. I’ve never heard it seasoned like that. But yet, soooo valid. I can honestly say that’s something I’ve just now realized,addressed, and in the solution stage. Thanks, Ashley 🙌🏾🤗

[@gabrielley2399]

Ashley! Speaking so much truth! I rarely comment on videos but feeling so much of what you're saying on the winter blues and being lonely. That feeling of being wanted is so true and I love that sitting in your loneliness and learning how to be content makes you stronger! Just the reminder I needed not to go back to old connections just to try and remedy the situation.

[@LondonTayy]

That ponytail cutttteeeeeeee

[@ParisTaughtYu]

You’re not alone! I have been feeling the same exact way lately. I have been so distant from friends and family. I’m not sure what the issue is. Taking one day at a time

[@LuvKitKatt]

SAME ! I’m naturall a distant person but it’s like so crazy i just been distant even more

[@maryvee4896]

This video has so many gems pertaining to health , I would love to see a full video on your healthy eating routine with your fav supplements and smoothies.

[@monetmariie]

C’mon 400k I see you coming!

[@ariariKy]

Ashley you are the epitome of SELF CARE ! It’s inspiring to watch ! I love it !

[@preciousw9491]

Oh this was really transparent ❤️ loved it! I totally understand.

[@KG51710]

Honestly, I’ve been feeling the same way. Ive put into friendships than they do to me. I’m always reaching out, etc. I’ve fell back recently

[@yodi8926]

A can 100% relate to the sad cycle. It's been going on since the middle of January and I just want it to stop 😩. You're vlogs are always refreshing to watch so that helps 😊

[@fallemblem]

I feel where you're coming from on dating. If I were in that stage of my life again, I would Lori Harvey the situation up. Treat these men the way they women (within reason of course). Point is, I would date multiple men, have fun, and only narrow down the playing field when the right man has presented himself (i.e. demonstrated after a few months of casual dating that there is longterm potential, and that the feeling is mutual). I also would step out of my comfort zone in terms of type - which I didn't do in my younger days, and regret now. There has to be more than one high profile dating app out there when you can meet someone of your caliber. Once you start putting the right plan in motion, the universe will start presenting you options.

[@FortheloveofMilan]

Sis, this is such a great wellness vlog and you didn’t even try! From the talk therapy, holistic talk, grocery hall, personal trainer, etc. This blessed me! Keep thriving! ✨💕

[@sounique68]

I've been super sad as well. I kinda feel like it's because I'm going through a horrible breakup but then again I laugh because I'm grateful for the relief now. I am a beautiful, strong black woman with a lot going for myself and at the end of the day it's his loss and my gain. Just going from living with a person to understanding that I'll be alone is a weird step for me because even when not in a relationship I have never lived alone ya know. Like, I have my own place but someone is always around is what I'm saying and I don't know how to feel about it.

[@adaisy13songz]

I feel you Ashley, especially about the quarantine isolation. I love my space but like you said that quarantine loneliness hits different lol! I ended up moving closer to my family but also being very transparent with my friends and family about how I felt. Turned out most of us felt the same way so we became more proactive about checking in and reaching out (stopping that cycle). Love the vlogs hope your mood starts to lift up 💕💕💕

[@yannasu8784]

I feel this whole car rant/talk thru. I feel it with friends/associates. I feel it with men. I just feel it to my core. I hate that I feel like this but I’m going to continue to sit in these feelings until I’ve worked thru them.

[@jenniferjones4113]

Ashley, you're an amazing young woman!!! Stay humble and keep being true to you. You're such an inspiration, and I know God is using you and your platforms for a greater purpose.

[@blacksunflower2958]

Dating genuinely sucks !! I can’t stress it enough lol but I completely agree if you’re not getting the attention you deserve then don’t stick around !!

[@maggiemeron]

I am so here for buying flowers for yourself! I do the same tbh 😂 I've been feeling sad too and honestly what's been helping me get through is just reminding myself that all the unconditional love that I've been wanting, I can give to myself. sending you love Ashley ❤️

[@chelseadennis3395]

Giirrllll, your hair waass GIVING‼️ I LOVED it…soo cute‼️

[@nilkaarcher5783]

Girl, your body is a whole Vibe, you look fabulous!!!!! No matter what you put on you rock it!!!

[@Kelly-we5bs]

Omg your hair looks so good. It looks natural.

[@morphosisofalana2686]

Hope you're doing well during this weather we're having...much love!!!

[@itsamberkidd]

Timing couldn’t be better! Eating lunch and now I can watch this!!💞💞

[@hillaryr6396]

Love the fabletics try on haul!!! Look # 1 & the track suite were surprisingly my faves ❤

[@mlksshake]

I wasn’t planning to workout today but sis putting in work has me second guessing. Keep going queen!

[@ShainaJelay-c7z]

thank you for sharing your mood lately it definitely is felt by everyone lately. I just recently got into a relationship but that feeling of wanting to be wanted was a major feeling for me

[@Birdsbeautynest]

Stay the course Ashley. The people that don’t share their time with you are not for you. What you feel is normal. Keep pushing sis!!

[@tammiejae]

Ashley sounds like you have New Years blues. I went through this recently and had pull myself out of it. & Us cancers aren’t sad all the time! 🤣 We just all around emotional people. I cry more happy tears than sad. Keep being beautiful girl! ✨❤️

[@KylaKeaunza]

It was the leg throw in the fabletics for me. Buying some just so I can fake like im flexible 😂

[@ashleybell3842]

I definitely feel you on the wanted topic. Definitely understand how people want you when they want you but not when you want to be wanted. Feels like they want you on their own time

[@deasiagolden1181]

Finally the prettiest girl on KZbin finally uploaded

[@simplyabena5643]

Yassss, notification gang❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ You look so cute in your gym gear👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@lightscameraafashion]

Ashley, I’m right there with you on just keeping to myself. You are not alone sis! its better to be in our energy than to be around men who are inconsistent and unreliable.

[@Queen_life]

🥰❤️❤️ hope you have an amazing weekend an hope your feeling a lot better. Sending you lots of hugs 💕💕💕 stay safe and blessed sis Enjoyed the video!

[@nalacm_]

I am a new subscriber and your car rant was sooooo relatable! Can’t wait to see more of your videos.

[@NurturingNatasha]

“I’ll have the conversation because I think ghosting is very childish and immature”. Ashley I’m working on myself sis 😭

[@KwaneyshaDavon]

I felt personally attacked on that part too LMAO 🤭

[@msgeehank]

Girl call me Casper, because I will ghost someone expeditiously 😂

[@des-ww2li]

well put; thanks for the vulnerability & transparency.

[@MonnekiyaBreShae]

So happy you posted. Literally right on time! I love the Fable-tics sets. You are beautiful as ALWAYS and soooo relatable!

[@thegallery219]

Baaabbbbyyy that car convo hit different!!!! Whew I felt all of that! I’m here with you❤️🙏🏾

[@carmelliawright9936]

That car talk through was everything I have been feeling lately! Man it feels good to know that I'm not alone in feeling these feelings lol!

[@CJBSKE]

The timing of this vlog was so spot on. I have been so sad recently. And dating right now is so hard because like you I value communication and quality time but you only receive it when they want to. If you try to address it you are then deemed crazy or going overboard. I feel you!

[@mills1712]

This has to be my favorite vlog ! Thank you for being so transparent honestly we are all in the ghetto dating world

[@ashleyshonte.]

Ashley from one Ashley to another I am completely there with you. These past few weeks have been a bit emotional. Don’t feel alone a lot of us are there with us. I’ve been journaling it away and dancing it away etc.

[@Jasmineventi]

You explained the feeling Lonely so well I’ve been feeling it too lately sooo heavy just realizing how I’m always reaching out to do things but I’m an after thought.

[@JAnita-fw3rq]

Yoooo I love Ashley personality unmatched ❤️❤️❤️ so relatable ! Keep being great Queen!

[@shanellesealy3072]

Hello Ashley always good to see you.

[@aprophete]

“I hate it here, it’s ghetto”.. hahaha 🤣😂😂

[@peaceandshine]

I replayed that part like 5 times lol

[@Claud9876]

Yes, totally understand what you mean about the sadness you've been feeling. I've been feeling that way the past few weeks. Trying to convince myself that it was because of mercury retrograde, and I'm telling myself that in this season of loneliness to work on my self improvement.

[@rubydemaio6553]

I literally was in my feelings about this whole wanted to feel wanted thing earlier this week so I feel you! Thank you for sharing! I pray you find ppl in your life that make you feel wanted bc you deserve it ❤️

[@themelaninbomb]

Btw never too much tmi you always put us on! I appreciate it

[@Million-DollaBaby]

Prayers 🙏🏽 for Everybody Safety in Texas

[@bbyreece]

Girl the car talk was so relatable. I was just telling a friend that I’m starting to feel lonely and it’s because I’m feeling like I’m not wanted. I guess when you’re so independent it just looks like you don’t need anyone and that’s not the case. Love the vlog as usual!

[@1smartangel]

Your hair looked amazing this entire video... especially the last style 💕

[@latashiahayes7571]

That sounds like he has someone else he's spending his time with too.

[@AshleyDevonna]

*sips tea!*

[@zizo.williams54]

Ashley articulates her feelings so well I just-🥺🥺

[@PrettyYellaTV]

Love your Vlogs and I totally agree with the whole not feeling “wanted” I’ve learned that it’s not me, it’s just that when I have friends I always want to hang out. Among other things I have my days where I don’t want to be bothered and just be by myself. But other than that I love your hair and girl I wish you lived here in Vegas we would have a blast. Stay safe honey

[@maryj4106]

Hope you and your family are safe in Texas right now! 🙏🏾

[@STYLESHKENNA]

Hey Ashley great video as always I stopped what I was doing to watch this.. I love the gym fits.. I also needed this video bc I been feeling sad & stuck. Haven’t been motivated at all. I been feeling the same way lately & being inside most of the time don’t make it any better. Can’t wait for the pandemic to be over to get out way more. So I understand.

[@KristaV]

Whew sis! That car talk on loneliness and not feeling wanted definitely hit home for me. I appreciate your transparency, and it’s good to know I’m not the only one who struggles with that kind of thing

[@LIFEWITHDAKOTAAA]

My favorite has uploaded a vlog enjoying my Thursday night watching my fav ❤️

[@NinaBlow]

Girl yes i so feel you -- feeling lonely bc you do a lot by yourself. I realize i just got used to be alone because i was always a loner so also i would let go of certain friendships that werent serving me which again led me to be alone but now im ready to make new connections with ppl who will be my forever people. Pray the same for you! You and me need friends that see you and you see them for who you are and who they are and feel accepted wanted and loved!

[@sannasam1999]

yes. i really felt that self- realization you shared, its definitely even harder because if the pandemic. im certain we'll grow from phases like this and it's so great to let those thoughts out. sending love beautiful. we gon get through this cycle lmao

[@alexiszhane]

Girl we missed you 😍😍😍💕💕. Side note. Im loving this ponytail. So Gorgeous 😍😍💕

[@kammy7863]

I Pray your channel reaches Millions by next year. I love you!❤️

[@dantieblackbfly5443]

I love the whole loving yourself in YOUR love language. That's so clever. I'm certainly going to start modeling that.

[@AlwaysAmeera]

Same. I have been sad and tired the past week. I can’t shake it. Ugh.

[@goddessmaat9926]

When I’m sad I usually take a long bath, light candles and listen to my favorite music. Also do my nails or facial. It works every time 😀

[@Taylors64]

Can you make a “what you eat in a day“ video with all the vitamins and supplements you take included. ✨✨

[@cassandracopeland6346]

I know what you mean, I don't like feeling like a after thought either. When I see a person really don't want to be bothered with me, I just go my own way.

[@Msbgiggles21]

Oh my! That car chat was spot on and I’m a Taurus but it definitely resonated!!

[@DosesOfUniqueness]

Thank you! You made total sense! I totally relate.

[@marjoriecoleman]

I'm loving the micro links Ashley, they look soo natural on you! ❤💕💕 That's right, do what make you feel good. If you love flowers and gifts, buy yourself flowers and gifts. 💐🌹🎁 Nothing wrong with that. 💯 Your facial expressions were soo cute when you were showing the pineapples, lol. 🍍🥰

[@kamkarter8821]

Car chat was soooo relatable.