We Tried To Be "That Girl" For A Week

Joelle and Jessica share their experience trying the "that girl" lifestyle and how it affects them socially and mentally.
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[@mahima_sherry]

“That girl “ was never about an aesthetic lifestyle. It was about the “go get that life you always wanted” changes that you always wanted to make. Being “that girl” you always aspired to be. It was supposed to be motivational, but somehow it has just squared down to being an instagram trend.

[@otaku11bts23]

It’s because from the other end of the screen people just see it as another trigger or way to compare themselves. Because those girls do post, on Instagram or TikTok, just these small snippets of their life where it makes others believe they’re perfect. And either way, it can still be hard to be that person you aspire to be

[@madelinepotter5080]

Yes, absolutely! If it wasn't so heavy about posting these manicured posts online of what you're doing, then this "that girl" theme could be much healthier and less toxic than soical media has influenced it to be. Do more of this for You and Not the internet.

[@tainagutierrez8622]

I agree I decided in 2021 that social media was stopping me from reaching my goals bc id sit n aimlessly scroll for 1-3hrs n what a waste of my time that was. Now I make sure to get a workout in before i even think of social media n its helped sm.

[@randompersonp119]

Yeahhh🙄🙄🙄

[@mariakara2419]

yaaa that happens with every positive trend 😬

[@unevue4070]

Seems like being "that girl" is a full time job, but everyone can be "that woman" in their own way. ✌️❤️

[@doaebr2979]

It’s all about that ✨in their own way ✨

[@triciarose389]

I love this 🥺💕

[@lalailm]

@@triciarose389 Me too! So freaking wholesome

[@unevue4070]

@Allison Hom it’s not necessarily about how skinny or chubby you are; it’s about the whole image which tries to persuade women on what is “right”.

[@samiam5699]

Love that 👏🏼

[@keely.mcmonigle8127]

I 100% agree with the girl that ended up dropping out. I have a "that girl" lifestyle I have developed over three years, even before it was a trend or before tiktok was popular. However, I do not document my lifestyle, and even whenever I do it brings back feelings of being inadequate and such. The lifestyle is amazing, the fact that it is now a "tiktok trend" is hella toxic.

[@procrastination.incognito8845]

THISS!!!! THIS is exactly how I feel

[@essnjora9904]

This is super accurate. I feel like I'd like to do it too, but I'm not big on posting so I'll leave that out. Personal development is something that I'm constantly thinking about.

[@ksbhemlee]

exactly what i thought about it. These are really good habits, but trying to make everything a trend is SO weird.

[@madelinepotter5080]

Yes. Yes. Yes. You Nailed it.

[@kelsey2333]

I feel like doing it for yourself and doing it for social media is so different

[@ashenayee]

ironically i find that on days where im living the most like "that girl", im spending less time on social media. documenting everything and putting it online really defeats the purpose of some of this stuff, and on the flip side you feel more inclined to take extra steps to do self care when you're alone with your own thoughts and yourself than when you're online, being bombarded by everybody else's life

[@kelsey2333]

Yeah I only use KZbin and fb chat because i found a couple years ago I was really comparing my life to others online and it made me feel worse. It's just toxic for me

[@qwilla2298]

True

[@afterthought1630]

If I hear the words "aesthetically pleasing" one more time I think I'll go crazy

[@madeleine_sika]

!!! same 🥴

[@savagexlover9692]

😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@mandeep3.14]

😂😂😂

[@moanakarma5960]

Aesthetically pleasing 😁

[@afterthought1630]

@@moanakarma5960 I don't know you but I hate you

[@AerisAmore]

I think this does a good job at revealing that nobody can be "that girl" all the time. But if we try to show up for ourselves as "that girl" every once in a while then that's still a great act of self-love and doesn't need to be performed for anyone else but you; it seems that the implementation of social media is what turns it potentially toxic and stressful.

[@Medicinecabinetstealer]

This

[@apple8971]

Yes!

[@doll9763]

True

[@ritagaspar864]

this is a great observation

[@justinekim8744]

I literally do a lot of the "that girl" routine but I still feel like a frizzy, caffeinated, sleep-deprived hog. When I sleep in and do not do all those to-do lists and work out in the morning, I feel like a pampered golden goddess.

[@lightsinthesky4989]

Hun I think that's a sign that you need to take some time off, look after yourself and recoup xx

[@truly_cam]

This video brought out the true challenges of being “that girl”. As the video showed, it is not for everyone nor their lifestyle. The side we see is the cute aesthetic, but the side we should see is the real rush and chaos of the day. Thank you so much for making this video.

[@Claire-lu8hf]

I feel like the “that girl” life style requires you to financially well off and not disabled is any way. Mental illness or chronic pain would seriously impact this life style

[@abbigailcarr2725]

Yeah I even tried to pick up just a few of these habits and quickly realized… nah

[@sam-td9vc]

fr! id love to do things like this but adhd and no meds makes it tough

[@charlotte3037]

yeah but its not about doing each of these things its more about doing things that make you feel productive these folks are just doing it this way.

[@laraslove.]

I’ve been doing these sorts of activities since I got diagnosed with anxiety and when I have panic or anxiety attacksI feel fake or not actually a healthy lifestyle which sucks

[@kateysneed3359]

ik my laziness says nah

[@littledreamboat]

I’m so grateful to have grown up in a generation where people didn’t care as much about impressing everyone, especially people they don’t know. Social media really changed day to day life in a really scary way. I also feel bad for those who didn’t know a world before social media. It really was so much better back then. :/

[@yoursocialmoth]

I don't participate in posting a play by play of my life because honestly, who cares?? Most content seems shallow and fake anyway. I don't want to come off that way.

[@maryeckert1957]

I wish I was able to grow up like that. Being a 16 year old girl in high school, there is so much pressure to be perfect, to be skinny, to get perfect grades etc.

[@tainagutierrez8622]

@@maryeckert1957 i feel like its harder on teens bc all they do is scroll 24/7 but once u build ur life (not saying u hv no life) but once u r in college n work n hv serious responsibilities social media starts to not matter anymore. Ur too busy in ur own life that u wont hv time to worry abt how skinny the girls r online or whatever other ppl r doing trust it wont matter to u anymore.

[@frieda9745]

@@maryeckert1957 i'm wishing you all the best for your time in highschool and ofc your future! Been there too and I know it's exhausting but you have to stick to being yourself, doing good things for yourself and your personal growth instead of trying to prove something.

[@india-xz3ib]

@@maryeckert1957 i get youu. im 17 and i feel so much pressure from the kids around me to dress, look and act a certain way. im so ready to be done with high school lmaoo

[@chelseabartlett5520]

Do "that girls" not have jobs? Because this would be impossible if you're working 40+ and or going to school full time.

[@tiana6586]

I was wondering the same thing. I work full time and am in grad school. Eating a full meal is hard for me sometimes. I don't post as often as I want on social media, but this helped me realize I don't have to.

[@Dont.do.art.]

Not true. I work with plenty of people who are “those girls” and still are in school full time, go to the gym, and take care of themselves. Me being one of them. It’s just a lifestyle.

[@chelseabartlett5520]

@@Dont.do.art. going to the gym and taking care of yourself is one thing, this is another. I work, go to school, and workout/eat well etc... but this is unattainable, especially if you don't have generational money security. This is the kind of thing rich people can easily do, but the majority of people cant

[@sahtification]

It's inspired on girls who do social media for a job. It's a job itself

[@apriltrevino6242]

I think you would work around ur schedule

[@jilswift157]

Living this way in your everyday life is fine; but where it becomes toxic is the capturing of every aspect of the day to be seen as aspirational or what derives that persons' success.

[@reginadavis7499]

I agree totally because all the filming takes away from the moment and what you were trying to achieve

[@srishtihinduja6129]

I agree.

[@clearlyrebecca]

"It's hard to be cute." sis that is a MOOD.

[@maialovesdance]

i’m honestly so proud of jessica for acknowledging her limits and dropping out. the “that girl” challenge is all about self care, and when she realized the pressure of “self care” was maladaptive for her, she put her own needs first. you go jessica!

[@jjsegal1915]

I legit cheered at that part of the video lol so nice to see a model of someone actually taking care of themselves, listening to their needs, and ultimately pushing back on the corporatized Instagram version of "self care" that's all bland smoothies and gym selfies!

[@user-ti2zo5fl3k]

Exactly, self care by rejecting “”self care”” 😂

[@user-ti2zo5fl3k]

@@morningmoon90 I know. that’s why there’s 2 quotes around it.

[@thatbee3585]

Yes!!!! Jessica is very wise for listening to herself and being in tuned with how she feels .

[@jacqtinga9588]

Girls!!!! Just be yourself! It took me about 30 years to learn that....♥️ good demonstration

[@memorysdancer]

Absolutely 💯❤

[@Ava-nz4bn]

I’m really glad you were both able to acknowledge positive but also negative and toxic aspects of this trend! Making changes to your lifestyle should always come from a place of self reflection/a desire to do things differently or to be happier and never from a place of guilt, social pressure or comparison. Productivity and health looks and works differently for everyone, always strive to do what feels good for you! ❤️

[@deeptivijavergia7675]

I feel like this trend is pressuring and feels fake when you force yourself into it, but if you take it slow and incorporate the parts of it you life, you'll do great and enjoy it. Props to both of them for doing their best 👍👍

[@crazyd0glady295]

I actually had a 'that girl' life style like 8 or so years ago. I was up at 430 or 500 every morning to work out and I was going to school and worked and everything that went with it. I didn't really post a lot on social media but i lived the life. I was doing it because I was living with a my controlling and emotionally abusive grandmother. That amount of work doesn't feel like work when you are running away from someone.

[@sonyaberry9805]

same.. someone was controlling everything I did so what ever I did have control over (my environment, my clothes, and trying to be home as little as possible) it worked out.

[@JawharahS2]

Woah…I’m a “that girl” and you know what, I don’t do it for social media but to help with my anxiety. I think some of what “that girl” captures is control of the environment. For me, if I cannot control my environment, I will become irritable and feel lost. Of course it’s always a balance because I can’t alway control my environment.

[@soniak9439]

I am the same way and it definitely stems from anxiety for me.

[@bajabl]

Yes!!! I feel like it's one of the only things I can control in my life. Plus I have adhd and I need everything to be clean and organized for me to be productive

[@madelinepotter5080]

This is absolutely valid. These are good things in and of themselves! The prerformative pressure from social media thats attached here though is wrecking.

[@nyanteea226]

There’s actually a black mirror episode about a “that girl” who becomes to possessed by what others think about her every action that she completely loses her self and goes insane lol

[@Brwniee95]

Yess one of my fav episodes 😵‍💫

[@brynb9493]

I love Nosedive! One of my favorite Black Mirror episodes!

[@madelinepotter5080]

TBH It terrifies me that the farther we go, the More to reality that episode gets.

[@shhhh6174]

That neon pink with her hair color and skintone is amazing. 😍i love the plaid pants too.

[@Hafsah55555]

I feel like they completely blew this out of proportion. Taking like an hour in the morning to workout, journal, shower, do skincare and eat is reasonable. Then going to work or school and coming back to do something important to you whether it's learning a language or reading a book something that is educational to you. That girl is all about being the best version of yourself if you want to document it you can but its all about living a lifestyle suitable to you.

[@tiamelancholyjeoncockity]

Imo people only watch it for the minimalism and aesthetic of their videos and not actually what they do nor care about the rest. As long as the video looks clean and aesthetically pleasing ppl would like it. Yes the person in the video as well, whether it’s their skin or physique, people won’t admit it.

[@brendyfrankie]

that ginger hair color is an aesthetic in itself

[@lilidonna]

This video confirms it. Performing your life instead of just living it is weird.

[@DodoToutDoux]

YESSSS!

[@tiffanyescamillaaa]

It’s hard for me because I’ve had to perform someone I am not everyday to be safe and please others because I have no other option and it is exhausting and honestly ends up in a crash and burn

[@lilidonna]

@@tiffanyescamillaaa that sounds untenable 😢

[@drnkndmn]

besides, doing actual stuff that matters rarely goes according to the schedule...

[@lilidonna]

@@drnkndmn yup. And compromising what you’re trying to achieve to give the look of it going well is just…

[@gxddessglxup7528]

I’m glad I saw this because I was doing research so that I could create my own “that girl” routines to practice starting tomorrow. This gave me a realistic perspective and it reminded me to curate what suits my lifestyle. Thank you for this ❤️

[@diandrairawan1481]

it's only hard because you need to document everything and curate it carefully to make it look pretty. Otherwise, doing all that, minus the camera & social media, wouldn't be that bad

[@janeikawebb7324]

The reason why following a that girl routine is unhealthy is because of the your why. Its supposed to be a routine that you devised for the best you. Your cute does not have to be someone else's cute and your work out dont have to be the same either. Your routine and habite should come from a real and honest conversation with yourself. And share on social media not because you feel pressured but because its something you want to share. I used to like the phrase "that girl" because when someone says the word "that" there is no way of knowing who they are talking about until they describe the person. YOU CREATE YOUR OWN "THAT GIRL"

[@nerea_copi]

I think that the movement of -tha girl-, for me, is more about romanticism your life and add healthy habits to it than showing off and forcing your life to be perfect. I actually started some of the habits of that girl but without any pressure on myself, just working on a better version of me

[@elizethrojas3391]

I think Jessica did the right thing by shining light on the negative effects of this challenge. This type of challenge can affect anyone's mental health. It can make people feel like they are not doing enough. Be kind to yourself and your mind & body :)

[@daydreamer.1997]

What I found healthy abt this lifestyle is the emphasis on taking time to work on your mental health by journaling. Reminded me to work on that more cuz it does help me process life better, lol.

[@SincerelyTahiry]

I’m so sorry this triggered you Jess but I appreciate your honesty. 🥺🥺 When social media is your job it’s so much harder not to compare yourself and your content to other people. Especially when like u said, a lot of these aesthetics and trends are Eurocentric and don’t leave space for diverse voices. You and your content are amazing! ❤️❤️ Ps: to anyone reading this YOU ARE THAT GIRL!!! Just cuz ur life doesn’t look like these tiktoks doesn’t mean you are any less valuable.

[@emily5295]

I feel so bad that Jessica couldn’t finish the challenge cause of how hard it was for her :(

[@juliev6463]

I think she did a good job. She did what she could and when she saw how much it affected her mental health she stopped. That was really good for her and she should be proud of herself.

[@memorysdancer]

I think she did well and it's amazing and admirable that she could recognize her triggers before they became toxic and unhealthy. She did the right thing by stepping down because it was right for her own mental well being. I'm so proud of her.

[@madelinepotter5080]

It's such a valid point that just because this looks good doesn't mean it is good for you.

[@cdemp4795]

I also think it was too limiting and not genuine for her. She even said the "That Girl" breakfasts were too American and not diverse enough. I thought it was great that she made her Arepas for breakfast.

[@gracevasquez6889]

I guess I view the “that girl” trend differently than most. I from the very beginning viewed at as a way to take care of yourself and become “that girl” you’ve always wanted to become. Nothing to do with following one set of standards on how it’s supposed to be done. Not a struggle to be someone you’re not and not be perfect. Perfect is something no one will ever be. You adjust the trend to your goals that benefit you and make you your best self. Just had to get my opinion out since the first girl and somewhat of the second girl I feel went into it prejudging the whole thing. Maybe try again but with a different mindset? Just a thought. Anyways that’s all.

[@helle9075]

I think the issue is not about the trend itself, but how it is «a trend». A lot of people know it is about being the girl you have always wanted to become, but it also stems a lot from financial situations (not everyone can afford the same lifestyles, set enough time aside outside of work etc.), it also depends a lot on social media’s algorithms, because you often see the same kind of people with the same life situations. The idea of being who you truly want to be is good, but the trend does show a very specific life style that is only possible for some people, which is sad.

[@ceciliamuniz8936]

As much as I appreciate the efforts of these girls for trying to be “that girl” I feel like the meaning just went over their heads. That girl is simply showing self love and self care by breaking old and bad habits. Jessica showed a great example of that simply by dropping out because she was putting her self and her health first. “That girl” is being a better version of yourself and searching what other “that girls” eat and do throughout their day is unrealistic to you or them personally. Im not “that girl” but I’m striving to be a better version of myself mentally, physically, financially, emotionally, and spiritually for my sake and for my children. Im starting off slowly and making lists of good and healthy habits I want to incorporate and teach my kids to be healthier. Being “that girl” is about TRYING because we’re all going to make mistakes and sometime revert to our old ways but the more you try the better you get at it. Start slowly and figure out how to be THE BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF (because this is also for males) without it stressing you out.

[@sisterpreneurindonesia5207]

I love how honest they are..to just be real about the experience that isnt fulfilling for them. Thank u for sharing with us

[@thatbee3585]

I’m not on social media and I’m happy about it. I wake up around around 5:30 to be at work at 6am .

[@melissabaltazarf]

The main problem I see here, compared to other videos trying to be "that girl", is that these girls focus waaay too much on Social media, when the routine was supposed to help you focus on your mental and physical health😑🤦🏻‍♀️ I mean, what's the point of doing it if it's just to increase your followers?! 🤔🤔🤔

[@daiseeloveshellokitt]

Lmaooo this video really shows how your perspective changes things

[@iamdevil_369]

Yep😳😌😌😌😌😌😌😌🇮🇳💜🌹

[@LizzyLiz464]

Yes ❤

[@charl7346]

Yes. My perspective on the 'that girl' trend is that it's motivating and showing a healthy lifestyle. I've been much more motivated to eat healthier and exercise after this trend. Having a positive perspective is beneficial.

[@Va_lle]

Actually before the trend appeared my therapist and I made a similar morning routine to help me with my anxiety. It worked for me :)))

[@galaxy_stay]

Everyone please remember that being “that girl” is different for everyone. For me, being “that girl” is about becoming the best version of yourself and reaching your happiest state. It’s not about how you look or how aesthetic your life is. It’s about practicing good habits and taking time to do things for yourself. For everyone who is trying to become their own version of “that girl” you can do it, believe in yourself, good luck. ❤️

[@moneystrb22]

I think that girl is all about self-discipline and some people just don’t have it. Sticking to a plan is hard and that’s what so rewarding about it. I think the girl that gave up just can’t get past the struggle with things and into the “results” portion of creating a new life for yourself. I think it divides people into hyper-successful and not. To have it all you need crazy self-discipline and motivation to get crazy results. Nothing in life that’s worthwhile comes easy.

[@Sweaterlatethannever]

I was so proud of her for stepping out of the challenge for her own mental health. Too often are we pressured to not only be perfect, but stick through it no matter what. Mental health is too underrated!

[@SummerFilmsit]

Jessica, I hope you feel so much love and support. Your efforts are inspiring. Thank you for keeping it real, as always!💫

[@Selangel]

I feel there are a lot of women out there that are a "That Girl", the only difference is that they don't post about it...I myself work a professional corporate job (anywhere from 10-12hr days) and have made it a part of my lifestyle to make it a point to exercise regularly, prep healthy meals for my week, shop for bomb a** clothes with my hard earned money and manage my home by maintaining it's cleanliness. It is work and takes discipline but if you are deciding to make things in your life that are very important to you, whatever that may be, as a priority and incorporate into your everyday routine, then you too are THAT GIRL. Live the life that makes you happy without the pressure of posting about it everyday.

[@rachelhannan5949]

This is completely representative of privilege- most women could never do this as they may have children running under their feet, no time for "aesthetic" food (really just a piece of toast on the run) and no extra cash to spend on fancy gyms

[@priyadarshinigoswami513]

Having children is a choice though. Not a privilege/non-privilege thing. If you choose to have children, you choose the inconveniences that come with it.

[@maibennben3701]

You can choose whether you want children or not, people who are child free are not privileged, they simply chose not to take responsibility for other human beings

[@rachelhannan5949]

@@priyadarshinigoswami513 yes- I chose not to have children.

[@jaigurudeva00m]

@@priyadarshinigoswami513 not in South America lol

[@rolefebre]

Jessica you are "that girl" I see you as a confident independent person with your own very creative and fun style. You never know who is looking to you as "that girl" for some inspo. Keep your head up and straighten that crown QUEEN!!!!

[@allisonmb1930]

Both of these women have awesome style and personalities. Honestly, their “real” selves seem pretty aspirational to me.

[@m.e.kitson2188]

It does set high standards everything everyone does nowadays is done for approval unfortunately

[@charl7346]

Eating healthy, exercising and journaling for mental health are not high standards. They are achievable and honestly quite motivating for people who sit at home all day like myself. This challenge has really made me step up my game and improve my life.

[@sofiamarieestadilla360]

Jessica looks good on her new hair 🥰

[@lunadawson3034]

I absolutely loved the highlights of the things that stand in the way of the 15 minute snapshot (i.e. all of the behind the scenes "I didnt do my dishes before making this smoothie") that get glossed over for social media aesthetics

[@katherinewinkler8847]

I think where it went wrong is the social media part ... There was so much attention to things being aestheticly pleasing.. Even though people have turned it into that sort of thing... its more about being the best version of you , being productive and being the type of girl you want to be ... Not comparing if your smoothie looks as pretty as someone else's.

[@DIVAatreyi]

the social media aspect of it can be rlly toxic, but without it, its actually had a positive impact on my life

[@xoShannonNicolexo]

I love how authentic and vulnerable Jess is in every video! Appreciate that woman sooo much!!!

[@ashleyjaff24]

the whole if you didnt post it it didn't happen mindset is something I'm trying to unlearn. but i agree on how journaling helps us process the things that happen to us and the passing of time. and im glad you guys prioritized your mental health over the experiment because your well being comes first. Stay blessed!

[@samantadombrovska5752]

this actually motivated me, thank you for this video :) 🙌🏼

[@GadgetsGearCoffee]

I made a joke"that girl" video on my channel which is my realistic that girl. It includes, sloth-ing my way out of bed. Honestly, whatever makes anyone feel amazing and productive, you do you! My morning routine (which I also made a video about) does NOT consist of me waking up at 5 am. But my place is usually tidy and very designer-ish cuz I like that stuff and it makes me feel good - it's not for the gram, it's for IRL. If "that girl" makes you feel bad, stop following those people, stop looking outwards, look inwards and work on you without social media and outward validation because that will NEVER have a good outcome. But being "that girl" isn't inherently bad or toxic, it's how we latch onto those things and give it significance and COMPARE that's the problem.

[@upcyclesarah7439]

I obviously posted the comment about Jessica before I saw that she had dropped out. That makes me sad. I was rooting for you! We were all rooting for you!

[@ridita5221]

This is much better than other videos, because you did it longer and I can see two versions. It's true that being that girl is a full time job. A job or school doesn't fit to that routines. So I have to win the lottery to be that girl.

[@merveillekabamba3529]

First comment!!!! Yayyyy. Its cute seeing new faces in buzzfeed

[@iamdevil_369]

Lucky guy😏, ......................🦄🇮🇳🌹

[@maggotbitch]

These aren't new faces

[@miau3280]

I always wonder what these girls that live this lifestyle do for work. I work 40 hours a week in retail, and I always feel so down about not being productive enough in other aspects of my life. A lot of the time I just want to rest. And that’s okay. Thank you for making this video. Thanks Jess especially.

[@Profound_desperado_]

The pink and green outfit is so so so so cute 🧚🏼‍♀️

[@Maria-qh5nc]

Great video! I personally don't watch those ,,how to be that girl" videos because I always feel bad afterwards even though I'm a great person.. Everyone should create their own ,,that girl persona".

[@daydreamer.1997]

Agreed 👍 kinda goes hand in hand with the whole "romanticize your life" trend - find beauty in the mundane. It's your life so post whatever brings you joy !!!

[@Maria-qh5nc]

@@daydreamer.1997 Yeah you're right!

[@zourou319]

It doesn't have to be exactly like what you see on social media, you can find your own version of that girl. ❤

[@gettingthrough]

I’m confused. Is part of being “that girl” require you to post everything? I think that’s the part that takes up most time. Also, journaling, keeping active, making breakfast…seem like normal things.

[@rheag9045]

I didn't know that an 'aesthetically pleasing' lifestyle followed by a woman was the 'that girl' trend. But the minute I read the title of this video, I immediately knew what it was about. Somewhere I've felt the pressure to include this kind of lifestyle but I haven't been able to and thanks to this video, I know that I'm better off doing what I'm best at in my own way!

[@Username-cf5ny]

Joelle’s attitude the whole video is perfection 🥰😇💞🥺💕

[@Lamich93]

I think they should redo it but with the idea of how do i get to most out of myself/day. And what would the best version of myself look like/ do. And forget to social media part. Being that girl is for yourself and your journey.

[@faureamour]

Good on Jessica for tapping out and sharing the reasons. Normalize being mostly honest.

[@Jennathegreenwitch]

About six months ago I started adopting some habits of that girl lifestyle just because I felt like my life was entirely work and college. I felt like I’d lost me. I was working overnights for about six months and I hadn’t seen any of my friends except for my husband and even then I barely saw him. First I started learning a new language. It made me feel better about myself to stretch my mind. I also started journaling in a journal called new mindset who dis? In addition I started reading 4 chapters of my Bible each day since I wasn’t finding time to enrich my spiritual life which is super important to me. I also amped up my skincare - I took the time to understand what my skin needs and when. There are so many habits that that girl has that I don’t have time for, but at least I feel more fulfilled with the changes I have made.

[@Nda78240]

this is so realistic lmaoo whenever i do the that girl trend it feels like im not myself but its nice to finally be "healthy" and "productive" for once. thank you for being real

[@anniejay3307]

I appreciate the honesty with dropping out. if something is toxic for you, drop it! I respect you

[@rheannonlonghurst2953]

Jessica's hair looks so good!

[@Nia413]

Kudos to Jessica for putting her mental health first 👏👏👏👏

[@NirvanaChavoshi]

I love the fact that she felt comfortable enough to leave the challenge and priorities her mental health. You don't need to put yourself in danger because of content or views. Nobody should and that was inspirng.

[@iamdevil_369]

Love from Haryana (India🇮🇳)🥰🌹

[@emmettofswedeland]

I hope people realize that being constantly busy is not the same as being productive, and if you're getting stressed about being healthy, you're not being healthy.

[@Vickylola76]

Loved watching this video I think this is a really fun challenge 🥰🥰🥰

[@fedrickwilliam153]

Hi Vicky

[@rileymccarthy7194]

This was beyond refreshing! Thank you ladiessssss

[@n.mccain5163]

Honestly depends on what you see value in. Most don’t see value in selfcare and just keep pushing themselves. It’s good to do some of these things every once in a while for your mental health. Plus it holds you accountable for anything you need to do and be productive. However, it can be tiring to do this everyday for some because it will start to feel like a job. Making it become stressful for some as well. I think a “That Girl” should be doing what works for you and whatever helps you reach your goals.

[@allisonvonsee5428]

Be your own that girl. Everyones that girl is different. Do what is good for you / your mental health

[@venuscherop6280]

it would be so amazing to do a side by side of their actual routines

[@Alena-cz7hj]

Joelle is SO GORGEOUS ❤️

[@alifmunazila8627]

Take your time, Jessica ☹️ your health is the MOST important thing in the world. Love u ❤️

[@MsRainisim]

This challenge can be toxic as it forces the feeling that it’s necessary to post and share every moment of your life on social media. It makes you compare your life to others. However living as “that girl” just for yourself (without feeding into the pressure of Social) is a great way to boost your self confidence and feel good about yourself

[@natalienickals3676]

I definitely understand how this trend can be toxic. Though, for me it’s motivating. When I don’t want to do something I know I should because I’m lazy I say in my head “what would that girl do?” As in the version of me I want to be… and I do the thing.

[@azizaboudellal6821]

Wow...it looks like hard work but it was interesting to have your insights. I guess there are a few positive habits that one can develop gradually. I should start to implement a few of them... But thanks guys, you've made it fun and I have subscribed to your channel 😊

[@kajitani13]

Jessica already the 'that girl' damnn the aesthetics... i love Jessica's apartment so much. so cute

[@mirrorball91]

not that girl giving up after not even two days LMAOO

[@AKbaby89]

Omg I feel so bad that Jessica had to stop the challenge because it was too triggering for her. I hope she's doing better now💝💝💝

[@junipurr_rayne]

I look at it this way.. If the "that girl" routine is actually helpful to that individual, then WHO CARES what they're doing? Just like medication, therapy and literally EVERYTHING in life, one way of life doesn't work for every single human. Do your own thing, let other's do their own thing, and all will be just fine! Really simple. Speaking as someone who definitely will never be a "that girl" routine person, rock it if it works for you!

[@keymepx4428]

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[@charl7346]

Thank you!! These beautiful 'that girl's are just living their best life. I'm honestly really motivated seeing them take care of themselves like that

[@elodiejarillot1092]

honestly i think that being “that girl” is rather toxic and stressful . I mean yes, i would be a love productive person and stay organised, but social media plays a huge role, and people are only seeing the good side and not the chaos. I thoroughly agree with the girl who wanted to drop out of the challenge. She knows her limits and knows whats best for her.

[@mayble8327]

I completely understand feeling the pressure for is to be ascetically pleasing, although it is nice to treat yourself, maybe try doing it but not posting for it.

[@kennedy1296]

Jessica is absolutely gorgeous HER HAIR 😍😍😍😍😍

[@muffycrosswire]

I’m exhausted just watching up until the end of day one 😩

[@kelsey2333]

I love Jessica shes so real and sweet

[@zourou319]

It's only unrealistic if you're not willing to put in the time and effort 😉 Y'all, we ought to take good care of ourselves. We only get one body. Also some of the details vary from person to person. Don't do it for the trend or a pretty instagram, do it for you 💕

[@xoxoshahirah]

I feel its easier to be that girl when I’m away from social media. When I do a social media detox, I am doing all this for myself and I feel good about it. I still do take photos and videos of my lifestyle but I don’t post it. I feel social media makes me overthink like am I showing off and what ppl think of what I posted.

[@leilael8640]

jessica is a breath of fresh air! i felt the same way

[@felicityhiggins5959]

Jessica’s hair is sooo cute!!! I love that color!