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[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

Nothing like kicking back with a nice cool Beveridge on a Wednesday evening in Australia. Lol

[@tizz.89]

Lol I feel ya . Except maybe too many beveridge lastnight, the liquid kind , can't remember the last 30mins of episode haha or maybe I do remember. Hmm🤔

[@hailss1772]

The live show was a day I will NEVER forget! It was so awesome to meet you, Becca, Deb, your dad, and other viewers/listeners of your podcast. Thank you for an amazing day and being so genuine and sweet! It's nice when you meet people you have seen on the internet and they are very humble and sincere in everything they do. It was nice to share that experience with you! ❤❤

[@ssnarine]

I came to the live! Your mom was sooo sweet hahah and Shannon, youre just as amazing as you are on camera! Ty for the limited edition hat, such an amazing fit🥹 ur such a sweet soul. Can’t wait to see how the live video comes out!

[@biancamarlow8772]

I went to Creekview HS same time Shannon went to Hebron. Super conservative parents, and watching you on and off over the years is giving me strength to finally be honest to my family about who I am. Keep doing what you’re doing. You never know who you can help. ❤ The solo pods are great btw.

[@manisha3455]

crazy, went to frisco schools. insane how many people are from dfw here

[@ClaireWedgeworth]

*Shannon for President💅🏻 that speech at the end was incredible🙏🏻 never seen Shannon be so passionate and vocal, love that this pod is giving her the confidence to truly express herself🙌🏻💕*

[@jazminespeight6539]

Thank you Shannon for doing this podcast and speaking about issues within the queer community that need to be discussed 😊. As a queer woman, I came out when I was 26, and now at 32 currently live in a small town where there is not much queer representation or community so this podcast is something I look forward to!!!! Keep up the great work. THANK YOU!!!!!

[@lezzyrae13]

The live show was such a blast!! Gf and I had so much fun and met such amazing people! Thank you to you and Patreon for putting that together 🙌

[@hmmcms1]

Don’t be afraid to speak out like you did❤

[@CourtneyLeighannaE]

Genuinely really appreciate you talking about the getting older thing cause its something i constantly battle with. I've been terrified of turning 30 since i was like 13 😅 and its only 6 months away 😭😭😭 I'm very insecure about the way I look and adding aging to the equation sucks.

[@elliefrangoulis2228]

I think the term baby gay is for lesbians that haven’t been in love before and experienced those milestones that are important to emotional maturation and development. I personally feel this was relatable to me coming out at 25 and for the first time experiencing love and loss and everything that comes with it. It’s also known as “delayed adolescence” by psychologists. Would it be nice if that wasn’t the case and we were all at the same level? Yes. But unfortunately it’s not that way. I did feel as though I was at a disadvantage of being even unprepared for love and being taken advantage of or not knowing how to protect myself during my first love experience. There are toxic lesbians that rely on that. And that is really sad for any gender or sexuality really. To be prayed on or even seen as less attractive because you don’t know your self yet and you’re so new to everything. There are so many developmental stages you go through during this stage and transition of the first love etc. I felt like I was manipulated because I basically didn’t know what was happening to me and what I was feeling and everything was so new. I had completely unrealistic expectations which were more realistic to a teenager who is experiencing their first love for the first time. And I remembered all my friends in high school going through these stages ten years ago. That is a loss in itself and that’s why I think it’s a crucial term for the community. Because the more open and accepting we become as a culture the smaller this time gap will become in terms of “coming out” until coming out isn’t really a thing and we all get to experience our first crushes and relationships and milestones in “real time” like everyone else with our peers and as part of our early development. If you never have to live as not yourself the less traumatic it is as an experience. That would be the end goal. That there is no “coming out” and no time gaps in being who we are. No loss of time. No “adult babies”. There is some truth to that. Of course it’s not to be taken literally as “infantilisation” but in a way your maturation is governed by your milestones and certain key life experiences where you learn about the world and about life. I didn’t even know what love was and what love felt like. My lack of awareness about romantic relationships was similar to that of a teenager.

[@debbiebeveridge1883]

I think the end is very powerful and true. You need to support each other. We allies need to help, too. I hope everyone goes to vote!

[@sandrabon1477]

Yes i agree, vote blue from the netherlands 😊

[@laurentipping8096]

Deb you're the cutest. Thank you for being an ally, we love you❤️

[@someonesomehow379]

we love u and shannon!! sending u hugss

[@samanthaluv7]

THANK YOUUUUU FOR SAYING WHAT YOU DID ABOUT THE TERM BABY GAY. It’s always felt weird to me and you perfectly put into words what I was feeling. I completely agree and resonate with what you said ❤

[@nicolebenitez272]

Bottom line, we need each other 🫶🏼. The live event was so amazing! You were so endearing and felt so genuine. We felt so special. Patreon set the stage. We got to chat with your mom and she was great. Happy I had the opportunity to thank her for being a mom in our community. Blessed I was able to thank you for being such a positive voice for this community and the younger generation. Steadfast my friend, I feel a shift is about to happen.

[@Cathy15155]

Wow great chat. I resonated with all topics(maybe not whittling). Especially the convo around labels. As an older lesbian I’ve had to use google sooo much the last few months just to understand the terms flying around. In my day you were either gay or you weren’t period! I see how they can be important but I think we’ve become too dependent on them. I won’t comment on aging, it’ll be a surprise for you all. But if you want my experience of it reach out to me 😂

[@emmamcphearson9942]

yesss the end is amazing!!!!! i honestly have been using terms like baby gay frequently but each time i do i feel kinda uncomfortable deep down. i agree it’s so invalidating for those who are also called “late bloomers” because it’s OKAY that you come out whenever however… you haven’t missed out it’s just you needed that time to get to where you are now. and as someone who came out later it does feel like people who knew when they were younger are ‘better’ in some way but that’s just so unnecessary to make people within our community feel lesser. thanks for talking about this shannon

[@L00kninjas]

I feel very strongly about the term "baby gay" and kinda wanted to have Shannon do a full Ted talk on it. On WHY IT ISN'T A PHRASE TO USE UNLESS THAT PERSON CHOOSES IT! Absolutely loved that bit of conversation. Also may be a bit of a pet peeve since I'm the "baby" of the family as the youngest and as an adult I'm bound and determined to not be referred to as a baby anything.

[@WritingRN2]

Okay, so just finished watching (I watch EVERY episode, BTW-no skips) and I LOVED your "soapbox" moment. It gave me goosebumps because you were so passionate about everything. I felt like I saw YOU, not that you aren't always YOU, but I just mean I felt like I saw the you that you are when you're talking to your closest friends. I really felt that moment in my soul. I've said it many times because I love saying I'm queer, but as someone who came out as Bi last year, I would call myself a "baby bi" because of hearing others say that, but it always made me cringe a bit because I too feel like that's invalidating. I've always known I was queer, but just didn't allow myself to be in it until now. And I agree completely, we don't need divisive behavior or terms in this world, especially not now. We really do need each other. I also loved when you said the only person who needs to validate your queerness is you, and no one else. Because as someone newly out, I am ALWAYS feeling like I'm not showing my queerness enough. But I know that queerness comes in all forms, and I respect that. I feel like being queer is like my experience of being black, and what I mean as a POC is, we are not ALL one thing. We aren't a stereotype, we represent many types, even though people on the outside looking in think we are only one thing. Sorry, to be rambly, but it's like a stream of consciousness that would be easier for me to say out loud, but alas...it's the comment section. Anyway, long comment short, I just wish people could understand that queerness is vast. It doesn't have to be some stereotypical thing that people try to make it. Thank you so so much for always being so insightful about the nuances of being queer. And thank you for being so passionate about kindness to ourselves and each other, especially in the queer community. I appreciate you, Shannon.

[@ashleybriguet]

Would love to see Soph mosca on the podcast

[@Jordan-jag06]

Hahahaha wait I swear Cady said “sometimes I have bad breath in the mornings” but now I’m gonna have to google it bc I’m dead at you saying dry weenuses 😂

[@nowthisisliving]

i think ur right

[@Jordan-jag06]

ok yes can confirm she said bad breath lmao but love your rendition too

[@chloesaxby3143]

I'm sure I've heard someone saying they have dry wenuses in a film once! Not a clue what film though

[@kibblesbball]

This episode was everything I needed. Please continue and stay on your soap box! As many as people say the queer community is so kind and welcoming they are just as unaccepting and judgmental. We all need each other so why alnot actually be a more accepting community?! I think you should keep talking about these touchy topics that not everyone lovessss but girl it is the truth!! This episode was chefs kiss!

[@fallingformenow]

I feel like you already know how I felt about it but I REALLY REALLY REALLY loved the live show! There were so many incredible things about it but you seemed so in your element and so professional and confident in your role and I just had this moment where it hit me you're a podcaster now if that makes sense? Like you're not just youtuber/content creator/main lesbian Shannon anymore who talked to us for an hour every week and that was cool because you're you but you're an ACTUAL podcaster who is amazing at it. Anyways, I love you so much and I'm so happy I got to meet you!

[@lisacorr]

As an Italian, I'll have to teach you how to pronounce all of the pasta shapes 😂😂😂 also, definitely visit Tuscany and Lake Garda 🤌🏻🤌🏻

[@Beaudehaas]

Tuscany is so nice! Also the food there 🤌🏼

[@saramariebontorin]

Shannon I’m italian and I’m strongly suggesting you to try FUSILLI. It’s my favorite type of pasta. Btw, your podcast is incredible and I thank you for your empathy, curiosity and creativity. Love you and pleaseeeee come back to Italy!

[@Kat-qd2pn]

Thank you so much for making such an inspirational speech at the end of this. Change definitely can start with one person and by talking about these things and calling out things you see online you will only inspire more people to come together and also find the courage to do so and create a ripple effect.

[@anikarahman193]

Normally solo episodes stress me out (on any podcast) because of the stress it puts on the host to talk/entertain but I enjoyed this episode. Great podcasting shan ❤

[@lisacorr]

I could listen to you all day. I've never related to someone's opinions/ideals more. I wish I had found your content sooner, but hey I'm here now 😊

[@gracey95]

Speech at the end got me jazzed

[@tenzero5274]

no whittling pics ive been scammed :(

[@JOOceBoxes]

LIKE RIGHT lmao

[@isabellerdgz]

sameee was excited

[@nowthisisliving]

OMG! i need to talk to the editor of this episode (it was me)…. im sorry!!!! i’ll post them on instagram story today 😭

[@stephclayton9952]

It’s been four hours and still no whittling pics. Scammed x2

[@adelinetillement9305]

I ran to my phone to see them, and went back a few second, your comment saved me from believing I somehow have missed them 😅

[@uscitizen3252]

I was at your Patreon event and had a blast! Love the hat and poster, too.

[@deborahsnyder9398]

Love your podcasts by yourself, keep it coming Shannon ❤️

[@JuliaKing-b9h]

Shannnonnn, as a neurodivergent, lesbian whittler myself, I ALMOST brought you a cut glove to wear while whittling when I came to the live show…but I didn’t because I didn’t want to look like a crazy fan girl. I should have just done it for the sake of your fingers lol

[@anikarahman193]

I appreciate the conversation about being open to learning and discussion. It's something Ashley gavin has also talked about and I think more people need to hear it. Giving others room for grace or creating a respectful teachable moment can really go a long way. We were/are all ignorant about something until we're not. I think the world would be a better place if people had open minded dialog about what they disagree on. Listening and sharing their perspectives. Thank you shannon for speaking to this. ❤

[@re_imagineyourlife]

agreed

[@Hoodlum467]

So I’m a 20 year old masc lesbian who is pretty short and stocky (gonna need that physical description for later). I just came out to my very religious 53 year old parents. My mom hasn’t said much other than she “had me in her womb for 9 months” and that she “still loves me”. My Dad on the other hand the night I came out to him said that he really wants me to think about it before I go be with a woman. He said he hoped I find a good man and that if I were to “choose” to be with a woman he would wanna meet her. He said I should pray on it and just keep moving forward with college and work. Well I went on a trip for a week and came back after our first talk. I could tell he was being weird so one night I sat in the living room and we had on the Olympics and he proceeded to tell me that my sister was “berating him” about if I was gay and he said to my older sister who is 27 that she should just come talk to me about it. I got mad because I’ve been close to my sister forever and if she knew I was gay I don’t know if she ever let me see my nephew or even want to be around me. Well that conversation led back into another about my dad’s views on homosexuality and he said “I don’t think that would be a good life decision for you” (like it’s a choice???) and “I don’t think I can watch it happen” which to me kinda sounds a little bit like a 180 from the first conversation. He also said the reason why I “think” I’m gay is because I’ve always been “bigger” and if I just hit the gym harder than I usually do and if I grew out my hair (I have a mullet) “men would start noticing me more”. My brain is going multiple different directions and I don’t know what to do. I just started fully accepting that it’s okay to be a lesbian. I’m not gonna burn up in hell for loving another fully consenting adult. So having my parents not accepting me kinda dragged the rug right out from under me. It’s like my brain is reverting back to you can try to be straight to make them happy. But that wouldn’t make me happy at all so that’s not even an option. It’s weird how it’s making me question myself again. I’ve never had any experience with anyone, I haven’t even had my first kiss yet. So I question if my queerness is even valid when I have no hard evidence besides the fact that I think they are beautiful and I want to marry one? When I type it out it sounds dumb because like duh you’re gay.. but if it’s so obvious why don’t my parents get that it’s not a choice or something to be debated to everyone else? Why do I feel like I’m questioning if I’m queer again? Another thing that’s bothering me is part of me also wants to defend my queerness to them but I realize that’s maybe not a good idea but part of me wants to shake my dad and scream I LIKE WOMEN FOR CHRISTS SAKE. Like I just wanna be with a woman and I know that if I had a girlfriend and they were saying this stuff about her I would NOT be having it but because it’s me I’m letting it slide.. I still live at home and I am so sure but unsure about everything . I hope this makes at least a little bit of sense. I spent my entire life in the Bible Belt and went to Denver a couple weeks back and never felt more validated by being around other queer people. Just wish I could find some solid ground to stand on. If you have any advice or questions from this long winded explanation please let me know.

[@Thea-dz1fs]

Just go and find a girl, have fun, enjoy your life. You can’t go dating some guy just to make your parents happy! Don’t waste your youth, enjoy love as much as you can!

[@debbiebeveridge1883]

I made a video on Shannon’s KZbin a while ago addressing the issue with parents or others not accepting this. Think about how long it’s taken you to understand and accept this for yourself. Even if they don’t understand and accept this now, hopefully over time they will. You’re not alone. From comments, I’ve seen this turn around for lots of people in the community.😘

[@kthompson09]

If it’s any consolation, I question myself all the time even though I always come back to the same conclusion. It can be so so hard to live without your parents’ approval. You’re not alone 🫶🏼

[@ltrillium1000]

I love when parents consider being queer a choice. Ask them when they decided to be straight and see what answer they give you.

[@Hoodlum467]

@@debbiebeveridge1883 Sometimes it’s hard to remember that it’s their first time here too. I’m really trying to be more lenient with them on this especially because my dad told me he would need some time. But some days it just really hard to be around them when they act like it’s my fault I don’t wanna be with a man. But you’re right it might turn around. It’ll take more time because even I’m still trying to figure myself out. Thanks you Deb! I have so much love to your family and Shannon! ❤️❤️

[@AMB765]

Awesome job! The ending "soap box" was right on the money. If we don't help each other or support each other nobody else is going to either. If we stay focused and united, we can not be ignored.

[@re_imagineyourlife]

this is key :)

[@manuvlogsonyt]

I love your solo episodes! Keep them up 🥰

[@ALIEN3966D]

Congratulations Shannon on getting your new place I'm also jazzed hahahaha😂 😁👍

[@freyajane1291]

So I called myself a "baby gay" literally last week because it just felt like the easiest way to explain where I'm at...HOWEVER...your points are so valid and it's a perspective I hadn't even thought about so PLEASE keep saying the things you're scared to say because it's SO helpful. Would defo think twice before saying it again. Always thankful for this podcast ❤

[@chloeairelle]

I'm in Lyon, France ! Happy to meet you !

[@willowtree_28]

I really liked the last 15min of this episode a lot! Very important topics brought across in a very respectful way. Thank you Shannon. We really need to stick together while holding each other accountable. I also don't like the term "baby gay" since I feel it's belittling and unkind. It makes me personally want to crawl back into the closet since I do not want to be called immature at something or perceived as a beginner who is pitied for it at the age of 35. I may not have had experiences with women before but I have lived on this planet for 35 years and am therefore not a baby. If I started a painting class tomorrow no one would call me a baby-painter. That would be considered rude and rightfully so.

[@The-Labbed-Life]

Always love a solo podcast! I'm glad to listen to someone about the term Baby gay, I always thought it was a weird term to describe someone. Gonna try it but if someone listens to Shannon and lives in Barcelona, Spain, let's connect! I feel like I'm the only European in here 🤣

[@dfire13]

Wow! So powerful ending!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you for bringing it up❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@cassyunicorn99]

I love your solo episodes. I’d love to see Royal and the serpent on the pod!

[@ladyfatcatmccatterson]

Your perspective is wonderful, and I love you. (This is the first video I see from you, I came from "Made It Out")

[@bumper-t3c]

Is "baby gay" so controversial? I don't think it is one of the big things dividing the gay community, and I don't think it's derogatory or belittling? I think it's really welcoming to a new member of the family, like a new baby. And I've only seen it used beneficially, as in people being soothed when they think they made a gaffe or they are super nervous or whatever and people say "It's ok, you're just being a baby gay we get it." Or I often see at readings and stuff (I'm a nerd!), an audience member will preface a question by saying "I'm a baby gay" and people usually kind of cheer and say "Welcome!" It's also useful to help people make sense of new experiences and feelings. I don't think it diminishes anyone's queerness, you can be a baby gay at any age. You are right that there are discussions with people worrying about their first queer sexual experiences, and there are jaded biphobic folks who don't want to date a newly out bi women, and both of those things need to be addressed, but the term "baby gay" isn't intrinsically linked to those instances...at all? It's used much more widely than that and generally used with love.

[@bombadillo2]

No, it's not. It's endearing and always has been. Shannon is creating a problem where there isn't one.

[@mistrock322]

Shannon! You are young boo! I get that we hate aging but I encourage you to remind yourself that you are in your 30's ;)

[@Scarly373]

Love the speaking more freely! When i was a baby gay at 30, it was more a term of endearment and I'd sometimes refer to myself as that if i was asking a question. But i used it toungue in cheek and its an easy/quick way to give basic backround on where youre coming from. However, it was nevwr used negatively towards me and i never discounted myself when i used it. After all, I've lived a lot of life, and (i dont mean to be crude) had a ton of sex (got mormon married at 20). I figured, if i could be good at straight sex, I'll be pretty damn good at gay sex because now i actually like it, plus I'm a woman so that learning curve is gone. Some people describe themselves as baby gays, in an apologetic or confessional tone. Own it! Enjoy the phase! Or don't tell anybody, they're not entitled to know. I think older late-in-lifers encounter negativity more often. Especially, late-bloomers who were married and have kids. Maybe they think we had it easy living as straight Idk. We all have challenges. Let's give each other grace and vote for the gay agenda! 😅

[@bombadillo2]

It's always been a term of endearment. Like, it is NOT a slur, and we don't need to create a problem where there isn't one! (I also came out at 30 -- congrats!!!)

[@iramundi6612]

in Italy I recommend you visit the Liguria region, in which there are very characteristic towns near the 5 lands such as Portovenere, Tellaro, Lerici. from there you can then move to Tuscany, another very beautiful region.

[@CourtneyLeighannaE]

Come to England for a live ep! But outside of london. Come somewhere different!! It'll be so fun!

[@ArtichokeHunter]

i think like any other label, people can choose if they like and identify with the term "baby gay" or not. if people resonate with it and want to use it for themselves, good for them, that's valid and plenty of people, recently out or out for decades, haven't dated before? i don't get why we need to distance newly out people from people who are new to dating, these are separate groups but they overlap

[@ruthsdyspraxiacontent]

Totally agree with your end bit re) "baby gay", labels, how we must support and learn from eachother and have conversations to learn rather than jump to comments like 'you're wrong i'm right'. I've noticed it get worse over time this way too and hope more people are brave and speak out like you. Like you say, our legal rights in America (and UK was 2014 for marriage) are so recent and fragile in a way, we need to always remember that. And how long we have been fighting for, since the beginning. Do take care of yourself after sharing this

[@anikarahman193]

House tour on patreon? 👀 haha congrats on the new place 👏 🎉

[@MiaJanjic-ob6wz]

Everything thing about this episode is awesome, but the lighting is the best one yet 🫣🫣🫣

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

A amazing episode you been doing amazing work Shannon appreciate and love you so much thank you ❤ and absolutely love a solo episode feels like im reconnecting and catching up with one of good friends youre the best this podcast helps me with my anxiety and i absolute agree with u with the term baby gay i dont like it either well said Shannon

[@erinleigh696]

For suggestions of places to go in Italy I would really recommend Capri! It's an island so you have to get a ferry over but it's gorgeous there.

[@delaynelauder5494]

I loved the discussion about labels and coming out later, as a pansexual who didn’t come out/date some of the same sex until my late 20s I was so nervous about people thinking I was inexperienced

[@saracii]

tuscany is what you're looking for shan!!

[@CourtneyLeighannaE]

If you go back to italy, I dont recommend pisa personally but i really liked Naples and visiting Pompeii, and the outskirts of Rome, you can find some really beautiful food spots. I didn't like Venice but i was sick so that probably dampened the experience a lil.

[@caitlynl7213]

please do a meet up tour lol, if you were to host meets ups in all the major cities (not just la or ny pls), it would help us so much and would be so fun

[@Jordan-jag06]

excited for the patreon footage !!! also I hope you are able to speak more freely on your pod in the future bc I get what you’re saying. I think the whole virtual barrier makes things more challenging bc people who watch/comment don’t REALLY know you (although I do think due to your long-standing online presence and the form of your content, we/they prolly know you better than a lot of other public figures), so they don’t always know exactly what you mean, where you’re coming from, or where your heart is. there will always be those who misinterpret/misunderstand, sometimes intentionally and sometimes unintentionally. what sucks is those comments always seem to linger and outweigh the others when it comes to taking up headspace, esp for someone who is a chronic people pleaser. the same thing could be said about their comments too tho, bc you probably don’t know them on a personal level either, so maybe their feedback comes off harsher than intended or something. Idk the internet is hard man.

[@Jordan-jag06]

like even this might not have come off how I wanted it to; reading it back it doesn’t seem as nice as I meant it to be lmao

[@tizz.89]

It's not mean at all lol. . And it makes sense. Totally understand how knowing and thinking about something then putting it in words doesn't come out how you truly intended...however.. I feel for Shannon , must be so much to want to say , but unable to due to her life an privacy/others and the fear of being picked apart by those who do that, or fear of offending, cancelling etc... I give it up to Shannon, to be here this long and not thrown it in , that's strength right there. I'd crumble at the first misunderstanding, bad comment lol

[@Jordan-jag06]

@@tizz.89 okay good, I’m glad you got what I was trying to say! and yes I agree. people envy influencers but it’s definitely a “grass is always greener” situation bc I think it’d be extremely difficult a lot of the time.

[@stormshuppert574]

South bend, Indiana! & Shannon, hopefully you’ve booked Lauren Sanderson for me 🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@b_itiswhatitisb514]

Love your podcast 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@b_itiswhatitisb514]

Shannon I really like the way you think!! You’re so knowledgeable!! Much love and respect ✊🤍 Also shout out to your mom!! Your mom is so sweet!! Hi Deb!! You’re a great mother!! Much love and respect ❤

[@debbiebeveridge1883]

Thank you so much!😘

[@BrittanyTemple_]

There are a lot of things that deter people from coming out of the closet but do we really think the term "baby gay" is one of them? In my years spent in the community as a bisexual person, I have only seen it used as a term of endearment or playfulness. I think your recent relationship might be affecting your view of the word and how it's used and that could have been an honest and accountable way to have the conversation. This feels defensive and lacks nuance, because I have heard you use the term "baby gay" on this very podcast. You present the argument that it's even biphobic, but then fail to back that up with anything to substantiate the claim. This opinion feels like shooting from the hip/reactionary and I wish you would have given some honest context to your specific experience.

[@bombadillo2]

I was SCREAMING with my friend watching this part. Like... creating a problem where there is none! It was clearly so defensive of herself and the fact that people have observed her track record of dating newly out people. In my experience not at all the perspective of those of us who have been baby gays/come out later. So annoyed. If this argument catches on, I'm going to be pretty mad, not gonna lie. There was no logic in this argument.

[@CourtneyLeighannaE]

P.s sorry for commenting like a thousand times. I was listening and commenting as it came along 👀

[@mialindvall]

The validation thing 🥹, beautifully put 💕🏳️‍🌈

[@gwchk7]

I tried not to, but I clicked Like during the ad segment because it was too good 😅🥰

[@KristyReighard]

Omg I soooo went to my pediatrics way into my teen years too 😂😂

[@re_imagineyourlife]

@nowthisisliving Shannon, there's whittling gloves. I used to whittle a little too. I gave myself a nice, perfectly shaped triangular cut on my finger. Still have the scar 14 years later haha.

[@MollyBerger-w7o]

Morris Plains, NJ & Washington DC!! @nowthisisliving: Great episode as always! Thank you for everything you do for our community. @clairewedgeworth yes to "Shannon for President" much love!!

[@sueetchie3186]

Shannon... Couldn't agree more with your thoughts on the community banding together with respect for each other in light of all the backwards momentum we've been seeing! How about we learn how to speak somewhat kindly to each other even when we don't agree or have a comment to make. We all have different points of view, different lives, and none of us should be throwing stones. Now, as far as you talking about reaching out to make new friends in the queer community, I will say I'm in Cleveland OH, and my lesbian circle is somewhat small these days! Walked away from romantic life for almost a decade, 😑(regret that) and now it's kinda hard establishing new friends, even though i hear we older lesbians can be a hot commodity?! 🤭🤣Trust is a factor for me these days. So...Take care and will be looking forward to the live event podcast, maybe you could consider coming to Ohio for one, not sure where Becca's from but Ceveland's not a bad city to visit! 😉😘

[@brittanyvaldez8645]

Get some cut resistant finger cot. You only have to wear 1 or 2 when i first started i cut myself as well. They are super cheap on amazon. Also i use an opinel knife it cuts through the wood super easily.

[@chrissy_chicago]

Great episode. I'm definitely open to connection. 🏳️‍🌈

[@alexmoore3630]

As a former baby gay, who came out later in life (27) I’m not opposed to the term. I think it’s fine, you’re only a baby gay while you’re like figuring it out/first few years and experiences/when you are nervous like it’s your first time. It is like going through puberty again, so I think it is different and you are kind of young and naive in a way. I don’t think it diminishes queerness, puts them down or is condescending/diminishes their past hetero relationships… it just is what it is. I wish you would have answered the question rather than go on about how it’s not an appropriate term to use.

[@JOOceBoxes]

There's an inflatable aircraft escape pasta shape called cascatelli and those seem fun. I think people called it the best pasta This is going to be such a random comment to a few people I'm sure

[@myownstory1416]

I also don't much appreciate the conversations that usually go on about "baby gays" but just to build a conversation about it, I have a friend who was happy to have the term when they came out, they said it just helped them feel included even if they were still learning about all the lingo, culture and so on (they knew esentially nothing before)...so i agree with the part where the internet is scary and people don't build conversations anymore and just jump to judgement in black and white. I just wish labels, almost all of them weren't such a black/white topic, they are supposed to be helpful but instead have been becoming a bigger and bigger problem :( hopefully this can also change for the better with time

[@elizabeth9451]

can we get a new background tour once you move? :)

[@ekaterinavlasova1228]

You’re amazing 😻

[@aschleg321]

a thought i had while you were talking about the term baby gay was that it kinda subtly implies that when you realize you’re gay or first come out, you suddenly become a different species or something. your past experiences in relationships are erased and suddenly you’re a “baby.” it adds to this narrative that gay people are this separate classification of person, which sure, being queer can make our human experiences a little different. but also queer people are just normal ass people and some of that “alien” grouping gives homophobes/transphobes more fuel.

[@e_becker03]

Shannon, you better share the disposable camera pics ;)

[@lilithfairxo7068]

This may be a odd reuest, but could you try getting Caitlin Clark as a guest on the pod? I'm not interested in her sexuality, but I believe you are one of the few interviewers who would do her justice in an an interview, showing us who she is at heart and I think itd be a really fun episode.

[@Sam-Sou-Sim]

I have been dating women since always, if I start dating men now does it make me baby heterosexual at my 33 years. I don’t think so. LGBT community spend a lot of time and energy in inventing terms and nuances and struggling with explaining them. We should focus in other things. When you are a grown woman you know who you are et you should be yourself in any type of relationship because relationships do not define who you are.

[@re_imagineyourlife]

i love this

[@Sam-Sou-Sim]

@@re_imagineyourlife 😊 if you are in Europe we could be friends lol

[@re_imagineyourlife]

@@Sam-Sou-Sim east coast 🤣

[@re_imagineyourlife]

@@Sam-Sou-Sim we can be friends from afar

[@Sam-Sou-Sim]

@@re_imagineyourlife yeah ! We can but not in KZbin i can add u in instagram if you want ☺️

[@Sam-Sou-Sim]

You are welcome in Italy we have a house there my gf and I. We are going to spend October between Milan venizia and genova ! I’m serious you can come ❤

[@baylew2904]

Can vouch for the dangers of whittling. briefly decided that was my thing in high school. Turns out it’s not my thing! Hands are riddled with tiny scars. 😂

[@andreeaadn]

I kinda think giving negative or positive connotations to a word depends on personal experience. If you hear “baby gay” in a negative way, like someone listing all the red flags they think they would have, you will view it as an insult. If not, it’s just a term you use to describe something. If repeatedly the term “lesbian” has been used in order to shame you, you feel hurt maybe - but if it’s used just to describe wlw, then no feelings were hurt in the process. I’m not from the US, not even civil union is legal in my country, but I get these things are cultural and political at masses level, more than my personal preference. When I was in Belgium I researched the history of LGBT rights there and found some interesting wiki info. There are countries in which the general population has a more progressive view through the nature of its history and conditioning. Romania is ex-communist, christian-ortodox, the separation between state and church is not very obvious, and with that legacy even if a politician would decide to be pro-LGBT, the amount of people with the education and willingness to be supportive is not big enough yet. However, we are part of UE, so the agenda coming from there will probably have something to say too. Generally speaking, I think the opinion of the masses makes the law. In time, with different conditioning for new generations maybe things will change. In the US, I think there’s a reason people leave the south. I want to be able to say controversial things in the community too - but just because it’s an LGBT community, doesn’t mean people are always kind to each other. Having respect for the people who don’t think the same is hard because it attacks us in our identity. We do the same thing that is done to us, to other people. Just look at what happens when somebody says “you chose to be gay”. It's obvious for me, that is the opinion cultivated by someone who never had an identity crisis. I don’t have a problem with it being a choice, but that opinion is not common. You should be able to choose to live your life as you want. You should be able to be or express yourself however you like, whether that is “who you are” or is “a choice”. I do agree that controversial topics must be talked about. But it takes a lot of balls to do that. And it takes even more to do that “as a conversation” and not a power struggle. Not everybody can do that, or not always. Making mistakes is ok. We're a big mess of people just learning.

[@mommyissuesmusic]

Fort Collins / Denver Colorado anyone?

[@bombadillo2]

Woah girl. "Baby gay" is not a slur, lol. Don't create a problem where there isn't one. A lot of us have identified as baby gays in the early stages of our journey (I was 30 when I came out). You shouldn't be speaking for people when you can't relate to that experience. It genuinely sounded like you were being defensive of YOURSELF (people observing that you keep dating women who are newly out -- and wondering if there is something problematic about that), and not that you were defending some "marginalized community" like you suggest. The term baby gay is just a term. No one ever suggested that people's hetero relationships before coming out were fake or not involved and real or not emotional or any of the stuff you projected. And no one is treating these people like actual babies -- they are simply observing that people new to dating the same gender are very early in their journey (and often have a lot of growth ahead of them). Every time I've heard the term baby gay it's been a term of endearment and encouragement. This argument was just SO off and so ridiculous. And maybe you should be analyzing in therapy why you DO always date newly out women. Psychologically it could be a confidence thing, a control thing, or something else. Wish you the best of happiness and luck, and please don't project your skewed views onto an entire community. 😁

[@Living726]

I’m going to go out on a limb here…anyone in or around Central Louisiana? No? Just me? Oh, okay. 😬

[@ShanVantagiato]

You need to get Kehlani on the pod 🎙️ I feel like the conversation ya’ll would have would be so open and fluid. Pluss we need more musicians on your podcast 🎵

[@oliviaherbert5560]

Anybody in LA? :))

[@samrojodog]

Me!

[@oliviaherbert5560]

@@samrojodogwhat’s your ig?

[@jacquelynrincon8737]

Can you bring on Ambers Closet. She’s so cool. She’s a gay / black activist I’d love to hear her story

[@carmine_muse]

Would love to meet new queer friends in Paris, France 😊

[@Sam-Sou-Sim]

Salut 👋 de pariiisss

[@rileyjin707]

Olympics are great…imagine aliens come down… 😂

[@architab12]

As a long time fan and supporter - feels a bit ironic that the ending message is about supporting and uplifting the queer community, when I feel like your content has been largely centered on the experiences of White, Cisgender, Queer folks, without much diversity or inclusion of disabled and trans queer experiences.

[@jentalbot6421]

I have never been this early

[@gilmoregirls1606]

We love a solo eppy

[@regina_phalange]

i was SO looking forward to seeing your whittling, disappointed Shan :(

[@emtothegee]

radiatori are an elite pasta shape

[@MiaJanjic-ob6wz]

Go to Florence in Italy It's my favorite city

[@Carriehammer718]

I'm almost 38 😭

[@afrancis8941]

totally agree that we need now more than ever to be united, particular for our trans family - not just locally, but globally.

[@virginia8156]

Hi Shannon, the question is did you like penne lisce or rigate?😂 Come to visit Maremma in Tuscany and you will discor a lots of type of artisanal pasta . Kiss Virginia

[@CourtneyLeighannaE]

Is it weird that you sold whittling to me more with the danger aspect 👀