Ask Questions Later: Divorce Court - Danielle vs. Richard

[@bryanbeeman5256]

If the roles were reversed and she was going to $trip clubs with single friends. her men friends giving her $$$, or being the 3rd wheel on dates, etc…. Y’all would have a hissing fit.

[@wordplay6665]

Dude would be popping up 😂

[@manticorephoenix]

If the roles were reversed and he started demanding she get rid of her friends

[@sereneamani1713]

Who is "y'all"?

[@movingforward789]

@@sereneamani1713😂 I was about to say the same thing 😂

[@dacyberman0929]

He’s the man that’s the difference, it’s his house hold and he’s the head of it she shouldn’t be questioning him like this.

[@bryanbeeman5256]

Unpopular comment: Him hanging out and going to $trip clubs with single male friends, or double dates that he’s the 3rd wheel, or giving female friends $$$ just because or allowing his female friends to purposefully ignore his lady causes friction. He is responsible for setting boundaries and he’s purposefully not doing it because he likes the attention. He’s going to keep triggering her and she’s going to continue to be irrational and demonstrate erratic behavior because of past boyfriend trauma.

[@wordplay6665]

He just so happened to land in these predicaments

[@bryanbeeman5256]

@@wordplay6665 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@LeshaFBaby]

Agreed

[@lindawinkler8867]

Exactly!

[@WilliamDavis-j5m]

if he was my son, i would tell him to find someone else. she is damaged right now and you shouldn't waste time trying to fix her. that's what counselors are for. you are going to be a very miserable man dealing with her and her insecurities

[@yemedemure414]

I agree with the lady about female friends asking her man for money. That’s crazy

[@GreenerieSensimellia]

Right especially when she said the female friend don’t even speak to her when she sees her. That’s a big no for me.

[@bryanbeeman5256]

Boundaries…boundaries….boundaries… I’m gonna leave it at that because if these two are going to get married and he keeps this same behavior up, he will soon be annulling it.

[@wordplay6665]

Exactly, she knows what those females are doing AND he “loaning” money! I’d be pissed too

[@shennabradley6255]

Judge Lynn is totally wrong on this one

[@shennabradley6255]

Judge already has her mind made up against this woman

[@patriciaross7269]

I wouldn’t want my partner to be hanging in strip clubs, or running to the bar with his single friend who has other females there!! I’d be pissed! And borrowing $ to his “female friend” is way off the table!!! He’s crossing boundaries and causing her to feel insecure then sits back saying he’s not cheating & she’s crazy!!!!! He’s in the wrong!

[@charismahouse1039]

This is why you heal before going into a new relationship

[@laurastortoni-hager1510]

She is a little......too much???!!

[@MsBizzyRae]

Say that again!!! Sis is creating her own problems.

[@relationshipguru102]

EXACTLY SHE NEEDS A HOBBY

[@brandyjohnson8357]

So true! If you want to have a successful relationship, you have to leave past relationships IN THE PAST!!

[@ceerowell6931]

The first I have disagree Judge Toler. Strip clubs' double dates are not the act of someone who loves his women. He must take the time to understand his women instead of trying to show her that he is not like her past relationships. Adjustments must be made. I believe she has strong reasons to feel the way she does.

[@jaylarkin4331]

Id think that, but I've learned that for some people, the strip club is their social group and a part of their lives. There are some guys that go to strip clubs, just to eat, get some female attention (just talking and bs), and drink with friends. It's not my thing, but I understand it😅

[@janecarter563]

Unbelievable! Judge is not listening to her.

[@ELLIEOwO-o7d]

The female friend thing is deal breaker. If she can't speak to me & be my friend, why she all up in your face asking you for money. Issa no for me!

[@kassandras.8300]

I totally agree with this lady. I been through it and the niceness, giving money, counseling etc turn into a 5 month friends with benefits behind back. I expressed the same concerns to him. The crazy thing is this man sound just like my ex boyfriend. Marriage was a no for me. He got no boundaries. Well she laying down boundaries and he dismissing them flipping it on her

[@jasonleman1396]

She needs a life of her own! Stalking him is not ok period! I would be gone she is way too much!

[@JayMonaeee]

But he’s not? 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Rikkilover17]

He seems like the kinda guy who ONLY defines cheating as sleeping with someone. He seems like he considers dancing close to temptation as okay. I feel like he’s damn well aware that these women (specifically single moms too) are after him because he presents himself as a good man and father figure and he’s enjoying the positive attention. If his woman was getting this attention he wouldn’t be so calm. Like especially not setting a boundary with his male friend. That’s so rude to be like yeah you in a relationship but when you hanging with me your single and we going to strip clubs and I got two women one for me and one for you. He can’t be that dense to think that’s harmless.

[@Jlove85]

Fr

[@darlenebell3420]

He needs to set boundaries

[@sereneamani1713]

So, if the plaintiff was secure in herself, she would not put up with this behavior. IMO, it makes no sense to see these red flags and issues, then to complain about them as if that is going to make him change. If she doesn't like his behavior, then end the relationship. Why continue a relationship to make him pay for previous partners' past mistakes, when he is similar to them. Get a man who doesn't go to strip clubs and has boundaries and who lives according to what you need and like. "If you don't like the peach, walk on by the tree".

[@Rikkilover17]

@@sereneamani1713 …. Sure Jan.

[@retrojay86]

​@@sereneamani1713no accountability from her whatsoever

[@bryanbeeman5256]

I bet, Judge, Lynn, Toler,didn’t let her husband go to the $trip club

[@quichequiche4274]

I bet he didn't want to

[@sereneamani1713]

@@quichequiche4274 That's the operative phrase.

[@bryanbeeman5256]

@@quichequiche4274 Agreed…

[@JohnnyBungalow]

The judge had in her mind the lady was jealous and it stuck. He smooth talked the judge so well. He was on 2 man, deleting texts with moms on the team he coach…

[@JumpTossCatch]

The judge got a portrait of the plaintiff and the plaintiff was the one holding the brush. She didn't "Have it in her head"...the woman put it there with her testimony. She's insecure....dude can't breathe in the same room with another woman present without her going off. And even after all the judge said, the woman still ended the episode saying, "...Well, I guess he's NOT cheating...but he still needs to let his female friends go." In one ear and out the other....

[@lawandajohnson4404]

As a single mom whose sons played football, I was very appreciative of the time that their coaches spent sowing into their lives on and off the field. With that said, when my last child was a senior in the football program, I had specialized mugs made for each coach as a thank from our family for all they had done. Never did I ask anyone to dinner because that’s far too intimate for married men to be doing with a single woman. I think some of what she’s saying is accurate, he’s gonna have to be careful what he does with his single friends. At the end of the day, if she feels like she needs to keep checking him then that indicates an issue that should make her rethink things. On the other hand, no one has time to be “popping up” somewhere just because their man is there. I’d end a relationship before I did all that extra.

[@JazzyJeffRealTalk]

I dated a girl like that. Made me pay for past exes that cheated on her; so every little interaction I had with any female in public was a threat to her entire existence.

[@MsBizzyRae]

Yeah, she is creating her own problems. Her insecurities are gonna push any good man away

[@Jlove85]

Going to a strip club goes against some women's ideas of a good man. What she does is on her, but riding the wave like he does can be an issue

[@yemedemure414]

Not the electrical friends!! That’s one of their issues 😂😂😂😂😂

[@whitneycook-dx2uf]

This is one, I disagree with Judge Toler. I would be really uncomfortable with that too.

[@njc9776]

I rarely disagree with Judge Toler but this one was not it. He has no boundaries with his female friends.

[@djTorchLive]

If she’s a stalker and he doesn’t like it, he should leave then.

[@MsBizzyRae]

She’s beautiful and I hope she heal so that she won’t be scared and worried all the time. No one can take your spot, but she’s gonna give her spot away if she keeps hounding him about all these little things!

[@brittanyhawkins960]

I actually agree with her about the money tho

[@brittanyhawkins960]

Idk, some of these things she’s complaining about sounds reasonable

[@ddani5063]

Absolutely.

[@movingforward789]

Did she tell the Judge, “You loose!” 😮

[@bryanbeeman5256]

No ma’am. I don’t care how modern society has become. No $trip clubs… PERIOD. FULL STOP. Not for him…not for her… That’s just inviting trouble. And hanging around single friends that do that along with girl’s trips… it’s a recipe for disaster. Bottom line: Stand 10 toes down and say NOOOOOO….

[@sereneamani1713]

"Bottom line: Stand 10 toes down and say NOOOOOO…."AND WALK AWAY. Why even get involved with someone who has behaviors that you find offensive and unacceptable? It's the old, "I can change him". She's obviously entered into a sexual relationship with him BEFORE marriage. As she probably did in her previous relationship. Ding, Ding.

[@bryanbeeman5256]

@@sereneamani1713 AGREE 1M%

[@tracycarter5997]

That's just too much for me!! She's too dang jealous!!

[@dianapatterson449]

I wish my husband would loan some chick some money without discussing it with me.

[@alexisjones65]

My fiance would’ve called me to come to the bar of his friend had two women there when he got there😂that’s one thing I’m proud of. He refuses to have someone call me and tell me they see him out with a woman and I not know what’s going on

[@toxxicfrost5781]

the judge is so disrespectful to her that women didn’t deserve to be talked to the way she was ain’t nothing wrong with her. She has valid points

[@JoeJoe-tg3ed]

I think he doesn’t know boundaries.

[@asjames32]

reading these comments with all these women disagreeing, like scaring a man into being faithful is gonna work. the money yes he tripping but everything else is crazy. ive set the standards so high with my wife that i dont even worry about who she talks to or what she wear.

[@Tmonique7]

She's driving herself crazy. She definitely does not need to be in a relationship at this moment. If I were her I'd take some time out and love on myself.

[@debrastone2198]

When you're out with your significant other, & someone starts looking at them hungrily, smile a confidential smile at that person proudly, & close ranks between the 2 of you in a very nice way.

[@sereneamani1713]

If he was my son, I would urge him to explore other options. She is going to make any partner miserable unless she gets counseling.

[@charmainewalker8627]

Exactly he needs to run

[@reginajackson459]

She don't seem like she is willing to compromise and would be kicked to the curb. She is too jealous and wants everything to go her way.

[@tcook7147]

I am sooooo glad she is back❤❤❤ why is it only on line?

[@HTAnderson76]

It’s only online because Judge Lynn Toler is no longer the Judge on Divorce Court These are all old episodes

[@shirleyredd6107]

They do not belong together different mindset what different things out of life not long term he cannot be who he is

[@tw.yoseira]

i understand her though.. all he can do is atleast let her know 'yo i pulled up here are two females' 'i am at a meeting with a female co worker' etc..

[@CanadianBisdak]

When your man listens to other woman’s problems that’s a red flag

[@manticorephoenix]

If a woman listens to your comment, that’s a red flag

[@Here1965]

Dude, you need to run for the hills. My husband has female friends. If you can't trust your significant other then you don't need to be with them.😮

[@shirleyredd6107]

She wants to pick his friends she is controlling run buddy run

[@BMCLegacy]

She crazy. I thought the judge got through to her till the end when he talked about compromise. She got right back on crazy and her beliefs

[@shirleyredd6107]

She got rid of the ring because she wants a flasher ring

[@jessicawicks8680]

She's too insecure

[@manticorephoenix]

Sometimes the past is best left in the past, and certainly never be idolized, don’t let nostalgia get you like it get so many people, in her case she need to stop living with her ex boyfriend in her head, and in his case he shoulda just let that high school crush stay in high school

[@bryanbeeman5256]

I know she needs therapy because she’s overly sensitive and easily triggered. He’s not going to be able to make her happy. She wants him, but he’s paying for every man that dogged her out and unfortunately, she probably stayed too long in a relationship with these guys. So, she’s damaged and hasn’t gotten over it. This is why I recommend men to vet women a totally different way than women vetting men. If he marry’s her like she is not, he’s going to regret it.

[@sereneamani1713]

If he marries her like she is now, he has greater issues than she does.

[@wordplay6665]

Sounds like he’s a flirty dude. He may not be sexually involved with these women but he’s maintaining close relationships with single women. The stalking and pop up is a no go though

[@Kendallslovejoy]

Judge wasn’t trying to hear her.

[@manticorephoenix]

You ain’t supposed to entertain crazy, he did and look how life goin for him

[@lggsretrofinds4461]

runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn dude shes going to be a crazy baby momma if u do something wrong

[@CleanSheet1191987]

I used to go to strip clubs all the time in my mid 20’s and I was completely single. But if I had a partner, different story. It’s disrespectful to go to a club watching other women being sexual, when you have a partner, unless it’s a joint understanding with a particular purpose like hen’s/stag night. I agree with her there. I also don’t like the lending money to other people thing either. In saying that, I think people are too insecure about that in relation to themselves.

[@mariebaldwin439]

Judge wrong you don't speak but ask my man for money NAH. JUDGE WOULDN'T LIKE IT EITHER. REALLY

[@Phentes]

Run

[@lunanacho]

judge just said if she wanted to solidify her relationship with the man, her #1 way she mentioned was sex. Doesn't she usually say do not give wife benefits?

[@HisYin_HerYang]

Every case and statement is contextual.

[@bryanbeeman5256]

Yeah, but her advice is off today. I know she see that the lady is traumatized, but the judge is not helping like she think she is. He’s triggering her from the trauma her exes did to her. She needs counseling.

[@keylacmckemp1309]

People are having sex without marriage anyway. She means moving in together,washing his clothes, having joint accounts, etc.

[@YACKYSNACKY]

I think she said solidifying a 'marriage'...but I totally get your point.

[@sagthenaturalsiren5997]

She’s insecure

[@mariebaldwin439]

The Judge not being fair. I AGREW WITH WOMAN I DON'T KNOW WHATS WRONG WITH JUDGE

[@mikellbull]

Bro need to run

[@GreenerieSensimellia]

I can tell the Philly accent anywhere.

[@mariebaldwin439]

I agree don't ask mine for money you can't speak

[@brittanyh9611]

I think her delivery is messing up her message

[@ValiantVisions314]

Just leave her alone. What happened is all her relationships didn't work. So she got with someone she knows always wanted her. Expecting to control you. Just leave her.

[@Oss698]

They are a toxic combo...she's insecure and he enjoys the attention from the single moms. They will forever trigger each other.

[@jm2297]

Tricky situation. I'm not trying to advocate for his behaviour but if she's not happy about it maybe she should do the same and see how he feels about it. That way you can get a true measure on his beliefs, what he doesn't like and what he considers cheating. Then if they're both not able to give it up then they should break up. Thank god they don't have any children

[@ronnimartin7033]

He's going to be miserable with her. She's loud, rude, controlling, and pushy. She made valid points but she has a very bad attitude!!

[@relationshipguru102]

Shes too insecure to be in a relationship. She need to have a hobby cause she is too invested in his day to day life.

[@Fleefromsin]

DECREE OVER YOUR MIND- I decree that I have the mind of Christ. I decree that I walk in supernatural peace. I decree that my mind is fixed upon The Lord and His promises. I command all mind binding spirits to go from me. Thank you Lord that I think like you. Thank you Lord that I’m saturated with peace beyond understanding. Thank you Lord that I make wise decisions and seek out wise counsel. I declare that I love wisdom! I seek wisdom and am growing in wisdom. I decree that I have a sound mind in Jesus’ name. Amen “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:” Philippians‬ ‭2:5‬

[@Hope-zt6ug]

Man.... Random post but thanks for posting. I like this decree.

[@sereneamani1713]

You disregard the Father of Jesus by ignoring Him and His name. That is in direct opposition to the commandments of Jesus Christ. Matthew 6:9, 10; John 14:6, 17:6, 26. In the so-called OT (KJV), distinguish between LORD and Lord. The entire chapter of John 17 is a prayer by Jesus Christ. He was not praying to himself.

[@louisram4044]

Hi my brother this is a big problem you would never be happy if you married her ask the men she had before never married her this is queston some of you men need to ask these women why they never married to man before you, but some of men nor using your head move on my brother run 🏃‍♂️ 😉

[@louisram4044]

Hi this is a problem woman please my brother don't married this woman

[@louisram4044]

Hi he not doing nothing wrong he single married the man and then you can run your mouth

[@sandrahafeneder4144]

Girl you have a good dud. You are insecure af. It's not his fauld if singel moms getting touchy. They see what a good man he could be. He have to be nice to them, if he is not he will have the hell on earth with angry singel moms. But the button of the line is, he stay in you're side. He know who is belong to. See this!! Step back a little with your jealousy! You look gorgeous, you are he will be unfaithful. It's his fauld. But this guy loves you. He aczeppt your unsicure nagging about in the end nothing. And the Man really can set the boundaries a little earlyer and everything is fine. It's rare to find kind and faithful humans today. Marriage is a constant work on your self and in the marriage. All the best to this both

[@doloresturner6094]

Im on her said he's doing to much he's getting to much attention from other weman i would say somthing too 😏

[@louisram4044]

Hi how much is her body count if she have more than 3 run my brother 3 is too much to me this why our black women not getting married too much body count

[@McKenzie-j7r]

Ok judge she’s not all that

[@yemedemure414]

Not the electrical friends!! That’s one of their issues 😂😂😂😂😂