Asking Strangers Their Pronouns (and they get mad)

Strangers getting mad about being asked their pronouns...
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[@gemmagrantham1467]

To be fair to the person who put on their headphones and kept walking, I feel like that's a perfectly valid response to having a stranger with a camera and a microphone literally run up to you on the street.

[@charlie9539]

I would have done the exact same

[@jasperhollow664]

Probably what I'd have done too, like wtf

[@qa377]

I mean the person even said "no" when asked "can I ask you a question," so at that point the interviewer should have just said alright and left

[@nastiana8336]

And also not put that on the video too like the person clearly didn't wanna be on it@@qa377

[@Kingofthenet2]

Same 😂

[@rossjennings4755]

The incredibly pedantic answer to "what pronouns do you use?" would be "I use all the pronouns. I have to, when I'm referring to different people."

[@22SeaJay]

Or "I, me, myself" would make my pedantic wee heart happy 😂

[@taliabutton1593]

@@rossjennings4755 to different people and different things. "I'll pick it up for you." Though I do know one person whose (among others) chose the pronoun "it", so that pronouns is not only got things (though it most often is). Well, I met it twice, I probably wouldn't recognise it, but it's a lovely person.

[@Eddysig]

thank you for teaching me a new word omfg this is so funny too

[@witchtale3159]

“Can I ask you a question?” “No.” *_Proceeds to ask question_*

[@charlie9539]

Guy can't take the hint

[@seiya-chon]

Reminded me of: "Yurio, you wanna hear a joke?" "No!" "Then listen!"

“Can I ask you a question?” “You already did.”

[@ShadowdaHedgie11]

Yeah, that interviewer just gave me bad vibes.

[@ayajones6069]

But also just sneaking up behind random women and scaring them, just to realize it's a man with a microphone is terrifying

[@potatoqueen5248]

"I'm a girl. I'm not trans. I have a boyfriend" kills. As if those things are mutually exclusive

[@katyungodly]

Just a string of three non-sequiturs in a row 😂

[@SarahAbramova]

It's just her gender, sex, and that she is attracted to men.

[@SarahAbramova]

So she gave her gender, she's cis, and likes men.

[@starrywizdom]

Trans girls do have boyfriends, y'know...

[@SarahAbramova]

@@starrywizdom yeah, hence not mutually exclusive.

[@willjennings2158]

These people who don't know what a pronoun is think they're fully qualified to decide what medical treatments certain people get to have. That's the world we live in.

[@katyungodly]

I DON'T UNDERSTAND IT BUT I DON'T WANT ANYONE ELSE TO HAVE IT

[@thisisdottlez]

As a person on the autism spectrum, the interviewer with the pink hair made me pretty uncomfortable with their persistence. If I have headphones on in public I'm probably not in the state to handle any interactions with people, not to mention being pressured into conversation. If I have headphones on it's not impossible for that one interaction to push me into a meltdown/shutdown Also as per your request: I go by she/they, I've been going by those pronouns for around 5 years now and never want to go back.

[@ArtisanYozora]

Same. I'm reading the comments to detox so I don't cringe myself into a coma 😅 They made me so uncomfortable He/him ❤🏳️‍🌈

[@catlovingnerd21]

I also felt very uncomfortable during the section with the pink haired person 😅 I hate it when street interviewers don't take no/silence for an answer. they know the person doesn't want to talk, but they push anyway. it's so uncomfy 😖 and mine are they/he ❤

[@MURDERPILLOW.]

I set my sim's pronouns as 2nd person pronouns, everything sounds so passive agressive "Linda earned §324 at work today, you did some great work too"

[@NotAnEvilMastermind]

oh that is a good one. I input 'the Overlord' into the custom pronoun system when i made a vampire noble

[@CharlesWawa]

@@NotAnEvilMastermind wait i need to do that omg

[@KheldarLars]

This is the way

[@rocamboleq]

sounds like somethong gladOS would say lol

[@bean5432]

This is actually hilarious

[@seeshellsmrf]

I am 59 years old and just figured out that I am They/Them in the last five years.

[@solstice_777]

good for you! i hope people are accepting of your identity :D

[@kevino4372]

Unlucky

[@tojestmojanazwa4188]

Good on you for figuring yourself out! Its never too late to start/change expressing the way you feel and are (◠⁠‿◠)

[@xXSapphire_pawsXx]

Good it's never late❤❤❤

[@leviisaac9506]

Congratulations! It’s never too late to discover who you are!

[@soulgazer11]

Guy with the pink hair is hella counterproductive going "hey MISTER/LADY!" Before knowing people's pronouns??

[@Chameleon_Cat]

Lol yeah he's being such a dickhead too, sneaking up on people, passive aggressive, pushy, labeling anyone who doesn't know what the heck is going on as homophobes. stranger interviews are very intrusive, being filmed and posted is very dangerous for minors and people staying off the internet because of stalkers, and just being a minority or a woman and being shown off on the internet can be very targeting.

[@DMH_701]

In my school (I'm a teacher) we are asked to introduce ourselves with our pronouns if we're comfortable doing so, but not to ask students outright because it would out many of them who may not be ready. By using ours we show we're open to others sharing theirs. Thoughts?

[@doggycatalan]

This sounds great! It shows the students that school is a safe space to express themselves, which helps a lot of closeted people!

[@danbo409]

Actually very helpful, some kids might feel pressured to make some sort of decision when asked point blank or answer with something that lets them socially conform rather than actually reflective of their genuine thoughts. Letting them approach you and giving them ways to do so means the kids who need to be referred to as something else can do so discreetly and without much fuss.

[@liesjelualockse6377]

Amazing!

[@Clovergem_in_the_snow]

I’ve never thought of that! I’ll start introducing myself with my pronouns more in group spaces :) /gen

[@lavender-rex]

yeah thats great! most of the teachers passmout little forms at the begining of the year so the kids dont have to tell the whole class.

[@PrinAnie]

I feel very uncomfortable when strangers stop me in public. I have enough anxiety just walking around. If I say no to being asked a question, and the person keeps pushing, I could start panicking. It doesn't matter the question. Consent is a thing

[@Awakening_Sunshine]

Yes, I agree. I think this way of asking people is a bit off-putting

[@SandraLugn-nc1rk]

No thank you and keep walking is legit!

[@Milk-ck1wv]

This is why when I see people that got a whole set up I stay away from them as far as possible. I'm not finna be the unlucky sucker that gets asked some rage bait stupid shit.

[@blueismylove3128]

I do wish Jamie had spoken up more forcing a camera in people's faces and being respectful when people say no. He seems only really focused on the people giving transphobic answers, which, fair, but don't you think pestering people will turn them off even more from learning? Not to mention when the guy asked, he would start by using, "Ms, Mr, or Lady" kinda of making asking them pointless if you've already assumed.

[@DinosaurNick]

Yeah. I mean, this is a social experiment, and I'm the same way. But if I'm talking to someone new, I'd rather they say "Hello. What's your pronouns?" than to have them say "Hello, ma'am."

[@gustavedore1073]

I have phobia for clowns so I would have full on panic attack if the Scottish guy in clowncostume chased me with questions

[@Chameleon_Cat]

Same, I fear social interactions mostly 😭

[@slimyboixd]

I'm not sure if I would scream and run, deck him, or just pass out to be honest. All three could possibly occur simultaneously.

[@Chameleon_Cat]

@@slimyboixd lol the trio, fight, flight, or freeze

[@blueredingreen]

2:28 I like how when you Google "usna pronouns", most of the results are about how the US Navy is trans-supportive.

[@jeremythescout]

That’s pretty cool! Unfortunately my dad in the navy is transphobic but that gives me hope that my grandpa is an ally

[@OdinsSage]

That's actually really funny

[@boneymcrib6298]

That Scottish guy really isn’t helping anyone, he was like going up to people and yelling at them which would be a terrifying thing to just happen to you and he kept on gendering people before they answered the question and would gender people differently then what they answered

[@cadeburgy4153]

Addressing the „I don’t use pronouns“ thing, you said: In languages that don’t have an inherent neutral option (for example German), it is actually quite common for non-binary people to just go by there name and ask others not to use pronouns to address them. Especially in communities that don’t have the flexibility to learn neopronouns.

[@starrywizdom]

Since "I" is a pronoun, anyone who refers to themself as "I" by saying "I don't use pronouns" IS USING A PRONOUN. ABOUT THEMSELF. Perhaps they should say "I prefer not to have others refer to me with third person singular pronouns, but to use my name instead" if that's what they MEAN. Claiming "not to use pronouns" literally means that one would never say the words I, me, mine, you, yours, one, ones, he, him, his, she, her, hers, it, its, we, us, ours, they, them, or theirs. I suspect almost NO English speakers NEVER use ANY pronouns -- -in fact, I suspect almost all of the people who REALLY don't use pronouns are people who only speak languages that don't HAVE pronouns! If people choose not to have OTHERS refer to THEM with pronouns, they should ask for THAT.

[@alyssahansen1400]

​@@starrywizdom I think you misunderstand their comment. They are talking about people who speak other languages not English. And when they say 'pronouns' here I think they mean specifically third person pronouns. I is a first person pronoun so somebody who doesn't use [third person] pronouns could still use first and second person pronouns. Unless you understood their comment and were just nitpicking semantics.

[@seiya-chon]

Hi, Jamie, I'm she/her and they/them! As someone who is studying linguistics, I don't understand people who get mad at grammar, because languages have always been changing, and it's a natural process. If a language keeps on evolving, it's because it is alive.

[@cinnamonroll96]

Honestly though! Like language has always changed and evolved and things come and go. And that is only fair, that language and values and norms change with society. So many slurs that have been okay to use decades ago. Or with all the internet slang and jargon that comes and just spreads like a wildfire. It’s beyond me how ppl can be so whatever when it’s about hurtful words but at the same time full on rage when it’s about simple grammar. Like they made everything about gender and are now pissed when ppl at least wanna make it appropriate. Huge discussion in Germany right now with gendering.

[@Azziyaisalwaysonline]

A fellow she/they! Hello!

[@seiya-chon]

@@cinnamonroll96 Same here in Portugal. I remember my Classical Culture teacher complaining that Portuguese has only 2 genders and the masculine should work as neutral, she was against any neopronouns, but I think it's okay. I mean, is it logical that a group has 99 women and 1 man, and because of that 1 man they have to refer to them in the masculine gender? I don't think so. She even said that Latin a neutral gender, but is completely against it in Portuguese. Why, if Portuguese evolved from Latin anyways? On Linguistics lessons, the teacher told us that Latin hasn't died, it just changed into the Romance languages we know nowadays. So, I don't see anything bad in getting back stuff from Latin.

[@seiya-chon]

@@Azziyaisalwaysonline Hello!

[@Trangents]

Well... I use "I/Me". When people talk to me, they tend to use "You" and when people talk about me I would prefer "He/Him" but I don't have much control over that. I don't mind a "They/Them" and, hell, a "fae/faer" could be fun. I live a life rich in pronouns because ... I use language.

[@MthMn-pn6qc]

13:45 this reminds me of when i asked someone on my volleyball team their pronouns although they presented themselves very femininely, and they looked so happy when they told me they’ve never been asked that before and that they used they/them. i don’t think i can forget the joy in their face, especially when ive been in that scenario :)

[@thefluffymarshmallo]

I never really thought about asking about pronouns until the question started being asked in online spaces. As a she/her, I found I was misidentified a lot online as a he/him and really appreciate that we ask the question now.

[@BabyGhast4]

What people have you met? I still get misidentified as a he on the internet all the time and despise it. It would be great if people asked me or just generally used “they”.

[@I-Just-Do-Stuff-Bc-Yes]

Same, but I'm fine with it

[@doggycatalan]

Yeah, most people on the internet use he as a default unless you use an absurd amount of "❤️✨️🥰" or other "femine" words/phrases. It's so bizarre.

[@TheCagedCorvid]

In an ideal situation, my pronouns would be they/them, but I'm in my 40s and have only known that non binary is a thing since my son came out as trans in his mid teens. Before that, i just thought that either everyone felt like I did and ignored it like I was doing, or that it was just because I'm weird (which I am, Fyi😂). Now I've finally got the word to describe my experience of gender it's bittersweet because nobody but my son and niece are accepting enough for me to even come out to. My sister has fallen into the terfosphere, my mother kind of accepts trans people, as long as they conform to the gender binary, but gets very angry about gender neutral people, and my entire town is full of backwards people who rant about things like this even though they have literally no knowledge (about most things, it seems)... so until I get the chance to move closer to my son, I'm stuck with she/her and keeping my mouth shut irl just so I don't have to debate people. Not fun.

[@kkimsey5866]

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I also figured out I'm non-binary in my late 30s. Totally relate. I was shocked to find out everyone else wasn't just faking their gender all the time. I wish you all the best getting out of your backward town.

[@phoebedarker]

About the pink haired person asking pronouns: I'd be weary as well if a stranger I perceived as a man approached me in the street ngl

[@Foxboi681]

My pronouns are they/them! I used to go by he/him but getting more comfortable with my identity and expression made me realize I'm not a binary trans man^^

[@rygk9696]

She/He/They/Her/Him/Them/Hers/His/They’re. I’m Gender-fluid, just ask me.

[@lucylane7397]

So every time I refer to you I have to ask

[@brothergallahand8400]

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[@wet0wl]

@@lucylane7397Most genderfluid people go by any pronouns at anytime so you can probably go with whatever. If you can be bothered tho just ask or change them up if they correct you.

[@gracelovely3838]

My pronouns are she/they, it always makes me feel safer when people ask. Unless they were running at me with a camera, then it might not...

[@Sirke34]

She/they 🤩👍 In Finnish language we only have one, genderless singular third person pronoun, so we're lucky that way 🎉🇫🇮

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

is it hän?

[@philopharynx7910]

I'm a bit freaked out by the languages that throw gender onto everything, so it's cool to learn that there's one that is even less gendered than English.

[@Vernal_the_Oryx]

Share please, I'm interested in Finnish and Finland in general, so I'd love to know.

[@djendjendjendjendjen9442]

@@Vernal_the_Oryx it is hän

[@imarandomperson761]

Pronouns buddy 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@commie-jim]

Normally I just say He/Him for safety reasons, but if I know a person well I tell them I use He/Ram. Thanks for asking, Jamie. Hope the engagement helps!

[@rolfs2165]

Ram like 🐑?

[@Shoulderpads-mcgee]

How do you use ram in a sentence?

[@commie-jim]

@@rolfs2165Honestly? Not sure! It's just a set I tried and ended up liking it equally to he. Computer RAM? Animal ram? Who knows. Not me.

[@commie-jim]

@@Shoulderpads-mcgeeBasically, the set goes like ram/ram/rams/rams/ramself. "This is Commie, ram uses "ram/rams" pronouns. Ram is a fan of Jammidodger, are you one too?"

[@eight_littlenightmares]

personally i would be so uncomfortable if some random stranger came up and started talking to me, especially if i was alone 😭 like if it's someone i actually know i definitely don't mind answering, but not some stranger

[@dragonsarethebest6453]

I use they/them in English and recently I have started introducing myself with the adapted version in my native language (essentially neopronouns because there was no equivalent to singular they) and it made me feel so proud of myself Also there absolutely are people who don't use any pronouns. I recently met someone, lets pick the name Miles, who wants to be referred to by name. So when talking about Miles, i would just use Miles' name every time I'm referring to Miles. It takes some getting used to, but is possible when you stay conscious of the way you speak.

[@shadowsimp697]

ahh so happy for you!! you rock! it's very nice to hear about non-binary people thriving in a gendered language environment.

[@they_call_me_finn]

My pronouns are He/They! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@stonks3507]

🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️ 💪💪💪💪

[@Endtherinbetween]

Mine are They/He :D see how easy that was to answer IM LOOKING AT YOU SUSANE

[@chrissybert]

I have all the pronouns. Nobody gets to have any. They’re all mine >:3

[@Bastard_of_Ankh]

I go by they/them and there have been so many older cis men and women in the hospitals with pronoun pins and it has always made me feel so much safer with them. It's so nice to know I am in a room with people that won't immediately mistreat me if I ask to be gendered correctly.

[@heathermcfarland6317]

The woke movement was such a good thing when it started, but it has been demonized so much by the haters, and I’m so used to hearing negative comments about it that I physically cringe when I hear the word “woke”. It’s like I’m preparing to hear something super negative so I emotionally shut down. Living in Texas I hear so much negativity about “being woke“ especially when people learn that I am pansexual. I don’t know if anyone else can relate to what I’m saying, but I thought I would throw it out there. I feel like this channel is the safest place for me to talk about stuff like this.

[@LegorocketsAnimation]

I'm in alabama. It is quite bad here too

[@theyounggamer3315]

As an agender person who doesn't wish to have any pronouns used to refer to me: I fully understand that using them is simply part of speaking and saying my name all the time can sound "wrong" since we are all taught to vary our sentences. I tend to just tell people they can use whatever pronouns to refer to me cause they all feel the same. Well, it does feel kinda nice to hear someone use pronouns opposite of what gender people usually perceive me as cause at least they're trying. It's some recognition of who I am, if not wholly on point

[@TheLinkoln18]

If you call me “sir” or “lady” before asking my pronouns, you are risking a bloody nose.

[@user_hat]

what are your pronouns

[@TheLinkoln18]

@@user_hat Depends on the day, mostly “they, them”.

[@user_hat]

@@TheLinkoln18 ok, cool. she/they for me.

[@erynthepixie]

My pronouns are they/them and fae/faers. Sometimes my neopronouns confuse people so I often just say I use they/them

[@diamonddead8162]

And what does that even mean? The fae part

[@whitelilyswife]

woaah those r really neat pronouns! im curious if you dont mind, could you give me an example of the they/the pronouns being used? i dont think ive seen any like that before

[@brd_exe]

@@diamonddead8162neopronouns! You can look up info about those

[@Vahlee-A]

I know people who use it/its pronouns. It's a hell of a learning curve, but possible if one has patience and basic respect.

[@timothyisstupid]

Woah, those are some pretty cool pronouns

[@moonface710]

ngl i don’t love some of the peoples persistence with asking pronouns. like if i were walking on the street (esp if i was listening to music or w friends or something), i wouldn’t rlly want to a random person to shove a camera and mic in my face. this kinda encounter would very possibly give me a panic attack lol. also if someone had come up to me like this when i had figured out i was trans, but hadn’t started presenting as a boy yet, i would have been so terrified lmao. i feel like if someone says “no”, that should be respected, consent is always key!

[@The_One_And_Only_Will]

I go by any/all pronouns or mirror pronouns :)

[@PigeonCreep]

I have a friend that uses mirror pronouns!! I think their pretty unique!

[@ash_g8st944]

I’m sorry but what are mirror pronouns

[@darkacadpresenceinblood]

​@@ash_g8st944i was also curious so i searched it up and apparently it's when you're comfortable with any pronouns but if someone else is talking about you, you want them to use the pronouns they use for themselves to refer to you as well, at least that's what i found

[@graysonschliebe13]

@@ash_g8st944from my understanding they work like a mirror, for example if the oc was talking to someone using he/him pronouns they would want to be called he/him but if they were talking to a she/they then they would prefer she/they. But I might be wrong

[@inediblegummybears]

@@ash_g8st944 Mirror pronouns are when someone uses the same pronouns as the person they are talking to! For example, if someone that uses she/her was referring to someone who used mirror pronouns, she would use she/her.

[@shusheyl]

Funny story: my extremely homophobic, transfobic mom saw Jamie on the secreen and said something like 'he seems like such a decent, lovely lad' lol. She usually thinks the people i watch are evil because some of them wear colourful makup sometimes so... She would probably faint if she knew lmao

[@MacaronAddiction]

I use he/they/she pronouns and I have run into a surprising amount of people that genuinely don't understand what pronouns are. There was an introduction activity at my uni and the group leader said to introduce ourselves with our pronouns, name, and where we were from and the first person that was supposed to go genuinely didn't know what the leader meant by pronouns. At least three people in our group of maybe twenty students (all under twenty years) raised their hands when the leader asked if any one else needed an explanation.

[@lucylane7397]

How do people know which on you are using at any one time

[@andeeharry]

People are busy, they are in a hurry, hate being outside, late for something, trying to remember something, or they have a routine schedule to follow by and yes, they hate it when random strangers interrupts them. They don't expect to see anyone and when you interrupt thier zone, it is going to get messed up. Not only that, you don't know what is going on, or what they are going through and the last thing they want, is to be facing a random person asking personal questions. Everyone is different sure, some don't mind, others do. You ask them if they mind if you have time for a question or something. Wait for thier response, then go for it, don't push and don't be annoying. Always be respectful. Don't ask personal questions unless you know them, or they want to share information with you.

[@gaminginthevoid]

I'd just tell him to take it down a few notches then answer, or go into fight or flight if I got jumpscared. 😂

[@parkerjones6071]

I hate when people ask my pronouns. Im a closeted trans girl and its so hard to lie all the time. I think that people should use the pronouns of how a person is presenting, and then if corrected, use the proper ones.

[@CreativeRed4]

I agree. It's also distressing for stealth trans people, who feel put on the spot like they're being clocked. I'm always uncomfortable with it because I'm only ever asked by people who only ask people they think are/might be trans. Otherwise people just see a man and call me a man and use the right pronouns. When I first started transitioning, I'd just correct people if they got it wrong. IDK why that fell out of popularity. I promise majority of trans people aren't going to attack someone over a single accidental misgendering.

[@straberryshinigami15g97]

Presentation ≠ pronouns, and it’s pretty damaging to assume it is

[@CreativeRed4]

@@straberryshinigami15g97 Presentation usually does indicate pronouns, though, and it's just as damaging to ignore the effort trans people go through to present as their gender, even if they don't pass.

[@bradiedean7466]

I have so much newfound sympathy for English teachers who have to deal with the anti-pronoun crowd

[@EbyTheDragon]

My pronouns are they/them, and I've used them since 2016. Recently, as I've started getting to know and working with a lot of people who have learned English as a second language, i've started to use they/he to try to make things easier. "He" is technically still wrong for me, but it feels like a compliment when strangers assume I'm male. Yes, i have dug into that feeling, and it's just because they're getting it wrong in the opposite way that most people incorrectly assume my gender which is a refreshing change. The first time i had someone assume i was non-binary without asking, i was so over the moon happy about it that it took me more than two weeks to even say thank you because i was afraid I'd be too excited and in his face and scare him off

[@OdinsSage]

I absolutely get that thing about the "wrong, but in a different way" thing, but I've never known how to explain it. You worded it so well!

[@AKASunWukong]

She/they/he/literally anything you wanna Call me, im agender and for me it feels like i have all and no gender at the same time :)

[@Brevislux112]

Ok seriously if a stranger came up to me and asked me that I wouldn't give them an answer. It's just weird and none of their business?

[@Calystilia]

I've never once been asked for my pronouns. If someone asked me on the street, I would probably blankly stare for a few seconds trying to understand the question before remembering that's a thing I've heard of, and then finally coming up with the right words. I feel like at least a few of those slow responders just weren't familiar with how to answer that question.

[@GillOfTheNorth]

Mine are He/Him/They/Them

[@alabastergiant]

My pronouns are she/her.

[@aspidoscelis]

Turns out being uncomfortable providing my (assigned gender) pronouns was a sign.

[@Jadenorsmth]

Actually not everyone has or uses pronouns. In Germany, it’s very common (especially for nonbinary people) to just not use pronouns and those people like to only be referred with their name. That’s because in Germany, there’s no pronoun like “they”. He is Er, She is Sie, but they is also Sie. The plural uses the same words as the singular female. That’s why a lot of genderqueer people just use no pronouns in Germany.

[@AbsolutelyMarshmallow]

I have nonbinary friends here and it is very much an everyday nuisance. Some of them use the opposite gendered pronouns as their agab to have the same effect.

[@em_is_theta]

I’m transfem and I use she/her pronouns!

[@avivam7562]

I have two friends (both trans) who only use their name and no 3rd person pronouns!

[@MaridoDoFelps]

20:41 Oooh a brazilian, I could recognize my country's way of speaking english even if I was half deaf lmao "Mai neimi? Piter Párqui" with the rolled R too XD

[@emu9364]

Where i live i know a few people who genuinely use no pronouns, me too sometimes. Typically we choose really short names so they can be used instead of a pronoun. In german that is actually even more efficient, because our language is burdened with an excessive use of pronouns. There are many sentances where you say the name and a pronoun in the same sentance, if you cut away the pronoun there is a word less to say.

[@RiffBoaz]

Because Jamie asked, I’m Agender and go by it/it’s they/them

[@FamiliarlyFrigid]

11:33 APPULE FURSUIT HEAD???? THAT'S SO COOL OMG

[@SohiTheTinyKittenHuman]

If some random person came up to me like that guy and asked my pronouns I’d prefer to answer. I’m not out to my whole family or friend group……

[@collapsingwavefunction_.3356]

My pronouns are zey/zem. One day neos will be more prolific 🤞🏽

[@neon17.08]

Neopronouns are really neat. I don't use neos for myself (just they/he for me) but I do have a favourite neo that I find adorable in a way and its "Ne/Nem".

[@collapsingwavefunction_.3356]

@@neon17.08 yea Ne/Nem is cool! Out of curiosity is it one of those things you find adorable for other people but not personally reasonating? Or is there a different reason(s) you don't use them?

[@neon17.08]

@@collapsingwavefunction_.3356 I just find them adorable on their own, or should I say on ner own. I don't know a lot of people who use neopronouns in real life, I know one person though that does but they haven't defined which one so I assume its all neos. I have thought of adding ne/nem but I don't resonate with any neos. My gender identity doesn't feel suited for a neopronouns (in a personal sense) I'm masc agender and they/he fits me.

[@neon17.08]

@@collapsingwavefunction_.3356 What make you realise zey/zem where the best pronouns for you?

[@collapsingwavefunction_.3356]

@@neon17.08 that makes sense, I hear you ☀️ Well, I really liked neos when I heard them, and they/them has always been something I've heard used for an unknown or hypothetical person, which kinda rubs me the wrong way when he's and she's get to be specified as actual identifiable people. And I think they/them works well for strangers, consciously not assuming gender, but if I've told someone my actual pronouns and they keep calling me they/them it just sounds like they want me to remain a big question mark. I particularly like the neos with z or x, and I figured if I mush ze/zir with they/them then at least the different forms will be familiar to anyone paying a smidge of attention (i.e. zey/zem/zeir/zemself). Spoiler alert: most people don't pay a smidge of attention. But even they/thems have to consistently remind people to use their correct pronouns, so... knowing I'm gonna be misgendered anyway, at least I resonate with the ones I chose.

[@alixjones7460]

25 and I use any pronouns (Genderfluid)! A lot of the time people she/her me but whenever I get he/him-ed or literally anything else it makes me sooo happy! I also really liked how like.. a lot of people were just answering it! That was really nice.

[@alyx-221b]

my pronouns are non-existent. i think i lost them.

[@phantomswagger9363]

Have you tried looking under the couch cushions?

[@headphonesaxolotl]

A buddy of mine dropped hers once. If you want them back, I'm sure you could order some online.

[@alyx-221b]

@@phantomswagger9363 yeahh, they're not there either😭I think they might have been stolen or smth

[@alyx-221b]

@@headphonesaxolotl hmmm, yeah that's a good idea, i might try doing that

[@osc-omb47896]

thats like, a major skill issue 😢

[@llast3386]

I feel like this guy surprising people from behind them and chasing them down and getting in their personal space suddenly is being very disrespectful of people A. may not appreciate that kind of interaction and / or B. might have residual trauma from similar experiences. He's always sarcastic when they don't answer but he's not taking into account that he literally might have just triggered a panic attack.

[@kroganpopy9206]

Some people do go around assuming peoples names. I was called the name Dodge by a kid in my gym class for an entire semester and he genuinely thought it was my name.

[@spiker.ortmann]

So, are you complaining or flexing about being called Dodge? I think it's cool, but maybe you don't...

[@izrawezenberg1386]

Scots be like, "whu's yur pro'nuns?" Love it.

[@Deadkid-jx3ih]

I gave up on my pronouns just because it fluctuates so often, so I usually just go by 'person' or my name so if you actually just go by your name that's valid, as long as you aren't wanting somebody to use something inappropriate, like a slur than I don't see any problems with it.

[@placidDelineator]

as a nonbinary person (they/them) who didn't have words for my identity for the longest time I vibe with the guy (10:20-10:26) who uses he/him as decided by consensus. For the longest time I used certain pronouns because everyone else agreed rather than any strong connection I felt

[@Vahlee-A]

My pronouns are she/her and started out at they/them. I only ask people their pronousn if the look safe or gender-nonconforming, or if they have rainbow pins. Luckily, in my city in Washington State, asking is easy, and even some old people hsbe pronouns.

[@caraslaboszewski2275]

She/they. If not for my dimensions it would be they/them

[@jmgrule]

During my entire time at high school, I have been repeatedly misgendered by people even after I told them to stop. Being asked my pronouns finally by someone is so nice to see. Even if its in digital form. My pronouns are They/Them.

[@Krystal109]

I swear people don't know what a pronoun is in this day and age. Not surprised when there are kids that can't tell you what order the letters are in the alphabet cause they only know where they are on a keyboard.

[@LegorocketsAnimation]

It's a noun that lost its amateur status. - Calvin and Hobbes

[@spameranne]

hi jamie! they/them here it's so sweet seeing the guys who just chill-ly reply "he/him," and even more so the ones who seem but to have not thought about it that much take a moment before replying. it really takes the sting out of the rude ones. edit: Scottish guy *really* needs to work on his approach. bad, so bad.

[@Merlinbird2]

Hey there , I’m gender-fluid and go by any pronouns so he/she/they ☺️ Also so happy I finally found the bravery to comment This channel makes me feel so much better every time dysphoria hits These videos helpt my parents and myself to understand better what was going on Thank you so much for the amazing content, informative videos and everything else 👍👍👍

[@SohiTheTinyKittenHuman]

Yeah poor non English speaker in my class who the teacher called out the student on the first day because he genuinely didn’t understand and asked “I don’t understand what is a pronoun” another student just defined pronouns for him and he said clarified he him. The professor meant well but she really effed up she must have been so embarrassed. She shut up for the rest of the introductions.

[@liakirk9325]

My pronouns are she/her. It was a great video!

[@lukewarmsoda1147]

he/they, but in dutch (my native language), i only use he/him, because i dont really like the gender neutral options

[@thegirlwholivesindelusion26]

She/her

[@elena_eleen]

I think what confuses some cis people here is that they have this idea of "oh, if someone asks for my pronouns that means that I don't present clearly enough as my gender". Like they think that the person asking can't tell which binary box they fit into and that that's an insult or something. Like, some of them are responding like "well, I'm CLEARLY a man, why would you even ask? Are you saying I don't look like a man?" It comes from a place of ignorance and they think the asker of the question is disrespectful for "insinuating" that they might not be cis or """normal""" when in fact asking that question is like the most respectful thing to do in my opinion.

[@albeenywhite3430]

She/her The first interviewer has lots of good content including his experiences as a Black man at BYU which is where he interviews many people for Tik Tok

[@redacted9772]

Newer transfem, she/they

[@nobody43238]

They’ve switched a bit but for a solid two months it’s been he/ze/it/they. I only use they/them irl because that’s when it gives me euphoria.

[@demondream3029]

I'm genderfluid, preferred pronouns kry/kryp/krypt/kryptis/kryptself, though I take they/them because I chicken out trying to explain neopronouns to people.

[@stenvg1]

he/him ❤

[@russkipaloski]

He/Him

[@Crownedkitty]

Pronouns = grammar Asking is being a polite/ decent human being. She/ her ❤ Ty.

[@elise359]

i know usually its asked to be aware or to not assume, for me as a trans woman, i typically feel that if im asked, then it makes me feel i'm not passing enough , so they seem to be asking because they arent sure. which probably isnt the case, i just also feel if i ask others their pronouns they may feel that way.

[@katphish30]

I'm Gen X, and we* know (or we should) that a pronoun is meant to take the place of a noun because saying all those nouns over and over can really wear you down. *"We" = USian and maybe Canadian, I don't know how far Schoolhouse Rock spread.

[@joelpartee594]

Now I have a friend named Rufus Xavier Sarsaparilla

[@Michelle-ro6qu]

One of the first things you learned in primary school grammar are the pronouns. Pronounces are used since thousands of years in all languages

[@flamingpaxtsc]

The same people that say “I don’t use pronouns” are the same people that complained that their teacher gives them bad grades

[@nettlesandsnakes9138]

I’m the kind of person to ask everyone for their preferred pronouns, and if they don’t give them to me, I’m going to use them because that’s what you do to a person you don’t know the preferred pronouns of.

[@headphonesaxolotl]

I go by appearance, correct if needed, and use they if the person uses something I do not understand

[@Infinnityyy_]

I’m 14, I’ve been using he/him pronouns since I was 11 :)

[@Em_On_Pawz]

It depends on the day (I’m genderfluid so all)

[@rare_edamimi_fangirl]

She/Her, except occasionally I feel like using She/They for some reason

[@AB-qt6uw]

“the answer to that question was the gift that kept on giving” 🤣

[@ADR3NALIN3_BXMB]

He/him here! Btw I’m a 30 yr old closeted trans man (not for much longer hopefully). Want you to know your videos help me a lot Jamie! Thank you for being you!!

[@XtremeDestroyer]

Mine are She/Her

[@alec5051]

Graygender, so I kinda don't really care about my pronouns? I use any and all!

[@tek4]

She her, new transgirl 3.5 mth hrt and life got better 😊

[@morganmightbeok...]

My pronouns are they/he, though that might end up flipping around

[@BackAtItAgainAtKrispyKremes]

My economics teacher showed a PragerU video in my class. If that’s not indoctrination I don’t know what is. My face the whole time was shocked and appalled.

[@fallingbisexualdisaster]

i think the only thing that people miss is that some people do use no pronouns, I know multiple people who do just prefer to be referred to by name.