ASMR 10 Things I’ve Learned in Therapy (Soft Whispers)

[@rolling5520]

To anyone who want the advice but falls asleep before the end: 1. Making decisions is not taking action. 2. Be careful about who you let give you advice. 3. Learn to define, understand and describe your emotions. 4. Self-improvement is an addiction and there is an overdose. 5. Respect is everybody's least favorite word and most important asset. 6. Therapy is a microcosm. (it means that the way you behave in therapy is a reflection of the way you behave in other areas of your life). 7. Create more than you consume and you will be a happier person. 8. The goal is peace, not happiness. 9. There is no on like you. (it means that nobody can understand/relate to/empathize with you). 10. There is nothing more comforting than someone who is willing to listen to you wholeheartedly.

[@Violet-q9s]

Thx❤

[@BP_on_ice]

know*

[@pap-asmrandmuckbangs.1632]

Thanks

[@btwitsrovnan]

timestamps 1:52 lesson 1 5:13 lesson 2 10:47 lesson 3 13:42 lesson 4 16:19 lesson 5 21:22 lesson 6 24:26 lesson 7 26:21 lesson 8 29:24 lesson 9 30:10 lesson 10

[@user-fy9lv9qs7v]

ty!

[@mashaasmr3522]

you’re right about all this stuff, especially i like part about respect. i realised it was so true,when my mom always tells me to treat myself the way i want others to treat me. ofc it may not work every time, but prioritising and keeping your own boundaries will never betray you, u’ll just feel more powerful and confident next time. thank you for telling such smart things,it’s always so interesting to watch,i feel like really participating too

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

The respect thing has been extremely difficult for me. I hate conflict and confrontation so I usually kinda just give in to what will make the other person happy. But you're right, having boundaries is so underrated and has made me much happier these past few months. And it makes me so happy to hear that you wanna participate, all I want these videos to do is spark conversation, so i really appreciate you sharing your thoughts

[@Alberts_Stuff]

You're going to be ok bro, thanks for sharing this 🙏🏼

[@benflis1618]

“The goal is peace, not happiness” is something I got from Kevin Durant. It’s probably the best single piece of advice there is

[@itami0-1]

Is peace not an aspect happiness? It’s kinda like telling someone to take the biggest slice on a pizza. Which is ironic because that in itself is like a slice of happiness.

[@gbxz5163]

This was extremely insightful thank you so much I really needed the information about making a decision is not taking action i actually feel like that is eye opening

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

It’s so simple but so overlooked, and I still struggle with that habit

[@jacobhorton7495]

You should do a top 10 albums

[@2bbbcc]

second this!!!!!!!!

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Great idea, that's going on my to do list

[@wjsnsh00ter43]

hello jacob thank you for uploading!! your videos are honestly some of my favorite,, I always enjoy listening what you have to say in every upload as you express yourself clearly and every piece of advice or stories from your experiences has enlightened me and helped me see certain things differently so once again thank you for having this channel 🙏🙏

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

And thank you for watching, that was so nice to read and made me wanna make 100 more videos for you

[@SouthernBelleWhisper]

Jacob, don’t take this the wrong way, but your videos have become my therapy. I’ve never trusted therapists after one broke the “confidentiality” rule back when I was 15. I’m so glad that I found your channel when I did. I found your channel when I felt like my life was FUCKED. And your videos have helped me more than you know! I always watch them the first time to listen closely and the second time to fall asleep to 😂

[@sallythedino]

what IS the wrong way to take this comment?

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

You are too sweet thank you so much. I love sharing what I've experienced and hearing that it's helped you in any capacity is so so amazing. I appreciate you always sharing your thoughts on my videos too, it seriously means a lot

[@MimiDjdh]

This video is so valuable, thank you so much for sharing this with us

[@lizethvm]

Thank you for sharing! These are all great 💓

[@kholuod]

your voice is the only therapy that I need 🎀

[@JayleighAsmr]

Also self theraphy is the best kind because you know yourself better than anyone ever will, shadow work has helped me so much 🙏🏼

[@JayleighAsmr]

Theraphy is amazing for you, even theraphists need theraphy! There is nothing like discovering youself from the perspective of someone else and deep diving into spaces in your mind youve never been ❤ also love this just come across your channel

[@helengrugett]

I just found this video and your channel and wow, maybe it comes naturally to you but either way, you are able to articulate your thoughts so well and it’s so very refreshing to listen to!! thank you for this video

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Thank you for listening! I appreciate it

[@WhiskersInc]

This was PHENOMENAL. Thank you for putting so much deliberate effort and thought into each of these 10 points - most powerfully resonated with me. You have a gift for this kind of communication! Virtual hug 🤗

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Thank you ❤️ I’m really glad you enjoyed!

[@rachel4555]

I came across this video by choosing an ASMR video with my eyes closed under my recommended lol and im really glad i did. The topic of respect really resonated with me, as someone who is mexican, growing up i was taught that respect is extremely important. especially towards your parents/elders. But i was also taught to take the disrespect sitting down, from those same people, mind you. So self respect is something i had to teach myself, it was hard and im still learning what that means to me and those around me but the main take aways ive learned have been “Self respect is a form of self love” and “Respect and realism go hand in hand” but anyways, thank you for the wonderful video

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Yeah that’s still my biggest struggle rn, I hate confrontation and I will do almost anything to avoid it. But every time I’ve made myself have those uncomfortable conversations I’ve felt so much better about myself afterwards. It’s so night and day

[@genp456]

💫 This was wonderful! Thank you for your kindness and generosity of sharing these 10 life tips with us and explaining them so eloquently and succinctly. Great tips! Thank you 🙏

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Thanks for watching!

[@marcelaperez4126]

You remind me of my best friend, I sometimes tend to take my fantasies too far and forget the actual reality of things to escape… and my best friend says it to me straight. I don’t need someone checking me, but it’s nice to have someone who’s not scared to be real.

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

That sounds like a great friend, my best friend is the same way and it’s made me more practical. But I’d be lying if I said I don’t enjoy letting my imagination run

[@Beautifultauruswoman]

Why pay for therapy when you’re dropping this knowledge for free???

[@duress17]

He literally just said he learned it from therapy🤦‍♂️

[@cowboylikefinn]

@@duress17bro he’s saying why should we pay for therapy when he’s telling us what he learned 🤦

[@camerashyness]

The truthful answer is having the ability to discuss aspects of your life in-depth with a fresh perspective, someone who isn’t a friend or whose thoughts aren’t directly influenced by your actions . They also have further techniques and methods they can utilize which can’t really be monitored/accurately carried out by someone who isn’t trained in that area.

[@slaydensimeti]

@@camerashynessit’s not that serious

[@wyldlife]

@@slaydensimeti oh shut up.

[@bee2813]

One of my favorite topics 💪

[@petercourtien4581]

Awesome channel, Jacob. I’ve enjoyed several videos since subbing today. Keep up the great work.😊🙌🏻

[@_whatis.mylife_]

A reminder for people who feel like they're stuck in the self improvement loop he mentioned, Gratitude is the most important thing. You can strive for better and be grateful for what it's taken you to get this far. You can also be grateful that you have things to improve about yourself because no one is 100% perfect. We are all learning about ourselves about others and about the world everyday so be grateful. acknowledge where you are accept who you are and be grateful of where you are today even if you don't think you deserve it

[@gabe1900]

Jacob, someone requested a top 10 albums video & I have to second it! I LOVE hearing about music tastes.

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

I saw that, I'm gonna start putting a list together and maybe writing down how each album makes me feel

[@gbxz5163]

@@jacobdreamsasmromg yes pls do music related videos

[@PascalRascal]

You just gave me more actionable advice in one single video than my actual therapist did in 5 months lol

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

That's probably the hardest part of therapy, finding a good therapist who you click with and will really help you. I think it stops a lot of people from going, especially if the first time doesn't work out

[@SherbertLW]

Thanks I really needed this. I used to be in therapy when I was younger and not doing well, now I'm doing way better but I'm so sad every time I get into a fight with my boyfriend or have a really bad anxious ADHD day and I just wish I had an outside perspective and some professional support. I reached out to a few people and got ghosted, but it's time to try again!

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Good luck! Way to take initiative

[@jamesdaly6772]

Thank you so much for this video really helped me with My therapy sessions great advice tips thanks again 😊

[@5ecretivity]

watxhing this after an acid trip is prettyyyyy gnarly man so many emotions

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

I would love to hear what that was like if you care to elaborate

[@5ecretivity]

@@jacobdreamsasmrpretty much had 2 tabs cause yk i mean in fked up, had the tabs at 8pm and at 4 am i was still tripping, watched this video bro and just started not crying but like yk tearing up. Quite frankly im struggling to remember what even happened, so much has happened over the passed 2 days. Told my parents about my addictions and i mean lifes pretty hellish. But im pretty sure when i was watching this i was just deeping everything and completely understood everything you said

[@krizznaa]

@@5ecretivity aw im so happy that things are becoming better for you

[@5ecretivity]

@@krizznaa turns out my body rejected the acid tabs and now ive got red spots literally everywhere other than my face, i mean we still pushin still goin gym so all in all im alright. Life treats everyone bad but its just a matter of who keeps getting up and striving. that isnt me right now but yk we’ll get there

[@krizznaa]

@@5ecretivity waittt youre so right (needed to hear this im studying for midterms in the library currently smh) but we ball stilllll #loveprevailsalways #hopeisadangerousthingtohave #butihaveit

[@gabbyluna9630]

I really enjoyed this video. It was really relatable for me ❤

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

I'm happy to hear that, thank you for watching!

[@elmodagreat8288]

Happy you’re back brother 🙏🙏

[@Royschanneltosleepin]

Expecting change without effort is like looking at wood expecting a fire

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

That’s a bar

[@TJBear]

Sometimes I am asked by folks “Should I leave this person I am involved with?” I used to attempt giving them an answer. Many years ago… Now after many years of guiding and helping others in a thing called recovery, I say, “I have no right to tell you what to do about such an important part of your life”. I explain to them to contemplate how the relationship is helping them or hindering them. Is it helping you improve your life or is it holding you back from improvement? I encourage them to take time to reflect and write about it. Of course, many times, I would like to say, “Get rid of the bum!” 😂 But alas, it is not my place.

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

It is soooo hard to try and be objective with somebody you can see is in a bad relationship. I used to try to give my two cents too, but after I went through my first breakup I kinda realized that I had to go through that experience and really make all the dumb mistakes I did in order to truly learn the lessons. So sometimes I feel like I’m being unhelpful when people ask for my opinion now but I think it’s better to be hands off

[@TJBear]

@@jacobdreamsasmr We are being super helpful and kind and showing respect by letting our acquaintance know that we have no right to advise on such a huge decision but we will be there in an indirect fashion. Listening, comforting, sharing our experience in such matters. I share a story about how someone gave me such advice and I had a resentment for following said advice. Never a dull moment when humans are involved. 😝

[@DHU11]

Dark and HANDSOME damn

[@Idkbutcool]

Listening to this has made me come to terms that I’m not some normal person like everyone makes me out to be. I have flaws, and it makes me sad realizing this. Maybe I got too caught up in others opinion about myself because it’s who I want to be.

[@TJBear]

I have along way to go! That is my life. Always another fish to fry. Happiness is fleeting. Inner peace and joy is where it is at. I am perpetually striving for perfection, and that is unattainable. But I do a mental exercise, envisioning a river and a raft docked at the river’s edge. I put my flawed thinking and any kooky behaviour on the raft and anyone who was affected by it. A gentle nudge by my foot and it floats away from me down the river. I pray that I completely release it and give it a wave goodbye. Visual stuff works for me. Often an amends is in order, frequently to my husband. TY for your reflections. I relate. Terri Jo from BC Canada

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

That’s a beautiful metaphor, I felt like I was really there w you on that dock. I’m working on letting go of stuff too, mostly just the day to day anxiety about being perfect myself

[@TJBear]

@@jacobdreamsasmr well Jacob. As your handle states.... You can dream 💛🌟

[@corpsebride3661]

PART 2!!!!!!!

[@krizznaa]

love this video but i just want to comment on ur whisper its literally so perfect and u speak at the perfect pace idk i cant explain it its like dry and wet at the same time but also the perf balance if that makes any sense at all??? umm ya i am going to subscribe right after i post this comment tbh #loveu

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Thank you!! Sometimes I feel like I talk wayyyy too fast so I’m glad to hear that #loveu

[@RL438]

Good stuff. Thank you

[@wallycpt]

Missed you bro

[@MrsDarcy91]

How are you so wise? I strive to articulate my thoughts the way you do.

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

I feel soooo far from wise, but with sharing my thoughts it's just practice. I mentioned writing in the video, that's helped a lot, but also having these kinds of conversations with my therapist or my friends, too. Also, reading, seeing the different ways people express ideas in books has helped me adopt some new ways of speaking and writing

[@rtcommodore9354]

Wise words.

[@crystal_skyes]

😢amzing video,....so true🫶👍☺️

[@phoenixweaver9628]

You look like you’d be a really good model for a Prada sunglasses campaign. Hope this helps

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Let's manifest that

[@Vvisk]

thanks my dude🤍🤙🏿

[@RJam56]

You look like dave franco

[@eudbz]

idk anything that youre talking about bc im too sleepy to pay atention at it, but it seems rlly interesting. Congrats to the video. 👏🏼

[@Perry-o5i]

Its attention

[@meropale]

I've been to therapy but it was a waste for me. If you are relationship oriented it might work for you since the relationship you build with the therapist is a crucial factor to its success.

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

You definitely need to find the right person, i got lucky

[@jeremymendez3167]

Sending this to my boyfriend

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Lmk what he thinks

[@Adriftraindrop_]

Gosh ur gorgeous ❤

[@Perry-o5i]

And you free mails never can have him but you still chase never give the average male a chance

[@Adriftraindrop_]

Sir, I'm married and don't want him, but I was simply giving a compliment. I do it with gorgeous females and males just because I feel like it. You don't even know me to presume such a thing.

[@isabelarodriguez1104]

bro lookin kinda like Oscar Isaac is my only therapy

[@temp6156]

I was thinking more like Dave Franco

[@isabelarodriguez1104]

@@temp6156 a lil bit of both now that u pointed that one out 😭

[@camila-rubi]

Random but you look like a 2000s actor I think it’s the buzz. Anyway great video, I feel like everything u said is simple information that many people don’t actually apply to their lives. Facts !!

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Thank you! I tried to keep it simple but still explain my reasoning. Sometimes the cliche stuff is the best

[@christine4829]

Hi. Ik this is weird but I find your face very captivating and your eyes actually stopped me as I was scrolling. Please do I have permission to draw you?

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Go for it, email me whatever you make i wanna see

[@christine4829]

@jacobdreamsasmr Great, Thank you so much! (I'm not the best artist btw so keep ur expectations low lol)

[@chris-q1w1r]

hey bro

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Hey bro

[@shaunmil]

Okay. Shouldn't listen to this during work. I was ready for a nap.

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

I've done the same exact thing hahaha, it's a slippery slope

[@Anishaaaaa1998]

Could you give some advice for arrange marriage

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

I could try but I'd probably need more context and I have zero experience with that personally, so only if you promise to take what I say with less than a grain of salt

[@ariessasmr]

could you be my therapist lol

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

I'll listen to you for an hour if you listen to me for an hour after that

[@ariessasmr]

@@jacobdreamsasmr 🤝

[@JjJameson-k9r]

Jake gylenhall

[@scynicalhumanbean]

Kinda ironic to get an advice from a guy on the Internet who suggests to not take any advices from the people on the Internet.

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

You kinda ate me up w that ngl

[@Ephebvs]

👍🏻✌🏻🤘🏻!🇧🇷

[@Vvisk]

🤍🤍

[@heretogetupdated6199]

Are you single? 😌🙈

[@sallythedino]

yes I am

[@heretogetupdated6199]

@@sallythedino hmu then 😌

[@wyldlife]

@@heretogetupdated6199 lmaoooo.🤣

[@heretogetupdated6199]

@@wyldlife you can too if you want 😌👀

[@JocyASMR]

Are you a cancer ♋️

[@jacobdreamsasmr]

Pisces

[@Perry-o5i]

​@jacobdreamsasmr bro I'm a Pisces aa well got a tattoo of the sign

[@Sallystockingsseniorjumble]

You kinda look like a young Sylvester Stallone here