ASMR Whispered Ramble & Gum Chewing: Post-Wedding Blues

[@BelleTolles]

I think it's totally normal to be down right now. You are pretty goal oriented, and you just accomplished a huge event that you put so much into and made so perfect. And it's done -- poof. I think there's a grieving process almost of letting go of it. But if you can just start to think more of the flow, instead of beginnings and endings,, it might help. One thing ends, another begins, it's all just part of the flow. You were talking about "if I just knew". But if we knew everything from beginning to end, life would lose it's meaning. I think the very best thing you can do for yourself right now is really feeling all the good stuff -- what an amazing thing you did with the wedding and how that will be with you forever. And how great your social media is going. You have so much to offer. Look at all you've brought into your life -- your best friend as a life partner, wonderful friends, good health, good income, people who want to hear what you have to say on social media, the ability to create what you want. Why if you've attracted all this, would you suddenly not get what you want. Just let yourself enjoy what you have and believe in yourself and believe you deserve to continue attracting good things. Really dwell on all the fun moments of your life. Sometimes I just lay in bed and pick a particular time of my life or an event, and I just fully let myself be right back in the joy of it. You have lots of adventures to come like having a baby and some day buying a home and your social media developing. I think it's totally normal to feel a let down after a big event. But don't let it yank you out of the overall great flow of your life. I don't know what you mean when you say imposter syndrome. I think most people who know you would say you could accomplish whatever you put your mind to. As much as you can, just try to be in gratitude and belief in yourself and enjoy what you can.

[@ASMRxBABEE]

This is such a fantastic take!!! Really appreciate the wisdom and care of this comment 🤍🤍

[@thevaleriestewart]

The advice that everyone needs to take 👏🏼

[@bergie3316]

I’m currently applying to jobs too and it’s so overwhelming! I’m a recent college grad so if you ever wanted to make a video abt your experience/advice with job hunting, interviewing etc that would be amazing!!

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Yeah good idea! I remember graduating and finding my first job, that is a good Story Time

[@joslynhernandez4927]

I recently got laid off and now finding something I’m super happy doing. It’s gods way of redirecting us. Praying for both of you! 🫶🏼

[@ASMRfleur]

This was such a throwback vibe with the rambling, the hoodie, the top bun SLAY. Reminded me of your old apartment setup so much ❤

[@jedielnunes1328]

Hey Julia, Just know that the job will come. Have faith and enjoy the process. Often times we look back at moments in our lives and ask ourselves why we were so stressed when things always have a way of working out. As long as you can see your next step just take that and dont worry about the rest.

[@ASMRxBABEE]

You are so right!!

[@ria4106]

Would love a long version of your new guided meditations shorts! ❤

[@itsiqrafaysal]

Option B pls

[@elliemerritt9818]

You should do a dear diary series and chat/ramble about your life your thoughts open honest convos love it

[@ASMRxBABEE]

That is basically what I do on my website with my audios but can def incorporate them more here and i love that title!!

[@annharris8550]

Every version of you is stunning-pre-wedding,post wedding, months ago, years ago -,you are forever beautiful inside and out. The new job coming your way will be the best yet. Thanks for all you do to get me through anxious days and bringing a smile with your intelligence and good humor. So happy your wedding was the dream come true for you guys. Well deserved.❤️

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Thank you so much Ann🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@BigbangVenezuela2]

These bonus videos are such a treat you have no idea

[@Tana1249]

I’ve really loved your wedding series. I’m getting married in august and your videos help me get in the planning mood lol.

[@envenable]

Been watching you since the beginning… can’t believe you’re finally a married woman! I’m happy for you guys… The happy take away from the blah that you’re feeling is knowing that this is just a tiny blip in your life. I know what it feels like to have a stage of your life finally come to fruition and then you’re left feeling like, “ok, now what?” I felt that way when I had our 4th and final baby. But that’s what happens when you put your heart into the things you do. I think it means you have a passionate soul. So, just know you’re moving forward to bigger, better and more meaningful things! Love to you from a random 35 year old Florida gal ✌🏼❤️☀️

[@MauveASMR]

Love the brain dump! Super interesting to hear the way you think! Sending you lots of good energy for the job hunt and just in general 💜🤗

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Thanks love 🤍🥰

[@heddapettersson7750]

Gum chewing!!! Made my night. Good night from sweden ☺️

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Hope you enjoyed it!

[@katyharding6671]

option b :) also, been watching you for years and every video you post you always look absolutely gorgeous, doesn’t matter whether you have makeup on or it’s just a chill video of you in comfy clothes. Try enjoy your time off it’ll all work out for the better💞

[@unerosejolie]

I personally love thank you cards! I don’t expect to receive them, but when people go out of their way to show their appreciation, I cherish them!!!

[@Laura_Stars]

Option A would be nice 😊 but option B sounds great too. Great video as usual and I liked how you talked about the fear of uncertainty. Super relatable for me right now and it was comforting hearing you talk about it and showing it’s completely normal. But like you said, we’ll be led to something better ✨

[@Asmrsensorylife]

I love you’re videos you’re the only thing that’s making me happy while I’m stressing over life ! I also usually hate chewing but I stuck through it because you don’t chew loud and are one of my favourite people to listen to

[@tstarasmr9992]

The pregnancy thing I totally get!! We got pregnant right away, about a month after our wedding. But then I miscarried. So now I’m anxious about it when I wasn’t before 🤷🏻‍♀️ such is life, right? Love your content ❤️

[@emilykincanon6610]

The angel gown is a great program to donate wedding gowns to, it gets pieced into tiny outfits for still born babies. You can see if there is a angel gown program local to you

[@Financegirl2023]

Something amazing will come your way!! Your drive & motivation is so visible 💘

[@sharonrusso9516]

Julia!! Hi! I am currently in the process of applying to jobs as well. Would you be able to make a video offering some advice on writing resumes and cover letters? I feel like that has definitely been the most daunting part of the process and I have certainly found myself struggling at times. You're super relatable and transparent so something like this would be helpful!

[@kyngmarc]

YT please boost this video so Julia can be a full time KZbinr 🙏🏽

[@liluzimag]

I just have to say your website is so well done! I was hesitant to subscribe because I already have a few Patreon subscriptions and it seemed like a pain lol. But I really needed that extra wedding content & I’m so glad I subscribed !!

[@coweenie413]

lmao i had the same thoughts when people would say i looked so good at my wedding. i was like “girl thats my severely stressed out body 😭”

[@dianaray1470]

Hey julia hi ! Loved your wedding video. You looked amazing. I send thank you notes for every gift I’m ever gifted. I love you for being unapologetically you. You are a blast to watch. Love ya girl 🫶🏼.

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Awww sending all the love right back 🤍🤍🤍

[@lishab1515]

Very real video, i can actually relate to both of the things you’re saying. I have a job which i’m unhappy in and job descriptions seem so intimidating! They make me doubt myself even though i know im a great worker, just average at cover letters and interviewing😩 adulting. I hope you find something soon x

[@rikkigarrett6614]

You hold yourself together with so much class. Youre amazing Julia. Xo.

[@thevaleriestewart]

Girl, please know that you are gorgeous wedding glow or regular Julia glow!!! Don’t apologize for complaining about your struggles. Your post wedding blues are totally valid and you are allowed to feel them. The wedding is over but married life has just begun and I have a feeling there will be many different phases of sexy, married, Julia!!! 🤩🫶🏼

[@arielmeyer132]

Love the gum chewing! My favorite ever!❤️

[@rrrface]

Just a tip: they often use software to scan the cover letters and resumes so be sure that your template is readable by that software! There’s a lot of info from HR professionals and recruiters on TikTok

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Yes! I had a résumé person that helped me make my résumé friendly to the applicant tracking systems

[@hannahguzman123]

Wow loved the realness. Best creator!!

[@sashatodd1179]

Married life agrees with you you look so glowy! Option b please ❤ Would you ever consider doing a wedding website walkthrough? I’m not ready for the hype to be over either! X

[@ASMRxBABEE]

I actually don’t hate that idea lol

[@MAMAKIJAANGUGU]

My college kept her wedding dress for her daughter and she had her first child a girl😊. Reselling it is another option if you dont want to keep it. I think its a compliment to have “bride glow”. A bride to look most beautiful and different than the other days. The bride glow makes her that unique look for that day which comes from your inner happiness.

[@gracief5117]

I would love a asmr vlog!

[@katedorsey]

Ex wedding photographer with thoughts about the dress: 1. Once I had a bride that took her mom's VERY tacky eighties wedding dress and had it cut apart and remade for herself and it was unbelievably beautiful. Everyone always says your daughter wont ever be interested in wearing your dress and that may be true with the dress as-is but using it as an heirloom is still an option one way or another! 2. I saved my gown because I couldn't bear to part with it (and it was $$$$$$) with no real aspirations about what exactly to use it for but my little girl LOVES to take it out and look at it. So do my sons, honestly. It's just kind of a special piece of our history that they weren't there for in person but they can connect with that day physically by looking at the dress (and someday I will give it to my daughter to do with it what she wants - including having it remade to fit her style if thats what she wants!) Congratulations on your wedding - the wedding blues really are legit but they will pass and life will go back to normal!

[@vanessala4386]

i was layed off in november. it was unexpected and felt awful its gonna be better eventually and at least you have a man on your side! i feel you girl 💕🙏🏼

[@Brbdreaming_asmr]

Post wedding blues sounds reminiscent of post vacation blues and post concert blues 😩 good luck on your job search!

[@audreysquires8867]

question! if i were to sign up for your website would you get all of the videos posted for that tier or just the months that you sign up for?

[@erinerin670]

They never talk about the post wedding blues! I planned for 3 years and was so so sad when it ended. Know it’s totally normal to feel these feelings.

[@bepald-wilpums]

I think the right place would find your KZbin to be a benefit! Like they’d see it as an example of your creativity, talent, and that you’re well rounded (and have a life and hobbies and passions outside of just work). Something good will come around soon!

[@irenehill8724]

B & C is interesting. I also have a suggestion with video on how you do your hair and make-up since i admire that you look BOMB when made up

[@autumnmoonASMR]

Im 21 and graduating from college this may, I have been interviewing and finally accepted a full time position post grad. Im super excited but its hard to wrap my head around being a young employee in the office. I totally have imposter syndrome because I feel like a baby. I dont wanna work for the rest of my life hahaha its hard to think about.

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Hahahaha you’re gonna do great!

[@jmelvin725]

The type A in me loves sending Thank You cards, but they aren’t necessary. A wedding, yes… but not for other things. I send them bc it makes ME feel put together 😂 I don’t care or expect them from others though!

[@rosex1932]

Could listen to you talk about anything!!❤❤

[@make575perday]

"There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed." -Ray Goforth

[@ssssooofffiiiiiiiii962]

I would love B :)!!! Love your videos

[@sara_208]

Gum chewing at least once a month pls 😍😍😍 nobody does it like youuu

[@jessiesmith7548]

Enjoyed this video! Wishing you luck on your job search, you seem very capable experienced and skilled, it’ll be alright wherever you land up 🤞

[@emilydeluga606]

You should do a vid all about your job search and resume building, interview skills etc.! I’ve been applying to jobs too, because I hate my current job lol so I feel you, it’s hard being a girl boss in her 20s looking for a job

[@nicholemoyer4938]

Love seeing you on tik tok ❤❤❤❤

[@MissRockHawk]

Option B 😍😍😍

[@sarahsophie985]

I’d love option B! Totally feel you. I always try to tell myself that everything that’s meant for me will find me. And I’m 1000% sure that you‘ll find the PERFECT job that fulfills you at the exact time you’re meant to! Maybe your old job had to go in order for you to move on to bigger & better things 🤍

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Agreed!! Everything like this happens for a reason

[@jayhiggy]

👀 👄 🍸 me watching with a cocktail yess bestie tell me the tea😊❤

[@FrkHjelen]

Happy Wednesday ♥️

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Same to you🤍

[@BelleTolles]

Forgot to add-- I would sell the dress and everything else like that. It's letting it go to make room for something new. If you have a daughter some day, she'll want her own dress. It was perfect for the moment you created, but sticking it in storage feels meaningless to me

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Totally!! People are def delusional thinking their daughter is gonna want it lol

[@MissBridgetLeanne]

A!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love guided meditations 🫶

[@MAMAKIJAANGUGU]

Option B plz

[@BigbangVenezuela2]

Option C ❤

[@ginagiordano950]

I have the same worries about my life and career and pregnancy and it’s so insane. Like I have to make career decisions off of when I want to have a family ? It’s too much

[@annas4191]

can you sell the dress in like a wedding dress consignment in your city? not sure haha

[@Erawl]

Gum chewing at starts 2:41

[@erinerin670]

I was raised to always give a thank you card for everything. My husband was raised the opposite!

[@Lisa-kx9gn]

Hey Julia! I’m sure you know this from dealing with it with Tony, but keep in mind being on EI, they barely tax those payments, so come tax time you may owe. I’m from Canada and not sure how similar it is in the States, but that was something I didn’t know and had an unpleasant surprise come tax time saying I owed when I usually would get a refund. Anyways thanks for the video and can’t wait to see where life takes you now, enjoy the time :)

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Good thought! It did ask me if I wanted it taxed and I said yes but I will confirm with my accountant

[@SameShirtDifferentDay]

Baby shower thank yous are essential!!!! Baby crap is EXPENSIVEEEEE 🤯🤯

[@ZackyASMR]

Hi happy Wednesday

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Hii!!

[@jmelvin725]

Option b please 😊

[@flylykeplanes]

Is it weird that I’m mad on your behalf? 😅 You just give super capable vibes so for a company to not have snatched you up yet is wild to me. 😤 Wishing you all the best and I hope that your most perfect job comes your way soon! 🤗💜

[@lynnen264]

Love your whisper voice. Just found you Congrats on marriage New sub Keep well

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Thanks for subbing!

[@jasoncombs2991]

Ohh 🤔so you did see my 500 plus views on your last gum chewing video🤣😂it’s so weird bc I’ll forget it exists too! Yet it’s my all time favorite for unintentional ASMR bc it’s a natural thing that happens when you chew 😂chills all over 😩

[@2bbbcc]

Option B ❤

[@antekpiekutosky818]

Beautiful clip ! ❤❤❤ perfect by clip .. asmr sorting and ripping old papers, documents your beautiful hands...Can You make that clip?

[@GuiRibeirao-]

2:40 - gum chewing.

[@Masterdre4678]

I’d keep the dress but that’s just me my family passes it to kids for memories

[@snxh_]

Option B or C 🫶🏼

[@mdappel224]

I agree that thank you cards are nice to give, but I feel like they can be sent virtually in order to not waste paper. that’s where I think things are leading anyways

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Yes! My invites were all virtual- saved paper, time and money

[@MegaSillygurl123]

What’s your wedding websites link!

[@ASMRxBABEE]

It is private :)

[@beatriceouellet1687]

C or B ❤️

[@care2998]

Option C

[@BelleTolles]

I'll add one more piece of advice and shut up 😅. I don't know how you're going about applying for jobs, but maybe, at least for a little while, only apply to the ones you really want or intuitively feel a pull towards. Because at this point in your life you have a lot to offer to the right place. You're very organized, you're goal driven, you're a hard worker, you're creative, you're mature, etc. It may be that if you're applying to all kinds of places it could create a little feeling of desperation within, and also is going to drain your energy so that you might not be totally focused and ready to see the right fit. I could be totally wrong, but it's just a thought. Trust your gut.

[@ASMRxBABEE]

I love your comments!! Totally agree - I have already found that every other day seems to work for me to keep me motivated…KZbin and the gym and errands one day, then applying to jobs the next and back-and-forth so I don’t get completely burnt out/apply to anything and everything out of desperation and exhaustion

[@lunanor]

For me I will treasure it and let it with me for years (I'm talking about the thank you card)

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Awwe

[@lunanor]

@@ASMRxBABEE and for the job, you are the best worker you will have a better new one you deserve it and one day you will be the boss and when that day comes, go to the other company to tell them I did it 😎

[@Avaprincess8600]

Option b option b option b option b option b

[@rosex1932]

A❤️

[@masonbrown910]

B

[@oliivve1206]

Would love to see C ❤

[@gracielabarrera4081]

B!

[@woildloife777]

You could give the dress to a seamstress and get a nice top and a maxi skirt out of it.

[@iygm]

Pregnancy wise, if you are regular with your period. You’re more fertile around day 13 of your cycle. Day 1 being the first day of your period. There are apps that help you keeping track of your cycle. On the other hand, spermatozoids need to be newish. So your partner needs to release around 24 hrs before you try conceiving. So that the semen is fresh. Try every other day between day 11 -14 of the cycle. This to give time to your partner to produce the spermatozoids. A friend of mine and then a doctor explained this to me. I luckily got pregnant on my first try. And now I have a sweet 2.5 year old boy 💙

[@vanessamingoia1023]

option C

[@keebleralves]

Thank you cards I think should be sent for weddings, bridal showers, baby showers and funerals. Birthday party’s It’s not needed.

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Funerals?! Interesting i dont think i have ever heard that one - since they’re not usually invite type deals yanno

[@djammer]

This might sound a bit crazy, but you should just get chat GPT to write your cover letters and e-mails and have it do all the job hunting. All you do is show up to the interview

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Hahaha i have tried to use it for cover letters and it is not as good as my own writing.. lacks something & a human touch

[@dollydevilish22]

@@ASMRxBABEE we can always tell when those things are written by chatgpt as well! You're absolutely right they lack the humanist touch :)

[@djammer]

@@ASMRxBABEE you’re definitely right, good first draft at least

[@gilsolorio8008]

If you don’t mind me asking, why did they let you go? Was it because you took time off ?

[@andromeda2651]

Yes I'd like to know, I'm confused

[@ASMRxBABEE]

I keep getting this question lol no nothing to do with that or me - company acquisition and company wide layoffs.. just unfortunate timing for me

[@bellaorman6776]

B❤

[@MAMAKIJAANGUGU]

Good luck for your job search. Its sad to know you got laid off. At least you have a husband who can take care of you 😊. How do you feel after being a married woman? Are you planning to go on a honeymoon soon?

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Honeymoon is in August!! Will talk about it more soon 🥰

[@raereybae]

Can you do KZbin full time? Even if not making money (yet)? Then you can work from home if family is what you want in the future.

[@g3n3xis]

C!

[@Ella-yi9sm]

C!!

[@Darelmendoza-mx1jk]

Do u want kids,?. I would like to be ur third wheel, my husband is named tony. T j.,

[@Mold_]

C only if you make it interesting stuff

[@andromeda2651]

Did you really get laid off for getting married? Can you explain?

[@ASMRxBABEE]

No lol it was just unfortunate coincidental timing

[@andromeda2651]

Gotta take the good with the bad ❤

[@Angeliaaerrington]

I can honestly say you look different from before, I know people say it's the glow, but it is, and we may be hearing the pitter patter of tiny feet?

[@ASMRxBABEE]

Lmao i am not pregnant