Autism: how anxiety affects everything - Sarah Hendrickx

Autism and Education Conference, 12th December 2013.
'Autism: how anxiety affects everything' - Sarah Hendrickx

[@hisnewlife3543]

Professors in university always say, “get into groups” and I want to run out of the room, screaming.

[@crescendo2441]

School in Australia is an endless stream of excruciating group work. Total nightmare 😖. I'm waiting for the day when introverts' and autistics' needs are met in school but I'm not holding my breath.

[@Finne57]

Yes ... I experience dread and horror and anxiety at this point in classes. Also, I used to feel so trapped in social situations - first I wouldn't be able to speak at all and could only join in laughter but it felt inane after a point as I could not understand what was going on anyway after the anxiety increased. Then as I froze completely there was no way out because I couldn't move to escape the situation ... Once I climbed out of a window! I don't go so much now...

[@michaelfrank5239]

exactly

[@fionamayfield4762]

Hahaha me too!!

[@plutomars9857]

That's how I always felt

[@livb6945]

I was SO HAPPY and relieved when she said straight out what I was thinking : Why are all of you NOT anxious?

[@IamMissPronounced]

Exactly!!

[@marlee7389]

I was anxious when she said I had to participate somehow AND I'M HUNDREDS OF MILES AWAY. Seriously though. My heart sped up a bit 😅

[@drgamerstat66]

When she asked..my heart started racing 😑

[@yestohappiness2721]

@@drgamerstat66 me too!

[@yestohappiness2721]

@@marlee7389 same here! OMG!

[@kadavr314]

"I want to temporaly be not existing, like a PC Hibernating" This hits too close!

[@rebanelson607]

I know exactly what you mean!

[@montanaisnotreal]

23, just diagnosed and I finally don’t have to feel “too sensitive” , “weird”, “dramatic”, “too intense”, “too quiet” , etc. I sent this video to those closest to me and now they can have info to understand me as they never did when I was growing up. And I understand so many things I used to have no answers to. THANK YOU!!! And thank you to everyone out there sharing accurate and helpful information! ♥︎

[@Katie-vy5rd]

Curious what kind of reception you got from the people you sent the video to? I hope it helped and you are doing well!

[@codypendragons]

You sound super sweet and genuine but I think this might be a case of counting your chickens before they're hatched I'm twice your age I've always been a typical wasn't diagnosed until later on in life not a child I mean and I still have anxiety going outside and people still don't understand me and quite honestly I don't understand it all myself it's really quite complicated.

[@clareryan2640]

Lol, SO COOL😊 yep, not weird, just super powers others aren’t aware of👍👍 it’s a special way to be, keep tracking all the special aspie talents that make you exceptional - non aspies don’t have them, so no use using their language (banish ‘too intense’ - you are passionate, focused, intelligent, self aware, thoughtful and articulate! - so sad to be surrounded by people who don’t even care enough about their interests to learn much about them😋😉)

[@beccismith4454]

Yay for better understanding ourselves and those around us! Even if that process continues and somethings don’t “go away“, understanding and having words that kind of come close to expressing things that are hard to express is so wonderful! I agree. I have autistic people in my life and I’m very thankful for videos like this! 🌸

[@williamoarlock8634]

A social misfit.

[@Novastar314]

"I am more worried about the standards i hold of my self than I am of yours" The entirety of my world. People have been telling me " YOU'RE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF" My whole life. Now I truly know why. Sadly enough, this is 8 years after i attempted to take my life..and am in a wheelchair permanently now. Parents...please pay attention.

[@Novastar314]

@Mr and Mrs Bbbb THANK YOU SO MUCH!

[@kiiabby]

[@internetfriend1861]

Hey, hope you're doing more or less alright. Sending you best wishes xx

[@tomsale5142]

Sorry to hear that ime sure ime autistic and my mother has severe ms in wheelchair sure it's all related to stress I have chronic pain because of this I pray one day you make walk again to.

[@TiffanyVictoriaHoran]

Not being able to approach people is something I really struggle with.

[@itsmanu994]

So do I.

[@jedrashidul6952]

Same. I signed up for a personal trainer job at my local gym before & imagine the horror when I was told about having to find potential clients by making small talks with the gym goers 😱😱😱

[@MsLPSFOREVER]

I force myself to do it at my job if I need to, but nine times out of ten I don't want to.

[@nihilism6226]

Tiffany Victoria Horan I also struggle with approaching people, but mostly cuz they got nothing to offer to me. Whenever I find someone exploitable in my schemes, I quickly change my tune and become extroverted and outgoing towards them.

[@icravedeath.1200]

My life struggles.

[@debrawilson238]

Every teacher and member of staff at every school should watch this.

[@rahulbhaskar6790]

I teach...I don't think it exists. It's just an excuse for privileged kids to be lazy. I cane kids who are lazy....I do my part.

[@yourenough3]

I agree with you 1000%

[@yourenough3]

@@rahulbhaskar6790 your a teacher not a doctor.

[@rahulbhaskar6790]

Don't you think it is over diagnosed?

[@yourenough3]

@@rahulbhaskar6790 a doctor is nt going to give someone a fake diagnoses. The doctors may misdiagnose , they did misdiagnose me with a couple different mental health issues of borderline personality disorder and a few years later with bipolar. No doctor is going to misdiagnose a child now a days. They are on que now a day but us older individuals have beem misdiagnosed , especially woman because we are different from the men / boys on the autism spectrum. I dont understand why its happening to so many people these days , it may be a few different reasons. But it is definitely happening alot ( diagnosed ). Could it be the vaccines ? I wish i knew what it was. Not just autism but alot of cancers are more and more and in younger people. It all makes me wonder what the heck is going on.

[@DS-uy6jw]

Depression is from the past, anxiety is about the future. That's a totally genius way of putting it. I didn't realise the difference for years. Thanks

[@nigelbaldwin752]

not sure it is as straightforward as that, anxiety is created by the past and depression dread of the future, i think some things sound simple but i understand how it looks. My nearly 60 years of life and it's experience tells me different but i agree that simple view may be true for some, just not me. Take care.

[@nitefox4411]

Oh good grief Nigel. Yes, I see your point... One doesn't want their future become a repeat of their past. What can YOU do to avoid that? You have much more control over that than you want to believe. You are using anxiety and depression interchangeably. Can you just handle THIS MOMENT? If not what do you need to do to feel control and safe? Do it. For me after I crashed I started meditation wearing a heavy blanket. Notice how this speaker was able to turn all the negatives into positives to make a life for herself. Those are autistic super powers. There is NO reason to have any fear of anything if you have enough information. I didn't say this "Buck Brannaman did". He was one of my mentors. Nothing can mess a horse up more than an NT. Buck helps fix some of those horses. Find mentors...good ones. Anthony Robbins was one of my first ones. He was one of the secrets of my success because he gives so many ways to cope, deal and adjust. He also gives tough love. He is fair. Not saying he is any Ramana Maharshi, Yogananda or SadHguru, but Robbins is good. So is this speaker. According to my medical doctor, this woman would not be in the dysfunctional end of the spectrum because she can function so well. SHE knows though.

[@slogger1345]

Nigel Baldwin Excellent comment Nigel. I’m 52 and can relate to your perspective immediately!

[@favourjohn312]

Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son #droyalo with your herbs

[@Mute2024]

@@nigelbaldwin752 agreed. Definitely a few words missing.

[@skiandu]

I am in tears here. this is so me in every single way. Diagnosed "minor autistic in 1967 "but girls don't get autism" and finally 2009 finally fully diagnosed aspergers. Havign gone through hell that was too much to cope with. I am now totally housebound and terrified to go out or talk to anyone and have shut the door on the world. Lovely to read shame I cant change the past even more shame I cant apply it to help me. the outside world has just gone at me with such strength that "she can cope, theres nothing wrong" that I am now beyond redemption a total failure and unable to function .

[@christinab.2864]

I feel for you. If I'm too to go out but it's my only outlet to get out of my house of "roommates". Don't say nothing about me and the "roommates"

[@SuperGingernutz]

I totally and utterly relate to your post. Every bit of it.

[@playgrounddolls7766]

skiandu Someone told once "Fall in love with Yourself and you will have greatest and longest love story in your life" Why I told it? Because this is Your Life. No matter how long you have been lost, hidden etc., no matter how many years wasted in unconscious lifestyle - there are much more left TO LIVE NOW. It is Your life. You have to enjoyed it, celebrate it and fulfill Yourself with it so you can develop your soul. So I stead off waiting others understand and accept you I suggest make a deep look on Yourself and fully understand Yourself first. You can be your own friend - talk to Yourself as a teacher - help Yourself to became stronger, brave, motivated etc. Talk each time you have worries and help Yourself to keep going because this is Your life to live. Good luck.

[@sanataj]

+skiandu - I relate to what you have said and I related to the video, particularly the time (about) 17:00-18:15. I have also got very anxious and weary about the way I have been treated all my life, without understanding why I get such a bad reaction from other human beings and why I am so bad in jobs. I have been hiding from the world for the past few years. I just get blamed for my behaviour by everyone and given advice which is shallow and annoying and the sort of thing anyone can think of for themselves e.g. "only you can change your life, no one else can help you" [not true, in my opinion]; and "you are responsible for your life" or do exercise, do housework, go to church, er... join clubs, get hobbies.. Anything to improve the hormones and distract you from your anxiety and negative thinking. Vomit! Anyway, I thought I would mention that I saw a video by an Australian guy who suspected he was on the Asperger's part of the spectrum and kind-of self-diagnosed. He contacted a local autism support group and said they were very welcoing and invited him to their next meeting. When he attended he was so happy and felt he had found the people he called "his tribe". I contacted my local support group to find out if I could be assessed regarding diagnosis. They sent me a form to be completed by a GP (it's not that simple to get GP help though) and invited me to their next meeting. I was very pleased with the friendliness and welcoiming attitude of the person, on behalf of the group. However, I didn't go to the group meeting. My purpose in telling you this is that it may provide a glimmer of hope for you, that you too could find "your tribe" if you contacted a support group. Even if you didn't physically go to a meeting, perhaps you could chat to someone by phone or email or there might be a forum. You might feel better for it.

[@yourenough3]

I totally relate. I am 45 years old. I was MISdiagnosed with bipolar and even once i was MISdiagnosed with borderline personality. I am an aspie! I am not manipulative or mean. I am also exhausted. People drain my energy. Id rather isolate and feel safe!

[@kajielin4354]

The fact that not everyone has a baseline level of anxiety that is basically always there, and only sometimes more and sometimes less, was a revelation to me. You could ask me at any time in my life if I feel anxious in this very moment and the answer is probably yes. Also, that lamppost obviously is a dog with a headscarf! haha

[@gracechristopher3133]

Thank you doc for your good work It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs. His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy God bless you Dr Oyalo

[@MrMooAndMoonSquirrelToo]

​@@gracechristopher3133 eff off with your snake oil that does more harm than good. Stop taking advantage of desperate parents.

[@JDMimeTHEFIRST]

Meeting new people and old people is why I don’t like leaving the house. Having to go to work is the most dreadful thing. Even opening emails from people, I expect to see constant hate and hostility from people. Our main problem is how neurotypicals treat us like a punching bag. That’s why I’m constantly anxious and on the verge of tears. Also, no one sees all the work we do because we don’t chat constantly about it. So we get ALL the negativity and none of the credit.

[@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559]

Tbf, they probably aren't 'treating you like a punching bag', and aren't aware that treating you like everyone else doesn't feel the same for you as it does for 'neurotypicals'.

[@Spooglecraft]

@@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 yeah, neurotypicals are weird in how they treat each other

[@turtleanton6539]

100% agreed

[@JokerFace090]

The best advice I got was to always remember that you coworkers and boss will 100% of the time chose what it best for them over considering others. If someone stabs me in the back at work, it isn't personal. It is an animal trying to collect as many nuts it can before winter and it isn't programed to share.

[@ashmac87]

Autism (& ADHD) explains the confusing struggles that I've had all my life. I haven't been able to understand this about myself until this year--age 35! It's a relief to finally understand what is going on with me. I'm not broken, I'm autistic. My brain is a little different & everything is going to be OK now. Thank you for educating people.

[@mrstew65]

This seminar joins all the dots that health professionals have failed to connect for years. Absolutely fascinating......

[@JokerFace090]

This is why I got a job in Mental Health. To get access to the information I knew was being kept from me and make sure it is accesable to the vulnerable people that need it. This woman rocks.

[@livelearnandteach7402]

I'm not diagnosed with autism but you just described my life so accurately it's scary. I wish my teachers knew this 30 years ago.

[@yestohappiness2721]

yes, I wish too. struggled all life, every day, every hour with through the roof anxiety...while nobody at school or at work is freaking out, I am...

[@ThomasDoubting5]

Even if they had known as they know today very few of them actually understand or care.

[@ashmac87]

Same. I'm not officially diagnosed but I've done a lot of reading on it. I've talked to autistic adults & I used to work with autistic kids. I am familiar with autism by now.

[@Nelliebabygirl]

Hysterically crying because you’re the first person to ever get me. My therapist led me here.

[@milomrebloc1770]

“Those things won’t go away, but the way they feel about themselves will change.” Wow! That’s the key! That’s what I’ve been missing.

[@Mueslinator]

Excellent talk that does a really good job of showcasing what it's like to live with ASD on a daily basis. On a personal note: I often think about my actions as tiny clockwork mechanisms: Everything has to fit just so for my actions to work. And if wheels or springs are missing, I get immensely anxious: "I have to do this, but I lack the tools for it! And I am not certain I have the tools for a re-route, either!" A lot of the time, this results in no action at all, which results in long-term bad consequences. Also, the "I just want to not be for a time" I found very accurate; I can't remember the last time I wasn't stressed by *something*. And outside the internet, I don't even mention my stressors any more, because mentioning (for example) that this tiny little noise of a leaf rubbing against a window is driving me crazy is only met with eye-rolling and "Don't be that way. You can barely hear it. Don't go looking for problems if you don't have any." So I keep mum, and to myself.

[@haleyhowell7889]

How you word things reminds me of my own "writing voice"-- and I am glad to know that I'm not alone in having to keep silent about my problems because everyone else assumes I am just being dramatic. I'm sorry you have to go through this!

[@barbaramoran8690]

Reacting to a noise isn’t looking for a problem.It is called misophonia .There are You Tube videos about it .Hearing about other people being upset by noise was validating for me .I’d love to hear more about your problem sounds .It is a real problem for some people .It happens to me .

[@jo-annahicks3324]

Something that may be helpful, with noise sensitivity, might be taking some magnesium. I have ME/CFS..Chronic Fatigue Syndrome..I find it I take some Dr Schesslers Tissue Salts - Mag Phos (but I'm sue any good magnesium would do)..it helps with my noise sensitivity. Magnesium is a nerve nutrient, anti-spasmodic, a digestive aid, and a muscle relaxant...so it also good for anxiety, to calm the nerves, to treat IBS intestinal spasming, period pain, tension headaches, etc. Just a tip, that I thought might help.

[@thda81]

"I have to do this, but I lack the tools for it! And I am not certain I have the tools for a re-route, either!" - I can so relate to that.

[@favourjohn312]

Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son #droyalo with your herbs

[@HIGHLANDER_ONLY_ONE]

I'm always EXHAUSTED for exerting all the extra energy for constantly masking the real me. I mask so well, I'm having a hard time convincing my therapist that I'm a Neuro Divergent, and I have top take several naps per day. They're mostly 20 to 30 minutes, but sometimes 5 minutes would do, or if I'm doing floor exercises with a private trainer, I take micro naps, asd she hs me stretch and wait, I take those servings to close my eyes and relax. I conne across as being lazy, but after I neglected something, I normally feel GUILTY, and work extra hard in order to catch up, which I can never do, unless I stay up all night one day - which I do often. And yes, I get migraines asd well!!! For the most I'm a positive person, and happy inside 😊🌷

[@suigeneris2663]

So true!

[@sarahyazdi5106]

Waking up about an hour before I get up, as she said, is super helpful.

[@HectorTJHuang]

Omg just finding out about these conferences it’s like someone finally understands what’s going on with my general fear of life 😭😭😭 The final ‘it’s not all bad’ statement really moved me cos sometimes it’s really hard to see the silver lining out of the swamp that is anxiety caused by autistic processing.

[@sbsman4998]

It is the misunderstanding from others which gives me most anxiety. So many people lack the expansive curiosity to seek knowledge to help others and then ultimately learn about themselves. But alas, they seek definitions from those who know less than them. Great Video Sarah, wish you were my sister.

[@sbsman4998]

@Jimberry and the Couscous Thanks Jimberry, brother!

[@favourjohn312]

Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely and he now sings and says what he want. This has never happened before we got the herbs for him

[@user-vg5rv5xf4u]

One of the best talks I've ever heard on Autism.

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@Kazooples]

I don’t know if I absorbed any of this so I have to watch it again

[@lorrainemckenzie7104]

...the more you try to fit in...the more you bend away from yourself...that hit hard😢😢😢

[@ForViewingOnly]

Sarah Hendrickx is the only person I will really listen to when it comes to understanding and problem-solving autism. Being on the spectrum herself, and having the ability to describe it, puts her miles ahead of a neuro-typical trained in psychology or autism. Sarah has said things that have stayed with me for years and helped enormously. Thank you Sarah for your work.

[@anjareefschlager8317]

I love the HAMMER-IMAGE.

[@mmegraham]

I'd totally hang out (in pajamas and blankets, on separate sofas) and watch quirky tv shows with her.

[@DevonExplorer]

I love the separate sofas bit. I know exactly what you mean; anyone getting too close sends my anxiety levels skyhigh! lol

[@kayb9222]

Thank you so much Sarah Hendrickx for sharing your story honestly.

[@alisonlekarev2183]

Chopped up and left in a ditch is EXACTLY what goes through my mind when I go for a walk! And if I haven't heard from someone or my kids are late out of school then all the worst possible scenarios are going through my head, rather than thinking, "She's probably just got detention". I'm not diagnosed, but my kids are definitely neurodivergent and I think I am too.

[@gracechristopher3133]

Thank you doc for your good work It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs. His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy God bless you Dr Oyalo

[@HAL-dm1eh]

This was ME in a nutshell. My anxiety was so high it was my first and only diagnosis (generalized anxiety disorder) for a long time until I started researching "sensitive to noise" and oh boy did the last thing I ever would have thought about (autism spectrum) fill in all of the other blanks in my life. I then was diagnosed with Asperger's and everything fell into place, diagnosis wise.

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@HAL-dm1eh]

@@favourjohn312 You should be ashamed of yourself for being a spammer for a snake oil peddler.

[@delightfullydotty7130]

I didn’t do yoga for years because at one class we had to work in pairs! Oh the horror! 🙂

[@DianeAbotsLastSurvivinBrainCel]

penny Sings i find I don’t like yoga in my local leisure centre because of the noise and echoing noise around the leisure centre no carpets etc to absorb the sound. I really find it off putting.

[@NidusFormicarum]

Oh, yes, that makes me very anxious.

[@crescendo2441]

Lol omg!! 😁👍

[@rosiemapplebeck3196]

same with improvised dance. Not everyone likes to touch others. Get into pairs and give each other a massage made me feel ill

[@Finne57]

I found this bit so moving: It's the way people "FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES" that can change.

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@BGmary]

I'm almost 70... every day for all of my life, I think about a group and I either disappear or get a little nip to overcome my feelings and fear. Then I almost ALWAYS do/say/act inappropriate completely out of character for me. My husband is a complete OUTROVERT! Involved in everything, so I'm alone a lot. This talk has opened my mind

[@evamanzano1900]

This is possibly the best video on autism and anxiety I have watched. I teach 16+ in an SEN alternative provision and I see this in my students every day. Thank you for explaining this so well. I hope we get to understand autism fully so we can support everyone with it. It is true that they are wonderfully interesting when you get 'their' world.

[@stephaniewright4693]

I love this video and can relate to it all!! I was diagnosed autistic last week ages 32 and now I feel much better, I'm not an odd, weird neurotypical person, I am an amazing human being with autism!!

[@MsFuzzipoo]

Same. I'm 38 and I've only recently realized I'm on the spectrum. My life makes *so much sense* now. I've been called "weird" SO OFTEN, and I was fine with being weird... Although I couldn't stop constantly beating myself up for not being able to do things like everyone else. I'm working on getting the diagnosis, and working on undoing the damage from decades of negative self-talk (and some talk from others) that came up from not being able to assimilate perfectly into neurotypical life.

[@clareryan2640]

DAMN RIGHT🥰😁

[@AutisticAwakeActivist]

I was 52 when diagnosed

[@FordMuztang]

This is one of the most helpful and spot on descriptions of ASD that I've come across. Bravo!

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@georgejfunderburk7645]

Minus the hair pulling & hypochondria, the rest of (Sarah's World) list plus restless legs (officially called limb movement syndrome or LMS) is me. Thank you Sarah, I think this should be part of every psychology class in high school. As the youngest of 6 siblings growing up in the 60's I learned at a very young age to NEVER talk about these aspects of my life, have an older brother with a "severe case" and he was always always misunderstood and belittled. I was able to emulate enough normalcy to avoid much of what he still endures.

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@timmcdraw7568]

A few years ago this video was essential to me when I was getting closer to understanding that I am autistic. I was 39, my career took off, I burned out kicked off by melting down, big time, and started searching autism on KZbin, even though I'd already convinced myself years earlier in my 20's that I couldn't be (I'm nothing like rainman so... case closed). It was Sarah Hendrickx who came into my burnout, via KZbin, like a burning arrow, and set off the total rearranging of my understanding of myself and the world. I come back here periodically because a lifetime of learning needs occasional reminders - I need reminders to help me know how to act naturally.

[@gracechristopher3133]

Thank you doc for your good work It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs. His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy God bless you Dr Oyalo

[@Bonezy1001]

Can’t believe this came out nine years ago. I wish I watched this and understood back then, I could’ve been so happy by now.

[@justarandomaspie4132]

This video is probably one of my favourite videos on autism; very informative, goes right up there with russel barkleys ADHD lectures. Really great!

[@AnnaWillo]

I think an important thing to understand about why girls don't say no is how much more dangerous it is, and how rarely our no is listened to.

[@katewolfspirit6722]

This lady is fantastic, she makes the subject matter really interesting. The way she explains things, her attitude and humour make her talks more enjoyable. I'm not autistic (as far as I know) but I have just binge watched 3 hours of her talks. Well done Sarah!

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@katewolfspirit6722]

@kettleroland2@ To whom are you replying to?

[@marynordseth2788]

Anxiety/Autism? Now I know where my mother's anxiety came from (and mine). I was diagnosed as the word was WRITTEN on my FILE , when the social services person 'excused himself for a few moments', I saw I had 'childhood autism', and the big 'S', schizophrenia, an insult to my uneducated mind. I spent the 1960's self-medicating with every psychedelic/pharmaceutical drug known. No one took notice that I had just had a speeding car crash into my little American two seater car, leaving me with severe head injury, only one of many since childhood, and which threw me off-plumb for the next fifty years. I'm becoming adjusted to my autism spectrum disorder thanks to the fine work of folks like Sarah. Thx.

[@lyndonwbournon]

Just came across this fantastic video!

[@livb6945]

I LOVED the first question - "how come you are NOT anxious?" Thank you for that perspective!

[@favourjohn312]

Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely and he now sings and says what he want. This has never happened before we got the herbs for him

[@nickyferguson9063]

I feel really tired, I am beginning to understand why I feel anxious and nobody had a cure and why I dont like socializing and make excuses, why yet another person has dumped me and in one week been socially excluded by three people in one week. Only just came across this all by accident

[@Novastar314]

I hear that

[@moondogmcblackfoot]

This is an amazing presentation.

[@huangzan15]

This is a very useful talk. It turns all the theory into easily understanding examples

[@Icyyddoll]

Whenever certain things that stress me out are mentioned I'll spiral and think of a lot of things that are stressing me out and I tear up & cry. Literally every time.

[@favourjohn312]

Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely and he now sings and says what he want. This has never happened before we got the herbs for him

[@andreagriffiths3512]

This was really useful as an overly anxious, chronically depressed and sleep-deprived Autistic. Good to know I was right when I said I didn’t have all these mini diagnoses such as the aforementioned ones but with social anxiety, general anxiety, agoraphobia etc. I told the ‘professional’ who told me this that they were seeing the raindrops and missing the umbrella that was Autism.

[@gracechristopher3133]

Thank you doc for your good work It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs. His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy God bless you Dr Oyalo

[@MereAYT]

I wish that I had seen this 30 years ago. I am so glad that it is being recognized and addressed properly today.

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@janiskw]

ME/CFS is not an anxiety problem... it is neurological not psychological... the anxiety is often a consequence of Orthostatic Intolerance or other Autonomic problems -when your heart is pounding in your chest you get told you are anxious, or describe yourself as such... the reality is lying down my HR is 58bpm, as soon as I stand up it is around 110bpm. Run on the spot or do burpees until your HR huts 110bpm, and then imagine being unable to EVER stop... if you are not lying down your heart is running like that... that is a reality for most bedbound/couchbound ME/CFS patients... I'm closer to housebound these days but still run HR of 90ish just sitting up - my body is flooded with adrenaline to get some blood to my brain when upright... a trip to the shops for bread and milk is doable until I have to stand still in the supermarket queue... and then my blood falls to my feet and I either sit on the floor, or have what appears to be a panic attack... Add in autistic issues... and a problem with supermarket light and "music" and "people noises"... uuurrrggghhhh.... however just sitting at home I have the same apparent "anxiety" which is NOT anxiety in that case - just that I have OI and ME/CFS exacerbates that...

[@margaretdunn4333]

Working with a student with high functioning autism , it makes me so frustrated when they say, "get into groups" because I have to continue to remind the teacher to please create groups because they will be chosen last or never chosen

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@lidu6363]

I swear each of these lectures is a gem. I am bingeing a third one in a row...

[@zackreed6010]

Absolutely wonderful presentation.

[@laerrus]

INCREDIBLY relate to "the hammer" especially in social conflicts I tend to cut people out of my life.

[@favourjohn312]

Since the final taking of your herbs, my son has been speaking well and responding to his name Thank you for saving my son #droyalo with your herbs

[@gracechristopher3133]

Thank you doc for your good work It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs. His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy God bless you Dr Oyalo

[@samantha-kemp-therapy]

So well discussed and informative

[@sarahintheuk5928]

When I get stressed I can’t poo, is what I was thinking, Sarah has put this together so well. Just learning about this at 49 and I’m feeling less anxious. Im learning to accept how I feel and do what feels good. Thank you.

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@sarahyazdi5106]

"I wake up about an hour before I get up" is a new practice that has saved my life

[@artlover282]

amazing person! loved this!

[@gingerredshoes]

Public speaking, spot on. And I feel so understood by the rant about the overwhelming carpet!

[@rick3747]

Very good video. Thanks.

[@BooberriesOriginal]

I hate youtube comments but that really spoke to me in a way nothing else on this planet has.

[@geetachaudhary4150]

Fabulous presentation

[@helenbird1664]

Brilliantly explained 🏅👍🤓

[@sarahbeisell3511]

I'm 44 and not officially on the spectrum, but during my first meeting with my new Dr she asked if I was autistic and offered to make a referral for a diagnostic. This presentation was absolutely brilliant! I felt like you were describing whole swathes of my life. The personal lists were shocking in their similarities. Thank you for this, I'm going to show it to my husband because some of your explanations are so much clearer than I could articulate in a week.

[@brothercannon]

This is one of the more revealing autism talks on KZbin.

[@armfart890]

When it comes to partnering, I lurk until the last person or group has no choice but to work with me. 👀

[@WilliamFontaineJr]

Thank you, brilliant presentation touching and discerning so many important aspects of autism. The level of detail and personalized description is what makes this talk stand out. Little generalized theory just real life autistic problems. Again thank you for this beautiful realistic presentation.

[@captainswan3079]

Autistics do have empathy.

[@jfilm7466]

I'm so glad that I have loads of great coping strategies which my kids are adopting. Social services got involved and I was close to losing them as they have not been diagnosed. But when I asked social services what education, what medical licenses they have, been on any courses they admitted they had no clue, which meant they were judging me on their ignorance and not me as a perfectly normal Aspies. They thought I was mad for things like "the carpet", ticking clocks, light bulb frequencies, smells. We need Aspie social workers so we are protected and not unjustly punished.

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@pat8988]

I want to see that carpet!

[@eugeniesimpson5247]

Loved this!

[@ZenMasterNahc]

Im only gonna say this once. Im selectively quiet. There are some people I just dont like talking around. Those people give me bad vibes. Outside of my current circumstances, im quite the chatterbox.

[@KatyFrydTV]

Amazing! Thank you!

[@thedeallit1065]

You explained my entire life. Which has been complex, confusing and quite painful. Thank you so much.

[@gracechristopher3133]

Thank you doc for your good work It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs. His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy God bless you Dr Oyalo

[@slogger1345]

Excellent Speaker! I was diagnosed with Aspergers 18 months ago. I’m a 52 year old male. Subscribed, Thank you.

[@abalt3019]

When you were talking about commanding the audience, and not being concerned about what others think. Wow! That rang true!

[@ItStartsWithL]

A huge thank you to Sarah for her to talks. They validate my concerns for myself everytime I hear her. I've since thought that possibly I am more adhd than asd but listening to this and understanding the comorbid probability I am most certain I have both. Thank you. 💙

[@jannamcguire7316]

i stumbled upon this, was a great video !

[@philsaspiezone]

Unreasonable demands are a reason for anxiety in autistic people. If one sees this using the social model of disability

[@DS-uy6jw]

My issue was not quite understanding a task because they didn't quite themselves. It crippled me when they said to just work around it since, how? That is either a lie or a purposeful mistake so I would freeze. When I did I could make further progress to make them rich. Perfection is the enemy of completion but is important in some things.

[@KittyCatSpartan117]

@@DS-uy6jw perfection is horrible 😢 , I can't stop trying to reach it in every aspect of my life. I believe my extreme attention to detail and perfectionism has caused me to borderline suffer from anorexia. Or maybe I'm in denial and have full blown anorexia at this point....

[@shahjmir]

The vulnerability of the spokesperson is very relatable and admirable. Autism is not fun at all. It's a very sad disorder to live with.

[@srmxe417]

This was so very helpful, thank you! Saved my day and maybe tomorrow too

[@dickottel]

I wanna be dead, not temporarily. If I could stop existing for a day, after a day everything would come back, the loneliness and anxiety,and chronic pain.

[@gracechristopher3133]

I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on KZbin and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before

[@skippergin2695]

I feel lucky I'm a sensory seeker. I like how drunk I feel looking at strange patterns. I can approach people because I decided I didn't care what hidden agendas others had and I would just focus on achieving what I wanted to do. The goal is all that matters. Even my feelings can step back. I suppose I'm channeling my ability to hyperfocus. After I did this for a while, I could work on dealing with the nuances so I could walk up to a counter and order food without stuttering, for example.

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@alvastone1211]

Ha-ha. I used to go to craft stores (JoAnn’s or Hobby Lobby in the USA), and look at all the designs on fabric. I can easily spend 30-45 min. just browsing, finding pleasure in the patterns and colors. It calms me, and nourishes or refreshes me, somehow. As long as it’s not too crowded or noisy . . .

[@thegardenofeve]

such a great speech! I learned so much about myself. Thank you :)

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@ollrue8551]

Love this! At 44 I am continually frustrated with myself for not being able to make phone calls. Why aren’t I “over it” by now? It’s reassuring to know it’s because my autistic brain doesn’t stop being autistic when there’s a phone call to make. Focusing on how to can “get through” making them rather than mastering my phobia moving forward. Thank you!

[@GordonjSmith1]

Remarkably informative about how I feel about the World. My thanks.

[@crescendo2441]

I took bending to fit in to an extreme in college and nearly killed myself over it. On the outside I succeeded as I was one of the most popular kids but dying on the inside hurtling towards suicide due to getting too far from my true self.

[@shantaeforsmash8287]

I hope you are doing better now

[@crescendo2441]

@@shantaeforsmash8287 I am thanks. It's been 20+ years since. It's been a very up and down journey and the destination is an autism diagnosis 😁

[@TornaDoza]

That is exactly what I did when I was in high school. Put on a mask of an outgoing individual, and at some point it hurted so much to always pretend to be someone else that I shut out to the world completely and embraced the real, autistic me. I feel much better now, but my social life is in shambles. But I would always value authenticity more than anything else now.

[@joeminella5315]

I can't believe I'm just finding this video, 9 years later! Thank You, Sarah. This has been really helpful for me.

[@frenzyviz6296]

Diagnosed at 53.

[@angelabertrand9684]

So great, thank you!

[@underthesignofthemoon]

So incredibly helpful, and what a refreshing way of delivering a talk. Thank you!!

[@favourjohn312]

Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely and he now sings and says what he want. This has never happened before we got the herbs for him

[@gracechristopher3133]

Thank you doc for your good work It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs. His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy God bless you Dr Oyalo

[@lynndaley6892]

Absolutely LOVED this...Love her!

[@mariokachi1257]

Thank you so so much. I relate to every detail of this presentation - things I have never been able to put into words have been presented here.

[@kiwi.kiwi.]

Really appreciated this

[@TsukiNaito1]

Just not wanting to exist for a bit. Yes. I've had such a hard time adapting to and functioning in adulthood. I manage it but it's exhausting. I wish I could be as casual about the uncertainty of being a young adult Millennial with liberal arts degrees and an uncertain future, but it just gets so overwhelming I wish I could just hit pause for a few days or a week. A special interest of mine is Star Wars and I refer to it as I "just want to Star Wars." I just want my imagination to go into that universe where things are fascinatingly complex yet also so understandable and so far from our world. And if I'm making up stories, I control everybody. No one surprises me, except in those wonderful moments of genuine inspiration.

[@DynastyHeroes]

The solution ive found is to sleep for about 12 hours a day. I suppose thats not really functioning though i atleast eat.

[@lillbjorneuk]

This whole video has been amazing. So interesting, and so validating!

[@favourjohn312]

Dr Oyalo herbs is really helpful, and have helped my son improve with his speech and social skill complete. My son now responds to name, his aggressive behavior has stoped completely and he now sings and says what he want. This has never happened before we got the herbs for him

[@gracechristopher3133]

Thank you doc for your good work It’s been months now and my child has improved completely since using your herbs. His therapist and school teacher has confirmed his improvement and this makes me happy God bless you Dr Oyalo

[@mlledupont]

This is soooo good! Thank you for wording this for all of us who can’t explain.

[@MissShembre]

Those feelings exactly! There's something weirdly embarrassing and shameful about approaching others. I don't feel it always, but mostly if I have to get information at a help desk (ironically) or partnering up in school. I was always picked last for teams in P.E. and it was horrible. The line about getting stressed past the point of capacity is 10000% true. I'm fine most of the time, but I can get super aspie in social situations where I feel like I'm getting ganged up on or if I have to be nice to people who are sneaky mean or mean to loved ones, or if other women have ostracized me because I'm not doing something (because I can just be working and not feel chatty and that will set people off because they probably think I'm ignoring them, but I think I'm just co-puttering/working quietly.). Bonus points if all those are combined. Also, if it makes you feel any better or if Sarah ever reads this, I thought I saw an armadillo in a cornfield once in the middle of Washington, haha.

[@favourjohn312]

After using Dr Oyalo herbal remedy whom I met his recommendation about healing autism on KZbin channel, I can testify that my son is now completely ok in speaking, behavior and social skills. He read, played with friends and followed instructions by himself. After everything I've been through, I'm happy for him and my family.

[@c.2045]

Genuinely this has described how I feel so well, I’m astounded. Thank you! Haha feel like I’m having an epiphany. Have always felt like I’m wrong, fundamentally ruined, and I’m sure you understand how bad this has impacted my life. Wish this was common knowledge when I was a kid! My god..