Autism in Females Maya’s Story

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The early diagnosis of Autism can significantly impact the quality of the life of the person. Therefore, it is essential to ensure an accurate and early diagnosis of autism. Unfortunately, autism’s diagnosis is delayed by several years in female patients compared to males. In this video we will be following the journey of Maya and how going undiagnosed can impact the life of young girls. We will also touch on current research that is making a positive impact on this field.
This video was created by McMaster University students Alexandra Marques, Armin Sariaslani, and Emilyanne Stocks in collaboration with the McMaster Demystifying Medicine Program.
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Special thanks to Dr. Darren Bridgewater, Dr. Kjetil Ask, Safaa Naiel, Aniqa Chaudhry, Mubariz Maqsood, Kunwar Karim, and the rest of Demystifying Medicine team in helping develop this video!
This video is provided for general and educational information only. Please consult your health care provider for Information about your health.
Copyright McMaster University 2020.
#DemystifyingMedicine, #MentalHealth
References:
Bargiela, S., Steward, R., & Mandy, W. (2016). The Experiences of Late-diagnosed Women with Autism Spectrum Conditions: An Investigation of the Female Autism Phenotype. Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, 46(10), 3281-3294. doi:10.1007/s10803-016-2872-8
CDC. (2016). Data & Statistics on Autism Spectrum Disorder.
Loomes, R., Hull, L., & Mandy, W. P. L. (2017). What Is the Male-to-Female Ratio in Autism Spectrum Disorder? A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis. Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, 56(6), 466-474. Retrieved from 10.0.3.248/j.jaac.2017.03.013
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@mayakjaer2482 3 жыл бұрын

My name is Maya, I have autism, add, anxiety and I’ve dealt with a lot of depression. Many people have made fun of me, I believed every word people told me. I’m a really sensitive person, I have always felt like I’m different. I love singing, drawing and I just love nature. I hope one day that I can show people how it felt to be me. I just want to feel that someone understands me.

@VenusVoice 3 жыл бұрын

I think I understand you. I could've written this myself.

@spongbobfanqueen 3 жыл бұрын

My name is also Maya, I have autism and I can definitely relate. ♥

@ey8588 3 жыл бұрын

Hey, me too. I would love be your friend :)

@Daniellemaeparent 3 жыл бұрын

I have autistic to

@pemandangantube2468 3 жыл бұрын

Was that you in the video?

@rissagotvideos09 3 жыл бұрын

Undiagnosed autism, I need to see a psychologist. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, but I specifically explained how fearful I was of socializing. I was very isolated. I’ve had teachers actually make accommodations for me without even realizing it. But I’ve always just beeen a sensitive confused girl.

@halcyonsikes7018 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you get what you need

@Dimensionalalteration 3 жыл бұрын

Psychologist can't diagnose you they are just there to go blah blah blah,you need a psychiatrist for that.I see to many people saying my unqualified therapist diagnosed me,but really the unqualified therapist didn't

@iceshayw 3 жыл бұрын

I also had accommodations by my teachers that were never “official”

@Jeanyinwonderland 2 жыл бұрын

omg same! im almost 27 and id like to get assesed but im like fearful of bringing it up cause i dont have the "typical symptoms" but i also have anxiety, depression, fear of social interactions and i didnt necessarily get bullied at school but i did ended up very isolated most of the time and had such a difficult time making new friends that id keep the ones that i had even tough they were super toxic to me cuz i didn't want to start over, the whole tought of trying to bond with new people was too scary to actually consider... i also had "panic attacks" when i felt overwhelmed... still do. my therapist siad they are anxiety attacks... idk ps. also i remember my elementary school teachers telling my parents that i "isolated myself" amd always had issues with being "a bit too blunt" another thing i remember that my mom absolutely denies but ik happened was me having "a fit" (i must have been around 8 years old,maybe a bit older) is my mom tellong me something like "whats wrong with u?? are u autistic or something" she totally denies this but its siper common with her, she says very insensitive things, regrets it later and proceeds to pretend it never happened so well that she actually believes it never happened

@CrystalRoseNightmare 2 жыл бұрын

Do you experience confusion in yours and/ or other emotions like you take awhile to prove it/ or can't process it

@eyboi1692 3 жыл бұрын

I got told a few years ago that when I was in middle school my teacher recommended my parents check me for Autism. They never did, and said they didn’t want to give me a victim mentality if I had the diagnosis. Now I’m sitting here 9 years later like “fuck I might need to get this checked out lol”

@isabelcast7792 3 жыл бұрын

That’s good that they didn’t i would do the same if you truly don’t need a diagnosis don’t get it, it could ruin your chances of getting certain careers

@fernandojoseph352 3 жыл бұрын

i guess Im asking the wrong place but does any of you know a method to log back into an Instagram account?? I was dumb forgot the password. I love any tricks you can give me

@Dimensionalalteration 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah get it done ,because sometimes having a label apeases bullies, like if you say my needs are this and that ,people just go out of there way to tell you how rude you are ,how you need to just act normal and so on,but if you say hey I'm autistic and I have the papers to prove it ,then if gives you validation and closes some ways that people can bully you

@lilithmarie535 3 жыл бұрын

Many members of my extended family have thought my brother might be on the spectrum but my parents never took him for testing. Lately I’ve been looking more into my own mental health and I can’t help but think of him too

@eyboi1692 3 жыл бұрын

@@fernandojoseph352 lol

@danagricken4197 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, this is like my life story! The undiagnosed autism, getting bullied, anxiety, social awkwardness. I eventually went into homeschooling. I definitely need to get diagnosed as autistic.

@marieholmes6480 3 жыл бұрын

have you tried natural medicine from Dr moses on youtube his medicine works perfectly well

@tabithalittesy 2 жыл бұрын

Same but I’m still so confused about life

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

my child has improved full and acting up right with his social skill since taking dr Oyalo herbal remedy. He has no major signs of autism like he was since I got the herbs. Doc herbs work perfectly That’s his channel kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@egendary6811 Жыл бұрын

everything beside the bullying apples to me too. only reason i had friends tho is bcs in kindergarten my now bsf came up to me at recess and asked me to play

@user369dsf Жыл бұрын

same, I only recently been able to put a name to my feeling and it's such an amazing relief to find out it's not just me dealing with this.

@hemmeli_1232 3 жыл бұрын

This resembles my story. I always felt extremely different and struggled very hard to make friends. At 48 years old I realized that I have been masking for almost my whole life. Im starting to get to know my authentic self now, but it’s very difficult. I’m very happy I’m aware of this now, but it would have changed my life if I had known about this when I was a child. And for my family as well.

@forest487 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry, I’m sure you are grieving lost time and the pain of your younger self that was so unnecessary, all I can say because I don’t have that experience is im sorry society did this I wish you nothing but healing and finding the true you, you have so much time to, and I’m sure you will love that person ❤️

@iamjoyt 2 жыл бұрын

39 year old here thinking the exact same thing

@dree743 2 жыл бұрын

Yess! I turned 30 this year and I’m like what life might have been if this was addressed years ago!

@LaraNewellBarrette 2 жыл бұрын

About to turn 53 here, and just came to realize I am autistic. I'm afraid to go to my GP as I've heard so many horror stories of misdiagnosis, and I know there will be a cost associated with seeking official diagnosis. N6it to mention the potential personal ramifications. There are so few resources for adult women in Canada in this regard. It's so frustrating.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@ardapelle 2 жыл бұрын

When the original misdiagnosis was mentioned I had an absolute meltdown and sobbed and had to watch the rest later… my best friend in the whole world didn’t make it. She was 25, diagnosed autistic at 23 but it was too late for her. I love this video, more and more I just want everyone who can to tell these stories, girls are dying… we’re living half lives. Barely. Thank you.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@riverhunter21226 3 жыл бұрын

this video made me cry. i’ve never related to anything more in my entire life. how do i get help. i’m 21.

@wembibi 3 жыл бұрын

Hey Sarah, I felt the same when seeing a similar video and I'll soon have an appointment for diagnosis. I live in France, but maybe you can follow the same steps as I did in your country. I went to a psychologist and asked him to do behavior therapy with me, I explained all my social struggles. Later, I asked him if he thinks it might be possible that I'm autistic. He wasn't sure in the beginning so we did 3 pre-tests. They all indicated a high chance for autism, so we took an appointment in a diagnosis center. I haven't been there yet because of Covid-19 but will go there ASAP. I hope you find people that can help you with the way to your diagnosis.

@simikatra3434 3 жыл бұрын

I'm in Scotland, went to GP first, who did a pre assessment then sent referral for official assessment, took around 18mth due to Covid, depends where you are in the world, and if you're using NHS type system or private. Private is quicker obvs. But official NHS route I've been told is more recognized as official and therefore less barriers, when looking for accommodations. Which ever way you choose, I hope you get the answers you're looking for ~ Actually Autistic

@caramazzola2399 3 жыл бұрын

Same. I feel you. I am in South Africa and have been referred to a number of evaluators by a psychologist. Most of them are backlogged and unable to provide the service unfortunately, but jump on whichever waiting list you can find.

@fatimasaleh8361 3 жыл бұрын

Me too, I finally relate to something and I also reached 21 yrs without even considering this as a option for why I feel different. It’s surprising how many females are like this.

@lyyliv4368 2 жыл бұрын

@NEW HOPE HEALINMGHOME I would never wish my daughter to be "cured" of her autism. Autism lets you see the world differently and can be a super power. She is an amazing artist BECAUSE of her autism. For those struggling with the down sides, she sees a counselor who helps her and saw a speech therapist who helped her learn rules of social communication. Medicine can also be helpful. Getting the diagnosis is the first step and learning more is next. It is sooo different in girls.

@dakotamathews6808 3 жыл бұрын

Practically my life word for word

@pikarari 3 жыл бұрын

me too except I'm a man and nobody bent over backwards to help me like they do for pretty girls like Maya 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

@Annie-pp6kz 3 жыл бұрын

Same here. It makes me want to see if I'd be diagnosed.

@lovegals1 3 жыл бұрын

The way I was abused mentally, physically, and emotionally growing up. I believed everything everyone told me. I never knew how to defend myself and was a steady punching bag for many miserable bullies. People always thought I was either to stupid, weak or scared to know how to defend myself. I tried to mimic those around me but they would never take me seriously because It was obvious that I wasn’t use to it. Sometimes I wonder why I didn’t just completely give up and end my life. But I’m glad I stuck through and am constantly fighting everyday of thoughts from my past trauma.

@Annie-pp6kz 3 жыл бұрын

@@lovegals1 right, everyone has their struggles in their unique ways. It's shortsighted to think all women have it easy because they're women. At least boys got diagnosed.

@wendyberrios5957 3 жыл бұрын

@@pikarari ok now that’s just being bitter. In the video no one “bent over backwards” to help her. Life is hard for anyone on the spectrum. No need to put others down. The reason this video is even a thing is that ASD is infamous for being under diagnosed and undetected in women specifically

@nakysha6660 2 жыл бұрын

So many things in here I relate to. Was always told I was "too sensitive" and needed to get over it

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@elevenpoisons2484 3 жыл бұрын

I have been diagnosed with autism but I had much trouble learning at school and absorbing things that were not of my great interest. To anyone watching this and only has a simple view of asd, we are all our own people with our own individual strengths and weaknesses. I hope the stereotypes these days are not taken as solid fact as often as they use to be

@raindropsonroses3919 2 жыл бұрын

My advice is make your job your special interest. You will excel.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@MsLozzaM 2 жыл бұрын

Im 42. I was diagnosed with autism last month. My life has been very similar to Maya's. Im finally getting the validation ive craved all these years.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@saramatthews7159 2 жыл бұрын

Hello im a 38 year old woman and I think I may be autistic but feared too old to be tested. How did you go about getting tested and diagnosed?

@MsLozzaM 2 жыл бұрын

@@saramatthews7159 I’m in the uk so I brought it up with my gp about three years or so ago and she referred me to the “Asperger’s” Team. I then had a few assessments and the diagnoses took three years. It was all done under the nhs. I hope this helps

@MsLozzaM 2 жыл бұрын

@@saramatthews7159 I’m in the uk so I spoke to my gp who referred me. It took three years through the nhs from start to finish. I wish you lots of luck.

@additionalsky 2 жыл бұрын

Excelled at school, preferred reading, excelled at music (I learned 5 instruments!), bullied incessantly, dropped out of University twice… and I got my ADHD and Autism diagnosis a month ago 🥰 There needs to be more research and discussion about Autism in cis-women at a young age. I’m now 33 and realised I’ve been trying to go through life on ‘Hard Mode’… and it doesn’t have to be like this! Thankyou for making these videos ❤️

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@123AuroraBorealis 2 жыл бұрын

This video made me cry. My daughter is 14 and I been told she might have ASD. I'm crying because after googling asd I feel upset why I didn't think of this before instead of making my daughter feel mis understood for so long

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@SM-zw3on 3 жыл бұрын

Asd in females is like we don’t have asd. Cause we don’t fall in the typical symptoms mainly set for males.

@currybread5298 2 жыл бұрын

👏

@blackpillr9kr428 2 жыл бұрын

Because you don't have the down sides Because you are living on tutorial mode as a woman in general.

@fruitgum9619 2 жыл бұрын

@@blackpillr9kr428 that's absolutely the dumbest thing I've ever heard. women have had tons and tons of things harder. let me give you ONE example - we didn't use to have rights. You always did. men aren't victims when YOU created the world you live in. Saying being a woman is on tutorial mode in general is so disrespectful and ignorant.

@blackpillr9kr428 2 жыл бұрын

@@fruitgum9619 all emotions with you... typical women.

@preciousclarissec.3747 2 жыл бұрын

@@blackpillr9kr428 well that's one of the ways to ignore other peoples suffering so insensitive, tactless, and selfish. mainly uneducated about the world

@ezzie6381 3 жыл бұрын

i finally got diagnosed with autism at 15 years old, it took from when i was 5 to get a diagnosis. it upsets me that there’s not as much information/studies on girls with autism. i struggled and suffered for years, being told i’m lazy and just acting out. even now with a diagnosis, there’s barely any help for me. i still don’t fully understand my diagnosis, but at least now i can get the help i need. this video really helped put my experiences into words, as i’m bad at that. thank you.

@PleiadianSister 2 жыл бұрын

I’m 32 and only just diagnosed, I feel you. One of my favourite KZbin channels is Yo Samdy Sam. Check her out :)

@User14836 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry! Can I question smth ? I don’t like school too, I find difficult to learn especially the things I don’t have interest in. BUT I like to have friends I don’t have problem make friends, I like partying I like be surrounded with people laugh, be at bars at night and sftuff. Why they make everyone think they are autistic if they have one diagnosis or more???? This is bullshit. Is normal to have those diagnoses and doesn’t make you autistic at all. What the hell man. Maybe you are not lazy at last me. I’m living in a place when even 40 years old man don’t work bec of politics how poor this country is. And doesn’t offers any work and pays 250 € per months per months I’m telling you. You make the math. I think people were happier before this internet shit come out. Now is making us think all this.

@blaecccuebbler7711 2 жыл бұрын

True :( apparently autism is much rarer for females though

@shalomitseli5247 2 жыл бұрын

@@blaecccuebbler7711 they say that but loads of girls have it they just masked how they feel

@Catlily5 2 жыл бұрын

@@User14836 You have to have symptoms. Not liking school is not a symptom of autism. If someone thinks they might have autism they need to watch more autism videos and/or read about it.

@trancelover1992 3 жыл бұрын

Even though I am a man on the autistic spectrum I can relate to this video. I was never destructive in school and I had a natural affection for numbers and the creative arts. I always called children out for breaking the rules and unintentionally got myself in to all kinds of bother. In High School, teachers where constantly yelling at me and referring to me as lazy and a daydreamer. Going out your own front door is an adventure when your autistic. The fact I work in education now as an adult is the perfect epitome or irony. Women and girls with autism certainly need more representation and sterotypes need to be eliminated for all people with autism.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@trancelover1992 2 жыл бұрын

@Wesley Hinson I am so glad to hear. I wish you and your son all the best.

@ametrineambrosia4929 Жыл бұрын

@@trancelover1992 that's a bot you responded to.

@raquelmadre3866 2 жыл бұрын

I’m crying right now. This story. Is exactly what I have gone though my entire life. I always felt like an alien, yet excelled in things which made people not believe me. Making friends too. The absolute worst. Even though I value friendship. I’ just finished my evaluation and was told I am on the spectrum, also adhd. I been so emotional all week. Im 27, a mom. Have a nurotypical presenting family. Thankfully my husband is the one who encouraged me to go though this. He knew I never had the support prior. My mom truly believed vaccines caused autism, and argued with my husband (who’s about to become a doctor) on this journey I chose. She felt since I’m successful. I’m fine. I won pageants. How can this be possible? Yet I look back. I had to learn to socialize. I masked so well…it’s painful looking back and seeing all the mask I worn to try to fit in (pageants I had no issue. I love dressing up, and feeling like a princess) I’m also a huge nerd. I always wanted to make videos, collect my dolls, make money on eBay. That was my teenage years. I’m thankful to know, and I don’t find it a bad thing as people like my mom do. I find it comforting knowing I was not alone and can find support. I’m not ashamed, I’m happy to know more of myself. Still a bit emotional over it but know there’s hope for me to understand better 💕

@mikoda92 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 29, and these traits sound extremely similar to what I've experienced since childhood. I developed a great talent for art at age 11, and by 13, I was drawing perfectly realistic portraits. I'm very nervous about getting possibly diagnosed, because I hate leaving my home, and only leave home with my mother (I know, pathetic since I'm a grown woman). I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in 2015 and spent 3 days in a ward for suicidal thoughts. I have a list of issues I experience, like dumb phobias, eating disorder (when I was a teenager), sensitivity to sounds, terrified of social interactions, no friends, mimicking other people's gestures, terrified of driving, etc, etc. When I'm making a phone call or having to talk to someone, it feels like I'm throwing myself off a bridge. It's super scary. Socializing is like skydiving.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@beckyf2845 2 жыл бұрын

Big hugs Maya. I'm 45 and I'm 4 years into the diagnostic process. Hopefully I'm nearing the end now. Its been a long road and at this point I've had to financially fund it myself. So much for the NHS in this country.

@bamboopanda1626 2 жыл бұрын

I don't really tell everyone or people about my diagnosis. But I still get startled by loud chatter. When I was in college sometimes the classrooms erupt with loud noise when everyone is there and I remember having to get up and leave because it was pretty that particular day. It doesn't change when you get older you just learn how to manage and adapt to it better. So, for anyone that's telling you there's a cure, no there's not. You, as the human that experiences autism, learn how to adapt, manage it and accept as a part of you.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@marcellabrittl6083 3 жыл бұрын

April is the awarness month of people with autism (like myself). We're all different with autism (in a good way). Autism is not a disease or a illness, autism is the way your brain works in a different way from other people. Autistic people are very special & passionate people that can create or achieve anything that they will be talented & successful in the future. Always be proud of who u are as a autistic person, no matter what other people think or say, u are special, be yourself, don't change yourself just be you.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@weareallinthis3668 2 жыл бұрын

You deserve the world!!!!!!!

@carolinebedford9836 Жыл бұрын

@marcellabrittl6083. Thank you, that's lovely. X

@Demolicious 2 жыл бұрын

I am pretty sure I am autistic, so decided to talk to a ADHD/ASD specialist to find out for sure. I got bad vibes from him from the start, and he would not listen to any of my concerns and was very rude about it. I mentioned it in a FB group for autism, and the MODS bullied me claiming I was "symptom shopping" and even went so far as to PM me after I left the group to harass me more... 😢

@heathers7265 Жыл бұрын

That's horrible. :( I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you find another specialist who makes you feel comfortable, and can help you get your right diagnosis. ❤️

@sophiabreidfischer6242 Жыл бұрын

Alot of people are very dismissive! I hope you can find the right fit for you💚

@JP-yj3qd Жыл бұрын

Wow that’s horrible

@JDMimeTHEFIRST 3 жыл бұрын

I wasn't diagnosed until my 30s, but I thought this was about me. The bullying (even as an adult), the exclusion, the anorexia, the suicide attempt and ideations are very common. I've experienced all of them and continue to have issues. I live in a major city but was told no one know anything about aspergers (or ASD-1) to help. I still can't believe therapist refuse to learn about adults with this when we have such a high suicide rate. You'd think they would teach psychology students about ASD. Apparentally they don't because no help in a major city is available.

@LoreEclectic 3 жыл бұрын

When I first started seeking a diagnosis my therapist although supportive for some reason refused to say the word autism. Even when I would say autism spectrum disorder or autism he would only and say aspergers even though technically that's not a diagnosis anymore and has only recently moved to saying "your...uhh....spectrum disorder"

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@cherryontop1137 3 жыл бұрын

Holy shit this is literally my life. I'm 35 and have never been diagnosed with ASD but I have diagnoses of depression, anxiety/panic attacks, and BN.

@Dimensionalalteration 3 жыл бұрын

That's usually how it goes,you get loads of random or non descript diagnosis and they are blamed on random stressfactors, such as relationships, exams etc....but really it's autistic overload, burnouts,meltdowns etc.

@cherryontop1137 2 жыл бұрын

@Azim Premji No thank you.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@99percent_ 2 жыл бұрын

I’m 32, always diagnose as depressed. A psychiatrist told me that it was possible for me to be autistic. I asked to do a test, and then this other psychiatrist said “yeah, you look like you’re autistic, but you’re old enough so you don’t need a diagnose. You already know how to live your life, anyway”. I was turned down and I had to look everywhere to get a diagnose. And then, last week I got the results of a more exhaustive test and FINALLY got the diagnose as autistic. The thing is: if you don’t know why you’re struggling with maintining jobs or going to school, have difficult relationships with all the people that surrounds you, everything makes you sick and uncomfortable… maybe you actually NEED a diagnose so you KNOW how to live in this world! I hope everyone who watches this video and suspects they may have it, then go for it! Go for the diagnose! Don’t waste your young adulthood years in misery like me.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@kaylnjordan5211 2 жыл бұрын

thank you, this is almost exactly what I have gone through. i am so grateful for this video

@valerieangell7588 2 жыл бұрын

I had so much trouble relating to other people that I skipped everything that other people see as milestones.I didn’t go to school,find work that I could remain in,learn how to drive.I did marry when I found a man who wouldn’t press me to go out into the world...who would allow me to remain at home and safe,but I had no children,since I felt that I could not be an adequate mother,and didn’t want to harm them.Ive always felt like a alien,and felt that other people knew things automatically that I struggled and still struggle with.But I watch them carefully,and imitate them,so that no one will discover how truly strange I am.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

it's really important to educate ourselves on autism , what to do if you have it, and how to prevent it. contact Dr Oyalo for natural cure on his channel. I use his herbs on my son and he is autism free now

@sierrabaer4972 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve struggled with mental health my whole life and was always the “smart” one. I’m an adult now and feel I’ve been misdiagnosed. I’m so exhausted.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@plllavender 2 жыл бұрын

this sounds like my entire life except it took me to realise i had autism before doctors after 7 misdiagnosis, 5 medications thrown at me, an inpatient stay and multiple overdoses in the last 3 years. i never realised how painful autism can impact people's lives

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@khfan4life365 2 жыл бұрын

I was born with autism. Since I was a baby, I never liked being touched, which made my mom cry because she thought that she was being a bad mother. I would only ever snuggle with her when I was sick. I didn’t learn to talk, walk, or get toilet-training down until I was 14 months. I was a bit of a wild child in my youth because my parents didn’t have the resources that are available now. Despite my challenging behavior, they never saw me as lesser. They have always loved me through it. I remember a time when I was feeling inadequate because my little sister was developing as a normal child and I felt like I had let my parents down for not turning out like her. My mom was horrified when she heard me admit that to her and told me that she wouldn’t have me any other way and that she loved me the way that I was/am. By the time I reached high school, resources were more available for me and I began to thrive more. I finally had teachers who understood me and didn’t see me as a frustrating burden because they knew about autism and how it affected me. I hated high school, but my teachers were very kind and patient with me. As an adult now, I have not reached the same milestones as my similarly-aged cousins and friends. I am not dating or married, I do not have children, and I don’t have a house of my own. However, I am working full time and have an apartment. Despite me being different, my family has never seen me as a lesser person. They love me for who I am. They even love the parts of me that I hate. I am very blessed to have that. Not everyone does.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@helenecessary 2 жыл бұрын

I relate so much to this, it actually made me cry

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@HoneyBunchesMcLover 3 жыл бұрын

I was recently brushed off & spoken to in what I feel was a harsh manner by a psychiatrist regarding my therapist’s autism diagnosis. I was told by this psychiatrist that I probably just have a personality disorder instead. I feel like this is common treatment for women, especially adult ones, when they suspect autism & actually go looking for it.

@robokill387 2 жыл бұрын

It's common with adult autism in general. Many psychiatrists only know about the stereotypical types of autism, and adult autism is so poorly researched/supported that many areas autism diagnosis process for *adults* involves speaking to your parents and observing you playing with toys like a child. It's ridiculous and needs to be talked about more. Is there literally any other diagnosis process for any other disability that involves interviewing the parents as an adult? It's infantilizing.

@Catlily5 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, they diagnosed me with a personality disorder (BPD) and then treated me like sh**. Thankfully I don't have that diagnosis any more. It is awful. No one deserves to be treated like that!

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@christyclasgens9849 3 жыл бұрын

This is so validating.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@coolgirlfrozenfeet Жыл бұрын

I didn’t know I had autism until I had to drop out of university when I was almost 23. I made it through three semesters, never passing a morning class, and never had more than two classes at the end of the semester. My GPA was 1.2, versus my 3.6 in high school. I was put on academic probation, but no one made any move to help me. Not until it was too late. In all the time I was in college, I never met any of the deans. Only one of my teachers ever tried in any way to help me because of my already-diagnosed ADHD. I went through most things completely alone, unless my boyfriend happened to be on campus. (We met online before I went to college, and he was the biggest reason I chose the one I did. We have been married for 13.5 years now.) Shortly before I moved out of the dorm, I did have an appointment to talk to one of the deans, but it never happened. To think day, I do not know who the deans were or what they looked like. I had to leave school because I could not get funding, due to my horrendous grades. Fourteen and a half years later, I still owe a lot of money and I have been able to pay off only a tiny bit. The fees keep building up more and more, and I have no idea how much I owe. I can’t do a thing about it. I have nothing to show for it. Considering the lack of help from such an expensive school, I honestly don’t think I should have to pay back everything. The school should have tried to help me with ADHD, and they should have noticed my autism much, much earlier. (I was homeschooled before university, so it was not as easily noticed.) I was obviously struggling the entire time I was there. The best grade I ever got was a B. Everything else was pretty much Ds and Fs, with a few Cs. Now, my other health problems have gotten much worse, and I can no longer work one day a week. I can’t find the help I need to deal with life. I look fine, so I’m obviously just being lazy, right? That’s how people have always reacted toward me. Even family members have turned against me for something that was not my fault. They also seem to treat me as “less” since my diagnosis. I hate that, and it is extremely hurtful that my siblings no longer seem to care about me. I don’t have friends. I need to get my child evaluated, but I can’t figure out how, and no one is helping me. It’s all up to me, and I can’t handle it on my own.

@honeydew1845 3 жыл бұрын

Wooow this from that start explains my life but my mum never saw the signs she saw my brother signs of them but just thought I was just suffering from mental health :( till this day still hurts

@Dimensionalalteration 3 жыл бұрын

Mental health... issues ? My kids are the same ,the boys are easy to identify, but I'm sure that my daughter is like me and I'm pushing hard for it to be diagnosed.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@bleedinqmxscara_8898 3 жыл бұрын

My name is Rhian I’m autistic my mum is a very organised person so if my mum asks me to go get a pencil, ruler, a hairbrush, a toothbrush, and a pen i would only grab around 2 items. I’m 14 years old i also struggle with social life and when i get into arguments with people its hard to understand and social life makes me have social anxiety aswell. I get very paranoid in public of what people think and say about me. I have people around me with similar issues like my best friend she is also autistic and her mother works for people with autism and other things, and my brother is dyslexic. Now this is my life whats yours? Sorry if this is cringe and weird and dont make sense because i struggle with writing and stuff like this and need support for it. Thanks for reading (sorry if it didnt make sense)

@ashlynripikoi5826 3 жыл бұрын

I have ASD.

@lyyliv4368 2 жыл бұрын

You presented your story well. Having friends on the spectrum is important. I am so glad you got the diagnosis so you can learn how to harness it and can learn how to work with it. Even when things are hard, we are wired for struggle and can overcome!

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@nimihitoasiniy 3 жыл бұрын

woah seems like you just read my entire life except for the suicide attempted part.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@taylarblake2010 2 жыл бұрын

I use to have a difficult time dragging myself to meet with people and make friends and actually talk and enjoy the time spent with them. I’m not diagnosed with Autism but maybe it’s possible. The reason I bring this to the forefront is because socialization can be painful for some people but I always kept this one thing in mind fear holds us back. It’s very possible your not going to know what shared interests you have with someone until you’ve spent time with them. The first meeting may be painful and maybe even the second and so on but EVENTUALLY, it will start to feel normal to have that person around like how you feel with your mama. Push through it and trust me eventually you will have formed a friendship. Friendships are like flowers. You don’t plant a seed and have a flower in 5 minutes. Keep trying. ❤️

@skepticsquirrel7560 2 жыл бұрын

I relate with all of this except for the eating disorder and obsession with numbers. I’ve only been diagnosed with ADHD but ASD helps make sense of a big chunk of my life and how/why I act the way I do and seem to burnout more often and quicker than my peers

@bladeofSteele 2 жыл бұрын

Same

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@danielaspitz3052 3 ай бұрын

My first bullies were my parents, both Narcissists. My siblings turned out like them. Bullying at school for me started at about 15, as far as I can remember, but in the end, I've been bullied until I ended contact with my family at 42 years.

@danyelPitmon 3 жыл бұрын

In order to be caught early in life that means more and more doctors have to learn how to look for the hidden symptoms in females I am 56 years old and I am only now self diagnosing with autism and will be getting professionally tested this July that should say a lot for the way things are being done to detect or not detect autism and women and I am a transgender female with multiple mental health disorders that I have been diagnosed with plus I also have significant learning disabilities and I am legally blind with low vision you can imagine what my school life was like if not I can give you a pretty good description just ask me although some may be able to hit right on the nail on the head

@marieholmes6480 3 жыл бұрын

have you tried natural medicine from Dr moses on youtube his medicine works perfectly well

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@minapenguina5302 Жыл бұрын

Hi. I'm 14 and have autism. I'm currently homeschooling because my mom and the doctor are making me. I also have a hard time with friends. Every Wednesday I and my friends go to youth group together. The only thing is it's really loud and bright there. I always go and hide in the bathroom when it gets too overwhelming. When I come out my bff is mad at me because she thinks I don't want to spend time with her. I feel bad that I can't be there but when I am, I feel like I'm going to have a meltdown. I wish I could explain it to her. She doesn't really hang out with me anymore. Probably because as I got older, she realized I wasn't fun to hang around. I hate that. She completely ignores me. My other friend is really understanding and helps me through stuff. I love her so much and am so grateful for her. Sometimes I go on walks at 12 am and weird stuff like that. I always get into trouble when I get back but it feels like I can't help it. I hate when I'm barely hanging on to friendships, or when it's too overwhelming for me. I wish I could be like my friends so bad

@celestea_. Жыл бұрын

Going undiagnosed is extremely depressing like honestly

@marcellabrittl6083 3 жыл бұрын

I had autism. Back then Its hard to make friends at my really young age (at my elementary school yrs) I sometimes don't know what to say to them & what their reactions are when I say something to them & all that I think making friends with kids is hard when I was a young girl then I decided to hamgout with adults cuz they're more easier to talk to then the other kids. Also back then in high school yrs when someone ask me how come I didn't drive a car or something like that I tell them about my condition I told them that im autistic or I had autism & finally some don't know what it is, some were afraid of me, some don't wanna be my friends anymore & some ran away from me, which hurts me alot.😢😢😢😢😢 But thank God that I got real friends (from the high school theater) & family that support me, loved me & accepted me for who I am as a shy & quiet autistic artist. 💖✌🏻☮

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@XnogoXshort 3 жыл бұрын

That's what ppl needs to understand wat an autistic feels like. BTW I'm an autistic girl i sometimes struggle with my life but I'll try to not giving up

@ucommo-ame4791 3 жыл бұрын

Hello,I know this is random but can you plz tell me if you can relate to situations like this?: -when you are in class you have a difficulty for raising your hand -you have problems with interacting ppl (like talking to the workers in the supermarket) - crying easily

@XnogoXshort 3 жыл бұрын

@@ucommo-ame4791 yes I do and it makes me act awkward.

@ucommo-ame4791 3 жыл бұрын

@@XnogoXshort thank you so muchhhh for responding :))) it make me feel akward too

@rutsikio-4844 2 жыл бұрын

Hey idk if this is awkward or anything but how'd you get diagnosed? I'm suspecting I have it and I've opened up about it to my mother and a friend, but they say I've been "normal" my whole life and if i were autistic I would be like x y and z, but I have issues getting overwhelmed with noises, eye contact problems, the ed part of the vid also fits, plus strict schedule control where if I get too into it and do one little thing wrong it ruins my day. I dont know if this is just normal stuff but yeah. Sorry for long rant, I've just been exploring this and I'd like some input.

@XnogoXshort 2 жыл бұрын

@@rutsikio-4844 Well honestly I've been diagnosed autsim since I was burn so it's not new to me. BTW ik it's hard for u to handle these symptoms but I'm sure u will manage it later ik it's makes us act awkward but no worries.

@Dimensionalalteration 3 жыл бұрын

I'm Maria, I'm autistic, I hate my life not because I'm autistic, but because there's no space for me,I feel like I have no right to life ,a way to live or quality of life.Literaly no one has ever cared if I died,if I ate,if I was ill,if I was in severe distress nothing I would just get people bully me no ,not just mean kids and not just a few people, literally nearly every people I have come across. Rn I want to game over myself.

@JacquelineNull 3 жыл бұрын

I’m mildly autistic and I had a similar story as a kid when I lived in California. No one liked me and everyone avoided me and my parents were critical towards me. My mom would make fun of me a lot. I was smart though which changed my life as an adult. I became quite wealthy off of stocks and crypto thanks to my smarts. I moved to Hungary a few years ago where my social life changed dramatically. I made several friends and even a boyfriend who proposed to me this July. My now fiancé and I live in Budapest now. Got a beautiful home in the old part of the city. The people here in Hungary are so down to earth here unlike in California where everyone was degenerate filth. Basically most people in the western world are trashy and mean. Eastern Europeans on the other hand are a complete opposite. Stay strong Maria don’t give up. If you look far and wide you’ll find someone. I thought I was doomed to me an outcast when I was a teen.

@trishleon8551 2 жыл бұрын

Hold on Maria. My daughter is autistic, and I’m still trying to understand her. She is 6, and I want to do everything I can to help her. She does have difficulties making friends and socializing. Right now she is a loner but it does not bother her. I do try to help her socialize, however, I think she just is not ready yet. Communicating is difficult for her, and she resorts to aggression. I’m sorry about your experience and, yes, the world is a cruel place, but know that you do have a place in the world. You mean a lot. Know your worth and forget about what others say or think of you. Shut them out and move forward. You will find loving and caring people. Stay strong, Maria.

@emilyhope2283 2 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry I want to give you a hug or some kind of love that you definitely deserved and didn’t get I have felt similar and it’s so sad my heart goes out to you you are seen and heard

@seaofsolace 2 жыл бұрын

I am 43 and I just found out this week that I might be on the spectrum. My dad is 79 and was never diagnosed. I dont think he even suspects it. He just thinks he is weird. Everything makes so much sense now. I have always said that social interactions never made sense to me. The 10 therapists I saw in my life never figured out!! I have to say that I mask pretty heavily though. I taught myself so many scripts. Because I am always acting and have to go against what feels natural to me, I am constantly drained. Like the small talk. I have my small talk scripts and feels completely ridiculous while doing it but people seem happy. They like that I share mundane details about my life. I dont understand how they can find that interesting. But thats how it works in the neurotypical world so I go with it. I always always felt on the outside looking in. Now I understand why. Anything unpredictable overwhelms me. It can be very challenging. Again I mask. I hate lying but I lie about that sometimes. I have always been ashamed that life is so much harder for me.

@Catlily5 2 жыл бұрын

I am 47 and have been in the mental health system and was never diagnosed. Two mental health professionals suspected autism. I felt weird for my whole life also. I just thought it was mental health problems until my case manager suggested autism. I looked up videos on autism and it makes sense.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@QuantumSorceress 2 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed at age 30 and this story is almost identical to what happened to me when I was younger. I've always struggled with my weight as well due to my ADHD. I tend to do things impulsively sometimes. So, binge eating is impulsive... Which led to an eating disorder. No one knows that I have an ED, but I was pulled aside when I was in the psychiatric hospital about my eating habits. I found it hard to eat at the hospital because I really dislike the smell of cafeterias, which makes me feel like vomiting. My diagnosis has helped me, but also made me very sad because I knew that I had to change my expectations for my future. I still struggle a lot, but I'm doing better.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@mirrame1326 3 жыл бұрын

I have autism but in my old school my teachers made fun of me for my autism When I was older I was more insecure about my wait and looks but my family was always there to support me🙂🙂

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@M1NDCR4WL3R 3 жыл бұрын

There should be a suicide trigger warning! Besides, my story is similar to Maya's Story in many parts.

@tb4332 3 жыл бұрын

Yes it made me cry and I felt ideation for that as well 🤕🥲

@blackpillr9kr428 2 жыл бұрын

You would not last a second as a man with asd...

@niki8454 2 жыл бұрын

@@blackpillr9kr428 let's not try to compare and make this a competition. Both males and females with asd struggle.

@blackpillr9kr428 2 жыл бұрын

@@niki8454 only men have to deal with the issues. Women don't.

@niki8454 2 жыл бұрын

@@blackpillr9kr428 that's just not true at all.

@Charliethepupper Жыл бұрын

I myself who has high functioning autism did so t hard to do simple tasks such as taking out trash, cleaning room, showering daily, not hoarding food, brushing teeth, etc. And I don’t even know why! I’ve tried and tried but yet it always goes back to the same!

@minahtheweirdo Жыл бұрын

Sometimes I want to cry. I know I'm a freak and now one of my sons has been diagnosed autistic and I feel like it's my fault. I've never fit in anywhere.

@PhotoSynthesis-uj8og 6 ай бұрын

This made me cry… the story told in this video is somewhat similar to my life story. I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD and a learning disability when I was 6, and while my academic problems were accommodated, my social difficulties were not. I struggled all throughout my school years socially, with making friends and relating to other people. I was bullied relentlessly in school and by the time I was in high school, I developed social anxiety and depression. I also frequently get obsessed with certain topics and I tend to talk about them a lot until someone tells me upfront that they don’t care and wish to change the subject. I’ve never been diagnosed with autism but I do have a lot of signs.

@lildurk3004 3 жыл бұрын

This is somewhat relatable to me and im highly functioned with autism. The movie Space Jam A New Legacy actually helped me. It actually taught me that people care and people encourage me still.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@paranormalsoulcircle3176 3 жыл бұрын

This is also my Story , but I never got any help with Autism because no one knew I had Autism

@LoreEclectic 3 жыл бұрын

You can still get diagnosed

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@noeyedgirl 2 жыл бұрын

I came here because I'm greatly confused in social situations and since being a preteen have noticed "autistic traits". This includes disconnects in communication with even my own family. I'm very surprised to find that anxiety, depression, and even eating disorders are common in autistic females because I've struggled with all three since my early teens! I also find myself easily overwhelmed and very sensitive to sounds. I'm not going to self-diagnose but I'm considering autism or Asperger's as a possibility.

@bladeofSteele 2 жыл бұрын

I mean, it genuinely sound like it. It could be worth looking further into

@noeyedgirl 2 жыл бұрын

@Azim Premji According to his channel, he sells "cure-alls" which do not exist. Either you're a bot or you're being scammed.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@LS-fe4ob Жыл бұрын

Me too

@Dremsnas503 Жыл бұрын

This sounds just like my life! im only 10 years into my life, but still it sounds so similar!

@yexuanyuan6520 2 жыл бұрын

I experienced exactly what she experiences down to the details all the way until I took a break from university. And then the me who had eating disorders, major anxiety and depression, borderline personality disorder, after spending 16 years in general psychiatry, after seeking help for executive dysfunction and sensory overloads, meltdowns and shutdowns, got diagnosed after an entire life of being called lazy unmotivated and even spiteful and manipulative with my "tantrums"

@ardapelle 2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@zephyrine3009 3 жыл бұрын

Im glad to know I wasnt the only one who's experiencing this. Im not alone after all

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@indigobb 3 жыл бұрын

Powtoon was my favourite for projects in school

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@elizab8844 2 жыл бұрын

I have never been diagnosed with anything because I've never even been to a doctor for anything mental. I am pretty sure that I have depression. Mostly seasonal though as it gets somewhat better in the summertime. I've struggled with what I thought was just sadness since I was nine. I still have suicidal impulses. I sometimes have meltdowns when I'm at home. I've never been good at having friends. I never understood what was wrong with me. This video makes me wonder if I might have Autism.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@MuMu-fu7qe 3 жыл бұрын

This was amazing. THANK YOU.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

There is a herbal recommendations I got about dr Oyalo and his herbal remedy work perfectly on his improvements and social skill till now His link kzbin.info/door/L8Tawls84nezPDtqOzOfCg

@imaddatu6819 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been diagnosed with autism at age 2. Until watching a few KZbin videos I’ve realized that I’ve been masking since I was 9 years old

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@vivianh9633 2 жыл бұрын

she’s just like me fr

@ticrevengereg5114 2 жыл бұрын

Yup, my entire life right there with my diagnosis

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@socialglitch2663 Жыл бұрын

This hits painfully close to home.

@unnaturaldisaster1728 2 жыл бұрын

i meet pretty much all the criteria for autism and i relate to so many traits, but the thing that throws me is my social abilities. i’m not bad at small talk and i don’t mind it. i used to suffer with social anxiety in high school, but now i’m much better and chill with talking to people. i’d call myself an ambivert (i like hanging out with friends and don’t get burned out easily with them but i also love my own company). this makes me feel like an imposter because it seems being socially awkward and very introverted is a universal autistic trait. lol help

@unnaturaldisaster1728 2 жыл бұрын

@Azim Premji there is no cure for autism

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@unnaturaldisaster1728 2 жыл бұрын

@Wesley Hinson i’m glad your son’s speech has improved but autism cannot be cured and it doesn’t need to be, if that’s what you’re insinuating

@sailorjup 2 жыл бұрын

My preferred-name is Sage. I’m currently in the process of getting diagnosed with autism, however I already have PTSD and depression diagnosed that I take medication for. I’ve been made fun of my entire life. Words *did* take me down, and I’ve always been terrified of negotiating relationships or scared if people will make fun of my interests. I’m very sensitive. However, I believe myself to be kind, and very compassionate with my interests. I need people who get me. I love art, music, and a lot more! I just wish people would understand how tough it is to, well, be _me._

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@autumnlouise9769 2 жыл бұрын

My name is Isabelle and I have autism , anxiety, and on top of that bad short term memory

@KRANTZSVLOG 3 жыл бұрын

Hi, how can I tell someone that I think she had Asperger? She is my ex girlfriend (just breakup) who live with her parents we are still in contact… without they think I only want shittalk about her… she got many of this symptome copying mostly her mom, hate to left her home (we lived together), she getting nervous, want to go home asap, I feel she cant read emotions really well, tonn of silly routine like she have to watch disney movie to fall a sleep. non-autonomous, really naive on the first week she told me her credit card pin number and so, problem in every social situation, she got frustrated and turn silent front of other people, take everything direct!!! sometimes just turn off and stare nothing… just applied 8th different uni/course in last 5 year without finishing any of them and all because she wasnt able communicare there, only boy “friends” from the past many of them take advantage of her “naivety”. now she really mad at me, but I have to communicate it somehow.

@linden5165 3 жыл бұрын

You said she's mad with you currently. That means she will absolutely not want to hear this from you. If you suggest it now while she's upset with you she is more likely to reject the idea, associate it with her negative feelings about you and take longer to accept the possibility and receive diagnosis. It's far more likely to harm her than hurt her. It certainly does sound like she might be on the spectrum. Do you have friends in common that you could talk to so they could talk to her about it instead? But make sure you are only motivated by concern and caring of her and nothing else. Do not use it as a weapon against her or to blame her for your relationship not working. If you have no role or part in her life then you should probably just keep your thoughts to yourself and let her find out in her own time with people she feels better with.

@KRANTZSVLOG 3 жыл бұрын

@lizzie fan I’m sorry autism sprectrum, but the old form used as well sometimes. Annoying, what can I do somehow I want to share my experience.. there many people who just say you are stupid or crazy without umdersanding the other human being…

@KRANTZSVLOG 3 жыл бұрын

@@linden5165 thanks I thought the same, I only know her family members, when we were together I was be able to suggest her that I see similarities as he act like my brother who is already diagnosised. But I did not want to give more pressure and talk about this topic so I let it go. She is struggling with simple things like go to grocery and felt she misunderstood by the people. But yes I agree better say nothing because she gonna feel atracked… may once I dunno

@calebmaceachern3598 3 жыл бұрын

My girlfriend also has aspergers, and she is a lot like your ex. Somewhat naive, acts childish, and stares in silence. Despite all of these things that I guess you consider faults. I see them to just be a part of her absolutely beautiful personality. Sure she can be a child sometimes but I am absolutely in love with it. I kinda see it as a way to get away from all seriousness of life. I mean when your girlfriend puts on the little mermaid for the 10th time and does a high pitch screech when her favorite character or smtg cute pops up, it really makes loving her worth it. When you date someone with aspergers you must be prepared to face these things and love them forever.

@anonymous-cx7ng 2 жыл бұрын

Omg this sounds exactly like me 100%

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@moomoolaka 2 жыл бұрын

God bless you all . Be who you are and don't let anyone say otherwise

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@supperpuppy8 2 жыл бұрын

Man this is too similar to my experience. I didn’t realize that how many of these things affect my life on a daily basis. I’m Constantly mirroring peoples body language, have many self soothing/stimming behaviors, certain textures and smells really bother me and have a “slight” obsession with license plates (Hawaii, Oregon and Alaska are my faves...). That’s just the tip of the iceberg. I haven’t really noticed up until recently that I might be on the spectrum because it really fills in a lot of the blanks for things I’ve been struggling with my whole life. Hopefully one day I can try and seek out a diagnosis to get a more clear picture

@INeatFreak 2 жыл бұрын

Agency took over the world in just 7 years wow.

@VictoriaJusticeInternetVideos 2 жыл бұрын

When I was a kid, people at school made fun of me for being “slow”

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@Ruuskie 3 жыл бұрын

I am autistic and a male teen and I'm not destructive. Yes I can get really angry some times but that's because of my brother and my other siblings sometimes but that's normal but for the most part I love them I usually leave them alone and stay in my room alone playing my games on my computer It's the same thing in public but with out my computer of course and that I'm not in my room. well that was my two cents and I wish you a great day.

@blackpillr9kr428 2 жыл бұрын

Dude these women don't care. men with asd will always have it hard. but women don't.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@Talktopics2000 2 жыл бұрын

How do you tell the difference between anxiety, social anxiety and autism?

@Clickwrap 10 ай бұрын

Yeah, shit pretty much hit the fan for me as soon as I hit high school. I had problems here and there, but nothing too explosive or major at the time, until I hit my teens. Then, the social climate just became so much more complicated and I couldn’t navigate it any more, no matter how much I tried. It was exhausting and I always failed. So I just gave up eventually. Withdrew even more and lost more and more friends over time until there was none. I also tried to kill itself (and failed) very similarly to the character in this video clip. I know I shouldn’t isolate myself, but I just don’t want to burden other people and I know I am so weird.. I’ll just uncomfortable the whole time I’m out and it’s so exhausting. So the cycle continues. I don’t really know what my breaking point will be for how lonely I am before I can’t take it again and they to end my life.

@otaku5869 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing the story

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@skylafarrell5527 3 жыл бұрын

I had bullying issues and and can't tell what other people are feeling I have high functioning issues

@thegracklepeck Жыл бұрын

Because girls are usually better at copying social behaviors, we go undiagnosed. There are other factors of course but man, it would have been so much better to know that I was on the spectrum when I was younger rather than after struggling for years to keep up social and employment expectations, ending up in burn out and dealing with all sorts of health trouble from chronic stress. I was 33 before I found out I was autistic. We've got to get better tools in place both for diagnosis and for strategies to help autistics cope in a world that expects neurotypical behavior from people. That I could be labeled as anxious, stubborn, sensitive, highly intelligent or even mature for my age, stuck in my ways or even manipulative but never autistic when all the signs were present as a child, is incredibly frustrating. And I had to fight to even get an assessment done for myself. Because people laughed at me and brushed off all my struggles. That's got to change.

@goldenlamb777 2 жыл бұрын

My name is Katerina I think I have autism I have ADHD I have BPD I started talking at 9 months I started Reading at 5 years old in Russian I speak Russian Ukrainian English French understand Armenian Italian I am able to teach myself from scratch to play piano I actually started learning in 2021 I am suffering with social anxiety but I’m in sales and I’m a GREAT SALES PERSON which is weird I was bullied in school but I’m very strong 💪 physically and always ended up beating up all my bullies I was the bullies nightmare I also was bullied by girls and boycotted for over a year by my entire class which was painful 😣

@yoonari9840 2 жыл бұрын

you are so resilient Katerina. you have a beautiful name.

@goldenlamb777 2 жыл бұрын

@@yoonari9840 omg thank you 🙏 so much ! What is your name ? I’m actually trying to return my first letter of my name , it was taken from me by the Ukrainian government. My birth name is Ekaterina. So nice to meet you! You comment made my day!!! I am going to face my day so much easier today! Thank you so much , I can tell your soul is so kind, it is shining .

@goldenlamb777 2 жыл бұрын

@Wesley Hinson what ?

@l.ouisa. 2 жыл бұрын

I can relate to so much of this story, only I have somewhat equal parts of male and female symptoms

@vampireobsessedteen 2 жыл бұрын

100% relatable, I been through a lot even before I knew I had autism. And I'm still 15 and I also tried to make friends, get people to like me and not treat invisible, and get used to crown in school, but I'm still having trouble with that.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@1111Annie 3 жыл бұрын

Moving schools dosent work, i tried that one too. It was a me issue.

@yoonari9840 2 жыл бұрын

same

@psi.anaclarafalcao 2 жыл бұрын

i found out about my autism on my 25´s and i feel very related with to this video

@psi.anaclarafalcao 2 жыл бұрын

@Azim Premji autism has no cure, it is not a disease.. it is a disability.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@VenusVoice 3 жыл бұрын

Nothing is wrong with us.

@ajtriforcegamerofhyrule8538 2 жыл бұрын

Been undiagnosed with autism though it's rare for anyone to tell if i have it quite frustrating since for years now since i was little had a different brain growing up people would often get me stressed easily too due to lacking patience when around people sometimes i need games or drawing to shut off from people often too.

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

@Jeon_Kim.Taeggukie Жыл бұрын

Psychological disorder people only love and interested in psychology Am I right? Cause my friends are normal they're don't like psychology. But me only

@macycurtiss1453 Жыл бұрын

Might seem like a repeated comment but this is almost exactly how my childhood was....... Still trying to figure out what's wrong today....

@kieradavies8974 2 жыл бұрын

Hi im kiera this is my story: I am a 12 year old female who is getting tested for autism after 11 years of my parents asking for a test. I have dealt with many problems in my life such as anxiesty social anxiety and depression. Here is how my mum suspected that i have autism, at the age of 4 i used to stare into space ALOT so my mum took me for an epilepsy test and it was negative. Also i only like 3-4 actual meals and i get distracted alot. When i get excited/happy i usually talk in a baby voice.My attention span is short and i cannot stand still. I take situations very legitimately even if people are being sarcastic. At the moment i am dealing with depression which makes life alot harder. I mask my emotions really well so if i am at school and i am angry or sad most of the time i dont show it at all. I get bullied alot at school so i tend to be really quiet infront of people.Also if aomeone is calling my name my brain blocks it put and i dont respond until about five minutes later. And THATS how my mum finally got a test for autism for me which i have to take in september

@juniormako6184 2 жыл бұрын

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@lindahuser866 2 жыл бұрын

This brought tears to my eyes. I’ve been diagnosed with BPD and ADHD and I’m wondering if I might be on the spectrum.

@lindahuser866 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been through it all. “Gifted child” diagnosis, friendships ending / people ghosting me, eating disorders, substance abuse, suicide attempts, anxiety, depression, feeling like I can never fit in and feeling like an alien around people… I’m so confused.

@Ayixlia 2 жыл бұрын

My daughter has Autism the kind that effects her speech and social skills.

@sumshine928 Жыл бұрын

I can relate to this.. even the eating disorder; at 12 for me it started

@MissSchnickfitzel Жыл бұрын

I had the experience that people always wanted to pick on me and bully me but i literally physically fought them because my mom used to tell me to defend myself and that violence IS an option 😂. Honestly it was the best advice ever

@IndigoAngel1448 3 ай бұрын

It's different when you've got a narcissistic parent who would never listen to you or how you feel without gaslighting you.

@melv.278 Жыл бұрын

I had to BEG my doctor to omease send me to a psychiatrist to diagnose me. I'm 20. I have been doing research for months about autism. My soon to be husband has autism. I never had decent friends, relationship or a boyfriend before him. My doctor says "what's the definition of "normal"? Aren't we all different? I don't want to put you in a box by calling you "autistic", you know?" But then she said that it'd be better if I get myself taken into an asylum/mental hospital. Isn't that like... Putting me literally in a box? How can I ever find a job, explain my difficulties to people/doctors/police/etc? Without having an actual paper in my hands that say I am officially autistic I will come over as lazy, tired, scared, stubborn, rude, dumb..... My mother didn't like what my doctor said. I'm gonna see a psychiatrist for the first time in January 2023. I'm so scared. Will they not believe me as well? Will they send me away? I've heard that autism testing takes months, up to years. Will I have to wait so long? My soon to be husband works at a special workplace for people with disorders. I want to work there too, I want to make a difference. I want to earn money and save up for our future house. We're both living at my parents' at the moment. .... I just feel like my doctor is laughing with my problems... 😢

@poisonfang1103 2 жыл бұрын

same with me 😢

@poisonfang1103 2 жыл бұрын

but not with those tables, but with my problems I had kindy failure 😢

@krystal1131 2 жыл бұрын

This is 90% like me. How do I get a diagnosis? Is is expensive? Is there any aid? That disobeying rules is so me. I often reminded my classmates about the rules and asked them not to break them. However when the teacher asked me to help my classmates with homework, I would help. I have extreme sensitiveness to light, sound and smell. The dog scratching the floor from the Level above next door I could hear. Only I could hear and none of my family members could hear when I asked them to. I cry easily as I empathised and related to others’ sad situation. I need to “check” many times before going out. My intention was always pure however people turned and completely complex mine with their inputs…. I love numbers too. I’m obsessed with neatness. I will notice the movement in arrangement in a room setting. Anyone who “messed a little”, I would notice. However I often remind myself to be less ocd.