What happens when the narcissist goes silent : what is happening to them? BONUS VIDEO

[@marykarle3997]

He’s silent because he’s busy talking with his new supply!

[@boldcitycc]

One of your best videos.. I was so victimized by this woman I love. She made me think I was her soul Most explosive intimacy you can imagine. All the things you’ve spoke of. But she’ll turn off like a switch in a minute. It is soooo damaging and unhealthy

[@rossofficial]

Yep mines silent for 3 weeks. We were suppose to marry last week

[@energy5351]

They go silent when you pull out your power grid and WALK AWAY…..Don’t look back # a evil vessel 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@Stephen_Nicholson]

Think of narcissistics like out of date food that is smelling and rotting! You wouldn’t keep that around would you, so definitely don’t keep a narcissist 😂

[@HopeFaithExpect77]

She discarded and ghosted me 7mos ago. Super cowardly. Evil. Ended 8.5yrs w a text! She monkeybranched. I went no contact. I majorly leveled self up in this time. Hope she reaps all she has sown.

[@ladyvirgo013]

My X husband did something similar blindsided me ,ghosted, changed his number, immediately shacked up with the bimbo coworker after 13 years married. COWARDS

[@gladisruiz8775]

​@ladyvirgo9514 same here after 15years left me and my children for a co worker

[@ladyvirgo013]

@@gladisruiz8775 ugh! I'm so sorry, it's so disrespectful & heartless

[@gladisruiz8775]

@@ladyvirgo013 sadly it is but we will get through this !!

[@Intimidator7Time]

I’m happy the narcs went silent.

[@simonfoster634]

Don't think your ex has gone off to some amazing life. Because trust me there very boring and very predictable. They will discard you and walk away for control, your narcissist never loved you there literally dead inside.

[@Tigers_Eye_Lady]

Yep I saw him the other day briefly and his eyes were dead

[@simonfoster634]

@Tigers_Eye_Lady Scary isn't it. Empty vessels.

[@palapalak.8907]

WOW! So sad.

[@hindwidad2723]

Silent treatment doesn’t work on me anymore.. I don’t really care if we don’t talk anymore, I’ll just return to them that same energy 😅

[@cabbista30]

Same.

[@stevensawyer5924]

Can you imagine what if this individual is incredibly intelligent and highly educated in the mental health field?... Yes, this individual you've described was my trauma therapist...15 months no contact, and still working on the damage they caused. Be Aware family! Nobody's immune. 🙏✌️❤️🌞

[@anoushkamarcin]

OMG really. I’m so sorry to hear this. You are right this happens in all walks of life. It’s all about power 😢 I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this

[@michellawarren1715]

And yes, my Narcissistic Neighbours finally come out of silence. (Six months). I did respond with a quick. " hello, how are you"..but remembered to NOT get emotionally involved. Move on, get on with MY day, and don't give them another thought!!

[@moonlightstargem1006]

It worked on me for a long time but i caught on & stopped seeking their attention

[@steveanhiron6764]

Described my narcissist to a T , so much damage control unaware of until listening to this . Am leaving to save my soul .

[@marykarle3997]

I don’t want his attention anymore! He won’t reach out…told me he hopes I find what I’m looking for…

[@John-m3k2d]

Doesn’t sound like a narcissist lol

[@marykarle3997]

@@John-m3k2d He was classic ! Said and did all those things that narcissists do…The only reason he said he hopes I find what I’m looking for was because he’d already been with the new supply while he was with me, and he felt guilty!

[@samscarletta7433]

Sounds exactly like a narcissist

[@purplerose3565]

It definitely sounds like a narcissist. The whole "I hope you find what you're looking" for comment is back handed in nature. They really don't wish you well at all.

[@marykarle3997]

@purplerose3565 Agreed…he was selfish and SO dam arrogant!

[@GizmoMaxx]

Gosh You are on Point and I lived this for 7months realised her game which was steal my entire business network, by spying and gaslighting in a plot with her mother. After Ive discover her scheme of stealing from her old employer for over 5.5 years . The Crazy part was when I went to report to the policy about their scheme they complete ignored my claim despite of my evidences while the company she worked for has already been sold ( to a new ownership )at the time I find out but her scheme. To this day since what all happened she is perceived as" successful " online. But I still have all the photos prints and emails and sometime I feel to expose it all online. Edit; Later I've learned about Narcissist and the Term Covert Narcissist that she is and the behaviour learned from her up bringing by her own mother.

[@Green89_]

It’s definitely a form of control. My narc ex was so bossy and this was her last way to control me.

[@Ana_Sor4ever]

This question is a great one !! It really concerns me in relation to my ex husband . Thank a bunch! Blessings from Romania 🇷🇴❤️🙏

[@dub1951]

Count your lucky stars and make hay while the sun shines, it may not feel like it, but it's the only time in a narcissistic relationship the sun is shining, silence is golden and it's a golden opportunity to do what you want to do enjoy while it last, it's a power play. Let them stew

[@calebkeegan3023]

Exactly...hard not to ruminate kept getting hoovered but not anymore

[@InHonourOfChester]

Thsks for that Anoushka! i just wanna share this, and i know many are thinking of ways to break up with the narcissists, but dont know how, just wanna share with you guys how i did it, i sort of took back my control by literally doing or saying the opposite of what the narcissist "expect" of me, eg, i say "no" to him, literally, i refused to "report to him about my whereabout daily, mind you, this is one of the thing he expect of me, to let him know what I do and where I go every single day, this is crazy! Ever since i did everything that he expected of me, i felt i am a changed person, i told him "nobody ever control me the way you do, and i wont allow it anymore!" Think about it, when u say that to a narcissist, like what Anoushka mentioned earlier, they are not going to be happy about it. But i literally do that to let him know that he cant control me no more. i showed him that have taken back my control when i said what i said to the narcissist, literally.

[@williampadin537]

They lived in fear they know they hurt persons and they hide she is right .

[@peacefulrelaxingsounds1503]

I live with the narcissist and I have had to shut off my communication with them totally or I'll be baited blamed and projected on to so I refuse to engage anymore.

[@kellyt4683]

I agree with this

[@paulasinger1842]

Well done!

[@Judysbayoubostons]

My adult daughter discarded us as a family out of the blue, then was infuriated that we didn't chase after her. She asked us to leave her alone. To never contact her ever again. We are simply giving her what she wants. Of course, it was heartbreaking. But it's like the old adage. "If you love someone, let them go. If their leaving gives you ultimate peace you've never known with them in your life, praise God they are giving you peace with their absence." Might sound cruel to some but you never know true peace until they are gone. Grieve what you thought they were and what you thought would have been and go on with your life.❤ If they come back set boundaries and forgive them for you're peace, which we've already done but don't forget.

[@richardlenz2655]

One narcissistic girl friend also got silent after 20 years. Because I did not know what a narcissist was then, it was a strange behavior in my opinion. Now she lately died, but did not inform me although I was never angry with her. Personally, I today think she did, like my narcissistic mother, not want not see the truth during the dying process. Dying with wrong dreams was more comfortable 🤭.

[@ritapeters1330]

Very good and helpful video Anoushka 💌 thank you ... I also like the glaze color you used on your hair ..I applied one only yesterday 😂. him a covert / avoidant is ghosting me because he thinks I did him wrong ..which is not true ..I am no contact but hurting

[@anhaarsyed123]

A month back, my class fellow who was once my friend I said to her that you should learn some communication skills bcz whenever I msged her she gave me short responses like ok no oh good etc…. She made me seem like my msgs weren’t imp or worthy of her time. When I said this thing to her and I also added that besides learning communication skills whenever I talk to you it’s like you are not interested in replying and it’s like giving someone a hard slap on the face. That day and today, it’s been a month now and her id giving me silent treatment. She did not respond to any of my msgs bcz I tried to talk to her after that to make things sorted out but she is ignoring me completely. And this isn’t the first time. She does this very often if I confront her she ghosts me. She has narcissistic traits her behavioural patterns are the exact same like narcissistic people. She keeps coming and going out of my life. One day she is nice and normal with me but then 3 days she is silent and unbothered. I just want to ask whether if she will msg me again or not?

[@VeeKay16]

You've tried your best to retain , nurture and nourish this person. It isn't your duty to further pursue this hot and cold chase. You know what to do next ! Possibility 1 : You'll help her up for someone else and she'll do better with someone else as a friend . YOU Will be left out cold once again. Possibility 2 : She could be acting all dumb so you correct her, nurture and chase. They have two lives. You shouldn't be in either of those. Hope this helps.

[@VeeKay16]

Lastly , you are not her tool. Make and find genuine connections.

[@anhaarsyed123]

@@VeeKay16 well said. I have left her now and I know after some time she’ll come back and pretend like nothing happened. She’ll msg me something random but should I respond or not? Like sometimes it gets hard for me to ignore or not resolution to someone as I’ve never done this type of thing.

[@peterbroom4286]

​@@anhaarsyed123you know the answer. You'll work it out eventuallly. Just like we all do

[@PeaceGrcMrcy]

I’m being punished right now

[@hindwidad2723]

Don’t chase because that’s what he wants. It makes him feel important. Let him be a child, give him his space and let him be immature

[@zuuut2]

Thank you!

[@Jellyloaf29]

Yea in the beginning after 3 months she put it out there that she wanted to have kids in two years together. I remember having a thought of yeaaaa that’s a little fast. I was trying to figure out how to respond as this was over text. After thirty minutes she calls to tell me how amazing I am. Two months later I meet her family. She then says how much she loves me and it was the first time I said I love you. Two days later…. Death by a thousand cuts… the break up cycle began.

[@elizabethquinones3227]

Right a point👍

[@sreach93]

If only science could come up with a way of finding out at the beginning of every romantic relationship how each person would act after a break-up. The best guide we have is how they treated their exes.

[@SerendipityK-d2z]

Couldn’t give a flying f! 😂

[@rozgarrettjustkeyit]

No contact for 18 years but trolls my social media, extracts info from our grown children but direct contact no He is remarried to his affair partner

[@Tigers_Eye_Lady]

Yeo he always comes back even though he’s married now!🤷‍♀️

[@sumbals]

What if you are married to the one and have to live with him ? Can’t leave for the sake of child and then you have to go through this silent treatment when you have done nothing suddenly see this mood change leaves you confused wondering what happened for I deserve this ?

[@hidelisabautista147]

im punishing with new supply ,his ex gf fr highschool its really hurt,and people...this is second time he did to me😔

[@andrewsunderland9402]

Why same thing except boyfriend from high school

[@moniquepeerboom2196]

let him! 🙏

[@cincyfanjunglecity9871]

My narc ex got mad at me because I wouldn’t give her money for her rent , although she spent all her money on lottery tickets, and told me to leave her alone. So I left her alone , and went no contact 4 months ago. No attempts to reach out to me , I haven’t heard from her since. Good riddance , no good piece of s**t , user.

[@CHEFDADDY21]

Baby mom told me she don’t need to hear from me unless I’m payin medical bills. She 7 months pregnant and discarded me but except me to help with her bills. These hoes crazy

[@flynnnewsblog9627]

She or her new supply blocked me.

[@nanettesimon9388]

He stop having sex no orgams if we did have sex !!! I turn to a friend 😂😂😂 and it was great lol almost 3 years no contact from a 15 year relationship 😂😂😂 i wss the best he would ever have 😊