How To Overcome Imposter Syndrome

[@tuxedoneko9837]

Love the "brag file" concept. I tend to dwell on the negative work experiences and brushing off the positive ones. I need to flip it around. Ty

[@matthewmaguire3554]

In most spiritual traditions sensing you are a imposter, fake is a positive piece of evidence that you are moving towards a higher level of consciousness and shedding a socially and personal skin for the next phase.🐇

[@dieuthao01]

Sometime I take a compliment way too deep and get too happy. Then comes my biggest fear, I start slacking off thinking I'm good. Then I start making mistakes. Those mistakes will humble me down and make hate myself even for making mistakes. Then I'm back to exactly where I was. It's a vicious cycle.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Might the vicious cycle be based in putting too much emphasis on other people's opinions? That could definitely keep us on a rollercoaster!

[@Leesie77]

Ty! I’m excited to give these exercises a true attempt. I’m going to break it down to every 3 days and check in with myself. Then increase to a week, then 2,3,4 weeks then move into months. 30 solid days feels overwhelming and a bit intimidating especially when a person has absolutely no motivation, desires, energy etc from being shattered for years without any sort of relief or healing on my own and with talk/EMDR therapy. So very small goals, baby steps so I don’t set myself up for failure. The questions/exercises look reasonable to work with. I will attempt to begin with a situation that’s less traumatic to get me started. Thank you for taking the time to make this video and exercises. I hope many can begin to heal using this technique and exercises.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Hi Allie: breaking it down to 3 days at a time is a great idea!

[@nyamburakihato8206]

Barbara, I love the way you break down the definition of imposter syndrome and share practical tips we can use. Great video!

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Thanks so much! Thank you for letting me know!

[@siyandadlamini496]

You are a gift.

[@tessellatiaartilery8197]

Marvelous video. I think this will have helped people in many different jobs and situations. Especially for us women having this sort of advice in such a friendly and professional way is a great boost to confidence with practical actionable ideas. Thank you very much.

[@MMircea]

My colleague at work that's originally from China told me that whenever I talk about myself, I sound like an Asian parent. I also tend to receive criticism, not as an opportunity to grow, but rather a reconfirmation of what I assumed about myself all along. It's a very vicious cycle

[@duaneboland2806]

I really appreciate the way you've explained everything.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

So pleased you appreciated this!!

[@sreenivasg7827]

Truly wonderful soothing words 🙏

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

So pleased you found it that way :)

[@MrsD3Aer]

When I was in train for a medical vet and my college was in co-vegetarian vet and the vet who teaches her and she didn’t know the answer…I by accident gave the conclusion …I have the right answer…as she didn’t know what was wrong with the kitten(atelectase). I got bitched by her ….after a few months I lost my job by her. Just because I over ruled “a becoming vet” …Yes I’m good in thinking over pathologie with animals…. But it made me feel so insecure that I know so much in my knowledge in animal care. I’m now unemployed but don’t dare to let my knowledge now knowing…as I am hurt by my over ruling what I did before …”over ruling a vet in practice” as a technical vet…. It hurts so much…and I have a real problem to get a new job as being a technical vet (the Netherlands). “Vets should know more than me”..????

[@shubha64]

This is very Very helpful.!

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

So glad it was helpful!

[@TheNyakaat]

This doesn’t address how to overcome imposter syndrome when you have recently worked in a team that would not see a good thing in anything you do. They either water down or fail to acknowledge your successes.

[@TheStarseedHealingEra]

Can you speak on imposter syndrome in relation to narcissists abuse encountered in childhood or relationship.. Because it doesn't stem from work places but it really engraved by things the inner child has been hearing and emotional turmoil of abuse, i don't think taking compliments is a right fit for it or any because it pushes people to be codependent, instead of self compassion towards themselves.. Most people who suffer from it truly comes from the societal indoctrination, i honestly beileve we live in a world of energy, the ones who colonized the world with patriarchy had imposter syndrome that stems from fear of feminine energy and it powers, feminine energy not being based on assigned bodies or genitals, so they projected the world within themselves, with everything being energy they succeeded at gaslighting people to self doubt, remember narcissists have fears, they just are good at masking it..

[@laura3619]

Thanks for the information.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

You are welcome!

[@jaymoraski]

Thanks

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

You are welcome!

[@TrappedInTheNorth]

Barbara what do I do I have a depression in the moment, I have seen a lot of the youtube videos including some of yours about the issue, But they are all about treating depression in the long term what do you I do when the low mood hits me here and now, lack of motivation, and also I feel totally drained for energy and joy. Impossible to do my college studies in such a mood and mental state. Is there something in the moment I can do in my room that will change the mood. Oh God depression is nasty there is no words to describe it one has to experience it

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Hi: I'm so sorry to hear how you are struggling. I really can't give advice, other than to reach out for help. Most colleges have counseling... Unfortunately, it is a process. For myself, I know that changing the scenery and going for a walk or talking to a supportive friend or putting on upbeat music help... Do what you can. You are worth it :)

[@tuxedoneko9837]

I am sorry you are going through such difficult times. I am also living with depression and, yes, it is very difficult. What gets me through the really bad bouts (along with therapy and meds) is knowing that I will feel better at some point. Things always get better. So I just allow myself to ride the lows, knowing that the highs are just around the corner. It also helps to know that friends and family are understanding and patient. I hope you get some help cause i know you will get better.

[@TrappedInTheNorth]

@@tuxedoneko9837 The worst thing is the lack of peace in my mind, making it impossible to concentrate or the lack of motivation to get out of bed to do anything

[@tuxedoneko9837]

@@TrappedInTheNorth yes, true

[@aubreykingsford1822]

THANK YOU

[@tuxedoneko9837]

The idea that one judges oneself by our internal dialogue compared to others' outer "dialogue"/body language is so true. Never thought of it that way. Will try to pay attention to that one. Ty

[@nevelynpimenta736]

This is the best video I’ve watched about imposter syndrome!

[@perfectlynormalhuman2035]

This gave me so much insight! Thank you❤

[@khattizz2140]

Thank you so much for this video. You have presented this in a way that really connects with me. You are appreciated.

[@BarbaraHeffernan]

Glad it was helpful!