Many People Touch Their Dog Too Much, Why is this BAD? Joel Gets a Death Threat. Ep.29

[@BDTraining]

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[@rptrick79]

Damn, you just did away with my very part-time job..😢

[@BDTraining]

@@rptrick79 lol

[@DENVEROUTDOORMAN]

​@@rptrick79not needed

[@User7688.--_]

@@rptrick79 ! 😂😂

[@Kaiser8361N]

Really appreciated!

[@dorcaskerr6384]

Eric is growing on me. Keep it up guys. Love listening to well-informed people with common sense & compassion.

[@IndigoAwakener]

As a Professional Nanny -FOLLOW THROUGH IS CRUCIAL FOR CHILDREN TOO! This seems to be the hardest lesson my bossparents have to learn! You want to know why your kids listen to me and not you? ITS FOLLOW THROUGH. I ask ONCE, then I PHYSICALLY ACT.

[@lauraduryea4341]

Such a good point. My dog would demand attention all the time. She was a one year old rescue so i started by petting her every time she asked. As she became more comfortable with us she started demanding affection more and more obnoxiously, like bopping us with her nose or barking. Eventually i got so tired of it id make her lie in her bed when she did it because I couldnt stand it anymore. After about a week that demanding all stopped. Withholding affection can sometimes make such a positive impact.

[@whatchyagonnado]

With babies you do skin to skin contact for a lot of reasons. It does communicate safety and comfort, but it also helps regulate baby's heart rate and body temperature, decreases stress in parent and baby, increases oxygen saturation in baby, and promotes bonding. It might feel weird but it's good for both of you 😂

[@sticklerbestickling]

Hahaha I laughed when he shared his reasoning with this, so funny 😂 yeah skin to skin contact is a big deal for newborns & babies but especially those precious newborns.

[@charliesmith_]

1956, the world didn't do that. Nobody suffered.

[@whatchyagonnado]

@@charliesmith_ Out of genuine curiosity, what has been your exposure to/experience with birth? Edit: I like to hear people's experiences

[@charliesmith_]

@@whatchyagonnado My birth. In my first hrs on earth, at birth, was operated on the right side of the chest without anasthetic. The diagnosis was witches milk. A surgeon, 25 years later noticed the crown of thorns deep breast scar and asked what it was. In his ignorance he told me they could have used antibiotics to do the job. He was 100% wrong and is still wrong, but now long since dead himself. Good. Doctors 'practice' medicine. They've not 'perfected' it yet 🤣 as they are "still" _practicing"_

[@whatchyagonnado]

@@charliesmith_ Lol yeah, that's pretty insane

[@deathpunch361]

Joel, your understanding/explaining of the psychology aspect behind your techniques is why I love watching your content and also is what I believe sets you apart from other trainers. You’re the man !

[@BDTraining]

I appreciate that!

[@andyvereen2408]

Totally agree. He makes it make sense always.

[@melodieramsay655]

I 100% agree. Even with a foster or a rescue dog, you need to give them time to decompress so you should not be all overtop them because you might instill even more fear and insecurity.

[@suedevereaux2751]

Joel, I never thought of you as arrogant. I'd say you're confident and blunt for the sake of being efficient. You charge for your expertise AND your time. I'd appreciate that if I had a session with you!

[@ThomasAT86]

There is so many similarities between dogs and humans in terms of relationship. I even learn stuff for myself and interactions with humans when watching your videos. When I grew up my dad was physically very abusive, controlling and aggressive and my mother was completely the opposite extreme, probably both due to their past they never worked on, and I don't blame them...I'm over that, but it turned out really bad for us kids and now I have to do a lot of work to overcome these things. I have to challenge myself, stand my ground, say no, achieve goals, discipline myself, not overreact cause I panic or get scared when I don't have control and so on. Gotta be firm, loving, caring, not take away all the challenges, teach them how to be confident and stand their ground and so forth. Better to face and deal with a little pain here and there at a young age than suffering A LOT later on, not just the person itself but people around that person. Life is tough and nature isn't always nice, that's the reality for me. Can't wish for it to be easier but one can learn or teach others how to be strong and kind. Kinda "buzzword" phrase there but I think it's true. Thanks guys!

[@jsnelson_]

Love you Beckman! I've trained lots of dogs in the past but watching your videos have made me realize even small things I have been doing wrong that could have drastically improved results. Please dont stop posting videos!

[@charliesmith_]

First step in at 0.14 pure gold! Couldnt agreee *m o r e* 💫🎯 Anthropomorphising dogs does them no good, just feeds the co-dependent, zero boundaried, person. Thank you 👍🏻🙋🏻‍♀️

[@Boatyard_marinathatis]

I'm the Sunshine state caller🙋‍♀ thanks for addressing the voicemail! So awkward hearing my voice never think I have an accent until I hear it over recording haha

[@BDTraining]

Lol, thanks for the call

[@jasoncorey]

I've always been huge on withholding love. Love needs to be earned. And when you withhold love you can really use it to your advantage when training.

[@OffGridDogs]

Just to nitpick I would substitute affection for the word love. And by not giving inappropriate affection you are actually giving love.

[@Scraggledust]

Xinneals. People born in the window of 1976-1983. I didn’t make that up. We were born in old world and dawn of new world, so to speak. . . Lol. No, you aren’t arrogant. You know what you are talking about. People have a hard time understanding context. My rescue taught me, no touchy!! No joke. I thought she was skittish. Nope. I was touching her too much, and luckily I caught on to her signals. I swear this dog has trained me more then I’ve trained her. Sometimes rescues really do rescue you😂😂😂 She is the most challenging dog I’ve ever owned, in a good way. AND, of course all the tips from this channel really have improved my ability to be a better dog owner❤

[@vermis8344]

'Xinneals" I think I saw those on Star Trek once.

[@pittymama4500]

Of course I would have to be a part of that bunch but I was supposed to be born back before technology got so Grand because me and tech don't get on good.

[@ElizabethSeiden-lg6mj]

At our K9 doggy park a pregnant Pitt Bull/GSD had two puppies and one of them looked like a Canne Corso. His dad showed up at the dog park two days later and he was very emotional and excited about his boys.

[@maxwellihns9466]

Good afternoon BDT. I fell into this rabbit hole today but haven't stopped watching your content. I see a common thing is people calling it "unethical" or "wrong", but being in a field working heavily in the natural South FL environment, it makes more than perfect sense to educate dogs like this. I'm currently fostering a Rottweiler (will more than likely adopt her) who is the best dog I've ever overseen, but she had a terrible upbringing and was meant to be a breeder before her previous owner was arrested. She is a phenomenal walker and has yet to be violent or even reactive to other dogs and animals we encounter on walks. She's not trained, but incredibly obedient. Sometimes she'll pull on walks while other times she walks right beside me and even accidentally meander right into me while I'm at my own pace. Along with this, after she goes #2, she'll almost always start biting the leash and "walking herself" with her own leash, with slack. My question is: are these behaviors I should be worried about? Again, she is a great dog who is energetic as she's under a year, but I want to nip any bad behavior in the butt before it becomes something more. Never been aggressive since I've had her between kids, dogs, cats, and rodents but if I'm able to find an even better life for her, I want to give them no reason to surrender her. Keep up the great work & I hope your holiday season is excellent. If i'm ever in your neck of the woods, I hope you can meet Koda. She is truly a canine soul unlike one I've ever met.

[@chellierenae]

Im only 23 minutes into the video and i have watched probably over a thousand fog training videos. I watched a quick video you guys posted about your energy and this video. And during our morning walk this has been the best walk ever in less than 30 minutes of video. I am thankful. I didn't have to struggle with pulling him back or fighting over you know who's in charge of the walk and ge actually paid attention to my needs and made the adjustments without fighting or repeating myself. And i can tell already that our relationship is better for it. So thanks again. Oh and the relationship/life conversations are pretty good to and i see how it all applies💖💖💖

[@ItsSapphireNicole]

This! Rescued a 4 month old Belgian Malinois mix from my local human society. He is now approaching 6 months of age and is definitely a handful. I noticed a few weeks ago that the more attention I gave him, the more confident and pushy he became. I also made the mistake of giving him a bit too much freedom the week I adopted him. Anyway, I stopped giving so much affection and put boundaries and limitations in place. He does not like the change but it's working and our relationship gets better everyday.

[@MangoDobie0823]

Another insightful and entertaining podcast!Tonight I came home from work and greeted my husband before our dog- imagine that! Your info on less is more when it comes to physical touch with certain dogs came at the perfect time. Our two year old Doberman had recently started barking at us for attention , play, treats etc. This method has already made a difference- thanks again for a great tip!

[@Jackie-rc6cj]

Woah!! Awesome information. People don't understand how they are creating the problem in the first place by doing the wrong things. And great life advice too !!! Thanks guys 🐾

[@ZoranVasicMiki]

This is the best channel in the world for training owners of the dogs... My dogs were always very good. I don't expect them to be work dog trained, but unconditional return, walks without leash, park behaviour and the way they approach other dogs is something is unconditional for me. I watched Cezars videos, but you cannot change peoples mindset that much based on what he preach even though it's good. I'm not a trainer, but I'm loving your techniques so much I had to post a comment. I never had problem with my dogs, but I move a lot and every single time we change park I have to do some "invisible" training of other people dogs so we have better time at our usual park. One thing I see people often do, at least in my country, is they like to get into groups. So people start talking, and that precious learning time in park becomes chit chat with other owners. That's fine, and they all talk about their dogs, but nobody is working actively with them. My thinking is that the "pack" mentality includes the owner, and people should definitely introduce their own dogs just like you do with your dogs. You set the boundaries of what is allowed when meeting my pack. I love my dogs to approach every single dog in the street, but never before I pet the dog and I come in the middle of them so I can explain that I'm the alpha in my pack. You WILL NOT attack my pack or else the consequences are with me. Literally same thing you do. Most aggressive dogs never have problem with my dogs, and I usually owned small breeds. Very nice vids, I'm gonna recommend this channel A LOT. KZbin algorithm really got this one for me :)

[@brandyfinley4957]

We rescued a shepard mix last summer, you would be so proud of him, he is just a good dog, no lunging, no begging, no jumping on people, he has great street skills, he will tell another dog to back off if he needs to but only goes as far as he needs to, he is like Patrick Swaze in Roadhouse, "be nice, untill it is time to not be nice", it wants to establish another dogs intent, then go play, i told my husband we got really lucky, now its our job to not screw it up

[@myheartisglad]

💥💥💥Another great podcast. Thanks for the reminders. Crazy how something so fundamental ((not always placating our dogs) is easy to forget when we are working so hard to keep our dogs actively training.

[@NFSHeld]

The part about withholding affection to break the habit of demanding reminds me so much of my gf's cat. She's 19 years old and deaf and needs to be spoiled a little bit now and then. She was also very underweight after an infection where she'd barely eat for a whole month. So we were very happy once she started eating again, and gave her a little food multiple times a day. She quickly realized she could "alert" us that the bowl was empty by coming to us and meowing (or rather: scream, since she's deaf) once, then sit down and look at us. But she'd totally freak out if she didn't get any food immediately, to the point where she got so upset she'd throw up about it. She'd scream at us in the middle of the night because she decided she wanted food NOW. This has only gotten better now that she's back up at normal weight (her normal, which is still slim but it's necessary to protect her joints, but not dangerously slim anymore) so we felt comfortable going back to feeding her based on OUR schedule not hers. After two weeks of ignoring her demands most of the times, she gradually stopped demanding, going back to the old behavior. It's a stressful time in the first few days but she needs to learn that it doesn't work anymore, otherwise she will never stop.

[@theresarodriguez1479]

I agree- as an RN for 40 years, more often with physicians it is "practicing" medicine, especially with the residents,lol. The phrase "Medical Arts" is often more appropriate than science.

[@solideomusical]

Joel, you know my dog and I agree 100%: attention on demand is bad! It makes you subject to your dog's will and can worsen a dominant dog's behavior. I forget where I heard this but pack leaders in the animal world are aloof with regard to their subordinate members. The members can approach, lick and groom him but it is not reciprocal- he just sits there and acts 'boss.'

[@GODEYE270115]

As a Doberman owner I was considering a bully for a while. Til I learned that breed has no specific purpose and the high danger pit bull type dogs truly posses I think the reason pit bull people are so over the top is cause unstable people get their hands on them far too often

[@Scraggledust]

My rescue taught me, no touchy!! No joke. I thought she was skittish. Nope. I was touching her too much, and luckily I caught on to her signals. I swear this dog has trained me more then I’ve trained her. Sometimes rescues really do rescue you😂😂😂 She is the most challenging dog I’ve ever owned, in a good way. AND, of course all the tips from this channel really have improved my ability to be a better dog owner❤

[@alexjames-music6271]

What kind of signs did she give? Mine avoids eye contact, moves his head away, licks his lips etc.

[@HandraCorjnaLevstean]

Great point! Always on spot. I love this topic, thank's.

[@cazinaus4917]

I can't wait to tell my husband 'no, go away' and say Joel told me to say that 😋

[@ElizabethSeiden-lg6mj]

When my dog was a puppy she would always shake while she was sleeping and give me a sad face. She would act like she didn’t get enough attention and affection from me. I didn’t know how petting her too much would make her more aggressive and disobedient. She’s a Pitt Bull mix and she has the strength of a bull!❤

[@zuzuspetals8323]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Not anthropomorphizing dogs would seem a related, invaluable tool. Dog love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, receiving gifts, acts of service. Very interesting discussion. Thank you!

[@mcal6195]

My dad came home every day from work and would walk straight over to my mom and give her a kiss. I am an adult now and still think positively of that often.

[@BDTraining]

Exactly my point. Thanks!

[@colorcreatecamera]

Totally agree about the child/spouse issue and who comes first. So many kids run the household these days, in the end it doesn't help build their confidence etc. Great video, my dog needs space, just like I need my space😂

[@Dragonsfire1480]

100% agree people pet their dogs too much. Many of us in the service dog community use petting and play as a reward. Yes, we LOVE our dogs, but we can't always have treats at hand. This is also one of the reasons the general public should NEVER PET a service dog without asking first.

[@melodieramsay655]

Dogs need to learn to self soothe without you being always there for them otherwise they will never become confident happy and calm. Like Cesar says: "Calm confidence "with both you and your dog.

[@melodieramsay655]

To the woman who was looking for an answer about any repercussions to do with spaying or neutering too early, here's what I would do: 1. Make sure your dog is getting the best nutrition possible. If you can't afford to feed raw, then make sure that the kibble does not have a lot of fillers like carrot, sweet potato, and peas. Also, that the first 4 ingredients are proteins and not a byproduct. 2. Do not overfeed. 3. Supplement with glucosamine and chondroitin. Add turmeric to his food if the dog will take it because it is an excellent natural anti- inflammatory. 3. Ensure that your dog gets regular, daily exercise. Try to prevent your dog from doing too much jumping or leaping or launching off of high places because that can cause damage to the joints over time. Just my 2 cents as a 9 year dog walker who has had 2 dogs go through TPLO surgery .

[@rptrick79]

Just to add, I've read about tumeric and a few other spices for dogs, just make sure you get the right dosage it can have not so great side effects. As always all dogs are different so do your research.

[@melodieramsay655]

@rptrick79 You can easily google how much you need. You can even google for dogs and they usually tell you per pound how much to give.

[@rptrick79]

@@melodieramsay655 oh, I know thanks though. More for anyone out there that it may slip their mind.

[@VickyWistuba]

100% agree. I have a friend who has a mixed breed who gets a lot of attention. Gets pets and love every time it demands it and she talks to her as if she were human. Really sweet dog but poor training. We often walk our dogs together and follow up with a coffee at a cafe. Her dog jumps all over me while I'm sitting on my chair demanding treats or food, mouthing my hands while I'm about to eat my pastry with my hands. Walking up to anyone that comes past for pets and I can tell some people don't appreciate the dog coming up to them. Tangling up the leash with my dog who just lies calmly next to me (and yes I am proud of my dogs good behaviour) It's the most annoying thing and I wish she would have train her dog better.

[@jeepsahara333]

I’m a Beckman training fan-absolutely! It’s Joel’s “resting B face” 🤨. He doesn’t want to hear the BS- he’s a realest. I’m guilty of being overly touchy/ feely with my pups. He’s right on point! Appreciate the content 👍👍

[@cowwhisperer]

Oh my gosh, this is what I do with my nieces and nephews. I don't give them tons of attention, just basic human courtesy, but when I do play with them I am 100% awesome and fun. I think this also contributes to why they listen to and respect me more than those around them. I also do this with my dogs. Kobe always wants attention and I turn him away a lot. Moxie rarely wants to be touched, so I pet her nearly every time she wants it...unless she's acting crazy.

[@markhoffman]

I think it’s important for the man of the house to play fight rough with his dog because then the dog learns what is an acceptable amount of bite force. They need to figure out what breaks skin and what doesn’t. Mom and the kids are completely off limits for rough play.

[@rptrick79]

Interesting. I believe there's something to it. I've always done this but never thought much into it. The 2 dogs I've done it with absolutely have bite inhibition and would only do it with myself or adult male friends they knew well. I'd say it was still a little more bite with me but they always look towards me for the ok.

[@asp1213]

I would agree with this if you changed it to the dog trainer in the house and not the "man in the house"

[@Moyamoyagirl]

This

[@OffGridDogs]

@@asp1213exactly my wife would take exception since she is clearly the alpha in our house for our 140 pound intact Great Pyrenees! And no teeth at all allowed those suckers are sharp!

[@strammerdetlef]

​@@asp1213dont cry

[@ryanscott5098]

Absolutely love the relation with the 48 Laws of Power and training dogs.

[@MaggiePecaw]

Been trying your tactics and for the first time I have slowly seen results with my 8 month old German shepherd puppy 💘 still have a ways to go, not gonna lie

[@IzzyMartinez01]

Theres been a couple of times when my dog did not come on command. Because another dog was around. Most of the time, i play it off like he's just a rascal, but it's kind of embarrassing. I understand what i need to do now. I like the anology from erick about how frustrating it is when a child is ignoring you. Also unrelated, erick you crack me up bro.

[@ricardohaalboom2753]

@Beckman, You pointed out that 1 method does not work for every dog, this is exactly the crux of everything, have several tools in your box that can work, I completely agree with that. I am a novice dog trainer in Holland and now I am in Tunisia for 6 months and I try all your skills but also of the other dog trainers but yours and Doggdaddy's are really the most effective, I still make estimation mistakes but I learn every day again a your videos are fantastic my and my thanks is groot❤️🙏🏾😇

[@HandraCorjnaLevstean]

And this Is why he's One of my favorite trainers, here are my goats, same level: Joel Beckman Ivan Balabanov Cesar Millan Garrett Dog Daddy. They are different but have something effective to teach. However there are so many other great trainers out there. I love so much versatility in dog training, that's everything

[@ricardohaalboom2753]

@@HandraCorjnaLevstean, In the Netherlands think very much of rewarding cookies and especially working with schedules and you must especially have diplomas, enf titles is very important to make a lot of money in it. It is not looked at whether you actually have talent for it or not, as long as you have diploma papers then it is good. I also note in the Netherlands that people think and act from a human principle, the training method of Beckhamen Dogg Daddy they find the approach too hard 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[@HandraCorjnaLevstean]

@@ricardohaalboom2753 i'm a naturalized Italian and here it's the same, cookies all day long also for bites ( Always waiting 5 seconds After you said no or you turned your back on the dog). This Is the dog industry today

[@ElizabethSeiden-lg6mj]

During WWII, my grandfather had a GSD war dog fight with him as a Combat Vet in 1939.

[@justdawndb]

What a great conversation! I enjoyed this so much. I agree with your facts and reasoning and it was great to actually see people thinking! Im older and have my last pup who ive basically been using pos reinforcement with...the other day he literally hit the end of the line and lifted me off my feet...i wasn't paying a bit of attention - duh me! It was a wake up call we both needed! I love dogs as much as the next person, however a demanding dog is a pain in my arse and others too! 100% kiss spouse first! Im grateful i took an obedience class when my first child was a year old, it helped me raise a great kid. Teaching and following through... I would love to see a demanding young cane corso trained only with positive reinforcement, thats truly laughable. Once again i truly enjoyed this and i thank you all for making it available!

[@ThePetWellnessCoach]

I think your referring to devaluation. The more of something that's available, the less valuable it becomes.

[@BDTraining]

Yes

[@HandraCorjnaLevstean]

I was studying that at school, lol, in Italy we call It the law of the offer and of the demand, that was boring but useful.

[@ThePetWellnessCoach]

@@HandraCorjnaLevstean 🤣

[@angre6422]

Love listening to your podcasts. The logic and comparisons are thought provoking and pretty funny.

[@rhinoandlue]

Just as this podcast started my 130 pound Cane Corso jumped on me while I was laying down taking the wind right out of me. An over the top behaviour he’s never exhibited before, however he demand my attention by flipping my hand with his muzzle. He’s now in a down stay and will be more often because obviously he needs to be reminded who pays the mortgage!

[@thelouiebrand]

I do that with my dogs. I have always given them attention when i want to not when they want it. When i come home i dont greet them right away 99% of the time. I settle in and do whatever it is i do when i get home then i’ll go say hi. Now as grown dogs when i get home they dont get all excited. I also do this when i walk outside when the’re out. In the morning when i let them out i give no love. I do the sit for a bit until i say go and give zero attention until i feel like it. Also, when they try to demand attenton i turn my back to them. I dont walk away i just say nope and turn my back. If they continue then ill walk away and wont give them attention for hours. It doesnt work ALL the time for one of my corsos (he’s super high energy) but the other two are perfect. Most of this was dialed by a year old and they get it. Except my 5yo male. He’s just super high energy and seems to slip up sometimes.

[@lauraduryea4341]

Rescues can definitely mess up dogs with neutering too soon. My dog was spayed too young and has urinary incontinence due to it. She is on prescription hormones and will be her whole life now to control it and make up for that mistake they made.

[@Crazydoglady.]

GREAT 👍🏻 DISCUSSION 😊

[@MrDynamart]

Yay happy Thursday all!!! Good evening from Yorkshire 👍🐶♥️

[@weedhigh2564]

im gonna steal the "you are the boss" part for my clients, such a good clip, i wonder tho, why you dont make some shorts from these nuggets of wisdom you drop throughout the pod? might be good for the sponsors :D

[@nicothenatural]

5:19 Joel not understanding the value of skin to skin contact is hilarious 🤣

[@BDTraining]

I just thought the nurses wanted to see me with my shirt off, lol.

[@nicothenatural]

@@BDTraining I think it's great! Gave me a good laugh. Love these podcasts.

[@underduress5761]

42:00 If you've kept solid records of the dogs and their behaviors, as well as the principles and methods you incorporated into their training, You can recruit someone that's good with data and numbers (you might know a guy) that can process that "clinical data" in accordance with scientific analysis to publish an actual clinical study in a reputable journal. That could make a breakthrough impact throughout the dog training community that's been educated in modern psychological principles & methods.

[@BDTraining]

Interesting

[@sharongeater]

Hi Joel... Exercise - Discipline - Affection in that order (Cesar Milan) 😊 Exactly what we train here in SOUTH AFRICA. Love your methods.

[@merrygwolf4629]

My dog is a rescue that was treated bad and i gave her love and now every time i sit down she takes me hostage. I once ignored her and she was afraid to approach me and it broke me in half

[@debbiedaley1609]

Eric’s comments and responses are too funny. 😂

[@shady_313_ffw]

Yeah I think I knew that for a while now, he was really starting to bark at people who would come over and I noticed that telling him to go out (we have a small backyard) is the simplest way, yes first couple of times it was hard watching him leave in sadness but results today are as soon as someone steps in our yard he just waits what will I tell him, he isn't focused on other people and I'm very proud of him. I think that I heard this from one of your previous videos that I've watched. You are a life saver and I'm glad that your channel exists. The only thing now left is to make him not be afraid of every other dog outside, I thought maybe it's because of his toy that he is carrying? But it isn't so if you or anyone else has some tips to give him more confidence with new dogs would be great. He is also very jealous of other dogs and he will jump on a way bigger dog if he comes near me and he doesn't know him. That itself isn't much of the problem since he is a medium build, I walk him without a leash and he is very obedient, but I hate parts where he goes on the road all the way around the dog that is on the leash. I mean it's also that owners fault because they let their dog block the way mine is going and not correct them. So if anyone can help and actually make it through this all, every little thing would help, he is a very fast learner and also the worlds smartest dog alive 😁 ty 😊

[@DelightfulDissident]

Being off leash and entering the road to avoid an oncoming dog means you should have him leashed. More obedience is needed. Even then in my opinion the off leash walking looks and feels cool, but is dangerous in a busy urban setting. You might have an established understanding with the animal, but you have zero physical control of him in case of emergency. As for increasing his confidence around other dogs, if you can't afford a trainer like Prince I mean Joel 😉, I'd take him to the dog park and just stand outside and let him observe the goings on. Let him watch the dogs fight, run, play, get nervous, get over it, ect. Just do that a few times and the act of observing other dogs without being able to or being force to interact will help his comfort. Watch the dogs to see if you can spot a calm respectful dog. Put yours back in the car and go talk to the owner. See if they'd be interested in letting their calm dog socialize yours. I'd work on desensitization to a muzzle because it sounds like he could be a bit reactive and that tendency to avoid can turn to agression very quickly if he feels threatened so for everyone's safety it would be good for him to be able to comfortably wear a muzzle when meeting any volunteers. I've found people at dog parks are rather friendly and interested in dog behavior and psychology so it doesn't hurt to strike up a conversation! Remember Joel's advice and be sure your dog sees you pet the new dog(s) before meeting 👍

[@PeteJustPete]

My 7-month cattle dog puppy is great walking past dogs and being around groups of dogs in park settings; we live downtown/marina, so he sees a lot of dogs 3x a day during his 1-2.5 hour “walks.”. But he is reactive in and around our building. Alert barks when someone is outside our condo door, mostly if woken from nap; I get that! But around our building-he does it if he sees or even hears a dog. As long as I can see the dog coming our way, I can redirect his attention with a “leave it” or “be nice” command. I just figured he’s protecting his territory (building). So I’m wondering if the caller’s 9-month old is alert barking and it just coincides with dusk since that’s when they happen to be in their front yard? (My pup is selective about playing one-on-one with smaller dogs, but does a lot of sniffing of other big dogs and will watch play even if he won’t engage. I think his breed is fine not playing?)

[@ChildofGod474]

This is the most dog training episode ever of the podcast! Loved the opening, and the delayed gratification aspect of it. Eric was on point again- punchbowl comment...lol. Seriously though, what a great podcast.

[@BDTraining]

Thanks!

[@ElizabethSeiden-lg6mj]

In Amsterdam there are tons of shops with PittBull puppies that are sold for tourists and used for baiting purposes.

[@titanicgirl774]

Everyone gets a trophy. I played one season of softball when I was elementary age. I hated it. I missed every pitch, couldn’t run fast, and couldn’t catch the ball. I was truly horrible. But at the end of the season I still got a “trophy” like everyone else. Like the ones who were really good, who could bat well, run fast, and catch a ball coming their way. I was so confused. I knew I didn’t deserve it and when I asked my parents they changed the subject.

[@Nickelbippy]

By going to your partner FIRST, you present the idea of a UNITED front. This will discourage children from trying to play one parent against the other. Put yourself in the child's place. How much more secure would you feel if you saw your parents in harmony and strongly bonded? Also this would encourage healthy independence.

[@BDTraining]

Well said

[@HandraCorjnaLevstean]

Correct, i Always tried to Say that but people don't Always get you. Same with parents in law when they put you in discussion in front of your Kid, the Kid doesn't feel protected cause the parents look like they don't know what they're doing, plus which Kid would respect and listen to two parents Who are domintated by the Grand parents and that also don't seem to know what they're doing. For what concerns husband and wife they're a team, for what concerns the rest of family they must be a great team!

[@User7688.--_]

@@HandraCorjnaLevstean Aye, aye, aye, dominating grandmothers and grandfathers of my son! Constantly trying to undermine me. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I had family over one summer afternoon. I had put my young son in a timeout in the family room next to the kitchen. I went outside the sliding glass door to talk with my family. I saw something moving on the kitchen floor toward the room he was in. It was my mother on elbows and knees, scooching to the family room, trying to get to him without me seeing. “MOM, what are you doing? No, you are not going in there.” “But honey, it takes a village to raise a child!” “We don't live in a village, get up!” Aye, aye, aye!

[@neebeeshaabookwayg6027]

Oh my----- missed you again, by one hour, 😅🙃... am listening now, though.... first thought, though--- I just realized, my dear dog, that died of old age (she was adopted ar 6 months) well--- I never gave her extra attention, i gave her, what was needed for each proper situation, but lots of love in it.. she was a great dog, all her life!❤ (I did this with my kids, too, great love hugs and, attention at key moments, and, "okay, let's be strong now" at other key moments) the love, respect, and honor, always came through.. you are SO correct ❤ .. I am trying that, with new dog, but, he had terrible fear, trembling issues, SO-- I had to give him special rubs, and assurance, or, he RAN away from me😢... something traumatized him, i think? He was also street dog--- though the "adopter" was exposed and arrested, as a dog hoarder through Pet Smart, where i got him, so, we may NEVER know the full truth😢... he does, now, leave and go lay down, when I tell him, 😊 and trusts me, to still have our fun play time... oh, dear joel, we have a long way to go, as to the list of things that SUDDENLY cause him to severely shake, or run away, to far side of yard... again-- THANK YOU for all you do!! I am extremely grateful... keep up this serious, yet, KIND, wise, advise... 🏆🏆🏆🎯

[@HandraCorjnaLevstean]

❤ i loved to read your comment, it's so sweet and i can feel a lot of love in there. The advice concerning Key moments Is priceless and i'll treasure It for my young toddler. Have a great day🌞

[@neebeeshaabookwayg6027]

​@@HandraCorjnaLevstean , thank you, kindly 🤗

[@maize3239]

Pitbull fan here --- The thing that frustrates me (and makes me mad sometimes) is when there are bans that really impact people's lives. For example, I am looking to move to a particular area for work, and I've run into two problems: 1) The major city in the area has fully banned pitbulls, among other "dangerous" breeds (Rottweilers, Dobermans, etc). 2) Even though the surrounding towns don't have bans, most rentals have breed restrictions. I have a Rottweiler mix that is the sweetest dog I've ever owned, and the situation is making it difficult to find a place to live. This is particularly annoying when people who own dogs that aren't on the "dangerous dogs list" can live wherever they want, even if their dog is a poorly-trained, aggressive nightmare. Unlike many dog owners, I've actually put in the effort to take care of and train my dog, and yet, I'm the one who can't live anywhere in an entire city? That's stupid.

[@debbiebeatty8449]

The liver is in two lobes, one of which will regenerate if damaged or removed. This is what is taken in a liver transplant.

[@theresarodriguez1479]

I think the neutering issue has to do with hormone/bone growth, especially with larger breeds.

[@sarahdarr2614]

On some future podcast I would love to hear more of your thoughts on taking care of dogs exercise and bathroom needs in the bitter winter months. I live in Northern WI and we will sometimes get days where it’s 30-40 below zero (and occasionally colder than that)-I just rescued a small dog-mixed breed (under 30lbs) who originally came from Texas and I’m trying to figure out the best way to care for her when it’s that dang cold.

[@lisaleondires9576]

I love that I learn about Liver Transplants on here 😂😂😂❤❤

[@BDTraining]

Lol

[@MrDynamart]

In Yorkshire we have a saying related to relationship success. "Treat em mean, and keep em keen" I think this is what you are referring to 😉😂

[@markhoffman]

Beckman unleashed needs to take callers live in real time!

[@BDTraining]

Good idea!

[@rev9fan1]

That or a live Q & A where we type our comments in also...

[@User7688.--_]

@@rev9fan1 He has tried that during his Friday Night Live. There were so many comments he couldn't read them fast enough even to see many of them. The questions rolled up so quickly.

[@kathleenredick275]

​@@User7688.--_ That's the way so many live shows are. I prefer to wait until they're done, then listen/read them.

[@ElizabethSeiden-lg6mj]

My brothers kid Victoria has a new GSD puppy named Diesel that barks way too loudly at night when the neighbors kids playing outside.

[@jadehidalgo3437]

My husband is CONSTANTLY touching & petting my dog. To the point I’m starting to worry she’s gonna actually develop like a touch aversion. I think in his mind since he works all day & she’s with me- that when he gets home he’s gotta give her every ounce of attention for her to have a relationship with him. But she doesn’t like it! She likes it for a bit- then I can see it in her body language she’s over it. She’ll try to move away- it just seems whatever she does he doesn’t pick up on it, and when I try to tell him he gets defensive. Last night she started nervously scratching like crazy- he wouldn’t stop… I said she’s getting anxious & annoyed. He says “oh I think she just wants me to scratch her- because when I stop she scratches” 🤦🏻‍♀️ he’s also the only one she still nips and bites- still will try & get all in his buisness when he’s eating- just all these behaviors I don’t want & I nipped in the bud early, she does with him because he doesn’t stop touching her! He’ll get home from work & pick her up to say hello (she’s only about 7lbs) she’ll start biting his fingers and hands and I get so annoyed but HE DIESNT STOP! He’ll say “no no don’t bite me” but she has no idea what he’s saying because he’s still holding her still petting her as she’s doing it! She tries to jump on his lap when he’s eating- (mind you, if anyone else is eating she’ll go to her place and stay there without even being told) once again he’ll say “girl you can’t do that” AS HES PETTING HER! And I have to come over & correct her. If she’s anywhere near him it’s like he thinks he’s got to be touching her. Then he’ll get his feelings hurt & don’t understand why she’ll leave him and come and lay at my feet. It’s because 1 she respects me and knows I’m in charge- and 2 I’m not constantly touching her.. I mean I’m a person and I certainly don’t want someone touching me all the dam time. She’s almost 7 months and I want her to be able to just spend time on her own & be ok with that. It’s so frustrating to have a spouse that is just constantly at odds with you when you know you’re just trying to do right by your dog and for everyone in the home

[@kellerayra7363]

LOL I have to ask my dog to come over for cuddles when I have time….but I have to tell him put the ball down if ask him for attention….. I spent too much time tossing the ball absentmindedly while worked around the house. Don’t get me started on his reaction to the phone ringing if I don’t throw the toy.

[@justchilling7594]

If you reward bad behavior like giving affection when you are being disrespected it just reinforces that behavior happening again. Just like the opposite if the bad behavior is not rewarded it will also stop.

[@nicolechen9316]

I personally prefer the term “boundary” over dominance. It gets to ppl easier if they’re squeamish about the dominance thing. But yeah Joel’s right, you don’t get full credit if you don’t show your work! Funny thing: I once took a class taught by a positive only facility. Teacher introduced us to a rude boy terrier that jumps on tables. I kid you not, the guy literally just said “he just needs some discipline” and moved on, without explaining how to establish discipline 🤷 the whole class was pretty clueless on dog training, so we didn’t even have the time to bring up questions.

[@seanpalmer8472]

I think the word you were searching for was "haven" - as in "the appendix is a haven for gut bacteria". I've seen a few studies over the last decade or so comparing those that had had an appendectomy to those that hadn't. I'm going off memory but I think there was one that showed those that had had an appendectomy had a prolonged recovery following a bout of diarrhea. I think there was another that showed a much higher likelihood for _C. diff._ infections among those that had had an appendectomy.

[@BDTraining]

Interesting

[@deniskim247]

Eric is probably the main reason this podcast is awesome (nothing against Joel,)

[@BDTraining]

I just texted Eric your comment.

[@User7688.--_]

“I felt sorry for myself because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.” This is an old saying my mother would say.

[@razzuie]

I think most people need to learn to just exist with their dogs, that most of the time you just comfortably exist in the same house without interacting all the time or keeping your dogs crated all the time.

[@philcannizzaro7512]

You're so right about the FF crowd loving dogs and hating people. But what gets me is that they rely on "modern evidence based" studies to anchor their claim that FF is the only humane way to treat a dog and ignore the fact that dogs are being killed every day in shelters because they are too difficult to handle. Reality tells us that a balanced approach is more effective, and sometimes the only way, to deal with aggression and dominance. I would love if you (maybe in partnership with Cabral, Davis, DD, and maybe Milan, etc.) would sponsor a real study, done with hundreds or thousands of dogs, in partnership with a non-biased canin behavior organization to counter their "scientific" studies. I realize this is not a battle of studies, but if there was some opposing evidence it might curtail uninformed law makers from doing here in the US what's happening elsewhere.

[@delilahdelaney]

Best way to stop the dog from demand barking. He barks when my husband is getting ready to go outside. (He does it 100% of the time, even if he just came in from a long walk). My husband always bring him outside when so he is encouraging this behavior.

[@DK-mp2qo]

Love what you are saying Joel about too much affection/touching. How do you advise people who don't have a human partner to lavish their affection on? Lots of dogs are de facto surrogates for people without human partners/spouses.

[@BDTraining]

Good point. I’d say just start to mix in some “go lay down” 10% of the time, then go up or down as needed.

[@OffGridDogs]

First build trust and respect and calm instead of just excitement and affection. Once you build a rock solid relationship and a bulletproof dog which takes 1 to 2 years when starting with a puppy depending on the breed. Then you can give all the affection (within reason) without ill effects. This is what you do if you care about the animal. Yes remember it’s an animal.

[@osathegermanshepherd]

I feel like even if people don’t believe in dominance amongst dogs. They should at the very least agree that there is respect.

[@ronmckee9019]

I have a question for the Dog Genius Joel, do you think it's a good or bad thing that my newest puppy who is 7-8 weeks old is consistently trying to and actually is nursing on my 1 Year old Female Dog that's not a mother and has no milk? It seems like they both enjoy it and the new Puppy I'd assume gets the comfort of bonding and feeling like she has a Mother figure and it acts like a baby with a pacifier & my 1 year old also appears to not mind or actually enjoys it also, oddly enough. She places her paw on her like she's holding her in place & kisses & cleans her like mothers do while their pups are suckling. My guess is it's a good bonding for them both, but I don't really know what this could do if anything negative. I'd very much appreciate a response because I know you're one of the best out here & I respect everything you do & the advice you give. Also, if it makes any difference, they are sisters with the same both parents, which are a Dogo Argentino Papa & Belgian Malinois Mama.

[@BDTraining]

Interesting. Sounds like a good thing for many different reasons.

[@User7688.--_]

I would believe that it would be good for both. Especially for the puppy. 7-8 weeks is pretty early to be taken from its mother. The pup is getting its needs met, and the sister doesn't mind.

[@_Not.all.RC_]

Always thought I was too rough with my first dog, popping her lead to correct her, but she heeled in a park with kids and lots of open forest before she was even 5 months old. Was some mutt pitty x staffordshire

[@LAWise520]

It's not really the doctor's faults for the most part. Insurance companies have doctors by the short and curlies and require so much paperwork, denying things doctors prescribe and request, leading doctors to hire people to do billing, insurance company requests, insurance paperwork, filing, etc. They have to fill their schedules just to pay for all this crap the insurance companies put them through. I opted out of this stupid system and now have a "subscription" type doctor and it is totally blissful. I can text my doctor (my actual doctor and her nurse), I can get same day appointments with my actual doctor, have 1-1.5 hour appointments with a doctor who appears to truly care, and my appointment is at the actual time I was scheduled. It's so cool and cheaper than insurance. If I get attacked by a cow and need to go the ER though, I may just be screwed since I don't have any insurance at all. Oh, and it's that you have so much confidence, not arrogance, right?? LMAO

[@Jezziha]

The difference between people and dogs is that dogs can not think beyond things they haven't already learned. However us people can think beyond everything and get so many other perspectives a dog cant see/think of, example: (with showering your partner with love & attention 24/7) and if they suddenly stop we people have a advantage of thinking "hmmm is something wrong with my partner, do they feel bad/ did i do something wrong" dogs can only recongize their behaviour connected to what they recieve with it. There for breaking a habit with a dog is alot more harder than doing it with a partner since you can tell you partner "hey i dont feel so good doing this for you" vs you can't tell a dog "hey doggie, momma is gonna stop greeting you at the door to ease your separation anxiety" they just see the whole of whats happening then and there xDD if dogs could think like humans there would be no behavioural issues xDD

[@TheBehm08]

@1:08:40 audio issues :( luckily rarely happens

[@nicolechen9316]

16:36 this is so eye opening thanks Joel

[@austyn5004]

I for sure am so guilty giving them too much pets. BUT THEY’RE SO CUTE WITH PUPPY DOG EYES 😭😭😭

[@HandraCorjnaLevstean]

Right? I've been there, It was awesome but on the other hand It was a mistake

[@austyn5004]

@@HandraCorjnaLevstean i have cattle dogs and they’re ANOTHER LEVEL CLINGY. I have never met dogs who want to constantly touch you. They’re well behaved but I totally get Beckmans reasoning. But PUPPY DOG EYES 🥹🥹🥹

[@HandraCorjnaLevstean]

@@austyn5004 i had that kind of dog, It was a weimaraner

[@graceanneful]

It sounds like dog/ human codependency! Not balanced. Healthy boundaries are vital.

[@rockbot8387]

The "American Pitbull'" is banned in Australia and many other countries. However the American Staffordshire Terrier and the Staffordshire Bull Terrier are not banned. To me an Amstaff is pretty much a pitbull. The English staffy is a totally different breed though, they are much shorter dogs.

[@piripitflaustik8499]

I have a dog that was social all his life; we used to go to the park for 2 years. One day, out of nowhere, he started to be afraid of parks and large green spaces to the point that we can't go because he trembles and drools. He's very afraid of fireworks and noisy motorcycles. Any advice on how to get back to the parks as before?

[@ElizabethSeiden-lg6mj]

Pitt Bulls can be tough, especially when they are playing inside of the defensive positions.

[@ElizabethSeiden-lg6mj]

I really like your Podcast! Will Liz be on your podcast tonight?

[@BlueSkyDogs]

How can you possibly compare humans and dogs! That's like saying there is dominance in dogs!!! Lol. I love how blunt and how right you are all the time. When you watch a helicopter parent destroying their children and then it's the same as with dogs. There is absolutely good reason to give the dog a good balanced life. We need firm and strong boundaries and so do dogs. Keep up the good work.