be kind to others, you don’t know their story

link to read the article:
www.nytimes.com/2023/12/22/fa...

[@lexilily__]

if you want to read the article, keep reading! okay y’all… when i originally made this video, i was given a free gift article link. the link has since expired because the NYT discontinued it (im assuming it’s because this video blew up and too many people were viewing the article for free). there are some parts of my story that are still very difficult for me to talk about, so i will not (at least not right now) be making a video to discuss my story, but… ✨i ordered a physical copy of the paper and posted a photo of the full article to my Community posts on my channel✨ because i want to continue sharing our story in hopes that it encourages people to seek professional help when they need to and to continue removing the stigma around discussing mental health (even though some of y’all are wild in these comments 🙄). don’t be rude in the comments-it’s not okay. and if you do feel the need to be rude in the comments, ask yourself “why” and know that you are exactly who im trying to encourage to seek help and heal your heart. i applaud and celebrate every single one of you who has sought help or plans to. my prayers are with you in your healing journey 🙏🏻🖤

[@spacebar9733]

Thank you Lexi !!

[@trishaevergreen5114]

Thank You. I need help; I need Almighty GOD . I choose JESUS, HIS BEST ❤ heals me daily with HIS love 💗🕊️🩸✨

[@Justpickonealready8]

@@trishaevergreen5114God loves you my dear…I’ve bn through the worst but I feel the best is yet to come.Dnt ever give up on yourself

[@Justpickonealready8]

God bless you more dear❤

[@lovelyscorp79]

🎉🎉🎉🎉congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉Live and Love for each other of course to honor our Father in Heaven, but one tiny favor....never give up for people like me. I'm bawling yall. Cause I can see it on both of you. It's so geniune it radiates. And I stopped and prayed for a love of my own. Something I was ok with giving up on. Not believing it even existed let alone for me. But I can see it. I don't even know yall and I am so immensely happy for the two of you its overwhelming. Being empathic has its moments. As this is most certainly one of them. I just felt compelled to share that. Thank-you for sharing your story..your lives! May our Father forever keep you in HIS amazing grace and protection. 🩵🦋🦋🩵 -just a girl in texas

[@santbr]

I will also walk down the aisle on my own. No father, brother, grandfather, uncle, absolutely no male figure in my life, no one but God, so I'll walk with God holding my right hand and saying "...dont be afraid, for I help you." Isaiah 41:13

[@lexilily__]

i love that 🙏🏻

[@jacquelinegreen7796]

No mother?

[@mmm1691]

I went to an amazing wedding where the brides and groom met at the back of the church walked in together- and then the wedding party, and then all of the guests filled in behind them. There were musicians outside playing guitars, and they came in last of all. Everyone was in tears because it was so gorgeous and so touching.

[@Just-wiggling-thru-life]

When I married for the 3rd time I literally was so paralyzed I couldn’t walk in. My mom was back there talking with me and I just could not do it on my own. My dad was there also but we just had a small wedding at a family members house. Idk why ~~I literally cannot explain it~~he was and still is my soulmate 18 years later~but I was just paralyzed and in tears. Maybe the trauma of 2 exes 1 physically abusive the 2nd left me when our son was 9 months old for another woman. My husband came back and talked with me and immediately I had peace and we walked out together. He is truly the man of my dreams still to this day and we have 4 amazing sons now young adults. We married with 2 boys each and 3 exes between us. We are now both disabled at 45 and 52 and I’ve been disabled since 1 year after we married at 27 years old and he has now been disabled for 9 years and yet still our love thrives and our sons are the most amazing gentlemen any parent could ask for. Idk the story of this beautiful couple as it’s behind a paywall and as I said disabled and all we simply cannot afford to pay to read it but nonetheless I wish and pray for nothing less than love and joy and support through the difficult times as well ❤ 🙏🏻

[@ChickyNuggzzz]

Same!!! I will be walking myself down the aisle November 2 2024 and I don’t mind it a single bit ❤❤

[@linabina4832]

My mama walked me down the aisle. She was mother and father when my abusive father lost custody of me when I was a child. I didn’t see it as her owning me and giving me a way. I saw it as a walk triumph for us. After every obstacle that came our way, we did it.

[@lexilily__]

i felt the same way about walking myself. i love that perspective 🙏🏻

[@tiffanyrichardson8340]

How beautiful

[@shortylucy]

Best comment, Moms are the best!

[@lataracalloway3636]

Omggggg❤ My cousin said the exact same things. Same reasons❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@daniellep5968]

My mother as well. ❤

[@tineke4134]

If I ever choose to get married, my mom is walking me down the aisle 🥰. She’s the reason I’m the woman I am today

[@lexilily__]

that’s so sweet!

[@Rose77x7]

thats a very good idea

[@bunjijumper5345]

I plan on having my dog walk me down the aisle. I have always been fond of animals.

[@sillyown]

I walked my daughter down the aisle

[@amathans]

My mum walked me down the ailse. It was perfect

[@TheVintageBumbleBee]

My eight year old son walked me down the aisle 37 years ago. My husband, my son and I, lit a family unity candle. I was a single mother for those eight years. My husband adopted him months later. We walked down the aisle to "your my inspiration " by Chicago. Its like it was yesterday. We have two grandsons now. Life is great.

[@lexilily__]

🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@rubyyrose1103]

Blessings 💛

[@amandalidey329]

Beautiful! Ty for sharing that. 🫶🫶

[@lia1094]

Mine played the violin as I walked 🥲 stahhhhhp you’re making me cry !

[@ijeomaanulika7278]

This is beautiful ❤

[@karenaskenaze5298]

My husband walked me down the aisle. I descended down a stiarcase first where only he could see me. I will never forget the private moment we exchanged when he smiled at me with tearful eyes and then took my arm and walked me down the aisle. My dad was abusive to me and i did not want him to walk me. I know this hurt my dad but it was a non negotiable for me. I have no regrets.

[@lexilily__]

i love a private first look! we did that too. congrats to you 🖤

[@emesemes2467]

Sound stupid to me 😮😮😮😮

[@lexilily__]

@@emesemes2467yikes. hope you heal 🙏🏻

[@cindycristobal8738]

@@emesemes2467 stupid is judging a stranger’s life choice when you don’t know what’s really going on in their lives. 🙄

[@karlaodhiambo4336]

​@cindycristobal8738 Amen; Ms Cindy! Nicely put!!!

[@homesteadonmain]

I lost my dad unexpectedly a month before my wedding and walked myself down the aisle. No one could replace him.

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻

[@r.f.1239]

I cut ties with my mentally abusive father and stepmother. My birth mother did her best to help me as much as she could while dealing with the abuse my entire life until they kicked me out at 17 and she took me in. She helped me so much to heal and become my true self. I'm so grateful for her sacrifices and support that i want her to walk me down the aisle when i get married.

[@lexilily__]

sounds like it will be a beautiful moment for you both 🙏🏻🖤✨

[@marcybigfan2016]

That will honor her perfectly.❤

[@aeconiglio]

Do it! How beautiful! If my mother had been alive when I got married, I would have asked her. We baked her cakes for Father's Day because she was our mom AND dad! ❤ Blessings!

[@user-ih9xq7tv5z]

I am soooooooooo sorry you all went that praying for healing for you and your mom. God bless you. Take care

[@lmc2375]

Love is thee highest vibration - the only one you can find healing in. Forgiveness, even said only in your own head, is the key to release to make space for the healing to flow in. It can't so long as anyone holds pain, anger, resentment. Just let go, no one has to carry pain, set it down to be free. The key is in our own pocket. It is a choice that we alone make. And know that whomever was abusive, harmed, injured you, was on the receiving end of same, likely as a child, by another, whom was ALSO, once was subjected to the very same - it's all carried, unresolved pain. People aren't separated in their suffering, no matter what abuse their pain stems from - it's pain no matter its label. We are in this life specifically to learn mainly two things: forgiveness and unconditional love. The very two things The Divine ONLY radiates in. Think about that: Jesus was nailed to a cross and he forgave them - he did not carry that pain with him. If HE can do it, then so can we. Align closely with The Divine and never be left behind to suffer, unless you choose to. We all have choices in this life. Chose love to make the utmost of it. Be not like those who have harmed you - it brings nothing but misery. Like energy will have no choice but to attract same. All things in this world are of frequency/vibration. Our every action given, returns - this life or the next. There is no beginning, no end, birth, life, death is like the number 8. It reps infinity. Even the, "Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You" is far more than good advice, it is a warning - All Actions Return. Just a general message to help people hopefully see. I'm shooting for pain free/non suffering world. It needs a big shift bc it hasn't been going in the right direction. Every higher chosen vibration can only lift the world. If we hurt others, we hurt ourselves; pain also, reverberates. It just sorrows the masses. Keep Hope Alive. Give whatever to this world that you want coming back upon you - it will. I wish for all what I wish for myself. 🙏❤🐕🐈🐦💫💥🌱🌎

[@katetaplin6080]

My sister will walk me down the aisle as our dad left when we were little and our mum passed away so she will “give me away” and I can’t think of anyone I would want holding my hand in that moment more than her 😊

[@lexilily__]

beautiful 🥲

[@BellabooItaly]

​@@lexilily__ "She carefully gathers the minutes of her life, and lives them" Amen 🙏✨

[@poochieming928]

WOW, I cannot express my feelings, I'am teary eyed ❤❤❤

[@evies1050]

Similar reason is why my big brother walked me down the isle.

[@traceydean2803]

Beautiful ❤

[@KH-px1lj]

I just got married in November and I walked myself down the aisle holding a picture of my father who passed in 2021. I paused once I got to the main part of the aisle to have a moment to talk to him before meeting my husband at the alter. Just to let him know that I knew he was there with me every single step of the way. The coordinator was worried about me walking so far by myself on cobblestone, but I was determined to do it my way. Let me tell you, there wasn’t a dry eye in the house when they saw me have my moment with my dad. But I was so in the moment I didn’t notice the guests, until they came up to me and said how touching it all was and how emotional it made them. It’s your moment, do what makes you happy and never forget how it made you feel that day ❤

[@lexilily__]

YES. i love this story and message so much 🥲🙏🏻

[@ashleemcin8445]

My sister is getting married in a few days. Reading your story made me cry. So touching.

[@Shelia-dl6jp]

Beautiful. No words for how your father was the "best man." You honored his love. Just beautiful.

[@erikasalazar1989]

You didn’t walk alone, Jesus walk with you. 🤍

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻

[@denisek292]

My daughter got Married Oct. 4th, 2023. She and her wonderful husband eloped. It wasn’t because our family is estranged, but because she knew it would be difficult for me, as I have MS and Thyroid Cancer. Right after the ceremony, she sent me every professional pic from her beautiful wedding in Charleston. I didn’t know it, but she wore my charished grandmother’s wedding ring, who died when I was 8. She had a beautiful dress, and her best friend helped her get ready for her wedding day. They both cherished their day without the stress of a big wedding.

[@lexilily__]

that’s so sweet! some people love eloping and some people love a wedding-to each their own 🙏🏻🖤

[@faithwins7713]

@@lexilily__where is your article ? Thanks kindly !

[@seviregis7441]

This story makes me cry a little, because these two beautiful intelligent souls love each other, but being unique and sensitive, they were carrying hurts from life and almost missed this incredible moment, and the life to follow. This world is full of thorns, seems more now then ever since I’ve been around. God bless them now and forever.

[@lexilily__]

thank you 🥲🙏🏻

[@valk5648]

This world is full of thorns.. Great comment 🌹

[@user-pz7vl1pu9f]

The day my father died I had to go to court (as an attorney ) and I was thinking about how everyone per usual was so condescending and rude from the client to the clerk to the court staff to the judge and the same sentiment - you don't know what someone is going through and I made a decision from that moment on to have empathy and try to be kind in situations that don't necessarily call for it because right we don't know what someone is going through and when that someone is you it's eye opening

[@lexilily__]

exactly. im sorry for your loss 🙏🏻

[@user-ih9xq7tv5z]

I am sorry your dad passed away. Praying for you. Our dad's are up in heaven. Resting and watching over us. Take care. 💐

[@Faefair]

Beautiful to see a couple that actually works on their relationship!

[@lexilily__]

thanks so much 🙏🏻

[@Isthisjoebiden]

Please stop acting like this is rare. It's not.

[@lexilily__]

@@Isthisjoebidenyou’re right! but maybe some people don’t see enough of it, so it’s enlightening for them to see it. we can just choose to be kind instead (:

[@LJBSullivan]

It's good to see you've broken a cycle. Love and care for each other.

[@lexilily__]

thank you so much! 🙏🏻🖤

[@huelu982]

It’s not, all will keep moving

[@meydiaengka]

I will sadly wk down the aisle on my own 😢 my father was a good man, loving respectful all the things a daughter could ask for. Sadly he passed away 13 years ago when i was just 19. I agree with you we should not judge others for what we dont know. Be kind and respectful always

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻

[@LexiLex2629]

I’m sorry did your loss…. Losing a parent is never easy and it hurts to think about like it just happened yesterday. I lost my mom at 14 and sometimes I cry knowing my 8 month old niece will never get to meet how amazing my mom was or how amazing it would be to be in her arms. She never got to see my twin sister get married or meet my BIL, I always believe my mom is there I spirit and as the surviving children the most we can do is love a fulfilled life as our late parent would want and spread the word to others how amazing my mom (your dad) was. You’re who you are today because of him and that in and of itself is an undying act of kindness from him. I know it’s been a while, it’s been 16 years for me but the hurt never changes, we learn to deal. Thanks for sharing your story. It helps others not feel like they’re the only one who on their wedding day is missing a crucial piece that makes the puzzle of life whole. I had to comment cuz your comment moved me in a way I can’t explain. Thank you. When the time comes to get married I hope that day is SOOO special. I know it will be because he’ll be there in spirit and I’m sure you’ll find a guy who your dad would have loved who will treat you the way you deserve and the way your dad would expect him too. ❤

[@natd602]

There’s still something so powerful about walking yourself down the aisle. You reinforce that the marriage is your choice and the people in your life, alive and deceased, are the experiences that made you who you are now. Your father will be present through you. Everyone that you would ever want by your side will still be there through you. Walk with pride.

[@sandystewart2213]

Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️

[@kimarie420]

At 63 divorced after 28 years of marriage and three children , iam low vision , cancer and now homeless as my previous landlord sold the condo I was renting which took. Every penny I had every month , if it weren't for my caring daughter sitting next to me ,I really don't think it would be worth the fight to survive as sad as that is!!!! But, today iam still a happy camper and been threw hell ,you people keep your love and FAITH IN CHRIST OK ❤️

[@lexilily__]

prayers to you 🙏🏻

[@sewrightllc9835]

You are enough!! You are a strong woman!!!

[@Ane127]

If you ever have or get a the money, get a homeopath.

[@MaryAnn-ob4qb]

Amen

[@user-ih9xq7tv5z]

Keep fighting to live you are a beautiful person and as a person dealing with cancer issues I can tell you. Your kids need you love you and you have alot of people praying for you. Are you staying with your daughter. There is a lot to live for. Please don't give up how can we help you please let us know. How can we send cards to you. Every one please pray for this beautiful person and her family. Start a go fund for her so we can all together help this person. Cancer is not easy but praise God to the treatment medicines today is so much better than 50 years ago there is hope. But please understand people with cancer and treatments need help and people need to step up and help and churches too. Instead of paying a million dollars or more for a super bowl suite. Use that money to go directly to help these people. God bless this family. Please keep us updated you have a lot of people praying and caring for you. You are needed by your family and you need to them you are a strong person. Praying to God helps too. You are beautiful God bless you 💐💐💐💐🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@jennyferhicks6669]

My daughters father passed at 33 . She is ingaged now and when they marry she has asked me to give her away and her dad will be with me in spirit

[@lexilily__]

that’s so sweet

[@desereea2776]

That’s very sweet , when I got engaged my mom didn’t really say anything and I didn’t know my sperm donor. 😂

[@ushouldletmeloveu]

I cut ties with my abusive father over 12 years ago. I forgave my mother because she was only 23 when she had me and forced to marry at 21. My father was 12 years older and my mom was his second marriage. He could've chosen to be better in his new marriage but alas he beat the hell out of my mom like my half brother's mom, beat the hell out of my half brothers and beat the hell out of my stepmom. It took a lot of healing and time from my family. Still not perfect, my sister still blames my mom, but healing with the time. If i walk down the asile, my mom and uncle(her younger brother) will be walking me down

[@lexilily__]

prayers for continued healing for you 🙏🏻

[@adchoalulle387]

I walked with my best friend and maid of honor. I didn't want to walk alone, and it didn't feel right with any of my parents - I've cut contact to my father since, and I've never came as close to my mother as I would have needed to be) My friend is the sister my actual sisters were to each other, someone I'd do nearly everything for, and maybe the only person who's opinion about my husband holds any meaning to me. It wasn't a transfer of property, but a symbol of trust that I was in good hands with him. And that meant a lot to me. I like the tradition of someone you trust and feel close to walking you down and giving you away, but it's no less beautiful to do it on your own. It's a damn expensive party about you and your partner, so you should do it like it feels right.

[@lexilily__]

amen

[@revivinglights4882]

Congratulations xxx prior to my marriage i informed my father that he would not be walking me down the isle. He was shocked, completely unaware of the mental and emotional abuse i had suffered in my teens due to him making me homeless...without reason. My father in law gave me away, a man who id developed a wonderful and loving relationship with. My dad and i are close now....after 23 years the wounds are healing....not everyone is lucky enough to repair things x

[@lexilily__]

congrats to you for being able to repair 🙏🏻

[@annkupke4263]

I am now repairing my stepmother relationship. My sister tried to cause conflict or she thought that I condone my sister. No I went with her buy her lawyer stated facts NO MATTER IF YOU SPENT MILLIONS IF YOUR SON DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH YOU THAT IS WHAT HE WANTS. SHE WOULD SAY HURTFUL THINGS TO HER KIDS ABOUT THEIR DAD. THE GUY STAYED HOME WHILE SHE WORKED. THEN HE GOT SICK AND WAS ON DISABILITY. BUT HE STILL DID STUFF

[@Sarah-ic4yu]

I’m so happy for you that you have not just a father in law that special but also that you’re finding healing with your dad. It makes my heart glad to hear that. I pray you will continue to find healing and that you will be blessed with many years of happiness with your family❤️

[@vcmay626]

Who paid for your wedding?

[@joyceanderson8648]

Some wounds can never heal. At least your Dad wanted to walk you down. Happy for you.

[@jajaneyeono7343]

I'm from different culture but i look at this walking down an aisle with someone like a symbolic of support not giveaway

[@lexilily__]

🫶🏻

[@c.l.9344]

God walked with you. You're never alone. 🙏🏽👰❤

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻

[@kabaribiah6419]

Amen

[@corinnemia1359]

im 17 and living with my boyfriend. i love his family since mine kicked me out because i failed a class (yeah stupid ik. i want his father to walk me down the aisle no matter who i get married to. his mother was against me staying but he fought for me so i wouldnt be on the streets

[@lexilily__]

prayers to your journey 🙏🏻

[@pamelalovejoy5341]

Just because you failed a class. Your parents are suppose to always be there for you no matter what. To love and support you. ❤. My son's are grown adults l would never not be there for them.

[@poochieming928]

Prove your in laws your wealth as a good person😊

[@GriselDaBlanco100]

As long as you have a REAL PARTNER who's willing to do the individual AND teamwork - it will definitely work out well 💝

[@lexilily__]

so true 100%!! 🙏🏻🖤

[@GriselDaBlanco100]

@@lexilily__ CONGRATULATIONS 🎉 TO U BOTH, I PRAY YOU BOTH HAVE A CONTINUOUS LOVE AND MARRIAGE WITH GOD AND EACH OTHER💝 #NewChapters ❤️

[@Gerelisf]

I always tell brides to walk real slow that day. Just savor it all

[@lexilily__]

yesss! i made sure to take my time and take it all in

[@PlaywithDaisy]

With all of the emotional abused I’ve suffered from my parents, I would be anxious and probably walk frantically as fast as possible. Growing up it was always “HURRY UP! WHY ARE SLO AT EVERYTHING YOU DO?!!! GET IT DONE NOW OR IM WHIPPING YOU!” Edit: “slow” “Abuse”

[@TheSunflower777]

I pray for healing and deliverance from unforgiveness, bitterness and disappointments for all men and women who suffered mental sickness because of their parents. We cannot choose our parents but God has chosen us and He is our Father and Mother. Thank You Holy Spirit for healing our family that we as brothers and sisters are more united than ever. To God all the glory🙏💐🎉🙏

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻

[@jennieh8173]

I walked the aisle with my man. To show the world we chose each other. Walking together through life, and everything in it. Wouldn't have it any other way. ❤

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@lindaseymour1362]

You are soooo beautiful.... You have a kind and gentle soul. God's precious blessings to you and your best friend & husband. You are soooo PRECIOUS together.

[@lexilily__]

thank you 🖤🙏🏻

[@meganmordecai7321]

Im estranged from my abusive family so when i get married i will be walking down with my husband together some people do things differently from no fault of there own yet people still judge its a shame god bless

[@lexilily__]

thank you! i love that idea 🥲

[@OdessiasOddeseys]

I am, too! That's such a beautiful idea, I'm going to do that too then. Thank you ❤ and all the best with yours 🙏

[@yvonnetran6689]

You are a BEAUTIFUL PERSON, you do you my dear...you're AMAZING! GOD LOVES YOU AND EVEN THOUGH I DONT KNOW YOU, I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND BLESSINGS TO A BLESSED AND ADORING LIFE, YOU DESERVE GREAT THINGS...YOU GOT THIS...MUCH LOVE FROM ARIZONA!!!❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💝😇

[@karenaskenaze5298]

I did the same thing 24 years ago with my husband. It was beautiful. We walked down to the Princess Bride theme song :)

[@beth9603]

same! i will do this also.

[@nicolebeck1269]

This is probably the most gorgeous wedding I’ve seen. Congratulations

[@lexilily__]

wow that means so much to me thank you! 🥲🙏🏻🖤

[@curlychapina]

I will be walking myself too. Nobody is "giving me away". I am my own person, thanks.

[@lexilily__]

🙌🏻

[@santinasantina2177]

👩🏻💭" I UPVOTE your comment". God bless you always today and everyday.

[@Sjfyy_]

Lmao

[@roxannesicard3502]

My husband and I walked down the aisle together. We were so close. He died 2 years ago. I miss him every day.

[@lexilily__]

🖤🙏🏻

[@roxannebrunger9261]

My husband & I did the same! Our parent pairs walked down the aisle ahead of us, then we came last after the bridal party - - signifying the new family being formed out of the two families represented by our parents. 💜

[@sharongibson1161]

So very sorry for your loss 😢❤

[@roxannesicard3502]

@@sharongibson1161 Thank you.

[@BlackPony599]

If I was ever blessed to get married I'd ask my 4 grown son's to walk me. After suffering abuse from all my past partners, I'd know they'd be there for me.

[@lexilily__]

❤️‍🩹🙏🏻

[@bongekileximba8868]

That dress on you!!!🥹🔥🔥❤❤ wishing you guys the best!

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🥲🙏🏻

[@sewrightllc9835]

I’ve altered wedding gowns since 1973. This is pretty much the norm now. Walk yourself down be proud! And pay for all and I mean all, of it yourself!! Families sometimes can’t behave! Let your friends be your family!

[@lexilily__]

absolutely!!!!! that’s why i had so many brideswomen. they’re all my found sisters 🥲🫶🏻

[@Lenawire]

I read a story of a horrible husband to be and FMIL. The bride had already found and bought her dream dress but the groom's mother had a vision for her "baby boy's" wedding, so the groom, like a good mamma's boy, returned the bride's paid wedding gown.

[@DebbiePotter-xh7kv]

My sister and her husband walked down together.

[@tessdurberville711]

​@@lexilily__ If you do not want to call them bridesmaids, then they are attendants. There is no need for a new "woke" term to be used.

[@lexilily__]

@@tessdurberville711​​⁠the way i also don’t want to call my friends my attendants bc they’re literally just my friends standing by my side to support me and not my attendants 🙄 i have a crazy idea though! how bout at someone’s wedding they get to call their people what they want and at your wedding you call your people what you want and let’s all just maybe calm down. not everything different is “woke”-sometimes it’s just different

[@rachelvanweiringen9914]

Me and my hubby both divorcees and had our hearts broken from previous marriage. When we got married, we walked together down the longest "aisle" (we joked about this while walking). Our aisle was from our doorstep to the beach which was about 400m.😊

[@lexilily__]

that’s so beautiful 🥲

[@amathans]

My mum walked me down the aisle. My “father” never made me feel like his - so how could he have given me away? My mum was my all in life, my anchor, my mum and my dad. She always gave me love. I was hers to give away. Never my fathers. My mum was the only person who I had there for me. She was always at my side through life, so it was only right that she was at my side when I walked down the aisle on my wedding day. It was perfect. We both shed some tears - my mum is still my world today. Still my anchor. She’s terminally ill now. She taught me many things in life, but living without her is something I’ll struggle to learn how to do 🥺

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@sophiabaine221]

My husband and I both walked our daughter down the aisle at her wedding last month. She loved it.

[@kellyboyce2180]

My dear mummy walked me halfway down the Isle and my partner met us halfway. He took my hand from my mummy give her a kiss on her cheek and told her mum thank you. It was perfect. My dad passed away 10 years ago, but even if he were alive it was still going to be my mummy who raised my big sister and I alone. You look lovely. Happy blessings on your marriage. ✝️💟

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻🖤

[@donnabeach5654]

I LOVE seeing women walk the aisle by themselves. Shows confidence and independence. No need for anyone to "give them away" like chattel. You go girl!

[@lexilily__]

thank you!!!! 🥲🙏🏻

[@alihall676]

We could all learn a lot from this couple and Ms Smith’s need to shift her focus on healing childhood trauma. They were destined to be together. ❤

[@lexilily__]

thank you so much 🙏🏻

[@crazycreativegrandmaproduc779]

Not destined…blessed by God!

[@Ms.July-Moon]

This bride’s dress was so perfect for her outdoor wedding. It’s simple lines but beautiful fabric, light and pretty. It looks like a dress Galadriel would wear.

[@lexilily__]

wow i love that comparison 😍 thank you!

[@vap322]

I'm glad you got to share YOUR special day with the world. Makes it so special.......................

[@lexilily__]

thank you! everything has been so special 🥲

[@vashtibissessar7839]

You both share your story because it's so beautiful and special god bless you both as a beautiful couple happy marriage Amen ❤❤🎉❤❤.

[@sarahe7515]

I walked myself down the aisle. I told my dad that and he had a hissy fit when he realized that I was serious on rehearsal night. My dad was abusive and my mom is a narcissist who thrives on drama. They were lucky that they were even invited. I wanted a private ceremony but did the traditional service for everyone else. At least I had a say to not be waked down by HIM.

[@lexilily__]

i relate to this so much. good for you! 🫶🏻

[@bevh2107]

You look absolutely gorgeous. And walking yourself shows strength, self confidence and a woman who knows her worth. May God Continue Blessing you and your Husband

[@lexilily__]

thank you so much! 🙏🏻

[@sharikacrenshaw4236]

Beautiful dress on you❤

[@lexilily__]

thank you!!! 🥰🖤

[@user-yf1uo7nz4d]

“ Be kind to others cause you don’t know their story “ truly got to my heart. I dealt with a man , flirting only, that I knew nothing about. He flirted so much with me and never said nothing I decided to go up to him and asked for his name. When I did he told me but what he didn’t tell me was that he is a married man. I wanted to curse the hell out of him but one of my parent told me those same words “ … be kind … you don’t know what he is going through …” toughest shit I’ve ever had to deal with and not knowing cause I refuse a million times to know noting or anything about what he’s going through not to be evil but to just not get involved ( I’m not a therapist or priest to be that kind ). But I honestly do pray for his success and happiness with his partner although he knows nothing of what I do for him which is to humbly pray and continue in my Life not giving him no hopes , I don’t talk to him anymore and I don’t even smile at him anymore. My parent says “… be kind!😡….” My parent says. I replied “…. I’m sorry I was kind before and was misunderstood. I am kind in other ways but I just won’t be too much human with him in terms of my words, conversation or my smiles cause I don’t want him to be confused now that I know and he knows that I know that he’s married and he did NOT tell me about her existence.” I’m thinking of moving 😊

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻

[@diannereader1280]

My mother and brother walked me down the aisle my dad sadly passed away 6 months before. So glad as my beautiful mum was diagnosed with bowel cancer and passed away a few months later. Beautiful memories💕🙏

[@lexilily__]

🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@jessk7240]

I think all brides should do this ! It’s just so romantic. Just you and him giving yourselves to each other, no need for anyone else to be part of it and certainly not for one man to hand to another.

[@lexilily__]

my thoughts exactly! some people do have that special bond with their fathers though, so to each their own 😇

[@victoriakoleser6515]

When I remarry I I may do this. Or my son

[@joyceanderson8648]

I agree. 👍

[@nriamond8010]

I walked in with my husband, my twin sister walked in with me. There are a lot of alternatives to going in with a father and every bride should pick what she likes best! :)

[@joyceanderson8648]

@@nriamond8010 I agree👍🙏

[@afsarali6064]

beautiful bridal dresses 👗👗👗👗

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🥰

[@elizabethwright7979]

I don’t look at it as owning property. It’s more about saying I’m entrusting the man she’s marrying to take care of her.

[@lexilily__]

that’s a great outlook!

[@rebeccabamber2139]

Trust me, in the real world, that's how everyone else sees it too. The only people who have a problem with it spend too much time online in an echo chamber.

[@Vexarax]

If a dad doesn’t take care of his daughter then she doesn’t need him there to try to entrust another man to take care of her. And some people want relationships where they are equal partners and take care of each other rather than one person being the “carer and provider” (which can also create destructive power dynamics depending on the personalities involved). Everyone is different 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@tifKh]

The smile on both of your faces is wonderful to see. ❤

[@lexilily__]

thank you 🙏🏻🖤

[@lavender.hibiscus]

this is how relationships should be..try to fix things first and if it doesnt work out then that's when you give up..loving is a choice which means you choose to love someone when things around you weren't going the way you want it to go..

[@lexilily__]

exactly 🙏🏻

[@eleanorkavanagh6171]

The dress is absolutely beautiful, I would have loved to get a better look at it.. Have a long and happy life together.

[@lexilily__]

thank you 🖤 there’s another short on my feed with our wedding photos, so you can see it better! I’ll be posting more about our wedding (and my dress) too (:

[@jyothirmayeechandrappa3002]

Congratulations guys ❤god bless you both with wonderful togetherness ahead ❤ let the love you both share live forever ❤

[@lexilily__]

thank you 🙏🏻🖤

[@TheTBone3798]

God bless your union…love,respect and listen to each other…congratulations!!

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻

[@sk.n.9302]

She looks beautiful walking alone. I decided to include my Dad & let him walk me down the aisle, but on the way, to my horror, he whispered "I finally brought the cow to market". They never change. She did the right thing.

[@lexilily__]

thank you 🙏🏻 im sorry that happened to you! 💔

[@sandrapower3250]

An awful man sorry you had to hear him say that about you 😔 😞

[@miriamlaureano308]

Beautiful wedding of two beautiful people! ❤

[@lexilily__]

thank you 🖤

[@warpthumr47]

I think being kind & realizing that you don't know other people's story involves being capable of compassion & empathy plus not jumping to conclusions & judging others. You know, that thing in the Bible that the worst offenders in this type of thing claim to follow, yet seem to either have never read it or don't think it applies to them. Take the plank out of your own eye b4 you worry about the soec of dust in anyone else's. Congratulations to you both. We all deserve to loved just as we are.

[@lexilily__]

amen. very well said. thank you! 🖤

[@Secretagent71114]

I fully support this, I've known people that had an abusive father who was barely in their adult life walk them down the aisle because they felt they had to or people would talk. I find that to be ridiculous. I will not have my dad walk me either even though my dad is a very good dad and is 100% in my life (and my parents still have a good marriage). I just don't like the idea of it because my dad has nothing to do with my marriage. My parents feel the same way, they always let me and my sisters make our own decisions in life and in no way feel or act entitled to being in our lives. My dad would feel very weird being apart of my wedding like that. And that's why all of us have unconditional and healthy relationships with them. My brother in law has commented on how he loves spending time with my parents because they've never put pressure on him and my sister, we're all just happy to see each other when we do things together and simply enjoy the experience.

[@lexilily__]

your family sounds amazing 🥲 i love how much they support you unconditionally-that’s so special 🫶🏻🥲

[@jenniferspears7074]

Beautiful story❤…there is so much power in you. Lots of love and inspiration come from your perseverance❤.

[@lexilily__]

thank you so much 🥲🙏🏻🖤

[@vanessatrevs]

i walked down the aisle carrying my father's framed picture. He died in 2007. he also got a seat just for him.

[@lexilily__]

🥹🫶🏻

[@marthacannizzo4791]

That’s beautiful ❤

[@annettewilliams1986]

Simply Beautiful!!! Love always WIN!!!! You can overcome anything if you both want it....I absolutely ❤❤❤❤this!!! Congratulations 🎉💍🔔🎈🎁

[@lexilily__]

thank you so much!! 🖤🖤🖤

[@sandrapower3250]

Congratulations to you both have a great and happy life together your dress was divine blessings from ireland 🇮🇪

[@lexilily__]

thank you so much! 🙏🏻

[@SalomeGullett-wt6du]

i absolutely LOVED reading your story 🫶

[@lexilily__]

thank you so much 🥲🙏🏻

[@user-of6fr8oq4g]

I was right she is breath taking beautiful. Congrats guys , may your life be filled endless love 🎉🎉

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻🖤

[@dorissaclaire]

My mother walked herself down the aisle. She had a positive relationship with her father and he was alive and present, she just didn’t feel like she wanted or needed him there in that way

[@lexilily__]

love that for her! 🫶🏻

[@user-sq6vb1on3d]

I went through a break up last year and waited for an entire year for that guy to turn up again all healed and re-ready to be loved and love, but, yeah, that didn't happen. I gave him the space he asked , only for him to cordon me off for ever :/

[@lexilily__]

❤️‍🩹🙏🏻

[@laurenr1417]

I LOVE that wedding gown! Perfect song....Touching sorry. 🙏

[@lexilily__]

thank you!

[@jepK7609]

WO reading the article, wishing you all the happiness you deserve.

[@lexilily__]

thank you!

[@Arcadewarriorrs780]

This is the most beautiful wedding ever, love your strength.

[@lexilily__]

thank you so much 🥲🖤🖤🖤🙏🏻

[@louiseayden9976]

Beautiful! Wishing the bride and groom every happiness!🌻

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🖤🙏🏻

[@user-kx7so1pc5f]

Congratulations to both of you

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻

[@tkj793]

My mum and sister walked me down the aisle when my dad failed to show for my wedding but it was an honour he didn’t deserve or earn so I’m so happy it worked out this way

[@lexilily__]

🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@kathieschlosnagle8410]

What an absolutely BEAUTIFUL gown!

[@lexilily__]

thank you!!! 🥰🙏🏻🖤

[@lilibethnieto55]

Beautiful story,amazing wedding ❤Best Congratulations 🎉 🙌🙌🙌

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻🖤

[@draws3610]

That's a beautiful dress😊

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🥰

[@30clipn]

I think it’s more beautiful she is walking herself.

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻🖤

[@bevalee1533]

Lovely looking couple. Love the brides dress. Its beautiful. I wish this couple many, many years of joy, happiness, love and support together.

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻🖤

[@user-jr7rf4uy1b]

That's amazing looking sweetie 🥰 pie

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🖤

[@stephi586]

I’ve been with my hubby May will be 20 yrs! We definitely took a 1 1/2 yrs break after 8-9yrs. It healed us and only made us grow stronger afterwards.

[@lexilily__]

i love that 🙏🏻

[@lenam.3114]

Aww, well, I am so proud of you for walking yourself & continuing with it since it was your day & your life. You deserve to be happy and it is all about the relationship between the two of you. So happy for you. Would love to read about the story one day, when you are ready💕

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻🖤

[@MellowTime674]

This is so sweet, and i am so proud of you. May God Bless your marriage ❤

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻🖤

[@ChristineRobinette-ue2mj]

She's not the first and she won't be the last.

[@lexilily__]

💯

[@lexilily__]

the previous link i shared was discontinued for non-New York Times subscribers. you can just search the article title "For Two Longhorns, a Breakup Became a Blessing" on Google instead 🫶🏻

[@pamelatoombs4150]

Beautiful love. It's so good that you took time to heal from past childhood trauma. I relate, but, I'm 53. Side note 2 of my daughter's are Lexi & Lily

[@lexilily__]

@@pamelatoombs4150thanks so much 🙏🏻 aw that’s so cute! thanks for sharing that 🖤

[@marcinance9586]

Sadly, you have to sign up for an account on theNY TIMES website 😢

[@rbud57]

@@marcinance9586there are other (free) sources for the same article.

[@lexilily__]

@@marcinance9586ah bummer im sorry!

[@evamarra3581]

In life you need people around who can help when you need help . God bless you Bello and Bella have a beautiful life and take time for each other and talk happiness is within your heart and a healthy soul to let in love and trust blessing to you both Forza 🙏🙏❤️❤️

[@lexilily__]

thank you 🙏🏻🖤

[@renenowicki]

Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting a hard battle.

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻

[@judydelapena4818]

In the Philippines, both parents walked their daughter down the aisle. Moms are important too you know.

[@lexilily__]

👏🏻👏🏻

[@pameladelgado7182]

Such a beautiful video and story 🥰 truly inspiring for so many people!!! Thank for being vulnerable and sharing that with us ❤️

[@lexilily__]

thank you sweets 🥲

[@amandalidey329]

Aweeee. That almost brought tears to my eyes.

[@lexilily__]

🥲🙏🏻🖤

[@thefarmingchannel3488]

I love that song so much 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹 it makes me cry

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻🖤

[@samahalabi6943]

Congratulations and all the best to you both 🙏🙏

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻

[@platingqueen]

Soo stunning inside and out!! ❤

[@lexilily__]

love you! 🖤

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

Beautiful couple. Wish you both a lifetime of happiness love health and .. wealth ❤ ✝️ 🙌 🙏 💪

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻🖤

[@kimarie420]

My prayers are with you🎉

[@lexilily__]

thank you 🙏🏻🖤

[@bernadettekavanagh9984]

Wow, how beautiful , ❤❤❤❤❤❤, many blessings to you both. ❤️ ❤❤😂

[@bernadettekavanagh9984]

Sorry about the laughing emoji.

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻🖤

[@lyndkent-cl2oe]

Beautiful Bridge...gorgeous dress.

[@lexilily__]

thank you! 🙏🏻

[@user-vq1ys6rc7v]

Owhh, the explanation touch my heart. ❤ The song's for wedding is so sad.🥺 I don't know what happen with this couple. May God bless them both.💫

[@lexilily__]

🙏🏻

[@user-qp6ic8qd2z]

Wishing you both a happy and safe healthy life together Blessings Always Diana Melbourne Australia

[@lexilily__]

thank you so much! we went to australia for our honeymoon and loved it 🥰

[@dipitickner1927]

​@@lexilily__I'm glad you loved Australia 🦘🦘, blessings to you, from Melbourne too.