Be Respectful, Not Nice

[@BellazziEnt]

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[@mabxo9727]

Nice is a rip off. I told my sister this morning, I do not owe anyone any niceties. I owe the general population, respect and common courtesy. That’s it.

[@BellazziEnt]

I understand ❤️

[@shanpurble]

I've had the worst experiences with 'nice' bullying coworkers. I respect a more stoic person who's actions align with their speech. Once I developed those boundaries I saw the hatred in their faces but I couldn't care less as I stuck to distancing myself. Nice people/ extroverted a-holes grind my gears. It's all a mask. For the most part I observe and reach a limit in my mind and once it is passed I'm fully checked out for good. There are relatives too who are kind but choose to be disrespectful knowing damn well they only have a shallow view of what the person is truly going through. People make you feel guilty for being kind if they didn't come up with the idea to do so as well. Had to heal my codependent ways and it was the best decision I ever made. I'm more healthy cause of it and am fine with people hating me. So be it. Unrealistic to please everyone anyways.

[@m.gonnerman7131]

I’ve been telling people I’m “kind but NOT nice” for years. Their reactions tell me everything

[@QuitetheCaseofWanderlust]

Respect attracts respect. I love that. Short, sweet, and wise. As soon as the last person I was unnecessarily kind to started getting disrespectful, I cut him off after telling him why. I’m proud of myself for that. Thanks for another insightful video💛

[@d4thblossom]

I want to say thank you for your channel. It took me becoming an adult, and really growing into myself, to realise that I need this kind of knowledge and wisdom. My mother was a narcissist and deeply envious of me, which was a hard pill to swallow. As a result she never taught me how to protect myself in the world as a beautiful woman, because she would rather have me fed to the wolves. This is the education I never got but always needed.

[@BellazziEnt]

Same. Thank you for supporting ❤️

[@crolleserre8382]

Taking notes.🗒️ much appreciated. Thank you

[@unbeknownst2me-o9t]

And just because you are religious doesn't mean you have to be nice and friendly. I used to be this way and people will walk all over you! As soon as I stopped being friendly I never had an issue again.

[@BellazziEnt]

I second this!

[@krissyaguilar1814]

Me toooo

[@sundivers]

This! I‘m polite but I choose wisely to whom I will be nice. Once people think they have access to you they will either disrespect you or be kind. In my experience people will usually disrespect you. I will cut that down and don’t speak to you.

[@BellazziEnt]

I agree ❤️

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

I know a lot of wicked nice people

[@BellazziEnt]

Me too

[@joyceadena]

Yes, I will always tell people this. Nice does not = Kind Nice is just pleasant to be around Kind is having good morals If you went to a nice person and asked for an opinion on a dress you looked bad in, they would say, "It looks great!" If you ask a kind person, "Sorry to put this lightly, I don't think it looks nice, but let's try something else." Think about the nice and friendly people at work. Some of them can be the most vicious gossipers and backstabbers because they are not kind. I remember one time, a NICE girl decided to side with a person who tried to turn others against me because they were a people pleaser who was too afraid to go against them.

[@BellazziEnt]

Yes “Nice” people have tried to sabotage me so many times. Lmaoo

[@yoshiebee555]

how we use our energy is so important

[@yoshiebee555]

i don't care to be agreeable

[@yoshiebee555]

i am kind. i am gentle. i am severe

[@yoshiebee555]

if i hold the door open for someone, it's because i don't want them behind me.

[@yoshiebee555]

respect is neutral and DIPLOMATIC

[@yoshiebee555]

NICE is the deal/tool the serpent used on eve

[@sispeepgame]

“You crossed my boundaries ma’am” 😂😂😂 I’m both, more kind than nice though, if you ask people they’d say I’m mean. 😂 I’m not though I’m being kind when they say I’m being mean. They consider my kindness mean until I’m actually mean and then they get it. 🙃

[@BellazziEnt]

My resting face makes people think I’m mean lol

[@Kaceyylang]

It’s different at work. I have to be nice and put on an act.

[@traceylennon1204]

No you don't!

[@Alanahg815]

Now this right here. I needed to hear. Realized I’m not even kind to myself…which in turn shows that i don’t respect myself.

[@BellazziEnt]

Ouch! Be kinder to yourself babe ❤️

[@Alanahg815]

@@BellazziEnt Definitely a goal for this new year! Channels like this are so helpful. Love the diverse content.

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

Nice people have no integrity

[@spacemonktarot8315]

Love your videos! Glad you are posting more. Keep it up! For empaths, what others might perceive as being ‘mean’ often translates to something far more nuanced-setting boundaries and protecting our energy. Unlike the average person’s ‘mean,’ it’s not about malice or disregard; it’s about self-preservation. Sometimes, choosing not to pour our love and energy into someone immediately is an act of wisdom, ensuring we stay aligned with our own well-being before extending ourselves to others.

[@BellazziEnt]

Agree 100%

[@BeautybyMulatto1]

Kind people are nice, not loud not rude. ❤❤raised right there sympathy comes from a genuine place with pure good intentions. Yes being nice can be a act 🎬 😅very true

[@BellazziEnt]

Agreed 😊

[@Rosierose902]

As a recovering people pleaser this is my third time watching 😂 I’m so mad no one told me this 😭

[@gmcmim1]

You broke this down. You went in depth with it. Nice video. I am respectful but I am not overly kind.

[@BellazziEnt]

Thanks for watching! ❤️

[@m.ophie.a3644]

Both but trying to lose the 'nice girl' because it only attracts the wrong people 😅. It's hard though cause in Christian suburban areas like the place I was raised, it's the default for women. Though some of them are really mean, if not cruel, it's always very low-key, lol.

[@BellazziEnt]

Yup this is why I call it a mask

[@19katsandcounting]

This is great! I have this problem and it’s always worse when I’m with people who are like me. I hate seeing it in other people and it makes me cringe. You should write or recommend some books on this topic, because you’re very cut and dry about it, and direct. 👍

[@BellazziEnt]

“Set boundaries find peace”

[@Zara_Luna]

Wow, I can't thank you enough! I need to improve on some of these character developments ❤ Your last 5 minutes is powerful 💎

[@BellazziEnt]

You're so welcome! ❤️

[@SapphireLovee]

You’re so wise, I love your content ! 💎💕

[@BellazziEnt]

Thank you so much!! ❤️

[@pinkp939]

Girrrrrrl this was a BIG ONE ..🙏🏽😍😩 thaaank you..!! 💕

[@BellazziEnt]

Ya welcome 😊

[@NoPickmeishasAllowed]

I have permanent resting bit(h face

[@BellazziEnt]

Same lol

[@hadiza1]

Sitting! 👸🏾🩵

[@BellazziEnt]

💅🏽❤️

[@patrickpaisley5535]

Kindness ❤

[@Themadamdivine]

This was a great video

[@BellazziEnt]

Thank you

[@BellazziEnt]

Which one are you?

[@Aliasaliasaliashh]

I dont think about it that much 🤷‍♀️

[@BellazziEnt]

Fair

[@jahdielyetna8970]

How do you become kind

[@BellazziEnt]

I listed some traits in the video. But it should be easy if you have empathy

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

Niceness=fake

[@dejanasnaturalway]

How to switch from nice nice to just kind?

[@BellazziEnt]

Stop performing

[@SoN2MakeuP]

😊❤

[@BellazziEnt]

❤️

[@NicolasaNicolasa]

Yes, there is people i dont stan but i have to deal with him, i have respect for them or nice but i dont fuck with them...basicamly am formal with them

[@BellazziEnt]

I understand

[@EK-iz7es]

I never understood the saying "nice nasty" if you have to be nice nasty then your not nice. You realize that human nature is kicking in and that niceness has to go away , because uhhh your nice for what 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@BellazziEnt]

Just cruel as hell

[@EK-iz7es]

That’s when I knew nice is performative

[@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes]

❤

[@BellazziEnt]

❤️

[@Datb2]

I’m not nice 🤮

[@BellazziEnt]

🤭

[@cn8pm]

To me nice and kind are one in the same. I've never considered someone who's performative as nice, I've always just viewed your version of nice as tone or a way of speaking because it has no depth to it. It's interesting to see how others view it.

[@nelldanger]

[@BellazziEnt]

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