Behavior and Personality Changes After a TBI

Why is my loved one's behavior and personality suddenly different?

[@brenb2280]

She is SPOT ON!!! Wow, finally! Somebody gets it!!!

[@alison2161]

Bren B yes

[@flacogonzalez8778]

I really hate the fact tho as I suffered a tbi that nobody understands this information

[@jesusisthesaviorredeemeran8842]

❤ God bless you.

[@angelxoxoxoxox]

when you were in a romantic relationship with someone and this happens... 💔 absolutely shattering- i don't feel as i am talking to the one that i met and love. and i can't get close because i'm shut out now and forever.

[@adrianamaclennan7832]

Hell yea. Husband had three strokes five years ago and I’m still crying. Absolutely 100 💯 percent bang on. And people look at me like I’m a witch if I voice my struggles

[@billygnosis6976]

Not sure this helps...but we understand

[@lgb4788]

The victim feels they have lost themselves

[@faisalbi1330]

Hi I want to talk to you please

[@barebones138]

I had a severe TBI. My emotions did change. My empathy for other people went up.

[@jesusisthesaviorredeemeran8842]

❤

[@billygnosis6976]

Yes, its a very strange road...and I agree not all is bad

[@faisalbi1330]

hi barebones how are u? please reply me

[@faisalbi1330]

@@billygnosis6976 hi how r u ? Which problems u r dealing please reply me

[@billygnosis6976]

@@faisalbi1330 slow cognition with severe and inconsistent fatigue.

[@kingkongkungkwang]

The consequences of TBI is one hell of a thing. I've been diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder and on top of that, I have suffered from 2 TBIs. I think the only reason why I actually decided to seek help is because in later years as I somehow got married and had a child, I could visibly see my wife suffering from my illness, and she started getting very cold with me. If it wasn't for my family, I probably still would be out there, hurting others and having absolutely no remorse about it all.

[@bruschetta3089]

Thank you for sharing your experience G. What types of treatments were/are you having that you find helpful?

[@kingkongkungkwang]

@@bruschetta3089 It is helpful, and the treatments were complicated to begin with. It's a work in progress. Let's just say, a decade long child abuse and all the "conditions" thereof were synergistically catalyzed by PTSD and TBIs that happened later in my life.

[@bruschetta3089]

@@kingkongkungkwang I do wish you all the best in your recovery! May you be surrounded by support, love, understanding, patience and encouragement.

[@kassadymaree7827]

i’m so happy i’m not alone in this…

[@matthewbland163]

This is my 2nd TBI. After the first my emotions went through the roof out of no where. After the 2nd my empathy is gone for living things. I look at people and I can’t figure out what I’m supposed to do. I lost all my hobbies, all my friends seem to not recognize me. I’m unable to watch television, listen to music, or play video games, due to heightened empathy. Something on tv will display emotion and my body immediately reacts as if it’s happening to me. My wife isn’t sure what to make of me anymore. I long to be close to others but I’m always left behind wondering what I’m supposed to feel. The headaches and tinnitus are already crushing me but I never thought I would be so alone.

[@teresamurphy5730]

My husband has a sever TBI , feel like lm married to another person, l get sad at times and miss my old husband .. The husband now is very compassionate and more humble , he does get aggravated easily though . My faith in God is where l get my strength 🙏❤️

[@Smorgasvord]

What was he like before?

[@mrstammy8357]

My husband had his TBI years ago. He was depressed and suicidal. But wouldn't tell me what was wrong. He gets so angry and everytime he needs to be doung therapy he makes so much chaos that I give up. He has no empathy for things he has said. Its so painful

[@kevinhullinger8743]

@@Smorgasvord appears now he is more humble and compassionate makes you wonder what he was like before.

[@mgray3130]

I have had repeated TBI's after my first time. I developed epilepsy over the years my last one was falling on a concrete pole around a gas pump. I was out of it for a month I was told. Afterwards really nothing changed, per say. I was already suffering from a host of mental problems so it seemed no different. Now 12 years later my mental functioning and cognitive skills are really getting worse. I have repeatedly told those around me but they seem to believe/say I've been like this for many years now. But I myself feel it's getting to the point that I know better. I'm trying to muster up the courage to find help by myself the best I can. God bless all. Take care

[@qwandary]

Believe yourself. People tend to downplay our experiences with memory I find. I have full blown amnesiac states and people tell me that it's normal and they 'sometimes drink a coffee on autopilot and go to drink more then realise it's empty but barely remember drinking' and I'm like 'cool, that's completely different to blinking and being 3 hours in the future, in another area of the city, but ok'. If I have a super bad day with remembering words or what I wanted to tell them or what we did moments before, they reassure me that it's normal. And the issue isn't 'is forgetting things sometimes normal', you can tell when your experience with it is different and it feels wrong. Losing memory is scary too, we need proper support, not vague reassurance of 'no one has perfect memory, relax'. I hope you can get some support soon. Maybe you can keep a log of your memory loss experiences so you have some quantifiable record to go to.

[@amandalynngibson8332]

A tree hit my head 3 years ago. I am hard headed, independent educated retired RN. No loss of conciousness. Hoped it was "simple" concussion. My 29 yo daughter had baby with Down Syndrome just 6 days later. My 35 son is uber busy realtor & father. Family support must be nice. Me? I am alone with this. Maybe it's denial, or I am supposed to be invincible, or I wasn't paralyzed....my kids do mot get it at all. I have hired drivers & assistants trying to cope with my limitations. I live in the country, and not an hour away from either son or daughter. I have sent couple of links, Ted Talk, etc. MRI shows injuries. I feel sad, mad, abandoned and spiteful. I must change my will! If I have any assets whenever I die, let it go to good charites. My kids can get exactly what they have given. They do not understand and chose to remain ignorant of what life post TBI is like. I feel like Sysiphus. Trying so hard in basic everyday tasks....and falling further behind everyday. I live in Slow Motion. Plants. Pets. Solitude. I am grateful for much. Working on acceptance & truly letting go of my family. No expectations. I pray to find caring support network. I hope I can manage the relocation to better place. God willing, there is another dance in this old dame yet! 🙏

[@bobtaylor170]

Much depends on whether relatives are sufficiently informed and educated about TBI by the professionals. But more is required. If a family's hearts are hardened against learning the truth about their member's injury, however real and devastating the injury may be, then the poor patient is in for a truly terrible time. I write from experience. My life has been made livable only by the acceptance, kindness, and help of my church.

[@DaCaptainV]

Bob Taylor and mine the same but also add the assistance of extremely understanding living partners

[@billygnosis6976]

good to hear and stay strong.....

[@faisalbi1330]

@@DaCaptainV hi how are you now please reply me? Have your personality gone changed?

[@michaeltiller782]

But the doctors failed to help me after one the tbi then secondly the doctors didn't explain about what a tbi can change a person

[@bobtaylor170]

@@michaeltiller782 , ask your primary care physician to help you find a good neurologist and a good clinical neuropsychologist.

[@billygnosis6976]

most of these videos don't tell the real story, this one does. With that said, as someone with a serious TBI I can tell you that, yes, you are altered forever BUT you must own it and take control of it....no one else will. It took a long time for me to accept that and I still struggle with those issues....BUT I own it and I am the only person who can change.

[@teeganmcpherson8690]

amen brother 🖤

[@faisalbi1330]

Hi how are you?

[@keirinboyes4419]

I actually became a more outgoing friendly person after my tbi. Before that I was extremely shy didn't know how to or could talk to anyone other then my family. I wonder if I'd be that person still if I hadn't had my tbi. I dodnt realize though until the kids in my school said I was alot cooler since my head injury lol

[@ninanickel3103]

We feel just as lost. I love the girl I was before. I want her back because she was so calm!!!! I literally love her!!!!

[@rachelmurray6710]

I’m sorry but at least your able to admit your own reality whereas my mother is in denial and so very aggressively defiant refusing medical treatment of any sort. She is dangerous and nearly killed me in my sleep just today. I have no family and no support because to other emergency personnel she is visibly just upset and that I should leave and have made me leave with nothing but clothes on my back because it was her home. She still is very much herself when you listen or watch from another room or window so I thank god for those candid moments some people never get those again so I’m blessed in that sense. But my mommy was my best friend for 35 of my short years and now I have to sleep with 1 eye open. 👁

[@lav856]

Tbi people are no longer same person they use to be 💔 . Sad but it's true 🙏🏻

[@WanderingLeopard]

@@lav856 you sound like you have a bit of experience. Are you a caregiver or survivor of TBI

[@faisalbi1330]

@@lav856 hi how you doing ?

[@amandalynngibson8332]

I understand. I was 60 when got TBI. So I get a lot of "oh sure- everyone gets like this as you age". Bullshit. We know own own losses and changes. There is a reply to you that is great example of how to not be helpful..."Well at least you blah blah." The "my circumstances are worse" game is so self centered and selfish. I am sick of the demeaning thoughtless crap people say. FFS! Think before responding. Got Compassion? No. Then STFU!

[@lisascarrott6142]

Spot on thank you my boyfriend now at 55 years old some years ago suffered a severe brain injury he was attacked he had a part of his brain removed and spent several weeks in coma followed by rehabilitation for 2 years then into a residential care home and then he was moved into community housing. His behaviour is dreadful he can get very arggessive very moody irritable nasty nasty he will say things offensive and just completely takes things the wrong way I get and his neighbours get the full force brunt force of his swearing verbal abuse and intimidation he will make threats constantly making threats to hit his neighbours. He will then say no o didnt say that when he did. I'm at my wits end with this

[@muneebmuneeb6040]

Sad..i have the same experience from my father 😔😔

[@lisascarrott6142]

@@muneebmuneeb6040 sorry to hear this it's never your fault try taking some time out for yourself

[@muneebmuneeb6040]

Last one year we lost every happiness....

[@cocogomez2278]

I've lost the spicy side of my personality and no longer emotional. My logic and order of processes has declined a lot. Now im calm and I can't understand when people talk at a normal speed which is fast. I also have poor word recall and become more ambidextrous. Everyday is new as I always find out my new way of life.

[@flacogonzalez8778]

Same here I feel different as in I lost a part of myself

[@faisalbi1330]

hi how are you now please reply me

[@faisalbi1330]

@@flacogonzalez8778 hi please reply me how are u?

[@faisalbi1330]

@@flacogonzalez8778 are you recovering?

[@Vitriol-Divergent]

The thing that pisses me off about this as a T.B.I. survivor is how all the medical experts focus on how the way the survivor has changed effects the family. They never talk about how we view THEIR treatment of us after the injury. How they act out towards us or sometimes lash out because according to them they get "scared" about how we've changed. So that makes them hurt us. but THAT'S ok? Not one single T.B.I. survivor needs their circle of people to push THEIR grief on THEM. That does not help us, in fact it just makes us worse and pushes us away. All I want these days is to become truly independent so I can just get away from everyone and their damning expectations.

[@giuseppefisher3000]

I dont know what happened, i didnt have a brain injury or anything traumatic. But i’m changing a shit ton. I changed my appearance completely, i act and talk different, am no longer happy with my name, am a fuck ton angrier and alot stronger and i have a drive to change into someone else. I’m slowly losing all my memories and shit and i dont know why. I stopped caring about pain, i tear my knee open after a fall and i walk it off without really caring. I’m starting to stop feeling any type of guilt or love. I lost a ton of weight, changed my hair, and literally every other aspect of my body and i started smoking weed out of nowhere after this change. Im slowly becoming someone else. Its fucking scary and my personality, is slowly fading away and im scared as fuck Edit: i was diagnosed with tourettes syndrome that really came full force from no where about a month before any of this started, no idea if it’s related but its a possibility

[@TheILoveRbd]

Go look for help!!! Have u been to a doctor or psychologist?? How are u now?

[@billygnosis6976]

It probably is, I would recommend seeing someone about it.....

[@alphawtel3157]

Well seems like nothing is absolute, your looks can change and your personality can also change. Seems like I understood the reality. A great man who's brain got replaced with a narcissists mind will become a narcissist.

[@krisd870]

My husband fell and hit the back of his head. He had a brain bleed in the front lobe and in the arachnoid part ( I think that’s how you say it). He was in a coma for 12 hrs. The hospital released him after 48 hrs. I was not prepared for the care he needed. The loss of income. After 3 months he was cleared to go back to work. His job let him go. He is now 6 months out of the injury. He is a different person. Very angry and I’m the verbal target most of the time. I’m lost and alone and not sure what to do.

[@Bob-pg4gi]

How are you holding up? Any improvements?

[@krisd870]

@@Bob-pg4gi it’s now been a year. It took 8 months to get 90% plus. He still has some short term memory loss but he won’t admit it.

[@Bob-pg4gi]

@@krisd870 90% is amazing, congratz, I'm happy for you :) He will continue to improve forever.

[@eralakman9954]

I notice changes in myself, often joke that I am possessed.

[@Bob-pg4gi]

What kind of changes?

[@eralakman9954]

@@Bob-pg4gi dizzy, dopey, sluggish, loss of initiative, angry, unhappy

[@cooldaddyfunk]

I dont know what to do anymore. My fisnce has had a dead lemon sized brain tumor in her left frontal lobe. Its been 8 years, shes doing very well in every aspect but a few, the hardest part, is that she is not the girl who loves me anymore. She used to love me SO hard. I had to peel her off of me every night to fall asleep, she was obsessed with me, for the first 8 years of our relationship, before her tbi, in the last 8 years since, she hasn't tried to initiate sex with me ONCE, not once in 8 years. Shes age regressed, and shows absolutely no interest in love, a relationship, or especially sex. Its not that we havnt had sex in 8 years, we have. But i almost have to guilt her into it, and that feels like total shit, i cant even be like that anymore. But if i dont make any effort neither will she. I just cant live like this anymore. My girl whos life i saved, is gone. I mean shes here, but my girlfriend who loved me is gone. I never thought something like this was even possible. She doesnt even touch me, grab my hand, give me a hug or a kiss, nothing. If i ask for one, its like im botheting her 😔🤦‍♂️. We didnt have a perfect relationship pre TBI, but as someone who didnt know what he had till its gone, I would give ANYTHING to have my girl bsck, even though she's sitting right next to me in bed as I write this. Can anyone relate? Offer any advice of substance? Thank you. Its gotten progressively worse over the years. we're 37 and 38🤦‍♂️

[@Bob-pg4gi]

Hi. Do you guys do anything that seems fun together? Does she enjoy anything? Sex gets old and it isn't super important as you get older. Do you guys have anything else?

[@heatherrice7983]

My son had brain injury due to spinal fluid smashing his brain the the skull wall. He was so loving before his su=gery. There was a moment God made me aware i needed to enjoy this moment right now and i did. When he had surgery they put him on Prozac. I flipped out and demanded they remove the prozac. They didnt tell me why he was put on the med but i didnt care. He changed became very mean and combative. It didnt matter. 24hrs a day he would yell in my face for months he did this. I didnt care. Eventually his agressive behavior went back to non agressive normal but it was about a year. The first hug and willingness to say i love you was over a year after the surgery and i balled. This was the most amazing day. He showed emotion. His personality has never returned to before the surgery but he is amazing. No longer mean. He has a job and even with cancer never complains. 😊

[@faisalbi1330]

Hi I can't feel myself it's mean my personality gone changed? I can't feel myself how I was before.

[@faisalbi1330]

Hi emotions feelings numb it's mean personality change ? Please reply me I can't feel emotions feelings I can't feel myself emotionally.

[@wendydenney8864]

TBI is ?

[@pedrovelazquez4594]

You mention the loss, but what if someone never was old enough for the loved once to notice any changes. For example: A 2 year old taking an impact to the head so severe they need stitch’s, the child is so young that the loved once may never notice or have any idea of changes. Does this make sense 😃

[@michaeltiller782]

I did not Even know I lost myself somewhere

[@UFOxBAE]

Going through this right now with my 6 year it really does feel like I’ve lost my son :( he was never like this he was the perfect child now he has bad behavior all the time and doesn’t listen and screams I’m having a hard time understanding this because he had a brain abscess and they said there was no brain damage so if there was no damage why the change ? Can anyone explain

[@alison2161]

Hippie Island could just be his age.

[@michaeltiller782]

Because doctors lie when I received mine I was a very good person then all of the sudden my Mentel health become so serious I didn't even know I was Mentel sick until the tbi lead me to do things like Me I would take him to a physicist don't listen to other people single handled know the experience since I went through it personally upon release the doctors never told me the obstacles I would face mentally

[@whawha9016]

The "expert" lady doesn't seem to grasp that these issues after TBI are not mental (mind) in etymology, but neurological (brain as a biological organ). Shocking to see that even "experts" don't get it! It's not due to the way people act and think that these problems manifest. It's the altered neurological constitution which causes the unusual thought and behavioural patterns, which in turn causes the problems in interpersonal relations and personal wellbeing. But people cannot simply think their way out of it, since the issue that causes these thinking patterns is neurological and persistent (brain does not simply heal and perform normal again, disruptions within and between brain networks remain). Think of the brain as a structure that allows you to perform operations such as decisionmaking, setting priorities and foresight. Now there is a technical disruption in the pathways, which means the brain has trouble communicating and allocating resources to the various parts involved in these operations. This manifests outwardly as behavioural, cognitive and interpersonal problems in everyday life, since the disrupted operations are crucial for functioning in everyday life.

[@chiphazzard8173]

Or its tough for the person with the injury. Family just looks at you like your nuts. They write you off as ill tempered and not willing to help yourself.

[@fitness3447]

Severe brain injury patient checking in lol...

[@ugochijenny7041]

I don’t believe in this, because nothing is impossible for God to do, I’m leaving testimony, call on him,🥰🥰🥰

[@faisalbi1330]

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[@ugochijenny7041]

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[@shamydesfines]

I think she's attractive