being an empath is terrible..and wonderful | empath pros and cons

[@princesspisces6427]

Isolating yourself because the emotions you absorb from others is overwhelmingly draining, then being sad that you're alone

[@hannahellis7974]

THIS

[@liaboo943]

This is me alone everyday

[@lonexmo1605]

Omg yess

[@lonexmo1605]

Its too ovewhelming to have friends for me but i also wnat some i just feel like no one understands me....u have to be special for me to be comfortable enough to show you who I really am

[@princesspisces6427]

Lone x Mo It's definitely a difficult process, but don't completely deprive yourself of friendly interactions. Others deserve to see how special you are 😘

[@angryblackwomanphd4241]

The person calling you dramatic is gaslighting you.

[@TheStarPuppy]

HONESTLY

[@imanisteel7960]

Excuse me Angry Black Woman! May I give you a hi five for giving the best comment of the year. Took me years to get it but that's the absolute truth.

[@angryblackwomanphd4241]

@@imanisteel7960 I just saw this... but ✋🏿

[@KK-pu8tr]

"I feel overwhelmingly burdended by my own emotions" 🙏😥 omg I couldn't put it into words all those years

[@zainabazam8647]

Omg same! This is healing.

[@matimbantimane3170]

Exercise prayer

[@chocolate82467]

You hit the nail on the head with this statement! Thank you for putting this into words for us.

[@justinehorton2527]

When she said things stay with you forever got me. I still remember back in elementary school there was this kid named Jose and he always wore this necklace his late grandmother gave him. I remembered what it looked like because I had a crush on him because he cried as much as I did. But one day his necklace fell off during recess and he couldn't find it. So I stopped what I was doing and tried looking through the pea gravel for it. I used one of those "dirt strainers" and just took large scoops of gravel and sifted through it. Took 10 minutes but I found it. He ended up hugging me really tight. It felt so good to help him. But he moved shortly after. Just wanted to share something that just always stuck with me. Thank you to anyone who read this.

[@SaharaAP]

When you said a narcissist can make you lock up your heart that resonated with me.

[@TheStarPuppy]

It’s the truth, don’t do the research 😭😭😭

[@saranox7319]

Same

[@ismaeljimenez2548]

Yup. It numbs you out and It makes it difficult to feel emotions like you normally would and could

[@ekowkumasi1178]

🔒=_=

[@ekowkumasi1178]

O.O resonance.

[@terrencerandall3127]

As an empath you should NOT be interacting with narcissists.

[@JosephinaRenee]

She should make a video on how to see the red flags of someone being a narcissist.. i need that kinda help

[@JosephinaRenee]

I may be able to read through a lot of shit but i also easily see the good in people so it's a difficult balance

[@Staciabailey14]

Kinda hard when that narcissist is my father *sigh*

[@Darksphere101]

Exactly. Evil. Avoid them, drive them away, what ever you have to do.

[@theoneondeck]

Oooooohhh chile preach.... I learned very very painful lessons when I was a narc magnet. I thank the Divine that I now know better. Trusting my intuition and vibrating higher, so that I am attracting people on the same frequency.

[@beepea]

hhhh the internal struggle of expressing no emotions bc you fear being a burden and then finally expressing ALL the emotions and getting backlash for it is the WORST!!! it only makes the cycle worse :((((

[@saanyolsuswam699]

Bri Steve This comment!!! #preach 😔

[@TheStarPuppy]

I’ve been experimenting! I’ll report back with my findings soon ok? Hold on! ✨👍🏿❤️✨

[@shanteaki2242]

#Facts

[@andaiibori7205]

Bri Steve Sigh...yup.

[@jhonnieb1390]

Bri, you better preach!!!!

[@l8terivy]

It’s funny. There’s all these people online in the psychic/spiritual/woowoo community that want to be an empath. They fail to understand just how invasive and draining it truly is. I empathize with your struggles. I am grateful that I am not an empath.

[@SydneeCoggins]

I love your channel aswell

[@marievegarie1457]

Omg yessss. As a fellow empath I was so confused about myself and now that I know who I am. It's like a new reality.

[@l8terivy]

Sydnee Coggins, thank you! 🥰

[@richardm40]

Earthly Ram it’s quite incredible. You gotta learn to love it.

[@Ravensidentity]

It's fun to learn how to counter things though, it's draining, but I enjoy the challenge despite all that I go through because I learn, excel and enjoy helping others. A lot of people just want to say they're an Empath and think it holds some magical higher value and it doesn't. The Universe always challenges that and if you're not an actual Empath "you'll lose" every time. I genuinely wouldn't wish for everyone to be an Empath.

[@dogdonut3]

I was married to a narcissist for a long time, divorced him and did open my heart again. I'm empathic, maybe not as empathic as you though. It tore me apart and I was broke down to my core. But I found that the core of me was love no human could break. Brought me a closer connection to God's love. Empaths are STRONG mothertruckers.

[@nyellaallure-bey5852]

Empath: The most understanding ppl, who are always misunderstood. If that makes sense?🤔

[@OnyxOverton]

Nyella Allure-Bey I’m aligned!!!

[@AwujoolaFadeke]

yes, that's right

[@1983shawty]

I get what you mean.

[@nyellaallure-bey5852]

@Kristina Valera it's the truth..💜

[@lonexmo1605]

Yes...its honestly hard for me to make friends just because im afraid to let people in...I guess you have to be special for that cause friendships are really overwhelming for me and im an introvert, but im working on it...

[@guardking8134]

Finally, an empathic KZbinr that talks about how being an empath is for them. Am I the only one that would love to have a conversation with her about being an empath?

[@faithkay2352]

"your way of moving through the world is not how everyone else moves through the world" YES YES YES!!!!

[@queenz]

It's so hard to be an empath and having a narcissistic mother 😔😞 by the way I love you you are such an amazing person ❤️

[@PrettyEnigma7]

Hamda Dabe My situation is the same. It is mentally and emotionally painful af. Therapists say go no contact with narcissist .. but its hard when its our mothers. Stay strong! Sending you love❤️

[@queenz]

@@PrettyEnigma7 I can relate definitely so difficult when it comes from the one we love and can't do nothing about it we can't change our mothers or cut them off I hope you're mom and main will change one day to be better love and blessing staying strong too love 💕

[@cosmic_key]

Yes!!!!!

[@queenz]

@Kristina Valera yes we learn to adapt by time and learn to love ourselves and accept our mothers it makes it easier than to fight back thank you for your beautiful comment be happy always 💕

[@kagome1995327]

Same, my mother and sisters

[@AyyeeIysMe]

“A narcissist can end you” , never heard something so true. Had to learn this a VERY hard way 🤦🏾‍♀️. However, my little heart is slowly recovering lol. Thanks so much for this content, nice to hear others speak on the hardships/benefits that come with being an empath. 💕

[@ismaeljimenez2548]

Me to Destiny. It's been a couple years and I'm still numbed out. I feel like part zombie

[@AyyeeIysMe]

Ismael Jimenez I definitely feel you about that. It honestly took me a couple years to feel “better”. I had to really take it day by day. It helped to focus on the individuals in my life that actually contributed to my happiness. I think as an empath it’s dangerous to focus so much on those that hurt us bc we’ll always feel the hurt so deeply.

[@JosephinaRenee]

To all empaths: BOUNDARIES ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU ARE WORTHY OF HAVING THEM. THIS IS YOUR LIFE, YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF IT AND THEY ARE IN CHARGE OF THEIR'S. YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR BODY AND MIND. EACH PERSON IS IN CHARGE OF THEIR OWN BODY AND MIND. SHARE YOUR COMPASSION BUT DO NOT LET OTHERS DRAIN YOU. BUILD YOUR WALLS AND PROTECT YOUR TEMPLE. NOT EVERYONE HAS YOUR HEART AT BEST INTEREST THE WAY YOU DO FOR THEM. THIS IS FACT. PRACTICE SAYING NO AND LISTEN TO YOUR SOUL'S NEEDS. YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL YOUR OWN ACTIONS/BEHAVIORS/FEELINGS/THOUGHTS/REALITY, NOBODY CAN CONTROL YOUR'S AND VICE VERSA. YOU ARE IN CHARGE, YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE. I LOVE YOU ALL. BLESSED BE. Thanks if you read this long. Please take care of yourselves, do not neglect your own heart. Peace

[@raquelandrade7195]

To my fella empaths! I feel your pain. All love to you xx

[@EmpathPOV]

💕

[@cjones2756]

Raquel Andrade hey, i feel your pain too. (Ha ha empath humor)

[@annabelmccraith7934]

makes me happyyyyy

[@TJ-sr7dd]

Beautiful nubian sister great you are aware at such a young age. I love my mother and she is a empath that married a narcissist for 58 yrs. She's learning with my help explain the discomfort seen for decades and not owning what she truly feels over the decades and isolation. Her husband used Religion used by the narcissist to control her and verbal and emotional abuse, Financial abuse years later. God will give her beaury for her ashes she proclaims at the age of 78. Married at 19 yrs. Old. to a older man 12 yrs. Older and controling The brainwashing and. Lack of true love it hurts my heart for those in relationship they settle for emotionally enslave the empath. This is why I said glad you are well informed. Guarding your heart carefully. Ask God for the spirit of decernment of people. You spoke much truth young lady.

[@Wow-br7tm]

this is ME especially the memory part. Broooo it will feel like i'm living the thing all over again, ppl then tell me that i'm "dramatic" or "not over it" nah bro it's just that I FEEL TOO DAMN MUCH. Plus I am an anxious person smh. Great video. "almost as if they've been designed to destroy you" sis ... say that again so i can let it sink xD

[@TheStarPuppy]

Listen to it so you don’t have to LIVE IT SIS 😭😭😭

[@agadorisabel]

I totally agree. The pro is that you can empathise with people who really need understanding and that is a gift but the memories that help to understand that pain are far too vivid. My husband thinks that I’m raking up the past but it needs no raking, it’s just there so easily! 😟

[@Wow-br7tm]

Agador EXACTLY! Like Star Puppy said u’re easily OVERWHELMED by your feelings. Issa gift and a curse smh.

[@Wow-br7tm]

Kristina Valera SIS !!!! ✨✨👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾 thank you for this well thought out comment. I love your pieces of advice . I am planning on going to therapy, CBT to be exact. Thank you so much! It warms my heart to know that im most definitely not alone!😊✨

[@inquiririddles]

You’re such a special person I love your channel so much!

[@kikimg1]

Yes my empath Sista! I have to block out other peoples feelings because I need my health to be stable. But it's soo much worse when your in a relationship! You feel every bad mood their in and its frustrating because then your in a mood and you can't snap out of it!

[@shawnboswell_]

It's hard to let things go as an empath because it feels as if you are letting go a part of yourself. We already give up a lot of ourselves so giving up one more piece feels like we don't have much more left. My daughter & I are both empaths & there are times I wish she wasn't.

[@angelinaedje5902]

This! I couldn't put my finger on it but this is exactly how I feel. Makes it extremely difficult to let go.

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

Platinum Life Vape and Beauty Teach how to use her gift; and what to watch out for

[@roshiipants]

I'm an empath and I'm actually in tears watching this it's so on point~ 😭 I'm going through a thing within my friendship circle and it's gotten to a point where I have to "weed out" the bad ones bc they're starting to drain me a lot emotionally~ I've been stalling bc I have a really hard time letting go of people (even if they're bad for me) and I always end up feeling like the bad guy after I cut people off 😟 Also, can we maybe just... Delete the word "dramatic"? 🌛 Can we make it evaporate pls? 🌛

[@Kamehamenahh]

Wow girl, this was me in college and all of last year following graduation. That period was ROUGH. But once you can overcome your fear of doing things to preserve others’ feelings and can redirect that energy toward preserving your own, you’ll never wanna go back. Then before you know it, you’ll only be surrounded (hopefully) by people who add emotional wealth to your life instead of toxicity😉

[@mangoyak5766]

I am so glad I found your channel! Your "surviving your 20s" videos, and this one even more so, are exactly the things I needed to hear, and I feel privileged to be able to hear these things as a 20-year-old instead of having to figure it all out myself. Thank you for sharing and speaking your truth!

[@TheStarPuppy]

I’m so happy this helped you even a little. You can do it, you’ve got your whole life ahead of you. ✨❤️✨

[@CarolMuodza]

My only reaction to this video 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I feel understood! When I discovered I’m an empath (add to that an introvert 😭) I finally understood why I sometimes need to nap after social events. It’s hard out here 😂😂😂

[@trueblue2892]

Carol Muodza my thoughts exactly 😫

[@DoraWinifred]

I found out I was an empath after my confusion about being an extrovert. I thought I was an ambivert but I realised I do get my energy from the right people. So technical in an extrovert but my empathy gives me introverted qualities as I get very tired and need to rest on my own 😩

[@1983shawty]

I've actually gone to the toilet and had a nap for say 10 minutes at a social event.

[@annabelmccraith7934]

omg

[@annabelmccraith7934]

I really cant be arsed to even quote what you just said or go into it cos yes, I am one too and YES. I get you! aaaaaaaaaa crazy boom

[@justpassingthruskdjb]

"when someone calls me dramatic, i wanna punch them in the neck." THE MOOD FOR US EMPATHS.

[@lyleea]

Just own it and answer, "Yes, and I'm perfectly fine with it!" Than move on.

[@justpassingthruskdjb]

@@lyleea DANG, i love this

[@lyleea]

@@justpassingthruskdjb That's great! You could also say: "Right, that's exactly who I am. You overwhelmed?"

[@JustWhattaRuLookinAt]

“When you’re an empath, but no one loves you.”

[@esotericdarkangel4971]

Your always loved.. ❤️

[@aferak145]

When ppl discover that you r an empath they try to use that against you and use it to manipulate you. So I have chosen to stop showing the empathy I feel towards others or I show it in a more tone down way so I don't get manipulated...

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

Afera K 🤔🙌🏾

[@tatyananachelle4684]

Can you do a video on being an Empath with anxiety and/or depression? Because a girl is struggling over here... lol 😖😅😣😭 Love ya Danielle 💕

[@JoyceNjabiPrice]

Depression please 😭😂😂😂

[@caribmi6247]

I deal with both of those issues as well, omg!!

[@Deenique16]

💚

[@user-vf9sv1xu3v]

I feel this too. I'm a man that's very understanding and emotionally intelligent, but people see that as not being masculine. So it ends up being an internal struggle for me.

[@praise8221]

The amount of times people have said that I was being over dramatic......

[@mariewelch5073]

I've been "dramatic" my entire life.

[@TheStarPuppy]

I’ll be holding Neck-Punching 101 in the fall semester 😭😂

[@saranox7319]

Or „too sensitive“

[@xXxCherylxXxMoxXx]

as a fellow empath, I HAVE NEVER CLICKED THIS FAST wow that kinda rhymed. ...kinda.

[@mariewelch5073]

Right?

[@TheStarPuppy]

Ayyyy

[@xXxCherylxXxMoxXx]

@Kristina Valera HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[@MarcelWilsonLynch]

Girl I feel this deeply. Unfortunately I love my friends deeply and in turn they hurt me deeply. Which has taken me til now at 24 to realise those weren't real friends and now I have trust issues because I can't hold back when I find someone I like friendship-wise like you're getting all the love or none at all. Crying easily...yup. I mostly call myself dramatic though lol

[@TheStarPuppy]

Agreed, they don’t sound like retire friends if they hurt you deeply(especially more than once) I’m currently gathering data on how to express yourself as an empath and I hope you’ll see it. It’s so important to find quality friends ✨❤️✨

[@MarcelWilsonLynch]

@@TheStarPuppy girl of course I'll see it. I watch all your videos *sometimes multiple times😅*

[@cat-np1kv]

the sound of you talking is like a warm, uplifting hug. Just.. heavenly.

[@sjwells04]

Holy shit. You’re amazing. Just discovered I’m an empath a few days ago after my therapist recommended ‘dodging energy vampires’ to me. It’s changing my life already and helping me process the narcissistic abuse I’ve experienced throughout my life, which now makes a lot more sense! Narcissism is literally the opposite of empathy! Thank you for this video. Eloquent. Beautiful. Kind.

[@michalovesanime]

..you were right... I was yessing my way through this whole video..it's hard.. I honestly hate being so sensitive... It hurts.. A lot of hurt.. And most people will never get it, since im very careful with what i say ( because i know how hurtfull things can be) and most people just aren't....I've never hurt anyone like most people close to me have hurt me time and time and time again... Snd their ignorance while being blessed with not having me be like them.. people want to see me but I just don't want to fuck with them and they genuinely don't get it.. And that hurts even more... Pfffff....

[@TheStarPuppy]

I understand... COMPLETELY. I’ll report back with tips, okay? Just hold on, I’m researching and experimenting for us all!!✨🙌🏿👍🏿✨

[@chyyeaboi]

Oh my goodness, this is put so perfectly. It's the absolute worst!

[@stephyyym2850]

Shit this really how it be for me

[@AnklBtr_Heart]

YES!! Emotional memory!!! I fucking body slammed the wall with excitement. That! I have a lot of memories of feelings that transport back to the exact moment of pain (or fun and hilarity but more often then not the painful ones overtake me) and then there are other times that I can’t remember exact words that were said and it was always used against me in arguments. I have a really hard time remembering specific details but that tidal wave of pain is there. After years of putting up with my sociopathic stepmom I finally started writing shit down so I had proof and couldn’t be persuaded by her that, “I was just being to sensitive” or that “I never remember stuff correctly”. There is nothing worse that genuinely thinking your crazy and starting doubt why those emotions were felt in the first place. You feel so broken. It’s really crazy how validating this video is and how validating all the people in the comments are. THANK YOU STARPUPPY!!!!!!!

[@RiSEME1733]

Loved the Utada Hikaru "Simple and Clean" nod. Haha Random spiritual stuff: Empaths are individuals who actually wear another's shoes, which means they actually can relate. It's a thing that can help someone heal. You're empathic capabilities can be a blessing, if you work them up. Simply try embracing what you get from another and then transmuting it. By doing that, try taking a few breaths to center you. You can be alone or not or meditating, just make sure you get that tingly (positive energy) feeling going over your body. Over time, you will be able to take on others energies from public, television, news and so on, before getting back to your own good vibes. Not dramatic, just speaking the truth. You got this.

[@LetThereBeLight1111]

In An-Other-World sorry but as an empath I do NOT want to voluntarily absorb random energy from people on tv and the news. It’s overwhelming enough seeing that this happens to me involuntarily and naturally. I’m working on BLOCKING people’s unwanted energy, that’s my focus

[@TheRussead]

omg, do Disney coverrrsssss guuurrrl

[@recklessmermaid]

I'm sure she does, but if she posts them Disney will ravage her channel with copy claims.

[@TheStarPuppy]

I will give it SERIOUS thought 🧐🧐🧐

[@tonygreen2058]

Beautiful. Black women I. Would like to get her pregnant that baby would be beautiful

[@aaliyahetc.6687]

@@recklessmermaid how? dont lots of people post cover without getting copyrighted

[@recklessmermaid]

@@aaliyahetc.6687 nope, most of my shitty covers are all copy striked :) People do covers for the fun of doing it, you don't make money.

[@VictoriaNdey]

Have a narcissist as a parent and I live with them. Not much i can do, but you are just spilling the TRUTH.

[@Hannah.Alexia]

Relatable. My advice is save up as much money as you can until you’re able to leave.

[@passionable90]

“It means that I get to be childlike happy for the rest of my life, about many things” this is me, this is me!!! 😭😍 ohhhhhh I love that you said this, so so soooo much! Goodness. I hadn’t ever considered myself to be an empath at all, mostly because I hadn’t ever tried to explore what it meant. But i’m shocked by how much I relate to everything you said. This is how I feel. I had a painful friend breakup that happened about 4 years ago that will take forever to completely let go of, and the “cancer” that tore us away was the idea that this friend said I didn’t care about them. I was insulted and hurt that the way I cared for this person didn’t translate at all, apparently. Not enough to keep the friendship. ☹️ Not to say that I’m taking myself out of the blame, but it’s just one of those situations where it still causes pain and I still feel for the other person. I can’t wait for more of this, gurl. I’m all for it 💖💖💖 and thank you for this ☺️

[@amber_clarvit]

I have never felt so emotionally understood in my entire life until now. Wow. Thank you.

[@theoneondeck]

I love the fact that you are learning this early on... In my 20's I had no idea what a narcissist or an empath was. I am crystal clear now and every chance I get, I share my experiences, so that nobody that I know or come in contact has to endure Narcissistic abuse It's a horrible Karmic cycle.

[@skydreamerlily]

I resonated with this video so much, especially when you said about memory and that they're significantly linked to emotion - that made so, so much sense to me. I'm loving how your content is growing but you're still so you and so weird, keep going!!!

[@chyyeaboi]

This video was too real and now I just wanna cry. I unfortunately have gotten stuck in the gravitational pull of narcissists and I'm still kind of messed up. My resentment level is on high right now, but it also taught me that my empathy is my strongest asset and I should feel no shame about my feelings. I'm trying to go full on empathic thug from now on to protect my heart forever and onwards!

[@Mimidacutie134]

I’m an empath as well and girl I got a terrible memory😂😂 I have to write everything down and make memos to myself. But, when it comes to emotional memories I can remember them since I was 5 years old!

[@justelizabethashe]

Yes!

[@celestewilliams5447]

This whole video was my entire life. Growing up I was called dramatic many times, I would cry at the drop of a hat, I felt like I had the weight of the world on my shoulder. I still have embarrassing thoughts from something I did or said ten years ago. I overthink EVERYTHING and I care way too much for others. Its crazy how I can genuinely feel someone’s emotions either in person or through a text. 😭😂

[@nicococoa]

You just described me lol glad I'm not alone

[@celestewilliams5447]

Nico Cocoa I’m glad I’m not the only one either!😂

[@emilyweaveroffical]

Yes, girl! I definitely relate, although now at 30 I will say I'm learning to somewhat disassociate (not the clinical version) and not "care" so much about people. I'll also spend less time around others as well so I can live more peacefully. This is likely due to years of burnout of attracting very needy people, and being in toxic narcissistic environments but for now, it's what I need. P.S. I just LOVE your quirkiness, it makes me smile that you just do you. :) #nerdpower

[@katierollins5007]

Trust me I know what you mean. I feel like my ability is slowly going away and I feel like I am starting to feel numb. I just feel like I let some people in my life that hurt me the most mentally and physically because now it’s hard for me to connect with people now and how i heard about it was from my friends talking about it but i never thought I was one. Until it started slowly going away because I surrounded my self with toxic people who hurt me. I remember when I knew how to communicate with people so good to a point where I knew what was wrong with them I didn’t know why but I always gave them advice. I thought everyone could see that someone was not happy and pinpoint the problem and give them advice. I started learning later on that was not the case at all. When it started to slowly go away I knew I was an empath. I am trying ever so hard to get back to where I used to be but Its definitely hard. I am willing to do what it takes because it’s better than being numb.

[@dancelifeke]

I've cried watching this... For the first time, I've "met" someone that completely understands and I resonate with... I'm highly emotional and also expressive and I've found it helps with the cons.. Thank you so much for this video! Lots of love from a fellow empath x!

[@LoveLaughLive34]

wow, this was the exact video i needed to watch. i really relate to this. it's hard being an empath, especially with friendships. i feel like people really take my emotions and giving nature and using them to their own dangerous advantage. sometimes i don't know what to do with it. but like you, i'm just learning to accept that. empaths are good people, i'm glad someone else feels like i do.

[@searcyk77]

You have a good voice. Keep singing

[@truth6323]

Your video, has helped me so much, I realized about a year ago, that I was empathic. Lots of struggling ☹️ to figure out how to live being highly empathic. The most severe pain you can imagine, but also the most beautiful joy you can imagine. Time alone is absolutely critical, for an empath.

[@xyourfrienddannyx]

"Emotional tenacity" this is the perfect term for it!!!

[@Atteanej]

Thank you so much for this. Everything you said I can relate to, so much confirmation. When you realize these truths, you find that you have to distance yourself from many people. And boundaries are so important regarding the people you allow to remain in your life. Protect yourselves out there fellow empaths ❤.

[@curliefro]

Yeah, that would be scary for an empath. A narcissist can sniff them out and prey on them 😞 - I think my mom's an empath - geez, I tell her not to watch the news sometimes

[@itzdevii]

so, last video i asked if there was any good to being an empath, i'm glad you made this vid. crack your eye knuckles girly cuz i got some tea for ya. I'm an empath and i didn't find out til last year. sooo many have made me sad. a friend called me "overly-attached. another used the heck outta me. i find myself getting used often because i dont wanna hurt feelings. what i've started doing is to use the fear of pain to build myself up. i started talking and expressing how i feel more. if i'm pissed, i'm bringing the rain and thunder. making ppl feel (to some extent) what i feel so they dont repeat it. this might sound tough but i couldn't just keep it bottled up anymore. i didn't want to explode. dear lord tho hunnee when we find some beautiful ppl IT IS EVERYTHING! I LOVE, LOVE. and this child like interest in things is fabulous! the best part is just making ppl happy and seeing that smile and giving that hug. its just.......mmm. imma go now but before that, somethings i've learned. 1) be careful what you digest on social media. be VERY mindful of intent. 2) your alone time IS EVERRYTHING! Cuddle up with your little pet dahlin and watch all the puppy vids your heart desires. 3) show yourself the love you give to others. love yourself like you would a lover. treat yourself (within budget ofcourse) because (and this is cheesy but so dang true) you deserve that ish! explore the pros of it more and you'll find a good balance. when to give and when to run. you are beautiful. ttyl

[@Squiggle9000]

NOOOOOO I'm late Edit: loving your voice and melanin tho

[@intuitiveempath7315]

I’m an Empath and highly intuitive as well and omg 😮 it’s been 45 years of emotions overflowing everywhere for me ugh!! I hate it and love it at the same time. Wow baby girl,, you’re definitely an Old Soul and you’re so blessed

[@kevinlloyd1641]

You are very pretty, I love your complexion and I'm dark skin too. It is very hard to talk to anyone who understands me and what I'm going through everyone is so judgemental and don't know what they're talking about. Peace and abundance to you and everything you do.

[@jannamckeen4414]

Um...I found myself saying Yyaaasss! Same! Outloud! I am 40 and just went through most of my life thinking no one else understood how I feel so deeply and that I was weird because I just knew how situations played out from the get go. Then one of my college professors 3 years ago was talking with me after class and she called me an Empath...I was like what is that so I started watching you tube videos of other people that were experiencing the world just like me! There was finally a name to my personality and I was no longer alone!!!! I really appreciate you sharing this I show my fiancè all these videos so he can understand why I sometimes can't deal with the world! I LOVE how you stated " I feel like my own feelings are a burden." That is exactly how I feel! Anyway thanks for sharing your beautiful soul with the world!

[@omegazulu5231]

Great video, being an empathy is kinda difficult at times, glad alot of people can relate...hugs

[@teetotee]

I kinda feel like I USED to be an empath... I dunno how to say it to make it be legit but after a crapton of hurtful events, I feel like I shut everything down in such a way that I can barely feel anymore. Still watching the video btw so like, "Lock up your heart", I think that's exactly what I've done. The key's been given to someone I dont remember I gave it to, and I've become incredibly 'stingy' now.

[@comewellpuplampu69]

I literally cried watching this video... Thank You and I love you!!

[@LottieDPanda]

This video gave me so much life!!! ❤️❤️❤️ I started crying at certain points because I could relate and it my heart hurt. 😢 I’m an empathic person myself. I had narcissistic friends and relationships before, that I just had to let them go. It was so toxic for me on so many levels. Ugh 😖. Now I’m just in the stage. Where healing and having troubles with the emotional scarring is draining me. But also working on myself mentally, physically, and spiritually is also extremely draining but slowly rewarding. I’m starting to see the benefits of keeping to myself. I can honestly say when you put all the rough patches, dents, and traps aside. Then I focus on my goal and remember how I overcame a lot of stuff. It doesn’t feel bad anymore. ☺️Sure it’s kind of lonely not having friends but I’m sure i came make some new ones along the way.

[@jamiclifford8251]

She’s so pretty and interesting looking. I love it

[@keyonnaangmor-teye2567]

Wow. You just explained my whole life. Following you through all of the emotions was a lot. It literally almost brought me to tears.

[@jordynb8866]

I get feeling emotional pain on a physical level. I've had this odd bond with this person for around a year. And everytime he caused me pain I'd also feel it physically. I'd describe it as an inner coldness from my throat to my stomach. I also feel fatigued from feeling emotional pain, to the point where I'll sleep for 6 or maybe 8 on end after a painful emotional experience. I also relate to having a bad memory but remembering things connected to emotion or experience vividly like rewatching a movie. I can attest to everything you said about empaths in relationships also.

[@babysaphire87]

I was watching a video on narcissist. I think the women was a narcissist psychologist. She said narcissists prey on empaths. You’re so right when you said as an empath having a narcissist lover will end you.

[@ChideraStephen]

“Dramatic” Let’s see how you throw punches 😂😂😭😭 I like your weave sis

[@dshae2293]

I have a constant struggle with my feelings being an empath. We are more susceptible to depression. My feelings got so strong the other day at work that I asked if I could leave early. It's hard to handle at times. Thanks for sharing this video. You're very relatable.

[@JessNay1028]

Yeah I left work plenty of times one time my friend even had to take me to a counselor because she thought I was trying to hurt myself like bitch I love me I hate y'all and y'all shit😂😂😂

[@dshae2293]

@@JessNay1028 Girl I feel your pain. I am sorry you had to leave so many times though. Your strong feelings will only make you even stronger. Don't give up 🙏🏽

[@oKitastrophe]

i want to just give you a hug. we are so painfully alike. like in tears lol especially the friend breakup

[@katlegomatshwane6535]

I hate how much I resonate to this. It’s so hard to even try express myself because people invalidate my feelings and make me feel terrible for being “too sensitive”. I’ve had to separate myself from so many friendships because of the lack of tact and sensitivity when interacting with me (and wow I’m not demanding... like it’s not like I expect people to feel like they’re walking on egg shells but wow. I just think I’m surrounded by people who lack EQ) and I sometimes struggle and think I’m the problem because I’m the common denominator. It’s ridiculous and hard to deal with. I try to shut my feelings out and tend to be successful when distracted but when they come back. Oh boy. They don’t hold back 😭☹️.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

I hate feeling too much 😔

[@michalovesanime]

..I've been full blown depressed for 3 years now because of it...life hurts. humanity hurt

[@TheStarPuppy]

Keep it in perspective, feeling deeply makes you develop discernment, that makes you create more selective, meaningful relationships, all in all, feeling deeper is a shortcut to better people. ❤️ don’t hate how you are, it was intentional.

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

@@TheStarPuppy thank you darling for the advice

[@smilecloseup]

“i can’t have crappy friends, cause they’ll hurt me” “i don’t wanna be your friend anymore” oh gosh.....if i had the opportunity to talk to you a few years ago maybe i could’ve helped myself sooner, the friendship i had was so important to me, like we were read-each-others-mind kind of close and then she just gradually stopped replying to me, when she or i wanted to hang out we planned and then she bailed every time....a few weeks ago i realized that was enough, and it’s like...it took me almost three years to get here, out of a six year friendship, damn.. thank you Danielle :’)

[@robinnightfall6680]

I know an empath, she picks up thoughts like a regular conversation x]

[@edelineesperance2513]

I'm so happy you exist.

[@magi3744]

Ayy Hercules!! You got them vocals.

[@isthatachicken]

I CAN GO 'MOST ANYWHERE TO FEEEEL LIKE IIII BELOOOOOOONG

[@TheStarPuppy]

Gang gang gang 🤩🤩🤩

[@debbieholmes6441]

I'm also an Empath and I'll tell you, it doesn't get any easier! I'm 63 and when I was your age, no one knew what an Empath was so when you would tell them you were an empath, they looked at you like you just said that you eat cats for breakfast!🤣 I'll be praying for you. Us Empaths have to stick together! If you have any ?, just give me a shout. I may be able to give you some pointers on how to navigate the coming years! God bless and loving light!🛵

[@bellsxo5316]

Debbie Holmes I need pointers pls !!

[@debbieholmes6441]

@@bellsxo5316 how can I help you? Since Empaths absorb other ppl's emotions, you have to be very careful in who you open up to and let know who you are and what your capable of. You should be able to "feel" out whom you can and cant Trust with your "secret" bc there are some ppl out there that will take advantage of you and use you to further their agenda! For example: I had someone whom I thought I could trust and told them that I was an Empath. I didnt know it then, bc I was naive and took them at their word that they were my friend. They suggested that we go on a little trip, just to get away for a while so they suggested that Las Vegas was great that time of year. I told them that I didnt gamble and they assured me that we were only going for the scenery. I agreed and off we went. At first, everything was great then once we were in Las Vegas, they then said, " hey, while we're here, let's just pop in to see what it's like in the Casino." I hesitated and they then showed me who they were. They had planned this the whole time bc they had someone meeting them in the Casino and I was to supply the "talent"! They told me if I didnt participated that I wouldn't have a ride back home and they had all my money in their safe in their Motorhome, you know "for safe keeping"! I then knew they were keeping me hostage to get me to help them profit in the Casino. Bc I was so naive, I thought I had to go along with them. I was in my early 20s and if I knew what I know now, I would have handled it differently! Just be tuned into everything around you no matter how insignificant it may seem at the time! Remember, your Empath ability is a gift! Use it to your best ability! If you have any questions about anything, please let me know! Sorry it took so long to get back to you, I was in a car accident and had a head injury. I'm better now. My head is too hard to have much damage happen to it!🤣🤣🤣God bless and Loving Light to you!

[@lauren-gx1lg]

after going to a social event, i literally sit in my room with all the lights off and curl up in a blanket to shut away all external stimuli because it becomes too much. it took me forever to realize that this was not a normal reaction to being socially tired lol

[@brianamiller1459]

I suffered through severe depression since I was about 12 years old but about year ago, I came to realization that a lot of these emotions I were feeling were BECAUSE of those around me. As an empath, you’re just a big emotional sponge. And although I’ve gotten better, I still find myself going mia from many, many people quite frequently just because I physically do not have the energy. I NEED that time to recharge. Which then comes with the comments.. “oh why don’t you care about me” “why don’t you talk to me”. But it’s not them. I care too deeply. I take on their every battle as if it’s my own and it’s a struggle. And you mentioned the word burden. It is a burden, but it’s also a gift. There’s always that connection with people, wanting to help them (because you get it! You understand, you feel it), you understand everyone is human and make mistakes, you show them the love and compassion they might not receive from others, but it takes a big toll on you. And with narcissists.. oh I’ve been there.. and let me tell you. empaths and narcissists are attracted to each other because WE get that false vision of love and hope, while in reality the narcissist is feeding off of your energy and destroying every part of you. But with an empath.. more often than not, you make excuses.. you let it go on too far. You have that little shred of hope they’ll make a change.

[@annarbanannar32]

Honestly, you couldn't have made a more relatable video to me (I'm an empath) XD In my English class, they started reading the book Night, which is about Elie Wiesel's experience in the holocaust...and I couldn't read it cuz I would just get soooooooooo sad and depressed every time we read it. So eventually I just sat out and worked on other things in a different room... but like now EVERYONE is like mad at me and is like "she is such a babyyy" I tried to explain to them that I'm just an empath, and they don't believe me.... but they don't like LOATH me, they are just a bit annoyed...

[@pettyornot816]

Ahhhhh I am hurting to be friends with you! I saw the title of this video and I was like "PREACH". I felt that when you said narcissists can destroy you. It's especially true if they're a parent, which is one of the hardest realizations to have in life.

[@MarcelWilsonLynch]

Actually you wanna know something pretty funny? I'm an empath. like I feel things very deeply however I'm like 90% sure my brother is a sociopath. Lacks empathy, manipulative, violent. The list goes on. Curious that. Two sides of the same coin. Can you imagine being an empath growing up with a narcissist/sociopath as your sibling. 10/10 would not recommend

[@aferak145]

Same me and my sibling do not get along me and her r like oil and water we do not mix AT ALL!! However I wouldn't say she is a sociopath though.

[@MarcelWilsonLynch]

@@aferak145 I would consider you lucky then lol yeah I just don't talk to my brother tbh

[@manifest2963]

marcelkat same. My brother is a high functioning sociopath. My mother has narcissistic personality disorder and my father is a violent sociopath. No contact with any of them and yes, would not recommend or wish on any enemy.

[@Haven-Snow]

I'm in the same situation but my brother and I actually tend to get along... I think it's stemmed to forgiveness, if you can forgive them for being who they are, you can understand them better and how their mind works and get them to understand you in turn .... That's probably just me though 😢

[@JosephinaRenee]

@@Haven-Snow no you are correct, forgiving and accepting without apology is sometimes the only way to heal and to isolate yourself from pain. Especially when its a family member you care about.. I've had to cut certain family off for their destructive and toxic behavior but there are still many narcissists in my family whom I love endlessly and have come to terms with our differences. Whether it be onesided or not, that's what it took for me to heal and I'm okay with that. Sociopaths are a bit harder to handle personally but its the same thing, detach yourself from expectations and from even feeling anything that comes from that person. Accept your role as who you are and accept their role as who they are. Accept that you can't change someone else, & then you just coexist.

[@s.f.lemanski]

Right when you got to that part about narcissists and sociopaths, that hit me hard because it's true. I'm still in recovery over that type of deal.

[@thedarknessofnana]

Juuust so you know, from one empath to another, I can tell you that shutting emotions out for years on end doesn’t help and in fact makes it worse, so that when you finally begin to deal with them, not only are you still burdened emotionally but now you are emotionally behind your peers in how to deal. :’D Hahahahaaaa... And I’m an Aquarius, so emotional processing was already not my bag... 😓 Well, at least I’m getting the hang of it finally now at 30, after several years of playing emotional catch up... Tl;dr - don’t shut out emotions, find healthy ways to express, find real friends who accept all of you and say fuck it to the rest. :D ...and yes, a friend break up is worse than a romantic break up. Ex-bff of 9 years turned into a narcissist, and it got so bad that I had to coldturkey block her out of my life about two years back. Parts of your heart are lost, possibly forever. I’ll let you know when I’m over it. 😭

[@enwhitaker]

Hi! Empathic introvert here. This video speaks to me. Lol

[@KKFilms-pq4xi]

She speaks the TRUTH! I’m honestly just starting to get used to calling myself empathetic and trying to play on my strengths and be aware of my weaknesses. When you spoke about Narcissists that really hit Home as I’ve unfortunately been around an extreme one for most of my life. I won’t go into detail but it’s been very difficult for my to form relationships and I suffer from anxiety, but I’m gonna try to focus more on self-care so I can be the best version of myself! Thank you so much for making this video Danielle, it’s a nice reminder knowing that I’m not alone in feeling this way 😊

[@Puncakette]

You're honestly my favourite person on the internet 🙌 You're vibe is too amazing 😁

[@kamariahjay]

had to pause at 6 mins in before i started that ugly laughing cry thing. this video is SO ON TIME, SO LEGIT. i am sorta shook. i've never dealt w so much inner turmoil in my life and this past year has shown me no mercy. even up to this very moment. im about to be 26 and in the middle of a whole crisis in my head and heart. no signs of really letting up. today itself has been a lonely, scary struggle. panic attack inducing, hold yourself in a ball kinda deal. the emotions and thoughts feel like they weigh as much as i do and more. i am appreciative of your comedic approach. felt weird to laugh at this, being in the deep throes of it all, but you really got that shit down for me. we gon be iight?

[@315isaiah]

A majority of the points that you touched one in this video was so exact that its scary, LOL! A few months ago I discovered what being an actual empath entailed by videos I found on KZbin (instead of getting my information from my memories of watching Charmed lol) and I thought that I could be one, but this video really solidified it for me. Now I just have to figure out how to control it because sometimes my emotions are paralyzing both physically and mentally, and more often than not just mentally.

[@danielahenderson6471]

Seeing you is like looking in the mirror at myself when I was in my early 20's You're Beautiful inside and out. Just learn how to take care of yourself & love yourself, cause people will take advantage of your kindness. Be you and no one else Peace Love and Prosperity💋💗

[@marjoleinvlogs676]

For a long time I thought these intense feelings were a symptom of autism, but now I'm realizing I'm probably both autistic and an empath, making me sensitive to loud noises and bright lights AND feelings and people

[@shania9693]

hi! you could also be a highly sensitive person. look that up on youtube, they're people who are sensitive to all those things you mentioned

[@KeishaRiley]

This!!!

[@justelizabethashe]

Yes, for years I thought the same thing. Come to find out, I’m an HSP, empath, and a INFJ. 🥴

[@mylifejam2287]

What a relief to discover your channel. All this years I thought something was wrong with me, and I couldn’t put my experience in to words. It’s like you are talking about me👏♥️

[@kaimobley5324]

Starpuppy: To me friendship is entrusting someone with a piece of your heart. Me: So basically Yu-Gi-Oh and or Digimon

[@TheStarPuppy]

✨🤓✨

[@ashleyhartwell7961]

i’m an empath as well, and everything you’re saying is exactly how i feel. the overwhelmingness of being an empath is so exhausting, and i need more sleep and naps than the average person because i get so drained so easily. i dated a sociopath before i knew i was an empath, and before i knew what a sociopath was, and i’m still affected by that relationship to this day. i still apologize for things that aren’t my fault because i cared so much about the sociopath, and i would’ve done anything to make them happy. i fought for someone who was using me for months, and it haunts me. but with all of the bad things, there are so many positives because of the intense happiness i feel around anything cute, and anything funny to me. thank you for this video. it’s so nice to hear other people talk about it. there’s not a lot of empaths at my school because it’s a military school, so there’s an abundance of sociopaths, and even a psychopath (who happens to strangely be one of my best friends). it’s so nice to hear someone else who truly gets what it’s like for me to fight through every day.

[@kitten2412]

Thank you Danielle!! The video I was waiting for(not to be dramatic lol) but seriously I'm glad you made this video. From a fellow empath and new subscriber 💖

[@lizzfarrabbit3126]

I AM SO SO SO SO HAPPY THAT I`VE FOUND YOU! finally a normal girl, with normal hobbies, beeing her crazy empathic self and LIVING LIFE WITH GOD

[@SONAAwareness]

As an Empath I can literally see right thru others!.... The most challenging part is still being curious after I’ve already identified and understood that individual. I’m just going to use my 💥 powers for the good!!! *stay away from Narcissist and continue to ❤️ love myself and others that are deserving

[@rhodarenee3320]

I never thought there was a name for how I’ve felt all my life. Thank you! It’s so nice to know I’m not the only who feels so deeply like this.

[@jazminecastillo2442]

Pleaseeee talk about the narcissist story! I really want to kno if I have experienced the same