They Don’t Prepare You For This - Foster Care Homestudy

[@foteinib.1756]

I don't usually comment but I am SO glad you're posting regularly and doing what you love: advocating for kids in foster care 🥰

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Glad you’re enjoying them!!

[@amandakesterson224]

I love these videos! My husband and I are planning to start the journey next year to do respite care. We're not in a place to take on having a child around full time but just being able to take a kid in for a weekend or even a month to make them feel cared for and loved and safe is doable and something we're excited about. We've both had experiences with children in care and we've seen really hard cases so to be able to be a support for those that can be full tome foster parents is important to us.

[@psychicdiva4907]

For ppl complaining this is too invasive, if you were struggling and your children were unable to be with you, wouldn’t you want to know they did a serious deep dive on the FP your child has been placed with? As with anything, being realistic, honest and open should get you through. These kids often have experienced a lot of trauma before they’re removed. No need to cause further trauma if they’re in your home. ⭐️

[@tacobelle69]

Heck yes! It’s not even hard…

[@MareDubss]

Never thought that they would hit on self-awareness or maturity but it does make such a huge difference! Great video ☺️

[@saratillett5943]

I've been a foster parent almost 2 years. When I had my interview I heard my childhood through a cps report .. definitely can get intense . I was in care 4 times

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

💛💛💛

[@laartje24]

Oof, being from an abusive home myself I feel like I will fail on the first question. But seeing those messy, never black and white situations, both in my home and in homes of friends, and seeing teens actually either run away because of abuse and violence, or being kicked out of the home because of their disability and being "too much work" or because they were LGBTQIA, is one of the core reasons I actually wanna get into foster care, because those are the kids I am most passionate about to help.

[@imjuliewaters]

I still find it so weird that people have to go through home studies, interviews, background checks, etc to adopt or foster children, but if you decide to have kids on your own you just go for it.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I hear you.

[@victoriaramesdorfer-camach2760]

Girl we have an exchange student and we have to have monthly home visits and bi monthly out of home visits... and im like if I had a baby no one would check on me

[@sherylprice5100]

And you get your kids back without the same considerations.

[@imjuliewaters]

@@marissarottaris9049 I don't have kids of my own and if my health and finances were better I would have loved to have fostered kids whether I had my own or not.

[@nomis9913]

Right? I’m a nanny, and in order to work I have to be cpr and first aid certified. I remember sitting through my 8 hour course thinking how weird it was that while nannies/daycare workers/teachers, etc. have to be certified, most parents wouldn’t even know infant/child cpr or first aid in an emergency (not saying we shouldn’t be trained and certified because we absolutely should be, but it is kinda funny when you think about it . . .)

[@dannyvannfostercaresurvivo842]

Great overview and excellent support for future fosters.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Thank you!

[@Dennie6775]

This was great! Thank you! We have our home study tomorrow!! 🤞

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Hope it went well!

[@uis2013]

I just got my license. With covid a ton is not in person anymore. I received a packet with all my questions and wrote out my answers. If she had other questions she just asked but it was definitely not as scary as in person.

[@jenniferkitchenoir281]

Wow that sounds wonderful! I can just see her asking me a question & my brain would just go blank!

[@tacobelle69]

I would have rather filled out questions. We filled out questions and a regular home study

[@tammaraalexander2284]

I'm so enlightening - I thought home study was just a fire/safety inspection until recently.

[@timmonlife9777]

This was so helpful! Do you have any tips for approaching your online presence with your interviewer or do you wait for them to ask?

[@dinayansane7524]

Goooood stuff!🎉

[@susansgalaxy2219]

You gave so much wonderful information for foster parents . 💓💓🙏

[@tacobelle69]

Thanks for the great Video!’

[@sarahmccullough1100]

Are family and friends interviewed as well as you regarding your ability to care for kids in foster care, and what would happen if anyone said anything negative towards your ability to care for kids what would happen to your application to foster x

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Great question! So in the home, yes. Anyone over 5 is “interviewed”. And then you get 3 non family references.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Not sure what would happen if they said something negative, they’d probably have to ask additional questions to clarify and understand.

[@painterscastle]

In the UK if you have had a previous significant relationship that ended eg you got divorced they have try and speak to that person. For relationship That eneded badly that can mean a negative interview. But in the UK I'm presuming same in US the assessors are very experienced social workers and they can usually read between the lines and if all your other references check out that one negative isn't likely to impact on your assessment.

[@jeaninesoard7395]

Great job!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Thank you so much!

[@TheSacredlizzy]

Our first meeting starts in an hour. I’m SO nervous. Thank you thank you!

[@CrossTrainingTrinity]

Kind of random, but is there any generic info or articles/where to find them that you know of concerning the freedom of religion with foster care? I am in a media law class where each week we write about something in regards to the first amendment and this might be something interesting to talk about.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Check your state, county, or agency and they can direct you to it. As usual, it varies depending lol

[@psychicdiva4907]

Why don’t you reach out to your local Dfs recruiter and ask them for literature - usually if they are being raised a certain faith when removed, the FP is meant to do their best to allow that to develop, or figure out if there’s another foster family that is the same religion that can help. As a FP you can bring FK in care to church etc but you CANNOT baptize or do any Sacrements. That’s all I was taught.

[@meschahayes1003]

A huge fear of mine with the interview is having to discuss childhood sexual trauma that I suffered. How in depth would I have to go?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

That's a great question. Firstly, I think you should bring that up at the beginning when you are inquiring and talking with your agency/county. But for me just answering as a non expert, I would say you can just be open that there was that trauma (I do not foresee them asking for details) and the focus would probably just be more on the steps that were taken to heal and continuously heal/cope with. Objectively, they just wouldn't want a caregivers trauma to end up negatively impacting the children. I hope that helps and definitely reach out to the experts to get more guidance. Much love to you

[@meschahayes1003]

@@BeTheVillageCommunity Thanks, Whit!

[@discotoscadisney]

with me, they where very nice and let me decide how much I told them. they don't force you to say something you don't want to. they do wanna make sure you have let go of that piece from your past enough to not have it be a problem when you come in contact with a child who has been through the same. that's why they will ask how you cope with it and what you did to heal from it

[@kayleegoff141]

There is different stages of grief.

[@majiddelfi7219]

Hi dear I love your video. Thank you so very much. I was wondering is there any exam for to be foster parents? Is there any questions from the training 10 session? Is there any fail if you don't memorize the question from the training session? And last Q our English about 40 to 50 percent wich is writhing and reading and speaking do you think is ok to be foster parents? Thank you very much.

[@kaitlyn7695]

So fast!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Thanks!! 3 hours (not counting planning of the content)

[@isabellaearnhardt6380]

❤️

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

💛

[@shirleyhassenzahl902]

2nd yea

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼 thanks for watching!

[@michele1997p]

I’m looking to bring a foster parent in the future. Thank you so much for being a resource

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

So glad it will help 💛

[@beccat1]

Thank you, that’s really informative. I hope to be able to foster in the future.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Glad it was helpful!