Big Sean On Relationship With Jhené Aiko: "It's Not Perfect" | Out Of Context

[@DiorWoodsOfficial]

No relationship is perfect. And as far as commitment, having a baby with someone is a bigger commitment than marriage to me.

[@DaniTheAlchemist33]

I agree ❤

[@bigtree31000]

I disagree, respectfully. Once the kid turns 18/becomes independent the parents don't have to be in another's lives. Marriage is for life. Big difference.

[@jenjen3254]

​@@bigtree31000a person will forever be the parent. A person does not have to be a spouse forever.

[@Dekthagr8]

@@bigtree31000 Do you know how long 18 years is ? Lol. You will always deal with the other parent. What if the kid gets sick, needs long term care, goes missing, is on drugs? Like theres so many curve ball in raising a child. Thats forever.

[@DiorWoodsOfficial]

@@bigtree31000 nah even after 18 you’re still a parent and still need both to make decisions regarding said child. Parenting doesn’t stop at 18

[@keshawestmoreland5535]

Long story short, he doesn't believe she's the one. I've been in Jhene's position before. Dated someone for 4 years who was talking just like this. We broke up because I realized I was wasting my time on someone who didn't want to marry me. He met someone a couple years later and proposed after knowing her for only 6 months. Ladies we just got to keep it moving and stop wasting our time with men who have already shown us they don't see us as the one. You cannot get your time back.

[@kmc1994]

Usually they move fast with the next because they are hurt, by you leaving. Not because they actually love that woman. Most men are weird and emasculated nowadays. So I am beginning to care less. However, I still hope there could be a sensible man out there for me. If not, oh well. My life, my time. Thanks for the reminder.

[@akherashepsutera2013]

Exactly!! I wish Jhene would just move on.

[@incognitame141]

Sometimes I personally believe men just be scared. Most men are just afraid of marriage & feel like they are chained down more than anything. I personally dnt believe in marriage. That shit seems like a jinx & who needs papers to validate real love, just buy me a ring & we can pretend. Break up with me & the ring is mine to keep 😂 word

[@tiffanycross4072]

Facts

[@kmc1994]

@@incognitame141 to each their own. When children are involved it’s not that simple. Assets matter.

[@Kholmi.28]

People's relationships are okay enough to have a child together, but are not "perfect" enough to get married? The logic isn't logic-ing to me.

[@DevonnyDX]

You’ve never lost your home, children and livelihood in a divorce just because your wife “isn’t happy”

[@707tich]

In it wayyyy too long years to then have a baby. My take is he loves her but saw issues from jump or maybe 2 years in to the relationship. Then keep going , break up, make up keep going in good times then break up then more drama/issues. Then recently they had a baby. So for me it’s not like he’s seeing her in short space time and then realise she got issues and wow we pregnant so I gotta be fixed in this becos of a baby. NAH he knew what she was like from the Jump the years of staying is WAYYYY to long and then a baby and he made whatever her issues/toxicity to become his love bond with her. He care for her but they gone through too much but not in a good way. Like WE ALL know there hardships and up and down and you wouldn’t do it with no one else. BUT it seems like he wanted to leave at diff periods but she has a hold on him do make him stay or drama. And he don’t wanna chat out her business. He also comes from a well rounded family mother well educated so that also can play apart with astute/controlling mother. Good luck to them but people take note. Don’t take you long to know if someone is for you and what’s general somewhat of a healthy relationship and get married.

[@bastig333]

Having a child is a natural bond, getting married is paper bond maybe that’s why

[@theperfectescape5785]

BIG FACTS

[@beeha8133]

@@DevonnyDXyeah it’s always more to those stories than a wife just not being happy

[@3hirdrail]

"Marriage to me symbolizes perfection" Well he just indirectly implied that he will never marry Jhene because perfection doesn't exist.

[@bastig333]

Yea and now? What does it change, nothing. They can still be together without marriage.

[@3hirdrail]

@@bastig333 Well clearly she wants marriage, she asked for him to marry her on IG live in 2021, its 2024. Jhene settled for being a baby mama.

[@alee111]

​@@3hirdrail exactly. Two people that don't want the same thing. Jhene is settling 🤷‍♀️

[@Lanafox1020]

Just say that he’s not that into her, I’ve seen men proposing in a month or less to women so he’s just not in love with her and he’s selfish by wasting her time!!!

[@pinkishdiamondz]

​@@lovenakesner242You said a mouthful. Many men operate out of fear. But in this case, I do believe that he's just over her.

[@bgurley1998]

Being comfortable with having kids but not marriage will never make sense to me

[@jeffreyrediel]

If You date someone for a couple years and you’re still asking questions about that person, just quit it. We can’t replace time

[@rethabilenxumalo9742]

True

[@yangasidziya3245]

Agreed!

[@helenogbonna3361]

@@rethabilenxumalo9742wanna meet them

[@helenogbonna3361]

@@rethabilenxumalo9742no wedding bells here for meh they were a team but sometimes it’s like hard to navigate

[@bahamapajamas]

Fr 💯

[@honourrolle]

His answer is all over the place. He could have been married for most of the years that they have been together. That’s what Charlamagne was hinting at in my opinion. If you are looking for perfection just forget about marriage. Perfection is just a moment in time.

[@jenjen3254]

These are facts. Take a break if necessary and keep it together if you want to.

[@geminiaxelrod4592]

Facts! Marriage looks a whole lot different from the inside. You really gotta be dedicated, not just to your spouse, but to the marriage itself. If you're not ready for it, ask God to help get you ready...cause it's a lot of work!!

[@zuibeckpulezon4626]

Dude stfu. Go get married. Leave him alone. Aiko is crazy

[@whyimhot07]

Just remember Charla pointed out him and his wife were together 16 years before marriage.

[@aGwEENapple]

​@geminiaxelrod4592 people in general are a lot of work 😂 and they change over the years 😂 Living life has really taught me that and I know for a fact that I haven't even lived through the roughest times

[@daniellegabay-curry9467]

As a woman , I can’t imagine how painful this would be to watch and hear as his partner knowing this is put out for the world to know.

[@zuibeckpulezon4626]

Then she can leave.....BUT SHE WONT. cos he ain't given her the ultimate yet...she is gonna keep staying for the wedding. And he should NEVER EVER give in or give her...cos she will become complacent.

[@zuibeckpulezon4626]

She will break up and come back...cos it's gone keep biting her soul. Why didn't he marry me??. That's the ONLY way to keep a female on her toes.

[@nicoobrowner]

The thing is, with the divorce rate being so high, I'd argue that if he married her, they'd be divorced by now anyways. She is on her best behavior because she wants the ring. There is that hope. With SOME women, the moment they get what they want, they stop appreciating it and start disrespecting their partner.

[@AminaPhilosophy]

Why? Would you put up with him as long as no one knows he’s wasting your time…just to say you “have a man”. HE should be embarrassed. She should have been gone after having the baby. Women have it backwards. YOU are the prize, NOT him. She shouldn’t be hanging around and still “loving” on him while he strings her along.

[@AminaPhilosophy]

@@nicoobrownerThe ring? 😂😂😂 Is that all you have to give? No wonder divorce rates are high. Women realize that the ring is the pinnacle of what you have to offer. Beyond that, you’re just another source of stress. The men that value marriage and invest in the relationship, have no problem keeping their wives. Why can’t the rest of you keep YOUR woman satisfied?😊

[@jasonhurley2396]

Big Sean that IS called marriage. It is a continually growing together process. We all need to grow as unit to make family work. It will never be perfect.

[@prycelessly]

I know what you're sayin'. She's not the ONE. Lol

[@Quis2532]

Exactly

[@everyonesopinionisdumb]

​@@Quis2532nah marriage is dumb. Yall just simp 😂

[@bobbiec1930]

She’s not the one but she’s always around in my life 😂

[@rightnearthebeach]

There is no “one”

[@prycelessly]

@rightnearthebeach 🥹 Oh, there is. You just haven't found your ONE, yet. When you do, remember the old woman (me) who passed out this free motherly advice to you. Trust me. 🙂🍀👍🏻👍🏻

[@TristanSafonov]

People be afraid to commit to a marriage, but will have multiple kids with that person theyre afraid to marry. Make it make sense.

[@everyonesopinionisdumb]

Divorce means I gotta give half my money. Having kids means I gotta take care of my kids. That makes sense 😂😂😂 women don't use logic

[@Bofa99]

Kids don’t take half your shit

[@dnative93]

Divorce comes with financial stipulations. Especially for the rich. So they marry them divorce , then Big Sean has to give half of his earnings to her. You make that make sense

[@cjjohnson3827]

People don’t have the right mindset for marriage . No one truly understand what the sanctity of marriage actually is. The first time things get hard then people give up and those vows they made are thrown out the window. Till death do us part, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. Marriage takes work and people are not willing to do the work. They just like the honeymoon phase.

[@telishiajackson]

I was sure going to say the same thing

[@desixox]

“It’s not perfect but let’s have a baby!” Mfs so stupid 😂😂

[@vcgomeez]

Frrrrrr🥴🥴😂

[@mufasa1794]

Black men

[@sivialove475]

@@desixox 🤣💯 as if a baby gon fix a already broken relationship

[@86Sentra]

@@mufasa1794*black people and all people

[@gencemosia9355]

They're relationship has been on and off for so many years that I'm surprised they decided to have a child together. I'm not judging. I'm just surprised.

[@ashleyc3080]

I was surprised as well.

[@Kikii1love]

Covid happened.....

[@vanillamarshmallow]

50% of pregnancies are accidents

[@yangasidziya3245]

Do you think having a child was a decision they both came too or the child was unplanned

[@tasmeenbaker9912]

And most of their break ups were because Sean cheated or disrespected her in some way

[@aquin9529]

ppl gotta stop holding other ppls spouses hostage.

[@PeacefullyRounded]

That right there! I bet your comment went over many heads! 😂

[@pinkishdiamondz]

​@@PeacefullyRoundedRight lol

[@FionaClarke]

A word!!!!

[@misse39178]

😂😂

[@creerobinson]

Oooooo this is a word

[@Danreael]

“A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.” - James 1:8 STAY AWAY FROM CONFUSED MEN LADIES❗️🙏🏽 GOD HONORS MARRIAGE❗️

[@Heroasaurus]

This is clearly too personal. He shouldnt have said anything tbh

[@wholelottaelevation6442]

This💯

[@dopefile2341]

Nah he kept it 💯… u should be able to speak your mind without feeling your going to get backlash for it.

[@Largentina.]

​@dopefile2341 That's not what they're saying at all. Jesus Christ, the reading comprehension skills of some people.

[@dopefile2341]

@@Largentina. I understand what their saying… and still don’t give a fuck. Like I said you should be able to speak your mind without feeling your going to get backlash for it. It’s an adult conversation if your not ready to have one then don’t do the interview. PS. Take the lords name out your mouth it ain’t that serious! 🤡

[@l.apastore4208]

@@Largentina.? so he’s not speaking his mind then? Regardless of how personal it is for him - it’s on him if he wants to share and it’s on us to not attack him to divulging his personal information.

[@bellastar1299]

Idk why but this interview just gave me so much clarity about how ppl move. This man is basically explaining I gave her everything in theory but, I can still leave without “looking” like the bad guy. That’s why he brings up not perfect. He knows if he marries her, and wants to leave like he can now he’ll be the inconsistent guy he truly is. People are so smart w/ how they move you around like a chess board. Jhene I pray you work on your esteem and leave my love 💚

[@briana3792]

Oooon yikes!!! Good point tho.. that’s really tough! I wonder if he knows why he can’t commit.

[@brizy___]

@@briana3792he won’t commit because he mentioned all the reasons as to why he doesn’t feel he has to. Imagine having full access to a woman without being married to her. That’s his REAL life. Typical smh 😅🤷🏾‍♀️

[@brizy___]

She already gave him full access to her. He won’t commit because she didn’t make him commit. They lost a baby before but she still gave him another one. I’m with you. Her self-esteem is not matching her songs 😅

[@osirisra1476]

Lmao "I pray you work on your esteem" but you don't know a damn thing about her. How presumptuous and condescending.

[@bellastar1299]

@@osirisra1476 Crazy thing is if you listened to her music and interviews she speaks about this! So instead of using big words think about why I would say something like that! I have been a fan since those B2K days, she has been in a mental battle for awhile so calm down. I pray for her and you, since you wanted a moment so bad 💕

[@bohobabie5987]

I can’t imagine having my romantic relationship under scrutiny to judged by people that don’t know or even care about me and mine…

[@Dekthagr8]

Basically their relationship isn’t secure enough for that type of commitment. They are bonded for life via work, kids etc but he doesn’t feel the need to add that level of commitment because he’s already getting it in other forms and he’s okay with that. They also aren’t together currently because she told him he needs to grow up. Lol.

[@bigtree31000]

For real? I thought they were living together.

[@Dekthagr8]

@@bigtree31000 You got to listen to the way he talks. Plus charlemagne says so yall not together and he just laughs.

[@nik-at-nite]

I wonder how long ago they recorded that new video he released on his channel

[@conspicuous1010]

All of this.

[@okallup8012]

@@Dekthagr8 So you dont know anything for certian and you just made an assumption. Lol.

[@That-Virgo-Queen]

Everyone speaks of marriage as this huge commitment, and the divorce rates, ETC. On why they don't want to get married or wait. Its so odd how people think so far in depth with marriage, but don't put all that effort into who they are laying down with or having children with. Make it make sense.

[@nathanjones4135]

Amen!

[@jasonwynnart]

I agree. Folks act like having kids isn't a big commitment when it's probably a bigger commitment than anything else lol

[@TheCarpentersApprentice]

Damn. Good point.

[@kokoniqueful]

Kids aren’t a big commitment to these guys because they’re only gonna put minimal effort into raising them

[@That-Virgo-Queen]

@kokoniqueful It is not just men. This goes for women too. Women have a bad habit of putting minimal effort into their children and marriage. Both genders need to do better in this area. It takes 2 to make a baby and a marriage. I'm not sure if your saying guys as only men or just using the term guys as in men and women. My apologies if so. I am just so tired of the gender war.

[@eighteenhearts2758]

For him to say this publicly.. says a lot. Jhene, he doesn't wanna get married..

[@marvaaba3929]

He does but I think it’s more of they’re losing the side of their relationship as a couple because of family, careers and their child. Seems like he just needs to step up and call up a sitter and setup a fun date night to get back on the same wavelength.

[@char5801]

@@marvaaba3929ma’am that is not what he said lol. He fasho doesn’t want to marry HER.

[@marvaaba3929]

@@char5801 ok

[@iiSiie]

@@marvaaba3929I think you’re the only one who actually gets it! His main point is there’s not enough work being put into the romance due to everything else.

[@marvaaba3929]

@@iiSiie Thank you & I said ok to o’l girl cos I didn’t want to go back and forth but yes! Thank you! 😊

[@msdkny21]

His answer comes off like he isn’t sure she is “the one.” Men like him always lose a good one because they’re always keeping one foot outside the door not expecting their partner to move on without them.

[@nathaliapunch7954]

Prime example of things that should Just be left unsaid- Sean said a whole lot of nothing, let’s not Placate this situation. Everyone wants to play house without the commitment and covenant of marriage ( let’s do business together, own a house create children…. But marriage nahh let’s wait, I’m still unsure 🤯)

[@rethabilenxumalo9742]

True

[@mesha0932]

I don’t get why people think marriage is more of a commitment than having a child. You can get a divorce and never seen anyone again but with a baby you will be around that person for the rest of your life. Why live with and raise your child with someone you don’t want to marry. He’s confused and should not have had that baby with her if he feels so concerned.

[@hueyfreeman5509]

It's just that there's really no benefit to big sean to get married to her. The only thing it means is now he has to risk half his wealth

[@mommyneedswine]

@@hueyfreeman5509thats what prenups are for. Im sure he has a lawyer

[@phiwelove]

​@@hueyfreeman5509 there is a prenup for that

[@ashash7294]

Because marriage is the ultimate commitment. Not kids. We're not supposed to have kids unless we're under the covenant of marriage for that very reason of kids being a huge commitment. Marriage covers the children in ways they will not be covered being born to single parents. But we're so lost that we can't fathom the correcr order of things. Which is why the world is imbalanced now. We've normalized dysfunction.

[@nothembajozi2862]

@@hueyfreeman5509 Jhene doesn't need his money.

[@JamesTheSecond01]

When you find out that her being a baddie isn’t enough and you need to actually like who she is under the cute looks 🤣

[@Lil08103]

@JamesTheSecond01 shouldn't you know that b4 getting into a relationship with someone and especially before rekindling the relationship? bruh is close to 40.

[@o.t.d_ody_the_dreamer]

​@@Lil08103life be living

[@JamesTheSecond01]

@@Lil08103 yeah but he probably thought all he needed to worry about was gold diggers so he found someone that didn’t need his money but as he’s learning that isn’t enough

[@Lexiannasam]

@@Lil08103age doesn’t matter when maturity didn’t catch up. Remember that.

[@pinkishdiamondz]

​@@JamesTheSecond01Spot on with both of your comments.

[@jonwhite549]

That marriage word a mf on some dudes.

[@tgtgtgtgtgtgtg]

Right cos this man just talked out the side of his neck for 4 minutes 🙄

[@sivialove475]

Fr

[@jaeraee3437]

No it isn't. She isn't the one. She is a place holder. I truly believe they do too much together. If you have a relationship and work together it can be awful. The two may need to be separated. 😢

[@r.barrow57]

I really hope one day soon Jhene finds the strength and self-esteem to leave his ass alone for good. Sean has commitment issues and needs some intense therapy. Hell, he's already worried about divorce and they aren't even married yet. I disagree with Charlamagne on a lot of things but he was right, no relationship or marriage is perfect and both take a lot of work but when you really love someone, you put the motherfucking work in. She wants to be married to him and has said it so many times but at this point, she needs to let that dream go.

[@hueyfreeman5509]

She has a kid by another guy she shouldn't expect him to marry her

[@lindseyp1664]

@@hueyfreeman5509 he knew that when he got with her. He should’ve left her alone.

[@hueyfreeman5509]

@@lindseyp1664 Her having a kid by someone else doesn't mean she's useless, it just means she's much less likely to be marriage material

[@ghostlee9489]

@FreecGodyou’re assuming people operate based on logic and not ego and emotion.

[@bibiwright6077]

​@FreecGod not everyone will admit they need it, duh 🤦🏾‍♀️ and not every therapist is a one size fits all. Therapists aren't like baseball caps, you gotta find one with a certain specialty sometimes. Clearly, you never gave it a chance

[@badass9643]

Boy he just let Satan through the door … should not have said anything at all. Damn

[@ladyb6833]

💯

[@skyexmonique]

Opened that door WIDE OPEN I already seen the comments 😭

[@thelightworker01]

I was thinking the same thing sm

[@Mosk-x6p]

They clearly going thru it. I hope they didn't have the baby as a last attempt to rekindle the situation. Makes no sense to hesitate at marriage but not with having a child.

[@blizzred2143]

You mean a band-aid baby

[@ChinoHills-qt4xc]

Right, all these options for contraception yet SHE still went through with it

[@ticiao]

I want to say she has a miscarriage before they broke up the last time.

[@punchabunchofbuttons214]

It's not the marriage it's the divorce

[@neighborhoodmingo5449]

Dam u a internet therapist huh😂

[@JessicaSmith-fw3yp]

He doesn’t know what he wants. He knows he loves her and wants her around but doesn’t know if she is worth committing to on a marriage level which in my opinion is sad (if he knows she wants to be married). You’re already locked in for life and the work will never stop in a relationship especially with a baby. You might as well marry her if you know you aren’t going anywhere. If you know you aren’t really riding for her like that let her go

[@MrHowse-rt5bo]

The “work” needs to be done within. The reality is so many of us have commitment issues, and problems trusting others. So much so, that irregardless of how much time and effort given to a relationship, we tend to discredit all parts in order to justify our current condition(s). It’s a matter of getting ourselves together rather than finding ways to point out how thing’s are falling apart with someone else.

[@queengfoods]

Great insight ✨️ at the end of the day all situations end and begin with us- many people haven't reached that level yet of looking within

[@alwiya98]

Jhené… RUN!

[@theodora1798]

BIG SEAN RUN 🏃🏾 🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾

[@mufasa1794]

No they deserve eachother. He cheats on her and she cheated on her husband with another man.

[@bixxi9626]

Jhene lowkey the problem

[@traceatroj240]

Every relationship isn't perfect.......

[@Theofficialmystic]

Relationships are not perfect

[@CookinwitKC]

Exactly period!

[@av8582]

I’d be so heart broken if I heard my partner speak about our current relationship like that.

[@Automattie]

Then you’ll look at the mansion and bank account and have a whole seat. 😂

[@osirisra1476]

If you heart broken that easy you would've never made it as far in life as he or his partner have.

[@av8582]

@@Automattie you can be rich and still want true love, something money can’t buy.

[@av8582]

⁠@@osirisra1476 funny, last I checked they were both well known artists before they found each other.

[@fateama7768]

@@Automattie when you’re that rich, love and relationships are the only thing that can make you happy because everything around you is material

[@twonac5058]

You gonna go through the same if married…..the only difference is that people WORK through it! THERE WILL FOREVER BE WORK!

[@Rnice16]

People too scared of marriage not scared enough of having children out of wedlock

[@vcgomeez]

Right!? Like make it make sense. Allllllll they end up doing is looking like CLOWNS🤡

[@UnderratedTherapyPod]

He had to keep talking in circles to avoid saying what he really wanted to say. That’s all.

[@rethabilenxumalo9742]

Period

[@sushmafrapp1766]

😂

[@WordsBeatsAndLife]

Perfection is not the goal. Or at least it should not be.

[@Tinytunes-25]

What's the goal?

[@nik-at-nite]

@@Tinytunes-25A happy, healthy union with someone you can spend the rest of your life with. But also with the realistic expectation that you are 2 imperfect humans and relationships have their trials and tribulations. That will NEVER not be the case. Any happily married couple will tell you that. I’ve heard some say that being committed is not a choice you only make at the altar. It’s a choice you make every single day.

[@Knownimous]

Why get married if it's going to flop? if you know deep down the truth, no amount of threapy is going to hide it.

[@kamrynetia5835]

marriage is a beautiful thing lets bring it back💯

[@krimezofkolor4683]

She clearly ain’t the one 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@daniellemonique4299]

Thts Exactly Wat I Took From This 💀

[@SpiritualLifeCoach43]

Until somebody else wants her.

[@mufasa1794]

@@SpiritualLifeCoach43 or she cheats on her him like she did her husband

[@Darbyjewelz]

I dated a guy like this even wanted to have kids but that marriage? He said the same thing more work needs to be done no arguments basically wanted a perfect no argument having relationship we have been broken up for 9 years now 😂😂😂 I dont play that mess

[@GorudenSenshi]

Is he married or engaged since y'all broke up?

[@CashRulesFool]

@@GorudenSenshiI’m sure he is. Women can’t understand when men have standards too

[@LeeLee_Diamond]

yall hate wen women have standards though

[@williamjones3183]

You left because he didn’t want arguments in his relationship? Trying to make sure I’m properly comprehending what you typed.

[@TheOMGRamen]

​@@williamjones3183it seems so. But to expect yall to have a magical perfect relationship to get married is unreasonable and doesn't exist.

[@MzTyraB]

His responds made no sense. He was sugar coating the fact, that he either doesn’t want to get married or he doesn’t want to marry her. But he won’t say that publicly because he does have a love for her and doesn’t want to hurt her, and he also doesn’t want to face public scrutiny.

[@roaming1996]

He simply could’ve said that marriage isn’t necessarily a goal for them right now, they had a baby and they have a lot to manage.

[@Watercandle0219]

Ladies pay attention!

[@Khumo_Mpho]

They'll make you the mother of their kids but not their wife... I'm scared

[@SpiritualLifeCoach43]

@@Khumo_Mpho Stand on your boundaries. No kids or sex before the ring if thats the commitment you want. Russell Wilson waited for Ciara.

[@iamjamesmeeks]

When you have kids before marriage the incentive to get married goes down significantly

[@daniellegabay-curry9467]

I remember CThaGod telling Jess’ BD to put a ring on it when she was pregnant on air. He is definitely telling this young man to commit since he has halfway already with a child.

[@Bxgent1988]

In my view, you either love someone or you don't. You might care deeply for someone without actually being in love with them. This dynamic is common in many relationships today. People may have love for each other, but that doesn't necessarily mean they are in love. This becomes a problem, especially when it leads to marriage without genuine love. Entering into such a commitment often leads to failure because the fundamental basis of love is missing.

[@mrsvr]

Marriage is where you do the work. You make the commitment and then you walk it out.

[@janellen4278]

That part!

[@alee111]

Thats how marriage was traditionally done. Barely knew the person but family approved/knew them, then commit, then build up the relationship.

[@vcgomeez]

@@alee111hmmmm. What you mean barely knew the person. Maybe in arranged marriages.. but typically people know the person well enough. If ya don’t, why the hell would you enter a commitment like MARRIAGE. Lmao the ultimate commitment … When it’s arranged, young women and men are told this since early youth. Culture and traditions get brought up early .. So it’s not a shock for them to be married to someone they hardly know. They want to “please” families and be financially stable. Point is, big Sean is messy. Always has been in relationships.. and at this point, jhene should do some serious thinkinggg about this “relationship” 🤔

[@sugaray7435]

Big Sean you getting on my nerves now! If this was jhene men would be saying get rid of her she putting your business out there. This is embarrassing to a degree, cuz she gonna welcome him home with open arms and still no ring on her finger. I’m not married nor do I have biological children but I rather be at my current status then be with a man like him. First Queen now Jhene. When will women learn to stop having babies with boyfriends smh!

[@janeeirvin5724]

So true. I told my husband during our dating phase that becoming a baby mama was not an option. We both came fro households where our parents were married prior to having children. He respected my decision.

[@PeaceTea.]

Stupid answer.. just say we doing our thing and focused on our careers and we happy maybe in the future we'll deal with it.

[@traceatroj240]

🔥🔥

[@reddish8692]

Doing their thing for all these years? Just say you don't talk about your relationship and leave it at that. No need to explain anything to anyone.

[@marvaaba3929]

He will be lying if he said that. I think people expect men to bottle up how they really feel and when they do say how they really feel people take it in a negative way and I see why men just bottle up their feelings and don’t say anything at all. But in this new generation we need more men to say how they really feel instead of getting into a marriage knowing that is has cracks in their foundation. You can wait as long as you are ready to marry it’s not up to people it’s up to you and your partner and if he feels work needs to be done on both parts then shall be it he never said he didn’t want to marry but hell he don’t want to a divorce either cos he knew their cracks but still married her cos it’s sounds nice. No a relationship is work and marriage is work in a marriage is different that’s why people cheat cos they know the foundation has cracks in it but still marry and end up having affairs. So he answers correctly.

[@Sunnshineeee]

​@@marvaaba3929people cheat because they ain't shit.

[@Sophie13.S]

If you can have a baby with someone you can get married. I wish people would stop having children with someone who don't want to marry them. They should speak with a relationship counselor. Marriage is a commitment and demonstration of your love everyday. I feel whenever a black woman has a baby with a man before marriage, the man never wants to marry her. Please get married before you have a child with someone. It's about business and modeling stability for your children. He may meet someone with no children and marry them when he's older and marry a 20 year old. The mother of your children gave you the best years of her life so he could marry a younger version of you later in life.

[@KarCar-yr8cx]

When he kept saying “UM” and I shook my head and went “mmh yep”

[@molifts4389]

Long story short he don’t think they’ll make it the distance. It’s 2024 it’s ok to say you love someone but you yourself just don’t have any interest in being married🤷🏽‍♂️

[@Andtherewaslight427]

I am hearing the same thing. His been with her for too long for him to be still wanting to perfect the relationship.

[@sedthefitnesstrainer]

That … 🥷🏿 gave this long drawn out ah story & didn’t say nothing at all but beat around the bush lol

[@ludione1]

marry and love are not connected

[@molifts4389]

@@ludione1 didn’t say they were my guy.

[@molifts4389]

@@Andtherewaslight427 indeed I just wish folks stop being 🐱 & just say how you really feel. The audience isn’t dumb & we see right through this smh.

[@RizzyRapz]

Ain't shit Perfect, Sean.

[@lowkeyloki8832]

Interview was going well up until this point. Should have kept this to himself 😂

[@marvaaba3929]

He is just being honest most men don’t and be divorced in 2 to 3 years cos of this factor keeping things to themselves. You should have talks like this with your partner it’s healthy. Most people keep everything bottled in that’s why cheating happens and so forth.

[@lowkeyloki8832]

@@marvaaba3929 “…with your partner” is the key phrase there. The world didn’t need to know this.

[@marvaaba3929]

@@lowkeyloki8832 he was being honest. What’s wrong with answering a question in honesty.

[@shac2996]

Simple, he doesn’t see her as his wife. He was engaged to Naya Rivera

[@AleeSmith95]

But cheated on Naya also. He has commitment issues.

[@henrystreet6152]

I don’t wanna hear none of this nonsense from him or y’all. Marriage is a duty that they’ve skipped and went and had a baby. Divorce only matters to people who even allow it to get in their mind (unless infidelity occurs. That’s my deal breaker always). Plain and simple they won’t get married cuz they probably shouldn’t have been together to start with but of course they’re together cuz why not. And Jhene has already been married and divorced so I guess that plays a role too

[@kemicalyemster]

"I don’t wanna hear none of this nonsense from him or y’all. Marriage is a duty that they’ve skipped and went and had a baby. Divorce only matters to people who even allow it to get in their mind (unless infidelity occurs. That’s my deal breaker always)." Couldn't have said it better myself bro. Married man here

[@chrysanthemums4963]

😂😂😂 Seeeeeaaaaan!! Tell the truth homie!……He don’t wanna marry her bc when he got with her she was married. He knows the saying “the way you get em….is the way ya lose em” Jhene and him have proven they aren’t loyal ppl in relationships.

[@Khumo_Mpho]

Married to who?

[@1babygirlg]

Very true. It's always fun doing it to someone else until it's your turn.

[@Jdawk.]

He spoke his mind and people are mad at him for doing so. Had he not said nothing, people would still be mad. You can’t win!

[@phiwelove]

No one is mad at him, we are analysing what he said. He went on a platform to create conversation and that is what we are doing

[@B-Easy78]

Yeah, they’re not together like that or he’d be singing her praises. Yet, it’s not official so they don’t want it to look like each other are now on the market. It’s so funny how we think a couple look so happy and cute together, yet there’s BIG issues. People, don’t compare your relationships. Everybody has their own idea of what works for them.

[@higherrealms5309]

Bottom line: they don’t want to get married right now and don’t feel like marriage is the “end all be all” and that’s ok

[@LIN-iv4xw]

HE*

[@tyronelorenzovalentio3414]

@@LIN-iv4xwhow so

[@bigtree31000]

Sean isn't afraid of getting married. He's afraid of how a divorce will ruin the relationship he has with her.

[@bohobabie5987]

Wisdom

[@theenlightmentchannel3842]

that the thing about a marriage you have to put in the work you can be afraid of marriage because of the divorce rate! It like saying your scared to drive because of the accident rate. You still have to take a chance

[@bigtree31000]

@@theenlightmentchannel3842 Good point. Maybe he just doesn't think it's worth the risk.

[@theenlightmentchannel3842]

@@bigtree31000 but he’ll have a baby with her tho?? so she is good for being a mother but not a wife?? I want Sean to make it make sense

[@darnelldarden9429]

@@bigtree31000this is how every real man feels

[@n.b.0212]

If you're considering marriage, just know people change daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. The person you're marrying will continuously change and grow. The things you like about them now, may turn you off later.

[@ashash7294]

Duh. What does that have to do with the purpose and duty of marriage? You look too old to be saying some stuff like that.

[@JAYYESTARRRR]

I hate that his vulnerability became everyone’s opinion on what HIS & HERS relationship should be. Let them people do what they feel is for them! Great interview overall! Love to see us brothers doing work on ourselves FIRST!

[@integrafreak1]

Shouldn’t have answered publicly 😂😂

[@BrandiNaCole]

We bout to get another fire album from her. Thanks Sean.

[@antoniotheceo]

This was such a great interview, but this is where things went left. I hope that they can work it out behind the scenes because I would be pissed lmao 😂

[@stonedphilosopherza4915]

Good conversation, relationships are tough and getting married does complicate it unless you are super well suited. Not all days are good but that’s normal.

[@rhodabaruch4]

Jhene deserves better

[@TwntyUp]

his response gonna burn her draws up, if it don’t sound like you madly in love this will just age horribly

[@vanessaspeaks]

They’re definitely not getting married.

[@deezydzh]

lol that's your takeaway? You assume a man's hesitation about marriage means he and his girl aren't getting married? Relationships are complex, and so is The Male Perspective when it comes to relationships and marriage. Your comment is pretentious and reflects the misguided thinking of Modern Women, which is why so many of you ladies are unmarried today at a rate higher than your predecessor generations before you. Be Better.

[@Lavi_407]

🎯

[@deezydzh]

@@vanessaspeaks lol that's your takeaway? You assume a man's hesitation about marriage means he and his girl aren't getting married? Relationships are complex, and so is The Male Perspective when it comes to relationships and marriage. Your comment comes off as pretentious and reflects the misguided thinking of Modern Women, which is why so many of yall are unmarried today at a higher rate than all your predecessor generations before you. Be better.

[@vanessaspeaks]

@@deezydzh I couldn’t care less what you think. Be well!

[@deezydzh]

@@vanessaspeaks take what is being said, not how its being said - and thus heal whatever pain is most likely bothering you queen. #BeBetter

[@iNC0GNEGRO]

Rare W Charlemagne. Tryna convince bro to form a family despite difficulty.

[@marisstella5406]

NO ! Choosing to form a family with someone that’s emotionally , mentally and spiritually akin to you because you withstood difficulty together is one thing, but forming a family with no consideration for the many difficulties the couple is having (which usually points to a toxic relationship) is a disservice to both the parents AND the child who will grow up in an environment that’s not conducive to real love but only to fear-based attachments. See if you can overcome hardship together first, then have children. Children aren’t a bandaid for difficulties.

[@Don1DJReepo]

He treats his relationship like he treats his beefs 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@nod6738]

Facts 😂

[@thattakomusic]

😂😂😂😂

[@neMgieTV]

Hahahha

[@temi8888]

Chile😅😂🤣

[@CodenameRawTV]

@2:43 all this and ya'll already got kids? Boy if you don't get tf off my line 📞 😂.

[@trnc9082]

Easy answer: we need to stop rushing what’s supposed to be lifelong commitments to validate our relationships for people we don’t know or care about. We’ll get married when we’re ready.

[@mylesfranklin6987]

Yooo so much for “I don’t like to put my business out there”. 1. She’s obviously not the one 2. There’s no way she isn’t punching air hearing this as his response 3. POOR KID! This is why American families are messed up. People having kids with their peers/friends basically 😂

[@theenlightmentchannel3842]

Big Sean just should say he doesn’t want to get married! If you can be with a woman for years & have a child but say that your relationship is rocky means you want to just be with that woman without the license 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@_viewsfromthed]

It's okay to bow out of answering a question if the response isn't going to be the truth. Lying is a waste of time.

[@tainatai.]

We need another jhene x sean twenty88 album❤ that album hits!!!

[@DD_MENEN]

Let me summarize this: HE DONT WANNA MARRY HER 💯🤙✌️ ok bye

[@Queensade1325]

This is what happens when you give a man what he wants and sit around for years letting him play in your face. You would think Jhene’ would have learned after O’Ryan, but no she’s still doing the same thing.

[@DavidJackTumusiime]

This was difficult to watch. No comment would have been better.

[@veraplevnarovski-ripiloski4063]

💯

[@Mizzwurie]

Marriage is whole covenant if you read the Bible

[@s.allahaziah]

The Bible says even if you have sex with that woman a man HAS to marry her. It’s a command not a option

[@AlexMayore]

I've always loved how open and authentic Big Sean is .

[@L-Johnson-Jr]

This gonna be another Eryka badu Lol. I can’t even get mad when BW date interracially anymore. It’s always some trauma with black love. Shit is sad.

[@forwomenorg]

Yeah, why get mad about it? Black men do not desire Marriage and even when they do marry they cannot sustain it, hence the extremely high divorce rates with black women and in all interracial marriages. At this point it’s quite clear why Black women are throwing away hope and exploring other options. Jhene is a future single mom in the making, thanks to Big Sean. He will not marry her because he most likely never had a desire to marry her in the first place.

[@jessiemazariegos234]

💯 Thiissssss👏🏽🎯🎯

[@Katty-ev2no]

He is playing in her face. Lmaooooo.

[@itsmikkaa]

I can't believe he got on the internet and said all of this...Wow.

[@reneetate8373]

Yall stuck on what the world thinks instead of living for yourself take your time big Sean don't let no one rush you.

[@nowwhat1434]

He sounds like a cheater and a child

[@billywelch4611]

He’s saying she’s hardheaded lol

[@IndianaJake]

all his interviews have to be in black and white now so it's harder to see the gallon of makeup on him hahahaha

[@rzuproductions5956]

When keeping it real will eventually go wrong

[@Mermaidlife97]

Big Sean flipped that script😂 “ what took you 16 years” I love it

[@nhdproduction]

I damn sure aint no expert but im pretty sure this mf should've evoked his fifth amendment rights when CTG asked him that question.

[@Fashobet]

If you already going into a marriage thinking about the “what if divorce” you’re going to ruin your relationship 100%

[@hueyfreeman5509]

You have to though because we don't live in a society that fosters healthy marriages.

[@Fashobet]

@@hueyfreeman5509 no you don’t. A man who is unsure about his woman only thinks like that. Sean can put a baby in her but no sure if he wants to wife her is a**backwards

[@brizy___]

He already has full access to her without a ring so that’s why he won’t commit. Notice how he mentioned the divorce rate. If he marries her and either one messes it up, he no longer will have the full access that he has. He definitely loves her but he doesn’t want anyone else to have her. Typical.

[@WrightK372]

Not you having a baby but now there’s a lot of work

[@dynamice9010]

His child will see this some day💯

[@gramirez141ur]

hmmm, thats a tough one. It sounds like he’s scared to commit to marriage because theres a possibility it can go south. Could regret it if he doesn’t try? Who knows.. one who wants marriage vs one who doesn’t…that’s difficult but i feel like that’s something common in couples. Idk

[@TheCarpentersApprentice]

If you ain’t feeling it, don’t do it.

[@gramirez141ur]

@@TheCarpentersApprentice i agree.

[@Frankjustice6]

I am one who took forever to marry my wife,also like charlamagne. Hearing this let's me know how stupid I sounded trying to answer why not yet😅