🇿🇦 'Black Tax is Toxic' & Unpopular Opinions | American Couple React to South African Culture

[@Tripleexel]

I am Zimbabwean & the best way to explain Black Tax is the entitlement people feel towards your money largely because you share blood or friendship. It starts by simply leaving the village to go live in te city, everyone assumes you have money & starts coming with requests that need end. If you happen to leave the country it turns to downright toxic entitlement because the assumption is because you have foreign currency you have money. Parents never plan for having kids so end up parentifying their first born kids which inevitably continues cycle. For every person you help with black tax you create another 3 entitled dependants.

[@thalitha134]

black tax is basically when u start working especially if u come frm a not so rich/poor family, u become the bread winner, anyone who needs anything comes to you. It's toxic becoz sometimes ur family does not understand that u hv a life too and expences to pay. Sometimes it feels like they make u the atm. It's toxic coz sometimes u even get bashed by ur family when u say u don't hv money. My older cousins parents will even take a loan and expect him to pay for it without asking him first. He is a dad of 2 kids, they don't put that into consideration at all. He is depressed as we speak and they don't even notice. It's good to help but not to a point where u can't sustain urself and some families are so ungrateful. It's worse when the 'breadwinner' gets married becoz they send less money home becoz they now hv a new family. the family starts hating the new wife

[@zaneleradebe2808]

The worst is when they don't call to check on you and how you're doing but SUDDENLY remember your digits the day before pay day, it's actually worse when you run your own business coz they think you are always flush forgetting that you need to breakeven, restock, pay employees etc etc

[@thalitha134]

I still cant believe Lumko Johnson died, 3:53, i loved him so much and seeing him here makes me think he is still alive

[@livelikesong]

“Black tax” refers to the tradition of “giving thanks” to your family for having raised you, especially once you graduate and get a job. There’s an expectation that you will build your family a house, (especially before your own), help with groceries, those are the main things. They have coined it “black tax” because many black kids feel it incumbent upon themselves to do all that or they are made to feel guilty and seen as ungrateful children.

[@ItsSino_NN]

Xhosa people mare so unintentionally funny 😭😭

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

We’ve been introduced to it🤣

[@pakistaniwifefromsouthafri5531]

As a south African married to a Pakistani the black tax in Pakistani community is on another level never thought the was people who go beyond African black tax but Pakistan takes the cup get your sisterarried build the house buy mama some jewelry your sisters husband is not working find him a job overseas your sisters son is ready to come with you overseas take him with tou what the hell we got nothing on them shame

[@JeminaKoka]

​​@@pakistaniwifefromsouthafri5531 hey ma'am I work at moja the south african TV show we'd love to have you on the show to express your view and provide counseling and help manage and advise on the current financial situation you can reach to me should you be interested

[@taq1238]

Some family members take advantage. Other than that, we want to financially help our family members, especially parents.

[@ThembaT]

Man, some people have it tough for reals out there.....mina at home I do help out where needed but never was I once been emotionally blackmailed to give out money....

[@taq1238]

@ThembaT Me neither.

[@GameBoyOG]

In my final year in the university my mom called me and said "hope you know you are the one that will pay your little sisters school fees"....like I haven't even finished sch

[@benjiza0314]

Black tax usually affects first born adult children... The one who got a job or access to money!!! Helps the family! Thats black tax

[@zaneleradebe2808]

First born starts earlier but eventually everyone joins in.

[@benjiza0314]

@zaneleradebe2808 True

[@kamogelocarol2217]

Mama i made it!!!! First to comment ❤❤😂

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

Much love!

[@neomontja71]

Yeah black tax is real especially when you are a first born and what we call a breadwinner or you are the one doing well at home. They will blackmail you into doing everything. You will send your siblings to school , take care of them etc and you are obligated to do it. That's why I work hard so that I will not have to demand anything from my kids. The emotional blackmail that comes with black tax is deep. Fortunately for me my mom knows that I do what I can and when I want to and no demands. We have gone pass the blackmail but we have been there 🤣🤣🤣. I feel so offended by going to the gym struu 🤞🤣

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

Struu🤞🏾😅 Sisi, your comment made me stressed like I was the first born daughter. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@neomontja71]

@TheDemouchetsREACT yeah you got it struu 🤞. Love it 🤣. Askies neh ? ❤️

[@lukhanyosoyizwapi9880]

"But daddy you told me not to waste paper because they cut down trees to make the paper, money is paper so it comes from trees.".... I never used that line on my daughter again

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

🤣🤣

[@SiphoMkize]

🇿🇦 black to break chains where there was no generational wealth and children get educated some parents are over demanding

[@tebohoketsise9222]

Black tax is a term that describes a situation that is widespread in African households. Whereby the the first person to get a job in that particular family, or the first one to get a higher paying job finds him/herself forced to meet other family members' financial needs. It could either be siblings or parents' needs. It doesn't matter whether you still stay in the same house with your family or whether you've moved out, you're still expected to fulfill that duty. The reason why it's called tax is because that duty is imposed on you. It's never voluntary. If the family feels like you're not living up to their expectation as a hero, they have a way of making you feel guilty about it. Parents are the worst at using emotional blackmail in this regard.

[@emmanuelmorwenyane5194]

If you want to know how black tax works watch Being Marry Jane - (Gabrielle Union) where she always had to take care of her niece and her babies, while the niece decides she doesn’t want to work. It’s basically the same concept.

[@phillipmhundwa642]

Black Tax will always be around. From generation to generation

[@cynthiadagama9303]

In my family, it ends with me 🤞🏽

[@Lord_Submissive]

​@@cynthiadagama9303sameeeeeee

[@Lord_Submissive]

Haai It ends with me

[@phillipmhundwa642]

@Lord_Submissive all the best 👋. For some of us it's aluta continua.

[@2rooms]

Even in America its like that, if your family is poor is going to be like that period

[@Christsword]

It's more like you're their pension plan because most African countries rely on pensions that are often not paid on time, if not at all. As a result, some parents, particularly mothers, feel entitled to live off the labour of the children they gave birth to. I believe this is due to the country's economic situation. By the way, JESU means Jesus in Yoruba. So this is Black tax from a Nigerian perspective, at least from the Yoruba tribe, but i believe in the rest of the tribe too. Hence, why u see us Nigerians hustle with that get rich or die trying, coupled with by any means necessary mentality. Cos they got soooo much mouth to feed or else hmmm! let's leave that there.

[@cynthiadagama9303]

Jesu means Jesus in SAn languages 👀 these guys aren't Nigerians

[@MthobisiMaphinda]

If you buy physical airtime you broke😂😂....my fellow South Africans you are crazy now

[@brianowies4417]

Please react to the Street stylers the rugby world cup championship ceremony the game was in Cape Town between the Springboks vs All blacks you'll love it❤🇿🇦

[@Mqhwane]

Black tax is the responsibility that comes with being the first to get a degree that leads you to getting employed and earn decent income while coming from a struggling family. You are expected to carry the load and more

[@tlhaketaioe1601]

Once you start working and earn a salary, you qualify to pay black tax.

[@kwezikolweni9385]

"Umntu ngumntu ngabantu" a xhosa proverb that translates i am because we are" It's a way black people helped each other grow when one of us in the family are falling behind But mordern eurocentric education brought by black colonized africans call it black tax because they suddenly dont see a need help fellow black people Another reason its deemed bad is because of the capitalist society that was emposed on us by the British and the dutch that has other people calling it black tax

[@desertflower7446]

@@kwezikolweni9385 respectfully, I disagree. The human condition is one of selfishness, and all too often family.members get comfortable and place the burden of Provision on one individual more than other that person's siblings. It's exhausting psychologically and emotionally to cater to everyone's needs while they treat you like a door mat and build their lives with"savings" they should have spent on taking care of their own problems. I have experienced that as the 1st born and I had to learn to set boundaries

[@thembekadorcaskhumalo866]

It looks nice and helpful until you're drowning in dept and can't take care of yourself.

[@kwezikolweni9385]

@@desertflower7446 you won't understand it's deeper than that

[@kwezikolweni9385]

@@thembekadorcaskhumalo866 then if you can't help no one can force you to help, if someone is forcing that is no longer its just abuse disguised as ubuntu

[@DeeDee-lh8gc]

Black tax is not even that bad, most of South Africans are born into poor family and once you work you have to take care of your siblings

[@Tripleexel]

How much of your salary do you dedicate to it?

[@cynthiadagama9303]

That's not black tax. Helping your family is one thing.. but getting please call me's at 5am with demands every pay day. That's black tax

[@Lord_Submissive]

Don't have kids then

[@SibusisoMvumvu]

Check out the Price family and how their living a good life in south Africa

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

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[@SibusisoMvumvu]

@TheDemouchetsREACT see how cool it is out here a single parent living her dream with her two kids I think u shud really consider of moving.

[@benjiza0314]

@TheDemouchetsREACT and you could also checkout the kids first day at school

[@remofilwekgantlapane4820]

Black tax is you paying back to the family that raised you if they are In need But some families want black tax for soft life even if they have money They are abusing the concept😫

[@nobesuthumooki7936]

I'm the firstborn 😂😂😂😂

[@JeminaKoka]

hey ma'am I work at moja the south african TV show we'd love to have you on the show to express your view and provide counseling and help manage and advise on the current financial situation you can reach to me should you be interested

[@phelisayolelo8446]

Most of us are born in “poor families” first to go to Uni or first to have a jobs that pay real money! Parents spent money they don’t have to get us education they never had so you become the “saviour” the one to build and support your siblings and fam. Apartheid legacy. But our mothers love showing off with their kids monies 😂😂😂

[@ThaboLeshage]

Sometimes you are the oldest in the family, and you have siblings who are under 18 all of them, you going to say they are black taxing you as well?

[@hoddy1368]

It’s African tax rather than black tax

[@chimakalu41]

1:05 i thought black tax was just immigrant children helping their parents back home.Unless something's been convoluted it should not be toxic

[@benjiza0314]

That is part of black tax... helping your siblings like paying school fees, upgrading your family house, buying food for them or giving them money... its BLACK TAX

[@TheDemouchetsREACT]

Thank y’all for clarifying.

[@tspen4128]

I think for other African nations that have high levels of immigration, that's what it is... black south Africans don't immigrate as much- just like African Americans... Black tax in a nutshell represents the burden that successful black have/those blacks that get gainful employment or achieve success and come from disadvantaged backgrounds have to bear...in that all their relatives view them as the one that "made it", and therefore they have made it too... So you become the family's funder

[@chimakalu41]

@benjiza0314 all things considered one has to carefully how many people they help. Burden can be unhealthy.