Blaming a Child Victim for Sexual Abuse

The plaintiff says the defendant is her crack-addicted daughter. She says one of her grandchildren was born addicted, and she ended up raising two of her daughter’s kids. She’s suing her for a loan. The defendant says she was sexually abused as a young child, but her mother beat her when she told her. She’s countersuing for emotional distress.

[@SweetPea1993]

That wasn’t an adult standing there talking, that was a four-year-old little girl who had been hurt in such a horrendous way and then betrayed by her mother who was supposed to protect her, finally finding her voice after so long.

[@dlinfrost]

I wanted so badly to give her a hug and cheer her on, tell her good job. That is so heartbreaking.

[@Floorborade]

@@dlinfrostshe’s so brave

[@Americanamaya]

The mother left the child like that?!?! THATS NOT MOTHER let alone a actually good one or even ONE AT ALL

[@AngelDragon448]

Poor girl I feel bad because I was in her shoes once and I know how it is to not feel safe or who to trust let alone to find your voice after so long 🫂🫂🌹🌹

[@JustAJinx-ci6hg]

The thumbnail alone told me everything i needed to know about the Blob

[@giggles2302]

When mom said her daughter must've liked it, it was the 4 year old baby girl who read that, who felt that. That 4 year old innocent baby girl was betrayed all over again. I feel so bad for Ms Elam. I hope she felt vindicated after this trial, and I hope she's being cared for and loved as she deserves to be.

[@user-pt1cz4ot1e]

100%. My heart broke every second of this case.

[@francostevo9939]

⁠@@user-pt1cz4ot1eI don’t get it! I hear people say the victims who are teens, people say that they probably wanted it. That I can get by despite how gross it is but a 4 YEAR OLD???!!!!! HOW DOES A 4 YEAR OLD WANT IT??!!

[@foxbuns]

​@@francostevo9939maybe dont "get by" any victim "asking for it". if they are a victim they did not "ask for it", it was done to them by force.

[@francostevo9939]

@@foxbuns there are some teens who like that some who don’t. I know when I was 16 and wanted to get involved with an older woman and had fantasies about my teacher. I know a 13 year old who wanted to commit suicide because a 27 year old got drunk and sexual assaulted the poor guy; that boy clearly didn’t want that. Teens who are victimized like that are victims, teens who always fantasize always wish they got down with it with an older person but it is still illegal. A 4 year old doesn’t want it!!! A child that young doesn’t think about such things nor want it. A child is always thinking what they want to do at that moment; what they want to eat now, what are they going to do now, what show am I gonna watch now. A child that age doesn’t have urges that they would “want” something like that! She was 4; she didn’t want it!

[@yonagranger8999]

so you're saying older people "want it"? that's sick and disgusting. How can you ever justify sexual abuse.@@francostevo9939

[@Ebony_Monique]

She knew her daughter couldn’t pay her back in full. She loaned it to her just to have something over her head. Just to add to her daughter’s list of failures. If the money was that important to her, she would’ve said no.

[@raelynm3902]

Not only just that, if you borrow money from someone, how the HELL DOES IT MATTER how you get it back if you get it back? She KNEW she would struggle to pay back the full lump sum and counted on it. Mother is a monster and deserved the rage the judge had for her. The daughter having those text messages of her mother accusing her of "liking" to be molested is what triggered the judge and he understandably flew off the handle in outrage.

[@Lilbadtrinibih]

Funny how mom was so loud about her daughters faults but didn't say once she is a business owner and sober 13 years I don't know you my love BUT I AM PROUD OF YOU AND YOU GOT THIS 😘CONTINUE TO WALK IN YOUR TRUTH GOD HAS YOUR BACK!!!!!!!

[@kuroichan101]

Exactly the mom didnt even applaud her. 13 years sober and a whole business owner is amazing. The mom just wants to bring her down. She must be jealous

[@goingferalluvs]

Yep, that woman came with an entire prepared written story about her daughters life of drugs that didn't seem to have anything to do what she was here for or explain the connection. What do her babies have to do with her taking a loan out and not paying it back?

[@JoltYourLife]

Women turn away from their own kids bc they never saw themselves as worthy enough to be helped when they were in the same situation . That mother will probably die never getting help and her broken soul will recycle into another person that hopefully will be seen

[@onnie.6815]

💚💚💚💚

[@onnie.6815]

@@goingferalluvsI’m just peeping that; seriously, what does her doing drugs have to do with your loan ? That was a great observation

[@briannajon8501]

Did anyone else hear someone yell “thank you” when JM told the plaintiff to “shut up” 😭😭

[@latasha195]

Yes I did! It was kinda low I had to rewind it!

[@onimandisa7304]

That’s the culture. We love to interact and talk back to movies, TV, etc too. 😂 It was so appropriate here even though it was a court. That lady needs to know people see the crazy and dysfunction in her mother and she is not who her mother claims she is.

[@poshgaming900]

@@onimandisa7304 .. again stop trying to put race on everything. we all know u mean black people

[@each6002]

I feel like that might have been her husband.

[@paulconnelly6560]

I am a survivor, and turning to drugs and alcohol is common to those who were sexually abused. The pain and memories are what people are trying to numb!

[@rebeccamartin2399]

Yup, I drank for a long time dealing with that. Thank god i quit before my liver and kidney quit on me.

[@ShesMajickal_]

That and hypersexuality. I'm a survivor as well. I turned to sex and weed. Black out drinking. Ive been good now for over 15yrs and have been going to therapy . Even on meds. yup

[@pennyelliott3732]

I did it all, the boozing, the sex, the drugs... thank god I made it out the other side, the first 21 years of my life were hell

[@josephatherley86]

Exactly, because they seem to think it's their fault,at such a tender age.So they tried to get it out of their mind.

[@melissadwiggins]

0:34 gee, I wonder why she has a substance use problem? 🤦🏼‍♀️🙄😒

[@Floorborade]

Right 🤦🏽‍♀️ poor girls life was in pieces, couldn’t even run to her own mother about deep trauma.

[@ThPwrNThPuff]

In the end, she takes a physical stand to choose not to take anymore of the abuse and walked away from her abusive parent that was in the middle of a sentence, I LOVE THAT. ❤ YOUR ABUSER DOES NOT OWN YOU. So proud of her, SO impressed and absolutely blown away by such a stunning individual. ❤

[@MsBizzyRae]

WOW!! JUST WOW!! the mother told her she must have liked it. How DISGUSTING!! I was ready to shout when JM told the mother to shut up...she deserved that from him. The daughter also deserves much more than $5k for what she has gone through. Trauma can last and effect a person for a lifetime. What kind of mother would tell her child that? Smh hats off to JM, as much as he goes hard for mothers to he respected, he also makes sure to check the ones that deserve to be checked!

[@niccotalbert4378]

JM torched that woman.

[@BelwillCoily]

I kept rewinding the video just to hear him tell her to “Shut up!” She deserved every bit of that 😠

[@niccotalbert4378]

@@BelwillCoily yep, I've been doing the same.

[@MsBizzyRae]

@@niccotalbert4378 yes, he did!!

[@kgames1748]

She did Crack, but she still looks amazing at 46

[@dragastarr2926]

And her wicked ass mother over there looking like she’s on the pipe at that very moment 🙄

[@Nevaeh1]

The drugs were because she never got the proper treatment she needed as a child, so she resorted to self medicating

[@barbarawesby1728]

It's called healing and deliverance and restoration which is to bring about a transformation. Anyone can from any drugs, or abuse, or whatever negative encounter they have experienced. The Lord God is actually the one who makes it all possible and the persons determination and preserverance!

[@anniegantt5220]

As the old saying. I don’t look like what I been through 👏🏽👏🏽

[@marilynwillett804]

The ONLY black woman I ever saw with smooth shiney hair, if it is her hair.

[@sadiescott5705]

When he told the mother to shut up I couldn’t help but notice that someone in the back said thank you right after he said that

[@__idfk__]

As someone who was sexually abused then silenced by my parental figures, this really hits hard. The first time it happened, I was 6 years old. Even at 6 years old, when I had no idea what sex was and my cousin who discovered I'd been abused literally had to explain "bad touches" to me, I was accused of being a liar and looking for attention, and they still say that to this day. My heart goes out to this lovely lady and my most sincere fuck you goes to this disgusting, poor excuse for a "mother."

[@IAmSanaaLanett]

Her daughter is beautiful, my heart sunk because as a teen who went through something similar I get so scared to deal with my anxiety or depression, I’ll turn to something unhealthy. I pray for her daughter she seems like a sweet spirit who is still trying to function as an adult who still in a child like state

[@TheCaitypooh]

My sister was molested by a family member and was not believed....she died in her 50's of a drug overdose. She wasn't strong enough to overcome her addiction because of the molestation she endured😭😭😭😭

[@blackpowerpuff6155]

She didn't get any help at all ?

[@TheCaitypooh]

@@blackpowerpuff6155 Nope not to my knowledge. She was about 9 or 10 years old when it happened mom chose to sweep it under the rug. Afterwards her life slowly spun out of control. My poor poor sister😭

[@silethaking279]

@@TheCaitypooh 🙏🏾💕

[@sereneamani1713]

So sorry for your loss

[@latasha195]

So so very sorry your sister went through that and I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss of her! 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@WILDANDPEACEFUL23]

This is the first time I watched a case and started crying. This woman is like the mother in the precious movie.

[@martinboyle9163]

When your daughter makes accusations against an adult, BELIEVE HER. A man who says a child is fabricating the story is LYING. As a mother, don't blame the child, PROTECT HER.

[@ivorynn]

"i got beat up the first time i told her" and then later on "i thought i could do it myself"... this is so terrible. i hope this strong lady will live a better life, far from her disgusting "mother".

[@peggyreely8339]

Much respect to this daughter for her sobriety and trying and fighting to overcome . Prayers to and for her.

[@NeedlessExposition]

What an evil, evil mother. She thought that because she could gaslight her daughter and deny everything that happened to her that it would work on a judge while omitting several truths about the facts. I wouldn’t even call her a mother with how coldly she reacted to her daughter breaking down.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

When your kid grows up to be a crackhead: you did something wrong in raising them.

[@jacquelynclark3782]

To this day I’m so glad my loving grandmother raised me. I feel my biological mother and I would have had a very toxic relationship had I lived with her. “Rest in Heaven” to my beloved grandmother ❤🙏🏽!! You saved my life❤🙏🏽!!!

[@latasha195]

So sorry you went through that and I'm sorry for you and your family's loss of your grandmother aka mother to you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@prettyinscrubs_rn4883]

The fact that she said that is horrific but the way she is still unmoved by her daughter clearly still being distraught is whewwww! Sickening! Reminds me of the movie Precious.

[@undertakerfanz628]

She's a horrible mother

[@justincoffey2692]

JM handled this exactly like he should of! My prayers and deepest sympathies are with the daughter🙏🏾 I pray that nothing but victory and perpetual peace and blessings come her way💙

[@alexisedge9721]

I have PTSD for this reason

[@sereneamani1713]

I truly hope that you are on the path to healing.

[@latasha195]

I have ptsd as well! I pray for a healing for all of us who have it! However I am grateful for both of my parents being so loving and caring!

[@evilsquirrel5214]

I'm so sorry

[@cynthiaanderson3252]

When I was interning for Court, there was a lady who REFUSED to testify against her BF for molestation of her son. The child testified and the Court had to pick up the mama from home and bring her in.

[@cynthiaanderson3252]

My ex-husband had a friend whose father said she shouldn’t have been running around in shorts. She was SIX🤬

[@Lucidplays34]

Love how he went from calm to explosive. Thankfully that young woman was heard

[@a.walters123]

It should be law, if a child comes to you to report sexual abuse, you ACKNOWLEDGE it or get charged with endangering a minor for failing to protect them.

[@JSee61]

This is therapy for this young lady ❤

[@claudiasanders6008]

This was therapy for me too. Thank you for sharing your story young lady!

[@Jemfan52]

As an adult who was sexually abused as a child. I felt her pain. It stays with you. It's probably why I'm an emotional eater.

[@herminiakawasaki4947]

IAM in tears because it hit home! I was molested by my stepfather when I was 4 yrs old until I was 8 or 9 yrs old!!!! And that's because he got the babysitter pregnant she was only 15 yrs old. This guy was sick!!!! I remember him crawling around our beds at night like an animal in heat. I would tell my mom and they would have these huge fights but she never threw him out of our home. That just tells me he Love him more than she loved me. He molested my other two sisters as well. The hurt never goes away it's like a nightmare that keeps coming back. My mom started drinking alot after he left. She became an alcoholic for many many years I think it was her conscious. Until this day I hate this man. He had more children I heard that he molested one of his grandchildren and the daughter stoped speaking to him.

[@latasha195]

Wow so freaking horrible and disgusting! He should be in jail and registered as a sex offender! I am so so very sorry for you and his other victims! I pray for a healing for you all! 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@jentrification_]

I am so sorry that this happened to you and your sisters

[@kyrajohnson6522]

I pray for you, that you can sleep and have some peace in life..🕊️ you deserve calm and happiness. Your childhood sounds like hell. He is evil to the core. So sorry 😢

[@haven_lady675]

Oh my god I hate it when parents say "I love my child" then victim blame them! 😡

[@deeransom]

Man who would say something like that to their own daughter. That’s just sick and twisted

[@queen.right.ondarlingshado4313]

The mother is so eeeeeeevil to her from birth until now it's beyond shame what's goes around comes back around God bless her lovely daughter

[@faithpearlgenied-a5517]

And there are some people who wonder why victims often don't come forward immediately. Because even PARENTS refuse to believe their own children.

[@LettaRenee]

This brought me to tears! That "mother" is wrong and she did not protect her baby!!!!

[@KNByam]

And still was not protecting her. Her daughter in tears and she didn't blink an eye. I'm sure I'm not the only that got teary eyed listening to her story.

[@kid-ava]

I feel that woman's pain so deeply in my bones, I'm wishing the best for her 💔💗

[@PCross38115]

This case brought me to tears. They both need therapy. I wouldn't have borrowed money from a person like that.

[@everybodyhatesbri]

I knew when she said "judge, your honor" she was full of shit. She thought that making her daughter out to be a bad mother would make her look golden... welp, wrong courtroom. This lady can't even get her lies right.

[@Thatonekidinyourclass]

12:29 we were all thinking it he just said it

[@lt3074]

Wow! This was f*ked up situation! I haven't seen Judge Matthis get this angry in years. Praying the daughter will continue to heal 🙏🏾

[@nick12345k]

Omg I just cried my eyes out that lady is disgusting. She needs help. So proud of the other lady overcoming drugs n moving forward.

[@tabmajor27]

I'm glad the judge took his time with the defendent and the mom is very cold blooded. As her daughter was talking about her past the mom didn't even look concerned. This would break my heart to hear my child talk about a pass drama.

[@spongebob8157]

Not only did she get justice in court, that little girl got justice proving her mom someone else believed her and her mom was wrong all along. Sometimes you can be manipulated so much you think it's not that serious, especially being manipulated by your own mom.

[@Kee191]

This is extremely sad how could you not believe your Baby and let someone hurt her. Believe it or not it’s so many nasty mothers that have done this

[@miaranaldo7048]

I sincerely hope that young woman gets help and clarity and makes the most stunning, healthy recovery. That "mother" deserves to be quietly left to her outrageous behavior.

[@touyatodoroki502]

I was m*lested when I was young by a family member. I cried my eyes out hearing that her mom told her she “must’ve enjoyed it”. My god, seeing that from my own mom would break my soul entirely. I can’t imagine what she felt when she read that. That innocent, 4 year old little girl was done so wrong by that woman and I seriously feel for her because I experienced the same trauma. I hope she can heal from her trauma and be happy.💔

[@SamanthaAbbruzzese]

I was shocked to hear that her mother treated her that way both as a child and an adult. That cuts so deep in the soul. The daughter turned her life around, and may God bless and keep her always.

[@patrickmilton7065]

This was a thriller of a case unfortunate for the daughter though God bless her and everyone.

[@RamonaFlowerz]

This case broke my heart and has me crying. I hope the daughter is doing better and to stay strong. 😢

[@Walawalacookie]

Good on Judge Mathis. I've always really liked this guy. Telling a CSA victim they must have liked it is despicable.

[@bluebird41978]

I love how the egg donor stumbled on her words trying to dance around when she heard the allegations at 5:12 so that she wouldn’t look bad. “She only told me when she was 40” yeah no sh.t, when she first asked for your help at FOUR years old you beat her into silence.

[@teeharrison2137]

She triggered that little kid in her. That’s a terrible feeling.😢😢😢😢

[@Chvyqueen7566]

WTF, kind of mother is the plantiff...SMH!!!🤬🤬

[@chanelSHAKURR]

It’s a lot of people that fear something would happen to their child while they aren’t in their care at a young age. Your 4 year old tells you something happened to her & you beat her? Some of these cases gets me Furious asf .

[@fr0bischer]

8:33 she looks so angry that people were applauding her daughter for any reason. sickening woman

[@dotyohio9949]

I don’t see it

[@genera1013]

Wait. She's 46 and says she's been sober for 13 years. That means she got sober at 33. Mommy dearest says she was on crack for 20 years and started at 19-20 years old. Her daughter was locked up for 4-5 years. On drugs for 20 years, plus 4-5 years in prison would mean her daughter just recently got released. Numbers don't line up.

[@weirdmoodz9236]

I was sexually abused by my brother from the age of 4 until the age of 15. No one knows about it to this day and due to the fact that he is the favourite child, I know for a fact that no one would believe me.

[@lulujanuary]

I believe you ❤

[@karsonpalmerswork]

That must’ve felt so good to say at the end, I proved she’s a liar in court screw you. Good for her

[@Jesusluvme]

I don't think I've ever been so happy to see a judge go off on a plaintiff and make her pay. I feel so bad for the daughter, but she's become stronger even with this case. She was believed and got some compensation for enduring the neglect and abuse of her mother. I pray she continues on the path she's on and keeps healing.

[@Lifewithjazmonay]

That “Shut up” was serious he wanted her to feel that

[@shaeclark1993]

That mom is foul, trying to talk bad about her daughter. God is good glad the daughter has changed her life. The mom got exposed for being a bad mom period.

[@PLEASURE_MeMe]

Her mother is truly a disgusting person. I could never say anything to my children like this and if I ever had a mother like this I would want nothing to do with her.

[@tiffanyziegler]

I love him. He doesn’t like ppls bullsheet .

[@raquelfrazier3241]

Praying for the defendant 🙏🏾

[@erinc6997]

You can hear the pain in the daughters voice. So freaking sad and her mom, telling on her daughter before saying she turned her life around is very telling!

[@exodistic]

the fact the mom is smiling tells me everything i need to know, she needs to seperate herself from her mother

[@Coffycoloredworld]

My mother was an addict all my life and everybody in the family demonized her like she was the only one doing drugs. Before she died almost two years ago I found out the truth that the great-aunt who raised me, which was my mom's mom's sister, was the one who first put crack in her hand. All those years that was the same great aunt who helped raise us after my grandmother and great-grandmother died and she never once told us that she was the one that started doing crack with my mom which was her 16 year old niece at the time.

[@JM_HUh]

The mom is a liar & knew about her daughter’s abuse. I believe she did get beat for telling her smh. I feel so bad for the defendant 😢

[@lady8044]

Some "mothers" don't deserve it.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

That so-called "mother" is a real piece of work!

[@ShesMajickal_]

I was g-r'd and my mother called me a doormat. I was 13. That was when I knew I could never trust her again. Im 40 now and we don't have a close relationship. Ive also been diagnosed as BPD II with manic/depressive disorder and PSTD because it happened 4 9 hours. Yes, my mother also said that I liked it because I stayed so long. 4 grown men did that to me.

[@BlkDymond73]

I dont recall ever seeing or hearing a mother say something like this. he went 0 to 100 on her and the shut up was epic

[@charityharboclicks4298]

May she find the clarity n courage to overcome

[@jpousson]

That SHUT UP was from literally ALL OF US. What a precious daughter that monster was given. I'm so glad she's free now.

[@rhondah.1478]

And the man in the background who said "thank you!" when Judge said it! Loved it!

[@AlexRising_]

@@rhondah.1478you could tell that came from someone whose blood had been BOILING

[@thursdaygrape]

Mathis don't play....especially with NARCISSISTIC NUTBAGS!!

[@lunavz8433]

​@@AlexRising_ honestly im sure everyone would be raging! I cant express how angry i got when the mother was speaking.

[@Magix210]

Thank you for this comment.

[@PythiaHiereia]

Telling the whole country her daughter's old street name when it doesn't pertain to anything tells me EVERYTHING.

[@florpleborp2275]

God doesn’t it? She just wanted her child to feel *shame,* to be too embarrassed to be honest with others and say her mother failed her. Mothers like that ALWAYS care more about their image than their babiesb

[@Juliet_Capulet]

@@florpleborp2275 This. That's how complicit people in abuse situations get the victim to shut up.

[@vc6218]

BINGO. All these cameras and ish.. wanted to humiliate her. Her momma aint shit.

[@wintersolstice4250]

I said the same thing! It pissed me off so bad. She’s a disgusting mother.

[@meganfuller8306]

None of this has anything to do with the actual loan/case.

[@jahnapanui6532]

I was molested by a uncle who molested me from 4 years old till I was 13 and was strong enough to fight him off I told my mother she didn’t do nothing and still had him around me I too ended up with a drug addiction for 22 years later and today I’m 4 years clean I totally understand and relate to this woman on so many levels I’m in tears 😢

[@feuilletoniste]

I am so sorry that you were put through all of that by people who should have loved and protected you. And I am so incredibly proud of you for working through things, and getting clean and staying clean. You are strong, you are beautiful, and you deserve to have a good life. Sending you love and light from afar! ❤

[@cynthiaholland13]

Congratulations on being clean, boo. Keep pushing!!

[@fucouttahere9143]

When I told my mother about my father SAing me her response was to "I'm going to ask him " if he did . Then I reported it to the police and she told them I have schizophrenia ( I don't) and hallucinated it. People would rather blame a child than see the truth. It's disgusting.

[@fucouttahere9143]

Congrats on sobriety 🎉

[@onelovealways527]

Hugs to you!! I'm sorry you had to go through that

[@EverettNightshade]

NEVER blame a child victim for sexual abuse. People who have been abused by their abusers don't wish to see them.

[@asill.6668]

Exactly! My older brother abused me when I was a child. My mom knew about it and didn't care. So I dont deal with either one of them.

[@poshgaming900]

my cut off for caring is 15-16 depending on if they're actually innocent, i seen some shit and just stop assuming they diddnt lie about their age

[@mono_tone6511]

@@poshgaming90015-16 is still a child and ultimately the person who is supposed to check the age is the adult. Ask for ids, birth certificate whatever. But the truth is most don’t ask because they want to be with children. Also kids give away tells that they are children. But most don’t care it’s about s3x and they pretend innocence when caught.

[@pacipwincess]

@@poshgaming900 thats vile of you. Those ages are children, as an adult its your duty to be responsible and ask for ID. 15yos act like kids so dont even.

[@JakNasty69]

​@@poshgaming900Teenagers may do stupid shit sometimes and may want to do things but it's up to adults to make sure nothing happens it's not okay for 15-16 year olds to be with adults regardless if they start it or not, be an adult and say no and tell them it's not okay and leave the conversation you saying you don't care what happens to teenagers just because they "might not be innocent" is scary and it should concern other people as well

[@AlexRising_]

The dude who said “thank you!” when the judge told her to shut up is the voice of the people

[@nobodyanon]

Sincerely.

[@isheenahblake8443]

I literally started giggling when I heard that cus he’s so real 😂😂😂

[@SithBunny1]

Truth

[@Bingbangxox]

I didn’t even hear it until you said something 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@each6002]

The waaaay I just laughed. We, the People, indeed. We know who we are.

[@hollywarehouse4606]

Best last words EVER…. “Screw you”… from the daughter as she walked away with her head held high! 🙌🏽

[@stefaniacontessa]

THAT’S RIGHT

[@natnaelberhanu-i8w]

I think she wanted to say something more harsh than screw but it was on National tv

[@asill.6668]

👌👌👌

[@each6002]

That was honestly my favorite moment. When her mom starts talking you can see something rocks her body back, and her head high, and in a completely different tone then she used the whole trial, she stood up, for herself, spoke her piece and bounced. She's Free. I saw it. That was beautiful.

[@tonimattox6976]

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@MzNoir_Rain444]

She allowed her daughter to be abused because having to deal with the abuse would’ve been an inconvenience to her life. What a despicable human. I’d scorch earth if anyone had ever but a hand on my child.

[@stefaniacontessa]

My mom is the same.

[@princepayne4262]

@@stefaniacontessaI hope you’re doing it okay Chico(a) it’s not fair that anyone had to go through this. I hope your life is going good people’s who’s parents were negligent genuinely deserves the best life.

[@Vero2yu]

I suggest you replace the word ''human'' with creature or monster, both words would be valid, say despicable creature or despicable monster. Why could you not say that? Creatures like those should never be called ''human, woman, man'' so try and understand such basic sense facts.

[@tinajackson6875]

Me to, trifling mother

[@asill.6668]

​@stefaniacontessa My mom is like this too.

[@Ash-ol3ji]

I love how the mom brought this to national television to humiliate her daughter only to be exposed as a despicable person.

[@margearettarmstrong4779]

Amen 💞

[@sheilae.9670]

Exactly!

[@prettylyricsmarie]

Mom is a narcissist

[@francinewilliams1703]

God don’t like ugly.

[@marinatedbeef1683]

Ash..., well said

[@Lizziestewart-j1i]

The mother was quick to point out her daughters failures but failed not address the damage and how she destroyed her own child by her actions. Disgusting woman.

[@paralegalkc]

Exactly!!!!!

[@ShayDarkskin]

Exactly!!! It’s her fault her daughter turned to drugs

[@GrumpySmurf0813]

That's what people do. They tell what the other person does but not what they do. It's crazy how people do that.

[@reddisimmo]

How the mother could see the speck in her daughters eyes while there was a redwood tree blacking hers is just wondrous!

[@ebonypriester8691]

Shes still 4 yrs old, Lord heal her please

[@yildendelta6761]

How parents react when a child tells them about sa is vital to the child's mental well being. I was molested at 4 by a cousin, I told my mom who told my dad and the crap hit the fan. While the butt kicking was going on, my mother held me and rocked me all the while soothing my little mind that none of this was my fault and answering all the questions I had. My dad talked to me later reassuring me again that I was not to blame and had done the right thing in telling them. As a result of the way they handled it I was not scared and felt no guilt in my cousin getting in trouble, when I got older I realized that by them believing me and tearing into him, I got justice and it has not haunted me. The truth is I hardly ever thought about it in the 60 years since it happened, all because of my parents. This story just reminded me of if and made me realize just how lucky I was to have the parents I had.

[@tinajackson6875]

You truly was blessed forget luck, you was soothed after the assault so it couldn't haunt you, I can't even imagine what these poor children feel. Thank God Judge told her to "Shut up"

[@Staceyfry1991]

What Ever Happened To The Cousin If You Don't Mind Me Asking.

[@lisaliberty8054]

Amen

[@teeeteee000]

Bless your parents. ❤

[@yildendelta6761]

Thank you all for your kind responses. As for my cousin, well at first my aunt didn't believe he darling "baby boy" (he was 16) would that but my parents, especially my dad whose sister she was, got in her face and forced her to call him in. When he came in my dad didn't hesitate, he told him that they knew what had happened and that he was going to take him outside and teach him a few lessons. All I remember after that was a whole lot of yelling, dad threatening to call the police and my cousin on his knees crying and begging my dad not to. After that he never bothered me again.

[@JewelWildmoon]

"This is my daughter, who I love dearly." The audacity to say that when your first response to your 4 year old daughter coming to you about CSA was to hurt her 💀

[@grapeyv]

Narcissistic women who let their kids experience abuse are like this. My mum always said she loved me so much but I can’t let go how she used to beat my siblings and I. How tf you gonna beat a 3 year old till he bleeds? I was about 9 years old then, and that’s when I decided I wanted to take my brother with me whenever I grew up old enough to move out. Fortunately DSS wedged themselves in there to take my siblings and I away from my mum and I was so glad. The physical abuse finally stopped but the verbal abuse didnt. Legit when I was 13 and I was on visitation with my mum she was about to break her agreement contract by allowing my sister to sleep over her friend’s house. She begged me to not tell my father but I don’t tell lies and I wasn’t taking her shit. I told her I’m not gonna lie to him. She freaked out so hard she literally threw a tantrum. I’m half her age she had me at 15 years old, she really showed how childish she was then and there. On the car ride home while she was angry driving (she drives erratically while angry) she suddenly stopped the car and told me in front of my siblings and her fwb (she has always had tons of those since before I was born and still now, that’s 23 years of cheating which is why my father left her 13 years ago) that she gets rid of people who go against her (paraphrasing cuz don’t rember exact words). And knowing this woman I’m thinking she probably means she kills them. Cuz she spent like half or most my life telling us she wished she never had kids, she wished she could sell us on eBay, on the internet, tryna sell us on the streets yelling “kids for sale buy 1 get 2 free” or whatever even if it sounded funny she legit DIDNT wanna raise us. She’d spend all day sleeping after smoking some weed and sometimes she’d wake up too late to pick my sister and up from school she’d call my father and make him do it so we’d be waiting at the school for like an hour. Don’t even get me started on the false autism diagnosis. I actually have ptsd and a little bit of age regression but my mum believed it was autism because of the school who witnessed my tantrums, aggression, and I literally cried out that she would beat me if she saw my poor grades one time and my teacher told me “that’s not my problem, you should’ve gotten better grades”. Fuck you 2nd grade teacher you’re part of the reason why I have these issues. I don’t even like to swear this is just how worked up it gets me. Imagine doing these things to ur kids and still saying “I love you so much” and acting like you’ll die if anything slightly wrong happens to them like 10 years later Woman you ruined me But whatever, God says to honor my mother and father so that’s what I’ll do. I have to learn to let go of this drudge or I’ll never make it to heaven. My faith in the Lord is what kept me sane and alive. He knows how many times I wanted to kill myself before I turned 13. And then the aftermath of her over feeding us in exchange for raising us I’m still struggling with weight. The bullying I got in middle school made me wanna kill myself too. But I’m glad I didnt because now I’m getting married to the most wonderful man ever in 18 days. I just feel so insecure thinking I’m too childish with my age regression and ptsd and that he doesn’t deserve a fat wife but somehow he’s all up on me like dogs over fresh meat. I also wanted to be 60 lbs less for my wedding but whatever, things happen that make you gain all the weight you lost. Now I gotta start over AND I won’t like how I look at my wedding. I had to get a size 4xl dress and it was STILL too small. My regular size is 3xl and before that it was 1xl 2 years ago when I had lost weight. Frick I could’ve even fit into a regular xl. So yeah an abusive mother who lied about “loving me dearly” ruined my life

[@vermilliongecko]

​@@grapeyvI'm so sorry for everything that happened to you. I just want you to know that being a Christian does not mean that you have to be okay with what your mother did to you. I'm not going to tell you that you have to forgive your mom. But you absolutely have the right to protect yourself, now and in the future, from anything that she might say or do, and if that means no contact, restraining order etc, then I'm sure God will give you His blessing. Honouring your mother doesn't mean honouring the appalling childhood she gave you. I wish you peace.

[@deetrisray421]

​@@grapeyvI wish for the best for u sweetheart and pray that you experience nothing but love and happiness. Congrats on ur wedding/ marriage. You got this hun🤞🏾💪🏾💯🥰

[@ShannonAdams-d1s]

​@@grapeyvI'm so sorry

[@onnie.6815]

How do you manage to have a SMILE on your face when someone is talking about being molested? Especially when that person is your own child….?????

[@AD-wi4fq]

Personality disorders.

[@each6002]

Dupers delight too maybe. "Hahaha see your honor? She's crazy!" I think she was trying to pull one of those.

[@meicolar1724]

Unless you are a victim...no one can truly understand the impact of being sexually violated and then SILENCED by those who are to protect you. You fight demons internally constantly and are traumatized by the slightest triggers. We learn to survive. Some people have a hard time moving from that point. I felt her pain in every part of my being. Her mom is out of order. She planted those seeds that GREW... I pray she heals completely.

[@ladymary9794]

Preech!

[@LiLi-ow8xi]

Well said

[@ItsSlimK]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@lisasangria1086]

TOTALLY agree!!! I was molested by my male cousin at the age of 8 and then by a female friend of the family at the age of 10. When I told my grandmother about my cousin (since I was at her house when it happened), she said that perhaps he was trying wrestling moves on me?!??!!! Umm noooo!!!!!!!!!!!! When I told my parents about the female friend, I never heard back about what they said or did. It's something that NEVER goes away. I am 50 and it still fxxks with me!!!

[@queeniemomma]

❤beautifully said.

[@carleebhoward1]

When he told the mom “shut up” my day was made!!! She’s an awful person smh

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Moms like this is sadly common

[@amaliomar]

Begging ass people are always trying to vilify the very people they ran to for help. Her and her husband had no one else and somehow she's the bad guy. FOH

[@notfromchina]

That “THANK YOU” in the background was loud!

[@diamondbrown5811]

@@notfromchina lol I was wondering if anybody else heard that , that brother felt that !

[@pressedbypebbles]

Yes this episode was very triggering. My mom did the same thing and swears nobody ever told her anything …. I tried and got fussed at and called a liar and dragged for always making stuff up until things hit the fan after I left the house :(

[@3ch1dna07]

When that poor woman was talking about the abuse, I knew she was telling the truth because I experienced the same thing. When a family member sexually abused me when I was 4, my mom slapped me across the face and told me to quit lying. I never went to her again when I needed her. I'm now 51 years old and I know that my mom is NOT someone I can rely on. The same goes for several members of my family because when they found out what happened, their response was, "Get over it already." My heart breaks for that woman! I really wish I could hug her because I am one of those few people who really knows what she has been and is going through.

[@hannibalspectre637]

I’m so sorry that happened to you. I wish you nothing but the best for the rest of your life. Sending love.

[@spirals73]

Our generation has really been screwed over by the adults in our lives.

[@carolwilliams8840]

I'm so sorry for the terrible experiences you went through. I hope that you will completely heal emotionally.

[@ghostkid252]

I'm sorry, friend. When I was little, my dad and mom split but because I was an ill child, a judge placed me in the care of my paternal grandparents. My dad went on to meet a new woman and he had three kids by her, two of them were my sisters who were molested by my grandpa (that I was living with). When my dad and step mom found out, they never brought my sisters to that house again stating "no child of mine will ever see that man again". ...but they left me there. I was molested for years by the man and beaten physically to the point I slept under my bed most nights just to feel protected. I went no contact with my dad and step mom and have been trying different therapists. Thankfully, I have a great relationship with one of my sisters as well as a number of friends I consider my family. It really sucks when parents aren't parents, especially in the years we develop the most in. In our early years, we're objectified and hurt, then we have to spend the rest of our lives trying to undo the damage.

[@3ch1dna07]

@@ghostkid252 I want you to know that I see you and I love and care about you. We are better than those who raised us. Never forget that.❤️

[@novembrluv]

Defendant's spirit is still 4 years old. When she expresses herself, I can picture exactly how she tried to tell her mom when she was a baby. My heart is breaking. I want to hug her and tell her, it's going to be ok. Edit: My most liked comment on KZbin. It's terrible it's for such a case as this, but I am glad so many can sympathize with the pain of this woman. May God be with us all 🙏🏾

[@ariamarshall5161]

EXACTLY what I said…! That was a 4yo baby standing there. Incredibly sad! Wow. My heartbreaks for so many innocent children & adults who were violated as children.

[@1LovedbyHim]

Wow! That’s what I said also. It shows that healing hasn’t taken place…understandably so. She’s still stuck back in the time of those awful and traumatic experiences. I wish I could hug her also!

[@trinidazzling684]

So true.

[@IagainstI.]

Having a mother that has invalidated her for her whole life keeps her stuck in that place. Poor baby.

[@kayamen2021]

Amen 🙏🏼 her mom probably a narcissist. They are emotionless and they are good actors

[@DaisySmile90]

My heart broke for the defendant. She’s still 4 years old at heart. Omg the trauma. She’s traumatized. 😢

[@101candlelight6]

Mine too, so sad, I hope she will get the help she need

[@keeper6458]

Absolutely! God bless her

[@sobrietygiveslife9181]

I pray she gets to heal her inner child so she can be the woman she's meant to be

[@tvc153]

Great comment. It's true. She even communicates like a little girl.

[@xopinkieox]

Whats crazy is that this entire comment section of this video has more respect and love for that young woman than her own mother does. Her mom is awful and i hope she got that restraining order

[@MunchiieXO]

This is all too common. I was r*ped and m*lested when I was six through to about 10 when my mother got a divorce and started an affair with another man who also r*ped me 11 through 17/18. My mom kicked me out at 17 and I had no where to go so I went to the second ones house. He told me to keep it secret, then told my mom years later I came on to him and “tried” him. She believes him. Brought him to my resident and told him to his face she doesn’t believe me. I haven’t spoken to my mother in 3 years and will continue to not speak to her for the rest of my life.

[@Jenny-uv4dl]

I'm so sorry some of same things happened to me I hope you begin your recovery I haven't spoken to my moms in 12yrs good to you for STANDING UP

[@latasha195]

Wow that's so horrible and sickening! I'm so sorry you're going through that! I'm praying for a healing and do not blame you for not speaking to your disgusting and evil mother who chose men over you!

[@ylp3able]

I'm so sorry this happened to you 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@ibabechanel]

I shed tears at your comment. Love, hugs, peace, blessings, prosperity, security, continuous hope and lots of light, ease of living I send your way. 🫂🫂🫂🫂💞💞💞🍀🍀🍀

[@youngreap1564]

I’m sorry baby girl. I hope you can heal baby. It’s unfortunate that your mom was attracting those type of people that says a lot about herself

[@YAHsaves777]

If this “mother” was protective over her daughter like she was her money the daughter would be a well adjusted adult.

[@kakishisfriend1126]

Right! Cared way more about rhat money than her own child

[@cleverB634]

Amen

[@stefaniacontessa]

AMEN

[@lyndelljones5483]

Tell it!!!

[@jamiehendrix8657]

EXACTLY!!! She should've made sure her child left this world the way she came. Just like she wanted her money the way she gave it!!

[@Ash-ol3ji]

The mom is disgusting. I believe she beat her daughter to silence her from exposing the abuse. It's sickening how some parents normalize and perpetuate abuse rather than break the cycle. Prayers up for the daughter and all childhood trauma survivors.

[@gospel4303]

Exactly! The mom is a HORRIBLE person. Her attempt to degrade her daughter backfired. She ruined her daughter’s life. I’m happy she was able to kick her addiction. The mom probably turned her children against her as well

[@frankmiller6177]

I agree straight garbage of a mother.. how you smiling when your daughter is saying she's been malistied.

[@Orlandoloc83]

U believe a beating makes sense smh 🤦‍♂️ yah people will believe anything

[@Orlandoloc83]

Her plan all alone was to keep that 5k lml mom got out hustle by a ex crack head lml

[@marlayneboblett1267]

I totally agree. No mother in her right mind would ever tell their child they must have enjoyed sexual abuse. As a Judge, I would not make that woman pay a dime to her mother.

[@Nexistepas67]

My mother was similar to this. She is 60 now and has terminal lung cancer and is begging me to come see her. I refused.

[@lois3779]

Forgiveness and let God take it from there.

[@babydollssoapsnthingz8225]

You don't have to see her but forgiveness doesn't require reconnection. It'll be ok.

[@karliereddfan]

​@lois3779 you can forgive and still have enough dignity and self-respect to hold the boundary. Everybody dies. She doesn't deserve to reopen herself to share a pain with someone diabolical.

[@Mar-enfrance]

If you don't see her, try not to blame yourself when she goes. Every person dies. Hope you find peace somehow. Good luck.

[@HadassaMoon144]

Is that this person's fault that their mother has cancer. If she was an abusive toxic horrible parent, no child owes her anything!

[@kathyclaudiochandler]

That’s exactly why when I hear people say, “but that’s your mother and you need to honor her…” most have not walked that daughter’s life and have no business judging her. There are plenty of mothers that should not have been mothers and she is the prime example.

[@cocobernard6634]

Facts I agree

[@ibabechanel]

EXACTLY.

[@pammays7800]

Well said.

[@CHT420]

My mother should never have been a mother‼️

[@annc6306]

You are Soo right. Many mother's take their unresolved anger, hurt and pain out on their children unapologetically. I know about this kinda mother all too well.

[@dloveman]

I thank God for my mother and father. I was a child victim. He (the predator) sat his ass in jail for over 30 years.

[@supremeclientele1356]

Blessings to you & your family 🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@dloveman]

I appreciate it and my family. My parents made sure that received therapeutic help.

[@jenaewhite5869]

I wish I could have told my family then, I know he’d be 6 ft under 😅 but I’m so happy you were able to get justice and the help you needed after 🫶🏾💕

[@bezmoney]

God Bless You And Nothing But Success & Prosperity Moving Forward

[@ShannonSoSweeet]

@@dloveman hi, do you feel like the therapy worked?

[@user-pt1cz4ot1e]

That poor girl. 46 and 4 at the same time. That vile woman destroyed her own child. I hope she didn’t destroy her grandchildren as well. Horrible person. I hope her daughter has a beautiful rest of her life and gets to have good relationships with her own children. She didn’t deserve any of that. I’m so proud of her sobriety.

[@iamdiamondtv]

This broke my heart. At the end the mom says "she tried to pay me so I can drop my case" That goes to show you she wanted to go on TV to humiliate her daughter but little did she know she was humiliating herself! She's evil! Whether or not her daughter went somewhere willingly doesn't mean you can't get hurt. She's an idiot!

[@schoolgirlsp5142]

Sadly some Mothers blame the child when their boy got abused the child my Mom blamed me not my Dad

[@iamdiamondtv]

@@schoolgirlsp5142 That's sad! I'm sorry you had to go through that smh. I pray you are stronger than your circumstances and you break the cycles of your family. I am breaking them now ❤️‍🩹

[@brennathecatlover4360]

I’m sure she abused her too but doesn’t wanna admit it

[@rayaee]

​@@brennathecatlover4360 That's the only reason somebody would beat their child after hearing something horrible happened to them!

[@lydialemaster6851]

And her momma was mad that she went to one of her boyfriends. The daughter was on drugs and knew she could get money from this man and probably figured why not after what she had suffered at his hands

[@Big_Bake]

Even after reading what the doctor said her words did to her daughter, that evil witch couldn't even apologize for what she said.. she just kept doubling down. But that's how our people are of that generation. They don't know how to admit fault. Their idea of healing is inviting you over to get something to eat and acting like nothing ever happened smh

[@1234532785]

Now that’s a word!!!!

[@suminahmcfadden4350]

You're so right smh!

[@tavaresprice]

Facts times 1000

[@opulence_prime]

Some of them just never learned the right tools to cope and have suffered the same abuse. It’s not an excuse. I feel like we have to leave ppl like her to themselves now that we know the damage they can cause.

[@jamescash887]

It’s not just black people (if that’s who you were referring to). The older people in my family do this exact thing. Be emotionless and pretend like nothing ever happened. It’s definitely a generational thing that spans (I have to assume) many cultures in America.