Break Up with Toxic Cycles for Good (Part 1) | Episode 224 | Conversations with John and Lisa Bevere

[@elamarie2794]

My marriage has so many unhealthy toxic cycles but God is a big God please join me in prayer

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

I love that John said he had to go on a 4 day fast. You don’t hear much about leaving and getting alone with God.

[@Alettertothechurch]

Expose electromagnetic targeting and organized harassment in the U.S

[@kellycarr8]

First time listener. I am uncomfortable in the cycle of drinking😩 Woke up this morning talking to the Lord about it once again. Opened KZbin and here you are! I have been around this mountain so many times and I don’t want to die in this wilderness. I love what Lisa said about dreaming your way into the future. I’ve started that in my journaling and spending some more time praying in the Spirit. Looking forward to some practical wisdom to break this cycle!! My addiction is to God❣️❤️‍🔥🔥

[@darcyd2680]

May God gives you strength to face it.

[@marikareynolds4048]

I am praying for you and your recovery in Jesus name!

[@Team_Blackledge]

Praying for you, I was in the same place almost 8 months ago… daily drinking for 7-8 years and felt so stuck and hopeless. I started attending Celebrate Recovery at my church and it changed my life. I couldn’t go a day without drinking and now I’m almost 8 months sober. Accountability, community, and transparency about my addiction helped me break free. God hasn’t delivered me from temptation but I rely on Him every day to help me starve my addiction. I encourage you to check it out, celebrate recovery is country-wide and an amazing resource. It’s a forever family of mutually broken people who show up for each other to help break these cycles!! God Bless you!

[@melissazayas4106]

Been there! There is freedom! He has you! Keep seeking Him and refuse to give up! Praying for your freedom,friend!

[@emmareynolds6345]

Be encouraged. Freedom is yours if you let go and let God

[@paulothx138]

Man, you guys are married since the 80s, that's amazing.

[@whitneygonzalez350]

Love the restless reference of Esau. 👌🏾

[@365joy]

I went to bed last night crying out to God to bring revelation regarding one of the strongholds in my life.. I woke up and this podcast was there. It was a Now moment of I've circled this mountain long enough!! Beyond looking forward to part 2!!!

[@thekingdomadvanceeurope]

Lisa is looking so good with her new hair

[@joedaw3003]

I wish there was more credit given to the Grace of God.

[@kathrynnewton8721]

Thanks for your vulnerability John. Not easy for a leader to bring sexual issues into the public domain. Bless you!

[@infinitybeyond8417]

Even though the devil tries to deform you,its always Christ and Grace who will transform you🦁💓

[@roxanneadamczyk8889]

This is so needed! I believe one reason many feel trapped is because, they sincerely do not know how to change patterns on a practical level. If they are in a toxic, controlling, narcissistic or abusive marriage it is difficult because of the controlling and their spirit being broken. There is a need for healing in order to change patterns sometimes. How does a woman, with children, change patterns that is in an emotionally, mentally, psychologically, mind games, narcissistic relationship change patterns with a "Christian" husband who wants to keep her in these patterns. Many women end up staying in these relationships stuck in these patterns they desperately want to get out of while standing in faith, on the word, praying, fasting, declaring, annointing, forgiving 70×7, repaying evil with kindness, walking in love and the fruits of the spirit etc. They hear how God hates divorce. They end up at doormats as they "turn the other cheek" and forgive over & over. The church does not address this. Can you address this and share practical ways to help these women (or men) with patterns they have no way of controlling because the spouses want to keep them there. Most sermons are targetted towards healthy loving families. Please address this for the many who are truly stuck and want to change the patterns & cycles of abuse. Please also address, did Jesus have boundaries? Did Jesus preach boundaries when he said turn the other cheek, pray for them, forgive over & over, give them your cloak etc. Thanku so much for adressing so much that is not preached and for speaking the truth..❤

[@melmisquitta9960]

Wow you described my circumstances exactly .. apart from I would say my husband believes in Jesus but isn't a Christian or born again. We have finally separated for 18 months but I'm still stuck in the toxic cycle as he won't end the marriage... no Christian wants to advocate divorce but there really is little biblical teaching on addressing these types of marriages

[@michealsilvey1124]

Praying 🙏. Well explained. You may want to look at Kris Rice ministries

[@bella_greenbean441]

You sound like me. I’ve been married for 25 years to a Christian and we have 3 children together but he is an extremely unhealthy person - verbally abusive. I couldn’t take it anymore and went to theophostics - inner healing prayer. I had to get healed of my past and get healthier and stronger so I could leave because he wasn’t even with his disgust of me. He was diagnosed with narcissism and I’ve been encouraged by many leaders that I should go. I recieved a ton of healing from my own past and now my identity in the lord is stronger. I have filed for divorce and I’m in the middle now. I had to also deal with lies that if I was strong enough and had enough faith I should stay and god would heal him and our marriage. I don’t believe god would have his children stay in abuse, wether emotional or physical. I pray you would find a way out of this toxic situation.

[@bemotivated8443]

I have been having this same question. I’m tired of the cycle.

[@melmisquitta9960]

@@bella_greenbean441 wow! That was such a brave move. How do you feel now? Do you feel like chains have been broken? And how is your husband doing? I also have 3 children which I think is exactly why I'm stuck in this awful cycle and haven't broke free. I have been believing in God as He is a redeemer but I have also recently begged Him for a way out. I applied for a divorce but my husband wouldn't sign it and believes we're married for life, regardless how we feel today. He doesn't realise the impact the abuse has, he lacks self control so goes too far when he's agitated and no matter how much iv tried loving on him, it hasn't changed anything unfortunately. If anything he now views me as weak and I get it 10x worse by feeling like I can't defend myself, have to forgive him no matter the sin and have to be available to him whenever he decides. I desperately want it to get better but I am just Spiritually crushed. I haven't met one believer that has encouraged divorce, even church elders that have been concerned for our safety, have simply encouraged distance and prayer! I don't know if this is right or not and I'm not sure if they know themselves. It is amazing to hear your story, bless you. Thank you so much for sharing that with me, it has really encouraged me. Do you feel today that God has a much bigger brighter plan for your life?

[@kimpreslar303]

Lisa Bevere is such a class act and her wisdom is a fountain of refreshment!!

[@17topaz]

I am a new subscriber from Israel .🇮🇱🇮🇱🇮🇱🇮🇱

[@rianageldenhuys5601]

Welcome❤

[@gracefullythankful]

I am really appreciative of the honesty and openness from your podcast. The truth really is what brings freedom

[@pamelahamilton-di9er]

Cycle with fear , I want to stop with cycle of FEAR!!!

[@donnatopham834]

Me to

[@BernieOReilly-ty3qu]

No longer liveing in My Past Devorce sadness and sorrow in Jesus Name Amen

[@traumkultur]

You can't make this up guys, today I got back from the hospital and said, I am fed up with this. And fed up with smoking. Fed up with a being a victim of the past, today I will start over fresh and new. Now you guys popped up out of the blue. 😍

[@Debbiebipat]

Yes, I feel like I’m trap in a cycle!

[@OwnYourHealthiestLife]

Where you are looking is where you are going to go! And we go there because it is “familiar”… familiar spirits want to hold us hostage. 🔥

[@abqmarilyn]

Familiar spirits hold us hostage...I've been there & some times still can be there. Now I see that in my adult daughter... (who has cancelled me out of her life & her children). She struggles so badly I'm relationships...same situations just keeps cycling thru people she come to trust. I'm praying for a breakthrough for her! Praying in the spiritual realms... she has moved from MI to Colorado in Jan. Lord break those chains that bind my daughter, set her free for eternity!❤️

[@decookman]

You guys don't even look like 60❤God bless you both. Enjoying from the Caribbean 😊

[@lizzybotha8376]

10:46 Disrupt by discomfort. John and Lisa this really spoke right into my heart! I've had complete restlessness with my situation and my toxic cycles. Father highlighted Gen 27:40 and told me "you will remain a slave to your situation if you rest, relax and become passive about and in it". Thank you for the awesome conversations!! It has a REALLY powerful impact on me and brings tears every time ❤

[@bribri8]

I thought of this scripture when you talked about discomfort “No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening-it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.” ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12‬:‭11‬ ‭NLT‬‬ Thank you for sharing this!!!

[@aramisvaughn1703]

I was talking with God this morning.. actually more like crying out wondering why my circumstances are always circulating.. I was in a state of confusion. Out of nowhere I was lead to open KZbin and to look for Lisa. It was definitely God showing me what I was praying for this morning.. Thank you.

[@jeyathagna4548]

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MESSENGERX TEAM!!!!!!

[@tammykvasnicka9036]

I need a breakthrough 🎉!! Now!!

[@lanettedudley2389]

This week I heard 30 obstacles that can interrupt you from hearing from God. What stood out to me was cycles is an obstacles. Then I see your podcast in my news feed talking about break up with toxic cycles. I'm listening and taking notes because currently I'm breaking up with a cycles and yoke with a behavior pattering which attempts to put me into bondage. John Bevere mention the same scripture my teacher spoke in Deuteronomy 2:3 with the children of Israel circling the mountain enough. This is meant for me to hear. Going on to part 2 of this discussion. Thank You very much

[@pinknotebook]

Ok so you guys are Soooo CUTE!!!

[@tonyd5111]

This is brilliant !

[@elisabethlourens6626]

Thanks. Feel like I know you in person. Wish i could meet you. My spirit agrees. From south africa. ❤

[@theartisansdisciple]

I've wasted so much time in toxic cycles that I feel behind in my life. I don't want to waste any more, so I pray Psalm 139:23-24 before natural consequences make me uncomfortable. I want God to make me uncomfortable today, so He can deal with my junk and empower me to walk in holiness and advance The Kingdom.

[@Ccross.1375]

Lisa is definitely more Italian. She sure talks with her hands 🙌🏻 more ❤

[@reggaepaul]

Love you J&L, Great Ministry

[@Iamcoachdez]

Three minutes in and I’m already blessed. Thank God for you guys!

[@glorytogod8208]

Wonderful discussion. The Bible verse that came to mind is the one from Ecclesiastes 7:10 “Do not say why were the old days better than these? For it is not wise to ask such questions.”

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

That’s so good. I was going back because I was looking back. WOW!!!

[@ErikaEsther-r2k]

Oh my goodness! I’ve been praying asking God and telling my spouse we need to do this. Thank you both for putting words that can be action and speaking such encouragement to do this 🙌🏻 praise God!!

[@judyvanschalkwyk6504]

Always ask the Holy Spirit to show you the truth about yourself and the truth in every situation.

[@ccp22]

Thank yall for this. I want to break the cycle of drinking alcohol.... I struggle with knowing if I can have just one or two, and eventually it always ends up to the cycle of drinking too much. So yes, I want to break this cycle. In Jesus name, amen. ❤🙏

[@sjg5994]

60s? Wow! Blessed couple that is wise with youthful energy!

[@carlosalbertovelasquez4823]

Yes breaking cycles is only possible placing or eyes in the Lord.

[@susicakes39s13]

Thanks for your openness and vulnerability, God bless you both and your family ❤

[@makenziebarney3212]

ive had a picture in my mind that im circling a mountain and i think that was God revealing to me myself. the state of where im at. Lord renew my mind. thankyou mr and mrs bevere for your ministry.

[@jennmreyno]

this is soooo good

[@drakeforever560]

This is SO GOOD! I was struggling with cycles in my romantic relationship and my work life! I know now that it was being the same person with the same actions creating the SAME results! I am looking to Jesus! The author and finisher of my faith! Thanks guys!!

[@jesuschrististheonlyway9017]

Same here

[@DeannaSneed-w8d]

1st time I've ever heard of you two and 1st time listening. Breaking the cycle is exactly what I needed to hear. Wow. God is working in my life ... I broke an addiction cycle with the word of God. Psalms 118. Its been hard, so now I'm trying to learn how to let go of my past. Which is bad... thank you.

[@nancygiordano9053]

I no longer want to circle mountains. Don’t go back don’t look back

[@joanhannah8062]

First time viewer, from the UK….thank you for your wise words and encouragement.

[@JESUS555]

Yes my marriage was a mess we were doing the same thing. We changed up what we were doing now we do different so it all changed

[@RCL0921]

PRAISE THE LORD. Bless y’all for not giving up.

[@willt6249]

You're right. It is easier said than done in my own strength. I must mediate on this powerful message. Please return to the Southeast soon😊

[@excellentchoices]

Thank you for this conversation!! So good ✍️ may we all journal about all God reveals to us from this conversation. I’m praying each of us freely live life to the fullest 🙏

[@angelinagovender2035]

Thanks so kindly John and Lisa Bevere. Love your teachings - so practical and we can all relate. Always leave one feeling so empowered. May GOD take you both from GLORY to GLORY 🙌With love Angelina(South Africa)

[@KathrynMay]

Yes, I am and it's tough. The cycle! I just finished a 6 day fast and it was tough...not cause I was hungry, but because I feel even more confused, lost, and discouraged. I haven't ever had this happen.

[@LarryKathyNason]

We want to thank you for your Jesus Faith filled sharing and all the books and courses you have allowed God to produce through your life. Your showing turning to Jesus in repentance God will give us the strength to break free and walk in obedience. God Bless

[@mutawalajean1833]

Wonderful discussion we always being blessed with your teachings

[@manso21]

Amennnnnnn 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@karthurh]

I've once lived in the cycle of depression and was constantly trying to be happy with things that doesn't bring happiness and that was really disappointing. I felt like I wasn't enjoying my life and I didn't know that actually the best of my life was yet to come until I read Isaiah 43 18-19. We ought to look to the future and not the past, God is doing something new.

[@jamiebeard3203]

Enjoyed you podcast on discomfort. Something I have never heard before

[@erindunn1434]

So good! Can you start putting the scripture references in the video description?

[@alishaholbert4740]

This was awesome and I look forward to part 2 please...sooner than later❤

[@sandravandiver5937]

Thank you for the message.

[@carolalafeber7281]

Thank you so much…

[@kevinshelly211]

Love it thank you so much for sharing. God bless you. ❤

[@evelinefabrioliveira5722]

Sitting in my armchair going through my destructive cycle came across this...I have been married for 15 years and my husband keeps telling me how I don't trust him that I behave as if I'm living with an enemy and that everything bothers me and when I tell him even if I'm right about what I'm saying I am rude and cold and treat him as my enemy...I never noticed because I thought I did have to protect myself from him specifically because he's a bit controlling and not a Christian and therefore goes against some things I believe...lately I have been noticing my pattern that I am sick I fear everyone..I fear engaging or having deep relationship with people...I've been seeking the Lord and fasting every Monday since January please pray for me too. Do you do any counseling I need it badly and am all alone in Italy. Thank you!

[@cnD64]

I've had to let go of toxic relationships to move forward into the plan God has for me. It made such a big difference in my life, God is doing amazing things in me & through me! ♥️🙌🏼

[@FireofHolySpiritb-Fire]

🙏🙇

[@Nddad7777]

Amen 🙏

[@AlphonsineTshibola]

Thank you so much for your love for God and His people. One can hear it in your voices and experience it in your teachings. Continue to burn for Him!

[@maryrosecarlington791]

Excellent teaching

[@ArleneDavid_]

There are many lessons you will learn on your christian walk, i pray for the heart that needs to hear this like mine, that you stand and be still because God is with you even in the uncomfortable.Confirmation - thank you Jesus 🙏❤

[@AM-dm1pl]

Thank you Lord for letting me stumble across this channel. It's so refreshing to see a couple work together and discuss topics that really draw people away from the Lord. These 2 know how to keep you interested, they know the Word of God, and they give a fresh take on some of the stories of the Bible.

[@DDJones-yi1pm]

Thank you John & Lisa!🙏🏽

[@KShelton3]

Amen! This popped up on my feed and is exactly what my husband and I have been talking about. Thank you

[@iziholokahi]

Thanks for visiting The Father's House in Vacaville, CA and serving Pastor Dave and the rest of us here! We love how you share your gifts.

[@JustinKelly-p6x]

This is so encouraging and powerful. And I actually have hope that I'm going to get free and that God is working in me.

[@Privatenospying]

I’m am now studying my past as I am now finally healed enough to look at it …it explains and brings compassion to myself and others. Studying my past let’s me see the present no longer unconsciously though my programming.

[@joyjavier2612]

Very Liberating i will share it to my group.thanks!

[@sofiadelcielo]

Grateful for you both!! May the angels of God continue protecting you!!

[@CommanderCC5052]

Thank you for your wisdom ❤🙏🏻

[@infinitybeyond8417]

HOLY GOD AND JESUS CHRIST DECLARE THAT EVERYDAY IN EVERYWAY EVERYTHING IS ALREADY BETTER AND BETTER FOR YOU AND UR LOVED ONES🙌🏻🌟🌈

[@moniqueb8801]

Hi John and Lisa Love from the UK Thank your for your videos , I watch you all the time and I thank you for being so encouraging and sharing the word of god the way you do. I’m going through a difficult season at the moment however the way God speaks through you on this platform gives me hope in this season 🙌🏽📖♥️ what a great God we serve

[@nnenna7701]

So good, so refreshing…..I needed to hear this

[@Anonymous-li8jm]

Just found you today and I instantly can't get enough!! Perfect timing for dealing with a long overdue issue! THANK YOU!!! Sharing with everyone now

[@charlenejulius8501]

I love this topic. I had to share with my family. I can relate.

[@Journey_together2024]

you are an overcomer in Christ Jesus.. you will overcome this drinking cycles. in Jesus name.

[@stephanieredmanwelsh5371]

John and Lisa!! This was literally exactly what I have needed and I will be impatiently waiting for part two 😂😂😂 I have been feeling this disruption in my life and not been sure how to actually address it, and I started asking the Lord “I recognize this! I need help to break free.” And I have continued to lay ahold of it and contend for wisdom and teaching on how to step out of these things, so I am so pumped and so thankful for this session!

[@petermathieu4015]

Yes so many nuggets to take hold of this because it life changes

[@sharleenmuir4053]

THIS IS MY FIRST TIME LISTENING AND I AM BELIEVING FOR AND TO BRING CHANGE IN THE POOR TOXIC CYCLES IN MY FAMILY

[@hopesglory1625]

IA sister in Christ, and Long time friend, shared one of your videos a few months ago. That led me to your Messenger X app. Which has been so beneficial in my growth! The Holy Spirit almost slapped me in the face with the notification of this video today. I am so Thankful that he did…. It almost jumped off my phone screen… He didn’t want me to dismiss this! Thank you John and Lisa… this video brought to my attention the Mountain from my past, that I unknowingly found my way back to. Although God helped me conquer it years ago, over the last few years, I have allowed behaviours I recognized from my, long ago past, to cause the same Cycle in my present. Risking my relationship, our finances and our future. God Bless you both and Thank you for your help, hope and good works.

[@brendastills9666]

This is so good! Love it

[@asitis9402]

Bless you both for being so open and addressing taboo topics- these topics like pornography are often swept under this carpet giving the enemy too much access to

[@shirleyuto4225]

Im so blessed to hear this message. Thank you

[@evelynbedolla1467]

So good. Thank you both! ❤

[@rcz2023]

Thank you both ❤

[@presennababu6507]

33 years of Married life , same issues same mountains over and over again and again , pls pray do for my to break this cycle

[@whenc43]

I absolutely love that you are both so honest about what you’ve gone through. Thank you, God bless you both.

[@suzannarebeccamichael6679]

Such profound things to learn in this one.. what you look at is where you'll go... what you aren't dealing with today is only going to get tougher in the future... thank you for sharing..God bless & continue to use you two & your household

[@dawnknowles9092]

Amazing! Just what God wanted me to hear this evening of uncomfortable!!! Which had me browes You Tube instead of watching Hulu. Thank you, Jesus!!

[@susanavira]

Wow this is so good I needed to hear this

[@MikeTracy-qf3fl]

I sure appreciate the Bevere's. You are a blessing. I love "cycling" the literal is good, however the thematic is harmful. Thanks for sharing.

[@sonialorena94]

Love this conversation’s ❤

[@melonyknab2072]

We fell in love with you two at our first married conference at Healing Place in Baton Rouge! I bought all of your books you had available that night. I am still buying your stuff on amazon. Not only have you given what God wanted me to hear but also confirmed my first of may series books. I am hoping it will be out in October 2023. If not, for sure in October 2024. I started writing it 28 years ago and yet, this year was when I decided to finish it. I am asking for your prayers through this season in my life!!

[@cyrusmerchant4624]

Absolutely Superb gift from Lord, this is .

[@edimathews8462]

You guys! You two are blowing my mind, thank you so much to God first you guys second. I'll be watching all your videos.

[@nakeshabwala5222]

maaaaan! thank you, Lord. this was so good.