5 Classy Behaviors Men Always Notice in a Woman and Find Wildly Attractive

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[@reneecaines9097]

I started ballroom dancing recently and there us an aspect I love and have missed. When dancing the men comes ask for a dance, then when dance is done they walk you back and thank you for dancing with them. I feel so feminine and cared for. I am trying to find that feeling outside of the ballroom when it comes to dating.

[@CelineSuphai-iz9yo]

😮

[@BlueRivers-xg2rt]

Good luck because modern men lack class.

[@lilianwal2385]

​@@cheriem432hahahaha

[@gerrimiller3491]

Have you noticed any potential gentleman at your dance lessons that you may want to get to know more of? Sometimes we have to show a little interest in a suddle way. I believe you are close to meeting a good companion 😊

[@reneecaines9097]

​@@cheriem432Thanks 😊

[@agirlnamedgoo-007]

Lol the "do they think we don't know how much time has passed??" Cracked me up. I had a guy ghost me once--big time--and then A YEAR LATER texted me like "hey what's up". I did literally say, "who is this". He said his first name only (very common name) and when I asked for his last name he said, "oh, I thought we had a great connection but I guess not if you don't remember me." The audacity knew no bounds. I blocked him.

[@jelizabethpetrie6656]

Try Years, yes years. At the time, they had said he had a girlfriend (which his sibling was sent in to tell me) to which I just nodded like ok, fine. Then left him be. Well his sibling has popped in periodically at my office (we’re in the same field and their company does business with ours) but their sibling has visited maybe twice a yr for few years cause I didn’t chase after. Like hey, don’t forget me… which is how people used to be years ago. Remained friendly.

[@LittleLulubee]

You should have said if it was so great, where have you been for the past year?! 🙄🙄

[@Julybaby12619]

LOVE your response to this lazy, lazy man!

[@simoneharlow]

Hey ladies plot twist 🎉 YOU ARE ALREADY MAGNETIC I SWEAR BUT YOU DONT BELIEVE IT YET💯if you are watching this, then go within and find the love within yourself. You don’t need to seek advice from other people literally make your own rules. You have that power. There are no absolutes in this world, and there are no things that ALL people find wildly attractive click off this freaking video, and make your own rules you can do it I believe in you ❤

[@artstudiogirl784]

Just looking for a booty call. Glad you drop kicked him!

[@tiffanyb.7596]

My husband told me, One of the main reasons he asked me out on a second date is because my phone kept going off on our first date, but I didn’t answer it… I just kept talking with him & having a great time. 🥰

[@living7063]

@@WynneL gotta write it down now

[@AdrianaCowick]

@@WynneLNow that’s just manipulative. No no

[@knightmer3645]

Well that's wife material right there if I've ever seen it ! It's crazy that most women don't realize how simple it is

[@sandraanderson6864]

That's great... My last guy wld always leave when his phone went off... So awful

[@DaniElle25g]

Be who you really are and you will attract the best person for you.

[@Serenity5]

That is really the only thing a person has to do.

[@melissabryant2251]

Not working for sooo many women. Men want skinny red carpet looks and pass over good women.

[@LittleLulubee]

That didn’t work for me 😭😭

[@prader1330]

Ultimately yes. That's the best way. She's eventually going to find the real you so might as well get it over with early on and save everybody time if you're not her "thing." Hell, if I'm not her type there's a really good chance she's not mine anyway.

[@shaunilashaye1976]

I agree ❤

[@karyannfontaine8757]

I appreciate a man with good manners who will open the door for me. Always smile and say thank you.

[@Wuwei72-o5n]

Goog luck having that now.

[@BarnaliD]

If they're interested in you they'll open the door. If not, they won't.

[@taracannonllc]

Yes!

[@Shh_kult]

,the one that smiles in the morning seeing ME,and says Good morning.for the rest of our lives

[@esencialnizdravi8608]

“You are the priority, not an option”.. well said!

[@hemantks4353]

Proceeds to say you have multiple options as a women

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

Any time a guy treats me like I am an option I remove myself from the equation entirely. If there's someone he wants more than me he can HAVE her. I will wait for the guy that WANTS me.

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

​@@hemantks4353😂 that's the point. Get over yourself dude.

[@hemantks4353]

@@UnashamedCaliforniagirl What's the point? Women having multiple options?

[@sorrywhoareyou887]

@@hemantks4353 well usually women would have the options of men wanting her and she might just be seeing who her best suitor is . Men usually only pursue the one woman they’re interested in. Idk why this is abnormal now.

[@TahoeSnowbird]

I fell in love with my husband 55 years ago because his first kiss was a promise he would love, cherish and protect me all our lives. It's a promise he kept for 52 years before God called him to his eternal home. When I told that story, some friends asked if it was the first time I was kissed. I' ve been kissed 3 times before by 3 different guys. I don't even remember how I felt the first time I was kissed.

[@Julybaby12619]

Wow.... What a beautiful story about your first kiss with your husband of 52 years. It's so true that we remember the first kiss/kisses that Really stood out to us as women, and it's usually because the man made us feel truly special, and time told us that it was REAL.

[@peacelovejoyandhappiness]

❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉intense story I loved reading this.

[@heyitzdove]

God bless you. Beautiful story💕

[@user-sw6jm8hj2p]

As a young woman, i always opens the doors for anyone, and appreciate others doing that for me. Who gets mad at that? Insanity

[@TheOReport1994]

I've learned by witnessing other women getting offended by men holding doors open for them, then they have huge problems! Men, run from this! This is the first, and major red flag! Don't try to date someone who gets offended by you holding a door open for them!

[@menmanom]

Tiktok kids do XD like, i tick it as a beige kinda i cant say red, but lighter flag if they dont open a door for me (a man) or if they dont pour my drink or smth like, literally thats bare minimum. Act luke a gemtleman dont be like i have a lot of money im bulky im this that blabla, show it stupid show it, dont just talk.

[@naomihanna7028]

Stop at the door and wait for the man behind you to open it

[@Leahmoonbeamflower]

Right? As a natural born woman, I open the door or hold the door behind me for anyone. Life shouldn’t be so complicated.

[@frankie9457]

Lol, you haven’t been to texas. A man will not walk thru a door that a woman has opened for him 😆

[@MsPossums]

Opening the door is good manners and says alot about a man. Trust me.

[@minakumari1515]

what if he opens door only for me like it not coincidence i have noticed it with other women too ,he doent open fo them .dosent give them as much as space to pass around through the door. but if i enter he just swoops in the side to give me full space. im confued is it bad that he treats other peopel differntly or i it good that he traet me speacially

[@patmanchester8045]

@@minakumari1515 I can't stand it when any person opens a door and then lets it slam in the face of the next person. If there is a long line that you get stuck holding the door for. Just comment that you need to get to your friend and could someone else do it now. when a man, or any one, opens a door for opens the door you, I see it to be good manners that if he opens one door for you, you hold the next one for him. this is especially easy when you have to push and not pull the door to open it. It also nicely sets you as his equal. It also lets him show if he can be comfortable with it and is appreciative. If not, rethink things about your relationship. also remember any person ( male or female) shows their BEST side in the dating process and shows their REAL side in marriage. I also pay attention to waitstaff. These people work hard for little pay. Just because you may leave a big tip, doesn't mean you have to be rude or dismissive. I believe all these things should be taken seriously by both sexes. women should be polite, thoughtful, friendly , and helpful too.

[@jasmines4493]

😂😂😂 about the camel. You are too funny

[@sreyaprem]

​@@minakumari1515 he is not a good person then

[@sreyaprem]

It doesn't. I have experience.

[@cdeweijer12]

Being lighthearted is really not that difficult. True, it takes some practise to look on the bright side but it definitely helps to feel oneself happier

[@LittleLulubee]

It’s hard for some of us 😭😭

[@gypsyfiresign1064]

@@LittleLulubeeit’s called neuroplasticity. Easily explained: Fake it til you make it! The more lighthearted I am, the better I feel!! 😊

[@mtlicq]

"Being lighthearted" does not exist without a sense of humour, -- doesn't have to be extreme, actually shouldn't be extreme, but have a sense, the _sense_ of humour. Anyone without any sense of humour at all is disqualified from being lighthearted.

[@thekrystalmethod]

The phone thing - if I’m with someone, I will do my best to have my phone put away unless I’m showing them something funny. If I absolutely must respond to something, I will tell them “I’m not ignoring you, I’m just going to respond to this text really quick so you can have my full attention” I once hurt a FRIEND’S feelings so much that she scolded me about it in frustration for being on my phone while she and I were out to dinner and that moment has never left me, which is why I make it a thing now to not have my phone out if I’m out with close friends/family.

[@Pinkythepainter777]

It is very good that you correct your mistakes, and are able to evolve. Some people don't. My best friend and I wanted to go to The Beatles Cirque show in Vegas forever. We finally went, and she was texting half the time! I asked her to be present in the moment. She refused. I told her it was bad show etiquette. She kinda ruined it for me. All I could think about was how embarassing and rude she was! Till the usher came and told her to put her phone away! 😂 Next day we went to a fancy restaurant. She was dressed in a skimpy beach outfit, while I'm dressed like Marilyn Monroe! I said it was customary to put a napkin in her lap. She refused, while sitting spread eagle! Then she ended up sneaking off to a room, with a man. Needless to say, I won't be attending any classy events with her!

[@princessofgenovia1407]

I leave my phone in the trunk of my car and rely on my I watch if I must,,,,, no phones on dates!! It's so rude!!

[@vivhiggins5656]

Men get in touch whith you what do you do fore a liveing how old are you were do you live,know you talk a bout thing's first till you get too know one another know dont hate men,and what a bout what a woman wont,s,

[@JamieLynnMorris]

I put my phone on do not disturb so it's not constantly binging with notifications, but allows my starred contacts to ring through. Mainly the local sheriff's office in case my horses get out and my BFF who will know what I'm doing so will not interrupt. My time is precious, so is yours.

[@justsomeone9705]

​@@Pinkythepainter777yo girl if I had a friend like you , I wouldn't have let go of you ! Seriously , the ppl who correct you at places where you are wrong are precious and always better than those who provide a helping hand and appreciation when you are clearly at wrong ! Props to u ;)

[@teanna4569]

My sense of humor and witty conversation and laughter draws men like immediately, I had men say I asked you out because of your sense of humor

[@FP65]

I have seen women, (it’s always young indoctrinated women) who get mad at men for opening their door. I’m an older woman really appreciate a gentleman. Any man who opens the door for me, I look him straight in the eye and thank him for being a gentleman. Men aren’t toxic contrary to what young women are being taught.

[@LLCoolJ_25]

Do they really get mad? I’ll be 25 next month and I’ve never seen women of any age get mad at this. I know this all based on personal experience. That’s just crazy, if they do. I know I’ve seen it portrayed in recent movies. “I can open my own car door” is not a flex. Just arrogant and we don’t need to be hyper independent all the time. I always thank men when they’re chivalrous. But I never expect them to be because of the fight between men and women.🙄 I work in corporate America and when I’m on elevators, from what I’ve observed, millennial men do not allow for women to go first. I’ve only gotten on the elevator with one other gen z guy and he was really kind to everyone. The gen x and boomer men always allow women (and men) to go before them.

[@dmrd222]

I'm in my 60s and I open doors for *people*, men AND women. We have had a patriarchal society since the beginning of time and a male-dominated society continues to exist today. That, to me, is responsible for the inequality that women suffer and, believe me, inequality has affected my life in many arenas. So, it's not about "getting mad at men for opening doors". I just do not want to perpetuate that inequality.

[@michellebatzel5809]

@@dmrd222No wonder the world is in the toilet, your generation helped it happen! Men and women aren’t equal. That exact brainwashed mentality is why men pretending to be women are in women’s sports. You’re probably also jabbed aren’t you?

[@armystrong6809]

Women aren’t being “indoctrinated “. To the contrary it seems they’ve arrived at their own conclusions. I raised a young woman and not once have I “indoctrinated “ her. That comment is offensive, rude and quite frankly out of touch with reality. If you want to live under strict and rigid patriarchal gender rules by all means go for it, but the days of men having full reign and power and privilege over women are over.

[@suzy1750]

@@LLCoolJ_25 I'm in my fifties and I've never seen it either except on some video short or something about 'feminist woman' - and you know they are trying to make a point. You never know if those are even real. Even if they are, that doesn't mean the vast majority of people behave that way. Sometimes I think people say that they've seen something but what they mean is that they saw a video or read an article that people behave in a certain way...

[@44ashley]

Being light- hearted! I think a lot of parents forget this quality when dealing with our children also. Noted, thanks. Not worried about men right now but still appreciate your advice.

[@dmrd222]

Boy, am I ever grateful that my man and I are balanced in our "feminine and masculine" energies. We don't need to even think in those terms. There's no game playing, no calculating, no worrying about offending anyone or emasculating anyone. We each like to feel needed, valued, respected, and taken care of... and we do that for each other.

[@chiaralistica]

That's a good relationship. I know, because I'm in a good relationship as well. My lovey puts me first because I put him first.

[@dmrd222]

That's nice, but you should always put yourSelf first, ;), not as in "being selfish", but as loving yourself first because it's only when you love yourself first that you can properly love another person. @@chiaralistica

[@Himmiefan]

Thank you! This is how it should be.

[@dmrd222]

@@Himmiefan I know. This "balancing of masculine and feminine energies" b.s. is de rigueur now in all these so-called "relationship coaches'" videos. I think they have all piggy-backed on Gray's "Venus/Mars" idiocy to make it sound more relevant.

[@nathalian.7209]

@@dmrd222 why do you need to turn down the concept of "masculine and feminine" to feel good about your relationship? this concept actually work for a lot of men and women. Why would you diminish a concept that fits other couples to say your relationship is good?

[@Daliferrio]

the hard part is finding men that WANT to step up

[@pferdeklauerin]

Im in a relationship about four month. He is very busy and paying so much for me. I only know lovebombing until him and it takes me hard times not to seem needy, cool down and to trust, when he only want to see me one time a week. But now we are going forward. Thank you Brian.

[@verenamaharajah6082]

He only wants to see you once a week? He’s very busy? Paying for everything for you? I think you need to find out if he’s already married. If he’s not married or in a relationship with someone else, then you can relax a bit and enjoy your outings with him.

[@pferdeklauerin]

@@verenamaharajah6082 thank you. He is not married. He takes care for his little daughter twice a week, visits his mother in the rest home one time a week. I see he is very responsible, working shift. He invites me now more often, always cooking for me, takes care. Tomorrow i should get to know his grown daughters. He wants to be sure as me. It was very good for me, i see I still had to heal from traumabond a bit. I was working on my emotions to be able to let him come. Think this working good. He has a good feeling for me (he was manipulatet before also), I feel safe with him. Im happy now.

[@Pamela-sb5ev]

You have a light hearted energy. It's very refreshing. Thank you for this video 😊

[@joiab11]

De-center your man! You will be happier and he will be enthralled

[@NaturesInfiniteWELLth-fo6rs]

‘Your man’? Any sense of ownership is a real turnoff

[@KjcIpswich]

Absolutely

[@gypsyfiresign1064]

Please explain?! What’s “de-centering” a man?!

[@LevityBrevity]

🙄🙄🙄😴​@@NaturesInfiniteWELLth-fo6rs

[@shobhnaenrique6458]

Don't surround your life to the man only

[@Openhearted2024]

I like you. One of the best things we can say and hear.

[@jessicam3707]

This gave me a good perspective on one thing in particular - showing that I like a guy even if it’s not super clear he’s into me. I was thinking that made some guys uncomfortable and that’s why they pulled away, but now I’m thinking that they just pulled away bc it was obvious what I wanted and they didn’t want the same things with me, and they’re good guys. And maybe they like my sincerity and like me as a person instead of feeling uncomfortable and bad for me. I could definitely see that being the case. I’m going to keep being open and not pretending, it’ll probably bring me to the right guy faster. Thanks for the insight!

[@AJ-yw7hf]

Just letting you know your comment got 70 thumbs-up. :)

[@CF-wp7xo]

I let a man do things for me , just like you said to make them feel needed (i knew how to do these things). However, after 20 years he resented doing all these things.he said that i didn't love him i just used him..an i was useless and couldn't take care of myself. Now, i really appreciate men who know that i can take care of myself and push me to do my best.

[@saddlerrye6725]

I think it's about balance, and the type of things you let them do for you. Opening doors, helping with heavy stuff at times, etc. are things that I don't think would brew much resentment. But other things, like paying for meals or taking the initiative to organize dates - if it *always* falls on one partner, I can easily see it becoming burdensome, or seem like the other is just "freeloading". It really sucks that in your case your partner just blew up one day instead of talking to you about it when he started to feel uncomfortable with it. I hope you found someone who makes you feel like you're your best self!

[@stefaniakonstantinidou981]

I Don t agree. I think he showed you a false self if he did one thing at some point and the opposite after some time. He was not authentic

[@lillllllllllllllllllllllllli]

i think one of the biggest problems in our modern time is the way the media forces women to act like men. femininity is so often seen as "weak" or "dumb", while this actually is what makes most of us women the happiest.

[@TheOReport1994]

The media tells young girls and women that they should act like men (because they're equal to men, while preaching that women are 'stronger; than men but having them compare themselves to a 'lesser'(by their standards) thing to prove that they're stronger. . . . , but then they wonder why men aren't interested in them. Hmmmmmmm. . . . . I wonder why! In all seriousness though, men and women are equally strong in different ways, and that's what makes a relationship and/or marriage work!

[@blueshoes5145]

The issue doesn’t stem from media but society. Femininity has been viewed as weak by men because the roles society gives women are usually not the stronger ones. So, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out the comparison to weakness. It becomes problematic when that transfers into THEIR perspective on OUR actions and thoughts, our likes and dislikes and in our strengths and weaknesses. And that creates an unsafe/uncomfortable environment for women. When a woman feels safe she can be feminine.

[@thulasibai6136]

True.A human can be shy,cry,bold,fearless,sassy,sensitive etc whatever their gender and sexuality.Women with nice and strong personality are feminine and men with nice and strong personality are masculine.

[@queenpanda26]

Feminine and masculine are useless terms, there's just people with different personalities. What you're talking about is caused by mysogyny tho. Just do what makes you happy.

[@thulasibai6136]

@@queenpanda26 Exactly.

[@loria7043]

Great stuff! My wonderful mother taught me to do those things, and I have taught my daughter. As my mom would say, "It's classy."

[@clairexxx0405]

Thanking you (Geert) Brian, I wanted to say you're light hearted ways you express all you're advice really helps me and very sure many women, relate to you even when we're looking for advice because lifes very low. A little light hearted humour goes a long way to make the world a brighter place 😁🕊

[@JaxSwim1]

I love a man who opens a door for me ❤

[@cynthiaracicot6502]

I can open my own door.! Often hold doors open for men.

[@BrookeBrewer-k8v]

For real tho 😁

[@pnrpnr6708]

The one light heartedness made everyone around me obsessed with me. My family, friends, clients. What i try to do is just not showing my stress to them and trying not to be angry. Before i was thinkimg if i have stress anger i have right to show them, behave formal to them.

[@vedakin]

You always vent and laugh about it after 😊

[@UrsaBella]

loving someone and sharing feelings with them is not obsessive...provided the love is mutual....

[@vivalafrance9547]

love that "who are you?"

[@adolfosofiao]

Hi Brian. Came across your channel today - god sent! You’re so right about conveying a positive energy. I’m a regular gym goer, and I’ve noticed someone that I like and I have seen around my neighbourhood for some years. It’s only recently I’ve began to see him in a more attractive way. We distantly smile at each other at the gym...I don’t anything about him. I do recall one mistake I made couple weeks ago when I went to the gym, I was in a bad mood...I walked passed him without my usual smile or a “hi”. He immediately he picked up on my demeanour and he appeared confused. I know my personality - I can be reserved and friendly and it doesn't do me any favour if I like a guy..I can become quite shy. Your teachings are very encouraging. I need to build the courage to at least ask him his name! That’s as far as I will go for now..I have no idea if he is attached..I will take it slow.

[@KarlaEmmerson]

Have you asked yet 😄

[@CharleneMarshArtist]

Wait for him to approach you. If he is interested and available, he will. If not, you are wasting your time.

[@mtlicq]

@@CharleneMarshArtist I am a man, and from a man's perspective, we need some indication that the woman is a potential positive result, some hint, some clue, and regardless of everything, being congenial or sociable always, ALWAYS improves your chances and makes society more livable too.

[@CharleneMarshArtist]

@@mtlicq I appreciate a man's perspective. And agree. For a man to approach a woman, he is taking a big risk on being rejected. A woman must react in a positive, friendly manner when a man approaches. But if there is no initial attraction on his part, it won't go anywhere. My experience is that a man will observe a woman from afar before approaching and assess if she is congenial and sociable. So when he approaches, he has some assurance that she will be kind and friendly and see where it goes. From my perspective, someone becomes attractive based on their personality, humour, intelligence, compassion, morals, service, etc. I just started at a new gym and a man has approached me a couple of times. Very casual, not sure if it goes anywhere and not connected to any outcome. I also have some male and female friends (married and single) who go to the gym and we end up chatting a lot about local politics, health, diet, etc. I'm pretty friendly to everyone and many (including strangers) are helpful towards me and I think that radiates to any observers. And, YES, makes society a much more happy, livable place! 🙂

[@katnui]

I wanted to add for the getting him to pick a restaurant... I've found it helpful sometimes to narrow it down with a few *types* of food you might be feeling. Like Italian or Greek 😅

[@chiaralistica]

Good point. I'm lucky, my lovey knows what I like and he always finds new and exciting places to go. Never a dull moment!

[@mtlicq]

Or German or Chinese

[@chionodoxa6772]

I love when a man holds the door for me. Equality of rights doesn't mean that courtesy has to be replaced by rudeness. I hold the door too! About being light-hearted : I have spent two years with a man who spent almost all the time complaining about his job. Sometimes over a full week-end, even a full week of vacation. Most of the times from morning till he falls asleep in the night. And the rest of the time, talking only about his topics of interest. I have shown lots of interest and he has enjoyed conversations. But I have also tried to bring up other topics, my own interest, but he has repeatedly dismissed any attempt, bashing me, bashing the topic, whatever. It is difficult to be light-hearted when you face such situations each time you meet, and when it continues in written conversations. When I complained, he did not accept critics. He reacted saying he will talk no more about his 'bullshit topics'.. and each time we met again, he did exactly like before again. I stopped feeling like spending time with him...

[@CLRiley-rr1gd]

You really are SO very helpful- as many of your tips also help married folks- to keep things positive & fresh! It is so good for us self-supporting, competent women to hear how we can allow ourselves to be more feminine, which can hieghten a man’s masculinity. I am still learning that one at 65!

[@dpcssn]

It is nice to see you again, Geert... I got this video in my suggestions and thought - he sure looks like the guy that saved me from panic disorder so many years ago. Decided to click to see if it might be you and voila! I cannot thank you enough for creating that course and your other work in that area, I got so much of my life back afterwards as I am sure many others did as well. I am interested to see what you have branched out into at present. Good luck!

[@Snappypantsdance]

Aww, what a great comment:).

[@katherinemcintosh7247]

This video amused me. “Men” and “Women” are individuals when they are dating. Just date people who behave in the way which compliments your behavior and is in keeping with your values.

[@bufficliff8978]

Toxic individuality breeds anxiety.

[@katherinemcintosh7247]

@@bufficliff8978 “toxic individuality?”

[@bethm3152]

Agreed. Also, toxic individuality is lack of self worth, bad self esteem, self conscious… if I’m not mistaken, it’s things that keep you from being in a healthy relationship

[@katherinemcintosh7247]

@@bethm3152 I guess I am wondering what “toxic individuality” has to do with my comment.🤷🏻‍♀️

[@AJ-yw7hf]

@katherinemcintosh - If you mean there are exceptions to the general rule, of course. But if I understand your comment correctly, it sounds like you don't think there ARE any innate or inherent differences between straight/cisgendered/heterosexual men & women. I don't mean in obvious physical ways. I mean emotionally or psychologically. But there are some. Also, it sounds like you don't think basic/general guidelines or norms are helpful to most people regarding dating. If so, I disagree.

[@robinchilds7492]

My last relationship was with a covert narcissist. He never stepped up for me but he was always trying to impress other women. I tried talking to him about it. He would storm out of the room.

[@idid138]

Sounds like a blatant narcissist. He wanted you to accept that. Be glad that's over!

[@heathermerrin6654]

Great content, thank you Brian Nox. I love your humour and delivery.

[@morganchristmas6299]

I absolutely love your videos. Thank you so much. I never had a father, and have been through some terrible relationships and I'm just now stepping into my truth and learning how to say no And get away from toxic people and I just turned 28. Thank you from my heart ❤️

[@hearthhomebykristina2233]

Very good video! I see so many of my friends doing the exact opposite of this advice and then end up with a real loser but not understanding why! Keep up the good work

[@foxingboarder2744]

i never want to change my essential nature to attract or to retain a mate and i think that's why i'm alone and why i reject inauthenticity in my partner's attempted retention of me

[@Snappypantsdance]

Well, you can look at this different ways…. You can change your “ essential nature” for instance from negative to positive overtime retraining your neurology. But I do think you’re right to not change to please partner really. We can just change to better ourselves!

[@genevievechirelstein6537]

Hadn’t seen you for a while. I didnt realize how much I missed your presentations. Thank you. ❤😊

[@Salsera7]

I have just started seeing a man and he did not open the car door. I finally asked if he could he please do me a favor…could he please open the car door for me? He said he would like to do that and he used to do it but so many women chastised him for it, he stopped doing it. I had a feeling he was going to say that. I told him those women weren’t fully evolved yet and I probably thought that way about 15 years ago. Sure enough, when we walked back to his car, he opened my door. 😊

[@frenchappletarte3252]

I don't mind a man opening a door but if he opened my car door, I'd feel like a child

[@Bergziegen35]

I love that you kindly asked him to open the door for you instead of being offended

[@readerzozo410]

@@frenchappletarte3252 It’s good if he’s the one who is driving and you’re just sitting in the car

[@chaosqueen1703]

@@frenchappletarte3252 Same, idk why but it's the same with them like pulling a chair out or smt. I never get mad at them for it, it's just really awkward

[@chaosqueen1703]

@@HarriedPedestrian Yeah, but tbh I hate having chairs pulled out for me in general. It's the same with them feeding me, it's not cute, just embarrassing for me

[@karinafoster6974]

I love your videos and advice. Thanks. Is always nice to hear from guys point of view

[@70082]

Women who take time for themselves, allow men to be in their masculine energy, maintain a light-hearted attitude, make others feel seen and important, and openly express their interest in a man, are found highly attractive by men. is d summary of dis video

[@cara4737]

Yes, please make more of these! I do need this info in my single 60’s.

[@TheAllanah216]

What a sweet man! I love his channel. ❤

[@gamelakissy2076]

7:00 - Self-love is stress reliever

[@michelepascoe6068]

Love this timeless advice. Some think it old-fashioned, but we’re designed for it! ❤ It’s respecting him and respecting yourself.

[@waterlilynymph]

Thanks Brian, got all 4 down 👌🏻 Now…I will continue to do No Contact to my knucklehead I am in love with, as a product of #1 and #3 😂

[@ninawestlake14]

I know it isn't the 50's, but i enjoy being in my feminine. I never say no to chivalry and help. Even my son gets some kind of sad look on his face when i treat him like he's incapable of doing things. Men are men and i love that.

[@stefaniakonstantinidou981]

Always treat your son like he s capable and pleased you

[@cyndimoring9389]

I danced with my guy sort of impromptu in the kitchen and he surprised me that he knew how to dance and did. such a turn on.

[@auberjean6873]

Geert, thank you for your powerful videos. It's easy to forget to give up control.

[@UniversoSpiritualUnido]

lol Geert lol isnt it Giert

[@annewatkis5824]

My darling man and I have been together 8 years and he still opens the door for me.

[@SusanSummer]

Focus on my passion Mind my wellbeing Receive gracefully Invite him to give Charm up Be attentive Show your feelings

[@gypsydee9]

Brian. Haven't seen you for so long. Love your podcasts. I'm much older, and there is still plenty of advice I can use from you. Thanks!!❤

[@lindabidwell6722]

I stop and WAIT for the man to open the door. I'm a southern woman.❤

[@8jaime8]

Love that! That’s a big-brain solution right there - giving them the opportunity to show themselves to be gentlemen. I live in the U.K. and it’s still normal for men to open doors here, thank God. When my friend and I first arrived here in 2004, we had men at the train station running up and offering to carry our bags whenever we approached a staircase. They wanted nothing from us but to help. It was incredibly lovely. Men are capable of being so much better than they are given credit for. Smart women like you help them along in the right direction!

[@mtlicq]

I wanted to open the door for a woman, but the door was automatic ! 🤔

[@Ravencycle21]

Me too❤

[@evaperson3976]

Until I watched Brian's videos that often mention staying in my feminine energy to draw a man into his masculine energy, I had not realized why I was always frustrated with "passive" men who couldn't take initiative. Thank you. I'll communicate differently and see what happens.

[@cindyjean3208]

I appreciate you so much 😍

[@danielleo6855]

So, I'm watching this as a married woman with small children. The catch 22 here is its really difficult these days to be a working mom and many husbands don't provide sufficient support for their wives during this time of life. My own relationship has fallen apart in part because I am now chronically ill after having babies and car accidents, my husband expects me to push through and keep doing at the same level and is getting quite butthurt about the unfairness. I'm not a happy camper and full of anger and fear of him... These videos talk about taking care of yourself to be most attractive and Im now seeing a very obvious through line I have been missing. Thank you

[@brittneyh2503]

I would also add that too many people feel like they have to be in a relationship no matter what cause they don't want to be alone and that's not healthy and if you can't handle being single than you are looking for someone to fill in a void that only you can fill. Self respect and confidence instead of insecurity and desperation is the way to go because it's better to be alone than in the wrong relationship for the wrong reasons. Be the type of person you want to attract and feel ok to be single until you meet the right one. Mr Right instead of Mr Right now. Don't lose yourself in a relationship and know yourself. Boundaries and deal breakers... Turn ons and offs. Don't settle for less! And take the time to really know someone... So you can see them when they're at their best AND worst and vice versa. The right guy won't push you to move things faster than you're ready for. Listen to your friends and family... And your gut about him. See him for what he is instead of just what you want him to be.

[@Tatvam_]

I did all of that. I have not really tried to do it. But these things naturally came to me. But still got ignored by him. And he is a nice guy .😢

[@SilverGreenEyes18]

This is only for girls that the guy already finds attractive, not just any girl

[@Tatvam_]

@@SilverGreenEyes18 okay thank you for hurting my feelings

[@yaasmiinn]

​@@Tatvam_ some people can be rude ,just don't take it personally and Just ignore them and sorry to hear with everything you went through . Move on from him ,you will find someone who will appreciate you the way you are.

[@Tatvam_]

@@yaasmiinn aww thank you. Appreciate it

[@kiukiumichelle]

Maybe that person is not the right one for you ❤ U are doing amazing and I believe more suitable guys who can appreciate you will be attracted

[@juliemoore6957]

Great tips. Reminds me of the book, "The Rules".

[@oglemedaris]

I love❤ what have to say! I'm going to try this stuff on my husband after 25 years!😂😊

[@SpectrumOfChange]

It's always a little weird for me that "decisive" and "taking action" came to expressly not describe feminine energy. It seems to me like all the ladies and mothers of the natural world are pretty decisive and active. 🤷🏻‍♂️ There's some good info in here, I'm not throwing shade. That part is just always so weird to me, in the feminine/masculine energy conversation.

[@ulianatkachuk9428]

Love you Brian! You are wonderful!❤

[@Portia620]

Have a show on what we do when we have too many??? It’s overwhelming us!!! Right now I’m entertaining one and seeing how that goes.

[@user-sj6kg2tu9e]

Uh so true Just a bit eghr when already did so many mistakes 🙈 It’s a great lesson Thank you !!!❤

[@germanlanguageworkshop1542]

Great! Thank you.

[@heathergreenakers]

I think about the Roman Empire every day, and I’m a girl. 😂

[@LightJoyHealing]

I do appreciate your videos, they are very helpful

[@stacyakinyi9822]

I've never outgrown your channel

[@rileywiebe3512]

Is this good or bad 😂

[@stacyakinyi9822]

@@rileywiebe3512 😅good

[@aura7153]

I relate to that 😂

[@PetitHibou72]

@@stacyakinyi9822totally relatable :.)

[@io100x100]

My question now is, what if you don't love your life and you are not proud of it? What if you struggled with anxiety and depression and you're starting to feel better, but you're not there yet, not in that place where you can be that radiand human being that naturally attracts? You shouldn't date all together, and when men ask you out say no until you don't feel healed? I would like a video about people who are still struggling a little bit. I know that I need to be secure, happy, and confident to attract a healthy men, does it mean that I don't have to date?

[@mianagouveia6511]

I relate to this a lot because I am going through something similar. My plan is to get better first and then I'll start dating. But remember that nobody is perfect and it's okay to no be happy all the time because no one is. The person you will be with should love you and support you through bad times too, not just when things are easy. You can start dating when you feel emotionally ready.

[@marciamartins1992]

There is a reason why you got to that point. Figure out the why, and put up guards so it doesn't happen again. Boundaries are a really good thing. Keep in mind all creatures have mating rituals, we are no different. Respect and be good to your self.

[@LittleLulubee]

I totally relate. I have low self-esteem and shame, because of my abusive family. And because of a chronic illness, I’m not very active. I can’t work or do a lot of hobbies, because I need to rest a lot. So I feel like nobody is going to want me 😭😭 (or I should say, when I find someone I like, I worry I won’t seem attractive to them).

[@heatherlynne7322]

Great advice

[@Maria-h3f1y]

I have found that soulmate or special someone whom you refer to. That someone has passed on but still remains in my spirit. I am not alone. I am happy due to the deep spiritual connections.

[@Paralegal1]

Geert, you're terrific, and your English is PERFECT! Love your content and sense of humor!! ❤ Thank you 😊

[@Emily-ke9xb]

Thank youuuu, Brian!

[@anwa6169]

Helpful and funny! Thank you for your awesome work

[@enjennyr2949]

Not you bringing up the roman empire LOL!!! I love these videos and it is so validating for me! Thank you!!

[@CLGlitter76]

Brilliant advice as always. My life is full enough, a guy will be very lucky to fit into my life 😊

[@felicefairy9856]

What a beautiful accent, beside the info and humor. Thanks

[@lillienwaligora6082]

I'd like to elaborate on one point made! And it's a really important one so I recommend you read it girl 💖 So he mentioned that guy start seeing you as valuable once you do things for yourself/let him do things for you, and it couldn't be more true! Men think differently than we do, if they find something valuable they put time, resources, and effort into it, and they apply the same logic to women, so if you keep on doing things for him it will make him feel as if he deserves it but not see you as more valuable, and if you do things for yourself or let him do things for you then he sees that you're valuable... Just think about how much time a guy is willing to spend on fixing his old rusty car... It's because he values the car! So if you do too much things for him and don't let him spoil you, then he interprets it as if he must deserve the treatment and not as if you're more valuable... A little cheat shit... Men: She buys me flowers= I deserve it, She gets herself flowers= she deserves it, I buy her flowers= she deserves it... Allow yourself to be in your receiving feminine nature love💕 Hope this helped someone 💖💖💖

[@ririsharon4652]

I have a sharp memory and I remember all his important dates. Instead of being happy about it he freaks out that I am keeping a track of his schedule. I feel wronged when that happens because it isn't my fault that I have a good memory.

[@nanomia]

he's not the right man for you!

[@KathrynFritze]

Love your exaggerations🤣

[@maryharper9321]

I find when you bring your full attention to a person you needn’t push to be an interviewer it will flow if you listen

[@firebird3639]

Ok the last guy would go out of his way to make excuses why he can't do little things for me or changes plans last minute so I have say dint worry about it.

[@barbarawentzel6202]

I love yr talk. However, i feel obligated if he buys . It's always dutch. Also never have dinner at either house. Something can always happen, cuz it's easy.

[@aavvcc]

When is your next book (or even some KZbin videos) about navigating long term relationships coming out?

[@RD12349]

Don’t be needy. Appreciate little things they do. Say please and thank you. Be positive and have sense of humor.

[@gauhargauhar5201]

Lower your expectations 😅

[@doreenalexander1670]

Men under 45 don’t abide by this. They view providing as a burden.

[@SilverGreenEyes18]

Then they want more government in their lives

[@janetpattison8474]

Don’t mold yourself to please anyone. Be kind, & considerate, & beware of ppl who disrespect others, or animals. Seek out those who put people over things. Materialism is the God in the US. Many people with money actually are ignorant enough to believe that because they drive a nicer car, that they are actually better humans than others. They actually believe this. Or if their clothes are better than other peoples clothes, they believe that the clothes make them superior human beings. That’s how ridiculous and NOT SPIRITUAL the culture has become. The only thing that matters one iota in this life is what you give with love to other people, or animals & other living things. Degrees, diplomas, social status, cash in the bank, the high paying job, or property owned, does not matter one twit when we leave this world. We all go before Yama, the judge of the dead when we do leave, & we are held accountable for every single thing that we have done, including, thoughts, words, or deeds. All of it is recorded & all of it is reviewed. The law of karma , or cause & effect demands that the scales be balanced life after life. And, Some of us actually remember.

[@sandraanderson6864]

Thats great! My last guy always left when his phone went off. Multiple times. So awful

[@marilynbrown5274]

I find the older men of today..do hold doors open..and I always thank them..and say "Chivalry is NOT dead!" It always beings a smile!

[@cuzinofie6]

This is sO cool! Makes a whole lot of sense. My guy doesn’t like being needed tho, he’s lazy & likes being served and also his response when i “need” him is “cant yOu do that??” I would love to know how to work with THAT hahaha 😆

[@northernpianotuner3319]

seriously consider how he will do as a father. supporting you in pregnancy, holding the baby/ changing diapers, all the things ---- if he's asking you NOW to do things yourself, don't assume he will change for a truly helpless little individual. Men don't change until they have to. please think about it. Don't "settle".

[@KellenAdair]

​@@northernpianotuner3319Good points. There has to be some potential, in order to have something to work with!

[@amethystfeathers7324]

You don't work with that, you withdraw to create space for him to step up and if he doesn't you leave because he's telling you he doesn't care.

[@zatzu]

oh dear...

[@irissax618]

I think every single person should have their spiritual awakening, then live with their true self, be the best version of themself, and they will actually fall in love with themselves. Then dating and attracting will effortlessly come into their life, then they also know that they are already whole and complete, dating is more or less a BONUS of life. Then they will DO and truly BE like what Brian suggests here in an automatic way. Effortless and natural, no need any training.

[@voice-of]

I love your sense of humor 😂😂

[@acquadiamore]

Love love love your content 💛

[@ToothlessTemeraire]

I'm sorry, I have to raise an issue with the "feminine" vs "masculine" energy thing. I can't speak for all women of course, but what me and most women around me actually want is an equal balance between being taken care of and taking charge attitudes (I absolutely refuse to call them feminine or masculine). I do like decisive guys, but I also like to take charge myself, and if a guy actually tries to pay for everything all the time I will definitely be offended. EQUALITY, guys.

[@LittleLulubee]

I just found your channel, and I LOVE your vids ❤💕🥰

[@letsgetthisbread9374]

As a woman who thinks about the ancient greek civilization every day, men thinking about the roman empire every day is the most adorable thing ive ever heard

[@letsgetthisbread9374]

Her: "I bet hes thinking about other women...." Him: "Ancient Rome ❤"

[@Vee0777]

Content like yours is what i truly grateful for the KZbin invention Coz there is no one that telling me before and thankfully i never decide marry too quickly in the past coz i can see how it will be hell since idk how to understand other people signal