BRIT Reacts To AMERICAN THINGS THAT ARE RUDE IN THE UK!

BRIT Reacts To AMERICAN THINGS THAT ARE RUDE IN THE UK!
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[@Ltlmscrl]

Americans are most definitely taught to say “excuse me, can you please help me?” It’s considered rude here too if you don’t.

[@jwb52z9]

It does depend on where you live which etiquette rules you learn to follow.

[@marshsundeen]

I have met people in the Northeast who do not do this.

[@Ming3484]

Yeah, from Texas and we were taught to say please and thank you, saying excuse me if having to walk in front of someone, apologizing if someone accidently bumps into us, holding doors open for someone coming in behind you regardless if they are male or female.

[@ESUSAMEX]

Servers do not just bring over the check once the food is served. Servers may ask if you want your check, but they will not just drop it on the table. The only exception to this rule is if the server is at the end of their shift. In this case, the server is required to close out/finalize the bill before leaving. If the customers want to continue to eat and/or drink, then the first server will take the payment for the bill and tell the new server to start another bill for that table.

[@Thatgirl1973]

Also, if a restaurant is really busy they may bring the check before you're done as a courtesy so you can signify when you're ready to pay without having to wait for the check. It doesn't mean you need to leave.

[@uberXserial]

American here. I clean my table space as I finish. Stacking dishes, napkins, etc and moving everything to the service end of the table.

[@j_mill9356]

Yeah I’ve always done this

[@1perfectpitch]

And they hate you for it.

[@jamesalexander5623]

Wow, That's me to a T ....

[@darcyjorgensen5808]

People queue up here…and we start a conversation with the people around us. Get into an elevator? Start a conversation. Wait in line at the grocery store? Start a conversation. Waiting for public transportation? Start a conversation. Social glue.

[@dalemoore8582]

I never talk to someone in an elevator

[@wren2239]

The check comes when you ask for it or with the last course of dessert.

[@Belleplainer]

I'm 50 years old and I've never had the bill for a meal given to me at or even slightly after the food was brought to my table, except for one time. Our food was brought about 10 minutes before the kitchen closed for the night; the server brought the bill with the food, which actually was appreciated because we didn't intend to stick around long at all.

[@marshsundeen]

Chicago restaurants that are very busy, may try to take your plate if you rest a moment. Otherwise, we do not do that.

[@PittieMom32]

Don't know where she is from in the US but in my 54 years no one has ever asked what religion I am and people don't cut in line. If you do you will be called out instantly.

[@SpicyGherkin69]

Then you’re not southern

[@SpicyGherkin69]

@@marshsundeenin Alabama they straight up say “ Baptist or Methodist “

[@marshsundeen]

@SpicyGherkin69 we were asked when we moved to NC, "y'all found a church yet?" This was from my husband's co-worker.

[@anndeecosita3586]

@@SpicyGherkin69There are other denominations in Alabama besides Baptist and Methodist plus there are different kinds of Baptists and Methodists.

[@alisonflaxman1566]

​@@marshsundeenshe said strangers will ask you. No not true.

[@justplayin7799]

Was taught early on, NEVER discuss politics, religion or finances outside of the family. Those are hot topics which can damage friendships. As far as the restaurant bill, my experience is it is brought to you after you have either eaten dessert or declined dessert. When I finish my main meal I will place the utensils on the plate and even any additional plates and bowls together to aid the sever in removing them. I also thank them when they take my order and bring my food and drinks. I try to respect their job of dealing with a waiting on the public.

[@Melodystiak1]

I'll add, I always thank them when they take my dirty dishes!

[@claranielsen3382]

I love talking politics and religion. How do people learn about things that control their lives. You can always learn something from another person. ❤

[@tommygilbreath]

@@claranielsen3382 That's fair, but pretty weird to just bring up randomly with strangers. People in America can get pretty vitriolic and judgmental about these topics. At least a little cringe and unnecessary.

[@lynnw7155]

Me. too. I don't know where in the US she comes from, but where I live we DON'T discuss religion with strangers. Also people queue here. Cutting in line is considered rude. We don't wrestle over the last bottle of ketchup...,that;s not acceptable here, either.

[@jimmyb.6272]

I don’t think a house tour is a typical American thing at all, unless it’s a good friend. Not all restaurants give you the bill during your meal….some places wait for you to ask. Even if the bill is given to you early…that doesn’t mean you have to rush. We don’t really feel rushed just because the bill is given.

[@cecelia1350]

@@jimmyb.6272 I’ve never been taken on a house tour either and would be surprised if someone took me on one.

[@mrss1053]

She is incorrect about the check coming after the food. Many people get coffee and dessert after the plates are cleared away--so she is mistaken.

[@cecelia1350]

I disagree with her about queuing in America. We also think cutting ahead is rude. Some people do it, but the other people in the line will not be happy about it.

[@colinvannurden3090]

No cuts, smoke comes off my head when people do that. I'll call that out immediately.m

[@shelaughs185]

I had a woman try to talk me into letting her cut in line in front of me at the airport once. The queue was long. She got mad when I pointec out that if I did, it would screw everyone behind me who managed to show up on time. I did it loudly and looked behind me in time to see many people nodding in agreement.

[@Ming3484]

The only time I've let someone cut in front of me is when I have a cart full of items and the person right behind has 1 or 2 things. I'd never let someone further back skip though.

[@revgurley]

The only times I've given a house tour was at a "Housewarming Party." Friends, colleagues from work, and neighbors come over, bring gifts or food, and gawk at your house. It is fun to introduce people to collections or special artwork you have. Or pride yourself on the coffee table you made. No, I take it back, I've done house tours during the Holidays. Our neighborhood is on the fancier side, and people often renovate their houses. So then they'll put it on a tour of homes, especially highly Christmas decorated one. With several houses, people will pay to see all the houses, and that money goes to charity. Volunteers (like me) go into the house and get a tour from the owner. Then you stand in a room and explain to the paying customers why that room is special (could be architect, ancient items, a repeated pattern throughout the house, a copper farmhouse sink).

[@Thetequilashooter1]

I don’t agree with her at all. I am American, and I always politely ask where things are from strangers. I’d never bring up politics or religion with a stranger. That’s even off limits with some of my friends and family. And all the people I know can’t stand cutters. I’ve actually seen people get in a fight over it.

[@dbcooper-alltimehideandsee6223]

I was taught growing up never to talk about religion or politics unless you really know someone. Even then tread lightly.

[@jacklewis5452]

Midwesterner here, we always say please and thank you and excuse me. We also stand in lines politely but we are not above filling vacant spots without asking. I've also noticed that Australians and Canadians as well as people from Nordic countries have no problem talking in a normal voice which some citizens of tiny countries like the UK see as "loud". We dont talk to strangers about politics or religion though frankly, I dont have a problem if the person is polite and non-judgmental. Yes, I will show people (friends not strangers) around my home but only the first floor or basement levels, never the second floor with all the bedrooms.

[@MarieFara]

There's a thin line between polite and push over. If you're always waiting for permission, you'll never get anywhere.

[@chiqadee5996]

I am from middle America(Kansas), and I don't know where she is from but almost everything she said I never really experienced here. And I'm in my 50's. I asked my niece who was raised Louisiana, agreed. Most things are considered rude. She think this is also a generation thing, maybe because were we're more rural. The house thing we definitely do, that way the guest already knows where things are and welcome to go there. That is why when show your house, you don't show the bedrooms. I really wonder where she is from and why she doesn't know basic manners.

[@CherylVogler]

I think she's from Florida.

[@marshsundeen]

​@@CherylVoglerthat explains it.

[@yolandamondragon341]

I agree.

[@grendalnewgod]

When I was a server/waiter, or tended bar, I only went back to a patron, without them asking for my attention, to refill their drink or remove used plates & utensils (pre-bussing). But, I tried to always be within earshot of them. If I were on my game I'd see them look up and I'd be on my way to ask how I can help. I made a lot of money in restaurants.

[@itsoversugar9969]

I’ve never had my check brought to me that fast in America. It’s always given at the end of the meal.

[@aura81295]

Sounds like she frequented fast food places which usually have you pay at the time you get your meal.

[@j_mill9356]

Yeah usually they will stop by to check in and get refills etc. but if they notices most people are finish eating them they would bring over the bill

[@billolsen4360]

@@aura81295 You have to do that at Subway, but places like McDonalds won't even start getting it into a bag UNTIL YOU PAY first!

[@billolsen4360]

Happens here in Phoenix. I always ask them if that means the dessert I wanted is gonna be free.

[@garygemmell3488]

There is a saying in the U.S.: "Mi casa es su casa." My home is your home. We want our guests to feel welcomed and wanted in our homes. Giving them a short tour helps to make them feel comfortable about being in a new and unfamiliar environment. 99% of the times I have eaten out at a traditional restaurant the check is brought out after my server has asked if there is anything else they can get for me. If you bring me my check with the food you are, in essence, telling me to wolf down my meal and get out. Not the message you want to give to an American who is used to tipping.

[@bradjenkins1475]

My wife and I have each been in the service industry at times during our long marriage. 2 things come in to play Here. First and probably foremost., In America, it is generally understood that you will be tipped and most likely tipped well. That fact alone will make any server comfortable with you taking your time to pay the check and possibly have a little chit-chat before leaving. Let's say you're at a nice restaurant. And the bill is $100 which would translate into a $20 tip, which would translate into your server not being anxious to have you pay and leave. Second and possibly even vague. Servers for the most part enjoy making your experience A good one, and to that extent, will keep a close eye on you for simple things like refilling your water. Or giving you multiple refills of your drinks. Also, by stopping by occasionally to check if everything is up to your satisfaction. They are approaching you with hopfully the most amount of time left to correct any problems you may have while dinner is still ongoing. as opposed to after the meal is over and then asking if there's any problems, because that would mean it's to late to be fixed, short of giving you your meal for free. It is not rude for a server to stop by your table multiple times to inquire as to your satisfaction with the meal so far. Actually in America it would be rude of a server to not keep an eye on, and Check-in with you during the meal.

[@thelizziest4317]

You only give a tour to people who you are your overnight houseguests, or like she said, if you’ve recently moved in or made renovations that you’re proud of; this would only be to presumably trusted family & friends. Any other guests would just be shown where the restroom is. And no, you don’t get your check immediately after a meal. I can’t recall this happening even once to me.

[@augustuswayne9676]

I live in the southeastern US and we always say please and thank you .

[@dbcooper-alltimehideandsee6223]

I grew up in Texas. Don't forget "yes mam", "yes sir", "no mam" and "no sir". Many of the things she said the about the US don't really apply in the south. It's a means of showing respect for your elders.

[@catw6998]

I’m from the NE and we say thank you, please, you are welcome, and hold doors open. Not very religious and don’t like talking about politics. We don’t talk about what we do for a job. Many in this area are gov’t workers and can’t talk about what we do.

[@sunflower3281]

Maryland here, and I cannot imagine not saying “please” “excuse me, Sir/Maam” “thank you”

[@Melodystiak1]

NW Indiana - as was I!! TY Augustus to posting this. 😅

[@dianajemison105]

​@@dbcooper-alltimehideandsee6223I'm from Texas. I don't think I've ever called anyone, ma'am or sir. I'm 57, if that means anything. I've also never been told that I needed to call someone, ma'am or sir. I don't see it as being disrespectful, either.

[@barbarasalley]

She seems to have had a very different American experience than most of us. But, once again, speaking for all Americans, in every region of the U.S. is problematic. She is definitely not from the American South where politeness and good manners are pretty much still expected. We wait in lines, we hold the door for others, we say please and thank you, we aren't "pushy"...but, we probably are loud, by British standards.

[@kathleenshaw838]

I have never, in my very long life, experienced anyone giving me a house tour. And I have visited many very nice homes. The only occasion I can imagine that is if you have just rented or purchased a new place. Even then it would be only for close relatives or friends. If someone offered to take me on a tour of their home i would definately feel weird looking at their personal living space and would decline. Perhaps this is a regional phenomenon; not known in other parts of the country.

[@OldRancher]

I'm 70 years old, I always got the bill by either of a empty plate or I ask for it depending how busy the waiter or waitress is, not shortly after my food was delivered.

[@charlenemorris5516]

I love looking at peoples homes….how they decorate and mostly the I love how it was built

[@bigfanfromIdaho]

I'm a senior citizen in America and have never had a server bring the check before I'm done eating, always say please and thank you, would never ask a stranger (or anyone) about their religion, or cut in line. Maybe it's a generational thing, but doesn't match my experience with Americans.

[@mage1439]

I don't think this girl knows what the word rude means. Brits might not DO house tours, but surely they don't think people who do are rude. And I've NEVER gotten a bill as soon as I got my food dining in at a restaurant. She's crazy. As we've gone on, everything she said is BS. Most people in America don't run up and say, "hey, where the flour at?" and where the hell else would we put our silverware but on the plate? Also, there are entitled people everywhere, but most people would tell line-cutters to get f***ed.

[@gwenna1161]

I don't know what part of the US she is from but so far, the only thing I feel she is right about is being loud.

[@darcyjorgensen5808]

Californian here: NEVER talk religion or politics.

[@revgurley]

Unless they are a religious leader. Then ask away!

[@ronrobertson9587]

I always talk politics. I love pissing people off. 😃

[@shelaughs185]

Or money.

[@valwhelan3533]

Utensils on the plate when you have finished eating is common in Canada. Just makes things neater/easier for cleanup staff to pick up 1 plate with everything on it.

[@aura81295]

I've seen both kinds of people to varying degrees in the U.S. Personally, I prefer tidy at the table so I do it so I feel more comfortable as well as to try to be of some assistance to bussers/waitstaff (having done those jobs plenty).

[@roadwary]

I do the same here in the US too

[@lindadeters8685]

For the most part, we queue nicely and get angry at line cutters. Of course, there are instances of “Black Friday mob rush” I do agree with 1st come; 1st served, rather than being the martyr.

[@janetmoreno8909]

I don't know where she's originally from but a lot of her actions I would find very rude (and I'm multi generation American). I've never had a server give me the bill as soon as they deliver my food. unless I've indicated to them that I would like the bill. I've usually had to ask for the check. Actually I place my utensils in the center of the plate, that's how I was taught and I don't usually see people just throwing their utensils every which way, mostly they put them on their plate (you're really gonna set the dirty utensils on the tablecloth?). Seriously where was she raised, I always say please and thank you, and Good Morning etc. if you didn't MOM or Grandma would give you "the Look". I've never asked a stranger what religion they were, not my business. What do you mean everyone pushes to the front, most people will stand in line, however there are always some people who will try to jump the line (because, you know, they're special Karens).

[@marydavis5234]

She is from Florida, she mentions it in about 90% f her videos

[@janetmoreno8909]

@@marydavis5234 First time I'm seeing her, but really if she did a lot of the things she talks about I'd consider her rude also.

[@craignickum6551]

She's also wrong in my experience of standing in a line. I always check to see who should go before me when there isn't a distinct line, ie. picking up a prescription at the drug store.

[@janetsanford6923]

I don't know about the practice of the silverware/cutlery in the US, when I am done with my meal (I am from the US) I put the utensils on the plate, not just leave them wherever on the table.

[@LIVEINPEACE2023]

Depending on the restaurant, during lunchtime, the server may bring the check with the food. It’s because people on their lunch break are in a hurry. 🍽️

[@larissahorne9991]

Although personally I don't swear or use profanities, many Aussies do, including young children. My mum broke me from that habit as a teenager. She was too much a lady to speak like that. I only started doing that in high school from being around my classmates. Anyway, back to my story. I was exhausted and just wanted to go home, so I decided to use a self checkout. When I heard a male customer having a fight with his female partner over the phone. He was yelling obscenities and swearing at her. Afterwards, when he finished paying for his items, he apologised for having yelled. But not for the type of language he'd used. After I'd finished paying, I walked up to the lady who works there and was helping the customers. I mentioned that my mum had stopped me from using that type of language. She acknowledged that was too rough for her as well.

[@brianabc83]

There are many places in America where many of these things dont apply. She should be specific about where in the America she is referring to. She is just bunching all of America into one basket. Guess what, you can't do that.

[@marydavis5234]

She is from Florida

[@augustuswayne9676]

Take into account that she hasn't lived in the US for 10 years . Some of the things have changed .

[@mage1439]

And some of them were never true. There's a whole lot of people like her that just make shit up for views.

[@dorothycordice]

@@mage1439 I agree with you completely. As an American, she should know better. I get upset when people generalize.

[@Brenda-f9y]

I'd say probably close to 90% of the time whenever I've gone out to eat whether it be by myself, with my husband, family or friends I have to sit and wait at least 20 minutes after the meal is done before we can track down our waitress to get our bill. I very rarely have them just come and put it on the table while still eating unless the restaurants getting really busy and they don't want to have to make us wait or if their shift is ending soon. I'm wheelchair bound and constantly have people, especially the younger generations, cutting in line in front of me. I still remember one group of teens that did it and when I called them out on it they didn't care so I rammed my power wheelchair into the back of one of their legs and said excuse me as I got back in front of them while they were still bent over from their sore legs, and no I didn't ram into them to hard just enough to show them that they need to learn some manners which is very much lacking in this country anymore.

[@Cashcrop54]

I have never given anyone a tour of my house. I don't want anyone going into the private end unless they are invited. I have never had anyone give me a house tour and I am 70 years old. Never got a check for a meal when the waitress brought it. Don't agree with most of what she said. Not my experience.

[@sunflower3281]

I’ve never gotten a check as early as that. But in NYC, I can picture it.

[@marydavis5234]

She is from Florida

[@manxkin]

I have never given a guest a tour of my house. Servers do not give you the check until the end of the meal or until you ask for it. I met a lot of loud Brits during my visits! I would always say “excuse me” or “sorry to bother you” if I needed assistance. I’ve never asked a person what religion someone is or where they go to church. None of my business. Pushing to the front is rude and not acceptable here either. I wonder where she grew up ‘cuz I’m an older American and her take on America is not my experience.

[@ESUSAMEX]

A person who cuts the line in NYC is putting their life in danger. So I do not agree with the line rudeness. Also never talk about politics and religion unless you know the people with you very well.

[@charliebarnes7514]

As an American , don't care what Brits think.

[@rivareed1641]

So many things she says do not apply to where I live in the U.S. If I lived where she is speaking of, I'd move abroad as well.

[@larissahorne9991]

I remember being on a plane with some empty seats. I'm fairly tall, and so was the gentleman sitting next next to me. He had the window seat, and mine was on the isle. Just after take-off, he said, "I saw some empty seats back there. Would you mind if I move and give you some more room?" Of course, I told him to go ahead and do that. So we both got a chance to stretch out a bit. When it comes to public transport, we only sit together under some circumstances. A couple might choose to sit together. If it's a parent and their young child, or if seating is limited. Of course, you allow older and/or infirmed people as well as pregnant ladies to take your seat.

[@AliciaHudson-ui6dh]

I don't know where she's from, but no way would a check be given at the delivery of the food, unless it's particular to a very casual spot.

[@RudyCantGame]

I've never been brought a check before I finished eating and I've been to a lot of places in the US

[@joecalabria3472]

It can be considered rude here in the US if you DON'T show guests around your home. I grew up in the NYC area and would never not say "excuse me please" when asking for assistance. Talking (especially asking about) religion/politics/finances with people outside your inner circle is never a good thing.

[@stevegibson7464]

I don’t know where she is from in the USA? Most of what she said is an exaggeration. We are know to be polite people and I would alway stand in line, I don’t talk about religion and I can not remember the last time someone asked me. Much like misconceptions we hold about Europeans, she really is off the mark.

[@CherylVogler]

I believe she is from Florida.

[@ESUSAMEX]

One thing in America not to do is talk about salaries and earnings. What I earn is only my business.

[@xenotbbbeats7209]

Farting in an elevator?😆 I've NEVER had a server bring me the check before I was done. That would be stupid. What if I decided to order dessert? It has never happened in a cheap or expensive restaurant. I DO put my utensils across my plate together. But, I was born in Germany, and maybe some habits were pucked up in Europe, and that's why my mom taught me that. I'm an atheist and where I live, nobody asks about your teligion. It's considered too private. I remember one person asking me if I believed in god. I said that I was an Atheist and she screamed at me. She asked me at my place of work. Hind sight says I probably should have said that it was provate, but I was floored by her belligerence. She certainly strengthened my position.

[@catherinesearles1194]

This girl has the world thinking we were all brought up in a barn. I don't know where she was raised but we were taught manners at home and in school.

[@robtintelnot9107]

What is this girl on about? None of this crap is true.

[@jamesalexander5623]

I was stationed in England in the USAF/USAFE for 9 Years. I lived Off Base in Oxford! I Loved it! .... The Most commonly used word is "Pardon" .... It used to drive me batty!

[@misslady582]

I disagree with a couple of things. 1) if you are out to eat and you are finished with your meal... you would take your dirty plates and put the off to the side or push them closest to the end of the table. It let's the server know they can clear those plates. 2) I always found it rude to be direct when asking for things in a store. I always say please and thank. It's just how I was raised. The only time I wouldn't say it would be if an employee stopped me and noticed I was looking for something. I might ask directly where something is located. But I'd thank them for their help after. 3) I also disagree around the religion convention.

[@roadwary]

Nah man, I've eaten out in many states and the bill always comes after the meal to the point that the server looks to make sure you are all finished. I don't know where she's run into that here. I don't like being around loud people unless we're at a pub or loud restaurant with loud music. But being around obnoxious loud people who just want to dominate the airspace in the states is not my thing either. Everyone is different. What do I think? I think this is another attempt at generalization which doesn't work well for the US because we have too much diversity and regional differences. I don't know where this queuing is like she explains it. Not anything I've ever seen. She hasn't really been around...too young.

[@foreverautumn2625]

I’m 53 years old, American, and I have never had a server bring me my check until I have finished my meal. So I’m not sure where she’s from that this happens.

[@jed1729]

Well I got to say the opposite was when I was in Little London in London itself I thought the British men were extremely rude but the women were okay

[@yolandamondragon341]

The utensil placement once you're done eating was taught to some of us. I think it's just one of things that have fallen by the wayside over time.

[@davidcopple8071]

Howdy from Texas. I have to wonder exactly what part of the U S. this little girl is from. Because here in the south at least. Pusing through a line and disrespecting everyone else waiting their turn. Is most likely going to end up with the person being disrespectful finding themselves waiting for the cealing tiles to stop spinning before trying to remember where they are and how they ended up on their back with a busted lip and three missing front teeth. Cutting in line here is just as rude as it would be considered there in Britain. The only difference is, doing so in Britain is likely to only result in a few go to hell looks and maybe a comment or two under the speakers breath. Where almost anywhere, at least in the Southern states, you're more than likely going to have to at least apologize to the two or three big men who are going to confront you at the same time before you quietly slink to the back of the line or end up on your back in and out of consciousness.

[@marydavis5234]

She is from Florida

[@Ming3484]

Alot of these I have never seen or experienced. -Never gotten the bill as soon as food is ordered. -Saying please and thank you or being polite is commonly done in the area i live in. -People actually stay away from subjects touching on religion. Usually it may be discussed if someone brings up their religion first. - I don't know where she's from but people don't just move to other seat or do what they want. - never had people being rude when lining up. Sure people get crazy on Black Friday, or limited sales, FOMO also, but normally people have common sense and line up correctly.

[@j_mill9356]

6:53 I tend to clean up my plate and put used utensils,napkins ,paper from straw etc on my plate and get the table set up easier to clean up and tend to put it towards the side easiest for them to get it cleaned up 🤷🏼‍♂️ 9:51 come on lady.. must not be from Midwest cause I’d say “Ope, excuse me can you tell me where the restroom is”

[@valeriea475]

I’ve never been given my bill right after. I either have to ask for it or it’s brought once everybody tells the staff they are finished.

[@jenniferhowardralph]

Ummm, we don't get our check that fast.

[@deannacrownover3]

When when is finished eating, utensils should be laying at the top of the plate together to show that you're done eating. I'm from the rural South in America and we were taught from childhood how to signify that we were finished with our food. If people are not doing that today, it just proves that manners and etiquette are not being taught anymore.

[@robertschwartz4810]

It IS rude for the server to bring the check as soon as we're served. It says, "Eat and get out, we want to turn the table over quickly". As to asking people where they go to church (More prevalent in the South) , sometimes there's the impication that they've chosen the wrong one.

[@larissahorne9991]

Hello again, we're also polite in Australia. As my sister said yesterday, "We help others, and they help us in return." There's definitely a community spirit throughout our country. In general, if someone needs help with something. We'll ask them, "Would you like some help with that?" Then, if say yes, we'll be to happy help them and then say thank you. If the flow of traffic isn't too heavy, a driver may even stop their car and wave you across. Then you say thank you and bow you head to them. You do the same thing at Zebra crossings as we call them. Even though it's a legal requirement in Australia, to stop if you see someone approaching one of them. It's definitely not the done thing to walk up to someone who works at any type of business and not politely ask them for something. You would just upset them. Everyone else would feel the same way about it. Also don't forget to thank our bus and taxi drivers etc. One last comment.

[@karenalves8100]

That's the NORM here in the US! I'm 70 years old. Maybe it's a generational thing but my children , grandchildren and Great grandchildren do the same. I don't know who, what or where she's talking about . Looking for CLICKS/THUMBS UP I suppose.

[@larissahorne9991]

@karenalves8100 That's nice to know. I'm not sure how common it is in other countries for ladies to open doors in buildings for men. I've been known to do that. Usually, if it depends on who reaches the door first or if the other person has their arms full.

[@janiceholcomb8490]

Where did she grow up? You better say please, thanks and excuse me. And definitely wait your turn.

[@vickimorrissey905]

I always say please and thank you. Some Americans do have good manners.

[@uberXserial]

I think she's just a rude person and lived amongst selfish people. I don't know any Americans like that.

[@brianbowen2512]

i think Americans are louder because we maintain a personal bubble, so we have to cross those bubble distances to be heard. you should never enter an American's bubble. that is considered highly aggressive and therefore any response is possible. so we speak across that distance which requires an elevated volume.

[@sslerlin]

Ive never had a server bring the bill over right away. We wait in lines here and it's considered rude to go to the front of the line

[@CinShiba]

We, as Americans, dont really care what you consider rude to be quite honest.

[@roadwary]

Not!

[@i7887]

No server in America gives your your dinner receipt when you order your food. Its usually when you can tell the people are getting close to being done.

[@alisonflaxman1566]

She said when they bring your food not when you order it which is still not true.

[@catw6998]

House tours might be limited to relatives visiting and possibly staying overnight. Getting a check/bill before you finish a meal might have to do with your server ether going on break/need to leave.

[@wandavandegraft8396]

I'm glad I read these comments because I really didn't agree with her on most of these things. Maybe because I'm older but I always say "excuse me" or "I'm sorry to bother you" before asking for help in a store. In a restaurant, I don't ever see the check given to us right away. Usually it's after they see if you want another drink or desert or whatever. Like someone commented, unless the server is done with their shift. Usually they will tell you this. No one has ever asked my about my religion, nor do I ask them. I'm not loud but some of my friends are! Haha.

[@gregorywright2798]

Whenever a server would bring me my check. After we were done our meal. They'd always include here's your check but stay as long as you want. I've never heard of a Server. Say. That they want You to hurry or rush out of the Restaurant So I can get more tips, even though that is true. They don't say it and they don't push you out because that would make you want to not come back.

[@raamjames1]

We use the local bar as a pub here. We will meet up, have drinks and food for a couple hours, eat and go home.

[@jerrishook7783]

I think it must depend on where you live in America, perhaps big city vs smaller town as i usually have to ask for my check, I do not cut lines or just grab last items, in grocery stores most people will allow someone with just a few items go ahead of them. Tours of a house I have experienced many times and is considered the norm in my opinion.

[@ayejay5603]

I’ve never been to a restaurant where they give you the check a few minutes after bringing the food.

[@peridot1706]

Her examples are way off, perhaps the issue is generational rather than cultural. Things she cites as UK are still done today by much of the population. Like basic table etiquette, I learned where to place my utensils after eating when I was old enough to feed myself. If you ask wait staff, what drives them crazy is when Americans stack all the plates and utensils thinking they're being helpful. Servers have their own system for doing things and this can make it messier and slower. It IS rude not to get staff's attention with hi, excuse me, etc. Especially when the person is working a thankless job, underpaid with no benefits. Please & ty can go a long way at no extra cost or effort to you. Talking religion is mostly regional than national. People in "bible belt states" will make it everyone's business. But more of the population identifies as "spiritual not religious" or "Nones" (irreligious) and hundreds of churches close decade after decade. There is a religious segment but overall Americans are increasingly agnostic, secular, or atheist and value our separation of church & state. One main contributing factor for the current political discord is that one party props up the segment that wants their religion to dictate public policy.

[@njd4291]

Not sure where she was from, but in the south we say "thank you, yes ma'am, no sir... Etc." Not sure about the being loud part either. Yes we dont whisper, we just talk. We know the difference between an indoor and outdoor voice.

[@marydavis5234]

She has mentioned in 90% of her videos that she is from Florida

[@shelaughs185]

Show people around my house?? That would mean showing them where I stashed the mess so I could have company over. I've never seen my best friend's master bedroom. I've never asked. The only time I showed anyone around was right after we moved in, and that friend asked for a "tour." The rest are manners related. Did her mom not teach her manners so she thinks these rude things are normal?

[@peachylee8459]

I don't know where she's from, but it's definitely not Michigan.

[@marydavis5234]

Florida

[@larissahorne9991]

In Australia, where live people in general aren't loud unless the circumstances call for it. I have a couple of stories about shopping at our local supermarket on this topic. Our supermarkets are usually inside a shopping centre. One day, I was walking in to do some shopping when I heard an American lady talking loudly on her phone. You could tell where she was from by the volume of her voice as well as her Californian accent. People were turning to look, but nobody stared at her. I'll write my other story in another comment.

[@111smd]

servers bring you tab with the food: usually it happens at the end of the day Americans are loud: we are taught from a young age that we need to project our voices Direct way of speaking: we see it as rude if you do tell someone something with false politeness

[@leeblack1277]

In the South we always say “please” and “thank you.”

[@BonneKlide]

Living in the Midwest, using Please, Thank You, Excuse Me , etc, is a Must. You definitely come off as rude if you don’t try to be polite, even when you’re mad. 😂 I don’t talk about religion or politics, don’t care who you are, with Anyone. I’d Never talk about these with strangers for sure.

[@DeborahDavis-zi6pm]

I’ve lived in America for 77 years and never had a server give me a check before I asked for it.

[@valerievaughan6201]

That’s BS about the servers and checks.

[@david-1775]

Churches serve communities so in the US it is more of a group activity. Probably more common in the South and in smaller town and cities. Still, I imagine it is fairly common all over the country.

[@mavahuth5044]

I wouldn't give a tour of my house. That would be rude. I think it is a bad idea to talk about religion, money or sex. Unless you really really know them. Some waiters will ask if you are done. I would take the seat and if someone comes along and says that is my seat and shows their ticket I would move.

[@lindarogers2271]

The normal of check is given at end of meal , or when dessert is served .

[@carolvanderwall5964]

I don't Know what part of the country this girl is from but from where I'm from (NW) most of what she said was false. I have lived here for 68 years. I have never had a server make me feel like i need to hurry with my meal and leave. They have brought us the bill before we finish but tell us we don't have to rush. Always put my utensils on my plate when done eating, even when I am at home. Always nice to others saying please, thank you, can i help you with that. hold the door open for someone, even when a cashier apologizes for taking so long my commit is "If that's the worst thing that has happened to me today then i think i'm doing pretty good" and then smile. And for the most part others are the same back. Now there are some who are not as polite but I think that is true around the world not just here. As for noise It can be loud at times and certain places but it can also be quite at time and certain places. To be honest I have never seen anyone cut in front of someone no wait I did see a kid do it but his parent informed him it was impolite to do it and that you wait your turn just like everyone else. She said It was the American way I just think it was her way simple as that Not that we don't have enough bad things that go on here just not what she was talking about.

[@davidcopple8071]

Howdy from Texas. I can't really speak for anywhere else in the states but Texas. And having spent years working in restaurants here in Texas in several different capacities. I can tell you unequivocally that it's considered just as rude here in the United States to have a server at a restaurant deliver your bill for the meal at anytime other than when you're finishing up with your meal. And that is almost always proceeded by the question from your server, " Will anyone be having a desert today ?" That's when it's okay to bring the bill unless the customer asks specifically for it ahead of time. But never at the beginning of the meal. I have no idea where this young lady comes from here in the United States. But I don't think I'd ever want to visit there now. And having been a server who depended on tips to earn a living. You certainly wouldn't make very good tips rushing customers out of the door just to get more in to piss them off as well. This girl has either never been a server, or was a horrible sever who didn't last long at her job because crappy servers can't live on equally crappy tips.

[@kitcraft9516]

Yeah, I think some of these are regional (both from UK and US perspectives) and generational differences. Saying please, thank you and excuse me when asking something of a store clerk, for example, is pretty commonplace in the small slice of rural American I grew up in. As an American who moved abroad 13 years ago now (Spain) I can say that my experiences often don't match up with those of other American expats. Often times they came from different regions of the United States and or from large cities (I grew up super rural) and live in different regions of Spain as well. Now, I don't know how well this carries over to living in the UK as an American, but my point is that I have had a totally different experience and adjustment period than some others that I have met over the years. In fact, the person who I seem to share the most similar experiences with is from rural South Africa and two generations removed from myself. Generally speaking, of course. But then, going by other comments you can see that this is quite variable to begin with. Always fun to watch these video. Thanks for posting.

[@glendacloud2911]

I’m an American and I eat out 3 to 5 times a week. I very seldom have somebody leave me that a ticket until the end of the meal.

[@robbherriman3302]

No idea were she grew up or spent her time in the US (I would bet A city) but, myself, family, friends, everyone I know we say please and thank you. Our Parents taught us that growing up, otherwise it is rude.

[@MelNel5]

No, I’ve never been given a bill right after getting my order from the kitchen. That would seem weird. I always place my utensils on the edge of my plate. It’s (to me) just the proper thing to do. I was raised (in Texas) to always use please, ma’am and sir. It’s just good manners. I rarely ask what religion someone is, unless we are discussing religion.