Britain's Parenting Secrets | Very Different Approaches to Education | Up Close

[@kundaimiedzok]

I’m so loving the pasta pot lady. Especially teaching her kids communication and love

[@michelleadams1210]

That last dad..... how wonderful!! Nearly made me cry!!

[@ameliawilson9074]

This was really great. I specifically loved Tommy’s story. Growing up with a single dad, he was quite similar to Tommy and I think it’s the best parenting display here. He cares about manners, respect, school and being a good person (I.e helping out and being kind), but also encourages them to be a kid and to have fun. Best of both worlds and is what my dad was too, constantly encouraging me to go out and play and not afraid to be silly. As for the no mum business, as long as he provides them with an open, safe and informative line of communication like my dad did, it’s not a problem whatsoever! There’s other people in your life who will fill that motherly role- aunty’s, grandparents or even friends/friends parents….

[@sh.4409]

Single father's bring up children better than single mothers. It's a fact not an opinion. Obviously there are exceptions.

[@aurora6920]

@@sh.4409That's not fact - actually of lot of children either grew with their dad not around or not interested in spending time with them. It just goes both ways. You can have a lazy mum or dad, gender doesn't affect it who you are as a person.

[@taylerlow3828]

​@@sh.4409😂😂😂😂 as a lawyer that is totaly a lie. Single dad never will do as single moms, dads get rid of the kid/kids in the first moment they can, i will know i used to work in divorce/family case. We lawyer in my city have a say "When the new young Babe enters the door the kids got out of the Window"

[@taylerlow3828]

Totaly a lie. As a lawyer single dads don't do best, in fact they rid of the kid/kids the first moment they can. 😂😂😂 i usted to work in divorce/family cases. 99% of times dudes will give the custody to the mom or rely their kids to anyone (mostly women aunts, sisters, grandmas, female cousins) except them, because most of dude see parenting as a women 's job 😂😂😂😂

[@KoalaB354]

Anne Robinson DESPERATELY trying not to admit she's impressed with the pasta pot lady was my personal highlight

[@LisaofHopewell]

Tommy's focus on decent food, routine, family fun is common sense--esp no screens.

[@summerwine121]

Ideally children have to be with their primary carer until about 7 or 8 years old. Their main peer group should be loving and compassionate adults who secure them enough so they can learn as relaxed as possible to self care, learn healthy boundaries, self soothing, basic life and social skills. They can always get a bit of kids contact everyday by going to parks or soft plays etc... They don t get that with other mini immature brain beings. Once kids had that time with adults they can start looking at having more time with kids and random adults. But our system and our own upbringing does not allow many of us to do that. It breaks my heart to see babies as young as 2 months to go to nursery. 😢

[@victoriabrown1507]

Anne seemed very judgemental to some of the families, it was very clear when she disapproved of them, on the other hand it was very refreshing to see Sharice and Corrine, even though they had very different parenting styles they were so respectful of each other and aknowledged that they were bith very dedicated parents and were doing what they felt was best for their kids

[@HereWeGoAgain4753]

It’s easier to pour a drink than make kids aware of their feelings and actions, but it pays off short term and long term! Those kids will be compassionate mindful and emotionally stable kids that pasta pot mum did amazing! 💕

[@zairamansha5228]

Faith,connecting with nature, good academics and helping kids with daily tasks of learning Socail skills and chores. So, much to think about as a parent but if we parents can bring up a kind, caring and loving childhood so they can contribute in society then we are successful parents

[@RSB1949]

My mother's love was conditional and based on achievement and 'success' in a well-paid 'professional job'. Every moment was a rush to get to another class and I hated every minute of it. 10 years of piano? I never got past grade 1 and still can't play a note. It lead to depression and anxiety as I grew up and a messed up sense of worth. All I wanted was to be asked how I was. To be loved for who i was. It's a terrible burden to put on a child. You're robbing them of a childhood. Have goals. Have hobbies. Don't force them to be someone you wish you'd been if you had another chance.

[@sunnybein1]

Yep mothers/parents projecting their own insecurity onto their children and also denying them autonomy.I find it it ludicrous this mother thinks ‘success’ is LewisHamilton.Poor kids she has their life mapped out for them.

[@lydwhite9185]

Love that Tommy didnt just stick his kids infront of the tv. I dont agree with smacking but also understand he is trying not to. I love that his dad gets them puberty books so he knows they have the facts and can read in privacy

[@Poodlemama1234]

The Dad holding his 17 year old daughter’s hand is giving me concern.

[@lyricalreaper5282]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks so... 🤔 #creepmode

[@enitachipoyi1377]

@@lyricalreaper5282 I thought so too but also thought, it might be just that they are defending their way of life. Ann is grilling them somehow and they are protecting each other, hence the "lets reassure each other hands, we are safe together"

[@islandpersuasion4690]

Same 😂😂😂 bloody creep

[@saskiahatton4071]

what a sad way of thinking…. i’m 19 and still hold my mums hand sometimes. hugging/ cuddling/ holding hands with your parent is not inherently creepy/ inappropriate

[@phish2947]

@@saskiahatton4071 keyword your mum. Most people do with mums but dads?

[@RainyDayBookshelf]

Fantastic!!!! What a fascinating doccie. Parenting is brutal … and it doesn’t end at the end of school days….I am now mum to 20 year olds and Parenting continues albeit in an evolved manner. ❤

[@lyliavix4366]

I absolutely agree! In some ways it's more challenging being a parent to a 20 year old than to a baby, accepting their decisions and supporting our kids whilst allowing them to make mistakes and become adults is incredibly hard at times 😊

[@lkm3s]

Please parents, consider calling quits on the "clean your plate" mentality. It made sense in earlier generations when hunger was a real consequence. Nowadays, if a child is full, let them walk away. Of course, don't allow desert, and don't supplement that meal, so they must wait until the next time you have snack or meal, but we have severe obesity epidemic, and cleaning our overfull plates isn't actually fit for purpose anymore.

[@Poodlemama1234]

I too never left my children with anyone else before the age of two. Babies should be with their mothers whenever possible.

[@LisaofHopewell]

Elle woman--"Don't talk to her as soon as she comes in the door" lol that's how it was with DAD growing up in the 60s/70s

[@neenee0321]

This was just amazing to watch. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@georgianatatarusanu5459]

Very interesting form of researching and preseting society👏

[@LisaofHopewell]

Church of the Nations??? Sounds a lot like some of the Christian Cults in the USA who value "instant obedience" The way he's holding his grown daughter's hand is very concerning. Those kids are obedient but WHY? It isn't just rock climbing fun. Scary

[@lydwhite9185]

Thank you! The dad the calls them dad date as well is just uncomfortable

[@LisaofHopewell]

@@lydwhite9185 Google Purity Balls

[@nualarosth8448]

What a wonderful father Tommy is

[@zairamansha5228]

Thank goodness I have had children in early age and now my oldest daughter is 25 and I am 44.

[@bellamycat123]

Cannot pick a wealthy working mum and state that this beneficial and no harm to a child! This wealthy working mum basically gave her mother role to the nanny!! The children are forced to live their mother’s life and I can guarantee the children will have mental health problems as adults due to the lack of naturing from their own mother!

[@aurora6920]

poor women who have to work also give the role mother over to Nurseries, I agree it's really important the baby/toddler is with their mother the first few years. Better to sacrifice money and have very little for a few years then not be there for your little one.

[@flowerpeace100]

@@aurora6920 Yeh but its different, with poor mothers children grow up and learn that she did everything for them, she prioritized them by working. With the wealthy mum she didn't really need to... so she chose work over them. I think that affects a child differently.

[@aurora6920]

@@flowerpeace100 yeah but the baby/toddler still grows up with multiple care givers, when they should be with their parent. They also need one to one educational play at this point, not just be a number amongst many kids. Although I want to make it clear I completely understand if this is the mother's choice and they have their own personal reasons. It's just considered not beneficial until 3 years old

[@rankzkate]

I love spending time with my children but I also love being away from them ☺️

[@ana-maria3526]

4:13

[@VamLiberdade]

Aí passa última com as crianças resume menos vocês estão incentivando as pessoas acertadas e vocês falam que tem que se aceitar se assumir dábliu cês estão ensinando

[@StephanieStewart-v2e]

With Annie in the attachment parenting, I felt sorry for her husband and the father of her children. You know what in life is always best to strike a balance it’s good for children to have activities but shouldn’t be so jampacked kids should be kids. I’m not keen on strict parenting myself. Well, I’d be strict to her degree, but I wouldn’t be a tyrant. Some strict parents are a tyrant. That was meant to be. I’d be strict to a degree.

[@onedaynoreason2572]

Balance is good!! Kids with super full schedules aren't happy but neither are kids just sitting at home on their tablets

[@sootheholistic3064]

to the single dad, you are a rock star. Well done.

[@flowerpeace100]

Seems like pasta lady, Tommy and the forest lady had very happy children.

[@singingsamodiva]

As much as I understand the sentiment that men aren’t judged as harshly (or at all) about leaving their children home or with nannies, it isn’t quite the same when they are very young. The first two years they need mainly their mother, the father provides more of a stable environment for both mother and baby, he should be more on top of the house, take care of anything that both the partner and him can do (changing nappies, washing clothes, playing with baby, etc), perhaps doing full time work while she’s on maternity leave and eventually part time work, etc. His role is supportive at first, after that it’s literally whatever works for the family, be it 50/50 or something else. Babies need their mothers and fathers, if you have a child I think you have to rethink a bit your life for a little while until they’re 3-4 at least. Of course, at the end of it, we’re all different and have different opinions on this, so: live and let live.

[@kornelia635]

Father holding 17 year old daughter's hand under that table and everyone submitting to him... hmmm BIG RED FLAG.... also it shows how narrow minded this family is... Harry Potter is NOT book about magic, it is a book about loyalty, friendship, love and fighting for greater good and showing that the good always win. And the presenter is very biased.

[@onedaynoreason2572]

Imagine being such a freak you think children csnt hold hands with their parents 😂 must be starved of affection and insist everyone grows up the same

[@Poodlemama1234]

Tommy is great!

[@uluvthislife3933]

Anne on the Elle lady - “You can work full time and still be a good enough mother” … what a joke! Reiterate that to an average income household (these are two high income careers) who can’t afford a full time nanny nor have the husband contributing significantly while he is working from home. Fortunately for their family they have one loving parent at home full time. This is nonsense to promote this situation as a good example of “family structure”

[@Katyus14]

It's really hard not to be judgemental on the attachment parenting lady. She thinks herself as a 10 out of 10? Wow I wish more mother would have such self confidence. I feel for her husband..... 😢 but I guess each to their own until no one is hurt by it.

[@jenlfpotter3870]

I don’t have children yet at 41 years old, or indeed, a partner, boy/girlfriend, husband Etc, so I could have children, but for sure, this attachment parenting thing, it felt like entrapment or imprisonment, not allowing this entire family apart from the husband and father of the children here, to have time and space apart, not sharing a bed or co-sleeping with the youngest children. I would worry about things like SIDS or SUDS overnight, so my youngest would never, ever, share my bed with me. They would be in a next to me cot or a moses basket on my side of the bed so I can quickly, grab them if they wake, so they don’t wake the rest of the family when they need feeding, then I would sit on a hard kitchen chair or something, because I fall asleep just about anywhere, far too easily, which can also kill a small baby. Schooling, I went right through from nursery to College as a boarder or residential pupil and student, since that was the only schooling pre-21st century, which was available to anybody with disabilities. i'm vision impaired with moderate to severe hearing loss in my right ear. I would have loved to have been raised on forest School and a learning through play approach, not having to learn reading or writing, braille or print, until i was 7, so I think I would like to raise future generations of my own family, thus. My elders of course, have shot me down over the practicalities of home education when it comes to reading and writing letters or numbers and yes, I struggle with identifying print letters and numbers as an adult, since a lot of my childhood education was braille, braille and more braille and that was the end of that. I wish we had been taught handwriting from the word go, because holding a pen correctly still feels so weird.

[@annereinig7876]

She's very controlling in another way I feel. Her children are just as unfree as those of very strict parents.

[@bellamycat123]

@@Katyus14 the thing is tho, this isn’t actually “attachment parenting” this lady has obviously got mental health issues and she needs to seek help!

[@StephanieStewart-v2e]

Oh my word alive!!! I’ve been a Christian since 1996 and I still read Harry Potter. Does that make me any less question? No! And I certainly wouldn’t be submitting to my husband in the way she talks about she just goes along with everything he says. I mean it is okay to disagree with your husband and not do what he says like a robot. Mind you though some thought I think if my boyfriend and I were married, he would probably be the submissive one out of us too. But I would never beat him down or try to Take advantage of that in anyway. And just another little bit of Info I’m the only Christian in my family. No one is brought up as a Christian it’s a personal decision you make between you and the Lord.

[@melissawilliams5394]

A Christian is a follower of Christ and you follow Christ by The final authority He has given us, His holy word. It sounds like you're in rebellion to His word.

[@joanner1427]

It is worth, fellow Christian, prayerfully considering the Biblical instructions on family life...There is incressed unity and peace, in marriage and family life when we seek, with humility to follow God's guidance. Of course no family is perfect, but as we seek God together we can experince blessing.

[@StephanieStewart-v2e]

For the people thinking that I’m any less of a Christian because I don’t fully submit and be my husband’s puppet on a string well how perfect are you? I bet your halos are nice and shiny.

[@aurora6920]

I am Christian and i loved harry potter growing up, nothing wrong with that., i'm not practicing magic i just enjoy fictional stories.

[@zairamansha5228]

It is an interesting show. Every parenting style is different

[@kundaimiedzok]

Bless Tony / Tommy and his babies 🤍

[@enitachipoyi1377]

the brother protecting his sister on TV, nice

[@katkaro344]

Gina Ford approach has been rebuked and questioned by many psychosocial, child development researchers and psychologists

[@emmaransford]

I read Anne Robinson. Memoirs of an Unfit Mother. 😊

[@CherylManthé]

I love you. ❤Your commentrtry.lovin this show. Loving your sarcasim. I can relate alot to what you say.

[@Littlemouse884]

"No teenage rebellion here"...wait till they leave home and then they'll really let there hair down ! 🤣 I've seen it happen SOoo many times with kids who have been bought up in strict christian households > they tend to go off the rails alot more than others

[@lydwhite9185]

The way the dad and 17 year old sat was a bit of a red flag to me

[@HereWeGoAgain4753]

Sharice being really controlling saying she’s only encouraging.. gym and training in one day!? Poor kids don’t get time to be kids

[@islandpersuasion4690]

I thought the 17 year old was maybe 13-15. The way she acted. Very innocent bless her. She’ll either soon learn & crumble or rebel massively. I hated my dad, still do tbh, multiple reasons.

[@mariarotaru2069]

So selfish to want to be with your children 24 hours. Children need to go to school, to socialise, they are not your property.

[@anastasiaharper1834]

You do understand why school was invented?

[@islandpersuasion4690]

I’d have gone much further in life if the government let me be with my mother 24/7. The only thing school taught me was that other people are horrible racist bullies who should always be hit back.

[@nina.tarot.23]

My daughter is also very annoying 😂❤

[@chelseaspain1100]

Presenter is very bias

[@myoldvhstapes]

biased

[@janes9264]

Dad needs to clean that house !

[@waji78611]

The blck lady talking about race and privilege and the reason shes very rigid about schooling .. despite being a 2nd generation.. is sad 😢

[@reyasaint]

Yes very sad that while living in the developed world with no laws that forbid her family from thriving she still feels her race is a barrier when, being honest, any race of person achieve heights of success in the UK. The victimhood is in the mind. (I am a black woman btw).

[@bamz9067]

@@reyasaintit’s not a feeling it’s a fact !

[@aurora6920]

i'm surprised as work places i go to all have mixed raced, they seem to hire you based on skill and it's not exactly easy for anyone to get a job these days either. Although i'm not sure how fighting lessons for long hours and an hour at the gym several days a week is going to help with getting hired for jobs.

[@nedflndrs3680]

I recommend reading articles about the General Medical Council's problems with racism. There is an article in the Pulse "GMC data lays bare stark racial inequalities in medical training". The General Optical Council is alledgedly worse. It isn't victimhood-it is many peoples reality. That doesnt mean every BAME person experiences discrimination but unfortunately it is still out there.

[@irinaeirene52]

Living in he UK for 10 years now. Since I have children I want to move back to my cougry and will do in a few months. The first thig I've noticed in England is the lack of empathy towards the children.. mothers pushing the pushchairs ..children..babies crying for an hour and mohers done even bother to even look at them.. That... I have never seen anywhere in the world.. in many countries I've been. I've seen lack of affection, care, empathy, etc. Family and home is not valued... Maternity leave is just a few months..Mothers leave heir babies.. few months old.. in daycare. Breastfeeding is something british women don't do... Etc..That is the first and most important reason I don't want my kids to grow up in this country.

[@Alex-xq3ze]

Sweeping and judgemental statements. You cannot deduce the parenting of the entirety of the UK based on seeing ‘mothers pushing pushchairs’. I’m sure you are a fantastic mum, and it’s good you value your children’s safety and nurture so much. Please remember that those mums you saw are trying their best too.

[@aurora6920]

I hope your kids don't grow up to be as judgemental and lack of empathy towards other mums like you do. You also need to respect other cultures if you come over to the country and know that this video is showing examples of extreme parenting that don't represent the rest of the uk. We are actually one of the few countries that provide a decent amount of Maternity leave, which is 52 weeks and no most people don't leave their babies in nursery a few months old, again that's a rare case, same with everything else you said.

[@moonlight-ct1pb]

What are talking about? I've been living in the UK for more than 20 years, I had a lot of English mothers who my children friend mums, they are all loving, caring, energetic, we learn from each other and never judge Each other.. No one is perfect

[@helenarden74]

That jiu jitsu mum is just cruel.

[@zairamansha5228]

But looking after young children in your 40s is challenging

[@zairamansha5228]

But in 40s, I have an idea of parenting with past experience but still not a supper mom

[@zeynepcalk6541]

😊