I don't date much and I am the same way as her... shy and nobody gives me a chance so I hope she keeps her head up. Shes definitely one of a kind 😊
@dougmurray3692 Жыл бұрын
Find your "edge" and the 'shy' will fade. 'Shy' will keep you apprehensive in lots of areas, like s*x. Don't be shy there.
@SpitonnitPLZ Жыл бұрын
@@dougmurray3692 thanks friend! I will do my best.
@johnnymidnight4402 Жыл бұрын
This is the best show on morning radio and I am so glad to be able to watch all the episodes on KZbin.
@yoshiadams3103 Жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh!! I so enjoyed this! Good on her! Hope it works out for the better ❤❤
@girlmama. Жыл бұрын
sneaky move!😂😂😂
@cqzay8828 Жыл бұрын
He just created his personal dominatrix
@ohcaptainmycaptain48293 ай бұрын
I LOVE the karate class date idea!
@tylorcarlson4627 Жыл бұрын
Good one
@whkerebos199110 ай бұрын
hold on! I genunly like day old gas station burgers!! fighting worda jeffery
@dougmurray3692 Жыл бұрын
This therapist...ugh The problem with therapy is ppl rely too heavily on the outside perspective to verbalize inward workings. Being guarded and apprehensive is part of this girls 'authenticity'. It's not like she's faking it. So this therapist didn't give her the full motivational schematic. The advice was left in a "nutshell" that this girl holds and carries, and it's simply too strained to help her. It'll mess up her life b/c this piece doesn't fit with the rest of his she is, and this advice actually creates an imbalance (actually, more than one). And this imbalance doesn't fix anything. It creates a more long-term client. Nice trick. My advice of this girl is able to read this is this; authenticity is a 'whole', and unless you look at the pieces that make it, you'll never find your true self. To be 'authentic', you need cinfidence, assertiveness (which was mentioned), longer direct eye contact (w/o being creepy), body language that shows you're into the interaction, and so on. They key is to be aware of what you know about yourself and what you have knowledge in. Lack of surety in, say, a conversation, where you know a topic well and somebody saying something contrary to facts, gives you a chance to flex, but not rudely. Ever seen ppl recoil, or show apprehension, when a person states something that's false about something the hearer is well aware of? That lack must be corrected. And I know being confident and holding you position can cause slight panic attacks. But you face your fears and go deep into it's center. That's how you eliminate it. Avoidance isn't a tool for those situations unless you use it properly. Are you afraid of talking about walking? No, prob not. But shoe designs FOR walking may not be in your software, along with types of exercises you can do, foods you can eat toward health, that sort of thing. Usually, authenticity comes as a final product of what you do to get there. So your therapist telling you what you were told was good advice with a lazy delivery, and premature application. You might wanna look at changing therapists, as an aside. Think of a bread recipe. 1st you need all of EACH ingredient available. Then you combine them, let them interact. Then ONCE READY, you form the loaves and bake properly. You can test this yourself. Well, authenticity can be an ingredient in its position of your personality and more subtle. Or it can be the bread, resulting at the end and seen. Until you are "cooked", keep the authenticity at the ingredient level and become more sure of yourself, by knowing yourself, like Apollo said (--Google it). Once you have the 'feel' of authenticity, you will understand you exhibit the traits. These traits then go forward to AS authenticity, and it's the traits ppl pick up on. So what can you do? Talk about what you already know, learn everything about it. Don't be arrogant (give the knowledge like a gift), and if your hearer interjects that's a conversation. Let them talk. Don't control the conversation too much. Use it to find out more about the other person by using talking points to segway into other topics. And learn the Segway itself to smooth the transitions between topics. That helps. You'll feel it when you're "clicking" but that doesn't mean your date will necessarily prefer you over other dates. It just assures that you are you, and nothing or more authentic than that. If your date doesn't fit/work, don't recoil. All it's showing you is your ability to plug into the right person isn't quite right. But here's something your therapist may not know, once you begin to be your true self, the universe becomes more in your favour. So you might be late for something (as a negative) but then you find out you weren't in the place that the head-on collision occurred 3 minutes before, and you WOULD'VE been there otherwise. I've shown you a lot. The next time you see your therapist, you will be better armed to resolve yourself w/o lining his/her pockets. You can tell I might see therapy, and therapists differently than most. Part of that comes from the authenticity I had to cultivate and apply at the right times -- same advice I gave you. It'll work roughly the same for each person. Any questions? Hit me up. Now, go have a great day that can be different from every other. It's up to you.
@bovellion Жыл бұрын
Jesus
@dougmurray3692 Жыл бұрын
@@bovellion "Jesus", good? Or "Jesus", bad? If bad, then I think ppl are worth the explanation. Don't you?
@bigfootbones2520 Жыл бұрын
Oh lord
@dougmurray3692 Жыл бұрын
@@bigfootbones2520 I hear ya, but repairing psychology isn't a small task.