Bulik: The Complex Dance of Genes and Environment in Eating Disorders

[@dalibofurnell]

Nurture sounds like an incredible breakthrough program. Those moms are awesome 💪❤️✨️

[@dalibofurnell]

The info about pregnancy is more new , and i have never heard the phrase " anorexia is not a contraceptive " wow that's bizarre and shocking but also weirdly not too surprising in these times . Gosh, it's hectic but I agree that people need to know that!

[@dalibofurnell]

Really? Is it true that people , professionals, are afraid to work with people with anorexia nervosa? If that's really true, then oh my gosh , quite a few things make sense for me and the way I've been "treated" &/ "not treated" and often been on an insane referral cycle from specialist to specialist except for Ed specialist because there is like nothing here but also theres a problem with professionals not being honest about how they do not know what or how to treat it because they have not gone to educate themselves about it or even been given the education of it when they were studying. It is insane. And of course, no professional will listen to a patient or someone who isnt in their field etc It is horrific and scary its so hard to get help from people who refuse to educate to be able to actually help and stop pretending that they know when they know they have no idea what to do and then go find something else and only treat whatever the thing is that they've studied to find and ignore everything else and then are deluded in thinking they've done their job and feel satisfied. Its exhausting, sometimes all i feel that i am is literally an experiment or literally like nobody but just this personless body beeming thrown around like im not a person like im not allowed to be free from all that and live life. Sometimes i feel like a piece of prey but then am the one to blame when it's realized that I am most certainly no one's prey and its not cool to have this threatening presence of professionals putting so much pressure on me and not break under that or get a break from it without everybody freaking out unnecessarily and its not my fault when someone else isn't educated and then choose to pretend thats not true and then lie , im not an idiot but i also have a big heart so its truly painful to be witness to. I wish someone could just help me with quality of life , i dont expect much anymore but it crushes me when im pushed so hard and given no relief i feel like im going to die in pain and pressure and suffering and only after that be picked apart too and its terrifying, i cannot trust anyone and it is so tolling for me, it is hard and effortful and I've had enough yet cant escape it and yet in all the years never received the level nor vicinity of the care i needed. So at this point all i want to ask is for some help with the pain at least and some assistance with the insane anxiety and pressure, God i just want to be free

[@dalibofurnell]

And also, it is like nobody stopped to realize that I have been the one who has done most of the work for over a decade and often im completely taken for granted because there's almost always something that's wrong with me that can be found , it's ridiculous, iv actually experienced some of this repeatedly from different people and then been in the really weird role of informing professionals about how and what and when iv heard the exact same thing before and then give them more information about it and in quite a few , more than that actually, It would be like an interrogation, loads of questions being asked to me, not for me, but for them to know so they can treat others!! Sometimes I feel like I'm the one who should be paid when I'm giving hours to answer all these questions just because they want to know or because maybe they won't necessarily always have the opportunity, and I just feel like screaming sometimes and saying hellloo I'm still here, I'm not gone , it's weird to have to remind professionals in med that the person who I am is very present and being ignored and I'm not a study rat, it's almost humorous. Sometimes I just want to be left alone , because it's almost endless and i have just kept on giving and giving and giving and at the same time keeping alive, maintaining and somehow living beyond the predicted age of my so called death , it's so weird. I often feel like I'm going insane and then I think, well that seems normal to me and I give myself a bit of grace there because I understand what I've been through enough to not have an issue with that part of myself, well to be honest I don't have much issues with myself than others do, also iv noticed that for some it's almost a dissapointment or its unacceptable that I made progress, when I heal too, when I develop and move on, I don't understand that , I really don't, and I honestly am not someone who believes they want to keep me sick , or at least I refuse to believe that. People are people. Humans are humans. I'm me and I can only be me and I'm good with that, it feels right to be "aligned " anyway I could carry on and on but I'd prefer to listen

[@robcassman]

Some good information here.

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

Robert Cassman I’m also so pleased to notice that while psychology experiments on rats, they’re at least nice about it.

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

I’m always so afraid my kid will have problems with food so I’m really vigilant about nutrition. But I have to say, at her age now, three meals and 3 snacks a day is shocking. Like I never want to restrict her, but I’m genuinely and constantly surprised that any human being eats this much or this frequently. I set alarms to make sure I remember when meal or snack time is. I don’t want to just forget. And I always feed the best food. She’s got an amazing appetite. She loves tomatoes and broccoli, chicken (something I’ve never liked), brown rice, dark chocolate... she’s a regular little gourmand. It’s amazing. And per my pregnancy? Oh yes. I was happy to gain weight. It was a period of great calm for me, even though life was really hard then. It was like the need to restrict froze. It was still there. I could see it. I knew it was there. But it had frozen. I gained a healthy amount of weight. I did have HG, legitimately, during pregnancy, but mostly nausea without vomiting, I felt hungover for the first two trimesters. I countered that by eating small and very frequent meals. But it seems I was atypical when it came to breastfeeding. I loved her so much, I wanted to do everything right. I breastfed her and kept my diet rich and dense for two years. I only did moderate exercise too. But by the end of that, I was white knuckling it. Once she weaned, that was it and within two months, I’d guess I lost 20-30 lbs. I have been losing steadily since, but I really try to keep it under control. I have periods and keep telling myself as long as I’m having periods, I’m ok. I’m very protein and fat conscious. Pregnancy did change me, or rather, she did. I’m afraid to die. I don’t want to leave her alone without me. And I don’t want her to think that grownups don’t eat. That’s scary too. It’s so sad writing all this out. You don’t think about it until you write it down, you know? But I did the 2 years and I didn’t feel particularly proud or anything. Now hearing this, I do. Because it WAS hard. I will also never have another child for this precise reason. I never want to go through it again. I loved carrying her and having her and I loved breastfeeding her. But I’d be terrified to do it again. I really hope this helps your research, even though I’m only one person.

[@janeadelaidelennox7193]

Per weight gain during pregnancy? Just don’t look. I didn’t know what i weighed once. I stood on the scale backwards, facing away. I didn’t want anything to fuck up my health trajectory.

[@nononouh]

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[@iamnov]

Bulimia: am I a joke to u???