Buy Nothing | The Minimalists Ep. 405

[@TheMinimalistsPodcast]

How long can you go without buying anything?

[@la_baby_khalil7703]

23 Michael Jordan DAYS...👍😊

[@rwood4610]

Are you excluding essentials like food, toiletries, etc? If so, probably 6 months or so.

[@olivrrrr]

Sleeping hours 😂

[@reagan3078]

Probably a LOT longer than I want to admit!

[@Aneleh50]

One year... thank you for open my eyes ❤

[@lalablotz7348]

I went 2 years without buying a single piece of clothing, shoes,accessories etc. when the 2 years was up I bought new underwear. That’s all I needed. During that 2 years I slowly downsized my wardrobe. I went from 2 overstuffed closets to one understuffed closet. I also have empty drawers in my dresser and the 5 under the bed storage boxes are gone. So much better and actually I’m still removing with the end of every season. I turn my hangers backwards and as I wear things the hanger gets flipped the right was. On October 1st all the items on the backwards ones will go.

[@h3arty]

nice!! well done. i've committed to not buying any more clothes for the rest of this year :D

[@wenpm9714]

That sounds like a pleasant space. But after a while did people start noticing your same clothes? People can be so judgemental.

[@alamedadanceparty]

@@wenpm9714my guess is no one noticed at all. People are focused on themselves. Also you can change a look a lot with key accessories.

[@bumblebee_ms]

Well said. I'm doing similar to you @lalablotz7348

[@MRSancutzik]

​@@wenpm9714I wear only a few items in my closet anyway (20/80 rule) so I think it is more our perception about what others think than what they are really thinking. If we feel ok, the rest does not matter.

[@joyvestal8106]

I lost my husband to colon cancer, he was only 42. It took me 5 years to let go of his things. Take time to grieve but don't let grief hold you up.

[@keekwai2]

PATHETIC. Toss the stuff. Your memories are enough.

[@Kimba911911]

I absolutely loved what T.K. said to the woman who had lost her husband. Thank you, T.K.😊

[@Suki022]

Yes, he was soo kind in his response.

[@judithisdutch]

Just scrolled on IG and saw an ad for boots.. which look amazing but which I do not need... And returned back to this Podcast

[@cindywisthoff3697]

TK I really appreciate your compassionate response to Holly. Your making a point of offering your condolences first and foremost and giving her permission to hold onto her husband's possessions to help her through her time of grief.

[@katgallardo2797]

TK Coleman where have you been all this time. You always nail it with your words of wisdom. ❤ Thank you!

[@lauraabrell1790]

I love that you are emphasising to adjust minimalist rules to fit your life. It is just stuff, but everyone has to deal with it differently.

[@rainwarren1219]

This is so helpful, listing as I declutter. I have helped so many people clear spaces of loved ones who have passed on. It is a wonderful and sacred experience to listen to the stories and special life moments, then allow the release to happen joyfully and completely. One client I had could not go into her husband's closet. I asked her if there were an item or two that she wanted t keep as a memory? She took some socks and a sweater of his. Everything else went to the veterans of which he was a vet so that made her very happy and she said her husband would be happy knowing his person clothing/items went to the vets. Then when she came into the closet she jumped for show as she visualized all of the shoes she could now place in the closet...shoe clutter, that's another story!

[@JaclynSeymour]

To Kathy who wrote in… I disagree with what they said regarding you not owing her respect if she doesn’t respect you. I grew up a family who gave kids and young adults no respect and I was expected to give it. Our kids don’t owe us anything. I know this makes some people mad, but it’s true. We chose to have kids and kids need us all the way into adulthood. When we see things we don’t like in our kids behavior I would encourage anyone to look closer at the relationship you’ve built with your child. Did you teach them how to be respectful by modeling respect to other in front of them and most importantly by respecting them? I think it’s us as the parents job to be the bigger person. I would bet money your child feels disrespected by you in some way and this agreement will probably make things worse. 😢

[@cubey_doo]

Excellent comment

[@user-qp6vg9ho8u]

The way you guys responded to Holly’s question was very respectful and a balanced. Everyone deals with grief in their own way and from my experience it is very much a process that takes time

[@Magazinelady]

You never rent books from a library. The word rent means that you would pay for it upfront to use it for a specific amount of time. One borrows a book from the library. If the book is returned late, there may be a small fee. Some libraries are doing away with late fees. If a book is never returned, lost, or damaged, the patron would have to pay for the cost of the book and processing fees.

[@MamaBasics101]

This is an excellent take on this topic. I exercise letting go often, sometimes I have piles of cards or something and I hold it and let it go because I don’t want to be controlled by an object. I like the freedom of letting go.

[@Zoe-lv1rc]

Another great episode. I did have a thought that may be worthy of consideration. When Josh was discussing the book "Buy Nothing, Get Everything" he noted the author talked about eliminating paper towels and zip-lock bags. Josh's immediate assumption was that this was from a minimalist perspective, that she had proposed eliminating these items for greater peace of mind and simplification. Given what was read about the author, I believe her advocation for this relinquishment was for environmental purposes rather than a test of "deprivation". In this context, she is suggesting giving up the convenience of everyday single-use plastics and papers, in place for more altruistic, sustainable solutions. A bold suggestion: NOT depriving ourselves of items that are exploitative or cause long-term harm is actually selfish. For instance, every day I "deprive" myself of the convenience of littering or the luxury of taking 30-minute showers.

[@puidemare2337]

It's interesting, for the longest time I tried the minimalist thing but just couldn't let go of things, even though, I don't use it. I just liked it. I don't know why I felt the need to hang on to it. Anyway, I just recently tried again and found it surprisingly easy once I shifted my perspective on and took a deeper look into why I was hanging on to things. I came to the conclusion that I was defined by these things. My own doing, of course. I saw through the lense of, what people will think of me as opposed to how I defined myself. I was letting others define me via my things. Once I took that power back of defining myself, I was able to get rid of 75% of things I kept for years and years but never used!! It's really liberating not to hang on to things that no longer serve me. It only has been 3 weeks since I got rid of the stuff but I don't even miss it. I like what a friend of mine said. He has boxes of stuff he hasn't opened since moving to a new place. He said, "if I had a big trash bin near me, I'd throw all those boxes away without going through them. I lived this long without it. I don't need it obviously," I took that to heart. That idea just resonated with me so much. It's amazing how much you don't miss stuff when you are fulfilled in your heart and life.

[@lillianbarker4292]

In my city we have Habit for Humanity stores. You can donate construction items and also buy them.

[@davidmilhouscarter8198]

11:02 Dave Ramsey talks about the importance of reading. I’ve really stepped-up my reading. I’m currently reading “A Clockwork Orange”.

[@exosapiens2509]

This guys go to the extreme with minimalism. On top of that, their videos are quite long for being a ´´minimalist´´.

[@rainwarren1219]

TK is AWESOME! Very clear and powerful communication...and that voice!!!

[@karenvillanueva9984]

I had a conversation with my then teenaged son. That, in the event that I am not longer here. That he should have no regrets or feel guilt about keeping stuff that made me happy. He can distribute my stuff however he sees fit.

[@carinagatta]

TK that was a phenomenal response (17:40). Thanks for sharing, super helpful.

[@thefrugallibertarian7413]

I can go in a store and buy nothing.

[@markspark7347]

Same with a flea market for me :)

[@user-ep3ck5re4o]

Well good for you

[@HananBenNafa]

A great episode, thank you guys. I can listen to T.K. talk all day, in terms of content & voice quality

[@padumai]

What a thought provoking talk !!! Wish the world is quieter, calmer and clearer to follow such thought provoking message.

[@user-fh6hg5yc4b]

Your channel is therapy for me & for that I Thank You! ❤ Loved every word & the Grab on...Let go is so true in every aspect of life! I will always think of that. Much Love from N. Idaho near Missoula 🧗‍♀️💜

[@mc5366]

Excellent video for Monday morning reset! thank you...I gained a lot from this.

[@alanbirkner1958]

I went shopping for my annual Toys for Tots items today. My grandkids are too old, but there will always be kids who need things. Tina, Al's wife

[@brg2743]

When I go into a store, I try to just enjoy things while I am there. Inflation is most important to deal with for now.

[@bumblebee_ms]

Yes, me too. I prefer to spend my money on healthy food than buy trash to put on a shelf.

[@YeeSun]

Same for me. I like to walk in the store and see the products displayed in the shelf. but I will not buy it as I don’t need it and I don’t want to create more clutter in my home.

[@russanymonsalve3732]

TK Coleman. I just love the approach and insight you give to life. Nailed it every tima!

[@iloveyellow7214]

This episode makes me feel human. Thank you for sharing these things guys

[@marymedal8665]

My husband also passed 8 years ago at 55. It took me several years to let go of all but one bin of things that were who he was. A certain jacket a few shirts and some things that make me remember us. That bin is only there to know its there. I seldom look at those things. I don't cling to it. May you be good to you during this process.

[@dellahayden5606]

Just started the 333 again…. I have been thinking about it for a while now and I decided to jump into it! I have already decluttered quite a lot of things and clothes so I’m going to try this. I have enough!!! ☺️🌻🌻 TK great advice ❤

[@h3arty]

I LOVE YOU GUYS! YOU HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE! And you're so kind-heartted and lovely! Love this video!

[@outbackgearforu]

Things I will buy,storable food, ammunition,vegetable seeds,and solar power gear

[@dellahayden5606]

Just started the 333 again…. I have been thinking about it for a while now and I decided to jump into it! I have already decluttered quite a lot of things and clothes so I’m going to try this. I have enough!!! ☺️🌻🌻

[@kellylee5550]

TK’s advice + TK + TK’s voice = 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

[@carolannstevens5814]

I had a very hard time letting go of an unhealthy relationship for 30 plus years. It had to happen. It was a “mother relationship” with a person who was not my mom. I allowed her to treat me unkind. Then the Elder at our church kicked me out of his Sunday class as they were uncomfortable.

[@annettemartinez4063]

“YOU NEVER KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVE SOMEONE, UNTIL THEY GIVE YOU A REASON NOT TO” TK Coleman That’s deep ❤❤

[@KristiBranstetter]

I have just one closet of clothes. I have folded clothes. I have spent years downsizing my clothes. I don't frequent thrift stores or garage sales or buy/sell groups. I have a hard rule.. one in one out.

[@jakeprepared]

I am a new listener . Inflation on the rise and cost of everything going up , where you can’t afford nothing. What is your thoughts with preparing(food, water, ect)? I like it some of your thinking but I see a scary pitfall in the future. Meaning cost of food a few years ago was cheaper and in the future more expensive (hedge against inflation). How does minimalist though process prepping?

[@kraykray4118]

I like this already just by the title😂. Well done to Ryan also on the new old house 😊

[@geriebantog7088]

This episode made me cry. Thank you for sharing this.❤

[@KingBurger404]

I love this podcast! You're both so good at answering, I appreciate the different perspectives rather than just agreeing with each other, my Mum was my best friend and I don't want to have to keep storage of her stuff. Definitely feels a bit painful to send it all to charity etc but it's much better than slowly painfully sorting through -that's heavier

[@ambition112]

0:00: 📚 The caller discusses the concept of the book 'Buy Nothing Get Everything' and her concerns about keeping things while trying to fix and exchange items. 6:16: 🌍 The Buy Nothing Project promotes minimalism and conscious consumption to reduce excess stuff and encourage generosity. 11:29: 📚 The authors emphasize the importance of questioning assumptions and being intentional about what we buy and own. 16:13: 💔 The speaker empathizes with Holly's dilemma of holding onto her late husband's belongings but advises her to eventually let go when it feels right. 21:47: 💔 Letting go of material possessions and clinging to the present moment is important for a fulfilling life. 30:11: 💀 People are resistant to making end of life plans because it forces them to confront the inevitability of death and make changes in how they live. 33:24: 😊 The speaker reflects on the fear of letting go and the significance of death, while also expressing gratitude and happiness. 40:09: 👩‍👧‍👦 Parenting is not always about liking your child, but about setting boundaries, being honest, and doing the right thing. 44:03: 📝 The speaker suggests breaking down tasks into smaller numbers to prevent burnout and allow flexibility. Recap by Tammy AI

[@bria2596]

Thank you, I appreciate your summary so I can get to the part that I need to hear.

[@luzedithramirezrios]

Thanks for the summary, it saved me time 😅

[@marietollett8323]

To Kathi who wrote in regarding her daughter moving in after college. If you feel the need for a written agreement, please think about the state of your relationship with your child. My parents did something similar to me while I was in college and their pressure pushed me out of the house. I ended up staying in a romantic relationship I did not need to be in because of it. Twenty years later I’ve learned about toxic patterns in my family, and how their trauma was projected onto me and how the behavior was normalized. My father is jealous of me and refuses to be honest about his intentions when I turned 18 and during young adulthood. I hope you and your daughter are able to get to a better place with your relationship. Best wishes to you.

[@oliviacogswell6702]

Defining boundaries and the terms of a relationship can be an efficient and effective way to communicate. But doing so agreeably and through reflection on the relationship, healthy or otherwise, is critical. And I agree that more reflection is needed.

[@helenakurcewiczowna6695]

Same here. Been there, done that. Absolutely right! Totally agree

[@CarolineEccleston-q9c]

There are two sides to every story and your parents are individuals with rights, not just obligations as YOUR parents. Your failed "romantic" relationship is on you, you could have had a roommate. You are yet another example of a person who blames everyone and anyone but themselves. It's not limited to any one generation, but it is a growing, contemptible trend in the US.

[@marietollett8323]

@user-ze8hn5jq6w Caroline Eccleston, Thank you for your comment. I respectfully disagree. Have a wonderful day.

[@CarolineEccleston-q9c]

Of course, you have to disagree because your narrative would collapse with the acceptance of personal responsibility for your OWN LIFE. By anyone's standards, my upbringing was harsh: alcoholic father, poverty, depression. However, I overcame it by making better choices, assuming both the cost and the benefit. I can assure you it's much healthier than the blame game. Have a nice day. @@marietollett8323

[@amonralice]

An emotional episode. I learnt a lot. Thank you. 💛

[@annoravetz5908]

Yellow sticky cards. Yellow attracts the insects sticky traps them. Then you can feed them to your carnivorous plants. They use shock prods on cattle, but it gets them where you want them to go.

[@Liefpj]

Wow surprised Ryan still has that condo. We in Winnipeg, are getting rid of my in laws apartment that we airbnb for a year. Too much trouble to just break even just so they can have a place to crash when visiting from Vancouver. I mean we do have the space as our 3rd floor and basement bedrooms(4) are empty or storage 😬

[@alanbirkner1958]

I went Christmas shopping with my friend yesterday. I bought nothing, and explained when my kids were little, I made things. She spent about $60, I pictured my cat, Spot, breaking tchotchkes. Tina, Al's wife

[@madhukawickramapala9328]

My respect for you grew when you said "there is no self". Minimalism is indeed a core part of Buddhism.

[@slowdown7276]

Most vomit out that crap of a statement anyway.

[@madhukawickramapala9328]

@@slowdown7276 sorry to hear u feel that way. But he didn't just spew out "there is no self" randomly. 34:15 he says "When u recognize there isn't a coherent fixed self that isn't forever changing" he is explaining a core concept known as "Anatma" (AKA "No self") word to word. I just noticed that and made a remark. Not trying to impose anything on anyone.

[@slowdown7276]

@@madhukawickramapala9328 ya madhuka. I came across as aggressive but what I meant was generally, not him or you. Everybody is using the phrase, which sometimes doesn't feel earned if it makes sense. It gets on my nerve. So my apologies 🙏

[@dennishenderson6988]

I gave away 50+ items when moving to our retirement home via the local Facebook Buy Nothing group. Porch pickups without any interaction or scheduling of the pickup. Just put the item on your porch.

[@cindycox9496]

I think what helps, when we lose a loved one is to just keep a few items and let go of the rest. It works for me.

[@thatElene]

Optimal solution ❤

[@a.a.507]

My mom past away when my first born was 6 months old. I was so focus in being a mom for my child, that I didn't giver her the opportunity to be a grandmother to him. Is the biggest regret of my life.

[@stellak4734]

I never was a dependent consumer of anything, but living in USA even without buying things accumulate . I removed myself from USA last November - purging donating throwing away things feels amazing. I am proud not to be slave to materialistic things. Whole country is based on economy of consumerism. It’s a drug . It makes you feel better for a second and then you have to feed the monster again. Yes I fix and mend and buy at a second hand when I can . Living outside USA will teach you minimalism.

[@olakruk4973]

I truly believe we consume so much and I try to incorporate this philosophy in many aspects of my life, one area, however, is still ailing, and that is buying clothes, still too many, often treating them like pieces of art. How to tackle this? I want to buy less especially since I start building my own house and this will be expensive.

[@lillianbarker4292]

What works for me is to not go into clothing stores (online, real or discount). If I do I will ALWAYS find something 😂. I had to find another hobby. ❤

[@lillianbarker4292]

I’m proud of my method of purging my beloved books. Donate them if : 1. They have out of date information (old textbooks) 2. You can get them in the library (classic novels) 3. You just want to remember college. 4. You haven’t opened them in 40 years. 5. You can find the information on line. I still have lots of books-a few I read to my son and a few my dad read to me, and books I use or reread. I kept some reference books that have ideas not “how to” information. ❤

[@shrubjr893]

"Own nothing and be happy about it" is a totally fine philosophy when its my choice. It only becomes a problem when its imposed upon me by a government. I think an attitude of sharing could be a wonderful thing for society in general.

[@fbe511]

It is interesting how in USA you call it minimalism, when i was growing up in Soviet Union that how we lived our life and we were happy. I have plenty of money now but i don't waste on buying stuff, i don't feel need in doing it.

[@9080G]

Every body can apply your concepts in their life , then this world would be a better place for all of us and future generations

[@oceanaoushn8803]

at approx 19:00....the way he replied ..with kindness

[@donnaguffee7280]

I like this podcast. I do not want to be a clutter baby sitter.

[@bumblebee_ms]

I love that, clutter baby-sitter, I'll use that term.

[@becomingabetterhuman.2994]

I have retracted from the market as much as I can. No longer value the junk corporate America wants you to buy. I am enjoying reading and learning as much as possible. I am no longer envious of the guy with 10 cars and 5 houses, I have become envious of the people that have a library of knowledge.

[@leeharrison8790]

I am surely not into marketing scheme's to catch my curiosity ... I prefer shooting straight , honest forth right information , vagueness is a turn off for me ! Short simple truthful offering is appreciated . I do not like marketing schemes period ! Thanks but no thanks , to each their own ....

[@RastaPasta]

I really enjoyed this video :)

[@kennethbailey9853]

Thank you.

[@iloname5007]

Of Holly allow me to answer: I keep memories about my kids as I keep some of their clothes, toys. I plan to pass these thibgs to their kids when they are born. I have boxes of memories and I collect digital stuff: photos, videos

[@JazzyBabe56]

"fixing what you own" sounds a lot like the 60's when I was a kid....

[@RescuedVintage]

Created one of these in Trenton Ohio in 2020 it's now dissolved love the idea still

[@bethrenken4444]

Very wise words 👋

[@JenniferGweniver3rd]

Use to have fun playing clue with my grand parents :P #Q ! - RPG games when there no kick because anything you do out side a group literally your own business???

[@WaterMalone42]

"Advertisements suck!" But collecting charity to buy pro grade audio and video recording equipment does not suck! So donate donate donate!" "Buy nothing! Give Us your money and we'll buy things for ourselves on your behalf!" "I only own this black T shirt! but I do spend my money on drugs, both prescription and illicit because I'm depressed out of my mind." "What do I do for a living? I'm the 'Minimalism' Business."

[@royrockerfeller]

Well said. lol

[@HeatherCampbell-kc7fx]

Deb k. Thanks for the information. I didn't realize that.

[@9080G]

Its hard but Im trying ,

[@JenniferGweniver3rd]

Punishment can = vengeance But! vengeance when you know it is not worth it!!!

[@larry_ellison]

Everyone hates on the inequality in society and the ownership class. Well. Stop buying anything and they'll have plenty of troubles. Advertising makes me laugh at this point, the desperation of needing a sale stinks

[@mrsstrople]

To dear Holly, I think I'd hold onto some of those things as long as you want. Keep that sweater and smells like him. And like TK said, there will likely be a time to let go.

[@iasccas]

This black guy is the such a great speaker…wow ! Hes keeping your channel alive

[@pattitimmons6267]

Great podcast!! ❤

[@jacklong7048]

Depends on definition of needs. I pay for Netflix and a few others. Need to have some enjoyment. I don't want to be a Buddhist and sit all day and chant.

[@cherylkalsch5107]

Wow, such a meaningful video to me when it came to death and letting go. Thank you ❤️.

[@USA50_]

Really great insight 😃🇺🇸👍❤️🖤💚

[@kensiblonde4203]

My Buy Nothing group is amazing! But there are always a few people in there claiming everything. I suspect hoarding.

[@Dr.GeorgeMader]

Do not spend all your money on irrelevant things. The next economic catastrophe will be worse because we cannot afford to bail it out like we did the last time. Last time, it should have been worse, and honestly, it wasn't as horrible as it should have been. Furthermore, those who default on their debts will be people with good credit scores and loans with higher interest rates, making the situation much frightening in many ways. Furthermore, we now have inflation depreciating the dollar and markets, when we didn't back then (apart from high gas prices)

[@MELINDASSIMPLEBLESSINGS]

Subscribed

[@chronicfatiguehermithiker3022]

I thought this was a minimalist channel, but it seem to be about decluttering. And why are there rules? My idea of minimal is buy only what you need, but why throw your stuff away unless it’s broken.

[@DavidDavisDH]

It's more intentional buying, it's different for everyone.

[@cindycox9496]

I'm happy your happy 😊

[@davidmilhouscarter8198]

0:20 Is he related to Ken from The Ramsey Show?

[@kalliemj]

they actually do sell an empty box with the intent of you giving it to someone who said they want nothing. its one of those joke gifts. i don't know how much they cost I just saw someone else mention it on a sustainability youtube page as an anti haul item.

[@cindycox9496]

Now we're both happy.

[@sarah-janeadams2203]

I miss Ryan x

[@kensiblonde4203]

People avoid wills because lawyers charge $5000 to draw up a basic one. And if you do it on legal zoom you need two witnesses and a notary. Ever try to get that many people in one place during work hours? If it was made super easy and cheap or free it would get done.

[@kathykaplan2451]

I wonder if people have thought of having a quilt made of loved ones clothing.

[@zap...]

I'm just not buying it.

[@danh5637]

Except a MacBook and a podcast studio right?

[@roscow8569]

Why not buying things and just share it freely.😉

[@c.sharon8038]

I DEF have a spending prblm! Socks is my issue, I have over 600+ pr.. don't judge me, I ❤ socks 😂😂

[@carolannstevens5814]

Did Ryan move to Montana? Did he move away from California?

[@TheMinimalistsPodcast]

Yes. We talk all about it in episode 400.

[@jackmorgan709]

couldn't you share a microphone?😅

[@leniemcintyre8410]

Whats gonna happen to our economy if all people focus with the word “buy nothing”?thats why school never thought students how to save money and how to be minimalist, coz if consumerism dies then economy will turn down, correct me if im wrong

[@nuttavut2528]

❤

[@pattiodors8296]

But of course readers, it depends on who you ask and where you're coming from. These abusive concepts also known or can be referred to as : stinginess mean spiritedness financial abuse tight on the take Opportunists economic vandalism Scrooge ness and 🤔 fishes arsehole (someone who is "water tight" in not opening their wallet and letting the moths out). Not my style and I won't have those like this around me. They are always the personality kind that turn up to your BBQ with children in tow, empty handed, and leave with food in your Tupperware and never return your Tupperware either. 😂😁