Trauma Bond: Addiction or Projection?

[@rickaster]

“Stop ghosting yourself!”

[@tomektalk4671]

I experienced a trauma bond myself. No words can describe the intensity. It feels like air. Like you will die if you can’t get this person to love you. Validate you. And nobody talks about the shame you feel when you realize what you thought was the love of your life was just an expression of your trauma. So much shame. To know you would have done anything for someone and that they were actually a mechanism of your abuse is devastating. It’s so hard to let go of. I feel for all those that were trauma bonded.

[@littlecupcakespuppies]

super well said.

[@amayahb7504]

I absolutely relate to everything you’re saying. It’s brutal it’s so unbelievably painful I’d rather die than lose this person.

[@CandacevanDell]

Everything you are saying and have experienced is completely true and valid! It is like air that you grasp for. A life line! But in the end it is showing us the part of ourselves that deeply needs to choose ourselves FIRST contrary to any and all programming ! 💝

[@littlecupcakespuppies]

@@amayahb7504 you gotta let go babe. You jabe to feel it to heal it. If you dont do the release work, the letting go/surrender work, it will continue to affect all areas of your life negatively. Like it did for me for so many years. You must understand that it is A CHOICE to hold on. I know how bad it hurts. The grief, the bitterness and the sorrow. That person was so special, but just imagine, that if you let it go, not just the pain, but the person as well, that you will be free of the pain instead of letting it dull you. And just imagine, if you had that special bond with that person that couldn't give you what you deserve, then how possible is it to to meet another special soul that can and wants to give you the whole world. Let it go. Ive been watching tons of candace van dell and Aaron Doughty videos. Im starting with that, and will keep practicing mindfullness =letting go daily. Because the trauma bond will keep coming up for releasing again and again, until you have released it enough times that your neuroplastic brain hard wires in this new way. We are all here holding you up and and passing you as many tissues as you need. Let it go. Please get it out. Get it all out.

[@nutphawadeeiamsam-ang]

Everytimes im going thru something, you always happen to posts the videos with answers that i need, many blessing to you, love,light and healing 💝

[@CandacevanDell]

This is so awesome! Thank you for sharing

[@carachristina8087]

Thank you so much, this brings a lot of clarity. I never understood why I would have the reactions that I did when someone wouldn’t talk to me… a complete panic. This really helps

[@tigerlily32890]

After about 12 years of going to various counselors to help me learn these lessons, I found one who has been very helpful. Candace's knowledge helps me to enforce that help. Thank you, Candace, for helping me practice my meaningful truths.

[@CandacevanDell]

😇💜💜

[@anthonydied8697]

Yes I like to step back and look at the situation as if I were watching what is happening when things are getting out of hand.

[@Mansions.]

Trauma bonds, love addiction. I know about. Also Alan Robarges videos help alot.

[@Foxyfox28]

Thank you so much for this. Perfectly timed and so very much needed 💕

[@deanmoulton8994]

Thank you beautiful Candace! I believe the neutral observer is inside and outside. I call her Lilith, and she is changing me every day. Loneliness becomes Peacefulness, and Peacefulness is heaven on earth.

[@CandacevanDell]

Oh I love Lilith!! 💞

[@deanmoulton8994]

@@CandacevanDell She is brutally honest, and infinitely patient. She has saved my life a few times, or "helped me save my own life".

[@momione11]

Spot on.This i so me.Sometimes you have to learn late in life. In my life I thought this was love. But in this case, the body is so smart that it signals. Just that I didn't understand. My body went on total strike. This was tough work. But worth actually taking my life back. But I have seen this type of relationship since I was a child. So it was like inborn. But went out of my own programming to never again abandon myself for anything. Abandoholic is not a life. They kill the inside of yourself. But started to live. So looking forward to life in the years I turn 50. Better late than never.

[@theclaamaterasu]

This was INCREDIBLE!!!!!!!!!!! Thank YOU! God bless you!

[@teabiscuits1611]

This was so comforting to hear. Thank you 🙏

[@rongike]

I only started watching this because I love you and I felt like I could use a taste of your light and wisdom, not bc I thought the video applied to what I'm dealing with. but damn, I didn't realize how much I actually needed to hear this right now. thank you! 😊

[@victorvasconcelos9784]

You helped me a lot with this incredible, succinct and to the point explanation. Thank you.

[@brianjeannette]

Thank You Candace 🙏❤️

[@agent_exodus]

Thank you much for this, Candace. Came in perfect timing on my end 🙏🙂

[@tonikukkonen6806]

Yes. It's kind of a mind hack/game. Not cool stuff but information like this is good medicine against evil's tricks. Thank you and blessings to this community. Take care

[@marquisstarks9471]

Hi Candace! Thank you so much for this message. I hope to visit you one day. You are a light :-)

[@casperinsight3524]

Sit down and save yourself 😎😘

[@BecomingEugen]

I'm pretty sure i developed a trauma bonding with my therapist. All the push/pull mechanisms tha play in the room, all the overthinking/scenarious i play in my head, all the anxiety i feel the day before our meeting. I'm obsessed with the power imbalance that i feel it developed! I just don't understand if i should leave therapy cause feels like a mess, or i'm about to have a massive breakthru!

[@bamereg]

Wow that really hit home. Thank you.

[@alanguest1434]

My inner child changed when I had kids. Now I'm the parent and that part of speaks to me in what I need provide to my kids. So odd.

[@marysunshine5587]

I just realized after 55 years I was trauma bonding with my verbally and emotionally control freak sister still trying to be friends never worked as a child and still cant

[@jessicah0pe]

Amen to this!

[@premgarjan6197]

Thanks, Candace! your video has inspired me. I'm becoming aware of the religious trauma I've lived (and have absorbed from my family system). It seems it's also a source of trauma bonding issues...

[@brandonb559]

This was really important to put attention to I had / still have a coerced / forced trauma bond from birth / childhood until today, it is a gruesome situation and cutting these energetic ties have made my physically puke it’s horrendous how these kinds of “parents” can walk about the streets.. these individuals are sick twisted and nasty below the surface.

[@Miauuv]

🙏 Thank you SO much

[@littlecupcakespuppies]

This video was excellent and super helpful as usual.

[@littlecupcakespuppies]

And it's so nice to be able to watch several times to absorb all the meaning deeply. Thank you!

[@Mansions.]

So helpful

[@sydneyhairmakeupco4758]

Such a good explanation x

[@shakayamcfarland4996]

So good

[@user-kh6hh9ru1o]

After being in a narc relationship (where you still have unhealed trauma from the relationship), do you think it’s possible to project the trauma bond onto a new person that is emotionally unavailable?

[@sonyab2925]

If you know your trauma RUN away from emotionally unavailable person!! These people bring back all the trauma back to the surfice. Emotionally unavailable person will ALWAYS make you feel unseen, unworthy, unheard, unloved , devalued, unappreciated, unimportant , unattractive etc.... Love is a feeling expressed through emotions and vulnerability. If there are no emotions , there's certainly no love

[@timohaikarainen3957]

this is a second video today that contains the magic word "bond" on different contexts. this is not this channels fault but want to point out how subconscious marketing works. youtube has made a marketing deal with james bond movie makers. they want me to have that subconscious thought in my mind. just so you know

[@Sportside311]

*For anybody else who watched Episode 2, Season 2 of: The Witcher - this!

[@LisaSmith-yb2uz]

I Love You Candace ☺️👌❤️‍🩹 U get it 😉 (+ i am thinking you should have a slightly more blue-hued shirt to bring out the light in your eyes the most) 👚& it might be less annoying ❣️😁👍 xo

[@dereksix2081]

🙏🙏🙏

[@margaritav.2399]

But not teach from a book but from someone like myself

[@margaritav.2399]

No im not looking for authority im a mother who lost her children trying to live, why doesn't anybody do videos

[@matildebartolemo6566]

gwssp4 #von.ong

[@Ptah_and_Flintstones]

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[@lancelawrence7825]

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