Caring for my Baby After Back Surgery, While on Cancer Treatment - How I Manage it All

This is my morning routine with my 12 month old while recovering from spinal fusion back surgery and while on treatment for metastatic breast cancer. This was 4-5 months after my back surgery. I wasn't able to watch my baby alone until I was almost 3 months post surgery.
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[@SamanthaL]

Hi everyone, thanks so much for watching! This video is from early January. I have healed so much more since then and don’t have too many issues with my back anymore 😊

[@reginahaley3723]

I love that she has to fall asleep to Beethoven! How epic is that? My husband and ( now grown) daughters are all musical. Thanks for sharing. Best wishes to your family.🥰

[@BubbleBurster-nv1vl]

You have a busy day! I love that kitchen floor feature! We could use that here! You have had it rough with back surgery, healing and taking care of your baby. You really handle it well. I don't know if I could have handled it so well. You are a wonderful mom! I do have a question. I am not sure but was it anastrozole that you mentioned you are on? If yes, do you have side effects? If you do have side effects, I hope you don't mind my asking, but what side effects do you have, if any? My oncologist has me on Trastuzumab also known as Herceptin as an infusion every three weeks. It's supposed to stop or slow metastasis if the cancer returns. It's fairly quick and easy and compared to chemo it's like being on a vacation! I have to get heart check ups because a side effect of it, can be heart issues. I am the odd ball in the family. They have all died, without exception, from massive heart attacks or congestive heart failure, not cancer. My oncologist now wants to put me on Anastrozole to lower my estrogen. It is the standard of care for triple positive, which is what I have. She suggested I take it for five years. I have said no to that. My husband keeps bugging me to reconsider. I really don't like or want the side effects. I want to move on from the chemicals. I focus more on diet and exercise - mainly walking but will get back into swimming this summer.

[@SamanthaL]

@@BubbleBurster-nv1vl hi, thanks for the nice comment! I have another video on my channel called “My Hormone Therapy Experience & Side Effects” where I explained the side effects I had with letrozole. Letrozole is a similar medication to Anastrozole. My experience with Anastrozole so far is a lot better than letrozole, but I have a lot of the same side effects to a lesser degree. Everyone is different so what works for me might not work for you. Some people say they barely notice any side effects and some people say the side effects are torture! One nice thing is that if Anastrozole causes bad side effects, there are other medications (like letrozole) you can try that might work better for you. But also, you know yourself best and what you can handle, so you don’t have to try any medication if you don’t want to 💕

[@BubbleBurster-nv1vl]

@@SamanthaL I am weary of the chemicals and just want to move on from all of them. I'll most likely finish out the herceptin but I want to get back to normal again. Well as normal as I can be ;) I will look up that video. My husband is bugging me to do that too. Thank you!

[@SamanthaL]

@@BubbleBurster-nv1vl I get that because I felt the same way when I decided to come off my medicine. “Why I Stopped my cancer meds” talks about that. I hope you feel peace with whatever you end up deciding to do 💕

[@miriamheart]

Thank u for protecting ur daughter on the internet. Many KZbinrs don’t realize how dangerous the internet is for children!

[@wanyatelborn]

Amen!!!❤

[@SamanthaL]

💕

[@meahdahlgren6537]

Miriamheart right

[@AndiSchneider]

You are such an amazing mama! It can be so hard when you are dealing with medical complications because our precious babies don’t understand. My son has never known me not sick, my stomach completely stopped functioning before I even met my son’s dad in my early 20s. I was 24 when we found out I was pregnant and they told us if I was going to go forward (which I wasn’t okay with any other options) with the pregnancy that my body was going to suffer. And, my medical situation did get way worse, but I wouldn’t trade my son for the world. His dad was an alcoholic and abusive when he drank, so I was usually the only one taking care of my son. I had major complications with a surgery when he was 7 months old because I was the one picking up and carrying my son. Now that he is 13yrs it’s a bit easier, but he has autism and is mainly nonverbal. He knows we don’t touch mama’s tubie (feeding tube) or my Hickman line. He’s used to me always having a backpack with nutrition or meds going. But I had another big surgery at the end of November and that was rough. I knew I’d have the midline incision because I can no longer have laparoscopic surgery, but was a bit shocked to see another huge incision on my left side with 20 staples. I don’t really have help, my son is approved for respite care, but it’s hard to find someone. He still uses a pull up at night and there were times I didn’t think I could handle it, and walking the dog was another thing. I’m on IV nutrition so that’s helped me gain some strength back and my phenergan and Benadryl help with the nausea. You are so strong and have a precious little girl. I will keep praying for all of you. Btw, I so want to live somewhere with that amazing suction spot! Between my son and the dog it’s always crumb city.

[@SamanthaL]

Thank you for sharing this. That must be so hard to deal with but it sounds like you figured out some good things that work for you 💕

[@IreneRattray]

I am so sad you are doing it alone. It's what l fear. ❤

[@lizgreen910]

You truly are a warrior. I admire how you adapt and get on with things rather than “ poor me”” you always are cheerful despite the complications you face . What a good girl you have and you look great!❤

[@MMargaretRiley]

Your little girl had dark hair, like her father, but now it is lighter and is a beautiful reddish color. Such a lovely baby. You're a natural and intuitive mother. Best wishes to the three of you.

[@SamanthaL]

Yes, she was born with dark brown hair, close to my color! My husband’s hair is actually lighter than mine. But now her hair is lighter than both of ours!

[@krisjames4276]

Hi Samantha, I think the phrase ,girl power, is based on you!!! Despite life's challenges you really are an amazing and natural mother. Your home looks spotless and that's having your health issues, and an active one year old to look after!!! Motherhood has definitely been in God's plans for you! I also totally respect how you keep your little one's privacy in the videos. Many You Tubers are so inclined to over share their young children. So happy that your back is improving following surgery. Keep getting stronger every day darling. Love and prayers xxxx❤❤❤❤🤗🙏💐💐💐💐

[@SamanthaL]

Thank you! We were in the middle of taking down Christmas decorations when this was filmed, so it was less organized than normal, but we also are very lucky to have some help with cleaning!

[@krisjames4276]

@@SamanthaL ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@AmyStoneYT]

You are a wonderful mama ❤ Taking care of yourself and your sweet baby girl while protecting her privacy…all while fighting cancer again ❤ You are an inspiration ❤

[@bellasfurfriends3911]

Samantha, Bec from Eamon and Bec was diagnosed with stage 4 BC while pregnant. You may already know of her. If not, I wanted to share. She had her baby and is moving forward. It is so good to have a new update from you. Glad you are protecting baby girl from the internet.

[@SamanthaL]

I do know of her, but I don't follow their updates very closely. That's good to know!

[@Catherine3296]

Bec didn't have cancer while pregnant, she was cancer free when she got pregnant and near the end of the pregnancy she had some problems where she had to go to the city with Eamon l.

[@meahdahlgren6537]

Bellafurfriends3911 right

[@leaveittolefty]

dishwasher is so hard. i set the silverware rack on the counter to fill so i "only" go down once.😊

[@TweetyPAK7]

That under-cabinet vacuum is awesome! Never heard of that! Good video. I like getting a little glimpse of your daughter in a safe way. Toddlers are so cute. Glad the back is better!

[@user-nt2ty9kn6e]

Your daughter wanting the sunshine “shine” is so sweet. Love her room 🌈. It’s wonderful how you have adapted to taking care of her. That kitchen vacuum is AMAZING. I’m loving pajamas all day, I’m also on chemo and pajamas are so comforting. Good to see you again 🥰

[@SamanthaL]

Thank you! Hope chemo is going well!

[@maryellenmonk3481]

Hi Sam! You look so awesome! You amaze me how you power on through this journey. Your strength is so inspirational. Sending love ❤

[@marymcdonald1316]

Baby is so cute! Wow that vacuum is mysterious and awesome! Nice to see you and how you're doing:)

[@karenknight9565]

Hi Samantha! Your daughter seems like a really chill baby! You are one strong mama!! I hope you have gotten over the nausea… feeling sick is the worst. Her room is so cute… very happy place! Wishing you much love! Karen 💪🏻🩷😘

[@SamanthaL]

She is very chill :)

[@SmilingBeaver-ou7nc]

What a Beautiful Mom you are. I'm glad your feeling better Samantha, and we're always sending Love and Prayers to You and Your Family.❤💙🧸🙏🙏🙏

[@SamanthaL]

Thank you so much!

[@cindiegrimm5983]

Adapting to how you do things with her is just fine. It's just wonderful to see you able to be her Mommy and play and love on her like you missed so much in the beginning and it hurt your heart. Hope the stomach bug is over soon! Take care.

[@SamanthaL]

Thank you!! The stomach bug lasted a couple weeks. It was rough, but all good now :)

[@caitlinscancerchronicles]

I had major back surgery when my youngest (triplets) were in their first year of school. I know how hard it would be working around a little child. You are doing an amazing job! Your daughter is such a cute and intelligent little girl too! I hope this really does help some other young mums out there!😊

[@SamanthaL]

Thank you! That must’ve been so hard with 3 of them even if they weren’t as young

[@tarat26]

You're both incredible super hero's. I'm dreading the prospect of surgery. My mastectomy left me feeling pretty useless with my toddler. My sister had to care for her. She would always climb over me in bed at night, to get in between dad and I. She had to stay in her own bed in her bedroom with Aunty. Hearing he call mummy at night left me feeling guilty and useless. I can't imagine back surgery and looking after be or three little ones. I'm stage 3 lobular breast cancer. Hugs and best wishes for you both xx

[@michelledmnds1980]

Awe, your daughter is precious!💕 Continued prayers for you!🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@SamanthaL]

Thank you 💕

[@leaveittolefty]

i have a grabber/reacher in every room and outdoor ( play fetch with pupper) very very handy. i use them also to get laundry switched and out of the dryer👍

[@SamanthaL]

That’s smart!

[@leaveittolefty]

@@SamanthaL we just got a smaller one to get prescriptions out from drawer at Walgreen's! that's such a stretch! 😆

[@smoocher]

I remember when you were talking about being pregnant and planning for the birth, and now she's already a year old. You seem like a wonderful mom. Thanks for sharing a day in your life.

[@patriciahagedorn5694]

So glad to see you Samantha. I hope you are doing better since your surgery. I think you are doing great getting around and taking care of your sweet baby girl. I fell and injured my back and can totally relate to your pain lifting things. Physical therapy has really helped. I am amazed at what you are able to do. Please take care and keep us updated on your progress. My prayers are with you and wishing you a speedy recovery.

[@bobbilynnsmith5146]

I worry about you if its been too long between videos, thanks for the update! Glad to hear you are healing from the surgery. Gosh, you've been through a lot. And being nauseous just sucks but hopefully all the meds do their job. All the best to you and your family. XO from SW Colorado

[@SamanthaL]

Wish I had the time to update more!

[@IreneRattray]

I suppose every symptom is scary during and post treatment . I hope it's nothing. ❤

[@ukmary1968]

I’m jealous of the sweeper cabinet

[@SamanthaL]

I didn’t know it existed until I moved here but it’s great!

[@busesapple2369]

She is so beautiful ❤ you are such a good mother

[@terri5757]

Thank you for deciding to upload this video. I really enjoyed it. It’s good to show that it’s perfectly ok not to do everything by the book for those that have illnesses. All the things you showed and talked about make perfect sense for you and your family and might even help others dealing with similar issues. Your daughter is adorable. ❤️

[@tammyhalderman2031]

Sam your doing great!❤

[@northsouth252]

Lovely to see you.

[@schildca]

Thanks for the update, glad you are doing well! 🙏

[@Meemagolding]

Samantha you’re such an inspiration!! I love the vacuum thing in your kitchen!! I really enjoy your vlogs ❤ Thanks for sharing 💜♥️‼️

[@loriwallis832]

She is so sweet. Continued Prayers for you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@meganmckissick2281]

You are an amazing mom!😍

[@Armistead_MacSkye]

She loves you! ❤

[@carolynturnerclark9287]

Thank you for the update. Adapting is key for success, great job.

[@perditawinter4694]

Lovely to see you. Great that you have a relaxed atmosphere on the go , despite your struggles. Your baby looks to be having a lovely time with you.

[@Lsherrell638]

Q’s neediness is so adorable ❤ Thank you for the tips for after back surgery with little ones.

[@CoolKidsSJJE]

Your house is so cute ❤

[@sheilabridge5434]

Hi Samantha it’s so beautiful 💕 to watch you and your daughter she’s just so adorable take care god bless always in my prayers ❤

[@busesapple2369]

You are unbelievable so strong ❤

[@tiaapet]

Omg I love her room! The peach is amazing!

[@SamanthaL]

I love her room more than mine haha

[@kate-ot5lv]

She's adorable! And love how you decorated her room--it's beautiful and so cheery!

[@SamanthaL]

Thank you, I love it too :)

[@kathyarnusch7614]

Always happy to see your videos. This time with your baby will pass so quickly, she will be climbing up on her own soon. I too am going to start on Anastrazole on Monday, and do not look forward to it. I hope you and baby get out once a week, or have somone come visit you - a mom and child, maybe, to shake things up! Always, always, wishing you guys the best.

[@SamanthaL]

Oh yes we had plenty of days with visitors. Now it is way easier for me to drive so we get out a lot more! I hope Anastrozole goes well for you!

[@lindacraig5056]

Your daughter is getting so big and she looks like so much fun and bundle of love. Glad you are doing better and hope you nausea gets better.I get in for my every 3 week immunotherapy again next Tuesday so getting things prepared for that over the week end so I don't have so much to do next week because for a couple days I rest a lot. Thanks for the update and take care.

[@SamanthaL]

Hoping all goes well with your next treatment!

[@lindacraig5056]

@@SamanthaL it did I just got home thank you

[@meahdahlgren6537]

​@@lindacraig5056 will she is not getting to big

[@christinephillips3435]

Your daughter is so gorgeous.

[@meahdahlgren6537]

Right

[@somersetflower]

Dear Samantha... There you are !!😊 Lovely to see you. Puss cat wants to be in on it so funny !!🐈‍⬛ Glad you still keep baby girl 🧚‍♀️ to yourself. She deserves to be protected. How goes Gray ? I love hearing your news and seeing you looking so much better. What a lovely Mummy you are😊 I have had a bit of a wobble and will be having back surgery this year. Although I don't have kiddies, I am worried about getting around afterwards and doing stuff for myself . Any tips will be gratefully received . Take Care of each other. Yours in friendship Janice 🇬🇧 xxx

[@SamanthaL]

Thank you! Gray is doing well and enjoying his job. Back surgery has a very long recovery, but they should give you some tips on how to get out of bed and do simple things before you leave the hospital. If not, a lot of people benefit from physical therapy to help them get used to doing things for themselves around the house

[@somersetflower]

@SamanthaL Thank you, Samantha .. Keep up the good work and give my best to Gray. Keep us up to date I love hearing how you are all doing .x

[@colinnz]

Its good you dont plaster you child all over videos like someone else on KZbin ❤

[@shanlon3213]

Enjoy watching you. And you are so chill about everything. Or seem tk be. Do you ever feel down that you can't do things w baby and feel like you are missing out? Or beat yourself up that she might wonder why you were nor able to 100% with her. I guess I'm asking more about your emotions than pain during this If you care to share.

[@SamanthaL]

We try to be chill haha. I don’t feel like I’m missing out because this is what I want to be doing. I don’t think I beat myself up more than another mom would. I feel like a lot of moms feel guilty when they are not feeling their best and can’t give their best and I definitely feel that too. I try to give what I have in any moment and give myself a break when I need to. It’s about finding the right balance

[@AmyStoneYT]

Woah 😮 I NEED that under the cupboard kitchen vacuum thing! What’s it called specifically?

[@SamanthaL]

Our house has a central vacuum system and that is one of the features. Unfortunately I can’t be much help since I have no idea what goes into installing that or the price. It came with the new house!

[@tanya8940]

❤😊

[@kristenfuller9168]

Hey how you doing feeling. I haven't been on your channel watch your channel in a while. It's been awhile since I've been here watching your videos.. hope your doing well .

[@SamanthaL]

Doing pretty well! :)

[@kristenfuller9168]

@@SamanthaL I'm an aunt to my sisters son. He loves me quite a lot. He says my name. He loves the stuff I buy him. He gives me a hug now.

[@geogarcia7655]

❤🙏

[@wanyatelborn]

How and where do you empty it!! Who plays the piano

[@SamanthaL]

The suction things goes to a container in the garage that can be emptied from time to time. We both have learned the piano before but neither of us are super experienced

[@V3ganBr33]

For some reason I'm incredibly curious why you have dried mango in your bathroom lol the things I notice

[@SamanthaL]

I was waiting for this comment haha. My old medicine needed to be taken with food. I kept forgetting to take it because I kept thinking “I’ll take it when I eat” but then I would have days when I’d skip breakfast so I’d never take the medicine. To solve the problem, I left the dried mangos up there so I could eat one or two before taking my medicine and I wouldn’t have an excuse to not take it

[@V3ganBr33]

@@SamanthaL thank you for curing my curiosity lol 💜💜

[@TweetyPAK7]

Haa! I was wondering the same thing! 😀

[@pjcat3522]

Can you bring down diapers and wipes downstairs, that's what I did post caesarian?

[@SamanthaL]

Good tip! I forgot to mention I did do that back when I was always changing her on the floor because I always had the diaper bag down there anyway. At this point, the changing table was the easiest surface for me because bending over the floor/couch was harder on my back. So, it was actually easier for me to carry her up the stairs to be able to use that

[@silvialogan9226]

Samantha, you doing the sensible thing not to expose your little daughter on the Internet because it can be dangerous sometimes. How are you doing now? What treatments are you taking now in April? Are you in remission?

[@SamanthaL]

I’m on the same treatments from my last update video! :)

[@ukmary1968]

💙💙💙💙💙🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@Bebs995]

🪻🪻🦋🦋🦋🥰

[@elizebethleon8706]

I'm not being horrible but why are you completely ignoring your poor cat. I know you are under loads of stress but I just felt sad for your cat. Sending strength 💪 and love to you and all your family xxx

[@SamanthaL]

She likes to “talk” whenever I talk. I promise she gets plenty of attention, but she’s always been extremely vocal all day long. Sometimes I have to block it out

[@ladyinred9656]

Boring

[@BubbleBurster-nv1vl]

So why are you here?

[@AKE-rw2ly]

Devil

[@smoocher]

Where does the under-the-counter vacuum put the stuff it sucks up? I've never seen anything like that. Maybe I just live under a rock lol

[@SamanthaL]

It goes to a container in the garage. I hadn’t heard of it before either!